Top 17 Ways to Avoid Being a Crappy Man in 2024 (Ep. 548)

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2:22 But we're going to continue our beginning of the year

2:25 tradition with our ways to avoid being a crappy man series.

2:29 Okay.

2:29 And so we got the top 17 ways to avoid being a crappy man

2:33 in 2024.

2:34 Now some of you guys have been here since the beginning

2:36 and so you hear these every year.

2:38 And guys like to use this list of myriad of different ways.

2:41 Guys will save this episode and listen to it.

2:43 You know, maybe once a month as a reminder,

2:45 I know guys that have listened to this episode

2:47 and they've actually typed out the top ways

2:49 to avoid being a crappy man.

2:50 And they put it on their mirror so that, you know,

2:52 when they're getting ready in the morning,

2:54 they can check out that list.

2:55 Some people save it on their background.

2:57 Some people type a note in their phone.

2:59 And it's just a good reminder of kind of how to put their year

3:01 in order and some of the things that they need

3:03 to remain focused on.

3:04 But let me tell you how I went about putting

3:06 this year's list together.

3:08 Because as always, there will be some things on this list

3:11 that are the same as last year's list.

3:13 So the top 17 ways to avoid being a crappy man in 2023,

3:17 you're going to see a lot of those make a reappearance

3:19 on this podcast.

3:20 And then there will be some that are new for 2024.

3:24 So some were just on last year.

3:25 Some have been on every single year's.

3:27 But then as the year goes through,

3:28 I kind of make notes to myself of some things

3:30 I want guys to be thinking about.

3:32 And so this year it's going to be like, you know,

3:35 a constant one when that's on most lists.

3:37 And then it's going to go to one that's new for this year.

3:39 And then it's going to go to one that's standard.

3:41 And then it will go to a new one for this year.

3:43 And the thing that I like most about recording this podcast

3:45 and then we'll jump right in.

3:47 The thing that I love the most about this

3:49 is it's the podcast I record in the year

3:51 that has the least amount of notes.

3:53 Like if you could see my notes,

3:55 all I have on my notes are the 17 ways

3:59 to avoid being a crappy man in 2024.

4:02 So I don't know what I'm going to say

4:04 because I put this list together about a week or two ago.

4:06 It's going to be recorded about a week

4:08 before you guys hear it.

4:09 And so I can't remember all 17 of them.

4:12 So I'm just going to have to kind of flow

4:13 with whatever is on the list.

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4:23 look man, here are the things I need to do

4:25 to get more spiritually, mentally and physically resilient.

4:27 Here are the things I need to do to be a better man,

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4:45 So here we go guys.

4:47 Here are your ways to avoid being a crappy man in 2024.

4:50 And these are in no particular order,

4:52 but make sure you stick with us all the way to the end.

4:54 So here's number one, again, in no particular order.

4:57 Become a weapon.

4:58 Now, this is a derivative of what we called in 2023,

5:03 learn to fight.

5:05 Because when you say learn to fight,

5:07 some people think they already know how to fight

5:09 'cause there are those people out there that are like,

5:11 you know, I'm just going to see red, you know, right?

5:13 And if something were to happen

5:14 and someone were to assault my wife

5:16 or someone were to try to do something to my kids,

5:18 I would just see red and I'd be able to react.

5:21 And you are a fool if you believe that.

5:23 Like bless you if you believe that.

5:26 'Cause if you have no fight training,

5:29 unless you're like 400 pounds with abs

5:31 and, you know, six foot 10 or something like that,

5:33 okay, then you can probably get away

5:34 with not training that much

5:36 and not really knowing the ins and outs

5:37 of throwing a proper punch

5:38 or taking someone to the ground.

5:40 But for the rest of us normies, we have to train.

5:43 And here's the other thing.

5:46 There are people that don't know how to fight physically

5:50 with their body, but they know how to use a firearm.

5:53 Maybe they've gone to some training,

5:55 maybe they carry in the appendix position

5:57 and they can pull it out and get on target really fast.

5:59 And maybe they've learned how to fight

6:01 with, you know, fixed blade knives

6:02 like this one here from Montana knife company,

6:04 like maybe they carry that on their ankle

6:05 and they can get after with that.

6:07 But what a lot of these people have failed to realize

6:10 is you're not always going to have

6:11 those things at your disposal.

6:13 You're not always going to have your concealed carry weapon.

6:17 Maybe you get in a fight in an airport.

6:19 Maybe your own vacation, you had to fly somewhere.

6:21 Maybe you're out of the country

6:22 or just not where you normally are

6:24 and you didn't travel within your weaponry.

6:26 And when you got on the ground,

6:27 it wasn't the first thing you did.

6:28 You didn't go to a gun store and buy a new firearm

6:30 that you were going to leave there with somebody

6:32 or go, you know, get something that you can fight with

6:34 a knife or something like that.

6:36 And so in that scenario, what are you going to do?

6:38 Like what's your plan?

6:42 Again, I just talk to these guys all the time

6:44 that are just completely delusional

6:46 about their ability to defend themselves and their families.

6:49 And these are big guys.

6:50 Little guys is typically worse with big guys

6:52 because they think, well, I'm six foot two.

6:53 I'm no one's ever going to mess with me.

6:55 It's like, really?

6:56 You want me to show you a dozen videos

6:58 that I can find in two seconds

6:59 of huge guys getting smoked by somebody else?

7:03 And so in 2024, this is the year that you need to focus

7:07 on becoming a weapon yourself.

7:09 I'm not anti-firearm.

7:10 I think you should carry.

7:11 I'm not anti-fix blade weapons.

7:13 I think you should carry those as well.

7:15 But if you don't know how to take someone to the ground

7:17 and keep them there until help arrives,

7:19 you're not doing what you should be doing.

7:24 If you don't know how to end a fight

7:26 once you get it to the ground, right,

7:28 by passing the person unconscious or breaking a limb

7:31 which will cause them to not really want to fight anymore,

7:34 then what exactly are you prepared for?

7:37 Also, if you don't know how to throw a proper punch,

7:40 throw a kick, any of those types of things,

7:42 if you don't know how to create space with somebody

7:45 to where you can run away,

7:46 which is probably the best first line of defense

7:49 in these types of situations, then what are you doing?

7:52 Again, when the wolf comes for you

7:56 or when you find yourself in that kinetic situation

7:58 where you need to be able to physically respond,

8:00 you will fall to the level of your training.

8:02 And so if you are not a weapon yourself,

8:05 you will become a victim and think about it this way.

8:08 If you're in a situation

8:09 where you're trying to defend somebody else,

8:11 whether it be a family member, a loved one,

8:13 or a complete stranger, if you're ill-equipped to do that,

8:16 what makes you think you're going to get lucky?

8:19 And I want to be completely clear here.

8:21 So you need to be training one of the following

8:24 because when I say learn to become a weapon,

8:25 I do not mean karate, I do not mean wingchung,

8:29 I do not mean kung fu, I do not mean jik kundo,

8:32 I don't mean any of these fighting modalities

8:34 that basically have no basis in reality

8:37 and wouldn't work in a real fight

8:38 in any circumstance ever.

8:40 If you want evidence of that, watch the UFC

8:42 and watch the different styles of fighting

8:44 that are represented and tell me why the bullshido stuff

8:47 that you see on Instagram, like the people using people's

8:50 chi and power and like touching them

8:52 on certain spots of their neck and making them pass out,

8:54 just tell me that that stuff's real

8:56 when you watch guys, you know, fight for a living.

8:58 This is what I mean.

8:59 You need to be doing jujitsu and wrestling.

9:02 If you go to a good jujitsu school,

9:04 you're going to get both

9:05 and jujitsu is pretty ubiquitous now,

9:06 it's all over the place, it's exploded.

9:08 I also want you to start training Western boxing

9:12 and or kickboxing.

9:13 So some places you'll be able to get both,

9:15 but typically those are kind of truncated

9:17 or not truncated, but, you know,

9:19 put in their own silos or whatever.

9:21 And so you can maybe find an MMA gym that has all of this,

9:24 but, and the other one that I would add is Muay Thai.

9:27 And so if you're training some sort of a striking modality,

9:31 like Western boxing, kickboxing or Muay Thai,

9:34 and then you add in the ground component of a jujitsu

9:38 and a wrestling and you might even throw judo in there,

9:41 but make sure you are learning ways

9:43 to end the fight on the feet and on the ground

9:47 while realizing that striking can be really fun

9:49 and smacking those pads can sound really awesome.

9:52 And that's all great.

9:53 And I think you should do that.

9:54 But a lot of fights end up on the ground.

9:56 And if this is like a major full on fight,

9:59 like someone that's trying to hurt you or kill you

10:01 or hurt your family or kill your family

10:03 or hurt somebody in public or something like that,

10:06 this is not someone that's going to be okay

10:08 which is point fighting on the feet and, you know,

10:10 touching and going and playing and stuff like that.

10:12 These are people that are going to go rogue,

10:13 they're going to go crazy.

10:14 And that's the type of person you need to be able to get

10:16 onto the ground in your circumstances

10:19 based on the things that you do.

10:21 Get them on the ground and be able to end the fight

10:23 either with a choke or with a break.

10:26 So in 2024, become a weapon.

10:29 All right, number two way to avoid being a crappy man in 2024.

10:32 When it comes to your family, think of yourself last.

10:36 Okay, so this is a new one for this year.

10:38 Now this is one that's a great reminder for me as well.

10:41 'Cause I like doing things my way.

10:44 I like getting my way.

10:46 I like going to the restaurant I want to go to.

10:47 I like listening to the song I want to listen to.

10:49 I like everybody doing exactly what I want them to do.

10:53 And this is going to come as a shock

10:55 to literally no one here that has a wife and kids.

10:57 That doesn't always seem to matter, does it?

11:00 Your wife has a mind of her own and her own preferences.

11:03 Your kids certainly have a crazy mind of their own

11:06 and their own preferences.

11:07 But I'll say that I thought of this one

11:09 because Ryan from the forging table,

11:11 so or the horn as he might have been called.

11:14 I remember him talking about a vacation

11:16 that he went on with his family

11:17 and he just kind of went into this vacation

11:19 with a different mindset

11:20 and it helped improve the overall, I don't know,

11:24 outcome of the vacation.

11:26 'Cause there were a lot of things that didn't go his way.

11:28 There are a lot of things that he wished would have been different,

11:31 but he just went in with the mindset of me last.

11:34 Me last, me last, serve your wife, serve the kids, me last.

11:38 And it worked out really, really well for them.

11:40 And so I suck at this.

11:42 I super duper suck at this.

11:45 And it's because I'm naturally selfish,

11:47 especially when it comes to things with my family

11:49 and things that I want to do and places that I want to go.

11:51 But when it comes to your family, think of yourself last

11:54 because if you go into a situation with that mindset,

11:57 whether it's before a vacation or a family outing

11:59 or just some sort of decision that you need to make,

12:01 maybe you got young kids, maybe you have older kids, whatever.

12:04 If you think of yourself last,

12:06 you're practicing servanthood.

12:08 You're practicing shepherding in a way as well.

12:13 Because again, when you're shepherding animals,

12:15 you can't think about yourself.

12:15 You have to think about the animals.

12:17 And no, I'm not calling your wife and kids an animal.

12:19 But to a degree, you have the role of headship

12:21 over your household.

12:23 And so if you're constantly worried about what you need

12:26 and what your desires are and whether your needs

12:28 are being met and all that,

12:29 it's gonna become a major problem for you.

12:31 So number two, way again, in no particular order

12:33 to avoid being a crappy man in 2024

12:35 when it comes to your family, think of yourself last.

12:38 All right, now let's get to number three.

12:41 Give the person in front of you your full attention.

12:45 Now, that's the same as something from 2024,

12:48 but I'm gonna give you an addition to this one from last year.

