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THE FORGING TABLE | Psalm 27 (Ep. 445)

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THE FORGING TABLE | Psalm 27 (Ep. 445)
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In this episode of The Forging Table, we dive deep into Psalm 27, exploring the themes of fear, identity, and the importance of seeking God's face. David's raw honesty about his struggles serves as a powerful reminder that even in our darkest moments, we can find strength and courage in the Lord.
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1:09 That's Eric. And that's, wait, wait, you haven't been here before, okay? We had a new guy amongst us.
1:14 So welcome, Dagan boy to the show. Dagan, how you doing?
1:17 I'm doing well. It's good to be the new guy and it's probably terrible to be the new guy.
1:21 It's terrible to be the new guy because we do a lot of things to the new guy.
1:24 And here's the other thing is there's not a fourth right now.
1:27 So there might be a fourth here in a second. So hey, life happens.
1:30 But what we do to kind of introduce the audience to people the first time they're on the show
1:33 is we have them answer three questions. So the first is, how did you become a Christian?
1:37 The second is, and you have like two minutes answer all these questions total.
1:40 So how did you become a Christian? How do you like to study the Bible?
1:44 How does your brain work? And we're going to add a fourth one for this.
1:47 And it's going to be what's your bench? Because, you know, in our lead up to this discussion,
1:53 I, as a joke, said that everyone that enters my presence has to do 25 burpees before I will
1:58 acknowledge them. And your reaction made me think that you possibly haven't worked out this
2:02 century yet. So just answer those four questions if you lose a question, but just start out with
2:06 how you became a Christian. That's an easy one. I grew up in a Christian home, lots of Christian
2:14 influence. Mom, dad, had us in church grew up in a church where scripture memory was really the
2:23 focus. And so I had a really good foundation of that. But then God really blessed me with
2:28 really good male influences in my life between can it cut camp and K life and and church. And
2:37 then that really laid the foundation to me becoming a Christian. It's one of those where I got baptized
2:43 when I was eight, but didn't really register until I was probably a junior in high school actually on
2:51 a ski trip with K life actually that that it really like the Holy Spirit really like grabbed me and
2:57 was like, Hey, I'm real. And this is a big deal. And you need to pay attention. So kind of went
3:03 through the motions got baptized when I was eight. But God really captured my heart when I was
3:08 high school gotcha. Okay, before we get to the second question, I'm going to give you your first
3:12 new guy critique. Can you please talk into the microphone? I mean, come on, it's like you don't do
3:15 this for a living. Come on right there. Now don't don't like chew on the microphone because that'll
3:19 make things even more awkward. But okay, so that gives us a good perspective. And the funny thing
3:23 about your story, I feel like that's a ton of the people stories that in it, I even talked to
3:27 someone this morning. So that gets us to how you became a Christian. So let's go into how do you
3:31 like to study the Bible and then kind of how does your brain work? So I'm, I'm like topical. So I
3:37 like a, I like to study the Bible topically, I like to dig around and find, you know, whether it's
3:43 love or forgiveness, but but really drawing from different places throughout scripture about that
3:48 topic. And see how that thread is woven, you know, Old Testament, New Testament, and consistent like
3:56 that partially is how my brain works. I do I will say like if if I'm in church, I love it when people
4:02 can be more inductive and lay it out. And I can listen to it and it makes sense. But if I'm going
4:09 to sit down and make sense of the scripture, it's going to be topically. Okay. And then is this the
4:14 burpees one? What's the next? Well, we need to skip right to burpees. No, it's like, so how did
4:18 your brain work? Oh, my brain? Well, so I mean, I think I naturally, I'm inclined to analogy in like
4:25 applying things to my everyday life. Like, how does that apply to me and my brain makes sense of it
4:31 that way? So are you more of a, because I have my perception of what you are, but are you more of
4:36 a slow processor? Are you a more of a Hey, let's know I kind of have an idea where we need to go.
4:42 Let's get out the door. Yeah, probably the latter. I mean, I'm pretty quick, not to say that I'm not
4:47 slow. I mean, you know, I'm my wife would probably say no, he's he's slow. But I typically can ingest
4:55 and very quickly, like wrap it around in my mind, whether it's a previous experience,
5:02 another memory or another story to kind of help me, you know, create an analogy in my mind that
5:09 makes it make sense. Yeah, I'm kind of similar way. And that's why like we have a good mixture of
5:13 different guys that we bring in and out because there's no one that's really in between. We either
5:16 have like our slow cookers, right? That that really need to labor over what you know, what they're
5:21 kind of feeling and understanding. And then you got, you know, more kind of snap judgment. Let's
5:24 get after it's high people. But then before we actually get into the scripture here, so how many
5:27 burpees do you think you could do in a row before your heart just like completely gave out? And I don't
5:32 know, you're you're standing next to a guy that, you know, could potentially help with that. You
5:35 know, he does like physical therapy stuff like that. But roughly how many in a row he's working
5:40 out. Yeah, yeah, I work out. It doesn't show. I hide it well. I think that's I think that's
5:46 actually a gift like you hide it behind that. Why are you exterior? I do. Hey, I'm I consider
5:52 myself intelligent. I hide that well too. Right. So I think that's a gift that God gave me is just
5:58 the ability. No, I do work out. It's, you know, it's old man workouts where it's really just kind
6:03 of keeping me flexible and keeping my back from hurting. But, you know, burpee stations,
6:09 I could probably knock out. I mean, I mean, 10, 15 like in a in a station and get onto the next is
6:15 probably where I'd where I'd like to quit burpees are there. There's such a microcosm of life in that
6:22 they're the worst thing possible. And it's just getting down and getting back up like there's it's
6:26 not complicated. Like it just it sucks. And like whenever you're like, Oh, I'm just gonna knock out,
6:31 you know, 100 burpees real quick. It's like you can do that real quick, but you're gonna leave a
6:35 part of your soul on the floor that you know you were belly flapping onto. But I think we've we've
6:39 set this up enough. But guys, as we talked about a little bit, we're going to be getting into the
6:42 Psalms now. So one thing that we're going to be doing is obviously we went through Galatians and
6:46 then first Timothy. And then every now and then we're going to be doing palate cleansers. So we'll
6:50 do some Psalms, maybe some Proverbs, maybe like a Philemon or something like that, something before
6:54 we get into whatever the next thing is. And so we kind of did a round table with some of the guys
6:58 here with undaunted life. And it's like, Hey, what are what are your favorite songs? Like what are
7:01 the songs that really speak to you? And so this first one is actually pretty special because there's
7:05 a member of our crew. And I I don't I don't even know if I can use his name on here because he's
7:10 currently deployed. He is in a part of the world that is not our part of the world there. Am I
7:15 going to be getting in trouble with the Pentagon? But anyway, this guy, he's been a part of this
7:20 group. He has not been on the forging table before. But he loves Psalm 27. So that's where we're
7:25 going to be starting right now. And just I know you're listening, listening to this buddy where
7:28 we're so happy to have you as a part of this crew. We wish you could be here right now. But we just
7:33 appreciate the work that you're doing overseas. But he did send me a note as to why Psalm 27 is so
7:38 important to him. And then we'll kind of dig in from there. So this is from our buddy. So he says,
7:42 this is my favorite Psalm. And verse one is among my favorite in the whole Bible. I chose Psalm 27
7:47 because it's simple, practical. And it is a picture of how I want to live my life. The whole chapter
7:52 points to how great our Lord is and how much we need him and should be seeking after him and his
7:57 kingdom. The Lord is everything. I am nothing without him. Be humble, seek him and his kingdom,
8:02 patiently and faithfully trust and wait on the Lord. He takeaways for me. And so again, buddy,
8:08 we appreciate you. You know who you are. We're so glad that you're listening to this and that
8:12 you're serving and doing what you're doing. But guys, whenever I dig into Psalm 27, it's really
8:18 hard to get past the first verse because it's such a definitional verse for kind of how we think
8:25 and how we act. And again, this is a Psalm of David, I believe all the Psalms that we're going to be
8:28 covering over the next couple of months are from David. But you know, it's the Lord is is my light
8:34 and my salvation, whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life of whom shall I be
8:40 afraid. And so there's a lot here really to start. That one thing that I did want to point out is
8:46 there's a few things that I've dug into that kind of break down the Psalms in different ways,
8:50 almost like here are the chunks. And so one that I looked at is verses one through six,
8:53 it's converses with self about privileges. So this is, you know, David conversing with himself
8:58 about privileges. Then verses seven through 12 is converses with the Lord about problems he's having.
