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Purple Belt (Ep. 279)

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Purple Belt (Ep. 279)
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In this episode, I share my journey to earning my purple belt in jujitsu, reflecting on the lessons learned and the importance of perseverance. From the challenges of injuries to the camaraderie of my training partners, this experience has shaped my understanding of discipline and humility in both jujitsu and life.
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1:54 January 27th of 2022, that will literally be a day that I will not soon forget, okay?
2:03 Because that was the day that I was promoted to Purple Belt in jujitsu, okay?
2:07 It was an absolutely incredible night and we'll get more into the festivities of the evening.
2:11 But it was an incredible experience in some ways shocked that it even happened.
2:16 But before we get into the festivities of the night and everything they're in, I wanted
2:19 to reflect a little bit on how I've discussed Brazilian jujitsu on this podcast.
2:23 Because jujitsu, for any of you guys that have been listening to this for any point of time
2:27 or any length of time, you've seen jujitsu as kind of a center point for this show.
2:32 And really from the beginning, you know, I've done entire episodes on the sport and I mention
2:37 it often, as many of you know, and I'm almost constantly encouraging my audience, right?
2:41 All of you in my audience and really anyone that I'm around, all the people that are in
2:45 my circle to get into jujitsu, I'm constantly telling guys like, hey, I want to get in shape
2:50 and it's like, nah, come come to jujitsu, come try it on Sunday nights with my crew guys
2:54 and you know, work out a little bit and you learn some things and I'm just constantly,
2:57 you know, like evangelizing how great jujitsu is and what a big impact, big positive impact
3:02 it can have on your life.
3:04 And really I've done two entire episodes of this podcast just really dedicated exclusively
3:09 to my experience with jujitsu and then I've done some interviews as well.
3:12 So episode five of this podcast is six months of jujitsu, episode 62 of this podcast was
3:17 bluebell.
3:18 That's the episode I did the week after I got bluebell.
3:20 And I'll put both of those in the show notes so you guys can listen to to them for yourself
3:23 but just kind of give you a little bit of a primer.
3:25 Episode five that was called six months of jujitsu that was released on January the 18th
3:28 of 2018.
3:29 Man, it's just crazy to think about how long ago I started training and I'm going to be
3:33 trained in that long compared to some of my partners.
3:35 But you can listen to that one for yourself but I'll give you a little bit of a rundown.
3:38 I went through my athletic history, kind of told you what sports I played and you know
3:41 how none of that really related to jujitsu except for a couple of years doing wrestling,
3:45 how I had a lifetime interest in mixed martial arts and fighting me joining fight club.
3:50 That's my group of guys that I talked about my foxhole group that meets on Sunday nights
3:53 at the forge at seven o'clock at the forge in Edmond, Oklahoma.
3:56 And I went there the first time I know the exact date.
3:58 I first started training jujitsu and that was July the 10th of 2016.
4:02 And the reason why I know that date is because July the 9th of 2016 was UFC 200.
4:08 And that's where I met all these guys.
4:09 We did like this man day thing and guys were like, Hey, we trained jujitsu on Sunday nights.
4:13 If you want to come roll out the very next day, I was like, Yeah, let's do it.
4:16 So July 10th, 2016, that was my very, very first class I ever took.
4:19 And then, you know, from there, I was kind of flirting with the idea of doing Brazilian
4:22 jujitsu for real.
4:23 Then I eventually found the forage.
4:25 I talked about that in that episode.
4:26 And then I talked about the immediate lessons that I learned.
4:29 I learned about how, you know, humility is a big deal because, you know, I'll be talking
4:33 a little bit more about that here in a second, but humility is a really big deal.
4:37 There's a lot of power in jujitsu.
4:38 You can really learn how to control people physically in that there's some power in that.
4:42 And also that jujitsu can be for everyone.
4:44 That's not a particular body style that does well.
4:46 There's not a particular type of athlete that tends to do well.
4:48 You know, I talked about my first tournament.
4:50 I talked about Andre Galval giving me my Brazilian jujitsu nickname Viking.
4:54 I talked about the spiritual mental and physical connection with jujitsu.
4:57 So that was episode five.
4:58 So again, right from the beginning, I was talking about jujitsu and then fast forward
5:01 to February 14th of 2019.
5:03 That was episode 62 called bluebell.
5:06 So I talked about getting my blue belt.
5:07 I talked about, you know, everything kind of leading up to that moment.
5:10 I went through the lessons that I had learned since episode five of the podcast.
5:13 I also went into three things that I need to needed to do in order to make my Brazilian
5:17 jujitsu game even better at the time.
5:20 And the three things I put out there were to feel even heavier on top, you know, increase
5:24 my top pressure also to keep getting the takedown, right?
5:27 Because I would get a lot of takedowns, but just kind of keep doing that.
5:30 And then the other one I said, kind of keep the dog hungry.
5:33 And so that's just always having, you know, that dog and you like, Hey, I'm going to scramble
5:36 a little bit, you know, faster than you.
5:38 And I'm going to go a little bit harder to you than that kind of a thing.
5:41 But then I also talked about the three things that I need to fix with my Brazilian jujitsu
5:44 game, which is funny because looking back at the back of the list, I'm like, man, I still
5:46 suck at a lot of these things.
5:48 But the first one is just being comfortable on my back.
5:51 And so that's something that I'm certainly a lot more comfortable on my back.
5:54 But that leads in the second thing, which I said, which is being dangerous from my back,
5:57 which I'm not very dangerous from my back.
5:59 That's still something I need to work on, but my guard isn't getting passed as easily.
6:02 I'm doing at least some sweeps.
6:04 I'm getting some triangles, that type of a thing.
6:06 And the third thing I looked at was not getting stuck in bottom side control and, you know,
6:10 spoiler alert, I still get stuck in bottom side control sometimes.
6:12 But those are the things I want to kind of talk through on that episode.
6:16 And then also I just kind of pitched all of you on why you should train your jujitsu.
6:19 So again, guys, I've talked about this a whole lot and it's been years and years in
6:24 the making to kind of get to this moment.
6:26 And that was the night where I got my purple belt.
6:28 But before we get to that exact evening, I need to back up about three weeks.
6:33 Because I knew that promotions were coming up.
6:36 I didn't think there was a very good chance that I would be promoted.
6:39 But the way that we do promotions at the forge in Edmond is we kind of do a big deal.
6:43 We do a big evening where a lot of people show up and people that are being promoted
6:46 are kind of put in a separate group.
6:48 And then that person's basically put through the gauntlet.
6:50 They have to roll constantly for about an hour and a half with, you know, little breaks
6:53 here and there.
6:54 But the thing is is you need, you're going to be one of two people, or I guess one of
6:58 three people, you're going to be a spectator or you're going to be getting promoted or you're
7:02 going to be one of the people that's helping the person get promoted, get promoted, right?
7:06 You're going to be helping put them through the gauntlet.
7:08 So either way, you've got to be in really, really good shape.
7:10 Now I'm in good shape in general, but rolling for those of you guys that do Jiu Jitsu, you
7:14 know, rolling is a little bit different kind of shape.
7:16 And so I was like, okay, I'm going to increase my level of classes, you know, that I'm doing
7:20 or increasing amount of classes I'm doing for the five or six weeks leading to that.
7:23 Because more than likely I'm going to be, you know, just a teammate that night, I want
7:26 to make sure that I give good roles and good looks to the guys that are getting promoted.
7:29 I want to be a good teammate.
7:31 And then three weeks, literally to the day prior to that evening, I suffered a pretty
7:36 bad injury.
7:37 I popped a rib out.
7:38 And so, and I never really got an exact diagnosis, even though I saw a couple of doctors could
7:44 have been a fracture, you know, it was definitely some muscle tearing and some cartilage tearing
7:48 up in that area.
7:49 But for any of you that have experienced a rib injury, which before this moment, I had
7:52 not, it's awful.
7:53 It is absolutely awful.
7:55 You can't breathe.
7:56 There's not really a position you can lay or sit in that's comfortable.
8:00 I sneezed about two days after I popped this rib and it was, I thought I was dead.
8:04 I was like, okay, that's it.
8:05 I mean, life's just over.
8:07 That's as bad as it can possibly get.
8:09 But all I was thinking about was dang it.
8:12 Like everyone says it takes forever, you know, four to six weeks for a rib, really to heal
8:16 and for you to get back to normal to where you can really move.
8:19 But I was like, you know, I'm going to really dedicate myself.
8:21 I'm going to really, really dedicate myself to keeping as much inflammation out of the
8:25 body in any way that I could, you know, I was, I was willing to do some experimental
8:28 stuff to try and heal, which I didn't end up doing because I didn't want to like lose
8:31 10 years off the end of my life so that I could, you know, roll for a couple of hours
8:34 one night whenever I was in my thirties.
8:37 But I did everything I could, you know, was, you know, putting healing balm on and I was
8:42 icing it all the time and I just straight up rested for about a week and then one of my
8:46 physical therapists buddy said, okay, here's some different things you can do that won't
8:49 really tweak the rib.
8:50 And so I was able to still work out and for me, the only thing I could do cardiovascular-wise
8:55 was to ride on an air-dime bike, but without using the arm.
8:59 So I would basically sit on an air-dime bike with a, you know, a couple of pairs of pants
9:02 on, a couple of hoodies on, just with my hands in my pockets and I would just, you
9:05 know, move that bike for 20, 25, 30 minutes, something like that and just try to do some
9:09 sprints and really do anything, excuse me.
9:12 And I also did some classes.
9:15 I went to some of our Jiu Jitsu classes because, excuse me, the coughing podcast too in a row.
9:20 But there was an element of I wanted to make sure I stayed mentally sharp that I, you know,
9:24 I wasn't just taking three weeks off and not even thinking about Jiu Jitsu.