12:51 So give the person in front of you your full attention

12:54 and get rid of your God forsaken smartwatch.

12:58 I swear to absolute everything holy in this world,

13:03 I cannot stand smartwatches as I'm sitting here

13:07 with a Garmin smartwatch on my wrist.

13:10 But this smartwatch has no notifications.

13:14 I've turned all the notifications off.

13:16 So I don't get a notification when I'm getting a phone call,

13:19 when I'm getting a text message,

13:21 when I've reached whatever goal there is for that day,

13:23 I'm not getting a notification at all from my wrist

13:27 'cause I'm already getting enough from this thing.

13:29 From this supercomputer, I put my pocket,

13:31 which is like a vestigial organ that's attached to my hand

13:34 at almost all times of the day.

13:36 But the number of times that I've been in a meeting

13:37 with somebody or having a conversation with somebody

13:41 or watching somebody in a meeting in a conversation

13:44 on a date at a restaurant or something like that,

13:46 and they're listening to the person,

13:47 they're pecking corn, they're pretending like they're listening

13:49 and then they just look down at the wrist

13:52 and then they keep listening, well, guess what?

13:54 You've broken your attention with that person.

13:58 And so we would consider it rude

14:00 if we were sitting at a restaurant,

14:01 let's just say a meeting.

14:02 So you're meeting with somebody over coffee.

14:04 And if you get a text message

14:06 and you just pick up your phone and look at it

14:08 while they're talking, mind you,

14:10 imagine how rude that would be.

14:12 Now, it's already bad enough that people leave their phones

14:15 on them or face up.

14:17 And so every time they get a message,

14:18 they look down at their phone.

14:20 Again, while the other person is talking,

14:22 but what you're communicating to that person

14:24 is that what they're saying is not important.

14:27 Now, you may not actually think that,

14:29 but when you divert your attention away to something else,

14:32 you're communicating to them.

14:33 Whatever you're saying right now is not as important

14:35 as whatever just popped up on my phone,

14:37 whatever type of notification that it is.

14:39 And so if you have a smartwatch,

14:41 I'm not anti-smartwatch in general,

14:43 because maybe you're wearing it

14:44 so you can track your heart rate

14:45 or maybe you're wearing it

14:47 because it helps you with your business in some way.

14:49 I know for my wife shooting weddings for a lot of years,

14:52 if you take your phone out constantly

14:54 to look at the schedule for the day,

14:55 it looks like you're not paying attention to your job,

14:57 but if it's on your wrist,

14:58 people don't really pay attention to it.

15:00 But again, just think about it this way.

15:02 Let's say you were sitting in front of somebody

15:03 that's just wearing a regular old watch,

15:05 not a smartwatch, but a Casio or a G-Shock

15:07 or something like that.

15:09 And if you're talking,

15:10 if they're constantly looking at their wrist,

15:12 it's communicating that you're bored.

15:14 You're checking the time.

15:16 Gosh, is this story over yet?

15:18 Gosh, do I get to leave this conversation or interaction yet?

15:21 That's what you're communicating to somebody.

15:23 But if someone's in front of you,

15:25 if they're giving you the one thing that they can't get back,

15:28 which is their ability to control time,

15:31 which we don't have the ability to control time,

15:34 but if they're giving you their time,

15:36 the least that you can do is give them your attention.

15:40 So the number three way to avoid being a crappy man in 2024,

15:44 give the person in front of you your full attention

15:47 and get ready your smartwatch.

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17:50 The number four way to avoid being a crappy man in 2024,

17:54 make a gratitude list.

17:55 So this is a new one for 2024.

17:57 But the reason why I do this is because my good buddy

18:00 and mentor, Joby Martin, the pastor of Church of 1122

18:02 down in Florida, something that he talks about,

18:05 he's talked about with me personally,

18:06 but from the pulpit multiple times,

18:08 is he has a gratitude list on his phone.

18:10 And so for every year that he's been alive,

18:13 he has one thing that he's grateful for.

18:16 Some of them might be huge things.

18:17 Some of them might be things that might seem

18:20 a little bit vapid, but they're important to him.

18:23 And so this kind of goes back to what I was talking about

18:26 earlier, I always like my preferences

18:27 and for my way and all those types of things.

18:29 So I can come off as ungrateful sometimes.

18:32 And for me also, I move on from the positive things

18:35 really quickly, but I kind of stick on the negative things.

18:38 That's why I don't read my comments.

18:40 That's why I don't read my reviews.

18:41 I want you guys to give me reviews,

18:43 but I could get 105 star reviews in a row

18:46 and people like pour their heart out in the comments

18:48 and oh, this is so great.

18:49 And I just love this stuff.

18:50 And it's made me so much better and blah, blah, blah.

18:51 But that one person is like, yeah, I just don't really get it.

18:53 I don't like the metal music.

18:54 It's scary, it's satanic.

18:56 Why does he scream so much?

18:58 Oh, I don't like his opinion on this one issue

19:00 that he brought up on 500 plus episodes.

19:02 So I'm gonna give him a two star review.

19:04 I will focus on those little crappy nothing comments

19:08 from trolls.

19:09 And so that's why I just don't go there.

19:11 But one thing that's kind of helped kind of recharge me

19:14 and I'm actually gonna bring up my gratitude list here

19:16 in just a second so I can read it to you

19:18 is having this list puts me in the mindset of,

19:21 I wanna make sure to complete the list.

19:23 And so I have 37 things on my list,

19:25 but I'm gonna be turning 38 this year, right?

19:27 So I need to be thinking, what's that thing

19:29 that I need to add to this list?

19:31 And this is kind of like our book list.

19:32 I'm gonna keep adding stuff to the list

19:34 and taking things away just as I'm grateful for these things.

19:37 But it's a good reminder just to kind of go through this,

19:39 you know, if you're injured or if you're having problems

19:42 at home or if you have problems at work

19:43 or if you're not really performing in the way

19:45 that you wanna perform in all areas of life,

19:47 going back to a gratitude list is a great thing.

19:49 So I'm gonna actually read mine real quick

19:51 and then we'll move on to the next thing here.

19:53 But here are the 37 things one for every year

19:56 I've been alive that I am grateful for.

19:58 My salvation, Kelsey, my wife, James, my first son,

20:02 Eli, my second son, my father, the Bible

20:05 and then how it got to us in modernity,

20:07 the United States of America,

20:09 the U.S. Constitution and the Bill of Rights,

20:11 Joby, Martin's mentorship and friendship,

20:14 Faith Bible Church, which is my church here

20:15 in Edmond, Oklahoma, my boy's going to their school

20:18 that they are in right now, Roman, my dog,

20:20 my best friend in the whole world, my foxhole,

20:23 Bertilian Jiu Jitsu and my gym,

20:25 the forge here in Edmond, my truck,

20:27 all the international travel I've done, my home gym,

20:31 hunting on my buddy, Adam's land, hunting on my buddy,

20:33 Heath's land, my podcast audience,

20:36 undaunted life overall, the undaunted life donors,

20:39 the forging table, my book collection,

20:42 my physical health and athleticism at my age.

20:45 You have see fight nights, good whiskey, good cigars,

20:49 whiskey and cigar nights.

20:51 Yes, all those things are different

20:52 and preferably whiskey and cigar nights on my porch.

20:55 The podcast that I listen to, my flexible work schedule,

20:59 my partnership with Origin and Jocko Fuel,

21:02 just meat, yeah, just meat, just meat in general,

21:04 I'm very, very thankful for that.

21:06 Taste buds, my favorite music, mountains

21:10 and my voice recovery up to this point.

21:12 So again, some of those here are going to be like,

21:13 well, those are kind of lame.

21:15 Well, it's not your freaking list.

21:16 Make your own list and the great thing about a dude,

21:19 the great thing about it guys that I would love for you to do

21:22 is do it on your phone, okay?

21:24 So I can check this out at any time.

21:26 Maybe you're a journal person and you like to write things

21:28 down, but I'm assuming your journal's not on you

21:30 at all times in your cargo pocket.

21:32 So if you have it on your phone and you think of something,

21:34 maybe you have 15 things on your list

21:36 and you're 45 years old and you got a few to go.

21:38 As you think about it, just add it to the list.

21:41 Don't really like kind of, oh, you know,

21:42 vastly back and forth and I don't really know

21:44 and it's just a big enough deal.

21:45 Just put it on the list.

21:47 You can always edit the list later,

21:48 but I really, really enjoy having this

21:50 and it's a great habit that I've created.

21:52 So I'm very thankful to Pastor Joby Martin

21:54 for helping me think through that

21:56 and to go ahead and do that,

21:58 it's just something that all guys have to do.

21:59 So the number four way to avoid being a crappy man

22:01 in 2024, make a gratitude list.

22:04 Again, one for every year that you've been alive.

22:06 All right, the number five way to avoid being a crappy man

22:09 in 2024, don't let sports ruin your night.

22:11 This one is going to be on every single one

22:16 of these episodes until the show is no moss.

22:19 Do not let sports ruin your night.

22:21 Now, I know a lot of you guys in this audience,

22:22 you're sports fans.

22:24 You're just like me.

22:25 You've got your favorite teams,

22:26 you've got your favorite fighters,

22:27 you've got your favorite leagues.

22:29 And if you're anything like me,

22:31 you've allowed your fandom to dictate how you act,

22:35 how you are around your family,

22:38 how you are around your friends.

22:40 Some of you have lost friendships

22:42 because of the way that you've acted

22:44 because of an outcome to a sports game.

22:46 Some of you have potentially been kicked out of your homes

22:51 or been told by people,

22:52 "Look, I can't watch these games with you

22:55 "when this team is playing because you're a lunatic."

22:58 Perhaps some of you have gotten in fights

23:00 because of the outcomes of games that you've watched.

23:03 Perhaps some of you have broken things,

23:05 punched walls or done any of those types of things

23:08 because of the outcome of a game that you are not playing in.

23:12 Now, most of the things I just mentioned, guys, I've done.

23:17 So without going into all the background,

23:20 huge St. Louis Cardinals fan,

23:22 been a Cardinals fan my entire life.

23:24 Back in 2012, I actually worked for Major League Baseball

23:27 where I was representing the St. Louis Cardinals

23:29 as their super mega fan watched every single game

23:32 and I lived and died with every pitch.

23:36 Now baseball fans know this,

23:37 there's 162 games in the regular season

23:40 and then there's playoffs.

23:41 It's a lot of pitches.

23:43 It's a lot of hits, it's a lot of strikeouts,

23:47 it's a lot of home runs, it's a lot of double plays,

23:49 it's a lot of disappointing endings and a lot of walk-offs.

23:54 And I would let, like literally,

23:57 the Cardinals would lose a game in June,

24:00 right in the middle of the summer

24:02 and I would let it affect me until the next day's game.

24:06 I would go to bed [inaudible] off, I would wake up [inaudible] off,

24:09 I wouldn't talk to my wife,

24:11 I would be short with people at work

24:13 because the Cardinals lost a game

24:15 on a Tuesday in the middle of the summer.

24:17 And I look back on that time period, guys,

24:19 and I'm so embarrassed.

24:22 I remember going to a World Series game for the Cardinals,

24:25 they lost in the ninth inning,

24:27 the closer it gave up, it was Jason Mott,

24:29 he gave up some hits, gave up some runs,

24:31 Cardinals ended up losing that game.

24:32 I think it was game two of the 2013 World Series.

24:37 There was a friend in Missouri, close to St. Louis,

24:41 that was allowing me and my wife to stay at their home

24:44 so that we could not have to drive back in the middle of the night,

24:47 like, yeah, just come on over and stay there.

24:49 And by the time I got to their house after the game,

24:51 I still couldn't speak because I was so mad

24:54 that the St. Louis Cardinals didn't win a baseball game.

24:58 So I treated this family so rudely

25:01 and they had little kids and everything

25:02 because I just couldn't speak why because I was mad.