9:04 And then the last two verses 13 and 14 are converses with self about perseverance. So we go from
9:09 privileges to problems to perseverance. But guys, let's just kick it off right there from the beginning.
9:13 I mean, the Lord is my light and my salvation, whom shall I fear? Because I would say for most of us,
9:19 we fear a lot of people, you know what I mean? Right. Yeah, I know I was looking at the
9:23 historical context of this. And I think there's kind of still some questions about it. But it
9:28 looks like that at the time saw or a saw had lost power, basically, Samuel had said, David's
9:35 going to be the next king. And this is going to be how it is. And the question was whether David had
9:42 been named king, like actually christened as king, or if he was still running from Saul. And this,
9:48 I think the majority seemed to fall in this kind of idea that Saul was in the process of pursuing
9:53 David. So clearly he's on the run the whole time. And if he had been king, then the other side could
10:01 be that it could have been when Absalom, his son was trying to usurp the kingdom. And David was
10:07 on the run again. So so he's really, I mean, David's really going through it here. And I think
10:11 though those are the Psalms that I'm more personally drawn to is the one where it's like, okay,
10:15 this guy's like not riding after he's come through the storm, like he's riding right in the middle of
10:20 the storm. But I guess with that first part is like, in whom shall I fear, like whom shall I be afraid?
10:24 I feel like we're afraid of a lot of people. There are lots. There's lots of talk about enemies
10:31 in this particular Psalm. But there's kind of this new thing in, you know, I'd be curious to
10:36 hear from both of you on this. There's this new thing in Christianity, maybe it's not new, but
10:40 we're trying to be defined by how nice we are, not how truthful we are, not how close to the
10:46 gospel we are. But we're trying to be defined by how nice we are. And then we assume inherently
10:51 that if we're nice, no one's going to be coming for us. It's a very sheep-like mindset to where
10:56 it's just like, I'm just going to be this nice sheep and the wolf will just never be around. That's
11:00 kind of when we talk about, you know, sheep, wolves, and sheep dogs. It's like, it's always
11:04 the sheep that are looking around wondering, why aren't there more sheep dogs? It's like, well,
11:07 you're, you're part of the reason why there aren't so many sheep dogs, because you're scared of them,
11:11 because you just, you assume that bad things will never befall you. And then when they do,
11:15 you're the first one crying out for the sheep dog, and he may not be nearby, but the wolf is.
11:19 So I guess that was the first thing that's, that stood out to me as I was digging into this. I mean,
11:24 for you guys, do you feel that at all? Well, my personal history on that, too, is in the past,
11:28 I've tried to play it safe. I mean, I'm in a, in a job where I'm dealing with people all day long,
11:33 and so it's real easy for me to just kind of play both sides. And I've had people say, well,
11:38 as it will ask me a question, I'll give them kind of a general answer. And they'll say, well,
11:42 that was a very political answer, just kind of a non answer, basically. And some of that is just
11:48 because we try to keep some of that on wraps in my job. But more and more just, as I've seen time
11:57 go on, I see that the lack of being able to step out and speak truth and be, take a side is actually
12:05 detrimental to our society. And so I think it's absolutely necessary. We can't just, you know,
12:12 ride the fence, right? No, I think the world is, is saying that if you, like, you can't pick a,
12:18 well, you, you can't be on the fence, you got to pick a side. And then if, you know, in,
12:25 in a lose my train of thought already, you're gonna edit this part out.
12:29 Well, no, like, I think, no, well, no, it's like, when you're talking about picking a side,
12:34 like, I guess it used to be the thing that the moderate approach used to be the approach that
12:40 everybody was shooting for because they didn't want to be seen as an extremist. But the problem is,
12:45 is in our modern day, there are not moderate options available. So think about the, the transgenderism
12:50 of kids thing, like, okay, what is the moderate position on that? Because it seems like there are
12:54 only two positions. Yes, kids can change their gender. So let's give them hormones and chop them
12:58 up and see if, you know, we can make them feel better. And the other side, which is like, no,
13:02 that's morally reprehensible. And we're not going to allow you to do that. There is no kind of middle
13:06 ground. So it's like, I guess that's kind of what you're saying, like there are two sides of that.
13:09 Well, and, and you know, you bring up kids and I look at my kids and think, I mean, my kids are,
13:14 they're nice, like little kids, they're nice. But man, I just see like, they get attacked all the
13:19 time, they get attacked with worry at night. Like, just because they're a, they're a nice kid,
13:24 and they aren't political and they're not going to school and, and drawing lines in the sand with
13:29 their class, right? Like, maybe they're having a disagreement over which crayon color is the best,
13:33 right? But like, but like they're, they're genuinely like pretty nice. But man, the, the things that
13:40 they struggle with in spite of the, the lack of all of that conflict that they or their, their peers
13:47 create, it still exists, right? And they're still, you know, talk about like in Psalms where he gets,
13:52 you know, pulled out of the mire. It's like, how do my, how are my kids in this mire? How was a,
13:58 how was a fourth grade girl in the mire? And it's because whether you're nice or not, like,
14:03 it's like you said, like, man, the wolf's coming for you. And, and he's dragging you into it.
