← All episodes
The Forging Table

THE FORGING TABLE | Nehemiah 2 (Ep. 463)

May 21, 2023 1h 9m Full transcript available
THE FORGING TABLE | Nehemiah 2 (Ep. 463)
0:00 / 1h 9m
In this episode of The Forging Table, we dive deep into Nehemiah 2, where Nehemiah's journey from sorrow to action unfolds. He teaches us the importance of preparation, patience, and the power of prayer as he rallies the people of Jerusalem to rebuild their city and restore their faith.
Transcript
831 segments
0:00 Flowing ad bunted on metrics that look great till the CFO sees them, that's Bullspend.
0:05 And marketers are calling it out in dashboard confessions.
0:09 I remember telling my boss, "It'll be good for the brand!" when leads were slow.
0:15 Yeah, it wasn't.
0:17 Cut the Bullspend.
0:18 LinkedIn lets you target by company, job title, and more.
0:21 Advertise on LinkedIn.
0:23 Spend $250 on your first campaign and get a $250 credit go to linkedin.com/campaign
0:27 in terms of conditions apply.
0:34 This is Undaunted Life, a man's podcast.
0:51 I'm your host Kyle Thompson, let's get into it.
0:54 Welcome back to The Forging Table, the mission of Undaunted Life is equipping men to push
0:58 back darkness with content that forges spiritual, mental, and physical resilience.
1:02 At The Forging Table, you'll see a group of regular guys forging spiritual resilience
1:06 by digging into God's Word and we're welcoming all of you to come along on that journey with
1:09 us.
1:10 That's Eric, that's Matt, guys, y'all are familiar with this whole thing.
1:14 We're right in the middle of the historical narrative, right?
1:16 And as I've said before and as I've teeted up on the last one, The Book of Nehemiah is
1:20 probably my favorite book of the entire Old Testament.
1:23 I know for some people they're like, "Wait a minute, I mean, you got Genesis Exodus,
1:26 you got, you know, first and second Samuel, you got all these great things, Psalms, Proverbs."
1:30 But for me, I just feel like there's so much here and it's kind of something that does
1:34 get ignored.
1:35 And when you get into Nehemiah too, this is really where the rubber starts to meet the
1:38 road a little bit.
1:39 But Matt, one thing that you and I were talking about yesterday is you, I thought this was
1:44 interesting for you.
1:45 The Book of Nehemiah was like, it was there in the Bible, but it was just, it was never
1:49 like really a focus for you, you just didn't really, I guess see a lot there, but then during
1:53 this whole study period, it's kind of come to life for you a little bit.
1:56 Yeah, I knew that Nehemiah built the wall.
1:59 That was about it and I didn't really pay attention to it very much.
2:03 And it was just that, yeah, like you said, it was just there, it was just part of the
2:07 Bible.
2:08 And yeah, now going through, it has turned into one of my favorite books as well.
2:11 So.
2:12 What about for you guys?
2:13 I'm curious because like, I don't really know where my fascination with this came.
2:18 Maybe it was like 10 years or so, my wife and I were visiting a church for a short time
2:21 and they were in the middle of that series and their logo for the series or lesson series
2:26 or whatever was like a sword and a shovel and stuff like that.
2:28 I was like, oh, that feels pretty cool.
2:30 Like I was attracted to that, but it just, for whatever reason, it just gripped me.
2:33 And for you guys, it's like, has it ever been that way?
2:36 And I know Zach, you're more of a new Christian.
2:37 So it's like, you're probably trying to get square on like, you know, Genesis and Exodus,
2:42 maybe not digging into all the other stuff.
2:43 What do you guys think?
2:44 I mean, to me, it's similar, similar, but more recently, it's just like, I read this.
2:48 I'm like, gosh, I've read tons of leadership books.
2:51 Well, here's the best leadership book right there, right in front of me, you know?
2:54 It's amazing.
2:55 I think that's a great point.
2:56 That's exactly right.
2:57 Yeah.
2:58 And it's, you know, it's got a wonderful vision.
3:00 Well, I know we'll get into this, but you know, he's got the guys organized, the guys
3:04 got a plan, you know, and I just think that's, that's awesome.
3:07 Yeah.
3:08 Yeah.
3:09 So.
3:10 I was familiar with Nehemiah in the sense that, you know, you have, you grow up, you go to
3:13 church, you go to, you go to Bible school and all that stuff.
3:16 So I'm aware of the fact they built the wall and that they were having to hold a weapon
3:20 and build with one hand kind of a deal.
3:21 That was probably the extent after I read it.
3:24 That's definitely one place that I went from a leadership perspective.
3:27 But also I think the fact that there's a prophecy element to it, you consider what happened
3:32 in Daniel, the fact that you can go online if you've never been, and I haven't and see
3:37 remnants of this structure and get a sense of what was actually taking place and how
3:41 difficult that would have been and the fact that they did it in 52 days under tremendous
3:45 pressure, there's just a lot there to, I think, to appreciate.
3:48 And then one thing I'd add to that is the way that this book is written and the level
3:53 of detail in some of the chapters we'll go through, to me, jumps out as the authenticity
3:58 of the Bible because they're recording so many details.
4:00 And if you look at, you know, literature from that time period, it's my understanding that
4:03 it wouldn't look like this very often.
4:05 When you just got done with a fairly intensive business school education and things like
4:09 that, and there's so many business lessons going on in here, not just leadership lessons.
4:14 And also side note, I don't know if it's just the chair you're sitting in, but the last
4:18 guy that sat in that chair about broke the table and the number of times he was banging
4:21 on it.
4:22 So if you clowns can stop talking with your hands and banging on the forging table, like
4:27 I said last time, God gave me one forging table.
4:29 If we break this one, we don't get another one.
4:31 Okay.
4:32 So can we maybe relax just a little bit over there?
4:34 You know, I did it.