9:28 And so I did go to some classes.
9:30 I would basically sit on the air-dime bike in class and I would just kind of watch whenever
9:33 people were drilling, but then I would just still get a little bit of work in.
9:37 But here we are.
9:38 It's the week of promotion week.
9:40 You know, of course, I don't know until I show up if I'm actually going to be promoted
9:43 or if I'm actually just going to be helping out and I didn't feel great.
9:47 The rib didn't feel good.
9:48 I wasn't, you know, getting into certain.
9:50 I wasn't getting into positions where it felt normal, right?
9:52 But the day before one of my main training partners and main coaches, a guy named Aldo
9:56 Gonzalez, who I'll talk more about here in a second, you know, we went up to the forays
9:59 a day before and I was like, I just want to see what I can do.
10:01 Like what takedowns do I have available to me?
10:03 What positions on bottom dive available?
10:05 Can I do some sweeps?
10:06 Well, blah, blah, blah.
10:07 And let's just say it was, it was not a fun experience because basically everything that
10:11 I wanted to do hurt.
10:13 So I take downs are a big part of my game.
10:16 None of those were really available to me because the bridging motion.
10:19 So if you lay down on your back and you like bridge your hips off the mat or something
10:22 like that, you know, that motion was where I got hurt to begin with.
10:26 And so a lot of my takedowns, I'm kind of bridging to dump the guy to a certain side.
10:30 So that was going to get after the rib and all that.
10:32 And so basically every position we tried to get into, except for bottom knee shield, which
10:37 is, you know, a version of bottom half guard was not really available to me and Aldo gave
10:42 me some good advice.
10:43 He goes, man, you know, depending upon what happens tomorrow, you just need to play defense.
10:48 Like no explosive movements, like no takedowns, like none of that stuff that you're used
10:51 to just, you know, play some defense.
10:53 I try to pull some guys into half guard, see what you can do from there.
10:56 I work a little bit from lockdown.
10:57 So here we go.
10:59 So then I roll in there on Thursday night and basically from the very beginning, you know,
11:03 whether or not you're going to be promoted because they call your name out and they put
11:05 you in a separate side of the gym.
11:08 And then they kind of get everything, you know, facilitated.
11:11 And then they kind of bring you in there.
11:13 And so from the very beginning, you know, they're naming all the names and I'm like, Oh, yeah.
11:16 That guy's getting promoted.
11:17 That's awesome.
11:18 That's awesome.
11:19 That's awesome.
11:20 And then they said my name and it's like.
11:21 Okay.
11:22 All right.
11:23 I'm here now.
11:24 Like let's might as well do this.
11:26 There's no way to tape the ribs up.
11:27 I didn't take any pills.
11:28 It's just like we're going to have to deal with it.
11:30 And so without getting into everything, you know, for the next hour and a half or so,
11:34 about a dozen of us that were being promoted at varying levels, we were put out there and
11:39 the best of the best from our gym and even people just affiliated with our gym showed
11:42 up.
11:43 I got to give a big shout out to my coaches because they were very on top of, you know,
11:48 telling the my training partners that night, the guys competing against me about the injury,
11:51 making sure that they were aware of it.
11:53 And even whenever they would roll with me, they rolled very, very, very hard.
11:56 They went for a lot of subs, but they were aware of the injury.
11:59 And then we get to the end of that, the guy that's kind of facilitating everything starts
12:03 clapping.
12:04 Everybody starts clapping.
12:05 We know what's going to happen.
12:06 So we all kind of line up, you know, based on our color, a belt and all that.
12:09 And then we just go down the line and they start promoting, you know, whites to blue and
12:13 blue to purple and purple to brown.
12:14 And we did have one guy go from brown to black, more on my teammate, Chris, even here in a
12:18 bit as well.
12:20 And then they got to me kind of bring brought me out there.
12:22 You know, it's great.
12:23 Everybody's clapping.
12:24 It's a big family type deal.
12:25 You know, you take your belt off and put it around your neck and, you know, our main
12:28 black belt, Rob Harper, who's a third degree black belt, you know, put my purple belt
12:31 on me.
12:32 And it's just like, oh my gosh, like this just crazy, amazing moment.
12:35 One of my main coaches and training partners named Tyler Mera, he had some very, very nice
12:39 things to say about, you know, my tenacity and my ability to kind of work through injuries
12:43 and all that, which was really, really nice to hear and kind of went back and, you know,
12:48 my wife was there.
12:49 She kind of snuck in.
12:50 You know, I thought she was going to be home with the baby, but you know, she snuck in
12:52 there, you know, found a babysitter at the last minute because, you know, someone to
12:55 let her know, you know, that was on the inside that I was actually being promoted.
12:58 So I got to, you know, experience that with her, take pictures, we had pizza and, you know,
13:02 Gatorade and beer and all that stuff afterwards.
13:04 And it was just a great environment.
13:06 But I will say one thing that was, it was interesting is, you know, after everybody kind
13:09 of settled down and, you know, we had, you know, kind of recovered a little bit and had
13:13 some cake and we're all leaving.
13:15 So I get in my truck and I close the door and kind of where I park is a little bit, you
13:19 know, far away from the door and, you know, not in the same parking lot or whatever.
13:23 And I just sat there for a moment and I just kind of took a deep breath and thought about
13:28 how thankful I was for that moment, how thankful I was for my teammates, how thankful I was
13:33 for my family and how thankful I was just for Jiu Jitsu in general.
13:37 And you know, how thankful to God I am that, you know, I found this place and I found these
13:40 people because I really feel like I hit the jackpot with the forge in Edmond, Oklahoma.
13:44 And you know, it was just, it was a moment, you know, a quick moment, you know, five,
13:47 10 seconds of just extreme thankfulness before I drove on and got some ice cream to, to celebrate
13:53 the night, even a little bit further.
13:55 Now one thing that I did similar in the blue belt episode, so those of you that listened
13:58 to it, even here recently, you'll, you'll kind of know where this goes because I thought
14:01 about this is, you know what changed immediately after that purple belt was put around my waist?
14:09 Nothing, nothing changed, right?
14:15 I mean, I'm the same skill level as the Jiu Jitsu fighter I was when I walked into the gym
14:22 that day.
14:24 As I was walking out, I had a new experience, but I didn't learn a new move.
14:28 I didn't learn a new position, right?
14:29 I didn't really get any better because I was playing defense for an hour and a half.
14:33 I basically couldn't do anything other than get tapped and try not to die, right?
14:37 But I left the gym with a new color of dyed fabric belt, which symbolizes something.
14:45 It symbolizes essentially what my coaches think about me because I think we have a dozen black
14:49 belts affiliated with our school and those are the people that get together to decide
14:52 who's being promoted.
14:54 So that that's an awesome feeling to know that these people think enough of my game to think
14:59 that I'm at that level, whether I disagree with them or not, because, you know, within
15:04 six months of that evening, I was thinking to myself, man, I'm closer to my first day
15:07 of Jiu Jitsu than I am to my purple belt.
15:09 Like I just felt like I was stagnating that I wasn't really getting any better, but then,
15:13 you know, kind of made some changes and kind of worked towards that direction and, you know,
15:17 the coaches thought enough of the game of my game to give me my purple belt, but again,
15:21 nothing changed.
15:22 I'm the same person.
15:24 I had the same personal struggles.
15:25 I have the same issues whenever I, you know, go home or go to work or do any of those things,
15:29 you know, same issues with the podcast and growing on daunted life.
15:32 All that stuff is the same.
15:34 It's the only the color of the belt that changes and you know what's required of me training.
15:40 You know, it's cool.
15:42 It's one thing to get a belt and then never show up again.
15:44 Some guys do that a blue belt.
15:45 They get the blue belt blues and they're like, ah, you know, I'm good.
15:47 I'm a blue belt.
15:48 I can pretty much beat up everybody, right?
15:49 But what's required to me is to get right back in the gym.
15:53 I'm still rehabbing the ribs so it's going to be a while before I can go live in the way
15:56 that I, that I'm used to, but it just kind of is what it is.
16:00 But then we got to fight club.
16:02 So again, every Sunday night, you know, my, my group of guys, my foxhole, we get together.
16:05 We're reading the same book.
16:06 We do a workout and then we train Jiu Jitsu.
16:08 So Russ, the ringleader, you know, if you guys remember from episode 104 of the your
16:12 foxhole series, Rush Whitman, he was my first Jiu Jitsu coach and he, you know, we were
16:17 kind of doing our talking right before I lead the workout and then he kind of broke up the
16:21 talk and he said, man, big congratulations.
16:24 He's to go out to Kyle and, you know, I won't say everything that he said, but he just said
16:28 how great of accomplishment he was.
16:30 And when he started doing Jiu Jitsu, when he was a white belt, like he was getting smoked
16:34 by people that have been training for like 30 or 45 days, right?
16:37 And he's like, Oh my gosh, this is crazy.
16:38 And he's, you know, kind of this big hulking guy.
16:41 And then whenever he would compete as a white belt against a blue belt, he's like, Oh my
16:44 gosh, these blue belts are like almost impossible.
16:46 It's like, I feel like a blue belt could get in a street fight.
16:49 And even if they lost, I bet the person they fought would probably not want to fight that
16:52 person again.
16:53 But then he's like, when I was a white belt, I would go against these purple belts and
16:58 they were like a different thing because he was like, I was a white belt.
17:02 I was a human, but a purple belt was just a different thing altogether.
17:06 And he basically said, you know, a purple belt is like a certified, you know what kicker,
17:10 right?
17:11 Like that's basically what a purple belt is.
17:14 And he's a purple belt.
17:15 Now he's been a purple belt for a while.
