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THOM RAINER | The #1 Cause of Death for Churches (Ep. 402)

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THOM RAINER | The #1 Cause of Death for Churches (Ep. 402)
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In this episode, Kyle Thompson sits down with Tom Rainer, a church consultant and author, to discuss the alarming trends leading to church decline and the importance of the local church in a believer's life. They tackle the need for men to step up in their faith and the urgency of sharing the gospel in a culture that is increasingly hostile to biblical truths.
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0:00 (upbeat music)
0:02 - This is Undaunted Life, a Man's Podcast.
0:21 I'm your host Kyle Thompson.
0:23 Let's get into it.
0:24 Our guys today we got a special guest on the podcast.
0:26 His name is Tom Rainer.
0:27 So he is an author, church consultant and former pastor
0:30 and the founder and CEO of church answers.
0:32 So church answers is an online community
0:33 and resource for church leaders.
0:35 And prior to founding church answers,
0:37 Rainer served as president and CEO
0:39 of LifeWay Christian Resources,
0:40 which most of you are familiar with.
0:41 And before going to LifeWay,
0:43 he served at the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary
0:46 for 12 years where he was the founding dean
0:48 of the Billy Graham School of Missions and Evangelism.
0:50 He is a 1977 graduate of the University of Alabama
0:53 and earned his masters of divinity and PhD degrees
0:56 from the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary.
0:58 And he's also written three number one best-selling books.
1:00 So those are I Am a church member, autopsy of a deceased church
1:04 and simple church.
1:05 And he's also the author of the brand new book
1:07 which is out now called I Am a Christian,
1:10 discovering what it means to follow Jesus together
1:12 with fellow believers.
1:14 And I really enjoyed my time with him today.
1:16 He's also the host of the Rainer on Leadership Podcast.
1:19 There, nailed it.
1:20 Guys, all that will be in the show notes.
1:22 But I really enjoyed my time with him today
1:23 'cause we weaved into all these other different subject matters.
1:25 I talked to him about,
1:26 how did you become a church consultant?
1:28 Because I don't know that I've ever specifically talked
1:30 to one of those, I really liked his answer to that.
1:32 But we looked at some trends
1:33 while he was running this consulting firm
1:35 for about 15 years about,
1:37 what did healthy churches do during that time period?
1:39 We also looked at what were the churches
1:41 where the men were flourishing, right?
1:43 So it's men's ministry versus man-friendly churches.
1:45 We also talked about the seeker sensitive model,
1:48 kind of the TED talk church versus the expository teaching
1:51 and preaching church.
1:52 And so we got into the details there
1:53 kind of what has the, what has the trends been
1:56 since the early 2000s in those areas.
1:58 But then we spend most of our time on the new book,
1:59 I Am a Christian.
2:00 What that book was about.
2:02 We talked specifically about different cultures
2:04 and different belief systems
2:05 and kind of how the church in modernity
2:07 is downstream from culture.
2:09 We talked about, you know, church heard
2:11 and how that's become kind of a catch-all category
2:12 even if there's not actually church heard going on.
2:15 We talked about the importance of the local church
2:17 'cause you have a lot of people out there saying,
2:18 "Ah, the local church isn't really that big a deal.
2:19 That was something they needed 2000 years ago.
2:21 But I'm gonna do me, I'm gonna do my own thing now."
2:23 You know, we got into, you know,
2:25 how we need to be evangelistic even in our relationships.
2:27 We talked about the liberalization of seminaries
2:29 and there's probably a bunch of other stuff
2:30 that I can't quite remember at this point
2:32 but I really did enjoy my time with Tom.
2:33 So guys, without further ado, let's get into it.
2:37 Tom Rayner, welcome to The Daunted Life of Man's podcast.
2:39 Thank you for having me, great to be with you.
2:42 And this is my first time on this podcast.
2:44 So I'm interested to see what you say and what you ask.
2:46 So we'll find out what happens.
2:48 We're gonna find out because if you only come on once,
2:50 we can just assume that everyone's like,
2:52 all right, Tom didn't like Kyle.
2:53 So we'll see what kind of trouble we can get into today.
2:56 But let's find a soft place to land at least here initially.
2:59 So you're a pastor, author, and church consultant.
3:02 But I'm assuming you didn't want to be all those things
3:05 whenever you were growing up as a little boy.
3:06 So how in the world does someone become all of those things?
3:09 Well, present tense, I am not a pastor.
3:11 Okay. I was in the business world.
3:13 From there, I went to seminary.
3:15 Then I became a pastor of four churches.
3:18 From there, I went to be dean of a seminary.
3:20 So I went to the world of academia
3:22 where I was a terrible match, terrible match
3:24 for the world of academia, but it was a good 12 years.
3:27 So I stayed long enough and enjoyed my time there.
3:30 From there, I went to be president of a company called Lifeway.
3:33 And then this phase of life,
3:35 I am president, founder and CEO
3:37 of a company called Church Answers.
3:40 So that's my background, Kyle.
3:42 Most of it's pretty boring.
3:43 So I don't really have a whole lot more to say.
3:47 My three sons will tell me, hey, come on, dad.
3:50 You are one of the most boring people we've ever heard.
3:52 Just make it short and simple.
3:53 So that's what I'm doing.
3:54 Well, you at least kept it short and simple here,
3:56 but I disagree with their assessment,
3:58 at least from the stuff that I know about you
3:59 and the writing that you've done.
4:00 But I do want to dig into what you did
4:03 from, I believe I have the years, right?
4:04 From 1990 to 2005, you led the Rainer Group,
4:07 which was a church and a nominal consulting firm.
4:10 And so I'm sure a lot of people out there
4:12 and a lot of people in our audience have never met
4:13 or talked to somebody that does that
4:15 as their actual living.
4:17 But there's a lot there that I want to kind of dig into
4:20 before we get into some of the other reasons
4:21 why we're having you on today.
4:22 But one thing that I was really curious of
4:24 when I found out that you did church consulting
4:26 is what trends have you seen or I guess did you see
4:29 during that time period, a decade and a half?
4:32 What healthy churches were doing at that time?
4:35 Like if you were to deem a church as being healthy,
4:37 what were they doing at that time?
4:39 And I guess since 2005, what trends have you seen
4:43 in terms of healthy churches?
4:45 - It's really simple, Kyle.
4:47 I mean, I probably oversimplified.
4:49 I wrote a book called Simple Church a few years ago
4:52 and the whole purpose behind that book was to talk about
4:54 churches being too complex and too busy.
4:57 And really when it comes down to the things
4:59 that we saw in these churches, number one,
5:01 they stayed true to the Bible.
5:03 And so they were, they were adherents.
5:06 They were followers of the Word of God.
5:08 So they stayed true to that.
5:09 That is one of the clear things we saw
5:10 in these churches that were healthy.
5:13 A second thing, very simple too.
5:15 They were not only obedient to the Great Commission,
5:17 but they were intentionally obedient
5:18 to the Great Commission through strategic means.
5:21 So they didn't just simply say,
5:22 we believe that we need to be making disciples of all people.
5:27 We also believe that we're going to come up
5:29 with a plan to do so.
5:31 So they really acted on their belief.
5:35 Now, they were certainly aware of the culture around them.
5:38 They were not culturally ignorant.
5:40 They were not culturally insensitive.
5:43 They realized that culture shifts
5:45 and they have to make changes
5:46 on a methodological basis in their churches.
5:49 And so they made those changes.
5:51 And again, the changes would depend upon
5:52 which era you're talking about,
5:54 but they made those changes without compromising
5:56 who they are and if I go back then who they were.
6:01 If I fast forward to 2023,
6:03 where we almost start the point of this recording,
6:06 if I fast forward to that,
6:07 then the big issues are still the same.
6:10 Some of the methodological issues have changed.
6:12 And that has been the case.
6:14 I did my first consultation when I was 19.
6:17 Let me say that again.
6:18 I did my first consultation in 1988.
6:22 So where were you in 1988?
6:23 - I was two years old.
6:25 - Okay, that tells you the difference
6:27 in the age of this old man.
6:29 My first consultation,
6:30 I did not know that I was doing a consultation.
6:33 I got a call from a friend.