4:35 You guys don't know this.
4:36 We're recording this fairly early in the morning on a Saturday.
4:39 And so it like everyone just settled down.
4:40 We got a long, long ways ahead of us the coffee, it is coffee, but, but going into Nehemiah
4:45 two, here's the, the very first thing I wanted to talk about there.
4:48 There's so much here.
4:49 I, you know, to try to get it into an hour chunk is going to be really difficult.
4:53 But whenever you first read the book of Nehemiah and you go from Nehemiah one to Nehemiah two,
4:58 you're thinking, Oh, he was really, really sad about the walls of Jerusalem and his people
5:01 and all these different things that cities never been to.
5:04 And then he prayed and then boom, he went and talked to King Artaxerxes.
5:08 Nope.
5:09 We're the, the shortest timeline between learning about what happened in Jerusalem to talking
5:14 to Kean Artaxerxes that I found was three months, but most of the people that I looked
5:19 at said it was about four months.
5:21 So for four months, Nehemiah was praying, lamenting, repenting and planning, and we'll
5:30 get more than that.
5:31 You can clearly see it, but I don't know about for you guys, but that it didn't blow
5:34 my mind.
5:35 I mean, we, we use that way too often.
5:36 That's kind of hyperbolic.
5:37 But I was like, I just missed that because you just read right from here to the next
5:41 thing.
5:42 And you don't really think, no, no, there was a lot of things that happened between now
5:44 between the first thing and the second thing.
5:46 Well, I think you can definitely miss it if you're not looking for it.
5:49 And I think the intentionality of God's word is so apparent here when they use the months
5:56 of the Jewish calendar and, I mean, all throughout, all throughout the book of Nehemiah, they're
6:02 using months.
6:03 And so that gives you a picture of, of what is actually happening.
6:06 So yeah, from the time he finds out to the time he actually goes to the king, it is months.
6:11 And there's a lesson there to like fervently pray, and it's not just a, okay, I learned
6:18 about it, I prayed and now I'm going to go do something like he spent hours and days praying
6:25 to God.
6:27 What a lesson to learn.
6:28 Yeah.
6:29 And then waiting, you know, obviously for that opportunity, whenever it would come.
6:33 And I think that's, that's an interesting thing. I mean, when something really grips us like,
6:38 like this gripped him, which that's a discussion even in itself. I mean, just it wasn't like
6:44 a one time prayer. It wasn't like, man, I'm just, you know, I'm gripped by this. I'm just
6:48 pray it through. Okay.
6:49 And then I'm done. It was over and over and over thinking, thinking, thinking, planning,
6:53 planning, planning, when can I have this opportunity? Lord, give me this opportunity.
6:56 And then just being patient with that process up into the point where he meets with the
7:00 king.
7:01 He, it'll go on to say here in just a minute that, you know, he had to be pleasant and
7:07 nice all day long with this king. And at night, or what, you know, when he's not there, obviously
7:13 he has his, his issues that he's going through that, which clearly were really, really challenging
7:18 for him. But I think it, it speaks to what the Bible says in terms of withholding your
7:22 spirit containing that. And, you know, really putting your faith and trust in God. Because
7:27 I think from my perspective, that could be very difficult to do. And obviously we'll get
7:31 to what happens here in just a minute.
7:33 One also timing, you know, we got a lot of timing. Guys, I'm just going to start Donkey
7:37 Kong right here at my table every time. Can you all pick that up on the mic? Yeah, you
7:41 can't, that's great. That's great. No timing. And I'm horrible at this because I'm so impatient.
7:48 But he was looking for the right time to bring his thoughts to King Artaxerxes. And right
7:54 from the first verse of the second chapter, we have a predicament here because as it says
7:59 here reading from the ESV, now I had not been sad in his presence. And then verse two and
8:05 the king said to me, why is your face sad? Seeing you are not sick. This is nothing but
8:09 sadness at the heart. Then I was very much afraid. Why would he be afraid? Because King
8:14 Artaxerxes was a God, little G God, but he was a God. And if you're in the presence
8:20 of God and you're sad, that makes no sense, right? And so right then and there, he could
8:26 have, he could have lost his life just by looking like just looking like that. And so
8:32 again, that that's the thing that that's interesting to me is that he was so depressed
8:40 that he, he knew he could fake it. But he got into the point where it's like, I can't
8:44 fake it any longer. And he wasn't emotionally manipulating King Artaxerxes. He was just
8:49 like, I can't withhold this anymore. And then we get into verse three, where he's basically
8:56 describing, yeah, you know, the land of my forefathers lies in ruin. And then really
9:02 the big, the big part that really launches the entire book in Nehemiah is then the king
9:06 said to me, what are you requesting? So I prayed to the God of heaven. So I want to camp there
9:11 for a little bit. Because the king doesn't know why he said, or now he knows that he
9:16 said, but he doesn't know. So so what? You've told me this information that I already knew,
9:21 by the way, because as we see back in the book of Ezra, he'd already said, no, we're
9:26 not going to rebuild the walls of Jerusalem, like those types of things like I get it.
9:31 But now Nehemiah has his opportunity. And as opposed to launching into his fully fledged
9:37 out and perfectly planned bullet pointed plan, he stops and prays. And I'll be real honest,
9:43 I don't really do that. I launched right into my plan. Why? Because I made this plan. Look
9:47 how good this plan is. And now it's time to go ahead and execute the plan. But as we've
9:51 seen with Nehemiah, even just in the short period in chapter one and chapter two, he stops
9:55 and prays.
9:56 Yeah, I mean, this is a build up, you know, for the previous three or four months, he's
10:00 been praying. He's been meditating. He's been thinking and, and talking with God on this
10:08 and in that moment, I just assume it's like, here's my opportunity. Lord, give me the words.