25:05 I was mad that my team didn't win the game.

25:08 What an embarrassing fool I was.

25:10 And so that changed, I don't know what exactly changed,

25:14 but in my early 30s, I was like, enough of this.

25:17 And at the time I was still watching the NBA,

25:19 I was a big Thunder fan and, you know, I would react the same way

25:21 to Thunder Losses as I would in St. Louis Cardinals.

25:24 So this is what I do now.

25:26 If I really care about the outcome of a game,

25:28 I probably won't even watch it.

25:31 Which to you, if you're a big fan of a particular college football team

25:35 or a big fan of a particular NHL team or something,

25:37 you'd be like, wait a minute, what?

25:39 You're not going to watch the OU Sooners Bowl game.

25:42 I'm not an OU fan, but you might, I know a lot of OU fans listen to this.

25:45 But you're not going to watch the game.

25:47 Wait, you're not going to watch this college football playoff game?

25:49 Wait, you're not going to watch this second round Stanley Cup playoff game?

25:54 Well, no, I'm not.

25:56 Because when I start to feel that angry ginger energy

26:00 coming up through my stomach and working its way into my chest,

26:04 I'm like, oop, turn it off.

26:07 I'll wake up the next morning, I'll check my phone.

26:09 Oh, they lost her. Oh, they won.

26:11 And then I move on.

26:15 And the reason why I want to do that is because I don't want my sons

26:18 to see me overreacting to something that I have no input on.

26:23 Yeah, maybe you're a huge fan, man.

26:24 You just love your Kansas City Chiefs.

26:26 Gosh, you just love your Sacramento Kings.

26:28 You just and you just love this particular fighter.

26:30 I get it.

26:31 It can be fun.

26:32 But if it starts affecting your mood in a deleterious way

26:36 and starts affecting your relationship with your wife,

26:38 if your kids are mimicking your ridiculous response to a first down

26:43 or a sack or a home run or a goal, dude, cut it off.

26:49 I think about it this way.

26:51 I cut off watching St. Louis Cardinals like playoff games,

26:55 important games.

26:56 I cut off watching like fighters that I really

26:58 wanted to win or something like that, which I don't really

26:59 have that problem anymore.

27:01 And you know how much worse my life has gotten?

27:04 Not at all.

27:05 Hasn't got worse at all.

27:08 Like, not even a little bit.

27:10 And you might be like, oh, but you're missing out

27:12 on all these these great events.

27:13 And what about that walk off home run

27:15 that you mentioned and blah, blah, and all that?

27:16 But that is of no value to me when

27:19 compared to being a good example for my children

27:22 and being a good supporter of my wife.

27:24 I remember my wife when I was in my 20s,

27:26 this before we had kids, she was like,

27:28 I can't like at different points when I was freaking out

27:30 about the Cardinals and all they lost.

27:32 And I'm so mad.

27:32 I got to go for a run right now in the middle of the night

27:34 because I'm so mad.

27:35 And her saying to me, you were, you were a fool.

27:39 And I can't imagine having kids with someone like you.

27:42 Now that may seem like a pretty rough quote,

27:44 but there's a reason why I remember it right now

27:46 as I'm recording because she was right.

27:50 How can you have kids with a kid, right?

27:53 Someone that's acting like a fully grown up child.

27:56 And again, I'm not telling you guys don't be a sports fan.

27:58 I'm not telling you that you can't watch sports.

28:01 Obviously, I would never tell you to do that.

28:03 But again, if you're letting the athletic performance

28:07 of, in some cases, teenagers dictate

28:09 whether or not you're going to be a good person,

28:12 whether or not you're going to comport yourself in a way

28:13 that Christ would want you to comport yourself,

28:16 then you need to stop it.

28:17 Find a way to not do it anymore.

28:19 So number five way to avoid being a crappy man in 2024.

28:22 Don't let sports ruin your night.

28:24 All right, the number six way

28:26 to avoid being a crappy man in 2024.

28:28 Do incredibly difficult physical things

28:31 that constantly check your ego and your limits.

28:35 That's a new one for 2024, I'll repeat it.

28:38 Do incredibly difficult physical things

28:40 that constantly check your ego and your limits.

28:44 So this is a derivative, I think of what I said last year,

28:46 which is make sure that you redline at least once a week.

28:48 So redlining for people is different.

28:50 So maybe redlining for you is you got to the end

28:53 of that set where you would normally stop

28:55 at five reps and you did two extra reps.

28:58 Or maybe you're on the air-dined bike

28:59 and you're doing that 30-cal sprint

29:01 at the end of a 25-minute Tabata workout.

29:05 Maybe it's that extra jiu-jitsu round

29:07 that you would normally skip because you're gassed out,

29:09 but you get to that point where you feel like

29:11 you're absolutely redlined and you can't do anymore.

29:14 But the reason why I changed it to

29:16 do incredibly difficult physical things

29:17 that constantly check your ego and your limits

29:20 is because there are people that will redline

29:23 at the stuff they're good at.

29:25 So for my triathletes out there,

29:27 you'll redline running, swimming, or biking.

29:29 You're fine to redline doing that,

29:32 but you will keep yourself

29:34 from redlining doing something like grappling, jiu-jitsu,

29:37 because you can't control that.

29:39 Maybe you're amazing at powerlifting, right?

29:43 So you're deadlifting over 700 pounds,

29:45 you're benching over 400,

29:47 you're squatting over 500 and you're that guy.

29:49 And so you're fine to redline doing that type of stuff.

29:52 You can't remember the last time you did cardio though.

29:55 You've never ran a sprint, right?

29:58 Because that's more difficult

30:00 'cause you're not very fast.

30:01 And so you're gonna focus on the things

30:02 that you're good at because of your ego.

30:05 Because you have limitations

30:08 and you're letting your ego dictate

30:10 whether or not you're gonna get past those limitations.

30:14 And so I think of this constantly

30:16 because I'll kind of lull myself to sleep a little bit.

30:18 I'll go two or three months doing the stuff I'm good at

30:21 and then I'll realize, ooh,

30:23 I haven't really redlined on something

30:24 that's checking my ego in a while.

30:26 Or maybe I have a good couple of weeks,

30:29 which is typically as long as it lasts,

30:30 a good couple of weeks

30:31 where I don't have anybody really smoke me in jujitsu.

30:34 Like I'm in control during my roles.

30:36 I'm understanding what's being taught by the professor

30:38 and I'm doing well during drilling

30:39 and those types of things.

30:40 And then it's like, okay,

30:42 I need to go to the class where the sharks are.

30:45 Yeah, I need to roll with Jett Thompson,

30:46 who's a 16 year old killer

30:48 who's gonna be a role champion someday.

30:50 A kid that I've never scored on.

30:52 He's 16 and just got his brown belt.

30:54 I need to go roll with Jett.

30:56 I need to go roll with Livingston.

30:57 I need to go roll with Steve.

30:59 I need to go roll with Aldo.

31:00 I need to go roll with Austin.

31:02 I need to go roll with Jake.

31:04 These guys at my gym,

31:05 that most of those guys I just mentioned,

31:08 I've almost never scored on.

31:10 I can count probably on my two hands,

31:11 the number of points I've scored

31:12 on all those people combined.

31:14 Looks like I need to go roll with those guys.

31:17 'Cause I need to need to go check.

31:19 'Cause I don't want to get to this point where I'm like,

31:20 oh, I'm this fully put together thing

31:22 as it comes to jujitsu.

31:23 But then as most people know,

31:25 you can be in jujitsu shape,

31:26 but not being running shape.

31:28 You can be in running shape and not being swimming shape.

31:30 You can be in swimming shape

31:31 but not being grappling shape,

31:32 whatever this situation is.

31:34 So you need to identify those things in your life

31:36 that you've been avoiding

31:36 'cause you know what they are.

31:38 Of all those things that I've mentioned,

31:39 you know which one you've been avoiding.

31:40 That is available to you.

31:42 Not everybody has a pool that they can swim in

31:43 or something like that.

31:44 But you know the thing that is available to you.

31:47 And you need to go towards those things,

31:49 not run away.

31:50 Because the things that are incredibly difficult

31:53 to do physically are the things that are gonna push you

31:56 to that next level physically.

31:58 A lot of you guys want to be in peak,

31:59 athletic condition and peak shape.

32:01 Well, how do you expect to do that

32:02 if you're constantly ignoring the areas of your life

32:04 that you're weak at?

32:06 But like what exactly are you planning to do?

32:08 But the biggest thing is an ego check.

32:10 'Cause I remember listening to some of those dangerous guys

32:13 that I mentioned earlier in jujitsu.

32:15 And then they'll be like,

32:16 Oh man, I went and ran with my buddy

32:18 who was like a Mylar in high school.

32:20 Guy that runs 5Ks and he's always in like

32:22 the top three finishers or something like that.

32:24 Oh boy, was that an ego check?

32:27 Guys, you need that.

32:28 And maybe you have that guy that's more of like

32:30 the powerlifting guy,

32:31 but then he went and worked out with a guy

32:33 that's more of like a maximum reps type guy.

32:37 Or maybe you're the powerlifting guy

32:39 and you haven't focused on your flexibility.

32:40 You haven't touched your toes since you were two years old.

32:43 And then you go work out with somebody

32:44 that's doing more calisthenic based things.

32:46 Things that require you to be able to stretch and move

32:49 and put your body in awkward positions.

32:51 Look for those opportunities guys.

32:53 If you want to get better in 2024,

32:54 that's a way to do it.

32:55 Number six way to avoid being a crappy man in 2024.

32:59 Do incredibly difficult physical things

33:01 that constantly check your ego and your limits.

33:04 All right guys, the number seven way

33:05 to avoid being a crappy man in 2024,

33:08 get involved in a local church.

33:10 Now for some of you might be like,

33:12 I'm just gonna kind of skip one, I get it.

33:13 But let me pause you for a second.

33:15 So we've gotten a lot of new listeners to the show.

33:17 So that came a lot on the heels of the Mike Glover interview

33:20 that I did in late November, early December.

33:23 And the questions I'm getting are the same questions

33:26 over and over.

33:27 Some of those that we're going to address soon.

33:30 Guys, we have something that we're gonna start

33:31 and release here in the first quarter of 2023,

33:34 our first quarter of 2024 rather,

33:36 that it should absolutely change the way that we've entered

33:39 into the fight to push back darkness.

33:40 So I'll give you more announcements on that when we have them,

33:42 but just be patient with us.

33:44 But a lot of guys are like,

33:45 hey, I live in Lexington, Kentucky.

33:47 Is there a church in my area I should go to?

33:50 Hey, I live in Yukon, Oklahoma.

33:51 Is there a church that I should go to?

33:53 Hey, I live in, you know, wherever'sville, Texas.

33:56 Is there a church that I can go to?

33:59 And what I've told guys is like, look,

34:01 you're looking for me to give you the cheat code

34:04 to the church in your area that I think would be good for you.

34:07 I can't even answer that question from my city

34:09 because I go to one church and I attended one other one

34:13 before that and I, you know, visited a few others.

34:16 So I have generalized opinions,

34:17 but those opinions are 10 years old.

34:19 And so someone in my city,

34:21 I can't give them a direct line to here's where you should be

34:24 going and here's the places that you should avoid.

34:26 So why would you think I could do that in your city?

34:29 What you should do is go to a local congregation

34:32 and look for a few things.

34:34 I'll try to remember

34:34 because I've given this advice a lot lately.

34:36 Number one, are the men there?

34:39 Are there manly men present?

34:43 Are they volunteering?

34:46 Are they singing?

34:48 Are they serving?

34:49 Or are they leading their families?

34:51 Or do you see a bunch of women with their kids

34:53 and the fathers know where to be found?

34:55 Or are you in a congregation where it's just a bunch

34:58 of old guys that have just been there their entire lives

35:00 so they're just going to keep going?