6:34 I was a pastor in St. Petersburg, Florida.
6:37 And he said, our church is declining.
6:39 I heard you have a doctor or something like that.
6:41 Does that mean you can help?
6:43 I said, no, it's not the kind of doctor that can help.
6:45 It's really a meaningless doctorate.
6:47 I said, but I'll come over and look.
6:49 And basically here's what I found out about his church.
6:51 The church on the inside,
6:52 I didn't look like the church on the community
6:54 on the outside.
6:55 So it was a predominantly Anglo church
6:57 and a predominantly Hispanic neighborhood.
6:59 So it was common sense just from my perspective.
7:03 Hey, friend, your church does not reflect the community.
7:07 And God put you at this address for a reason.
7:10 And there's a reason that you should be reaching
7:12 out to the community and to his credit,
7:15 the church began to change.
7:17 They became intentional about reaching the Hispanic community
7:19 and even more so.
7:21 They became intentional about putting Hispanics
7:24 in positions of leadership in the church,
7:26 eventually even the pastor of the church.
7:29 So I got a check, just a very small check
7:32 from this church about two or three weeks later.
7:35 And I called him up and said, what's this check for?
7:38 He said, well, for the consultation you did,
7:40 I said, what's the consultation?
7:42 - Oh man.
7:43 - I really did not know what a church consultation was.
7:45 - Yeah.
7:46 - Well, he told a few friends about my consultation
7:48 and they told a few friends and lo and behold,
7:51 I am a consultant, whatever that means, I am a consultant.
7:54 - You know what's funny about that is I've talked
7:56 to other consultants that are, you know,
7:57 in the insurance world or the business world or whatever.
7:59 And a lot of them didn't set out to do that.
8:01 This was before social media and trying to be an influencer
8:03 and trying to do all these different things.
8:05 They were just people that knew how to help people.
8:07 And those people value whenever you can give them
8:10 something of value and usually in even the economy
8:14 we're in now, you will pay people for that privilege.
8:16 You will pay people for helping you do a certain thing
8:18 that you wouldn't have otherwise been able to do.
8:20 But one thing as well that I found interesting
8:22 and it would love to hear your feedback on
8:23 from your time as a consultant, but also in the kind
8:26 of thereafter, you know, from the early 2000s to now,
8:29 it seems like there's been a movement again,
8:31 I was born in '86, I haven't been seeing this for as long
8:33 as maybe you or anyone else has.
8:35 But we went to this seeker-sensitive model in churches.
8:39 These TED Talk churches that, you know, love to do,
8:42 you know, TED Talk, you know, help you with life stuff.
8:44 And we sprinkle a few Bible verses on top
8:46 so we can keep our taxes exempt status.
8:48 You know, the expository preaching is a little bit rough
8:50 and you're like talking about people sin into gravity
8:52 and that really makes them feel icky, you know,
8:54 this heavy Bible emphasis discipleship-focused church.
8:57 But I mean, the very first thing you said, Tom,
8:59 in terms of the healthy church was true to the Bible.
9:02 - Yeah. - And it's like,
9:02 you know, I listened to Alistair Begg talk here recently
9:05 in a recent sermon where it's like,
9:06 you can't tamper with the scripture, guys.
9:08 Like that's not your job.
9:09 Like you don't have the credentials to do such a thing.
9:11 So have you seen that, has the seeker-sensitive model
9:15 always been a thing, but just maybe not that popular?
9:17 Give me a little bit more on that.
9:19 - Well, first of all, Kyle, we can look at a number of ways
9:21 to view it.
9:22 First of all, we can talk about the difference
9:24 between seeker-sensitive and seeker-targeted.
9:26 - Okay.
9:27 - Secret-sensitive model is a recognition of culture
9:29 and the culture around us.
9:30 I know for many people,
9:31 seeker-sensitive means a compromise watered down model,
9:34 but for many churches,
9:35 it just means we recognize that there are people around us
9:38 who are not believers and we're going to make certain
9:41 that we begin to do things that recognize their presence
9:44 in our churches.
9:45 That's seeker-targeted, then becomes the model
9:48 where you start compromising
9:50 and you start watering down the gospel.
9:52 But let me tell you what, I have not seen,
9:55 oh, I'm going to say certainly pre-COVID
9:57 in the last five or six or seven years.
10:00 I have not seen a growth in the seeker model.
10:03 What is happening these days is,
10:06 cultural Christianity is dying.
10:09 And by cultural Christianity,
10:10 it sounds like an oxymoron,
10:12 but what I'm talking about with cultural Christianity,
10:14 I'm talking about people who felt
10:16 that they needed to be attached to a church,
10:18 be a member of a church, be associated with the church,
10:21 but cause it was the culturally accepted thing to do.
10:24 It was good for my business,
10:25 it was good for my politics,
10:26 it was just good for me to be accepted in my neighborhood.
10:29 Well, cultural Christianity was dying before COVID.
10:33 And when people got a chance to be away
10:35 from the gathered church and the church's doors
10:38 were not opening during the worst of the pandemic,
10:41 they said, I don't need to come back.
10:43 And so that remnant of cultural Christians
10:47 is no longer there.
10:48 The only way that churches are going to effectively reach
10:52 the people in their community and beyond
10:54 is that they realize that the world around them
10:56 has changed from a receptive field to a mission field.
10:59 There are no longer the vast number of people
11:02 who will come to church just because it's the thing to do.
11:05 The way that we'll start reaching people
11:07 is with a mission set mentality.
11:10 And believe me, once you get to that mission set mentality,
11:13 you start, and I would use air quotes,
11:15 but that would be so silly,
11:17 you start doing church in a way that is thoroughly biblical
11:20 in a way that does not compromise.
11:24 And it's for that reason that the sicker movement
11:26 is beginning to wane or has wane,
11:28 it's because we have to reach people
11:31 with the hard, true gospel of Christ.
11:34 And that's what's going on in the world today.
11:36 And quite frankly, the number of churches that are closing,
11:39 it's hard to know of a certain, but pre-COVID,
11:41 we were saying there was around 8,000,
11:43 now we think it's as many as 12,000 a year.
11:46 And that trend is going to continue
11:47 until we fully wake up to the fact that we're in a mission field
11:51 and we have to act like missionaries more than ever.
11:54 And I'm talking about the North American congregations right now.
11:57 - Well, Tom, it's almost like it's a time period
11:59 where the weed is being separated from the chaff a little bit
12:02 and to where like, you know, when I'm invited to come
12:03 and speak at other people's churches or things like that,
12:05 it's typically in a ministry context,
12:07 which I'll actually do about in a second.
12:08 I always tell the people on staff
12:09 or the people that, you know, invite me to come.
12:11 Hey, look, I'm the burn it down and walk away guy
12:13 because I don't live here, right?
12:14 Y'all live here, y'all go to this church.
12:16 So like, I'm gonna burn away all the nonsense,
12:18 like all the masks and all the, you know,
12:21 the stuff that people, you know, the stiff arms.
12:22 And y'all got to deal with the ashes.
12:24 It's kind of like that's what we're gonna see a little bit
12:26 with Christendom specifically here in the United States.
12:28 And one thing I jotted down as well is that this is
12:31 that trend that you're describing should be a signal
12:33 to pastors to stand on the words of scripture
12:35 unapologetically.
12:36 And that's one thing that I encourage men to do is
12:38 if you want your pastor to speak out
12:40 and talk about these really hard subjects
12:42 like abortion or transgenderism
12:44 or the acceptance of the LGBTQ revolution or pedophilia
12:48 or any of those types of things,
12:50 why don't you set up a meeting with your pastor?
12:51 Say you need five minutes, you go into his office
12:53 and you say, look, sir, I know if you start talking
12:55 about these things, the slings and arrows
12:57 of culture are gonna be coming your way
12:59 and I'm willing to stand between you and those arrows
13:01 because I'm here for you.
13:02 And then you get about 10 of your friends
13:04 and you have them set up five minute meetings thereafter
13:07 and you all go in and tell them the same thing,
13:09 which is kind of backing into the thing
13:11 that I wanted to ask you about,
13:13 which is men's ministry versus man-friendly churches
13:17 because churches typically do one of two things.