10:14 Yeah, Lord be with me. I'll probably wasn't some long winded prayer. Just this is what
10:18 I've been waiting for. Let's get after it. Yeah, the Bible doesn't really have a lot
10:23 about Nehemiah outside of Nehemiah. In fact, I think Nehemiah is the only place that he's
10:28 actually in the Bible is that I could be wrong, but I think that he's only here. Yeah, I don't
10:33 think he's mentioned an answer.
10:34 So we learn a lot about Nehemiah. And so, I mean, me and Kyle were talking earlier about
10:39 how God uses specific things and he drops, he drops things and events working towards
10:44 his ultimate plan in real history. And so in, in the context of history, Jerusalem had
10:52 been conquered. People had been moved out. Nehemiah was, was not living obviously in Jerusalem.
11:00 And so throughout the Bible, people who, like God's people who are not in the presence of
11:06 God all the time and they're not in Jerusalem, they're not in the Promised Land, like they
11:10 lose faith so fast. So the fact that Nehemiah is serving a little g God king and he's not,
11:18 like he's not, there's not really a temple for him to go to. So he's not actively in
11:23 the presence of God for him to have the faith and the trust in God that he had is really
11:29 inspiring to me because he wasn't, you know, it's different than when, you know, they had
11:35 the tabernacle and God's people were, were communing with him every day. And so the fact
11:42 that you learn so much about him, like he trusted God, he prayed, like very fervently,
11:48 but then he also knew that he had to appeal to the earthly authority that God had established
11:54 and he says, let the king live forever, saying, Hey, I serve you. And I, like, and so that
12:02 man, what this guy is one of the greatest figures in the Bible. Old Testament for sure.
12:10 I like the application, you know, kind of question that you brought up there because that was,
12:14 that's kind of where I went. I think, first of all, the fact that he spent four months
12:18 is huge because this is kind of an instant message, right? Like, Hey, please help me
12:21 out, but there's been a lot of time invested in everything. But then I think kind of where
12:25 you're going with this is back then, you know, not only is he a little g God, but he's, you
12:29 know, he's the king and all that sort of thing. He's saying in prayer in my, in my mind, almost
12:32 like you would say a prayer in front of a judge is getting ready to make a huge decision and
12:36 you have no clue where it could go. It could be that you're banished, you're fine or you're
12:39 killed. That kind of thing. So if you think about your life, I mean, how, how often can
12:45 you put this into practice? How can you put yourself in a position where you are going
12:49 to stop? Stop. You're not watching. He was banging the table again. It's a shocking revelation.
12:58 So that's my thought. Oh, yeah. No, sorry to interrupt you. One of the things that I know
13:02 we'll get away from this pretty quick, but one of the things that I was, it was coming
13:06 to mind was that we have a lot of people. Well, there are a lot of people out there and maybe
13:11 some of you guys are listening that see things in our society that you don't like, but you
13:19 kind of live in the realm of just complaining about it. You know, and that's just kind of
13:22 it. And I've been there. So I get it where, and then you get some people that are just
13:27 cup is always half full. And so you're not, you can't look and go, you know what? Something
13:33 might actually be broken in our society. So what I really appreciate about an EMI is that
13:41 he's able to look at this and go, you know, something is broken literally physically and
13:46 even beyond that. And he has a motion about it. He cares about his brothers. He cares
13:52 about Israelites. But then instead of just complaining about it, he goes and does something
13:57 about it. You know, he takes that next step. And as we'll see, has a plan for it. It's
14:02 not just, yeah, you know, kids these days, you know, and blah, blah, blah, but it's just,
14:08 it's way beyond that. So the thing that I was going to say is there are a lot of people
14:12 that like to oppose, but not propose. And so they will oppose something. And I don't like
14:17 that legislation. I don't like that law. And I don't like that thing that's happening
14:20 in society. But it's like, do you have a proposition for something better? And most of the time
14:23 they don't go ahead, man. I was going to say like what, what an amazing lesson that we get
14:27 here just in a few short verses of how personal God wants us to be with him. And this, this
14:35 idea that we pray one time. And if God doesn't answer, and I, and I say this as someone who
14:40 has been there, like I pray and I don't get an answer or I don't get an answer that I
14:44 want. And I, you know, I just, okay, I'm done. Pray one time. It took 30 seconds. And then
14:50 you move on with your life. And then you don't ever pray for that again. And here he is, he
14:55 is praying. I would imagine hourly, daily, like he's just caught in constant prayer.
15:03 And I was listening to my pastor at church talk about how this, this, this is kind of
15:10 like the story that Jesus tells in Luke 18, where the judge that doesn't fear God, he's
15:14 not a good judge, but that old lady just keeps coming back to him. Give me justice. Give
15:18 me justice against my adversaries. And finally, he, he decides, okay, I don't fear God, but
15:24 you are just continuously come, you've worn me down. I'm just going to give you justice.
15:30 How much then does a God that loves us and cares for us want us to pray and want to give
15:36 us the things that we ask for? What are, what are, what are really cool lesson we learned
15:40 in just a couple sentences.
15:41 Hey, last night, one of the kids wanted to go get ice cream. I mean, they really wanted
15:46 to get ice cream. And I answered them the first time. Well, I mean, three minutes later, it's
15:52 like, yeah, we're gonna go ice cream. And then like three minutes later, I'm not sure
15:55 you meant the first time. Can we, can we talk, talk about it again? Yeah, exactly. But that
15:59 persistence is a reflection of where our heart is, and the passion that we feel towards
16:05 whatever that is.
16:06 Yeah. And I think that, I mean, there's so much here, as you can see, we're, we're a few
16:09 verses in and we're, we're, we're going to go along with this one guys, because there's
16:12 not a whole lot going on in chapter three in EMI sorta. So Matt, if you could read verses
16:16 five and six real quick, or go ahead, Zach, yeah, I do want to say one thing here. So
16:21 another application question is when I became a Christian, what I was confronted with was
16:25 this line that I knew I had to cross publicly. And I knew that there's potentially sacrifices
16:30 that I was making.