35:02 Because if the men aren't there and aren't involved,

35:05 that's probably not a healthy church.

35:07 Number two, is the word being exposited and exegeted?

35:12 So are they going verse by verse through the Bible,

35:15 through certain books of the Bible

35:17 and exegeting the scripture,

35:18 which means basically displaying exactly what the text means?

35:22 Or are they doing a TED talk and isegeting?

35:25 So a TED talk is basically,

35:26 okay, I'm gonna come up with the top four ways

35:28 to be a better servant this year

35:32 and then I'm gonna sprinkle some Bible verses

35:34 over the top of it on the back end, right?

35:37 And isegeting is what I wish the text would say, right?

35:40 I'm gonna make it fit for this point that I'm trying to make

35:43 so I seem cool and get more Instagram followers, right?

35:46 Because if that's what you're getting,

35:48 what I just described, don't go there.

35:50 That's spiritual milk, you need meat, okay?

35:55 So that's another thing to kind of look at

35:57 and some other things to look at is can I serve here?

36:02 Because we all look at this as consumers,

36:05 what can the church do for me?

36:06 Oh, I left that church

36:07 'cause they weren't really serving my needs.

36:09 Well, if you go back to the first century church

36:11 and they actually see a model,

36:12 you know who was asking that question?

36:14 Nobody.

36:15 They were asking how they could serve.

36:17 How their skillset, how their callings,

36:20 how their gifting could serve the local body of believers.

36:23 So if you go to a church that has 20,000 people that attend

36:28 or 200 people that attend or 50 people that attend,

36:32 can you serve there?

36:33 Is there something that that church needs

36:37 that's a gap that you can fill?

36:38 Again, don't go into the church shopping process

36:43 like what church is going to meet my best needs?

36:46 What music is more aligned with my taste?

36:50 What type of preaching, like, you know,

36:52 is the coffee warm when I get there?

36:54 Do they have snacks?

36:55 Don't go into it that way 'cause that's selfish.

36:58 Go into it thinking, can I serve here?

37:00 So guys, the number seven way

37:01 to avoid being a crappy man in 2024,

37:03 get involved in a local church.

37:05 All right guys, the number eight way

37:07 to avoid being a crappy man in 2024,

37:09 study the Bible with other men.

37:11 So this is one that was just like last year,

37:13 I said this last year on 2023,

37:15 obviously that spring boarded us into the release

37:17 of the forging table, which those of you

37:19 that are not aware, the forging tables where once a week,

37:22 I record, I sit down and recorded with three other laymen,

37:25 so non-passors, non-professional Christians,

37:27 and we just go an hour at a time,

37:29 a chapter at a time through books of the Bible.

37:32 And the thing is, is I've gotten a tremendous amount of value

37:35 out of that, just preparing to do that.

37:38 But also the guys that are part of the forging table

37:40 for the rotation of guys that we have,

37:42 they've gotten a tremendous amount of value as well,

37:44 'cause they're learning on their own,

37:46 the Holy Spirit is revealing things to them,

37:48 but they're also learning things with other guys.

37:50 And so this is a tremendously big asset.

37:53 And what we try to do with Undaunted Life

37:54 is make it easier for you to do that.

37:57 So with Crossway, we have that thing that I talk about

38:00 in basically every episode of the forging table,

38:02 there's this forging table starter set, so it's five books

38:05 that kind of help you dig into the Bible,

38:06 so there's a men's study Bible, there's a journal,

38:08 there's a few other books there,

38:10 that can kind of help you,

38:11 but this is where I wanna announce a new partnership,

38:13 and that's with Logos Bible Software.

38:15 And so I'll just flow in this very shortly.

38:18 There's not a more powerful Bible software on the planet

38:21 than Logos.

38:23 And so there's a link that will be here in the show notes,

38:25 it's just Logos.com/Undaunted Life,

38:28 that's L-O-G-O-S.com/Undaunted Life.

38:32 If you use that link,

38:33 you're gonna get five free digital books

38:35 with your Logos subscription.

38:36 There's different subscription tiers and all that,

38:38 I'll let you figure that out on your own.

38:39 I'm not gonna belittle your intelligence, you can read.

38:43 But basically, this is a software

38:45 that you can dig as far into the scriptures you wanna go.

38:48 So if you wanna be a full-on theologian,

38:51 academician, and really dig into the Greek and the Hebrew,

38:54 and how it relates to this and that,

38:55 and whatever, and verb tenses and everything, you can do that.

38:59 Or if you just wanna know, man,

39:01 I can't remember who wrote the Colossians,

39:03 I need to figure that out.

39:05 Every single thing that you could possibly ever want,

39:08 just about every question that you've ever had

39:10 about the Bible, a particular chapter,

39:12 a particular verse, a particular word,

39:14 can be discovered within that Bible software.

39:17 Now, I'm a novice user of that

39:19 because I just started using it.

39:20 But they reached out to us, we're like,

39:22 hey, looks like you're trying to level guys up

39:23 with the scripture, and I met with them,

39:25 and we kinda figured out, okay,

39:26 here are some things that you can do

39:28 with that particular software.

39:29 So if you're creating your own group of men

39:33 to study the Bible with together, gosh, this is an asset.

39:37 Especially if you're leading the group.

39:39 Because if you're leading the group,

39:40 that doesn't mean you need to kinda be this guy

39:43 that can answer every single question.

39:45 But I've yet to find a pathway in Logos

39:49 that didn't lead to me getting my question answered.

39:52 And within the Logos software, you have a commentary.

39:54 So maybe you're a John MacArthur guy,

39:56 well, all of his commentaries are there.

39:58 Maybe you have this particular translation in the Bible.

40:00 If you wanna see what Spurgeon said

40:01 about this particular passage,

40:03 all that stuff is in there.

40:05 You've got genealogies, you've got maps,

40:07 you've got word studies,

40:10 you've got different translations, different languages.

40:12 It's all in there.

40:13 So guys, at least check it out.

40:15 If you sign up and feel like it's for you, great.

40:17 Two thumbs up.

40:18 But that is gonna be in the show notes again.

40:20 The link is logos.com/endauntedlife

40:23 but guys, the number eight way

40:25 to avoid being a crappy man in 2024,

40:27 study the Bible with other men.

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40:59 - All right, the number nine way to avoid being a crappy man

41:02 in 2024, and gosh, I've been waiting for this one.

41:04 I've kind of teed it up and talked about it a little bit,

41:06 but here it is.

41:07 Stop giving money to people that hate you and your values.

41:12 So this is a new one for this year,

41:15 but stop giving money to people that hate you and your values.

41:19 Here's the thing that I don't understand about conservatives.

41:22 Conservatives love to point at things

41:24 inside the culture war.

41:25 They like to share memes.

41:27 They like to share outrageous stories.

41:30 There's a few people in the conservative space

41:32 that their only thing that they contribute

41:34 to the conservative space is I'm angry about this

41:37 and you should be angry too.

41:38 Can you believe that this is happening?

41:40 Oh gosh, we should do something about this.

41:42 They're very good on describing something,

41:45 but they're not good at prescribing anything.

41:48 They're very good at opposing something,

41:51 but they don't propose anything.

41:53 But I want to give some specific examples.

41:56 Bud Light, Disney, Nike, Target, Starbucks,

42:01 like there's all these different brands.

42:05 So let's go with them in order.

42:07 So Bud Light already talked about

42:09 on the year and wrap up episode.

42:11 Conservatives won, they almost destroyed that brand

42:13 and now they're coming back to Bud Light.

42:15 Oh, Bud Lights haven't had enough.

42:17 Bud Light didn't apologize.

42:18 And Heiser Bush didn't say,

42:19 "Yeah, we should have never gone against our target audience

42:24 "by getting into bed literally

42:26 "with Dylan Mulvaney or in the tub, I guess you could say."

42:29 And then we're just like, "Yeah."

42:30 But I kind of like Bud Light, it's convenient.

42:31 It's at 7/11, so I'll just buy it.

42:34 Disney is one of the most egregious ones

42:37 because Disney has signaled that they are actively

42:40 putting LGBTQ+ content into kids' content

42:45 and they're targeting your children,

42:47 they're grooming them to get them more used

42:49 to LGBTQ lifestyles.

42:52 And you weirdos are going to Disneyland

42:57 and going to Disney World

42:58 and you have Disney+ subscriptions.

43:00 What are you doing?

43:03 I don't understand it.

43:05 There are men with beards wearing dresses

43:08 and you are paying, I don't know, 500 bucks

43:10 for the opportunity to have your daughter

43:13 go into this princess factory and interact with a dude.

43:18 And auto gotta feel it, dude.

43:20 That is turned on sexually by the sight of himself

43:23 dressed up in women's clothing.

43:25 And you see no issue with it.

43:28 You're dropping 5'10 grand on a Disney trip.

43:30 I don't get it.

43:32 Target is selling LGBTQ+ content and satanic stuff

43:38 made by satanic people in their kids' section.

43:42 Ah, but you really like some of their brands

43:44 and their clothes are cooler than Walmart's

43:46 so you keep shopping at Target.

43:48 Starbucks gives an unbelievable amount of money

43:50 to a bunch of left-wing causes including Planned Parenthood.

43:53 So when you buy that latte,

43:56 you, a portion of that is going to kill babies.

43:59 And you keep going because it's convenient.

44:02 So my way to work.

44:03 Ah, this isn't really the hill to die on.

44:06 So if that's where you're at, I have to ask you,

44:09 what hill is worth dying on?

44:10 What line are you going to draw?

44:14 Netflix is another one.

44:14 I've talked about this before.

44:16 So they've got the Coco Mellon offshoot show

44:18 where you have the two gay fathers

44:20 that are sitting there singing and dancing

44:22 with their, you know, child, their son

44:24 who's dressed up like a girl.

44:26 And they're talking about how this is a great thing.

44:29 How about the cuties movie

44:31 where it's a bunch of pre-teen girls

44:34 that are dancing and suggestive and sexual ways

44:36 for the pleasure of pedophilic men.

44:38 You still give your money to Netflix.

44:42 Why?

44:43 Well, 'cause they have shows that I like to watch.

44:46 Again, for some of you,

44:47 this isn't the ultimate hill to die on,

44:49 but this is very serious and important.

44:51 The only way that you can send messages

44:53 to these big brands that says stop doing these things

44:58 that are counter to what I want my values

45:01 and my family to be,

45:02 the only way to communicate to that to them

45:04 is to stop giving them your money.

45:06 Because I don't believe you when you say

45:09 that you're outraged about something that these brands do

45:12 and then you hand them your money.

45:15 It's the easiest thing to turn off.

45:17 We can't pretend like there aren't other brands out there.

45:20 So if you like Bud Light, switch to Miller Light.

45:23 If you like Disney, switch to Ben Key,

45:25 the Daily Wire Kids app.

45:27 If you like Nike, switch to Under Armour.

45:29 If you like Target, switch to Walmart

45:30 or basically any other store in your area.

45:33 If you like Starbucks, go to Black Rifle Coffee.

45:36 And now here's the deal.

45:37 If you start looking at all the brands

45:39 that you spend money on in a month

45:41 and you're trying to piece together,

45:42 what does the board of directors think

45:44 and where do they give their money and all that?

45:46 You will run yourself into the ground.

45:48 So I'm not suggesting that you do that.

45:50 'Cause you might get to the point where you're like,

45:51 I can't support any brand

45:53 and you might end up in that place.

45:56 But these huge brands that are targeting you

45:59 and your children, that are trying to destroy morality

46:03 in and of itself, that are doing things

46:05 that lead to the death of children.

46:08 'Cause of the money they give to Planned Parenthood

46:10 and other organizations like it.

46:12 Well, those are the ones that are screaming in your face.

46:14 This isn't some random pin company

46:17 that you're finding out that, what does this pin?

46:19 This pin tell.