17:16 But he was just basically being very, very complimentary of me and of, you know, how far
17:21 I've come just even as a person since I started training jujitsu, a lot of life lessons that
17:25 I've learned, but then also just gave me a very encouraging message in terms of, Hey,
17:29 this is who you are right now, but, you know, keep going.
17:32 Let's keep training.
17:33 And it was just an inspiring message to hear.
17:35 But right now I kind of want to get in to the turning points in my jujitsu life.
17:39 And in this episode, we're going to talk about some turning points, some of the lessons
17:41 I've learned.
17:42 You know, I got some very interesting things I want to share with some of my coaches.
17:45 So even if you're not a jujitsu person, there's going to be some interesting takeaways that
17:48 you can have for the remainder of this episode.
17:50 But the turning points in my jujitsu life so far, I'll go at each level.
17:53 So at white belt, and I've talked about this before, but I really love the story and I
17:57 love sharing it.
17:58 When I was a white belt, I had a very tough love lesson that was delivered to me by, you
18:04 know, basically my main training partner for my entire jujitsu life, which is Tyler Mera,
18:08 who's an IBJ JF, a brown belt world champion, like he's, he's legitimately one of the most
18:13 dangerous human beings that I know.
18:15 But at white belt, you know, I was probably about a year year in because I got my white
18:18 belt at basically at the year and a half mark, and I had a bad practice.
18:21 So I go back to the locker room and I'm changing and I'm brooding and I'm doing all this and
18:26 kind of cursing myself and all that.
18:28 And Tyler, who's a very reserved guy, doesn't really say a lot, but when he does say things,
18:32 you kind of perk up, he kind of knew what I was doing and I was brooding and I was having
18:35 a little ego fart and all those different things.
18:37 And he just kind of looks at me and he goes, Kyle, what would you do to the Kyle that
18:42 you were six months ago?
18:44 And it's like, oh, I'd, I'd kill that Kyle, like there's, there's no way the guy from
18:49 me from six months ago could beat the me from today.
18:52 And he just looked at me and said, okay, then shut up.
18:56 He's like, we're all getting better, right?
18:59 Like you're training with all of us, you're getting better, but also we're getting better.
19:03 So you're going to have tough classes, get over it.
19:06 And I didn't get offended.
19:07 I was like, dang, like you're completely, completely right.
19:12 And that that really changed a lot of my mindset at the white belt mode, which is like, Hey,
19:16 man, we're all getting better at the same time.
19:18 And it just is what it is.
19:19 So that was a big turning point for me at white belt.
19:22 Now at blue belt, I had several turning points for me.
19:26 And I guess the first one that would be interesting to you as an audience is deciding that jujitsu
19:33 was going to be a part of my life forever.
19:37 Now you might think to yourself, but wait a minute, Kyle, you were doing all this, you
19:40 know, preaching and evangelizing about jujitsu, a white belt, you know, I thought you wanted
19:43 to do jujitsu for forever.
19:45 And the reality is at white belt, like from the moment I took my first class of the forge,
19:50 I thought from that day on that that was going to be my reality that I was going to do jujitsu
19:55 for my entire life.
19:56 I was going to be try to be the guy rolling in his sixties, right?
20:00 And then came the injuries.
20:03 I got bit by the injury bug, something fierce in my blue belt days, right?
20:07 I was having chronic neck issues, right?
20:10 From trying to muscle out of stuff and, you know, letting submissions go on a little bit
20:14 too long, trying to prove how tough I am, right?
20:16 I broke my nose.
20:18 So I broke my nose right before I got promoted to blue belt, right?
20:21 Like the day that I got released to my doctor to be able to do jujitsu is whenever I got
20:25 promoted to blue belt.
20:26 So there's a trend here, you know, right before promotions, I get a pretty big injury.
20:30 I destroyed my thumb tore every single ligament in my left thumb, required surgery.
20:34 I had another surgery and it was just, it was a tough, tough time period there for a while
20:39 in jujitsu.
20:41 I had like a four year mark of my training in jujitsu.
20:45 I figured it up and I kind of like did the math.
20:48 I probably lost an entire year of training to injuries.
20:52 So about 25% of my first four years was spent on the shelf, right?
20:56 I mean, there was just no, no way to get on the mat with some of the injuries I had
21:00 if I had a cast on or something like that.
21:02 And the thing about it is, is I hurt my, my neck again about six months ago.
21:07 And after that neck injury, I honestly thought that I might have to give up jujitsu.
21:13 I was like, okay, this neck injury is affecting other parts of my body.
21:16 It's affecting, you know, my ability to parent like if I can't like turn around or pick my
21:20 kid up, like that's not really going to work.
21:22 You know, we want to have more kids and that type of a thing.
21:24 And it wasn't like I was ever moving in that direction of actually quitting and not doing
21:28 that anymore and letting jujitsu be a part of my past, but that was at least a thought.
21:33 That was at least something that was kind of in my psyche that this is something that
21:36 might actually happen.
21:38 But I made a decision that I was going to focus on saying healthy.
21:44 I was going to focus on getting healthy.
21:45 I was going to focus on just taking care of my body and if so, changing my, my style
21:51 of doing things and because this is going to be something that I want to do for my entire
21:55 life.
21:56 Like I don't have any illusions that I'm going to be some sort of world champion someday or
22:01 make a career out of jujitsu.
22:02 That's just not really what I'm going for.
22:04 But I made a decision.
22:05 And that was a big turning point for me that jujitsu was just going to be something that
22:08 I do.
22:09 And so I got to make sure I take care of myself as I age into the sport.
22:13 But another turning point at blue belt was a coach that challenged me.
22:18 I've already talked about Aldo Gonzalez, but he gave a challenge to me.
22:21 And to be honest, I tried to think through it.
22:23 I couldn't remember exactly why he said this, okay?
22:27 But I was preparing for a tournament and there was some context that I can't even remember
22:31 right now.
22:32 But Aldo looks at me and just says, Hey, man, start thinking like a purple belt.
22:36 And it wasn't like he was dropping a hint like, Oh, six months from now, you're probably
22:39 going to get it.
22:40 But I'm sure I had said or done something or maybe even rolled in a way that was very blue
22:45 beltish or like basically like a seven stripe white beltish, right?
22:49 Like that type of a thing.
22:50 He said, start thinking like a purple belt.
22:53 And so that made me introspective.
22:54 And I started looking around at our gym at the purple belts, because here's one thing
22:58 about our gym that I think is very, very important to mention.
23:00 We don't have like lifetime achievement belts.
23:04 So there's some people that like, Oh, you know, they've hung around gym long enough
23:07 and some random gym and they've been a white belt.
23:08 So I guess we'll give them their blue belt.
23:09 Nah.
23:10 And they've been a blue belt for a while.
23:11 They're not really getting any better.
23:12 They don't really train that much in there.
23:13 They're getting fat.
23:14 And they're purple belt.
23:15 We don't have any of that at the forge.
23:17 And part of the way that I know that is because when our guys go over to other gyms, open
23:22 mats, that it's not pretty, like our blue belts are smashing purple belts and brown belts
23:28 from other schools.
23:29 Right?
23:30 It's just, you know, that that's a good thing that you we have such a tough room and nobody
23:33 just gets promoted just because, right?
23:35 But when he said, start thinking like a purple belt, I started looking at our other purple
23:38 belts and understanding what they were doing because everyone's different.
23:41 They have their own game.
23:42 They have their own things that they like to focus on.
23:44 But I started thinking like, okay, as a purple belt, I would like to be X, Y, and Z.
23:50 Here are the things I would like to be able to do.
23:51 Here's what I would want people to think after they're done rolling with me because I would
23:55 think, you know, after I got done rolling with a lot of our purple belts, like, man,
23:57 this is terrible.
23:58 Like, what am I going to do?
23:59 And like, I can't figure this out.
24:01 But that's what you start thinking like, you're thinking like, Hey, I want to be a puzzle
24:04 that somebody else has a lot of trouble solving, I guess.
24:06 So that was another turning point for me, you know, getting that challenge from Aldo.
24:10 But then the last challenge I'll talk about in terms of blue belt is the last competition
24:14 that I did.
24:15 So the last competition that I did at blue belt, I did very well, I won my weight division
24:19 and I won absolute.
24:21 Okay.
24:22 But it was how I won those matches.
24:24 And this was after Aldo's challenge and all those different things.
24:27 And I kind of made some changes to how I was focusing and doing certain things.
24:31 But in the most humble way that I can say it possible, I buzzsawed through my opponents.
24:37 My opponent that I won when I won my weight division, I took him down almost immediately.
24:41 I took him down really, really hard.
24:43 And within 45 seconds, I tapped him, right?
24:46 Just buzzed right through him.
24:47 And then in the absolute, I went up against a guy that was bigger than me, but I've gone
24:50 up against guys that are bigger than me.
24:52 I've gone up against guys.
24:53 I way, you know, I think I weighed into that tournament at 187.
24:55 I've gone up against guys that were as big as 275.
24:58 But the thing that's always interesting, even with these big guys is they're usually not
25:00 stronger than me.
25:01 They're just bigger, right?
25:03 But this guy was bigger than me and stronger than me.
25:06 And I could feel that almost immediately when I, you know, we kind of locked up.
25:09 But I beat this guy like 19 to zero or something, 20 to zero.
25:14 And just buzzed right through him.
25:15 I made a lot of mistakes like you don't want to see the match.
25:18 The match is ugly.
25:19 My coaches are saying the right things and I'm doing the wrong things, but it just kind
25:22 of worked out.
25:23 Like I kept getting in good positions, advantageous.
25:25 He wouldn't tap in certain positions, but I just kind of ran up the score on him.