13:20 They either don't do men's ministry at all
13:22 'cause they don't care or they do men's ministry
13:24 like once or twice a year they'll do a men's event,
13:26 like a chili cook off or a, hey, let's go cut wood
13:29 in the woods or something like that.
13:30 But it's not, that's programming, that's not ministry.
13:33 But then the churches that have the most vibrant environments
13:37 for families and children and the discipleship
13:39 and catechism and all that are typically man-friendly churches,
13:43 churches that think of the men
13:44 when they put together the sermon content
13:46 or pick out the songs and the lyrical content
13:48 and the key with which it's sung in or toned or whatever,
13:52 whatever that is.
13:53 So talk to me a little bit about what you saw
13:54 because this is what I think about all day every day
13:57 into a degree, it's what I feel like I was put on this planet
13:59 to talk into, but you've got the credentials
14:01 and you've got the experience with these healthy churches
14:04 where men are focused on and centered on
14:06 and that trickles down to the rest of the family.
14:08 So I'd love to hear your thoughts on that.
14:09 - Well, you undoubtedly know, Cal,
14:12 you undoubtedly know the plethora of stats on churches
14:16 that have men-focused type of ministries
14:19 where the father, the husband, the man
14:22 has a key part of the church.
14:24 You know the stats, you know the stats that are
14:26 talk about what happens to their families
14:28 versus those who don't have men who are leading
14:31 in such a way in their families.
14:32 So all of that is true.
14:33 When we look at a consultation,
14:35 when we look at a church in a consultation, I should say,
14:38 we see that again and again and again.
14:40 But I will tell you this, most of the churches
14:43 that call us in a sicker state.
14:47 I'd say about 80% of the churches say we're sick
14:49 and we need to get well, the other 20% say,
14:51 we think we're well, we want to be better.
14:53 But for those 80% that are sick,
14:56 we will go into the church and men will be
14:58 in a distinct minority.
15:00 Not only is it not a church for the men,
15:05 but they are not there.
15:06 And so these churches that are less healthy
15:09 have fewer men altogether.
15:11 And so that is a reality that we see in these churches.
15:15 And usually we have to start with the pastor
15:19 and basically do what you did and it may be not the same
15:24 matter that you talked about where someone goes
15:27 and takes five minutes, but we have to say,
15:29 look, everybody wants to be different and make a difference.
15:33 But you are not going to reach men who are going
15:37 to reach others who are going to have healthy families
15:41 unless you have such a uncompromising,
15:43 undiluted position that they know that they are standing
15:46 for something and they stand for something that is important,
15:50 not only makes a difference, but makes an internal difference.
15:54 So I probably, in fact, I shouldn't say I probably,
15:57 I know I don't have the knowledge of men's ministries
16:00 like you do, but I can say from a high level point of view,
16:04 when we go and talk and go and help churches,
16:07 that is something we see right away
16:09 in the 80% of churches that call us that are not healthy.
16:13 - Well, and Tom, with that, I love all that perspective.
16:16 One thing is also, you don't want the pendulum to swing
16:19 so far in the other direction, to where in order to be
16:22 a godly man, you think that you got to eat beef jerky
16:25 and have a beer and drive four wheel drive trucks
16:26 and get in fist fights and do all those different things,
16:28 which I check a lot of those typical boxes.
16:30 Like I like to do those things.
16:32 Those are things that I'm attracted to,
16:33 but that's not what makes me a man.
16:35 Like, you know, I've heard people say before,
16:37 that's what makes me awesome.
16:38 It doesn't make me a man.
16:39 And so you have some of these ministries
16:41 that swing way over to that side.
16:43 And, you know, that's why at this ministry,
16:44 we talk about, you know, seeking the lion of Judah
16:46 because the church seems to have cornered the market
16:48 on Lamb of God.
16:49 I think we all get the point,
16:51 but we forget about the Lamb or the lion of Judah.
16:54 And that's to the detriment of the men,
16:55 but it's also to the detriment of children specifically
16:58 because children should grow up learning.
17:00 This is when the lion is appropriate
17:02 and this is when the lamb is appropriate,
17:04 that the men that I'm around,
17:05 they're capable of being the lion,
17:07 but they're only showing me the lamb.
17:08 You know, that, and that leads to
17:10 a tremendous amount of health within the church,
17:12 but also within these individual families.
17:14 And there's a whole lot more
17:15 that I would love to get into about that,
17:16 but I do want to talk about the new book.
17:18 And that is the new book.
17:19 Thank you so much for sending this over to me.
17:20 It's called, "I am a Christian."
17:22 - Oh, you got the author copy.
17:23 I mean, the advanced copy.
17:25 Hey, Cal, I've got the hard back.
17:27 - Oh, why you gotta flex like that, okay?
17:30 Like, I'm okay with the floppy book, okay?
17:32 'Cause then I can write in this and not feel bad.
17:34 But hey, how about you just send me a box of those
17:36 and that'll be like you made it up to me, okay?
17:38 You know, I might just do that if you ask.
17:39 - Let's go.
17:40 I'll ask nicely whenever we're off air,
17:42 but I really appreciated this guy.
17:44 Obviously, if you can see this, it's a short read,
17:46 which shouldn't matter to you.
17:47 You should be reading anyway.
17:48 But the thing about this is,
17:50 well, I'll just read this quick quote from the introduction
17:51 and then I'll let you tee up the book.
17:53 But who am I really?
17:54 If we were playing the icebreaker game right now
17:56 and I asked you to identify yourself
17:58 in one comprehensive sentence, what would you say?
18:01 I haven't always been as bold and forthcoming
18:03 as I'd like to be,
18:04 but if you asked me that question today,
18:06 my response would be I am a Christian.
18:08 What exactly does that mean?
18:10 So the first question of the day, Tom,
18:12 in terms of this book is what is this book about
18:14 and what do you want people to get out of it?
18:16 - This book is simple.
18:18 My dominant spiritual gift is ignorant.
18:20 So I do not write complicated books.
18:23 I do not write long books
18:25 because I'm not able to write long books.
18:27 I write all these short books.
18:29 From the first one was called,
18:30 I am a church member to this one today
18:32 called I am a Christian in terms of the short books
18:35 that I have written.
18:36 And this has really two major threats to it.
18:39 What does it mean to be a Christian?
18:41 What does it mean doctrinally?
18:42 What does it mean behaviorally?
18:44 What does it mean in our relationship with others?
18:47 But the other major thrust of it,
18:48 what does it mean in the context of the church?
18:51 In fact, the subtitle of this book
18:52 is discover what it means to follow Jesus together
18:55 with fellow believers.
18:57 I am an unapologetic advocate fan of the local church.
19:04 So when it comes down to it,
19:06 the local church is getting a bad rap.
19:09 Certainly it's got weird people in it.
19:11 I know 'cause I'm a church member.
19:13 I know that I am one of those weird people.
19:16 And certainly it has people in it who are argumentative
19:20 and sometimes do bad things.
19:22 It's full of sinners just like me.
19:24 But the church after the gospels begins in Acts two
19:29 and we talk about the church.
19:31 We either see letters to the church,
19:32 written in the context of the church,
19:34 or written to the leaders in the church,
19:35 all the way to Revelation three.
19:37 The local church is God's plan A
19:40 and for his mission and he didn't give us a plan B.
19:43 And so I am an unapologetic advocate of the local church.
19:48 And so this book especially has the angle, if you will,
19:53 the emphasis that I am going to be a Christian,
19:56 but I am going to be a Christian in the context
19:58 with other believers.
19:59 We are going to serve together.
20:01 We are first Corinthians 12, Body of Christ.
20:04 The word members came from first Corinthians 12.
20:07 I am a member of the Body of Christ.
20:10 And if I'm not doing my part, then the church is weaker.
20:13 If they aren't doing their part, the church is weaker.
20:15 But what happens when people who are part
20:18 of the Body of Christ, who are Christians,
20:20 begin to do things together for his glory is unlimited.
20:24 It is totally unlimited.
20:26 This book is simple and as basic as it is,
20:29 is a reminder of how we're supposed to be living
20:32 our life as believers in the context of fellow believers.
20:37 So somebody said, is this a continuation
20:40 of the earlier book I wrote, I am a church member,
20:42 in some ways, but it incorporates that
20:45 and it becomes its own stand alone.