46:20 I don't know if pin tell supports any of these things.

46:22 I should probably check it out

46:23 'cause I use these pins all day every day.

46:25 But I know for sure that Netflix and Disney and Bud Light

46:28 and Nike and Target and Starbucks and all these companies,

46:30 I know what they're about.

46:32 So how easy is it for me to turn off that spigot?

46:34 It's pretty easy.

46:36 So again, it's all you people out there

46:37 that are just like brain dead going through your world.

46:41 Really think about that.

46:42 And also, if you normally shop at Target

46:45 and you stop doing that and your kids are like,

46:46 "Hey, why aren't we going to Target?"

46:48 Doesn't that set you up for a great conversation

46:50 about morality and what your family's gonna stand up for?

46:53 'Cause if my kid says, "Dad, I wanna go to Disney World.

46:55 "Why can't we go to Disney World?

46:57 "I'm gonna have a conversation and explain to 'em."

46:58 Look, son, Thompson's don't support companies

47:00 that are for these things.

47:02 That's a great teaching lesson.

47:05 And if your spouse doesn't really understand

47:08 why you're so adamant about these things,

47:10 that's a great time to lead your spouse.

47:13 And say, "Look, honey, I know you've gone to Starbucks

47:15 "for a long time and I know that's where you like to do

47:17 "a lot of your meetings and Bob on all these types of things."

47:19 But there are 47 other coffee shops in this city

47:22 and I think we should support those.

47:24 And this is why Starbucks gives X amount of dollars

47:26 to Planned Parenthood every year

47:28 and I don't really like the fact that they murder babies.

47:30 That's like their main thing

47:31 that they bring to the marketplace.

47:33 So guys, this is probably the one that I'm most adamant about

47:36 for this year, but you've really got to get after it

47:39 on this one.

47:39 The number nine way to avoid being a crappy man in 2024,

47:43 stop giving money to people that hate you and your values.

47:46 All right, guys, number 10.

47:48 And this is one that I put out every single year.

47:50 The number 10 way to avoid being a crappy man in 2024.

47:54 No porn, no jerking off.

47:56 Yep, for some of you, that's a shock.

47:58 For those of you that have been with the show

47:59 for a long time, that's not gonna be a shock to you.

48:01 The thing that I realize about my audience

48:03 that it's 90% male or so

48:06 is that a lot of you struggle with pornography.

48:08 Some of you don't think it's that big a deal.

48:11 I would say that's the minority of you guys,

48:13 but a lot of you guys know you shouldn't be doing it.

48:15 And the reason why I know that you know

48:17 that you shouldn't be doing it

48:18 is 'cause you don't do it in public.

48:20 You're not sitting there in a business meeting

48:21 unless you're, you know, tubing from CNN.

48:23 You're not in a business meeting,

48:25 pulling out, you know, porn on your phone

48:27 and masturbating to it.

48:29 This is a private thing for basically all of you

48:31 that aren't, you know, public voyeurs.

48:33 And so you're watching porn.

48:37 You're getting your sexual scripts from porn.

48:40 You're trying to carry some of the things

48:41 that you've seen in porn into the bedroom

48:43 with your spouse or with your girlfriend

48:45 or with any of those types of people.

48:48 And you're thinking to yourself,

48:49 ah, this isn't having any effects.

48:51 I can tell you, without a doubt,

48:53 there's a book that's on our book list,

48:54 How Pronography Harms, written by John Fobert,

48:57 that's a book that tells you what you're doing to your brain.

49:00 Is it any shock to you that you don't get off

49:03 on in the same way to those pictures

49:05 that you did when you were a teenager?

49:07 Maybe you grew up looking at playboys

49:09 or, you know, pictures on the internet

49:10 or something like that.

49:11 But now you're watching hardcore porn.

49:14 You're watching women getting an early raped

49:16 and you're masturbating to that.

49:18 Some of you have gone all the way to like

49:21 snuff porn or murder porn.

49:23 Yes, there is porn out there.

49:24 I have not seen it, but I know people that have

49:27 where you're watching somebody that is

49:28 in the process of being raped

49:30 and then they're murdered while being raped.

49:34 And you're watching that with an erection

49:37 and you're masturbating.

49:38 Help me understand how this is a valuable thing for you to do.

49:42 'Cause this is the thing that I know.

49:44 To those of you that are not married yet,

49:46 I've heard this over and over and it never works out.

49:48 They think, oh, when I get married,

49:50 I'll be having so much sex.

49:51 Some of you are already laughing.

49:53 But when I get married, I'll be having so much sex.

49:55 I won't even need porn.

49:56 I'll just have my wife.

49:57 Let me just break the news to you guys.

50:00 You're not gonna end up having a whole lot of sex

50:02 with your wife all the time.

50:03 This is not gonna happen.

50:05 There's a lot of things that are involved in that,

50:07 but you're not going to be having sex

50:09 as often as you were jerking off.

50:11 'Cause most of you guys were doing that every single day,

50:13 sometimes multiple times a day.

50:15 Now, if you're blessed to have a wife like that, good for you,

50:17 but for the most part,

50:18 you're not gonna have somebody espouse that's like that.

50:21 I know people that have been caught looking at porn

50:23 and jerking off when they're wedding night.

50:25 I know people that are so tied into pornography

50:28 that they can't even get an erection unless they're watching it.

50:31 I've heard about these incredibly depraved situations

50:34 where wives, trying to serve their husband,

50:39 are holding the phone above their head with porn on it

50:43 so that their husband can maintain an erection

50:46 while they're having sex.

50:47 Because they've rewired the pleasure centers of their brain

50:52 to where they can't get an erection or keep an erection

50:55 with an actual, real, warm-bodied woman.

50:58 They need it the digital way.

51:01 They don't think that's an issue.

51:03 And so if you're looking for a big blinking neon sign

51:05 that says, "This is a year that we're gonna get this

51:07 "under control, this is it."

51:09 And here's the other thing I'll tell you,

51:10 'cause I've had people ask me before, they're like,

51:12 "Kah, I've got a pornography problem.

51:14 "How can I stop doing it?"

51:15 And I'm like, "Well, stop doing it."

51:18 And they're like, "What do you mean?"

51:23 I'm like, "Well, you wanna stop doing a particular thing.

51:26 "Stop doing it."

51:27 Because I don't believe that most people

51:29 that say they're addicted to pornography,

51:31 I don't think that that's actually real.

51:33 'Cause if you're addicted,

51:34 you're literally compelled in a way that you cannot stop.

51:38 So you have, you have no power.

51:41 Like your body is just operating, right?

51:43 You're picking up your phone,

51:44 you're going to whatever site that you go to,

51:46 you're clicking on links,

51:47 and you're going to the next one,

51:48 the next one, the next one,

51:49 and the next one until you find the one

51:50 that you actually wanna climax to,

51:52 and then you do it, you set your phone down,

51:53 and you clean up, and you move on with your day.

51:55 And you just rinse and repeat that, no pun intended.

51:57 Multiple times a day, multiple times a week

51:59 for how often you do that.

52:00 Are you compelled to do those things,

52:03 or do you choose to do them?

52:05 Because my argument would be,

52:06 is I think that you are choosing to pick up your phone,

52:10 choosing to take your finger,

52:12 choosing to click on certain links,

52:14 choosing to plug in search terms,

52:17 choosing to scroll,

52:18 choosing to click on images or videos,

52:20 and choosing to continue doing that

52:23 while you've got your pants around your ankles.

52:25 I think all those things are choices.

52:27 And so, if you're choosing to do those things,

52:30 is it not possible or logical to assume

52:33 that you could choose to not do those things?

52:35 Pretty sure you can choose to not do them,

52:38 and here's the other thing.

52:40 If you stop looking at,

52:42 or here, I'll put it this way.

52:43 If you stop looking at porn,

52:45 you have no need to jerk off to porn.

52:47 This might seem like a little crass for some people,

52:51 but I'm assuming there's not anyone out there

52:53 that watches porn for the acting quality that's happening.

52:57 For the cinematography, for the editing, for the music.

53:01 People are watching pornography

53:04 so that they have a masturbatory aid.

53:07 They're watching porn to get an erection

53:09 so that they can masturbate and then climax.

53:12 That's why they're doing it.

53:14 So if you're not watching porn,

53:16 you're not gonna be jerking off to porn, right?

53:20 People try to over-complicate this,

53:22 and I know there's different programs,

53:24 and different books that people say,

53:25 "Oh, this is how we get past it."

53:26 You know how you get past it, you just stop doing it.

53:28 Now, it's different for chemical addictions,

53:30 like alcohol for some people.

53:33 There's just a propensity.

53:34 There is a portion of the population

53:36 that has tremendous amounts of difficulty,

53:39 not going back to nicotine,

53:40 not going back to alcohol,

53:42 not going back to heroin or something like that.

53:44 That's not this.

53:45 This is just behavioral modification.

53:47 Just stop doing it.

53:48 You know, I remember back in the day,

53:51 someone asked Jocko Willink,

53:52 "How can I get better at doing pull-ups?"

53:53 His response is, "Do pull-ups."

53:55 Right, you're not gonna get better at doing pull-ups

53:57 by reading books about pull-ups,

53:59 by going to support groups that talk about doing pull-ups,

54:02 by going to a pull-up coach in learning form,

54:05 eventually you have to grab the bar,

54:06 hang from it, and then try to pull your chin above it,

54:09 and do the things it takes

54:10 to make sure that you can do that more often

54:13 and better and more efficiently.

54:15 And one more quick thing before we leave this,

54:18 the thing that you all need to realize

54:20 is a lot of the people that you are watching

54:23 and getting off to and masturbating thinking about,

54:26 a lot of these people,

54:28 especially the women, are being trafficked.

54:30 So go back to last year, early last year,

54:32 at an interview with Brittany Della Moore,

54:33 she was a porn star for six or seven years,

54:35 and then she got out of that life,

54:37 became a Christian now, she's a Christian speaker,

54:39 same thing with Joshua Broome with last year.

54:41 But a lot of these women, just off camera,

54:43 when they're faking, like they're enjoying,

54:45 being penetrated so violently,

54:47 so repeatedly over hours and hours every single day,

54:50 week on end, month on end, quarter on end,

54:52 year on end, is their pimp.

54:55 Now, he may call himself their manager,

54:58 that's how he would introduce himself,

55:00 but he's their pimp.

55:01 He's the one that's getting them the gigs,

55:03 otherwise finding them the Johns,

55:05 which is basically the way that you could think of it

55:07 that way as well, but they don't get a choice.

55:09 These women don't get a choice

55:11 as to whether or not they're going to be there.

55:13 They also don't get a choice

55:14 as to whether or not they participate

55:16 in whatever the director or producer

55:19 or whoever's in charge tells them to do.

55:23 So you've heard in Brittany told a lot of these stories

55:25 where they would sign a contract saying

55:26 they were going to be doing certain positions

55:28 with certain people at certain times

55:29 and all those things and then they show up

55:32 and it's, they didn't sign up for anal

55:35 and here they are, it's an anal video.

55:37 They didn't sign up for a gang bang

55:39 and here they thought one guy was going to be there

55:41 and there's 10 and guess what?

55:44 They don't get to opt out.

55:46 It's not just about, oh, if you don't do this,

55:48 you're not going to get paid.

55:49 Again, they're their manager, quote unquote,

55:52 which is to say their pimp is like you'll do this

55:54 or you'll suffer the consequences.

55:56 Brittany De LaMora had a minimum amount of money

55:58 that she had to bring to her pimp every single day.

56:01 I forget what the exact amount was.

56:03 I think it was like two grand a day is what she had to make.

56:05 Well, she wasn't scheduled to do a scene.

56:07 You know what she would do?

56:09 She would go on a back page,

56:10 which was like the, you know, the dark Craigslist

56:12 back in the day and she would go, you know,

56:14 give hand jobs and blow jobs

56:15 and have sex with random strangers

56:16 until she made her minimum.