14:10 Well, digging, why? So, again, I don't want to get too ethereal right from the beginning,
14:14 we're literally one verse in. Why are we fearful though? And so when I, when I say we, I guess I use
14:19 that collectively, but you all are, you know, raising, you know, a Christian, you're the head
14:24 of a Christian household, you're raising your kids, you know, in the nurture and admonition of the
14:28 Lord, you're showing them all those different things. And so you would think just academically
14:33 speaking, these kids, if they know the truth, if they know the end of the story, that they wouldn't
14:39 feel the fear, like, because I mean, Eric, you set it up, this is actual fear, like he's feeling
14:44 mortal fear, he's being chased down. And he's also thinking that what he's doing is God's will for
14:50 him, but he's still terrified. So I guess like, where does that come from? Because I don't just like,
14:54 you know, shorthand. Oh, Satan, you know, oh, sin nature, like there's something else there.
14:58 Sure. I think, I think, you know, in David's perspective, like he knows and knows he can rely
15:04 on on the Lord, right? Like the Lord is my light and my salvation. Like he knows it. He's been through
15:10 it time and time again. I mean, you keep reading through the Psalms and he is, he is praising God
15:15 for pulling him out, right? And he knows that if I turn to you, that you will, you know, you are
15:22 going to light up my face where it is harder for a young child who hasn't been through all of those
15:28 circumstances, who hasn't been out on the battlefield to be able to look back over their
15:33 shoulder and say, you know, a fourth grader is not going to say, well, back when I was in second
15:37 grade, God really, really pulled me out of the mire and I can trust him. So it becomes a, you know,
15:43 fear comes from, you know, it's, it's, it comes from us trying to trust ourselves. And if,
15:49 if you are the only one you can trust, then heck yeah, you better be scared. Right.
15:53 Yeah. And I was going to say like the word identity, it's just identity. I mean,
15:57 my kids know that they are part of the Browning family, but more so than that, they're, they're
16:03 part of God's family as believers. And so having a firm sense of identity, I think, is where David
16:09 can be so confident. He knows where he comes from. He knows his purpose. He knows his been anointed
16:15 king. And he knows where he's going. And so I feel like he's hanging on a promise of what
16:20 God has given him. And that's where he has partial, partial confidence. And then as Deagan said,
16:26 he has an experience too to fall back on to that just deepens his faith.
16:31 So he doesn't have to fear mankind when he has a fear for the Lord.
16:38 Well, and there seems to be a couple of different fears going on because when we go to verse two,
16:41 when evil doers assail me, and again, guys, I'm reading from the USB, when evil doers
16:45 assail me to eat up my flesh, my adversaries and foes, it is they who stumble and fall. So there's
16:51 a lot of things here. So to eat up my flesh, so that's liking and likening it to a beast of some
16:56 kind. So this in this area of Palestine, like there are lines, there are bears, there are different
17:01 animals that are in this area. Everyone kind of knew what it was like to be torn apart by a
17:04 beast because humans died at the, you know, hands of beasts or whatever. And then but to eat up my
17:10 flesh, I think there are other translations or other like, you know, ethnologies or whatever,
17:14 go back to say, or to slander me. Okay. So I was thinking the entire time. Oh, bodily destruction,
17:20 right? This is David being hunted down and he's going to be ran through with a sword,
17:23 but it's or to slander me. And he's putting it seemingly, and I'm not imputing something to David
17:29 that I don't know for sure. Obviously, I'm not talking to him, but it's like, it seems like he's
17:32 putting those two things on the same level, because he's mentioning this, this slander here. Again,
17:37 we get the end of the story. It is they who will stumble and fall. So that's good to keep in mind.
17:42 But that's an interesting point that this is a man that grew up in a very, very violent age,
17:46 where human life was very, it was basically worth nothing human life was. This was at a similar
17:52 time in history where the head of the household and different cultures was in charge of the entire
17:56 lives of everyone in their homes. And if they decided that you died, you died, there was no court
18:01 case, there was no arguments that were presented. You were just killed, right? And so to have all
18:06 this worry, all this mortal worry and physical injury worry, but he's putting it in the words of,
18:11 what does what do they slander me? And I mean, again, it's kind of easy for me because I have a
18:16 podcast and you know, I've got this, you know, public persona. And it's like, it's okay, it's
18:19 kind of easy to throw stones at me. But then then you have people that will want to throw stones at
18:23 people that are related to me, even tangentially. And like, to me, it's easy for me to kind of ignore
18:28 those comments. But I would be lying if I didn't didn't say they affected me because every now and
18:32 then I will look at a one star review. And that will bother me way more than I will be excited at
18:37 the last hundred five star reviews. So I guess where does that come from? Because like words
18:43 don't hurt. We were taught that when we were a little kid, they're they're they're supposed to
18:46 not hurt, right? They absolutely hurt, right? And in that, and I remember that very thing growing up
18:52 about sticks and stones, but words don't won't, you know, and I was like, well, okay, but but they
18:58 kind of do sometimes, you know, and it's amazing. I just feel like if if a person can't physically
19:05 harm you, that that's kind of the next best. And with our social media outlets and what not,
19:10 they can do it anonymously. And there are no repercussions, like just to say whatever they
19:14 want to say, and then just move on, right? But it doesn't mean that the receiver is not going to
19:19 feel something as a result. Well, and I think as an adult, you realize, you know, sticks and stones
19:25 might break my bones, but words will never hurt me. Well, words hurt. They're sharp, like,
19:30 they're a long time. And I know some people that can craft some really pointy words, right? And
19:36 it's like, and it's like that that's not the case. There are times where it's like, you know what,
19:40 I would rather be physically attacked than verbally attacked because I know that I'll just like
19:46 get over it. But man, the verbal stuff, there is a whole other layer of fear of,
19:50 well, I'm going to be verbally attacked, or I'm going to be slandered. And then, and then that is,
19:56 especially today, that gets out and that's everywhere, right? Like, it's not only you reading the
20:01 comments, it's everyone else reading comments, right? It's like that adds that extra layer of,
20:07 man, the sharpness of the word that it can ripple, right? My the black eye you gave Neil Heel,
20:13 eventually. But man, like, how far are those ripples going to go with the word?
20:17 Right. And the viral aspect of that too, it just blows up. And then it's like, you don't even have
20:22 time to say your piece or say your side, you know, before everybody feels or thinks a certain thing
20:28 about you as a result of that. Well, I wonder how you guys, because I mean, you guys have teenagers,
20:33 okay? And so I've got, you know, two year old and maybe below one year old. And so,
20:38 the social media thing, we haven't had to reckon with yet, right? You know, when do they get it?