20:46 Here's what it means to be a church member
20:48 as a Christian.
20:49 Here's what it means to be a Christian as a church member.
20:51 That's my thesis, that's a long thesis.
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21:22 - No, no, I appreciate that.
21:23 There's beauty and simplicity.
21:24 I mean, one of my favorite people to read,
21:26 that's kind of in the same vein
21:28 in your writing style in this book
21:29 reminded me of him as the great Phil Robertson.
21:32 And the things that he says, like he says it,
21:33 kind of in a very palatable way, a very digestible way.
21:37 And it's good to have, you know,
21:38 the books from the Carl Truman's
21:40 and the Jordan Peterson's and all those things
21:41 where it gets really, really deep.
21:43 But then it's also good to have one of these
21:44 almost as a palate cleanser
21:45 because it still has a lot of impact.
21:47 So I wanna actually dig into some quotes
21:49 and some of the different themes of this book.
21:50 And guys, just as a side note,
21:52 there's no way even with the short book
21:53 that we're gonna be able to get into everything
21:54 that was in there.
21:55 The book is in the show notes.
21:56 You should pick up a copy for yourself.
21:57 I mean, he's gonna send me a box of them.
21:59 So I mean, I can maybe do a giveaway
22:00 and send some out to you guys.
22:01 - I'll send you a box of them.
22:03 You send me your email address.
22:04 I'm gonna send you a box, dude.
22:05 - We will make it happen, Tom.
22:07 All right, I wanna read this quote
22:07 from the intro and get a little bit more context on it.
22:10 In today's culture, many false belief systems
22:12 are vying for our hearts and minds.
22:14 The conflict can be both confusing and overwhelming.
22:17 Right now, perhaps more than any other time in history,
22:20 we need to understand the urgency of the moment.
22:23 So the church, Tom, seems to be downstream from culture.
22:27 And that seems to have some very degrading effects
22:29 on the foundations of Christian belief.
22:31 I think probably the most impactful question
22:35 that Satan ever asked in history was,
22:37 did God really say?
22:38 Right, going back to the garden.
22:39 And we live in a time right now where that's,
22:41 well, did God really say that about homosexuality?
22:44 Did God really say that about gender?
22:46 I just covered a new story recently
22:47 where there was a person over in the UK
22:50 at a prominent school over there
22:51 that talked about how Jesus was transgender.
22:53 And he provided evidence via artwork
22:55 and things like that, that Jesus was actually transgender
22:58 and had a transgender body.
23:00 And that's because not only is the church downstream
23:02 from culture, but the church is taking entire heaping spoonfuls
23:06 of postmodernism, eating it and pretending it's ice cream.
23:09 And that's a little bit of a cumbersome issue.
23:11 But what have you seen?
23:12 And I guess, why do you think we should really focus
23:15 to understand the urgency of the moment?
23:17 Well, the urgency of moment is if we don't know
23:19 who we are in Christ, if we don't know what the Bible says
23:22 we are in Christ, we have lost the battle immediately.
23:25 So for us to say that we are Christian
23:27 and we don't understand exactly what that means
23:30 and what the Bible says about being a Christian,
23:33 as you say, being downstream from culture,
23:35 culture will then flood us.
23:37 We'll be inundated with it.
23:38 And what will happen is we will become light culture
23:42 instead of being the salt, the light,
23:44 the metaphors that go on and on in the midst of culture.
23:48 So the first thing that I would say is,
23:50 look, they're all these false belief systems.
23:52 They have been around for quite a while.
23:53 Like since the beginning of the world,
23:56 certainly you see them all throughout the Old Testament
23:59 in the New Testament, that is nothing new.
24:02 But the Bible has been very clear,
24:04 we shall take a stand and we shall be the type of people
24:07 who not only know that we are Christians,
24:10 but know why we are Christians
24:11 and why we believe what we believe
24:13 and why we do what we do.
24:16 That's when we become this type of force in culture
24:19 that begins to make a powerful difference.
24:21 And by the way, to be someone that is different from culture
24:26 does not mean that we're a jerk.
24:28 Did that mean that it doesn't mean
24:30 that we're turning off all of these people
24:32 where we cannot have some type of social relationship
24:34 with them quite frankly.
24:37 In some of our research, I'm almost hearing my middle son
24:42 in my mind right now.
24:44 Dad, don't talk so many statistics.
24:46 You're so boring.
24:47 So I'm gonna try not to talk too many statistics.
24:50 - I don't mind the statistics.
24:51 You write down whatever you want.
24:53 - Well, I'm gonna talk about this one.
24:54 We did a study.
24:56 We've been doing a study.
24:57 It's called the longitudinal study
24:58 where you do it every so often.
25:00 So you can see the trends that are taking place.
25:02 The first ones were published in two books,
25:04 called Surprising Insight from the Unchurch
25:06 and the Unchurch Next Door.
25:07 Those are older books.
25:08 But we've continued the research.
25:11 And one of the things that we did is we actually
25:13 sent our research team out, research teams,
25:16 out to invite people who are not connected
25:19 to church to church.
25:21 And here's the amazing thing.
25:23 And this took place over many, many months.
25:25 Here's the amazing thing we found.
25:26 And we're still finding it pretty much the same today.
25:29 When you invite someone to come to your church
25:31 and you offer to go into the church building with them,
25:33 85% said yes.
25:35 I mean, that's culture.
25:37 I mean, these may have been transgender people.
25:40 These may have been people who have sexual more ways
25:43 different than the scripture.
25:44 These may have been people who are antithetical
25:47 to everything you believe.
25:48 But because you're willing to go and say with you,
25:51 they are responding.
25:53 So one of the things I can say about culture is,
25:55 yeah, be different than, but don't be intimidated by it.
25:58 Because these people are really deep down hungry
26:02 for what you have to offer through Christ.
26:05 So don't be shy.
26:07 Go out into the world and tell them who you are
26:10 and why the you are that person.
26:12 - I think that's an incredible thing
26:13 and a wonderful thing for you to communicate to people.
26:16 'Cause that does give, it gives us pause and saying loves
26:19 to kind of whisper in our ear.
26:20 Don't ask that person, it'll be weird.
26:21 Like they've got purple hair in a nose ring.
26:23 Like they're never gonna come with you.
26:24 But those are the people that you need to be spreading
26:26 the gospel to.
26:26 One thing that came up while you were talking as well
26:28 before we move on inside the book is there's this new trend
26:32 and I've had some people in the show recently
26:34 and I've talked about this.
26:35 They say this statement, they think it sounds smart
26:38 and nuanced and makes them sound intellectual.
26:40 But it actually means the opposite.
26:42 They'll say things like, you know what?
26:44 I wanna be known for what I'm for.
26:46 Not what I'm against.
26:47 And it sounds cute.
26:49 It really does.
26:49 It would look good on a T-shirt or a bumper sticker.
26:52 And then they try to, you know, wax poetic
26:54 about how Jesus never really, you know,
26:56 talked about people sinnily, talked about forgiveness
26:58 and love and all that, which is really an abiblical mindset
27:01 if you actually read the text that we see
27:03 in the New Testament and see the lives that were changed.
27:05 But gosh, there's this like therapeutic deism
27:09 that we're seeing in culture right now
27:11 from these people that are just like,
27:12 they wanna have the happy's.
27:14 They don't want you to make them feel bad.
27:16 And so they don't wanna talk about abortion
27:18 because it's way too divisive.
27:19 And they don't spend that extra five seconds
27:22 realizing how they can talk about the issue in a way
27:24 where people don't feel condemned,
27:25 but they also understand the level of depravity
27:28 if you engage in that particular act.
27:30 But can you talk to me a little bit about that
27:31 and how that maybe comes back to who we are
27:33 as a Christian?
27:35 - Did you just make up that phrase therapeutic deism?
27:38 Have you used that before?
27:39 - So I heard someone else say there's another word in there
27:42 that would have made me sound extra smart,
27:43 but like there is kind of this,
27:44 I think it was maybe culturally therapeutic deism
27:47 or something like that, but that's where we are
27:49 to where it's like. - I've never heard that.