56:18 And if she went above 2000,

56:19 there wasn't a rollover to the next day.

56:22 And so think about that.

56:23 If you want a good opportunity

56:25 to find a way to make your boner run away,

56:27 think about the fact that that is someone

56:30 who doesn't want to be there.

56:32 They're basically chained there.

56:34 They have to be there.

56:35 And for you fathers with daughters,

56:38 think about your daughter in this situation.

56:40 I know that's going to be a little bit macabre

56:43 and a little rough for some of you,

56:44 but that's someone's daughter that you're watching,

56:47 potentially being raped against their will

56:50 and you're using it for your sexual gratification.

56:53 That's someone's daughter.

56:55 What if it was yours?

56:57 Would you want a bunch of nameless, faceless loser men

57:01 dropping their pants to their ankles

57:03 and pleasuring themselves to somebody raping your daughter?

57:06 Seriously, think about that.

57:10 So in 2024, if you're looking for a way

57:14 to level up and avoid being a crappy man,

57:16 no porn, no jerking off.

57:18 All right, the number 11 way

57:19 to avoid being a crappy man in 2024,

57:21 be known for what you are for

57:23 and for what you are against.

57:25 So this is a new one for 2024.

57:27 I think this may have been one from last year.

57:28 I can't exactly remember.

57:30 But there are a lot of people now that are third-wears.

57:33 These are people that are like,

57:34 look, as a Christian, as a loving person,

57:37 as someone who cares about humanity,

57:40 don't just be known for what you're against,

57:42 be known for what you're for.

57:44 And these morons think that that's something unique.

57:48 They think that that's an incendiary idea.

57:50 But you know what that is?

57:52 That's a slogan.

57:54 That's a bumper sticker.

57:55 That's a T-shirt because, and I've said this a lot,

57:59 but let me break it down for you guys.

58:01 If you communicate that you're for something,

58:03 you are automatically communicating

58:05 that you are against other things.

58:07 So let's take it to a sports analogy.

58:09 So I'll just pick a baseball team.

58:11 If you are for the Los Angeles Dodgers,

58:15 that's your team, you are communicating

58:18 that you are against the San Francisco Giants.

58:21 If you are for the St. Louis Cardinals,

58:23 you are against the Chicago Cubs.

58:25 If you are for the Boston Red Sox,

58:27 you are against the New York Yankees.

58:30 I think I caught most of you with those analogies.

58:33 When you communicate that you're for something,

58:35 you are automatically communicating

58:36 that you are against other things.

58:39 And Christians and conservatives,

58:41 I'll just lump you into one big category.

58:44 You get wrapped around the axle about trying to be nice.

58:47 Oh, I just wanna be nice.

58:49 And I don't really want people to think

58:51 that I'm mean or judgmental.

58:52 And so I'm just gonna talk about the things

58:53 that I'm for, not the things that I'm against.

58:55 Or if you're a preacher and you're like,

58:56 oh, I'm just gonna get into the culture war

58:59 and really dig into these divisive ideas,

59:01 I'm just gonna be about the gospel.

59:03 As if the gospel doesn't speak

59:05 into those areas of darkness.

59:08 Because what would the gospel say?

59:09 The good news of the gospel say about the fact

59:12 that millions and millions and millions of babies

59:14 are murdered in the womb every single year around the globe.

59:18 Does the gospel have an answer for that?

59:20 You're damn right, it does.

59:21 Can the gospel speak into the identity issue

59:25 that a lot of kids are going through right now

59:28 because it's been foisted upon them

59:29 by their public school teachers

59:31 or by their TikTok videos

59:32 or by all their different people

59:33 that they follow on YouTube,

59:35 saying that, hey, you're not just kind of weird

59:36 and socially awkward.

59:37 What you are is the opposite gender or the opposite sex.

59:41 Does the gospel have a message for that type of situation?

59:44 You're damn right, it does.

59:46 And so these people that are walking around

59:49 with this vapid ideology that if I just somehow

59:52 never ruffle any feathers

59:54 or never talk about these divisive issues

59:57 that things are just going to magically work out

59:59 that's not real.

1:00:00 That's why we are equipping them to push back darkness

1:00:04 'cause guess what, darkness does not push itself back.

1:00:07 Darkness doesn't choose to stop.

1:00:09 Darkness has to be stopped

1:00:12 and you have to be trained and equipped

1:00:13 to be able to do that

1:00:15 or just like I talked about with making yourself a weapon

1:00:17 from the very beginning of this episode,

1:00:19 you will fall to the level of your preparedness and training.

1:00:22 So in 2024, be known for what you are for

1:00:26 and for what you are against.

1:00:29 All right, the number 12 way to avoid being a crappy man

1:00:31 in 2024, don't pretend you know something that you don't.

1:00:35 So this is a repeat from last year.

1:00:37 This is basically relish the opportunity

1:00:39 to look like an idiot.

1:00:41 This is a big one for guys

1:00:43 because we love to pretend we know things that we don't know.

1:00:46 So maybe you're with a bunch of gear heads,

1:00:48 guys that turn wrenches for a living

1:00:50 and you're pretending like you know something

1:00:52 about how an engine works.

1:00:54 Maybe you're with a bunch of handymen,

1:00:56 carpenters or plumbers or things like that,

1:00:58 guys that know how to fix things

1:01:00 and you're pretending you know what a tool does

1:01:02 when you don't know what it does.

1:01:03 You're around a bunch of guys that are a fan of a particular

1:01:05 sport and they're using the language of that sport.

1:01:08 This is especially funny when people are watching MMA

1:01:11 and you're pretending like you know those things

1:01:13 when you don't.

1:01:14 And guys just don't do that.

1:01:17 The number of times I get excited when someone's like,

1:01:20 "Hey, do you know how this works?"

1:01:21 And I'm like, "No, I don't.

1:01:23 "Do you know how it works?"

1:01:24 Well, yeah, I know how it works.

1:01:25 Can you show me?

1:01:26 Can you show me how that works?

1:01:29 Hey, you know in Jiu Jitsu, it's like,

1:01:30 "Hey, someone will be like,

1:01:32 "Hey, do you know this position?"

1:01:33 And I'm like, "No, I don't know that position.

1:01:34 "Can you show it to me?"

1:01:36 When I was out with Greg Lappen in Utah

1:01:38 at Field Craft Survival, he goes,

1:01:40 "Hey, do you know, do you work Coyote Guard very often?"

1:01:43 And what if I was like,

1:01:44 "Oh yeah, you know, I work Coyote Guard from time to time?"

1:01:47 That wasn't the truth.

1:01:49 But what I said in that moment was I go,

1:01:51 "No, I'm never even gonna hurt a Coyote Guard.

1:01:53 "Can you show me Coyote Guard real quick?"

1:01:56 And you know how excited that made Greg?

1:01:58 Because he got to take something that he knows

1:02:00 that he's an expert at

1:02:03 and pass on that knowledge to somebody else.

1:02:06 So think of a situation.

1:02:08 Maybe it's building something or fixing something

1:02:11 or developing something or increasing something

1:02:13 or decreasing something or these types of things,

1:02:16 maybe it's money, maybe it's business,

1:02:18 maybe it's personal growth, maybe it's relationships,

1:02:20 maybe it's your family, maybe it's how you talk to your wife.

1:02:23 There are people in your life that know

1:02:26 how to do these things and you don't.

1:02:29 So stop pretending like you've got it all figured out.

1:02:32 'Cause I know most of you drive your nice new car,

1:02:35 you drive it into your nice neighborhood

1:02:36 with all the manicured lawns,

1:02:38 and you pull up into your driveway

1:02:39 and then you get out and you're thinking to yourself,

1:02:41 like, "Oh man, I know I don't have it going on,

1:02:44 "but I need to make sure nobody else realizes that."

1:02:47 Why?

1:02:49 Relish in the opportunity to look like an idiot.

1:02:53 Find that area that you just suck at.

1:02:56 Find that person that can lead you down that pathway

1:02:59 towards not sucking in those areas.

1:03:01 That's another thing that I'm gonna be announcing

1:03:03 hopefully here soon is providing a pathway

1:03:05 for a small number of men to be able to go down the road

1:03:09 of spiritual, mental, and physical resilience

1:03:11 better and more efficiently to level up

1:03:14 and allow these different areas.

1:03:16 But if you don't humble yourself to bring yourself

1:03:19 to the table and think, "I don't know how to do these things,

1:03:22 "I'm gonna humble myself and allow a guide to lead me,"

1:03:25 then how are you gonna level up?

1:03:29 You know, one thing that I've always,

1:03:31 I was so mad, I didn't grow up fixing things, right?

1:03:34 Because I was always doing sports in school.

1:03:35 That was it, that's all I did.

1:03:37 Sports in school and then church

1:03:38 whenever I started going in middle school.

1:03:40 And so I missed out on building things

1:03:43 and fixing things and these things that a lot of guys know.

1:03:45 Here's the thing my dad knew a lot of these things,

1:03:47 but he didn't show me 'cause we didn't have the opportunity.

1:03:50 It just never came up.

1:03:52 And so I get frustrated in my twenties and thirties

1:03:54 and all that, like, "I don't know how to do all these things."

1:03:56 Well, it's like, my wife one day was like,

1:03:57 "Well, why would you expect to know how to do these things?

1:03:59 "You've never done them."

1:04:02 If you've never thrown a spiral with a football,

1:04:04 do you know the number of men that have been able to pick up

1:04:06 that oblong, weird, shaped ball

1:04:08 and just lace it 40 yards in a perfect spiral, tight spiral?

1:04:13 No, that's the skill that has to be developed.

1:04:16 And a lot of those guys, they worked at it

1:04:18 or they had a guide show them.

1:04:21 And so guys, you're doing yourself a tremendous disservice

1:04:24 by pretending like you've got all these boxes checked,

1:04:26 but you don't, and that's okay.

1:04:27 So the number 12 way to avoid being a crappy man in 2024,

1:04:30 don't pretend that you know something,

1:04:32 that you don't relish the opportunity to look like an idiot.

1:04:36 All right, the number 13 way to avoid being a crappy man

1:04:39 in 2024, this is a new one for this year,

1:04:41 be extra nice to support staff and service providers.

1:04:45 This is a big one for me

1:04:47 because I'm naturally very nice to people just in general,

1:04:51 right?

1:04:52 I'm not gonna overwhelm you with my niceness,

1:04:54 but I'm very polite, yes, ma'am, no ma'am, yes, sir, no, sir.

1:04:57 Could you please do this for me?

1:04:58 Oh, thank you so much.

1:04:59 Like those types of things,

1:05:00 that was ingrained in me from a very early age.

1:05:02 I would literally get in trouble if I didn't hold the door

1:05:05 for somebody as I was walking through it,

1:05:07 or if I didn't say thank you like, you know,

1:05:08 any parent worth their salt is gonna teach your kids

1:05:11 to do those things.

1:05:12 But I see that go out the window with people

1:05:14 when it comes to support staff and service providers.

1:05:18 I've watched men that I love and respect

1:05:21 speak to their secretary in a very, very rude way

1:05:24 when they're just asking a question.

1:05:27 I've seen people be very, very curt

1:05:30 to the point of being offensive to people

1:05:32 that were there to help them.

1:05:34 I've seen people be nice to everyone in their life,

1:05:37 everyone in their prayer group, everyone at their gym,

1:05:39 everyone at their whatever,

1:05:40 until they get to the restaurant

1:05:41 and they treat the person serving them their food

1:05:43 like they're an insect.

1:05:44 And I just don't understand that at all.

1:05:48 I've talked about before and I've lamented the fact

1:05:50 that if you go to any place where there's a service provider

1:05:52 these people basically don't wanna give you the time of day.