20:42 Do they get it? Like, what devices on isn't on a smart device or a dumb device? But I know that
20:46 there are literally tons of people listening to this right now that are really, really worried
20:50 about these things, because they've seen what words have done to their daughters. Because again,
20:55 when you look at boys and when you look at girls and you can go back, there's there's literally
20:58 mountains of research that talk about how those two different sexes, yes, there are only two,
21:02 I know I'm a bigot, but how those two different sexes fight men typically fight, right? You have
21:09 a problem with another man, you fight and then you bury the hatchet. And on a lot of cases,
21:13 that guy becomes your best friend right afterwards. But then with girls, it's like, they will try to
21:18 destroy you from the inside. So there's a joke I heard from a comedian back in the day. It's like,
21:22 boys are, I'll clean it up. But it's like, boys are, we'll mess stuff up. Girls are messed up. And so,
21:28 it's like a guy, like a boy will like destroy the house you're living in. Like a girl will open up
21:34 your soul and like defecate into it. Like that's, it's just a difference. I know I imagine that the
21:41 non-clean version, but like, that's the clean version of that. But it's like, it's different
21:44 types of warfare. But it's almost as if I've heard this argument before and maybe going a little bit,
21:49 you know, a little bit too far. But I'm curious how y'all think about it. Social media is the
21:53 ultimate form of feminine aggression, because Twitter, Instagram, comments, section, you know,
22:02 Facebook, whatever, you're saying things to people, you're making threats that you would never
22:07 levy at somebody if you could smell them. If you were literally across the table from them,
22:10 if you're eyeball eyeball, eyeball the eyeball with them. But you can, you can decide who someone is
22:16 in an instant and then tweet about it. And then that will live forever. But also that could affect
22:22 that person directly, depending upon how seriously they take your comments. And so in light of what
22:26 David's talking about here, this is really an identity plea about who he finds his identity in,
22:31 in whose words he's going to listen to. Who's is he? Is he the people's definitions by their words?
22:36 Or is he God's definitions by his words? How do we reckon that like this? This is kind of like
22:41 almost like a parenting seminar right now. But like, how do you reckon with those types of things
22:45 whenever these words, these slanderous words can have such an unbelievably big and profound
22:50 effect on them? Well, and this may not answer your question, but I was thinking like, what do I care
22:55 about? Personally, like if someone's going to attack him, attack me, if they attack my character,
23:00 or my trustworthiness, like that's probably a bigger blow like you were saying earlier than
23:04 being physically attacked. And I wonder if just, you know, David's sitting here, he's like, well,
23:08 I am literally leading this nation. I don't want people slandering me because I don't want my trust
23:13 worthiness and my ability to lead to be hampered as a result of that. So as far as from my kids,
23:19 if that is that what you're asking or just in January one, you know, I mean,
23:22 my oldest, we've had multiple conversations about, you know, anything you put out on social
23:28 media, in essence, is there forever? It's it's not going anywhere.
23:31 Well, let me let me actually reframe it just a little, sure, sure. So I guess what I was thinking
23:35 about is, so when you break up with your first girlfriend, your parents know you're not going to
23:41 die. But you're 13, you think you're going to die. There will never be another girl that will come
23:47 along and will like you as much as this girl, right? They can see they've they've done more life,
23:52 they have more wisdom than you do. As a Christian parent, when you see someone that has had their
23:56 reputation, your your blood has had their reputation destroyed for something that maybe happened,
24:02 something that maybe didn't happen. They were slandered in some way, potentially on social media,
24:07 and then you have the pile on and the likes and the retweets and the quote tweets and all that.
24:10 Like, how do you help them still, I guess, formalize their identity and anchor it to something that's
24:16 real? Because again, their brains like 15 years away from being fully developed, and you're trying
24:21 to explain them, no, no, no, your identity is found in Christ, but it's like, but they're being mean
24:24 to me. Like, how do you deal with that? Well, part part of it is my experience. I remember that. I
24:29 remember in class, having a crush on this girl across the room, and she didn't like me. And yet,
24:37 it seemed like every other girl in the class liked me not, you know, I'm pretty good looking,
24:42 but but but I didn't know I was in the presence of royalty. You are the entire calendar. You're
24:48 not just Mr. July. I love it. But isn't that also true that like the one girl that doesn't like
24:54 you is the target right? See, I was a fat ginger as a kid. So there was never a girl that liked me.
24:58 So we had opposite problems, but please go on. Yeah, I mean, then invariably what you'd be like,
25:03 well, I guess we're just gonna just have to move on. And as soon as you move on, then also let
25:07 girl likes you. And everybody else hates you. And it's just and I and I know that with with my with
25:12 my oldest, he's now in middle school. And I can tell he's like, he'll come home and he just seems
25:17 depressed. And he won't want to talk about it. Then we'll talk about it. And he'll be like, man,
25:22 I want to change schools. We'll talk a little bit more. It's like, you just know, I don't
25:27 want any friends. You know, nobody likes me or whatever. I'm like, I've been there. I know exactly.
25:31 Give it like two weeks. Give it two weeks. Sure enough, two weeks later, everything's okay.
25:35 And then another month goes by and maybe go through another one of these cycles. It's up and it's
25:39 down. But but the reality is is just going back to Dave. I mean, your identity should not be tied
25:46 to what people think about you because you can never please everybody all the time. There's just
25:50 no way you cannot please everybody all the time. And you cannot leave live up to their standards
25:56 all the time because they will if you try to meet them, then they'll change them and just look at
26:00 clothing. It's like everybody wants to wear the whatever the Nike shoes, the air ones.
26:07 Well, guess what? In about six months, it's going to be pumice or something. So as soon as you
26:11 they might take you five minutes, five months to get those Nike's, but man, you've got them and
26:14 then all of a sudden styles change. Let's be real about something. It'll never be pumice. But
26:18 Dave, and what were you going to say? Well, you know, middle school is another planet.
26:24 Yeah, can we just say that? Like middle school, like I I was awkward. It doesn't even just like
26:31 even come close to describing it, you know, like, and I thought I was a pretty cool middle schooler.
26:36 Yeah. And you know, and then I had kids and I've talked to my parents and been like,
26:39 you know, I'm one of five. And my parents with the hands down, the most awkward, difficult time for
26:46 all of us was middle school. It's this transitionary period, you know, you're you're looking like an
26:52 adult, but you don't have the brain of an adult. And so part of that's hard on a parent because
26:57 you know, I've got a freshman in high school and he looks the part of being able to have a conversation
27:03 and but but he doesn't have the brain. Now he's a smart kid, but like he doesn't have the emotional
27:10 maturity, he doesn't have a spiritual maturity. So physical comes first, right? So then you think
27:16 that they've got it. But you know, you ask how we battle that man, like, it's hard. It's really
27:24 hard. The way we battle it in our house and we're believer and especially in this kind of stuff,
27:28 when they lack the spiritual maturity, it's I think you run to scripture and you're you're
27:33 thumbing through the pages and you want to find the magic verse, right? And so but what we really
27:39 realized is it is when when it comes to raising your kids and and giving them the the help through
27:47 scripture, it's quantity over quality. Like it's just constant, you know, reinforcing scripture,
27:54 scripture, scripture, rather than sifting through and trying to find that one quality scripture
27:58 that you think is just going to make everything make sense to them and they'll go, oh, yeah,
28:02 that makes sense. God's he's a stronghold of my life, just like he was for David super easy.