27:50 I need to turn off the podcast and write down a few things
27:52 and go write an article and say, I heard this somewhere.
27:55 - Don't give me credit either.
27:56 I'm a ginger, no one likes me anyway.
27:58 So it's just kind of how it goes.
27:59 But yeah, I'd love to hear your thoughts.
28:00 - Well, there is this perspective
28:03 and you stated it right.
28:04 And I understand the sentiment behind that statement.
28:08 I wanna talk about what I'm for instead of what I'm against.
28:11 And quite frankly, the people who will say those words
28:14 are the same people who will say,
28:15 list to find gospel is good news.
28:18 It is not bad news.
28:20 But look, this is stating the obvious.
28:23 We only have good news because there's bad news.
28:26 And bad news means we've got to confront that
28:30 in that reality.
28:31 Bad news means we've got to call sin for sin.
28:34 It is not us being that type of person
28:37 that is calling sin, sin.
28:39 Usually the type of people that rub someone the wrong way
28:43 is how they say it as much as the fact that they say it.
28:46 But even if you say it in all the palpable ways
28:49 and you're rejected by Christian, I mean, by culture,
28:52 you still have to take that type of stand.
28:55 And so it is going to be hard.
28:57 It's going to be impossible for us
28:59 to be an evangelistic force
29:01 unless we start communicating clearly
29:04 why people need forgiveness.
29:07 Because you cannot state the gospel
29:10 without talking about sin.
29:13 If all you talk about is salvation without a context,
29:18 all of a sudden you do not have the full gospel.
29:22 - Exactly.
29:23 Well, and that's the thing is like,
29:24 I understand there are people that spend,
29:26 they only want to talk about depravity.
29:28 And it's like, okay, I get it, I'm a depraved sinner.
29:30 No, no, no, you're really a depraved sinner.
29:32 Okay, I just acknowledged that I agree with you.
29:35 But again, when you don't talk about it at all,
29:37 because if, okay, I guess it's the difference
29:40 between saying I'm not healthy right now versus saying,
29:43 I'm a sinner or saying that like I'm like,
29:46 you're a sinner, you're not a mistakeer, right?
29:48 A mistake is I turned left when I should have turned right.
29:50 But a sinner means like from the jump,
29:53 from the moment I came out of the womb,
29:56 I was bathed in this sin nature.
29:58 No one teaches a child, I got a two year old.
30:00 No one teaches him to lie.
30:01 No one teaches him to be rude or to interrupt
30:03 or to be selfish or any of these other things.
30:05 And so I don't want to get off on too much of a tangent
30:07 because I want to keep coming back to the book
30:08 because there's a great quote from chapter two
30:10 and the name of that chapter is I am a church member
30:13 and I'd love to get you to talk a little bit more
30:14 about this, so here's the quote.
30:16 Please read the next sentence carefully.
30:18 The New Testament does not have a plan
30:20 for growing us as Christians outside of the local church.
30:24 From Acts two to Revelation three,
30:25 the New Testament is all about the local church.
30:28 It leaves no doubt that God wants local congregations
30:30 to be at the center of Christian ministry.
30:32 And a little bit later in the chapter you say,
30:34 your role is to serve not to be served.
30:37 Your role is to minister not to demand a ministry
30:39 for yourself.
30:40 Your role is to put others before yourself,
30:42 not to seek to get your own way.
30:44 Oh, how big of it of you, how mean?
30:47 You gave me the sads whenever I read that
30:49 because isn't the local church supposed to be
30:51 about me and my needs, Tom?
30:52 Like I go back to 10 years ago when LaCray,
30:55 you know, a big rapper in the Christian game,
30:57 he released church clothes.
30:59 And this was this kind of this whole mixtape about,
31:01 you know, he doesn't need to go to church.
31:02 He doesn't need the local church to kind of,
31:04 he's going to do his own thing
31:05 and not that he was the reason for this
31:07 but there's a lot of people in our current day, Tom,
31:10 that they don't think they need the local church
31:11 because the local church is not serving them.
31:14 How did we get to this place of such selfish narcissism?
31:17 - Well, we got to this place from the fall.
31:20 So it is nothing new, but it has infiltrated
31:24 and it has infected the church.
31:26 And I recently recorded a resource called
31:31 autopsy of a deceased church.
31:34 I wrote a book on that same title of 10 plus years ago.
31:38 And basically here's what we did, Cal.
31:40 Our team interviewed people who had been members
31:43 of churches that had closed.
31:45 And we asked pastors and church members
31:48 of these deceased churches what happened in their churches?
31:52 What took place?
31:53 If we could distill it down to the number one cause of death,
31:58 this is an autopsy of a deceased church.
32:00 And if we could distill it down
32:02 to the number one cause of death,
32:04 it was churches that worship the unholy trinity
32:08 of me, myself and I, self-centered Christianity,
32:12 me-centered Christianity.
32:14 These churches failed because they weren't asking
32:18 what they could do for others,
32:21 for the sake of the glory of God,
32:23 they were asking what can the church do for me?
32:26 To be fair, the church should minister to members.
32:29 Ministry is something that does happen in the body,
32:32 but we were talking about people who were arguing
32:34 about the style of music, the color of the carpet,
32:37 who were talking about the length of the sermon.
32:39 And you know the list, I don't need to go down
32:41 all of those me-focused types of items.
32:44 The number one cause of death in churches
32:48 that we looked at in autopsy of deceased church,
32:51 the number one cause of death was a church
32:53 that became self-centered.
32:55 And it was admitted by these members and leaders
32:58 and pastors of the churches that had died.
33:02 And so we did hundreds of those interviews
33:04 and that theme came back again and again.
33:07 Another theme that came back that you would think
33:09 would be obvious and I think they're closely related
33:11 to each other, we stopped believing or at least studying
33:15 the word of God to see what it had to say.
33:17 - Of course.
33:17 - So we left the foundation of the word of God
33:19 and we were unbiblical in the way that we did church.
33:24 That to me is the reason why we should be saying,
33:28 we love the church, we love the local church.
33:31 It's imperfect, yes.
33:32 But it is God's mission for us.
33:35 It is what He has given us.
33:36 I can guarantee you that Corinthians was not perfect
33:39 but neither was the Corinthian church
33:41 but neither was the church at Philippi as joyous as it was.
33:45 None of those churches were perfect.
33:47 And so when it's all said and done,
33:49 we are imperfect people in imperfect local churches
33:52 until we become perfected and we see Him face to face.
33:56 First Corinthians 12, members of the body of Christ.
33:59 Here's what you're to do.
34:00 You're supposed to function for the good
34:02 or the greater body, okay?
34:04 Then what happens?
34:05 First Corinthians 13, love chapter.
34:07 Now we're talking about, okay, what is our heart?
34:10 What is our attitude?
34:11 The entirety of first Corinthians 13,
34:14 certainly don't mind it being read at weddings
34:15 but it needs to be read in church services.
34:17 This is what the body of Christ should be acting and doing
34:21 and how they should have a heart for others.
34:25 And that is what it means to be a Christian
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35:00 And I think for a lot of people as well,
35:02 they are looking at their church.
35:03 They go church shopping, which I don't think was a category
35:07 of things to do on the weekend before like 10 or 15 years ago.
35:11 And again, it's this me centric view
35:13 and it leads to this me centric view of who Jesus is.
35:16 I've heard people say recently, well, you know,
35:18 people they like me because they like my Jesus.
35:21 They like my version of Jesus.
35:23 And I'm like, if you hear someone say that to you,
35:25 you should worry about whether or not
35:27 you're presenting the whole of Jesus
35:28 because people don't typically hear about Jesus and think,
35:31 yeah, I'm a depraved turd.
35:33 I need Jesus to save me.
35:34 Like it takes a work of the Holy Spirit
35:37 to soften their heart.
35:38 Like so trying to make Jesus attractive,
35:40 that is not your job.
35:42 Like that doesn't mean put no effort
35:44 into your church service.
35:45 That doesn't mean look like a slob when you're on stage
35:47 with the microphone attached to your face.
35:48 But at the same time, it's like,
35:50 we aren't people of the Bible, Tom.
35:52 Because, and I think part of it,
35:53 it's because it's so easy to read the Bible.
35:55 That's why we don't do it.