25:28 And that was a turning point for me because it's like, okay, I'm getting smoked all the
25:33 time at the forge.
25:35 You know, I'm getting killed by my teammates and, you know, I have frustrating practices
25:38 and I hope I'm getting better.
25:39 But then when you go to a tournament and you go against people that are supposedly at your
25:42 level and they're just not, like it just made me thankful for my gym and made me thankful
25:48 for my teammates all over again.
25:49 But that was a turning point for me as well to where it's like, I already knew my gym
25:52 was great.
25:53 But that just kind of helps solidify it.
25:55 And again, it wasn't like some international tournament or something like that.
25:57 I'm not trying to say that I'm, you know, the next big thing or I'm going to be, you
26:00 know, making money doing this, but it's just, it was good to kind of see that even at a
26:04 local tournament with guys from disparate schools or from different schools, that was
26:07 a really, really cool thing.
26:09 But then there's got to be another turning point coming, you would think, right?
26:12 You know, what's the turning point going to be a purple belt?
26:15 I don't really know, but I am very, very excited to find that out.
26:18 But now I want to go ahead and get into the biggest lessons that I've learned so far in
26:22 terms of jujitsu.
26:23 And I'll kind of do that in terms of, you know, in different transitioning points.
26:27 But here are the biggest lessons because I tried to distill them down all to one thing.
26:31 From not training to white belt.
26:33 So going from just being a dude that tries to be in shape and all that to being a white
26:37 belt, the biggest lesson that I learned is that your ego will kill you.
26:41 Your ego will absolutely kill you.
26:44 Okay.
26:45 Because the thing about it is, is if you go into jujitsu as a white belt, acting like
26:48 you're God's gift to the sport or to athletics in general, it's going to be a horrible, horrible
26:54 thing for you.
26:55 The number of people that come in that are great athletes, you know, Adonis bodies, super
27:00 strong, super explosive, and they just get smashed by dudes that have a little bit of
27:05 a beer belly or guys that are considerably smaller than them, not nearly as strong as
27:10 them.
27:11 A lot of those guys don't come back because their ego can't handle it.
27:16 And I had some moments like that where I would get beat by people that, Oh, well, I shouldn't
27:20 be losing to this person.
27:21 Well, I, I'm clearly superior to this person or that person.
27:24 And then I get smoked and sometimes I didn't react very well.
27:27 I let let's not pretend like I just controlled myself the entire time I had some big outbursts
27:31 and some, you know, stupid screaming F words and like, just being an idiot, right?
27:36 But that's the biggest lesson I learned from not training to white belt is if you keep
27:39 that ego, right, the fake ego, like the bravado ego, it's going to kill you eventually.
27:46 You just won't last long, especially at a school that doesn't basically suffer fools
27:50 like that.
27:51 It's not going to be good for you.
27:52 The biggest lesson I learned from white belt to blue belt was Matt time.
27:58 You have to have Matt time.
27:59 Sorry.
28:00 He talked about a lot of injuries kept me off the mat, right?
28:03 And so I didn't, I wasn't able to get that Matt time, but even going from white belt
28:07 to blue belt, I would, I would look at, you know, man, I'm, I'm having so many trouble,
28:10 uh, so many problems in this position.
28:11 I have problems with this type of a person or, you know, I can't finish that take down
28:14 on this guy that I can finish on that guy or something like that.
28:17 But the biggest thing is Matt time.
28:19 Other things is just start to make sense, okay?
28:22 They just start to make sense.
28:23 There's something that even happened here recently.
28:25 This is more of a transition from, from blue to purple, but, uh, X guard was something
28:29 that for whatever reason just didn't make sense in my brain, I would have trouble getting
28:32 to the position.
28:33 I certainly wasn't affected from that position, but just in the last like three months, things
28:37 have just clicked because I just repeatedly was on the mat working X guard, right?
28:41 So that was the biggest lesson I learned from white belt to blue belt is how important
28:44 Matt time is and then from blue belt to purple belt, that the biggest lesson I learned of
28:50 all the lessons is slow down, slow down.
28:54 Now, some of you guys would like me to take that same lesson and apply it to this podcast
29:00 because I talk so fast.
29:01 But guys, I'm just telling you, you could even go down to half speed, even though I encourage
29:03 you to listen at two times speed, but even in Jiu Jitsu, it's like Kyle slow down.
29:07 I can literally hear my coaches in my ear right now, Kyle, slow down, just slow down.
29:11 Oh, you lost position because you got too fast or you got too high, like you got shaken
29:16 off the back again, like slow down, just slow down, trust your technique, like trust your
29:23 body, trust your positioning.
29:24 And the thing is, is I learned that lesson, but I still suck at it sometimes.
29:28 I mean, going back to that, that match I told you about where I beat the guy, you know,
29:31 19 or 20 to nothing, I got put in some bad positions and by say I got put in that bad
29:36 positions, I put myself as a bad positions in that match because I went too fast.
29:40 And afterwards, my grips were blown, which has never happened to me in a tournament or
29:44 in class, like I just went way too fast.
29:46 And when I went back and watched a video later, I could hear my coaches and other teammates
29:50 saying, Hey, Kyle, slow down, slow down to establish position, you get your points.
29:54 Like just relax.
29:55 But that's the biggest lesson from blue belt to purple is just slow down.
29:58 Now obviously I don't have any lessons from purple belt to brown belt.
30:01 I mean, obviously I plan to keep training and keep going that direction.
30:04 So I'm not sure right now, obviously what the biggest lessons that I will learn will
30:07 be, but I can tell you what I'll be focusing on as I'm transitioning and on my journey
30:11 from purple belt to brown belt.
30:13 The first thing is technique.
30:16 I use a lot of explosiveness.
30:17 I use a lot of, you know, things that that shouldn't work, but it's working because, you
30:21 know, I deadlift or it's working because, you know, I have some, you know, agility or
30:25 things like that, but really, really focusing on technique, allowing myself to get put in
30:30 a bad position.
30:31 If my technique was so busted up to not just respond and, you know, try to overcome bad
30:36 technique with good body control or with power or something like that.
30:40 I really, really want to focus on my technique.
30:43 Another thing that I want to focus on, this is going to kind of be the big thing that
30:45 I really want to focus on is high percentage moves, high percentage positions, and high
30:50 percentage submissions, okay?
30:52 We have some guys at our school that train all the time.
30:55 They train every single day of the week, sometimes twice, twice a day.
30:58 So they can get away with practicing moves that are not very high percentage.
31:02 You know, Instagram type moves and all these flying things and all that, because that's
31:07 how they are.
31:08 They've got all that available Matt time to them.
31:10 I do not train enough to warrant practicing incredibly obscure movements or positions.
31:14 I just don't have that luxury.
31:16 Okay.
31:17 So that doesn't mean I'm going to actively not try to learn those things, but I'm just
31:21 going to really focus on positions like getting to the back, you know, a rear naked choke,
31:25 other attacks from the back, you know, passing, pressure passing.
31:28 Some things that are, you know, really good for my style and the way that I do things,
31:33 that's something that I really want to focus on at Purple Ball.
31:35 And again, that all goes back to technique.
31:37 But in general, you know, when thinking about lessons that I've learned so far in my time
31:40 training, not, you know, at any particular time, but just, you know, as a whole, is that
31:45 there are levels to this game.
31:47 Guys, you hear that in every context.
31:49 I even asked a guy about it in a podcast interview recently that'll come out later, you know,
31:54 about, you know, the gap between somebody that's just really, really good at that sport
31:57 that we were talking about versus someone that's a pro.
32:00 And even on the night that we got promoted, there were probably, I think, three or four
32:04 of us that got promoted from Blue Bell to Purple Bell.
32:07 But the guy that got promoted right before me is a kid named Jake Coleman.
32:10 We call him, you know, Jake the snake Coleman.
32:12 This guy's a blue belt that got promoted to Purple Bell.
32:15 He has basically won every single tournament within several hundred miles of Oklahoma City.
32:21 Like there are so many schools that are excited that he was finally promoted from Blue Bell
32:25 to Purple Bell. He's young. He's probably 21, 22 years old.
32:29 He trains all the time. He's married, but his wife trains as well. It's really awesome
32:32 to see them both on the mats together. He's a student of the game. He's obviously a very
32:36 smart kid. He's an explosive athlete. He's got good natural strength and different things.
32:41 And he also works hard at that as well.
32:44 And to say that somehow Jake the snake Coleman and Kyle Viking Thompson are the same animal
32:50 with a complete disrespect to Jake because Jake Coleman is going to be a world champion
32:58 someday. I can feel it in my bones.
33:01 I'm just trying to survive this jujitsu journey. I'm trying to survive this ridiculous hobby
33:05 that I picked up for myself, right? I want to be able to, you know, walk right and experience
33:09 life into into old age. I don't want to be one of those guys that just can't move later
33:13 in life, right?
33:15 There are levels to this game. Even look at black belt. There are guys that train for
33:19 10 years, 15 years, they finally get their black belt and then they go to tournaments
33:22 and they're competing against people that have been black belts for 10 years. They're
33:26 just flat out levels. There are guys that have black belts because they've trained for a
33:30 long time and they're pretty good and they're pretty tough, but they wouldn't win a single
33:35 tournament match if they went and competed at black belt, even at small tournaments, right?
33:40 There are levels to everything. And that's okay.
33:44 But it's a good lesson to learn because you might think, Oh, everyone's has to kind of
33:47 be on the same level, but pick your favorite sport. Like, you know, for me, it'd be baseball.
33:50 Like there's a big gap between Bryce Harper and, you know, the, the, the guy that I guess
33:57 a ball right fielder for the in the Philadelphia Philly system. They're both professional baseball
34:02 players, but one is going to be one of the best players of his generation. And the other
34:06 guy, he may not make it out of a ball, right? So that's another good lesson that I've learned
34:11 in terms of Jiu Jitsu that they're just levels to this game.