28:07 So I wonder for you guys as well, because I know a lot of people that listen to my show,
28:10 listen to Joe Rogan show as well. And one thing that Joe Rogan has said on his podcast before,
28:14 that his favorite people in the world are people that had absolutely jacked up upbringings,
28:20 like abuse, violence, just really depraved upbringings. But they came through that now they're
28:26 professional comedians, professional fighters, you know, they're these really, really impressive
28:29 people that came out on the other side. Now, ignoring the fact that, you know, a lot of people
28:33 that have that start get, you know, chewed up and spit out and then we never hear about them,
28:36 right? We don't buy, you know, tickets and try to go see them be funny on stage. But as we're seeing
28:41 here, you know, especially with the first six verses, you know, we were, this is David talking
28:45 about his privileges, but then, you know, verses seven through 12, when he's talking about his
28:48 problems, Joe Rogan has said before, and a lot of other people have said this, is he wants,
28:53 he has these two competing thoughts in his soul that he wants his kids to, to endure hardships,
28:59 because he's seen the benefits it's given him growing up in hard situations.
29:04 But then at the same time, he worked so hard so that his kids wouldn't have a hard life,
29:08 you know what I mean? And we live in a very affluent community and there's, there's a lot of money
29:12 here, there's a lot of private school this and there's a lot of, hey, if your kid has the most
29:16 niche hobby possible, there are 10 coaches in this city that will, you know, charge you $500 an
29:21 hour to teach him how to be better at, you know, Rubik's Cube or whatever. The thing about it,
29:25 I struggle with that as well. I know a lot of guys listening to this is we are so thankful
29:30 for David for laying his laments out, but we don't get Psalm 27 if he's not on the run,
29:37 if he's not being chased down. Like, we don't, we don't really know who David is without, you know,
29:43 God's providences as well. But we just don't, we don't like reading stories about people that
29:47 didn't overcome, you know, those people that didn't survive. We like the stories like endurance or,
29:52 you know, skeletons on the Sahara or those books like that were, no, they endured unbelievable
29:57 situations, but then they overcame. So I guess for you guys, again, as parents,
30:02 this is kind of turning into a parenting thing. Like, how do you feel about wanting to make sure
30:05 that your kids experience this lament, experience this pain because you know it'll make them better,
30:11 but at the same time as a parent, you want to protect them, you know what I mean?
30:14 Yeah, I think that trials will come. It's not if they will come. It's just when they will come.
30:20 We were just having this conversation with some friends right before I came over here and I was
30:23 saying, you know, my oldest is 13. And I just think it's super important that because I remember
30:30 when I was about his age, 13, 14, 15, my mother is hands down the best person on the face of the
30:37 earth I've ever met. But when I was 13, 14, 15, I had a growing distaste for her because I felt
30:44 like she was holding me back a little bit from growing growing up. I was, I was our only child.
30:49 And I know she wanted to hold on even to this day. And it's a joke. She'll still say, "You're still
30:54 my baby." And I'm like, "Mom, I know. I know. I'm still your baby." But there is an important
31:01 aspect, at least for the mothers out there. And you could say to the fathers, "You've got to let
31:05 your kids fail. You have to give them the opportunity to fail or succeed. If you do not, you're holding
31:10 back." And the reality is, is they're going to hit trials. That is just, that is life. And
31:16 there is resilience that can be built through that. And to go a little step further, I mean,
31:21 there are times where it's just the quantity and the quality aspect what you're saying earlier.
31:26 Sometimes you just need to be with your kids. It's kind of like Job and his friends. And I know his
31:30 friends weren't very nice to him and said things to say they shouldn't have been saying
31:34 when he was going through his trial. But there are times where just being with your son and your
31:39 daughter and praying with them, just listening to him, just not trying to have the answer per say,
31:45 "Yes, you can read scripture." But sometimes they just need you to be there.
31:48 Those are great thoughts. And when you started talking about your mom, it made me think that we
31:56 were kind of thinking along the same lines in that it's hard enough to, you talk about how to
32:03 prevent the lament. It's like, "Well, I'm broken. I'm a broken 45-year-old dude. I'm trying every
32:11 day not to be the lament." I'm trying not to be a stumbling block for my kids. I'm trying to
32:17 be patient. I'm trying to be encouraging. I'm trying to, with my girls, you talk about the
32:23 difference between raising a son and raising daughters is when they have problems, they don't
32:28 want to hear me fix them. They just want me to sit down with them and hold on to them. And
32:33 that is taken a lot for me to not be the lament. And then another thought I had was I had breakfast
32:42 here in town with a mentor of mine whose kids are unbelievable. It's like where you're around
32:49 their kids and you think, "They've got it all figured out. I need to spend more time with these
32:52 people." And so just asking, "We're just catching up and his kids are grown and married now." And
32:58 he's asking about each of mine. And I said, "You know, I've got this freshman and he's a great kid."
33:03 But I feel like I've got three and a half years to get all I need done in him to prepare him to
33:13 go off to college. And what he had told me, I'll give you the short version, but really what he
33:19 told me was he's not going to be ready to go off to college. You weren't. I wasn't. That's not how
33:24 college works. That's not how high school works, right? You do your best. You love him. He was
33:31 encouraging me that Michelle and I were great parents. He said, "Boys, they're going to hit their
33:36 stride when they're like a sophomore or junior and they're going to realize, "Oh, I got to go get a look.
33:40 I have to have a life after this. And then things are going to really start to kind of make sense
33:45 for them." But he said, "What he needs between now and till he's about 22 is grace."
33:51 And that just hit me like a ton of bricks because man, it takes the pressure off of me having to
33:58 judge how deep do I get involved to fix this thing he's going through. But when you read this in
34:06 scripture, it's like, "Man, I am not his fix it person. I'm kind of the conduit to
34:11 that the Lord uses while he is developing spiritual maturity." Sure. And so I need to make sure that
34:18 I'm equipping myself with godly advice and we're going to scripture and we're talking about that.
34:24 But I need to extend him grace because he is going to fail for the next five or six years.
34:32 Yeah. And I would just add that to pray, pray, pray. There's not one ounce of us. There's not
34:39 something specific we can say that is going to change our kids. Our kids are changed by the
34:46 Holy Spirit. They're changed by someone supernatural, not by their parents. So being able to just
34:55 understand that we need to be in prayer for our kids, that God will take hold of them,
35:00 change them, change our desires. Because if we don't, then if it's all parenting based on reward
35:08 system, do this, you get this, don't do this, whatever. And there's nothing wrong with that,
35:13 don't hear me wrong. But if that's the only reason and they are fearful of getting in trouble and
35:18 that's it, they will potentially be compliant in your home. But if they have had no heart change
35:24 when they leave your home, they are likely just going to revert back. Well, guys, there's an
35:29 interesting through point with some of the stuff that you're saying. And so, Degan, you're like,
35:32 you know, try not to be the lament. And so I feel like that could be its own discussion
35:37 like being lament. But look at verse 10. So we're skipping down to verse 10 here.
35:41 "For my father and my mother have forsaken me, but the Lord will take me in."
35:44 So this should bring us as parents a little bit of relief. Because if we are the worst of the worst
35:54 jackwagons on the planet, and we mess up everything, and we're statistically those dads,
36:00 for my father and my mother have forsaken me, but the Lord will take me in. And so,
36:06 when you talk to these people that were orphaned, right, and that's just a different perspective.