35:56 Like I've got two tabs open on my curse,
35:59 on my browser right now, better Bible translations.
36:02 I got a stack of them over there.
36:03 And I got a stack of them over here.
36:04 But just like most Americans,
36:05 there's, you know, a big layer of dust over the top of it
36:09 that you have to blow up before you crack it open.
36:11 And I've gone huge stretches of my life,
36:13 writhed and dug into the scripture at all.
36:15 And I said, ah, it's fine.
36:16 I'll go to church on Sunday.
36:17 Or I'm gonna listen to a podcast with my favorite preacher.
36:20 And we forget that that is not a book.
36:23 That is not a collection of ancient writings.
36:25 That is God speaking directly to us.
36:28 - So true, so true.
36:29 - Like, I'm saying this to me, Tom.
36:32 Like I'm not holding myself.
36:33 I'm not hovering above my own commentary.
36:35 I'm like, my God, how many years have I spent
36:38 not looking at the word of God?
36:39 Because I had other things better to do.
36:42 But I do also want to get into something
36:45 that you talked about in chapter three.
36:47 Cause I think, you know, the,
36:48 the rubber really started meeting the road
36:50 right in the intro.
36:51 Like there was like 17 things I wanted to ask you
36:52 about the intro, but I didn't want to be ridiculous.
36:54 But also in chapter three, I saw that as,
36:56 as a high point, at least for our discussion today.
36:59 Chapter three is called I am a disciple.
37:01 So I'm going to read this quote here.
37:02 My team at church answers deals with a lot of hurt
37:05 in churches, members hurting each other,
37:07 members hurting pastors and staff, pastors and staff
37:10 hurting members, pastors and staff hurting each other.
37:13 So a lot of hurt there.
37:15 The problem that I see not, not with what you wrote
37:18 is with this catch all category that has been created
37:20 in modernity that I only heard about this year.
37:23 And that's called church hurt major air quotes
37:25 for those not watching this on YouTube or rumble church hurt.
37:29 And so church should be Tom,
37:32 a pastor that sexually abuses one of their flock,
37:35 a pastor that lies about money and steals money, you know,
37:40 and a youth pastor that's doing weird things with youth,
37:43 like that's church hurt.
37:45 People that are being put under church discipline
37:48 when there's no biblical basis for that.
37:50 But what's happened, Tom is this is morphed to be,
37:53 well, the church hurt my feelings.
37:55 I complained to the church and they didn't automatically
37:57 change everything that they do as a church
37:59 based on my singular complaint.
38:01 Oh, the church isn't letting me sin.
38:04 They said that I can't live with my boyfriend
38:06 and sleep with them before we get married.
38:08 They said that they wouldn't honor a marriage
38:11 between me, a man and my boyfriend who is a man,
38:14 those types of things.
38:15 And so we've created this big enormous tent
38:18 that everybody can hang out under where they get to,
38:21 you know, I guess deal in the currency of our day,
38:23 which is hurt and damage done by people's words
38:26 that they use.
38:27 So well, I guess what's our call as people
38:30 that want to be to the truth and to do things well
38:34 and to do things biblically when you have so many people
38:36 trying to hop in and say, oh yeah, I was hurt too.
38:39 - Well, I deal with a lot with pastors
38:43 who are on the receiving end of these complaints.
38:46 They are the ones that if we were to look
38:49 at this church hurt phrase, again,
38:52 I'm learning things on this podcast, I did not know.
38:54 I didn't even know if church hurt was a thing.
38:56 So now I've learned that they are on the receiving end
39:01 of some of the most ridiculous types of complaints.
39:04 For example, I was talking to a pastor yesterday
39:08 and he said, well, we lost another family.
39:10 And I said, well, what happened?
39:12 By the way, this is a good church.
39:13 It's a gospel centered church.
39:15 It's a biblical church.
39:17 I said, what happened?
39:18 He said, well, the family came to me
39:21 and said they were not being fed.
39:23 And I know this pastor, I know how he preaches
39:26 and I know that he was feeding them.
39:28 That was just their excuse
39:30 because he was not doing their bidding.
39:33 I said, what did you do with it?
39:35 He said, I was loving to them.
39:37 I told them that I didn't agree with what they said.
39:42 But if they have to go, they have to go
39:44 and I will still love them.
39:45 And that's my point on this is they did not focus
39:49 an enormous amount of energy on this silliness
39:53 that is going on in the church.
39:55 They were pastoral, they were kind, but they moved on.
39:59 And so I learned from pastors like that.
40:01 And when I hear pastors say that,
40:03 I know that they can feel pain when people say that.
40:05 I know that when they lose a church, remember,
40:07 they can feel the pain on that.
40:09 But they move on.
40:12 Here's the thing about it.
40:13 In a church, you're going to have carnal Christians
40:15 or at least Christians who are very low
40:17 on the maturity scale of where they should be.
40:20 They're going to do that.
40:21 You're going to have nine Christians in your church,
40:23 whether you know that they're nine Christians or not.
40:25 It is going to happen.
40:27 And whether it's a policy being compared to Paul
40:31 or whether someone telling a pastor
40:33 that he preaches too long or that the sermons
40:35 are not effective, it's going to happen.
40:37 So one of the recommendations I have with the world
40:40 that are, let's say the church world,
40:42 is this is a reality, it's going to happen.
40:46 Don't let it be your focus.
40:48 It's a lot of silliness,
40:50 but you don't treat it as silliness
40:52 when they're telling you that, but then you move on.
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41:24 - So there's so much more that I want to get into there.
41:29 To a degree, shouldn't pastors almost gird their loins
41:34 a little bit more, like I understand,
41:35 I don't want to be too demonstrably critical
41:39 of a job that I've never been in, right?
41:41 So I don't understand the weight
41:43 because when you're talking to a pastor,
41:45 you're literally dumping the worst part of your life
41:47 on top of their head and trying to get them
41:49 to help you deal with it.
41:49 That's got to be a tremendous amount of weight.
41:52 But for a lot of pastors that burn out,
41:54 that go on these destructive,
41:57 whirlwinds and make these horrible decisions in their life,
42:01 I feel like it's because they're not adequately
42:04 taking care of themselves.
42:05 They're not exercising.
42:06 They're not eating right.
42:08 They're not getting an adequate amount of sleep.
42:10 They're not taking sabbaticals.
42:12 They're not leaving the pulpit for more than one weekend
42:15 at a time and maybe they do that once a year.
42:17 So I guess, 'cause there are quite a few pastors
42:19 that listen to this, to this,
42:21 what would be your list of prescriptions of like,
42:24 hey, here's how you can prevent yourself from burnout.
42:26 Here's how you can prevent yourself
42:28 from taking this negativity and then defining it
42:31 for you as a person or whatever.
42:33 - Well, you certainly are right
42:35 in mentioning physical condition, emotional shape
42:38 and those types of issues.
42:40 I wanna go back to the first major church conflict.
42:44 The first major conflict was in Act six
42:47 and it was the Grecian widows being overlooked
42:49 in the distribution of food.
42:51 It was a legitimate need.
42:52 widows who had become followers of Christ
42:55 usually had been abandoned by their families
42:58 and they did not have support for their physical needs.
43:02 And so when the Greek widows were not getting food
43:06 and the Jewish widows were getting preferential treatment,
43:09 it was a legitimate issue.
43:10 So there's legitimate conflict in the church.
43:13 It's coming together.
43:16 We always know that,
43:17 we typically know the result of this.
43:20 They appointed seven,
43:21 full of the Holy Spirit and wisdom to deal with this.
43:23 So they equipped people to do the work of ministry.
43:26 But here is the prescription specifically
43:29 for leaders of church.
43:31 Churches, it is in Act six, four.
43:34 We will give our attention to prayer
43:38 and the ministry of the word.
43:40 Kyle, I gotta tell you,
43:41 in most of the cases where I see burnout
43:43 and I don't want to have a universal claim to this,
43:46 but in most cases where I see burnout,
43:48 they have stopped their prayer life
43:51 and they're not personally in the word of God.
43:54 So you're talking about girding your loins
43:56 and being equipped.