34:14 But now I kind of want to go in a little bit and to kind of give you guys a little bit of
34:17 an idea as to an honest assessment of my game and areas of improvement because it's something
34:21 that I've been focusing on. So this may be interesting to you. It may not, but the first
34:24 thing my game is really predicated on takedowns, pressure, pace and explosiveness, like that.
34:29 That's really my game. So I don't have a long, you know, Oklahoma wrestling pedigree. I only
34:33 wrestled for a couple of years in high school, but people don't focus a lot on takedowns,
34:37 especially tournaments. The wrestling really hasn't been that great. And so I'm able to
34:40 get quite a few takedowns, even on guys that are way, way, way better than me. They're going
34:43 to tap me. It's only a matter of time, but I'm at least going to get those first two
34:46 points. Like that's my thing. I like to be very, if I'm on top in any of those positions,
34:50 I want the guy to feel every bit of my weight. I want to feel way heavier than I am pace.
34:54 I'll put a pace on people that, you know, again, I don't have a whole lot of skill. I don't
34:58 have a lot of technique in a lot of areas, but I'm going to put a pace on you. That's
35:01 going to wear you out. You know, I've, you know, put a pace on people where, you know,
35:04 they basically cardio tap. These are people that are better than me. They just didn't have
35:07 the pace and then explosiveness. That's why I'm very attracted to explosive takedowns,
35:12 explosive movements, because that's kind of, you know, goes with my athletic build. But
35:15 my areas for improvement, I've already talked about technique. My technique can be really,
35:19 really, really bad in a lot of different positions. You know, I still want to focus on being offensive
35:23 from bottom position. You know, I've gotten a little bit more comfortable with not getting
35:26 my guard pass, but I'm starting to learn some different modalities and different techniques,
35:30 but I really, really need to still improve on that. Also honing in on techniques that
35:33 I should be good at, you know, you, everyone looks at their body. Like if you have short,
35:37 you know, big legs, you're probably not going to do a whole lot of body triangle from the
35:40 back is probably not going to be available to you. But for me, I really should be a lot
35:45 better at guillotines, but I suck at guillotines. I don't remember last guillotine I got, but
35:48 I'm barrel chested. I have long arms, you know, strong, strong upper body. I should be getting
35:51 guillotines. I really need to focus on that technique. I really don't know much about leg
35:55 locks. We've got a little bit of a leg lock revolution happening inside of our gym, which
35:59 is great. But that's not something that position I'm comfortable defending. It's not a position
36:03 I'm comfortable going in offense because that's not something you want to mess with. You don't
36:06 want to just grab somebody's ankle and start ripping. Like it's a good way to get kicked
36:09 out of your gym. But also, you know, getting to the back back attacks, sweeps from bottom,
36:13 those are all things that I really want to stay focused on. But the biggest area improvement
36:17 just for me is just staying healthy. You know, I was, I had a very long, you know, track
36:21 of being healthy for about a year or something like that. And then I had the rib injury. But
36:26 part of that is just, you know, bad luck, you know, you're going to be on the mats, things
36:29 are going to happen. You're going to say when you should have zagged and you'll get hurt.
36:31 But part of it is how you roll as well, because there are some upper belts that are gym that
36:34 haven't been hurt in years like they're achy, but they're not injured. It's a little bit
36:38 different, but that's kind of a little bit of an assessment of my game. But now I want
36:42 to transition into a message that I have to those people that are starting their jujitsu
36:48 journey. Okay, because I get messages quite often from people that are like, Kyle, I've
36:51 been listening to your show and you finally got me inspired. You know, I'm going to start
36:55 doing jujitsu. I'm going to this school. My gee just came in the mail. You know, I'm
36:59 a couple of weeks in and I'm already obsessed. And I get messages like that pretty often.
37:02 But I do have some, some advice, some messages from people that are just really at the beginning
37:07 stages of their jujitsu journey. The first one is check your ego. Obviously we've talked
37:11 about that talked about that a lot earlier, but it's a good reminder because just because
37:15 you know it doesn't mean you don't need to be reminded because I still have to be reminded
37:18 sometimes when, oh, that guy shouldn't attack me, just check your ego. Okay. Second message
37:23 I have for you is don't quit. Okay. Don't be the person that trains for a year and a half
37:28 two years, get your blue belt and then calls it a day. Don't be that person. You know, some
37:32 people have to quit, right? Because they, they got a new job and maybe they're a surgeon
37:37 now and like their hands basically, you know, heal people, right? I get it. But just don't
37:41 quit. Do what you have to do to be resilient and stick it out. Another message is don't
37:45 freak out. Okay. Don't freak out. And I mean that in a lot of different ways. Don't freak
37:51 out whenever you tap a belt that's higher than you and start bragging to everybody about
37:55 how you tapped out the brown belt and you're just a white belt or something like that.
37:58 You probably shouldn't happen, but don't, don't freak out and do that. Also, when you're
38:02 in a bad position, don't freak out the number of people that, that tap to pressure, right?
38:08 You put a buy triangle on them or you kind of smush them whenever you get mounted or
38:11 something like that. And they just tap. They're tapping because they're freaking out. They're
38:15 not going to die. They're not going to suffocate. You're not literally squeezing the life out
38:19 of them. They're just freaking out. So to those of you that are early in that moment,
38:23 learn how to be calm. If you're being smothered by a much bigger, much stronger, much better
38:27 person, just try to just pretend that you're calling me even if you're not. Take as many
38:33 deep breaths as you can. Control yourself. Don't freak out. Another message is figure
38:37 out what your jiu-jitsu goals are. Okay. So if you're 40 years old, you're just getting
38:42 into jiu-jitsu, you probably shouldn't make it a goal to be the ADCC champion. Probably
38:48 not going to be available to you. Okay. You know, are you going to want to be a guy that's
38:53 just maybe your goal is to be a really good, really solid, hobbyist teammate, right? That's
38:57 probably the vein that I'm in. Or maybe your goal is, Hey, you're 21 years old, you wrestled
39:01 your entire life, but you're putting a ghee on for the first time and you're thinking yourself,
39:05 man, I could be in my physical prime later in life between 27 and 32 and be a brown belt
39:09 or a black belt. I can maybe do this big time, right? But figure out what your goals are.
39:14 Because if that's your goal, you're going to have to train a whole lot. You're going
39:16 to probably have to go travel around, do some tournaments and all that. But if that's not
39:20 really what your goal is, you can kind of, you know, mold your jiu-jitsu life around
39:24 whatever your goal is. Another thing to focus on if you're early in your jiu-jitsu game
39:28 is be a good teammate. Be a good teammate. So if you're a particular body style for somebody
39:33 that's trying to get ready for a tournament, offer yourself up for extra rounds. Okay?
39:38 You know, you need to be getting better so that you can give other guys in the gym good
39:41 looks like that. That's a good thing for you to focus on is just to be a good teammate.
39:47 So don't be a jerk. Don't hold subs longer than you need to. If you're in a, you know,
39:52 I'm again, I'm talking to, you know, basic, you know, people, but let's say you're six
39:56 months in and you're physically superior to a guy that's his first day. That's not your
40:00 cue to kill him. You know, bring him along, talk him through some things, right? That's
40:05 not your time to flex. If you want to flex, go to a competition. All bets are off. Try
40:08 to hurt the guy. Try to kill him. Like it's up to him to tap, right? But just focus on
40:12 being a good teammate. And also that really gets into the next thing, which is compete.
40:18 Just flat out compete. You need to be able to compete. And so by that, I mean, in tournaments,
40:24 I mean in the room, you need to be competing. You need to be in a competitive mindset. Now
40:29 your goal should not be to try to kill your teammates or beat your teammates. You, your
40:33 number one goal should be to where you're, you're both getting better. And then your
40:35 secondary goal should be like, Hey, we need to both make sure that we're healthy at the
40:38 end of this thing. But you need to learn how to compete because there is a different level
40:42 of focus in a different level of intensity when you compete at a tournament. Because even
40:48 if you're going with somebody that you've rolled with before, maybe at an open mat or
40:51 maybe you did a guest spotted at, you know, someone else's school or something like that,
40:55 it's different. It's different when you're the only two guys rolling in that vicinity.
40:59 It's different when there's a referee out there with his, you know, suit jacket and socks.
41:03 It's different when you have your teammates watching. Because typically your teammates
41:06 are trying to get after their own rounds, right? But now all the focus is on you. Lights
41:10 are on. It's, it's cold in the room. You know, you're seeing the podium over there and you
41:13 want to make sure you're on it. It's a different level of focus, but compete. Doesn't mean you're
41:18 going to be a world champion. Doesn't even mean you even want to be me should at least
41:21 compete in a local tournament. Another really, really good lesson that I've, that I've learned
41:26 and a good lesson for anyone that's kind of still young in their journey. Just tap.
41:31 Just tap. A lot of my neck and back issues have been, like I said earlier, from getting
41:36 in bad positions and instead of just tapping, trying to show the guy who's trying on me
41:42 how tough I am by waiting till the very last minute to tap, right? You know, as the tunnel
41:46 is kind of closing in, you're about to pass out. Tap. Well, my neck's under a bunch of
41:49 pressure at that moment. I'm getting a head and arm choked and I'm trying to answer the
41:53 phone and I'm also trying not to die. Well, I'm, but there's a ton of pressure on my neck
41:56 in that moment and you know, everything's getting compressed and all out of whack, but
42:01 I don't want to tap, right? I want to show how tough I am. Just tap. Just freaking tap.