16:31 Right.
16:32 I knew the fact that I was gonna give my life to Christ in front of a congregation of people
16:35 that know me, that know my background, that know all sorts of things, whether I'm proud
16:39 of those or not proud or whatever. And I'm sure I make things bigger in my mind. But as
16:43 I think about this, it's one of those examples of following Christ and God in a way that
16:49 is definitely going to change your life and have ramifications. So I would encourage anybody
16:54 listening this to think through from a faith perspective, because I know there's been a
16:57 lot of questions as I've listened to the podcast about where am I really at? What does that
17:01 mean? And all that sort of thing. And for me personally, it's when I started making decisions
17:05 that I knew were going to change my life. And that was pretty scary. And I think that's
17:10 what this does for me. And that's where everything kicks off. And then God takes them and amazing
17:14 things happen.
17:15 And it's where your feet planted because it's like, if you have your feet planted firmly
17:18 in midair, you're probably gonna have some issues, but he's planted firmly in the Creator
17:23 God of the universe. And so that that's going to be helpful as he's trying to build what
17:26 he's going to be going on into the future. So let's go to verses five and six.
17:30 Okay, so verse five, and I said to the king, if it pleases the king, and if your servant
17:35 has found favor in your site, that you send me to Judah to the city of my father's graves,
17:41 that I may rebuild it. And the king said to me, the queen sitting beside him, how long
17:46 will you be gone? And when will you return? So it pleased the king to send me when I had
17:51 given him a time.
17:52 So Justin, these two verses, there's a lot there. So we have his request. It's interesting
17:57 to me. Perhaps it shouldn't be that he mentions Judah and not Jerusalem by name. Okay, because
18:04 again, if we we see an Ezra, Ezra four versus 21 and 22, where Artaxerxes has already said,
18:12 nah, we're not rebuilding the walls of Jerusalem. So he mentions Judah, not Jerusalem by name,
18:17 he's mentions to the city of my father's graves that I may rebuild it. But then let's
18:22 say I'm reading too much into it. Let's say Artaxerxes obviously knows he's talking
18:25 about Jerusalem. In verse six, we have this thing in parentheses, the queen sitting beside
18:31 him. There's something there that why did they note that here? Why did Nehemiah note
18:37 that? And it implies that the queen had influence over King Artaxerxes in this area about feelings
18:46 towards the Israelites or feelings towards the Jews or something like that. And so maybe
18:52 there's a softening of heart happening here because this is basically the same exact request
18:57 that he had dealt with before. And so that that's an interesting thing as well. And Artaxerxes
19:02 question to him is how long will you be gone? He basically knows in that moment he has gotten
19:06 his request. And now it's time to go over the logistics. And this was not going to be
19:10 a short thing because as we see here in a little bit when he actually does travel to Jerusalem,
19:14 that's a three month journey, right? And like, he's one of the most important people in
19:18 the court, that's not family, right? He's the cup bearer to the king. And maybe Artaxerxes
19:23 doesn't know this, but Nehemiah is requesting to rebuild the walls, yes, but also to rebuild
19:29 the people, right? To rebuild their their attitude and their positivity and their ability to rely
19:35 on themselves. So he's asking a lot right here. I was just struck just even in those
19:39 two verses that there was just so much there.
19:42 So he as the cup bearer to the king, he has a lot of jobs. Like he's he's kind of the head
19:48 of the household like like a butler like he's the head servant, basically. So he had a lot
19:55 of responsibilities. It wasn't just I'm losing the guy who brings me my cup. Like, I'm losing
20:00 the guy that manages my affairs here. And a guy I trust, not with his life, absolutely.
20:09 And I think I don't I couldn't find anywhere where this was a thing. But like you look where
20:13 he says about the land of my father's graves or the city of my father's graves, I think
20:20 that's an appeal to Artaxerxes human side because Xerxes, the god king from the story
20:26 300, which is that's still crazy for me to think about. He was killed by the head of
20:33 his bodyguard. So Artaxerxes father was was killed by betrayal. And so he has he has
20:40 seen his father killed or no his father was killed. I think he's appealing to his human
20:47 nature. Like you loved your father. I love I love my father and my my forefather. So
20:52 I think there's I think there's some play to his his human.
20:55 Yeah, and I think I agree with Kyle. I I tend to believe that he was very strategic to just
21:02 I'm going to say it this way. Yeah, I'm not going to give it away all at once. You know,
21:06 I don't want to I don't want to cause, you know, other feelings to come up and you know,
21:10 so he's a smart dude. He is a smart. We'll break it down. Because what he did is is
21:14 tactic from a tactical standpoint is extremely good. He had all that pressure. And then he
21:19 comes in and he asks some questions that go straight to the emotional side. And he gets,
21:25 he gets this king to start thinking with his emotions, which is how you get somebody on
21:28 your side. And he doesn't the form of a question that's non threatening. Yeah. That's very smart.
21:34 And then after that, you know, he basically ingratiates him and does a few things. So
21:38 I think I think his instant message made an impact. Well, he he had prepared. He was praying
21:42 he he didn't he didn't just find out and go, Hey, I gotta go. I gotta go. Like he prepared.
21:47 He had months and months to prepare what he was going to do. And so how often do we just
21:52 hastily make a decision or go into something based on emotion?
21:56 When Matt, his preparation is proven in verses seven and eight, because he wasn't ready with
22:01 his first request. Hey, can I take a leave of absence to go back to the city of my forefathers?
22:06 He had two he had two other bullets ready to go. So the next bullet he shot was, Hey,
22:11 can you give me letters of safe passage? Because guys go look at a map from this time period.