36:09 When kids that were passed around a bunch of different homes didn't know their their
36:12 dads, maybe the new, their mom for a little bit ended up not knowing them, you know,
36:16 moms in jail or something like that, those situations, those people to a degree, they lost their innocence
36:20 way before most of us and way before any of us would have wished they would have lost their innocence.
36:24 But they have a perspective on verses like this that we will just read through and pass right by.
36:29 Because again, verses 7 through 12, those are, you know, David, you know, conversing with the Lord
36:34 about his problems. And I mean, what could be worse for a child than to be forsaken by their
36:40 father and mother? It's one thing to have your father and mother die in a car accident while you're
36:43 at daycare and, you know, then you grow up without them, but to be forsaken by them, to literally be,
36:49 I mean, just think about Jesus on the cross, like the, the, the negative again, he felt the
36:54 weight of sin, but it's like, my God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Right? Like, you've turned away
37:00 from me entirely. And even in that scenario, which is worthy of lament, right? They've become
37:07 lament. Your mother and father have become that lament. God is still there for you. He's still
37:11 providing for you. But I want to back up to verse 7, because, and I want to camp out on verse 9,
37:16 but I want to kind of set it up again. Verse 7 kind of starts this section about David conversing
37:20 with the Lord about his problems. Hero Lord, when I cry aloud, be gracious to me and answer me.
37:26 You have said, seek my face. My heart says to you, your face, Lord, do I seek? And then the
37:32 beginning of verse 9, hide not your face from me. Again, I have this thing because again, and
37:37 day, and I'm a lot like you, I'm a fast processor. I want to get it through as quickly as possible.
37:40 Let me just hit the high points and then I can, you know, you know, fudge the rest of it. But
37:45 David is pleading with God to make his face appear. And it's one thing to seek the Lord. And I feel
37:52 like in our modern way of doing things when we're sitting in our, you know, big houses and driving
37:56 around our cars that work. And we have, you know, we walk from one 70 degree environment to another
38:02 70 degree environment. We kind of, you know, we live kind of this easy life. We think when we
38:06 seek God that, Oh, everything else in my life is super easy. And if it's not that easy, I hire it
38:10 out. But in this moment, he's pleading with God, please don't hide your face from me. Like that,
38:16 that really hung me up actually. Verse 9, hide not your face from me. Because shouldn't that be
38:21 just, oh, yeah, he's not going to hide his face. But he's begging. He's like begging God. So I don't
38:26 know if that stood out to you guys. Verse 9. But for me, I was just like, Oh boy, I feel like we can
38:29 camp out there for a little bit. No, I do that. The previous verse eight seek my face, you know,
38:35 and we're David is saying you have said seek my face. And so he's like, you know, I'm supposed to
38:40 seek your face. But what I get to out of nine or what I get out of nine is, is he is, he's humbling
38:47 himself to the point where he is not worthy of God's attention, right? It's like, hey, like, I'm,
38:53 I am proof that this world is full of sin. Like me, David, I'm proof, like, don't hide your face
39:00 from me. Like I don't deserve your attention. I don't deserve to reflect your goodness. Like,
39:07 because of, because I'm jacked up. So I think it's one of those where it's like, Hey, you've said
39:12 to, to seek your face, but when you look at me, don't turn away because after what you see, right?
39:18 Right. And I was saying same thoughts. Like, you know, he's David is clearly aware of his sin. And we
39:25 know that when we harbor sin in our, in our life, that even our, even our prayers or be our detestable
39:31 to God. So I think that he is continually trying to remind himself and clear himself so that God,
39:37 till he can seek his face, I was also reminded by, by Moses when he went up and received the 10
39:43 commandments and he came down his face was glowing. Just that radiance from, from being in the presence
39:50 of God. And I, there's just desire. And I think there's probably some of the other Psalms we'll find
39:55 this as well. Just this idea of are we around people that are radiant, people that radiate God,
40:02 that, that, that have been with him, that have seen his face, that has seen his glory. I think that
40:07 seeing his face is, would you think kind of an allegory or at least of, of God's glory, of his
40:13 righteousness? Is that kind of what you get there? Well, I think so. And then, you know, you bring up
40:17 something interesting when you're around people that are seeking the Lord, it makes you want to
40:22 seek them. Again, we spend a lot of time talking about kind of our middle school, middle school
40:25 selves and our middle school kids. It's like, well, if a lot of kids start doing a certain thing,
40:29 it's amazing how quickly that makes you want to do that thing, whether it's an activity, a sport,
40:33 you know, buying a particular pair of shoes or just doing something, which, you know, leads to
40:38 those conversations like, all my other friends have TikTok. Why can I have TikTok? And it leads
40:41 to a lot of those discussions that you have to have that aren't nearly as fun for you or the kids
40:46 to be frank. But surrounding yourself with people that help you seek, I think that's, that's a rough
40:52 thing for a lot of, especially guys out there that maybe you're kind of the lone wolf guy,
40:55 maybe you're a little bit more introverted. And then you find yourself in these valleys in your
40:59 Christian walk. And some of these valleys can last a long time. Like, you know, not, not days,
41:05 like we're talking, you know, potentially years, decades, those types of things. And when you're
41:09 in those valleys, if you're surrounded by people that are seeking him, it's going to speed you
41:13 through the valley. But we don't, I guess we don't put a value on that. Or like, we want to be around
41:17 people that think like us, right? They vote like us. They, they wear the same color hat on Saturday
41:22 afternoons during college and all those things. But at the same time, they're, they're kind of
41:25 worried. Hey, Matt, get on in here, buddy. Get on in here. But you know, that that's kind of what
41:30 we're talking about. Let me make sure I turn your mic on everybody. Welcome, Matt to the podcast.
41:33 He's Matt. Hello, Matt. Hello, Matt. All right. So, so Matt, again, we're here in, in Psalm 27,
41:38 but I was just kind of talking about because, because Browning brought up this really good point
41:42 that we're, we're around people and whenever people seek us or sorry, whenever they're seeking
41:47 God, like that, that's kind of a good thing that kind of helps us. But I guess for men, why is that
41:52 so difficult for men to surround themselves with other men that are also seeking the Lord? Because
41:56 everything else seems easy. These guys, you know, like the things I like, they do the things that I do.
42:00 But it seems like we stop short of, and they're also seeking God like I know I should be. Does that
42:05 make sense? Yep. Absolutely. We just get stuck on the superficial. I think it's easy. I think it
42:12 keeps us from being vulnerable. No guy wants to admit that he's not everything, you know,
42:18 that they doesn't have it figured out. One of the things that we as men want to know about ourselves
42:24 is that we have what it takes to get her done. So I think it's hard sometimes. We don't want
42:30 those interactions that take us to a level where we have to admit that we're, we fall short, right?
42:36 Yeah, that's, I mean, you nailed it. Good answer. That's a plus for me.