42:05 Like I've seen at tournaments. I've seen people rolling. They're in bad spots. They're rolling
42:09 with somebody that's trying to be a good teammate. And yet here's this person like trying to
42:13 roll out of this arm bar and try to pretend like this is, you know, the finals for the
42:17 world championships and it's just like, bro, just tap. Do you get to tap? You're not injured.
42:23 You slap bump and then you move on, right? So to those guys early, don't make the mistakes
42:27 I did. Just tap. And again, if you're early in your journey, another lesson is expect
42:31 injuries, but just deal with them. I've talked a lot about injuries on this podcast, expect
42:35 that they're going to happen. So get yourself pre in the mindset of just being able to deal
42:39 with it. And in that vein, buy an iron neck. Okay. Now I'm not sponsored by iron neck.
42:45 Hey, iron neck shout out to you. If you want to sponsor the show, I'm all ears, but that
42:50 was the one thing that really turned my neck injury situation around is I bought the iron
42:54 neck. So you can, I'll put it in the show notes. You can check it out. Joe Rogan talks
42:56 about all the time. It's a very expensive piece of equipment, but it's one of the best
43:00 ways, if not the best way that we've figured out in terms of training the neck muscles,
43:03 because a lot of the ways like neck bridges and all these kind of weighted harness things,
43:07 they're putting pressure on the neck discs while getting your neck muscles strong. Whereas
43:13 the iron neck is really just helping you get the muscles strong without putting the strain
43:18 on the neck on the discs, actually. So I couldn't recommend that piece of machinery anymore.
43:23 The iron neck is absolutely, absolutely fantastic. Also another thing for you to think through
43:27 is that breakthroughs will come, but they come from that time. Again, I've talked about my
43:32 breakthrough with X guard. I've had some other breakthroughs, a certain positions that I got
43:36 into that I was having trouble with, but you have to have Matt time again, Matt time, Matt
43:40 time, Matt time, if you train once a week, it's going to be really, really, really hard
43:43 to get good. You know, in my fight club group, I have some guys that have been training for
43:46 over 10 years, but they're training like once or twice a month. And so they're, they're
43:50 not really getting any better. They're kind of going to stay stagnant and stay at that
43:53 level because they're not getting the Matt time and once or twice a month, it's better
43:57 than nothing, but it's not very much better than nothing. Another piece of advice I would
44:01 give to people that are just started training is that you got to lift. And I mean weights,
44:07 heavy things, because there are some people that are good at jujitsu because they're flexible
44:11 or because they go to a lot of classes or because they're really, really smart and they chain
44:14 things together, but they're not very strong. So we have a kid at our school named Adam and
44:19 you know, he's been this really, really good guy, but he's smaller. He's flexible. He's
44:23 got a really, really hard guard to pass, but he's just started lifting weights here recently.
44:26 Good grief. He's going to be an absolute problem. I hate rolling with him, but I love rolling
44:31 with him at the same time, but he's getting so strong now. He's, you know, lifting into
44:35 his body like he's, he's literally growing into his frame now. So that's something you
44:40 really need to focus on like don't just ignore lifting because, you know, jujitsu is a lot
44:43 of fun. You still have to do the other stuff. You got to, you know, got to be flexible, be
44:46 strong, all that. Another thing, and this is maybe the biggest and I'll do these last
44:50 points together because they're related. Don't worry about the belts. Kyle is in this podcast
44:57 called purple belt like, isn't that what you're talking about this entire time? Yeah, but
45:01 don't worry about it. Don't worry about the belts with Matt time and with years of training
45:07 and with getting better and with competing with all that, the belts will come. You will
45:12 get promoted, but the belts don't need to be the goal. Because just think about, let's
45:16 say your goal is to be a black belt. Okay. So you, you train for 10, 15 years, whatever,
45:20 and then you get your black belt, then what? Do you just stop training now? Because this
45:25 is a skill set that will go away if you stop doing it, right? So don't worry about the
45:30 belt so much. Don't worry about is, you know, did my coaches see my, how good I rolled against
45:35 that guy at gym last week? You know, did my coaches, you know, talk after the tournament
45:40 about how well I did, and you know, how the fact that I got a gold or a silver or something
45:43 like that, don't worry about it. If your school has a regular, you know, schedule of promotions
45:49 or irregular schedule, don't worry about it. The belts will come try to be good. And so
45:53 the last point, and this is, I'm stealing this from Jordan Peterson, but it's a rule
45:56 four from 12 rules for life. And it's compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to
46:01 who someone else is today. Again, that goes back to the, the lesson that I got from Tyler,
46:05 which is like, what would you do to the you from six months ago, baby? Like, if you're
46:10 better than that guy, guess what you're improving. So don't worry about the guy next to you and
46:14 how good he's doing. Don't worry about the guy over there that tapped you out five times
46:16 while you rolled. Don't worry about it. Don't worry about belts. And don't compare yourself
46:20 to everyone around you. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone
46:24 else is today. And this part here I'm going to get into now is I've, I've got given a
46:29 message to all the people, lots of messages, rather, to guys that are still training that
46:33 are training right now, but they're in the young early stages. But now's my message to
46:37 those of you that are not training jujitsu, okay, which it's a miracle that 45 or so minutes
46:43 into this podcast. You're still listening. But this is my message to you. Expect injuries.
46:49 Just deal with them. That's the same message I gave to the guys that were training. Some
46:52 people are like, I don't want to do jujitsu because I'm afraid I'm going to get hurt.
46:56 The reality is, is if you do jujitsu, you're going to get hurt. Like, and just think like
47:01 as a kid, where did you not play football? Because you were scared of knee problems or
47:05 head injuries? No, you played. Like, did you not play basketball? Because you're afraid
47:08 you're going to roll an ankle or have knee issues? No, you just played, right? The same
47:12 thing could be true as an adult. But now we're going to really get into the nitty gritty
47:15 with messages to people that are not training jujitsu. This message is so important. Honestly
47:21 assess whether your exercise hobby has any transferable skills. Now, I'm all for exercise
47:31 hobbies that don't really have transferable skills. Like I think they're fun and you can
47:35 play games into all those things and they're just fun. But does being good at golf transfer
47:42 into a situation where you need to protect yourself or someone that you love or even
47:46 a perfect stranger that's being taken advantage of? Because I've said something similar to
47:51 this before. If you can pitch it on, you know, to within 10 feet of the cup from 100 yards
47:56 out, that's not going to help you in a situation where your wife is potentially being violated.
48:03 It's just not. If you can consistently hit jump shots from mid range, that's not going
48:08 to help you protect your kid if someone's trying to, you know, kidnap them. That's not
48:13 really going to come into play. Like being able to leg out a double in beer league softball
48:20 is not going to translate well and just trying to stop a violent attack on a stranger in public.
48:26 So I'm not anti those things. I'm not a fan of golf. You know, I don't play softball anymore.
48:31 I played lots of it though. You're like, I love playing pick up basketball here and
48:34 there. But if that is your exercise hobby, realize that there are no transferable skills.
48:40 Skills that you should have because no one that has ever won a fight or broken up a potentially
48:46 violent or deadly situation using their bodies thought to themselves, gosh, you know, I'm
48:52 glad I was physically capable and trained enough to take care of myself and that situation.
48:56 But goodness gracious, I really should work on my putting. Yeah, I mean, gosh, if I could
49:01 just sink more putts from outside of 10 feet, that would really change my life. Sorry, doesn't
49:08 really drive doesn't really work. You need to honestly assess that. And so those of you
49:12 that are not training, you need to also honestly assess whether you are cultivating mental and
49:17 physical resilience on a daily or regular basis. Again, undaunted life is here to equipment
49:22 to push back darkness by providing content that helps you forge spiritual, mental and
49:26 physical resilience. I've talked a lot about spiritual, mental and physical resilience.
49:29 I'm not going to rehash it. But there's a tremendous mental and physical component to
49:34 jujitsu. And so that's something that you can cultivate if you're doing jujitsu on a regular
49:39 basis. But again, to you guys are just golfing or basketball or maybe playing fantasy sports
49:45 or magic, the gathering, I don't know what the heck people do are playing video games
49:48 there. I can't believe I didn't mention video games. Like that's not helping you cultivate
49:52 mental and spirit and physical resilience. Like you might get sweaty. You might get excited.
49:58 You might be good at it, but you're not cultivating resilience. You have to do hard things. And
50:04 I don't mean beating the most difficult level on whatever stupid game you're playing. You
50:08 have to do hard things with your body so that you can prove to yourself that you have what
50:12 it takes to overcome if you're in a bad situation where you need your body to get out of it or
50:17 to get somebody else out of their bad situation. So you honestly need to assess that.
50:22 And so again, I guess my parting message to those who that are not training is what are
50:26 you waiting for? What are you waiting for? So here's here's my call to action. And I've
50:31 done this in other episodes. This is challenge time. I'm going to give you two challenges
50:34 that are very, very, very specific. Okay. So I'm not going to ask you to dedicate to
50:38 training jujitsu for your entire life. I'm not going to ask you to dedicate to getting
50:41 a black belt or a brown belt or purple belt or whatever. Here are my challenges. One comes
50:46 from Jocko Willink and Echo Charles and one comes directly from me. So Jocko Willink
50:50 and Echo Charles have said this on their podcast before that you should try to do jujitsu until
50:55 you submit someone that's on or a little bit past your level. Train long enough to where
51:02 you can legitimately submit somebody that's on or a little bit beyond your level. Train
51:08 that long because that may take you three months, six months, for some of you, maybe
51:13 longer for some of you, you know, certainly shorter than that. That's how long you should
51:17 train because the work and the fun that it's going to take to get to that point is probably
51:22 going to be enough to get you hooked. So that's the Jocko Willink Echo Charles challenge.