22:15 He's going from Suso to Jerusalem. It's going to take about three months, not a whole lot
22:18 of happy people in between, you know, Susa and Jerusalem. That was like, yeah, just come
22:22 on. Walk on through. And so he asked for that. The king said, yeah, sure. But then this is the
22:27 one where really showed forethought. He asked for timber from the king's forest. Now we don't
22:33 know exactly which force that was how close it was to Jerusalem, all those types of things.
22:37 But that request showed that he knew exactly what what because imagine you don't know you're
22:44 going to get a yes to your first question. And so you don't prepare any other questions. And then
22:48 you're like, Oh, okay, cool. I have a leave of absence. All right, I guess I'm leaving in the
22:54 morning. And then it's like, okay, well, that probably wouldn't have worked out well. He probably
22:58 would have never made it to Jerusalem. And then the other thing that that's interesting about all this
23:02 is when when the king says yes to those three requests to leaving to the letters of safe passage
23:11 into the timber, he's committing financial, political and military support to the rebuilding
23:16 of Jerusalem's walls. That that is an enormous thing, because we can see even in verse nine where,
23:22 you know, they basically had the king's letters and he sent officers because he didn't just send
23:26 Nehemiah with letters, because some people were like, I can even read that and then, you know,
23:30 off with the head. But he's like, no, he's sending his people with them. And I guess, you know,
23:34 that section there guys versus five through eight, it's a really good apologetic for using secular
23:39 means to do the will of the father. And this is where people get really uncomfortable,
23:43 because we can't say by any way, shape or form that King Artaxerxes was a godly man. He saw
23:48 himself as a god king, as Matt said earlier. But Nehemiah is literally using him to do what God
23:56 told him to do. And so it kind of goes back to, you know, where I've learned about except reject
24:02 redeem. There are things in society that you can just accept outright, like the gospel of Jesus
24:06 Christ, there's things that you have to reject outright, like, you know, Satanism or demonology.
24:10 And then there's things that you can redeem. So maybe it's the words of Jordan Peterson,
24:14 who is not by strict definition or Christian, but his words can be redeemed for the use of God.
24:20 And King Artaxerxes, who did some very ungodly things, right, in terms of, you know, the God
24:26 creator of the universe. But he was able to be used for God's purposes here.
24:30 Yeah, I've thought about that a little bit. I mean, if you start down that path,
24:36 just think about how many things you use on a daily basis that are resolved to somebody that's
24:41 secular or whatever the case may be. I mean, you can't get away from it. It's just a fact and
24:45 everything technically, according to this book is created. So it all serves God's purpose in some
24:51 sense. So I think that distinction for me is still a little bit difficult as I think through how
24:55 that works. Because I think the reality is that this looks like reality to me, you know?
24:59 Well, and just like Pharaoh's heart was hardened, I think in this, in this text,
25:04 into this moment Artaxerxes, Art was softened, you know, and that was a work of the Lord that had
25:10 been prepared for that moment too. Yeah, I think Nehemiah being in tuned with God's will and God's
25:17 plan, like he obviously knew the scripture. And in chapter one, he's talking about like
25:22 our sin, people that we turn away from God and you scattered us. But now I know that your plan is
25:30 for us to gather back and for you to call us back to the promised land. I know I'm paraphrasing
25:37 chapter one, but like he knew it's not a I'm just going to ask for what I want. Like James talks
25:43 about. You have not because you ask not and that which is not like, okay, you didn't ask for a
25:49 million dollars so you don't have it. It's you don't pray the right way. Like you're not praying
25:53 in tune with the God with God's will. And if if we are if we are pursuing holiness, our desires
26:03 will begin to match God's will. And I that like what a perfect example of that. Like he was shaken
26:11 by under like knowing this stuff had happened and he desperately wanted
26:20 what God had already prophesied. And so he was in tune with God's I think that's so
26:24 you shouldn't miss that. You shouldn't miss that for sure.
26:28 When it's where did his request lie? Because at the very end of verse eight and the king granted
26:34 me what I asked for the good hand of my God was upon me. So it wasn't the king granted what I asked
26:41 for. I am so awesome. Like man, I did four months worth of planning and prayer. Look at me. Who wants
26:47 to touch me? Anybody? Yeah, it's like for the good hand of my God was upon me. There's so much
26:53 there, not the hand of God, the good hand of my God. Right. And it was not just around. It was upon
27:00 him in that moment. Yeah. And we'll see, I think in the future that the Ezra, it's the same thing
27:06 with Ezra. And it said the good hand of the Lord is on him. And then the next verse says,
27:11 for Ezra prepared his heart to seek the law of the Lord to do it and then to teach statutes and
27:17 ordinances and Israel. The idea being that there was a process, but there was also some prerequisites
27:23 to having the hand, the good, the favor of God and his hand on him. So no doubt, we, you know,
27:31 Nehemiah's living in that same scope and has obviously done the work and set his heart towards
27:38 the Lord, not towards himself in order to receive this. And I think that also brings up the point
27:43 that there's no automatic happy ending because God's hand is upon you, because we'll get there.