43:57 Certainly those other factors are important,
43:59 but almost without exception,
44:01 I can point to pastors who are going
44:04 through the motions of activity, leadership,
44:07 but they're not depending upon God through prayer
44:10 and the ministry of word.
44:11 Act six, four is the prescriptive basis
44:14 of scripture for church leaders.
44:17 - I think that's a great word.
44:19 And again, to all the pastors that are listening to this,
44:21 like you know that,
44:24 like that shouldn't be breaking news to you,
44:25 but even things that are obvious
44:27 we need to be reminded of,
44:28 'cause there are people that obviously intellectually know
44:30 that getting sleep is a good idea,
44:31 but then they still try to get by
44:32 getting four or five hours of sleep every night.
44:34 So it's obviously a good word.
44:36 - I wanna ask you one more question about this book
44:38 and it's from chapter five and it's called I Am a Witness.
44:40 And there's a short quote here I'd like to ask you about.
44:43 - Okay.
44:44 - Your relationship with an unbeliever must at some point
44:47 evolve into a gospel conversation.
44:50 So I think people forget that last part.
44:53 - You guys really do.
44:54 - They try to be nice to people.
44:56 They're neighborly, they're favorily like to do favors
45:00 for these people and trade favors and things like that.
45:03 And there's this idea,
45:04 I don't know if that came from like late 90s church camp
45:07 or something like that, but you know what?
45:09 I'm just gonna be a really, really nice person
45:11 and have a positive disposition
45:12 and people are just gonna come to me and ask me,
45:15 how do you have such a positive disposition?
45:17 Why are you so nice all the time?
45:18 And then I get to have that gospel conversation.
45:21 And I just gotta ask, has that ever happened?
45:23 Like in the history of the planet,
45:24 has anyone ever just came up to you?
45:25 'Cause they're like, you smile a lot and your shirt's clean.
45:27 Why do you like that?
45:28 And then you go into this long explanation
45:31 and expository description of what the Bible is
45:33 and what the gospel is and all of that.
45:35 But I think that a lot of conservatives,
45:37 a lot of Christians, a lot of people
45:38 that are really, really nice people,
45:40 they love doing the caring for people part,
45:43 but gosh, they always stop short of telling people
45:45 why they're doing what they're doing.
45:47 And I guess it's like, why do we forget that part?
45:50 Why did we forget the last part
45:52 of turning this into a gospel conversation?
45:54 - Because we're not confident that we can do so
45:56 in the power of the Holy Spirit.
45:58 We are fearful for the wrong reasons
46:00 that we're going to offend someone
46:02 when we give them an offensive gospel,
46:05 the offense of the cross.
46:07 You nailed it though, evangelism in lifestyle only
46:12 is not complete evangelism.
46:15 Evangelism must tell the truth about the gospel.
46:19 You remember what happened to Peter and John?
46:21 They're in prison for telling people about Christ.
46:25 This is in the first four chapters of the book of Acts.
46:27 They talked about this man who had been healed,
46:31 who had been crippled from birth,
46:32 and people were saying, what happened, what happened?
46:34 Well, guess what Peter and John did?
46:36 They said, I'll tell you what happened.
46:37 Instead of saying, isn't it a great thing
46:39 that we connected with him and we feel good
46:42 about the fact that he has been healed?
46:44 No, they said, here's what happens is Jesus
46:47 and they proclaim the gospel.
46:48 Well, the religious leaders of the day said,
46:50 you keep doing that, dudes,
46:52 and we're going to throw you in prison.
46:53 We may kill you, but they wouldn't stop.
46:56 They threw him into prison.
46:57 They had an opportunity for a last offense,
46:59 and they got before the Sanhedrin, and they looked up,
47:02 and they said, what do you have to say?
47:03 You can't keep talking this name.
47:05 That was the way they refer to their gospel proclamation.
47:09 You can't keep talking about this name.
47:11 And Peter and John looked up and said,
47:14 "We cannot stop telling about everything
47:19 "we have seen and heard."
47:21 They knew that the gospel was not the gospel
47:24 without telling about Christ.
47:27 They had done a good deed in the power of Christ.
47:30 A man had been healed, but it had to be accompanied
47:34 with the truth behind who healed him.
47:37 That's the gospel.
47:39 - And I think what this lends itself to as well
47:42 is I think you're right that people don't think
47:43 they're equipped to have that conversation,
47:45 but what I would argue is that indeed,
47:47 they're not equipped to have the deep,
47:50 theoretical, philosophical apologetics question.
47:54 But I know people that don't have a brain
47:57 that could lightly toast a piece of bread on both sides.
48:00 I've put myself in that category before,
48:02 but I've studied apologetics
48:04 and I know how to deal with a lot of those answers.
48:06 And as Paul tells us in the New Testament,
48:08 we need to be ready to stand and give an apology
48:10 to give an argument for why we believe what we believe.
48:14 And so I think it's incumbent upon us
48:15 to study church history, and theology,
48:17 and all these other different things.
48:19 But at a different, like we also also have to be careful
48:21 with saying like, or be comfortable rather,
48:23 we're saying, yeah, I just don't know.
48:25 Like, I don't know why that is.
48:26 I can give you a philosophical argument
48:28 as to why bad things happen to good people.
48:30 But I can't tell you specifically
48:32 why your 17 year old niece died of cancer.
48:35 I can't give you an answer to that.
48:37 All I can tell you is that the God that is real
48:39 is a God of love, and he sent his son here
48:41 to become the propitiation for your sins and mine.
48:44 And that is the only way that you will see the father
48:47 in your afterlife.
48:48 And so I think to a certain degree,
48:50 it's like you need to let the gospel
48:51 stand on its own two feet.
48:53 You don't need it to depend on your level of recall.
48:55 Like, how quickly you can bring a verse out
48:57 or how quickly you can suggest a book for somebody to read
49:00 and how I think that that's important.
49:02 - I can't write that down again.
49:04 You need to let the gospel stand on its own two feet.
49:07 Would you send me your book of quotes?
49:09 I would love to.
49:10 I'll send you several of my books.
49:11 You send me your book of quotes.
49:13 - Okay, what's gonna be funny about that?
49:14 Is this gonna be a pad about like this?
49:16 And I'm just gonna jot down the last four or five things
49:18 I said that I thought was piffy.
49:19 And I'll send that over to you
49:20 and give you my John Hancock on it.
49:22 But what I think this gets to a discussion of as well,
49:24 and this has been a big problem for me.
49:25 So I'm just gonna ask you this question selfishly.
49:27 I don't even care if my audience cares.
49:29 But there have been huge stretches of my lifetime
49:31 where I didn't read the Bible because I thought,
49:35 well, you're not supposed to just read the Bible.
49:37 You're supposed to study it.
49:38 And it's like, well, I don't have time to study it.
49:40 And so since I don't have time to study it
49:43 and to compare translations
49:44 and to look at the original Greek and all that,
49:46 then I'm just not even gonna read it
49:48 because I got to this point to where it's like,
49:50 man, it could take you an hour to read a four,
49:53 you know, four verse story in the Bible,
49:57 just looking at the different comparisons
49:59 and the different commentaries.
50:00 And so it almost like ties you down a little bit.
50:03 So what would be your advice to me specifically
50:05 when I get into that mental mode of,
50:07 gosh, I just don't really have time for that right now?
50:09 - As you know, I deal with pastors.
50:11 I've said that three or four times in this podcast.
50:13 And what you just described is what happens to many pastors.
50:20 They stop reading the Bible from a heart perspective
50:23 because they think they're supposed to read it purely
50:26 from a cognitive or steady perspective.
50:30 They're used to looking at the Bible
50:31 to prepare sermons and other biblical teaching.
50:34 And so they get to the point where they say,
50:37 I'm exhausted, I cannot just,
50:39 they may not be saying it consciously,
50:41 so I got to be careful.
50:42 But they're saying it in some way or another,
50:44 I cannot just read the Bible
50:46 and let God speak to me and just let it flow.
50:49 If they stay in the Bible,
50:51 only from a steady perspective,
50:53 it is almost the same thing as they're not being
50:56 in the Bible because it is not letting God speak to them
51:00 from the flow of scripture.
51:02 I am all for a deep study of scripture.
51:04 I love expositional preachers.
51:06 I love to listen, like you said, the Alistair bag.