51:26 Now let's go into the undaunted life challenge, the Kyle Thompson challenge. 100 days of jujitsu,
51:31 100 days. Walk in to some school in your area. And again, I know there's affiliations and
51:37 I know the closest school is, you know, this many miles away and I'll get it. I know there's
51:41 a lot of things that you got to work through. It's contextual. Do 100 days of jujitsu.
51:47 Work out a deal with the office manager or the owner or something like that and say, Hey,
51:50 this jerk on this podcast challenged me to do this and I'm going to do it. I'm going to
51:54 pay for my first 100 days and they probably don't have 100 day challenges for their gym.
51:58 They probably got, you know, 90 day thing or they just pay months a month or maybe you
52:01 buy the entire year, but you worked something out. It'll probably be a unique fun thing
52:05 for you. Change you jitsu for 100 days. Again, you're going to learn some amazing things
52:10 about yourself. You're going to make some physical changes. You're going to make some
52:13 mental changes. And from there, I assume that you're going to get the bug and maybe it's
52:18 not for you. Maybe it's legitimately not for you, but train for 100 days and just see what
52:23 goes on for you. So at this point in the podcast, I think it's very incumbent upon me to hand
52:28 out some thank you. So this is the part where some of you guys that maybe don't know the
52:30 people I'm talking about, uh, you know, it's going to kind of be like when people are at
52:33 award shows and they name a bunch of people you've never heard of before, but it's still
52:36 very, very important. You should be thankful for people and you should let them know that
52:39 you're thankful. So this is just, uh, just as much for, for me as it is for them. I want
52:44 them to kind of know this, but the generic thank you is first, you know, I have to be
52:47 thankful to God because without God, I'm not here. There is no consciousness. There is
52:51 no universe. There is no jitsu. There's, there's none of that. Right. So that's kind of the
52:55 generic, you know, I have to thank the creator God, the loving and judgmental and awesome
52:59 God that created everything. A second generic thank you is to my wife Kelsey. So she has
53:04 obviously been there whenever I've been injured, which has been a lot the, the amount of time
53:09 that I've spent away from home, away from the baby, away from the baby to come Lord willing
53:14 like she's been patient and understanding even though she doesn't get it. I mean, she just
53:19 straight up, she'd be the first one to tell you she doesn't get why I would want to do
53:21 something like this. You know, golf makes more sense, but she probably wouldn't like that
53:24 because I'd be gone for four or five hours doing stupid crap, but got to be very, very
53:27 thankful for that. I'm also thankful to the Gracie family. So the Gracie family, like
53:32 they're the ones that essentially invented jiu-jitsu. You know, there was Japanese jiu-jitsu, but
53:36 then they turned it into this, you know, this great fighting style that is basically revolutionized
53:41 mixed martial arts. So I'm very thankful to them. Obviously, I'm very thankful to Hicks
53:44 and Gracie. He came on the podcast here last year. I'll put that in the show notes so you
53:48 can guys can check that out. But without the Gracie family, we don't have jiu-jitsu. We're
53:51 not training, you know, we'd probably be doing something else. We'd probably be doing, you
53:54 know, karate or Wing Chun or kung fu or something like that, still thinking that it's an effective
53:58 technique. But instead, we have jiu-jitsu. I also want to thank Jocko Willing. So around
54:03 the time when I'm trying to figure out if I want to really try to go and do this thing
54:06 and you know, kind of figure out if I want to do jiu-jitsu, almost every week I was listening
54:10 to Jocko Willing on his podcast and other places, talk about jiu-jitsu, talk about it
54:14 all the time. He and I interacted a little bit on Twitter about it and now all that.
54:17 So I'm very, very thankful to him. And then the last generic thing you will be to the
54:20 forge. Again, I talk about the forge in Edmond, Oklahoma all the time, but I literally feel
54:25 so unbelievably lucky to be at the best school in the area to have gotten all these other
54:30 transplants from all these other great, great schools and great programs to be in our school,
54:34 to have such a good positive place to train. It is absolutely fantastic. I feel incredibly
54:38 incredibly lucky. The scripture that I said from the beginning of this podcast was Proverbs
54:43 17 17. A friend loves at all times and a brother is born for adversity. One of the big things
54:48 about jujitsu is you gain brothers and you gain people that you have a deep level or
54:53 respect for. You get respect from a lot of people. So I want to give a little bit of
54:56 an ode to some of my teammates here. So this first part, you know, none of this is in any
55:01 really particular order. This is how I kind of thought about these folks. The first one
55:05 is Rush Sweatman. So again, I talked about him earlier in this show, you know, he was
55:08 my very first jujitsu coach. And so, you know, for, I forget how long I trained just kind
55:15 of doing the once, you know, once every Sunday type stuff with with this crew of guys. But
55:19 I probably did that for close to a year before I started doing it like really full on. So
55:25 he was my first jujitsu close for a year. And so he kind of set my foundation. So I'm
55:28 very, very thankful to him. So thank you, Rush Sweatman. And also thank you to Rob Harper.
55:33 So Rob Harper is a very accomplished competitor. He is the main black belt at our school. He
55:38 just got his third degree black belt in jujitsu. Yeah, he's a very cerebral guy, not a terribly
55:42 expressive guy. But like he jujitsu is just that's who he is. He knows jujitsu. His his
55:49 technique is razor sharp. I love rolling with him because it's an absolute disaster for me
55:53 every time it happens. But you know, you're not going to get hurt, but you're no, you're
55:57 you're tangling with, you know, a jaguar like it's just, you know, it's going to be a hard
56:01 situation for you. But very, very thankful to Rob Harper.
56:04 Thank you to Tyler Murrah. I mentioned him several times on this podcast. He was the one
56:08 that challenged me, you know, what would you do to the Kyle from six months ago? But I have
56:11 rolled with Tyler Murrah more than I have rolled with any other human being on the planet.
56:16 Okay, which is a good and a bad thing because again, he's a world champion. He's he's potentially
56:21 the most the best guy at our gym, right? You know, all, all things considered. He's an
56:25 incredible, incredible athlete. He's dedicated to his life to jujitsu rolling with him. I've
56:30 never done well with him. I never will do well against him. But I'm so thankful to have
56:35 a guy like that. And I was so thankful to hear what he had to say. And the nice things
56:39 he had to say about me. And I posted it on our Instagram so you guys can go actually
56:42 listen to it. Just go to our Instagram feed. And I think it ended up on Facebook as well.
56:46 But for him to have respect for me and my game and the things that I've done whenever
56:49 I have so much respect for what he's done in the jujitsu world is an incredible thing.
56:53 So thank you so much to Tyler Murrah. And then also thank you to Aldo Gonzalez, right?
56:57 So he taught me some things. Hey, start thinking like a purple bell. You know, he came up the
57:00 day before I got promoted to try and help me just figure out what I could do. He's one
57:04 of my coaches. I usually go to Saturday morning class. He's probably done the most to individually
57:08 help my game recently, right? And you know, because he and I have kind of similar body
57:13 styles, you know, I'm kind of on the same track as him in terms of, you know, being
57:18 in the early 40s, kind of, you know, knocking on the door, a black belt, that type of a
57:21 thing. So I've got a lot to learn from him. And I've learned so much already. So thank
57:24 you to Aldo Gonzalez. Also, I want to thank Steve Jones. So Steve is maybe my favorite
57:29 coach from the forge to learn from. Okay. He his style, you know, taking an O to Metallica.
57:37 I call him creeping death. Because when you roll with him, he's a physically big guy,
57:41 a strong guy. But when you're rolling with him, he's just smashing you. And it's kind
57:45 of like slow moving lava, just like consuming you up to your face. I've learned so much
57:52 from his style, but I really, really like his teaching style. You know, the Tuesday night
57:55 class of the forge is one of my favorites. That's the class that he teaches. And he's
57:59 been able to shake some things loose in my brain in terms of my style and the things
58:02 that I focus on. And he's also very, very willing and eager to kind of hop in and you
58:07 know, help a guy with a certain position, even while they're rolling while they're drilling,
58:10 I just really, really love his style. I also want to thank Livingston, McKinsey. So Livingston,
58:15 McKinsey is one of the best athletes that I've ever rolled against in terms of jujitsu,
58:19 which some people would say, you know, either like, Oh, that guy's a good, good athlete.
58:23 That's almost considered like a negative thing. That's not a negative thing. He's just a very,
58:26 very gifted athlete, but he's well rounded. He's an incredible striker. He's does incredible
58:31 wrestling. He's very explosive, incredibly athletic, but his jujitsu game is top notch.
58:35 He's one of our black belts. He's another one of those guys that, you know, we're physically
58:39 similar in terms of size, but I'll never be anywhere near as good as he is. But again,
58:44 he's another guy that can be unbelievably explosive and be in complete control. Every
58:49 time I roll with him, I'm not worried about being hurt because even when he gets into one
58:53 of these explosive positions or even when he takes me down or something like that, I know
58:56 he's got himself completely under control. So I know that I'm safe. I enjoy rolling with
59:00 him again. It's a frustrating role because, you know, you see someone that's about your
59:03 sizing. Like I should be able to do something. But again, whenever you roll with a guy like
59:07 that, just change your goals in that role. Your goal is not to win your goals to learn.
59:10 And I certainly do a lot of learning when I roll with Livingston, Mackenzie. I also want
59:13 to thank Chris Cunningham. So Chris Cunningham is one of our black belts, but he also runs
59:16 the gym. He runs the business side of the gym. You know, he helped me get connected at the
59:20 beginning because, you know, my wife and I were having some budget issues and, you know,
59:23 training can be expensive. And so, you know, he kind of helped me in the early parts and,
59:27 you know, he runs a good gym. Like part of the reason why we have the people that train
59:31 at our gym is because of his tutelage and his leadership. So thank you to Chris Cunningham.