27:48 But if you read Ezra and as you get to the end of Nehemiah, like we're so used to in 2023,
27:54 stories ending with a, with a thump, like, oh my gosh, I can't believe the cliffhanger from season
28:00 two to season three. This is mind blowing like that. We're used to movies ending and just having
28:04 being shocked, our minds being blown, right, being very, very satisfied with that. There,
28:08 these are not super satisfying endings where every loose end is tied up because, you know,
28:12 that's, that's one big complaint that people have of shows, you know, that go five, six,
28:16 seven seasons or something like that. And then there's too much left unresolved at the end of
28:21 all these things. But it's like, if you look at history, because again, they're, we're experiencing
28:26 this story in an instant, they were experiencing it minute by minute, right? They didn't realize
28:32 the, the totality of the story that they were living in, but obviously God did. And even thousands
28:36 of years ago, it's like, all right, I'm going to use this for my glory. And y'all don't really
28:39 know, I just need y'all for a little bit. So if you chimps could just like get, get your crap
28:43 together just for a little bit, like I'll show you my power just a little bit. And then we'll
28:47 keep moving on down the road. I wanted to say something before we move away from him and being
28:52 called the cup bear and how everything in the Bible points to Christ. Nehemiah is he points to
29:00 Christ as well. He's a deliverer of the people. Obviously he is not Christ and he has many faults,
29:06 which we will find out. But he's a willing cup bear. Christ bears the cup of our sin. And so
29:13 he's willing to take on that role and then come deliver God's people. And I think that's not
29:22 something we should miss also that even in the book of Nehemiah, it's all pointing to Christ
29:28 and the deliverance of God's people in ways that just don't seem like they should happen. So well,
29:35 that also brings up a good point. Excuse me. And in terms of how you guys study the Bible,
29:40 so I have the Reformation Study Bible right here in the ESV. One thing that's interesting about
29:44 the beginning, and you'll get this with different study Bibles, they'll all have a section to where
29:48 it's like, you know, basically, how does this book of the Bible point towards Christ? Because
29:53 the Gospels, it's fairly obvious. Some of the, you know, probably. And then you have these letters
29:58 from Paul, those are decently obvious as well. But when you're reading through some of the Old
30:04 Testament books, you're just like, how does this relate to a Middle Eastern Jewish construction
30:09 worker being, you know, killed on a cross? Like, I don't get it. Like, and then, but like, it all
30:14 kind of, again, look at this as a collection of ancient transcripts as Jordan Peterson, we call
30:19 a library. This isn't a book, it's a library. That's all telling the same story, right? And so
30:25 you can think about it like maybe you're like one of those nerds that likes Marvel movies and all
30:28 that kind of thing. But it's like, those are all in the same universe telling the same redemptive
30:32 story of Iron Man, apparently. But it's like, that's the, that's the thing that these are all
30:37 existing in one universe to tell the exact same story. And so that when you start reading the Bible
30:44 that way, that that's a big deal because you're looking for Christ, not for proof text. But you're
30:50 looking for Christ in these stories so that you can see how God's redemptive work of sending his
30:56 son as a sacrifice. For us, you're seeing how that wraps in to the story of history as well.
31:01 Eric, can you read verse 10 for me, por favor?
31:04 Do you need glasses?
31:10 But I did. I did forget. Oh, no, don't hear it. No, we're getting Zach, you're first in. No,
31:16 no, you're fired. Get out of here, Zach. First in. But when sand ballot, I'm not sure if I'm
31:22 saying that right when sand ballot and horror night and Tobias, the Ammonite servant heard this,
31:27 it displeased them greatly that someone had come to seek the welfare of the people of Israel.
31:32 So the cool thing about that, there's not a whole lot that we really need to camp on here. But this
31:36 is where we can kind of see a little bit of foreshadowing. So we have sand ballot and Tobias,
31:42 these are the guys that have influence in Jerusalem. Okay, they see some guy coming to town like,
31:48 who's this new guy with all these fancy letters from the king? And they're seeing an encroachment
31:54 on their influence, right? And we've all experienced this. You're on a team and you're the guy on the
32:02 team. And some kid from some butthole town, he decides to come over into your your area. Now,
32:08 he's scoring goals. Now he's hitting home runs. Now he's smacking people. This is a problem for
32:12 you. He's encroaching on your territory. Maybe it's a business, right? They've hired somebody that
32:18 kind of looks like he's doing your job. And crap, he's better at it. So they're encroaching on your
32:23 territory. This happens in politics all the time as well. You thought you were influential,
32:26 but no one's listening to you anymore. They're listening to the new guy. And so this is very,
32:29 very important. And again, it's because these are people that had a tremendous amount of influence.
32:35 But then we get into versus 11 and 12 and Browning, I'm tempted to bring you off the bench. You know,
32:43 I'm bringing you out of the bullpen versus 11 and 12. We'll see how this goes.
32:47 So I went to Jerusalem and was there three days. Then I rose in the night and
32:55 I and a few men with me. And I told no one what my God had put in my heart to do for Jerusalem.
33:01 There was no animal with me, but the one on which I wrote. This is very, very important. Okay,
33:10 we cannot skip this and miss this. This is a guy that for months. So now we're at the seven-month
33:16 mark. So it was four months of prayer, right? In preparation before he asking our Xerxes for
33:22 permission. And then it's took them at least three months to get from Sousa to Jerusalem.
33:25 That wasn't an easy journey for sure. That's another thing that gets lost here. It's like he
33:29 didn't just like teleport. Like he had to like it wasn't a train. Yeah, exactly. So we're seven
33:35 months down the road. This guy is on a mission from God. He is sent. He has been equipped. He's
33:42 been literally training for this his entire life. Another thing that gets lost here. He's been in
33:46 the King's court for years. He's seeing how things work. He sees how influence works. It reminds me
33:51 of the book, The Prince by Machiavelli. He probably knows how to influence people,
33:57 win friends and influence people, but also to manipulate people. Good and bad. Now he's in Jerusalem.
34:03 And I'm going to be honest. If irony am I, I would kick that door down and be like,
34:08 guys, I am here. Like y'all have been messed up for a long time. I'm going to fix it. Who
34:13 wants to touch me? Right? Like that is the attitude. But he doesn't do that. His very first thing.
34:20 He has calculated. He's patient and he spends days just evaluating because he's never been to
34:26 Jerusalem. He's never seen the walls. He's also never seen the ruin in the people's faces. Right?
34:31 And he's taking three days to marinate on really the totality of the tasks that's before him.
34:38 And he probably could have. There's evidence that he could have come in. And like you said,
34:42 kick the door down and say we could could he had permission from the God of the known world.
34:47 Like the Persian King said, go do this. He had written authority. He probably could have said.