51:09 He's one of my favorites.
51:10 I love to listen to those who have dug deeply,
51:13 but I also love to hear from people who are immersed
51:17 in the word where the Spirit is speaking
51:19 just as they read it on a devotional level,
51:22 just as they read it as they would
51:24 in a conversation with God.
51:26 Remember it's God's word and when someone speaks,
51:30 they're not necessarily trying to exegeek for you.
51:33 They're trying to talk with you.
51:35 God's word is a conversation
51:37 and this is a conversation from the true and living God.
51:40 We can take time to listen and just relax a little bit
51:42 and not worry about the multiple translations and the depth.
51:46 There are times for that, but there's also times
51:48 just to listen to what God has to say through his words.
51:51 I would advise someone who is maybe doing that
51:54 to start going through the Psalms again and just read them
51:58 and say, "God just speak to me through these."
52:00 They'll even make it through them during the imprecatory Psalms
52:03 because they will allow God to just speak to them
52:05 and then get back in that devotional heartfelt way
52:08 of reading the word of God.
52:10 - I love that and one thing that's been a helpful thing
52:14 for me and my brain is I've tried to stop saying the Bible says
52:19 and I've tried to replace that with God says through his word
52:23 because that's different because the Bible is a thing.
52:27 The Bible is something you can set on your table.
52:29 The Bible is an app that you can open on your phone,
52:32 but that's not all it is, it is that,
52:34 but it's also God speaking to us through his word,
52:38 through his apostles, through the fathers of the faith
52:42 and those different things.
52:44 And so I think that gives you a little bit of a different,
52:46 I guess, level of anointing as you're preparing yourself
52:49 to go into Bible study.
52:50 Like again, it's not the Bible says,
52:52 it's God says through scripture.
52:53 God says through the Bible, like those types of things,
52:55 they just frames it a little differently.
52:57 Now, I'm looking at the clock here.
52:59 I know we're running out of time.
53:00 I have like 47 other things I wanna ask you about,
53:02 but I wanna end with this.
53:03 And it may seem like a little bit of a divergence
53:05 from some of the stuff that we've talked about,
53:07 but I wanna talk about the liberalization of seminaries
53:11 across the United States
53:12 because there have always been liberal seminaries.
53:15 There have always been people that have been fairly loose
53:18 with the scripture and the meanings of words.
53:20 And I'm obviously very, very skeptical of anybody
53:24 2000 years after a particular thing was written,
53:26 coming to me and saying, aha, I have figured out
53:29 what this word actually means and wouldn't you know it?
53:32 It agrees with my political sensibilities.
53:34 How interesting.
53:35 But I've read this guy's tweet a lot
53:37 and I've talked about it on my show.
53:39 There's a guy that's a faculty member
53:40 at North Wind Seminary.
53:41 I had never heard of North Wind, but this guy's,
53:44 yeah, this guy's name is Dr. Kevin Young.
53:46 And I read this in just the deep level of heresy
53:48 is astonishing.
53:50 I've realized that for me,
53:51 gay marriage actually points to a more beautiful semiotic
53:55 of Christ and his church than a mere hetero one.
54:00 God's kingdom is diverse in makeup, experience and belief,
54:03 but one thing unites above all, love, right?
54:07 And so you read that and it's like, okay,
54:10 this guy's not only saying that, you know,
54:12 a gay marriage and gay relationship is okay,
54:14 but it actually provides a more beautiful semiotic,
54:17 a more beautiful picture of Christ
54:19 and his dedication to his bride, the church.
54:22 You don't get this from a strict conservative reading
54:27 of what the words actually say in English,
54:29 much less what they were meant when they were written down
54:32 in Greek or Hebrew or Aramaic.
54:35 And this is a concern for me because obviously Gen Z
54:37 is the most liberal of all the generations that we've seen.
54:41 Their grasp of truth is interesting.
54:43 The moral liberalism of the things that they believe.
54:46 They think that, you know, you're too judgmental
54:48 if you have standard views on particular things.
54:51 But I think a lot of this is because we have these liberal
54:54 seminaries that create people like a Raphael Warnock
54:57 who is a reverend and now a United States senator
54:59 or still a United States senator
55:01 who doesn't believe in the resurrection
55:02 and doesn't believe that a woman should be kept
55:04 from killing an image bearer of Christ
55:05 that is currently residing in her stomach.
55:07 So do you see this getting any better in the future?
55:10 What can we do about it?
55:11 - I see it coming in waves.
55:13 Now, what the next wave will be remains to be seen.
55:16 You're talking about Gen Z,
55:18 but you're talking to an old geyser right now.
55:21 So I am a baby boomer.
55:24 I came through the '60s.
55:26 My most formative years were the '60s,
55:30 the civil rights riots, the assassination of Kennedy
55:34 and all of those things and Whitstock as well.
55:36 I came through that era
55:38 and I came from a liberal Methodist church as a child.
55:42 I became unchurched as well.
55:44 When I became a follower of Christ
55:46 through the gospel sharing of my high school football coach
55:49 and I ultimately, since God was pointing me
55:52 to a seminary to study for ministry,
55:55 one of the first things that happened was
55:56 I went to my denominational seminary.
55:59 I conservative denomination called the Southern Baptist
56:02 convention and I went to the mothership
56:06 in Louisville, Kentucky and as a student in the '80s,
56:11 I sat in class and heard that the resurrection was not real.
56:16 I heard that the virgin birth,
56:19 particularly as portrayed in Isaiah,
56:22 whether it was Deutero Isaiah,
56:24 Trito Isaiah III, the three author myth,
56:27 I heard I sat in classrooms,
56:30 but I also saw the pendulum swing the other way
56:35 where biblical truth became the standard.
56:38 And those professors who had drifted off
56:41 in the shadow of German theologians were not there,
56:45 but Bible believing professors were.
56:48 I cannot emphasize enough how important the training grounds
56:53 for our pastors and other church leaders is
56:57 or far the future of our churches.
57:01 The good news is, I've seen the waves come and go,
57:04 the bad news is I don't know if we're going to see
57:08 that type of reformation in the United States,
57:11 I don't see signs of it.
57:12 And so the cultural drift,
57:14 you know, a seminary naturally drifts to the left.
57:17 It only supernaturally pulls back
57:19 to the right in biblical truth.
57:22 And so if you just let something go without accountability,
57:25 without any type of sense that we are going to make sure
57:28 that this is what we teach and preach,
57:30 it will drift left naturally.
57:32 And those students who are trained there will become pastors,
57:36 they will become alumni and they'll pull their entire
57:38 denomination or whatever their network or movement is
57:41 to the left.
57:42 I am, I was encouraged to find that when after the 80s
57:46 that we begin to see things turn around,
57:48 I then became a dean of that same seminary years later.
57:51 And I saw the revolution where Bible believing truth took place.
57:56 I'm not seeing those things right now, Cal,
57:58 but I don't have the few of the future.
58:01 If I'm looking from a human perspective,
58:03 I would say it looks bad.
58:04 From God's perspective, I will continue to have hope.
58:07 But that drift has happened in many places
58:10 and it certainly has happened in American seminaries
58:12 and colleges and universities.
58:13 - And the thing is, is God doesn't need a particular
58:17 seminary, he doesn't need a particular denomination,
58:19 he doesn't need a particular political party.
58:21 He can get done what he needs to get done, right?
58:23 Whether we're in the way or not.
58:25 And I'm looking at the clock and we are unfortunately
58:27 out of time, I've really enjoyed our conversation today
58:29 and everything we've talked about,
58:30 but that's all for me.
58:31 Is there anything else you want to get off your chest?
58:33 - Nothing off my chest.
58:33 I'm greatly appreciated to be here.
58:35 It's always good to talk to someone
58:36 that's 50 to 60 years younger than I am.
58:39 - Sounds good. Well, Tom Rainer,
58:40 thank you for coming on a Daunted Life of Man's podcast.
58:43 - There you go guys.
58:44 I hope you enjoyed my interview with Tom Rainer,
58:45 but before we let you go,
58:46 we are going to do a quick resilience boost.
58:48 Add on Daunted Life, our mission is equipping men
58:49 to push back darkness with content
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59:01 and simple church.
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