59:35 I also want to thank JP Taylor. He is the first coach I had at the forge. So not my first
59:39 jujitsu coach ever, but the very first class I did was a 6 a.m. Monday morning class and
59:43 JP was my first coach. And so he's a brown belt now. He'll be knocking on the door of
59:46 black belt no time. And so I'm not a huge fan of his wrist lock game, which he always
59:51 tries to do on me. But again, I have to be very, very thankful for him to be my first
59:55 coach from the forge. I also want to thank Austin Morris. So Austin Morris is one of
59:59 our newer coaches. He's a brown belt knocking on the door of black belt. Young kid, very,
1:00:03 very strong, incredibly technical. But he's responsible for kind of changing the direction
1:00:07 of the forge because around the COVID time is when he kind of came into the fold. But
1:00:11 a huge portion of his game is leg locks. And that wasn't really a huge part of a lot of
1:00:15 our coaches games. And that's really where jujitsu is going. There's a lot of people
1:00:18 doing leg locks. And so Austin, young kid, smart kid, you know, he knows a lot about
1:00:23 the game. He's a student of the game. He trains all the time. He trains really, really hard,
1:00:28 physically big, physically strong. But he's very, very technical. And he wants everyone
1:00:32 else to be technical. He has a very technical teaching style. But again, I think the fact
1:00:36 that he's kind of helping usher in this kind of leg lock revolution in our school is going
1:00:40 to be very, very good, especially for a lot of our guys who are going to be competing.
1:00:44 But then also I want to kind of go ahead and give a shout out to all my other training
1:00:47 partners. And I won't get into too much detail on all these guys, but from my foxhole downtown
1:00:50 Jermaine Brown, Shelby Bullard, Brandon Vincent, Rocky Campbell, Mike Fick, Adam Smith and
1:00:55 Zach Martin. Those are guys from my foxhole that I've rolled with a ton in addition to
1:00:59 rush weapon that I mentioned earlier. And then from the forge, Chris Avon. The night
1:01:04 I got my purple bell is the night he got his black belt. I mean, super duper well deserved.
1:01:08 He had a really great post on his Facebook afterwards, you know, where he's talking about,
1:01:12 you know, reflecting on how much jujitsu he's done and the things that he's learned about
1:01:16 himself. But he's another guy that's very, very good to roll with. You know, he and
1:01:20 I have actually, I've actually hurt myself rolling with him before. So I still kind of
1:01:23 hate him a little bit for that. But, but it's just an accidental thing. It just kind of
1:01:26 happens. But it's always awesome when he trains so much with somebody I've rolled so much
1:01:29 with him and to see him get his black belt. It was such a cool experience. I was glad
1:01:32 I was there for that. Matt Varney is another guy, a very, very big, very, very strong guy.
1:01:37 But he and I are kind of on the same trajectory around the same time is a little bit older
1:01:40 than me. But he got his purple belt that night. And so it's kind of like, you know, kindred
1:01:44 spirits is like, man, that's my brother right there. Like he got his purple belt. He's trained
1:01:48 so hard for so long. And then he was able to accomplish that. I just love that. I love
1:01:51 rolling with him. I love rolling with him, but I hate it at the same time because it's
1:01:54 always a difficult role. Adam Stevens, he was the kid I mentioned earlier, young kid, real
1:01:58 flexible, kind of smaller, but then has been lifting lately and gotten really, really strong.
1:02:03 This is a guy who of all the people in the plan that I have the most trouble passing
1:02:07 is guard is him. And I mean, he probably weighs 140 pounds and it's I have a pressure passing
1:02:12 that I use and it's just so hard to do that. But rolling with him, it's like you're trying
1:02:17 to crack a Rubik's cube that's moving around and trying to kill you. It's like, that's
1:02:20 how he is. But it's so cool to see a young kid that at a very, very young age when he
1:02:24 was like 17 years old, had to get his mom to go in there to sign a waiver for him so that
1:02:28 he could start training and just seeing all the things that he's done. It's been incredible
1:02:30 to watch that. And then Michael Chandler, we just call him Chan, but he's a guy that's
1:02:34 I think he started doing Jiu Jitsu in his 40s. Very, very gifted, very, very strong guy
1:02:39 like ox strong, even though he's not, you know, physically that big, he probably weighs
1:02:43 160, 165 pounds. But rolling with him, it's like rolling, I make fun of him all the time,
1:02:48 but it's like rolling with a peck muscle with arms. Like it's just like, it's so hard to
1:02:52 pass his guard. It's so hard to do anything. But just he's an inspiration to me just because
1:02:56 he's an older guy that is on the journey. He's a purple belt and he's going to be training
1:03:00 forever. And this is just kind of part of what he does. But then to get into some other
1:03:03 guys, Josh Munson and Chuck Munson, that's a father son team. Two of the nicest guys
1:03:07 you'll meet at the gym, you know, very devout Christian supporters of undaunted life. They
1:03:11 got our rash guards. They got everything. So I love those guys. Matt Greis, you know, a
1:03:15 big MMA career came and was a part of the forage, even though he's moved on to another
1:03:19 gym, very thankful for him. Paul Ambrose, one of our black belts, love rolling with him,
1:03:23 Trevor Fulbright, he got his brown belt that night. So this was a guy that used to be like
1:03:26 350 pounds or something like that. He's lost like 150 pounds away and he looks great. And
1:03:30 he used Jiu Jitsu as kind of the center point for that. Tanner Stroder is another guy that
1:03:34 that trains at our gym. He was a big supporter. The last time I competed, I could hear him
1:03:37 yelling the whole time he came out. Robert Storksen, Jake the snake Coleman, I've already
1:03:41 talked about him. Richard Davis is another one of our black belts. Jack Carmack is a
1:03:45 young kid. He's a he's a purple belt. I don't, you know, he's been gone for a little bit.
1:03:49 You know, after college and all that. But I know that if he stays on the path, he could
1:03:53 do big things in Jiu Jitsu. Sean Issell is another purple belt from our school. Hey,
1:03:57 and Sean, you're the only one that'll get this, but you still owe me a bunch of starting
1:04:00 rounds where I'm on the back. Okay. Lance Southard, he's the only guy that he's one
1:04:04 of our black belts. He's the only guy I've ever pressured tapped to because I thought
1:04:07 he was smothering me to death. So that's my one pressure tap in my career. Trevor Callan.
1:04:12 This is a guy who, you know, before I started training Jiu Jitsu, he and I were doing this
1:04:14 little wrestling thing and he basically tossed me. It was in one of our early videos. And
1:04:18 so I still owe him for that, even though I'm not sure I'll ever be able to take him down
1:04:21 like that. And Blake Kerr, he was one of the first guys that I trained with. He's built
1:04:25 like a baby rhinoceros. That's why we call him baby rhino, but very thankful for him.
1:04:29 And then other guys, Kirk Walker, Luke Woodard, Trey Falk, Eric Blackwell, Alan Flores, Caleb
1:04:35 Parham, Carl Wolf, Wolfwood, a Musabraza, JR, Coughran, Zach Brun, Michael Tran, Robert
1:04:42 Lewis and James head. And here's the thing guys is I'm sure and Garrett, there's, there's
1:04:46 another guy that I train with a lot on Saturday mornings. If I miss someone, you know, give
1:04:51 me a break. I mean, like, I literally tried to think of all the people I spent the last
1:04:54 several days trying to think of the people that I've rolled with, even people that I've
1:04:56 moved on and gone on to other gyms, but here's just a generic group. Thank you to everyone
1:05:01 that I've ever trained with or competed against. And so guys, I really do appreciate you sticking
1:05:05 with me to the end of this podcast. I think it's very, very important to let guys know
1:05:08 that you're appreciative of them. So I really appreciate your patience with that. And I
1:05:11 hope that a lot of this stuff was valuable to you. But guys, before we let you go, we
1:05:14 are going to do a quick resilience boost add on Dawn to life. Our mission is equipping
1:05:18 men to push back darkness with content that for just spiritual, mental and physical resilience.
1:05:22 So here are the links I've got for you. So I've got a link to our donation page again.
1:05:26 I would really like you guys to consider hopping on to become a donor. Also, it's not a link
1:05:30 because I don't really know what you guys use. I don't know if you're a duck duck goat
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1:05:37 nearest browser. If you're not training jiu-jitsu right now and type in jiu-jitsu gyms in my
1:05:41 area and go find one and go start training. All right. And then I've got my three episodes
1:05:45 that I've mentioned before, episode five, six months of jiu-jitsu, episode 62, blue belt
1:05:49 and episode 242 with Hicks and Gracie. Those links are there. I've got a link to the Iron
1:05:53 Neck website. Again, I'm not affiliated with them in any way, shape or form. I just think
1:05:56 it's a very, very good piece of equipment. And then recently Lex Friedman on his podcast,
1:06:00 he released an episode that's an incredible episode. I may have to do an episode breaking
1:06:03 down this episode later, but it's with George St. Pierre, who's the greatest MMA fighter of
1:06:07 all time. John Donner, her who's probably the greatest mixed martial arts coach of all time.
1:06:11 And Gordon Ryan, who's probably the greatest submission grappler of all time. And so it's
1:06:15 that episode. So wherever you get your podcast, you can check that out, but I've got a link for
1:06:19 it so you can get there easily. All right, guys. Thanks so much for listening to the podcast.
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1:06:55 I'm your host, Kyle Thompson. Remember, keep pushing back darkness, keep forging spiritual,
1:07:02 mental and physical resilience, keep seeking the Lion of Judah.
1:07:21 You'll be revived.
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