34:52 All right, guys. Art is there. She said, let's go. Let's go. So that's an interesting point that
34:59 he took. He took three days to just kind of observe. Yeah, I think it comes back. For me,
35:04 it's always, do you want to be right? Or do you want to be effective? There's a big difference,
35:10 right? And he gets here. And after this journey, he very quietly rests.
35:17 And then we'll look at it. He looks around because he needs to assess what this is actually going
35:21 to take before he can engender the people, I think, to really get involved. And the only way he gets
35:26 this accomplished as a leader is by getting people really enrolled in this project and excited about,
35:32 of course, supply. There's a God thing part of this too. But I think this goes back to what he did
35:36 with the King being very, very sharp in terms of how he asked the question, how he got them
35:41 involved and all that. And to your point, I hadn't thought of that the fact that he's sitting in this
35:45 court, absolutely. I'm sure he got a major education day in and day out on how to make things happen.
35:50 And patience typically is going to win the day. Yeah, I've got my sidebar thing. But my father-in-law,
35:57 I used to think that he didn't like me. I know that that was not true. I just had to learn his
36:05 style of thinking and processing. He's not a guy that just comes up and says, "Hey, how's your day?"
36:11 "Hey, how's things going? How's work?" But that's not how that works. So when he wouldn't ask me
36:16 questions, I'd be like, "Oh, does he really like me? Does he really want me here?" But here's what he
36:20 would do. And very briefly, if we were there for the weekend, he'd be doing this thing or whatever.
36:28 But then he'd be like, "Hey, come here. I want to show you something I've been working on,
36:31 something I've been thinking about." And then he would take me wherever that was. And it could
36:36 be some new thing he was doing outside with new equipment or whatever could have been something on
36:40 the computer. But then he wanted to tell me all about this thing he had figured out. And then he
36:45 had thought through and he wanted to teach me and help me understand blah, blah, blah. And that was
36:48 kind of how he loved on me was to do that very thing. So I just, in some respects, I just really
36:55 appreciate the fact that me and my, it was slow. I mean, he could have come in and people looked at
37:00 him and be like, "Well, this guy's kind of a jerk. He's not really saying much. Not doing my base.
37:04 What's he doing?" You know, whatever. But then, boom, he comes with power. He comes with a plan
37:10 and he gets people jazzed up to do the work. So sidebar to your sidebar. What if you've done
37:17 all that patient observation of your father-in-law? Excuse me. And he still seemingly doesn't like
37:22 you asking for a friend. Do you have any advice for that? Well, yeah, no. No, I don't.
37:30 Keep faithfully loving his daughter. Oh, yeah. There you go. That's, that's a good one. That's just
37:34 good advice for anybody. I figured you would do that. I'm not. Yeah. I'm just, I was just asking
37:38 for the general public. But so I think the word that you could use even going back to Zach's point
37:43 is he was a very shrewd operator. And I was reminded of a story that I've heard Jocko Willink tell before
37:49 of when he got a job as the admirals aid. And so, you know, in the Navy, this, I mean, this is a guy
37:55 that's an operator. He wants to, he wants to go and, you know, you know, kill moos and that,
38:00 you know, he wants to take care of business, right? And here he is wearing a, wearing his
38:04 dress uniform all day every day, following the admiral, admiral around, going to the same meetings
38:09 as the admiral. And so he's in meetings with the top upper echelon of the United States military
38:16 and the White House and all these different strategists, right? And his job was basically
38:21 to sit in the corner and not say a damn thing. And that's what he did. And you could say, well,
38:26 that sounds boring. Yeah, if you've got your brain turned off, but he was absorbing all of that.
38:32 He was looking, he was watching, he was, he was taking in these lessons. And as he said before,
38:40 he's like, in those moments, I was taking notes. And I was also making deposits that I would later
38:46 use to help, you know, equip my teammates to help equip the guys that are under my care.
38:51 That's exactly what he did. Cause he knew how to request things to where they would get approval.
38:56 He knew how to wait and ask questions at the right time. Does it sound familiar to where he would
39:01 get the answer that he wanted? But it wasn't because he walked into that room and said, all right,
39:07 here's my time to shine. I'm about to show these people how smart I am that I'm not just like some,
39:11 you know, knuckle dragger, like I need to show these guys what's up. Now he was all over it.
39:16 By just being patient and being shrewd. And for those that don't know that job came before,
39:20 he went back in the field in Iraq and led his teams. Right. So exactly. It has a great parallel
39:26 to this for sure. And so where we get here is he's, he's in town. He's, he's doing inspections.
39:33 That's what we see with versus, you know, basically 11 through 16, but we see a shift here with verse 17
39:40 in terms of how he's comporting himself and how he's operating. So can you reverse 17 for me, Matt?
39:45 Sure. Then I said to them, you see the trouble we are in how Jerusalem lies and ruins with its
39:52 gates burned. Come, let us build the wall of Jerusalem that we may no longer suffer derision.
39:56 Hey, go ahead and read 18 as well. Sure. And I told them of the hand of my God
40:02 that had been upon me for good. And also of the words that the king had spoken to me.
40:08 And they said, let us rise up and build. So they strengthened their hands for the good work.