42:40 Woo. You know, A plus from the new guy. I'm sensitive to this topic because, you know,
42:50 I had really good role models growing up. And it took a long time to be able to trust,
42:58 right? Like the trust has to be there for you to feel vulnerable enough to like,
43:03 know that, hey, I'm about to share my feelings and I'm not going to be like,
43:06 ridiculed or you three aren't going to go away and talk about me or something. So, you know,
43:10 when I'm talking to my son, you know, I let him know that, you know, first of all, I don't have
43:16 everything figured out and I am proof that we need a savior. Like that's what you have as a dad,
43:21 right? Right. So don't, don't build me up beyond the reality of I'm, I'm just a broken dude in this
43:29 world that has the pleasure of being your dad. Well, it's a good thing that you, you realize that
43:33 at some point, because it actually reminded me something, Matt, that you talked about on a previous
43:36 episode of the forging table is you grew up thinking, man, I'm a really good kid. Like I don't get in
43:40 trouble and I don't read, you know, I get good grades and I don't really like run around with
43:44 riffraff. But kind of to go back to the point that you brought up Browning is like, surrounding
43:49 yourself with people that aren't getting in trouble as one thing, surrounding yourself with people
43:53 that are also good athletes and, you know, you know, doing a good diet and not, you know, making
43:57 the mistakes, I would get them kicked off the team. That's a wholly different thing than being an
44:00 adult male that is surrounded by men. That is, that are really getting after and trying to like
44:05 seek the Lord through his word through prayer and those types of things.
44:08 No, I think that's a great point. And I, I think we could be so well, we, not, we can, we are so
44:15 turned inward that there is this tendency to say, Oh man, I didn't mess up here or I did this thing.
44:23 So I must, I must have it right. And I think to Dagan's point about being a dad, I think the
44:30 worst thing that we can do to our kids is have them believe that we've got it all figured out.
44:36 They say don't meet your heroes because they're going to let you down. Well, if you think your dad
44:39 doesn't ever mess up or your mom never messes up because they never, not that they're intentionally
44:44 trying to say, I don't ever mess up. But I think what you're trying to say, or one of the things
44:49 you're trying to say is we've got to be vulnerable enough with our kids to say, I am wholly unworthy
44:56 of salvation. But God is merciful and full of grace that even a sinner like myself
45:02 could have salvation and don't look at me as the measuring stick. Look to me trying to pursue
45:12 the measuring stick, which is Jesus. Watch me chase after him. And that's what, that's what we're
45:18 called to do. That's what you're called to do. But don't look at me as this perfect person.
45:22 Cause I'm not. Well, so what is that it? Is it humility then that for a lot of, again, we're
45:26 talking to a mainly male audience right now, or we're talking to ladies that wish their men
45:30 had this community of people around them. Is it, is it that humility to be able to say like,
45:36 even going back to what you said, Dagan, it's like, knowing that you've got guys around you,
45:39 that if you admit your worst thing, your worst sin, whatever that thing is for you,
45:43 that they're not going to be like, Oh my gosh, that guy's crushing in business. But I guess he
45:46 doesn't have it all going on. Like, I feel like there's a lot of that, that kind of an issue with
45:50 men is like, are we, are we scared to be judged that way? Is it a pride thing? Like, I'm kind of
45:55 trying to come coalesce that because I think that's coming right from David's words here.
45:59 Right. And it kind of goes both ways. It's really interesting. You've got guys that will then get
46:04 into these groups and they'll start sharing, but they don't, they just get patted on the back too.
46:10 It's just like, Oh man, we all sin. It's okay. You know, and then you'll be all right. You know,
46:16 so there's no, there's no depth. It's just, Hey, we're just sharing all our, all our stuff with
46:21 one another. None of us are getting better. I'll be back next week. I'll probably have done the
46:24 same thing. So it's almost like the pendulum on the other side. I've talked about this on the show
46:27 before, but like back in my early twenties, when I was trying to like, you know, get over porn and
46:30 those types of things, like really get a handle on it, porn and masturbation. I went to this group
46:33 that was suggested to me. And it's this group that you show up and there's probably like 35 40
46:37 guys in this room. And they immediately break you up into groups, which I think is the worst way to
46:41 do men's ministry. You don't know these people. You don't trust these people. You haven't accomplished
46:44 anything with these people. Like so you just showed up in a room and you have a penis. And so it's
46:47 like, ah, we're going to put you in a group and it's just going to all be good. So here I am in this
46:50 group. And there are all these guys are going around, rounding and they're saying, well, you know,
46:56 I made it two days without, without masturbating. And you know, last week, I only made it one day.
47:00 So and everyone's like, Oh my gosh, that's so awesome. And they're like, dude, you can do it.
47:04 Maybe this week you can get three days. And I'm like, all right, cool. And it's not my turn to share
47:09 yet. And then we get to this guy. He was a pharmacist. Okay. So he would meet up with random chicks
47:14 and like Walgreens parking lots. And they would bang in the car. He got STDs that he accidentally
47:20 gave to his wife, but he was a pharmacist and he knew what the symptoms look like. So yes,
47:25 Dagan, if you, those just listening to this, Dagan just went totally slacked on here. He
47:30 would literally put the medicine in his wife's food to serve to cure her of whatever venereal
47:36 disease that he gave her, right? So we go from the guy that can't, you know, get over that,
47:41 you know, two or two days without masturbating. Then we got this guy different level of depravity.
47:46 But the, the answers from all the guys was the same. Hey, man, it's like, you made it a week
47:51 without banging some random hoe bag in the parking lot and then sneaking some pharmaceutical drugs
47:56 into your wife's food. That's so great. And awesome. So I feel like the pendulum swings the
48:00 other side where it's like, we're going to just be compassionate. And we're not going to worry
48:03 about victory at all. Because that's when you get men around you that are willing to like grab
48:08 you by the scruff of your hoodie and say, brother, you're not going to treat your wife like that
48:11 anymore. You know, you talked about that on previous episode, Brownie, like you made an off-colored
48:15 joke, you embarrassed your wife, and you had a sheepdog get in your face and say, brother,
48:18 I know you love your wife. And that wasn't loving your wife. But we don't have those guys,
48:22 especially if you're successful, especially if you've, you know, you've got the respect of the
48:26 people in the community, you keep those sheepdogs, keep those people that will call you out on your
48:30 on your stuff, like, you know, your Paul to Peter and Galatians to you keep those people kind of
48:34 at arms distance. So it almost goes beyond just pride. It's just like, hey, I'm just trying to
48:39 protect my little bubble that I feel like I can completely control. No, it's like Christmas.