1:05:55 These people aren't paid well

1:05:56 or maybe they've got a bad upbringing or whatever

1:05:58 and they take their work day out on you

1:06:00 by not being nice to you and not being extra helpful

1:06:02 and not making eye contact and all of that.

1:06:05 But that's a them problem.

1:06:07 You don't get to control how they act.

1:06:08 They get to, you get to control how you act.

1:06:11 And so yesterday, this literally happened yesterday.

1:06:13 I'm at Cudoba and I'm in line and you know,

1:06:17 it's like, hey, you know what you want?

1:06:18 I'm like, okay, burrito.

1:06:19 And then the person back to me like,

1:06:22 'cause I was just expecting to quietly go through

1:06:23 and yeah, I want this on it.

1:06:24 I want this on it and I pay and then I leave, right?

1:06:27 And the gal was so sweet.

1:06:28 She just goes, how are you today, sir?

1:06:31 And I literally look up at her, make eye contact

1:06:35 and I go, I'm having a great day actually.

1:06:37 How are you?

1:06:39 Oh, I'm having a great day.

1:06:41 Did you have a good Christmas?

1:06:43 I'm like, I'm in line at Cudoba.

1:06:45 Like the number of times that an interaction

1:06:47 like this has happened with somebody that works at Cudoba

1:06:49 is basically never, I'm never rude to these people.

1:06:51 But this was an extra nice situation.

1:06:54 And think about if you had an opportunity

1:06:56 to share the gospel with that person.

1:06:58 This is a great key that I think is great for all of you.

1:07:02 When you get your food at a restaurant,

1:07:03 at a sit down restaurant, always ask this question,

1:07:06 'cause they always drop your food

1:07:07 and then they say, is there anything else I can get you?

1:07:09 Right?

1:07:10 It happens 95% of the time.

1:07:12 Say, yes, actually, we're about to bless our meal.

1:07:15 Is there something specifically we can pray for you about?

1:07:18 And then just shut up.

1:07:19 A lot of times you'll get kind of a surprise look

1:07:24 and sometimes you'll get like, no, that's okay.

1:07:26 Thank you for asking though,

1:07:27 or you'll get everything up to like what I've used

1:07:29 as an example.

1:07:30 There was this guy that goes,

1:07:32 dude, I'm two months sober today.

1:07:34 I'm living in a home right now that I can only stay there

1:07:37 if I keep this job and if I stay clean.

1:07:38 And, you know, I still got some bad friends

1:07:41 and I need to kind of get out of my life.

1:07:42 So dude, if you could pray for me about that, that'd be great.

1:07:45 And I say, great, thank you for sharing.

1:07:46 Would you like to stick around for us to pray?

1:07:49 And most of the time they do stick around

1:07:50 and I don't do these big, long, flarity prayers

1:07:52 or typically less than 30 seconds.

1:07:54 But gosh, isn't that a great way to serve

1:07:57 a service provider or a support person?

1:07:59 You're praying for them.

1:08:01 You're giving, maybe giving them hope,

1:08:03 maybe leading to a gospel conversation.

1:08:05 But so many of you, you have so many people in your life

1:08:07 that depend on you.

1:08:08 You try to be extra nice to your wife, your kids,

1:08:12 your business partners, your coworkers, your coaches,

1:08:15 your trainers, and then you forget about everybody else.

1:08:18 It's like you squeeze, you know, every amount of nice out

1:08:22 in a particular situation and you just,

1:08:24 there's nothing left to running out.

1:08:27 But be extra, extra nice to support staff

1:08:29 and service providers.

1:08:31 That's the number 13 way to avoid being a crappy man in 2024.

1:08:34 All right, number 14 way to avoid being crappy man in 2024.

1:08:37 This will be on every list.

1:08:38 It has been up to now and it'll stay there.

1:08:40 It's don't be late.

1:08:42 Good grief, don't be late.

1:08:44 I'm a natural person.

1:08:45 That's an early person, right?

1:08:47 If we had to get to the ball field by four o'clock for a game,

1:08:51 my dad had us there by 3.30, 3.40 to get the latest.

1:08:54 I was always the first kid to practice, first kid to the game.

1:08:56 So I was born doing that, right?

1:09:00 But for those of you people that are constantly late,

1:09:02 well, you're communicating to people

1:09:04 is that your time is more valuable than their time.

1:09:07 So I use a couple of these examples every year,

1:09:09 but it just helps me elucidate the point.

1:09:11 There was this guy, I think it was a guy in Australia,

1:09:13 his buddy was his dentist.

1:09:16 And so every time you would go to the dentist

1:09:17 for a cleaning or a checkup or something like that,

1:09:20 his buddy would allow people to get in front of him, right?

1:09:24 'Cause so if there's a point when it was at one o'clock,

1:09:26 he wasn't getting back there until 1.45, two o'clock.

1:09:29 And so this person is losing out on his day.

1:09:32 And then finally one day he gets so fed up with it

1:09:34 that he goes up to the front and says,

1:09:35 "Hey, look, I'm just gonna please give me my files.

1:09:37 "I'm gonna change dentists like y'all have made me late again.

1:09:40 "I'm not doing that."

1:09:41 And so the dentist hears what's going on

1:09:42 and he comes out there and he's kind of, you know,

1:09:44 going to his friend like, "Hey, what's the problem?"

1:09:45 And he goes, "Dude, this is so rude,

1:09:48 "what you're doing to me.

1:09:50 "You're making me wait 'cause you don't think

1:09:52 "I'm gonna be mad about it, but that is so rude."

1:09:54 There's another guy, very good friend of mine,

1:09:56 a former businessman tour,

1:09:58 that if he had an appointment at 10 o'clock in the morning,

1:10:01 he would not go and get the person until about 10, 15, 10, 20,

1:10:05 'cause he wanted them to wait on him.

1:10:08 It was an ego thing.

1:10:09 He wanted to see more important and less, you know,

1:10:13 accessible by being late.

1:10:16 He was using lateness as a power play, as a tool, as a weapon.

1:10:20 And then there's other situations that I've ran into

1:10:23 where there are people that will actively make themselves late

1:10:26 and then not care about you in the process

1:10:30 and get mad at you if you point it out.

1:10:32 So if you're late to a meeting,

1:10:33 so let's say you're going to, I don't know,

1:10:35 business meeting with your sales team or something like that.

1:10:38 And let's say there's five people that go to this meeting.

1:10:41 The four of them are there,

1:10:43 they're ready for the 11 o'clock meeting

1:10:44 and you stroll in at 11, 10, okay?

1:10:47 You're thinking, I'm 10 minutes late, it's not a big deal.

1:10:51 I needed to get my mocha frappuccino or whatever

1:10:54 and I was in line and hey, no big deal.

1:10:57 Well, your 10 minutes late is not just about the 10 minutes.

1:11:02 It's about everyone in the room times the amount of time

1:11:05 multiplied by the amount of time that you were late.

1:11:07 So four people were waiting on you for 10 minutes.

1:11:10 So you didn't waste 10 minutes of time,

1:11:11 you wasted 40 minutes of time.

1:11:13 And if you have 100 people in the room

1:11:17 and you're the last person and they waited to get going

1:11:19 until you got there and you were 10 minutes late,

1:11:21 it's a thousand minutes that you wasted, a thousand.

1:11:24 And people just do this constantly

1:11:27 and they're refrained as, oh, I'm just a late person.

1:11:30 Hey, everyone in my family was late.

1:11:32 Ah, you know, everybody in my culture were late.

1:11:34 You know, time is just kind of relatable.

1:11:35 We'd live in the West where time is not relative,

1:11:38 time is bound specifically by what time it is.

1:11:41 So if you're supposed to be somewhere by nine

1:11:43 and you're not there by nine, that's a problem.

1:11:46 And here's the other thing.

1:11:47 If you are running late, it happens.

1:11:50 You were on your way out the door,

1:11:51 kid threw up, had to change their clothes,

1:11:54 had to do whatever, but guess what?

1:11:56 If someone's expecting you to be somewhere at 11 o'clock

1:12:00 and you know there's no way in hell

1:12:01 unless teleportation is invented in that moment

1:12:03 that you're gonna be there on time,

1:12:05 you know what you do?

1:12:06 You let them know.

1:12:07 Let these people know before you're late

1:12:09 that you're going to be late.

1:12:11 And so there's these people that they show up late

1:12:14 and then they give their story.

1:12:17 If they care at all, they'll be like, oh, yeah, you know,

1:12:19 kid threw up or blah, blah and all those types of things.

1:12:21 But if I don't know that you're,

1:12:23 if you wait until you're late to notify me,

1:12:26 that you're not telling me anything I didn't know.

1:12:29 I can watch the clock.

1:12:31 I can look down at my wrist and see that you're late.

1:12:33 So when you show up that like you're not giving me

1:12:36 any information that I didn't have.

1:12:38 Same thing with deadlines.

1:12:40 If your deadline is, I'm gonna get this to you

1:12:41 by end of business on Friday.

1:12:43 And if you don't do it and there's no communication,

1:12:46 what am I to expect?

1:12:48 Did you get eaten by a crocodile?

1:12:50 Did you fall off the edge of the planet

1:12:51 because the earth is flat?

1:12:53 Like, I don't know where you are.

1:12:54 I don't know where my deliverable is.

1:12:57 There is no benefit to being late.

1:13:01 So why in the world would you practice that?

1:13:03 On a day in, day out basis, be an adult,

1:13:06 be a mature human being and avoid being late.

1:13:11 Don't be late.

1:13:12 That's the number 14 way to avoid being a crappy man, 2024.

1:13:16 All right, just a few more left here.

1:13:17 The number 15 way to avoid being a crappy man in 2024.

1:13:20 Start giving things a once over.

1:13:23 So this is a new one for this year.

1:13:25 Start giving things a once over.

1:13:27 I'm not gonna spend a whole lot of time on this,

1:13:29 but I feel like in modernity,

1:13:31 we don't care about how things look

1:13:34 or how they're read or anything.

1:13:36 We just wanna put it down and then just send it, right?

1:13:39 That's everybody's hashtag, send it.

1:13:41 That's all they wanna do.

1:13:42 So they write out a text and they don't read it

1:13:45 before they send it.

1:13:46 And there's errors, there's things that make the text

1:13:48 almost unreadable.

1:13:50 You're unable to discern what things look like.

1:13:52 You're writing an email,

1:13:54 whether it's to a friend or a business partner

1:13:55 or something like that.

1:13:57 And you don't give it a once over.

1:13:58 You don't read it beforehand or the worst one.

1:14:01 Is when people are giving presentations.

1:14:04 So they've got a presy or a PowerPoint or something like that.

1:14:07 And you could tell this person did not read

1:14:10 these things out loud.

1:14:12 There are words that are misspelled.

1:14:13 There are punctuation marks that are missing

1:14:16 that literally changed the meaning

1:14:18 of what they're trying to say.

1:14:19 And guess what?

1:14:20 People that can read and people that notice,

1:14:22 they're distracted by that now.

1:14:24 And I just don't understand why people

1:14:27 don't take the extra few seconds to check things out.

1:14:29 Now mistakes happen.

1:14:31 I've made mistakes on this show.

1:14:32 Literally just today,

1:14:33 I realized an episode that I released last year

1:14:36 was misnumbered.

1:14:37 It's been misnumbered for like 10 months.

1:14:39 And I had somebody pointed out on Instagram,

1:14:40 it's like, oh God, you idiot.

1:14:42 And it's like, of all the things that happened

1:14:44 on that episode, it was the one mistake,

1:14:46 but it was a significant one.

1:14:48 Because I, and I had looked at it,

1:14:50 but I just basically, before I posted it,

1:14:52 I didn't give it a once over.

1:14:54 So I certainly make this mistake as well.

1:14:56 But when you're doing something,

1:14:58 especially on a deliverable

1:14:59 or when you're communicating with somebody,

1:15:01 it's just a great practice to be in.