48:43 Christmas comes every year. Like you've heard that saying before, right? Like it doesn't stop the
48:48 fact that I shop the week before Christmas. And you're that me saying that guarantees that my
48:55 wife will never listen to this cast. She doesn't even know you're here. I can't even have her know
49:01 that. But it's like, it's like, Hey, it's a guarantee. Christmas is going to be December 25th of this
49:06 year. Well, it's like all throughout the Bible, it says you will be attacked in the enemy. The
49:11 enemy's mean, you know, up here earlier in verse two, you know, when evil doers assail me to eat
49:17 up my flesh, like, that's not Hey, when evil doers come to call me names in my front yard,
49:23 it's they're going to come up and eat up my flesh. Like all throughout scripture, it's
49:27 hey, this world is full of attack. And you are the target. Yeah, but as men, it's like,
49:34 like I'm going to walk throughout today, acting like I'm above that and like nothing's attacking
49:40 me and I'm good. It's like, no, no, no, every single one of us has been bombarded with attacks
49:46 from whatever angle the enemy can get us on at that day. And that's what I feel like we,
49:51 like, that's the starting place of vulnerability is acknowledging because it's already written out
49:58 for us. And and and and David does a great job of of saying like, you know, hey, God rescued me from
50:05 the pit. But he didn't rescue me from the pit to make me comfortable. He rescued me from the pit
50:10 to restore me so I can go back out to the battle. Right. And like, that's what we need is we need
50:15 to get together. We need to understand that we're broken. We need a break and we need to get that
50:21 off of us because guess what? We're going to wake up tomorrow and the attack is still coming.
50:24 I think and when you're surrounded with other guys like you, it's like a phalanx, right? So
50:30 you're protecting the guy to your left and the guy to your right is protecting you. And most of us
50:35 don't have that and in really a spiritual formation. And so you leave yourself open to where not only
50:41 can you be physically attacked, but you can be spiritually attacked. There's a lot of negative
50:44 things that can happen to you. And also, you may get very, very weary about waiting because you
50:49 think, I can't wait right now. I'm in a desperate motion. I'm in a desperate state, which takes us
50:55 to verses 13 and 14 here. This is the end of Psalm 27. I believe that I shall look upon the
51:00 goodness of the Lord and the land of the living. Wait for the Lord. Be strong and let your heart
51:05 take courage. Wait for the Lord. So we repeat, wait for the Lord. So verse 14, that word wait,
51:13 it's not like wait, like wait patiently. Like if you start getting jittery, sit on your hands,
51:18 just wait patiently. It's more like eager anticipation, right? So like I remember being a little kid
51:24 and it was my birthday. And you know, I know my friends are coming over like I would like under
51:29 like a crazy person go to the front door to just, Oh, I wonder if my friends are here. Oh, not yet.
51:34 Okay, then I go back in the living room in 30 seconds later, I come back. I wonder if my friends
51:37 are yet. That's eager anticipation. And when you're waiting eagerly, you're anticipating that they
51:42 will show, right? I wasn't going to the door because I wasn't sure if they were going to make it.
51:47 It was I couldn't wait for them to make it. So it's that same thing here that we shouldn't just be
51:52 giving up on on God's answer to us because it didn't come in our timing. Right. I was just
51:59 watching with Canon, the first Matrix last night. And remember when Neo has that phone and Morpheus
52:06 calls him at work and says, Hey, they're coming after you. You want to get out of here or not. And
52:13 so he has them on the phone. He said, you've got to go when I say go, but don't do anything until
52:18 I tell you. And so he navigates out, of course, he's it's complete failure. He ends up getting
52:22 captured anyways. But but it's that same idea that when God says go, you go, but when God says wait,
52:28 you wait. And I was reminded of Abraham and Sarah. Remember, Abraham had that promise. He said,
52:34 I'm going to give you a child. It's going to be a blessing, you know, your fame is going to be
52:39 more numerous than the sands and you know, the oceans and the stars in the sky and that sort of
52:43 thing. And he got a little impatient. And his wife came to him and said, you know what? Yeah,
52:49 we've got a guard here. You can just go ahead and do that now. And we'll get it done. And of
52:54 course, we know what happened as a result of that. But, you know, that's wonderful. That's why I
53:00 really like the Bible. The Bible is not clean. It does not give you perfect human beings that did
53:06 exactly what God said every single time. No, it's actually pretty darn embarrassing,
53:10 which another argument for the authenticity of the Bible, of course, too. But yeah, wait for the
53:16 Lord. It does. It does. It shows all of our all of our bad stuff by that eager anticipation.
53:22 We serve a God that will show up and does show up. And it's not a it's not a prayer of we don't
53:26 pray and say, Oh, gosh, please, I hope that he hears me or I hope that God loves me. Like we can
53:34 rest assured that he does and he does deliver us. And I thought that what a great ending to
53:39 a prayer in a song that we can anticipate this God who the God of the universe that
53:49 created us from dust still looks on us and says, I love you. I'm with you.
53:57 That's so cool to me when it's a lesson in patience for guys like you and me,
54:01 Dagan, who are very, very quick to react and also quick to lean on our own
54:06 understanding and to lean on our own abilities. And the thing that's interesting about that as
54:12 well, I wrote down as you were saying that, Matt, I wrote down the word pragmatism. And the reason
54:16 why I wrote that down is because what is the pragmatic approach with Hagar? They took the
54:21 pragmatic approach like this is if you were to hire a business consultant to come in or a
54:26 relationship consultant, they would they would survey the environment and say, well, these things
54:31 are happening. But looking over here, we got a young womb that we can probably stick something
54:34 in. Like, let's let's go and make this happen. Right. That's the pragmatic approach. That's the
54:38 approach we're getting from a lot of our pastors now. Okay. These are pastors that are really worried
54:42 about being, you know, leadership gurus and having conferences and being invited to speak.
54:47 They're not being introduced as senior pastor of ex church, they're being introduced as leadership
54:52 guru or host of blah, blah, blah leadership podcast. And it's just kind of like,
54:56 those things aren't inherently bad, but that's not your job. Your job isn't to do that. Your job
55:01 isn't to be Mr. pragmatic, because as you just pointed out, Eric, there are things in the Bible
55:05 that don't make a whole lot of sense. You know, when people during Donald Trump's administration
55:09 was like, well, you know, God can draw straight lines with a crooked stick when you talk about
55:12 Roe v. Wade and the three Supreme Court justices and those types of things. The Bible is just
55:16 crooked sticks. Like, that's it. Like, there's not that person in the Bible that's like, man,
55:21 that is exactly aside from Jesus. Like, yeah, aside from Jesus, all the normal regular non deity
55:26 light people, like those people were right there in the thick of it, making a bunch of stupid
55:31 decisions, because pragmatism, because they needed to get things done on a certain timeline. And
55:36 they weren't waiting for the Lord in any type of anticipation, much less an eager anticipation.
55:42 So guys, that's the first song that we covered again, we're going to be covering songs for the
55:45 next couple of months. And so but as there is more to say, we're just going to have to leave it
55:49 there for this one. But guys, come back next Sunday, where we will dig into Psalm 34, which is my
55:54 personal favorite Psalm. So guys, if you don't read Psalm 34, do not listen to my show next week,
55:58 you are not invited. So make sure you guys read Psalm 34 so you can be prepared for next week.
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We serve a God that will show up and does show up.
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It's hard enough to... not be the lament.
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We need to understand that we're broken. We need a break.
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