1:15:03 Especially if you're gonna be up talking in front of people.

1:15:05 I can't tell you how many times

1:15:06 it just frustrates me to no end.

1:15:09 When you see someone where it was such an obvious mistake,

1:15:11 it's like, you're not just communicating to me

1:15:13 that you made a mistake.

1:15:14 You're communicating to me that it wasn't important enough

1:15:16 for you to double check your work before you submitted it.

1:15:19 I mean, just go back to high school

1:15:20 when you're doing like a math test.

1:15:22 Didn't you like go back and look at your work

1:15:24 to make sure you haven't made a mistake?

1:15:26 Don't didn't you go back in your five paragraph essay

1:15:28 in your AP English class

1:15:30 to make sure that you didn't leave out a comma

1:15:32 or have some sort of comma splice

1:15:33 or do some sort of weird verb tense change

1:15:36 when you didn't need to.

1:15:37 You didn't go back and reread it.

1:15:39 Like of course you did.

1:15:40 Most of you worth your salt

1:15:41 that wanted to be a level up and be a good performer

1:15:44 would do those things.

1:15:45 So why not do that in everyday life?

1:15:47 So the number 15 way to avoid being crappy man in 2024,

1:15:50 start giving things a once over.

1:15:52 All right, just two more left.

1:15:53 The number 16 way to avoid being a crappy man in 2024.

1:15:56 This is same as last year.

1:15:58 Figure out what's going on locally and get involved.

1:16:01 So this is a big one,

1:16:02 especially for all you policy walks out there.

1:16:04 You people that are like following the national elections.

1:16:06 Like you're so excited about 2024

1:16:08 because you're a guy Trump or you're a guy Biden

1:16:11 or you're a guy, whatever.

1:16:12 You're ready for the election.

1:16:13 You're ready to get things going.

1:16:15 Like I can tell you, whoever the president is

1:16:17 does have an impact on your life.

1:16:19 Whoever is a certain secretary,

1:16:22 like obviously like my orcas who's supposedly

1:16:25 in charge of the Southern border.

1:16:26 Like these national things do impact your life,

1:16:30 but you know what impacts your life a lot more?

1:16:33 Who your mayor is?

1:16:35 Who your sheriff is?

1:16:36 Who's on the school board?

1:16:38 These local offices that you can't even name

1:16:42 in your society or in your area

1:16:44 because you spend so much time worried

1:16:47 about what Donald Trump says or does

1:16:49 and whether or not he's gonna get elected,

1:16:51 that you forget about the fact

1:16:52 that the mayor doesn't know who you are.

1:16:54 And so if you have a problem that's going on in your city

1:16:56 and you're trying to get the mayor to do something about it,

1:16:59 well, they don't know you.

1:17:00 They don't have a relationship with you.

1:17:01 And you're gonna have to go Google who they are

1:17:03 because you don't even recognize this person.

1:17:05 There are state houses and state sentence

1:17:09 that most of you guys can't even name what district you're in

1:17:12 because you're so focused on who's gonna win

1:17:14 the Senate race in Pennsylvania.

1:17:16 Now I tell you all the time when I talk about on this show,

1:17:18 I have an international audience.

1:17:20 So I can't talk to you about the mayoral race

1:17:22 in Edmond, Oklahoma, 'cause that's not really gonna

1:17:24 have a huge impact on you as my consumer audience, right?

1:17:29 So it's a value to you to give you these larger concepts

1:17:33 and these larger things that are happening

1:17:34 on a national or international scale.

1:17:36 But as for me and my house, the Thompson household,

1:17:40 which is located in a zip code in Edmond, Oklahoma,

1:17:43 it behooves me to make sure I know exactly

1:17:46 who is lording over me, right?

1:17:48 You're gonna take Romans 13 seriously.

1:17:50 Who are these magistrates that are operating my city?

1:17:54 Are they doing things that I want them to do?

1:17:57 If the answer is yes, I will do what I can

1:17:59 to make sure that they stay in office and get reelected.

1:18:01 If they're not, it is incumbent upon me

1:18:05 to discuss that with them and or figure out ways

1:18:08 to get them out of office and to get people in there

1:18:11 that will do the things that I think is right for me,

1:18:13 my family and my greater community.

1:18:15 But you can't do that if you have no idea

1:18:18 what's going on locally.

1:18:20 So number 16 way to avoid being a crappy man in 2024,

1:18:23 figure out what's going on locally and get involved.

1:18:26 All right guys, and last but not least,

1:18:28 the number 17 way to avoid being a crappy man in 2024,

1:18:32 focus on discipline, not motivation.

1:18:35 I talk about this all the time,

1:18:37 but I could give a crap less whether or not

1:18:39 you're motivated to do the thing that you wanna do.

1:18:42 Let's take the previous 16 things that I talked about.

1:18:45 If you came to me and we're having a sit down meeting

1:18:48 or something like that,

1:18:49 I'm trying to get you leveled up for 2024 and beyond.

1:18:52 And you're like,

1:18:53 well, Kyle, I'm not really motivated to do that.

1:18:56 I'm not really motivated to having sports

1:18:59 stop ruining my night.

1:19:01 I'm not really motivated to become a weapon.

1:19:04 I'm not really motivated to get in my porn

1:19:06 and jerking off thing under control.

1:19:08 You know what my response to you would be?

1:19:11 So?

1:19:12 So?

1:19:16 Is that an argument?

1:19:17 I'm not motivated?

1:19:19 Did you think you could say that to me?

1:19:21 And I would be like, oh, well, gosh, excuse me

1:19:25 for saying these things.

1:19:26 You're just not motivated.

1:19:28 So let's just not talk about it.

1:19:29 Let's not push you towards those things

1:19:32 because my gosh, you're not motivated.

1:19:34 What am I to do?

1:19:36 You certainly can't operate if you're not motivated,

1:19:39 but here's the thing that I do know.

1:19:41 There are a lot of you that are not motivated

1:19:43 to do things that you do anyway.

1:19:45 You're not motivated to go to work.

1:19:47 It isn't so funny.

1:19:48 Like I know teachers, like elementary school teachers

1:19:51 that they're late everything they do in their life,

1:19:53 but you know where they're not late to school.

1:19:55 They can get to work on time.

1:19:57 Isn't that weird?

1:19:59 When the class is ready to go in the morning and all that,

1:20:01 they're not waiting on the teacher to be there.

1:20:03 Where's Mrs. Smith?

1:20:05 There's none of that.

1:20:06 She's there, but in every other area of her life,

1:20:10 she's not motivated to be on time.

1:20:12 So she's not on time.

1:20:13 Again, I could give a crap less about motivation.

1:20:16 It's the discipline that gets you through

1:20:18 because I've done some speaking engagements

1:20:20 and some private meetings where people will say things.

1:20:23 They're like, well, Kyle,

1:20:25 you're obviously a very disciplined guy naturally.

1:20:28 What about for the rest of us?

1:20:29 How do we do the things that you're saying that we should do?

1:20:32 And I'm like, nope, nope, nope, nope.

1:20:34 I'm not gonna let you get away with that

1:20:36 because what you're trying to do is split a category.

1:20:39 You're not putting all of humanity in the same category.

1:20:41 You're saying, well, there are the haves,

1:20:43 the people that are born with discipline,

1:20:44 and then there's everybody else.

1:20:46 I'm in the everybody else category.

1:20:47 So what do you have for me?

1:20:49 And the thing is, it's like,

1:20:51 you're talking about motivation.

1:20:53 I don't care if you're motivated or not.

1:20:55 It's whether or not you get done what needs to be done.

1:20:57 Because here's the thing.

1:20:59 When I woke up early this morning

1:21:01 to go work out on my gym and I'm working through some injuries

1:21:03 and some ailments right now.

1:21:05 So I can't work out the way that I normally do.

1:21:07 So I was super not motivated to do the workout

1:21:10 that I needed to do or chose to do this morning.

1:21:12 Not motivated at all.

1:21:14 So when my alarm went off, I had a decision to make.

1:21:17 Am I gonna be driven by motivation or driven by discipline?

1:21:21 But guess what?

1:21:21 I had already pre-decided that I wasn't gonna wait

1:21:24 and see until I was the next morning

1:21:26 whether or not I was motivated.

1:21:28 'Cause that's what a lot of you guys do.

1:21:29 You wait until the moment comes

1:21:31 to decide whether or not you're gonna do the thing.

1:21:33 Working out's the easiest one.

1:21:35 So you set your alarm as if you're gonna wake up

1:21:38 and work out, but you're gonna decide in the moment

1:21:41 when your alarm clock goes off.

1:21:43 So when you're warm in your bed

1:21:45 and when the thought of getting up and moving your body

1:21:47 is nowhere near the front of your brain,

1:21:51 that's when you're gonna decide

1:21:53 whether or not you're motivated enough,

1:21:55 whether or not you have enough energy.

1:21:57 That's part of the reason why again,

1:21:58 I'm wearing this Garmin watch.

1:21:59 Great buddy of mine gave me this watch

1:22:01 and I'm so thankful for this watch.

1:22:02 It's a really cool watch.

1:22:03 You can do a lot of different things.

1:22:04 But there are people that will open up their Garmin app

1:22:07 in the morning to see how they slept,

1:22:09 they'll look at their body battery

1:22:10 and then decide whether or not they're gonna work out

1:22:12 because of what their app says.

1:22:14 I could tell y'all this much.

1:22:17 I could give a damn about what an app says

1:22:20 or what my watch says about what I should do that day.

1:22:24 Because I'm not gonna let motivation

1:22:25 or some outside source dictate what I do with my life.

1:22:28 I'm gonna let discipline dictate what I do with my life.

1:22:30 Guys, you know how many times

1:22:31 and I'm sure you've done this the same way.

1:22:33 Gosh, you just don't wanna read the Bible.

1:22:35 You're in a part of a particular book

1:22:37 that's just confusing.

1:22:37 Maybe there's some parables that don't make any sense.

1:22:39 And maybe the last time you read through commentaries,

1:22:42 made it worse and you were still confused.

1:22:44 And gosh, you're just not motivated.

1:22:45 You think God's like, okay, my son, okay, my daughter.

1:22:49 You're not motivated, so stop seeking me

1:22:52 because your motivation's low.

1:22:54 Really?

1:22:56 No.

1:22:57 What would God say to you

1:22:59 if he was talking to you directly

1:23:00 like how I'm talking to you right now?

1:23:01 It's like, okay, we'll do it anyway.

1:23:03 Well, why? 'Cause I said so.

1:23:05 So maybe that's what you need.

1:23:08 Maybe I get to be your bad guy

1:23:10 or whatever scenario you need to create in your head.

1:23:12 So you're like, I'm not motivated to work out.

1:23:15 Imagine I'm sitting there like right down

1:23:17 and just saying like, yeah, but you're gonna go work out.

1:23:19 Well, why Kyle? 'Cause I said so.

1:23:21 Okay, I guess I'll go and do it.

1:23:24 Well, hey, you should read this book.

1:23:27 Well, I'm not motivated to read this book.

1:23:28 We'll do it anyway.

1:23:29 Why? 'Cause I said so.

1:23:30 Read this book, it's gonna make you better.

1:23:33 Do it, do it now.

1:23:34 You have one week, finish this book.

1:23:36 Again, if you allow motivation to dictate

1:23:39 whether or not you level up as a man,

1:23:41 whether or not you check the boxes,

1:23:43 whether or not you're a good family man,

1:23:45 whether or not you're gonna be selfish in a moment

1:23:47 versus serving in a moment.

1:23:49 It's because you're letting motivation dictate

1:23:51 exactly how you act.

1:23:52 Stop doing that.

1:23:54 The last way to avoid being a crappy man in 2024,

1:23:56 focus on discipline, not motivation.

1:23:59 All right, guys, I appreciate you sticking here

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