40:13 A lot here. Let's, let's go to verse 17. He shifts into politician mode. And I don't mean that in
40:22 the modern sense of also anything to get elected, also anything to keep power. You know, just give
40:26 me my chocolate chip ice cream and just, you know, let me be president again. Like he shifts into
40:31 political action. I'm just using examples, not from actual history, guys. But 100%. At this point,
40:37 it's important to note that they, they see that this city has likely been in ruins for about
40:43 150 years at this point, not an insignificant period of time. And again, in this era, people
40:50 weren't living into old age, right? If you were in your fifties, you were ancient, right? So this
40:56 is multiple generations of people that have been beaten down mentally, right? And so you probably
41:04 have seen this is like you just assume things will continue. And it's almost like you need
41:09 somebody to grab you by the scruff, your shirt and shake your round a little bit and be like,
41:13 no, no, this isn't happening anymore. So Nehemiah comes into town. He surveys the walls. He surveys
41:21 the people. And then he shifts and says, it's time to fix this. And again, I'm sure there were,
41:26 there was time here, because we're just reading, it was taking us 30 seconds to read, you know,
41:30 verse 17 and verse 18. But this could have been days, weeks, months where he's convincing the
41:36 people, no, this is what we need to do. And I know, you know, we don't need to get too terribly
41:40 political here. But in our modern day and age, the party of whoever's in power decides what your
41:46 pet projects are going to be. And you're just going to convince the public, this is what we
41:50 need to do. Whereas back in the day, you would try to convince the populace. This is what's best
41:57 for you. And it's probably going to take some sacrifice. It's probably going to be uncomfortable,
42:01 but it's going to be best for everybody overall. So that's what we're going to do. So in that
42:06 sense, in the most pure sense, he became a politician. And I feel like that's just a very,
42:11 very important point here. He's also, he's also doesn't use the authority given to him by Artaxerxes
42:17 to say, let's do this. And what's interesting here is in the context of history, these people who
42:23 live in Jerusalem, they live in a place that Nebuchadnezzar had, I mean, he destroyed the wall,
42:29 he destroyed the city, right? And in those times, when that kind of stuff happened,
42:35 you would be looked upon as like, see, your God is not powerful. You serve a weak God who
42:43 doesn't exist. Your city has been burned. Your walls have been broken down. And so they would
42:49 have been ridiculed for continuing to serve a God who either doesn't exist, isn't powerful,
42:57 or isn't there, or has left you. And so now he's saying, God will restore you the same God
43:04 that's being made fun of, basically. And so it's interesting that he knows I'm still appealing to
43:10 the authority of the God of the universe, not Artaxerxes, to get them to buy into what they're
43:16 going to do. Well, look what he, go ahead. Oh, no, no, no, I'll go after you. Well,
43:21 just to just to build on that a little bit here, like you're saying in both of you,
43:25 he came in, he could have said, guys, do you see this, this group from the king? And you know,
43:29 what I've been doing, you see this work, all this stuff, we're going to make this happen.
43:31 He doesn't do that. He's smart about it. And the first thing that he says when he engages the
43:37 people after investigating what this is going to take, knowing that he's going to be personally
43:41 involved, he does it the right way and says, you see the distress that we are in, how Jerusalem
43:47 lies waste and the gates are burned with fire come and let us build the wall of Jerusalem that we
43:52 may no longer be a reproach. He gets them involved. I mean, it's that that's leadership 101 buy in.
44:00 Yeah. In my world, this is called a soap note. So if you're in the medical profession, then
44:05 you know what I'm talking about. And so there are oftentimes people that will walk in as a
44:10 new patient and I'm an orthopedic. So they walk in and I immediately know what's wrong with them.
44:16 Like they almost don't have to say anything. I've just kind of read maybe over their chart
44:21 and already know what's going on. But that's not fair to them. And it's not fair to the process
44:26 for me to just jump to conclusions. So the S stands for subjectives. And so we work on feeling.
44:32 We work on history. We work on like, how did this happen? You know, whatever. And that's
44:36 an opportunity for me to get into their shoes a little bit and to sometimes hurt with them
44:42 because I know they're hurting. And that starts to build rapport, right? But it helps me understand
44:46 the actual problem. But that kind of lives in a subjective realm. You know, so there's a motion
44:52 with that in the objective component, which is the O, it's actually figuring out what structurally
44:57 is problematic, soft tissues, joints, whatever. And then the in the assessment is like, okay,
45:02 what do I do with that S in that O? You know, what does that actually mean? What does it all come
45:07 down to? Is this something that's been coming on for years? Is this something that happened
45:11 to the motor vehicle accident last week? So I assess all the information. And then finally,
45:17 at the very end, it's like my it's it's my time to sell myself and give them a plan and tell them,
45:23 hey, this is going to take time. This may not be easy. Your healing may be up and down and up and
45:31 down depending on the day and the week. But this is a worthy cause of something for you to do. You
45:35 know, but I miss a lot. If I just run in there and be like, I know what's going on with you,
45:39 let's just get to work. Well, your assumptions can be right, but your assumptions should guide
45:44 your questions. And I think what you're saying, a prescription without diagnosis is malpractice.
45:48 And that's true in the medical world, but that's also true here. And you know, just back to,
45:54 you know, verse 11, when he is out, like, he knew it was wrong. He knew what the prescription was,
46:00 but he still went and diagnosed. He still went and assessed. And there wasn't he let he I think
46:07 he let his assumptions guide the questions that he was asking. And I think that's a really important
46:12 thing to remember. There's a there's an amount of patience that's needed, even if we think we know.
46:16 And I'm sure you like, yeah, that guy's got this, but you still are patient enough to go, okay,
46:23 I'm gonna ask him questions. We're gonna figure this out. And then you probably write a lot of the
46:27 times, but you were you were able to ask questions and really get to the heart of it. And then that
46:31 patient is like in the sky. That's good. Well, I'm sure you guys have never made this mistake,
46:37 but have you ever known exactly what was wrong in a situation with your wife? And you just
46:42 walked right in and said, look, boo, I know exactly what's wrong. I know exactly how you're
46:47 feeling. I know exactly how to fix it. And then you fix it. And she's like, Oh, my gosh, my darling,
46:52 thank you so much for doing that. Has that ever happened in the history of humanity? No. So that's
46:56 the other thing. Even if you know what the solution needs to be, you think Nehemiah showed up to
47:02 Jerusalem with no idea what he was going to do. But he had to, he had to wait for the right
47:07 opportunity that we're getting mercy in a trend with Nehemiah here for the right opportunity to say,
47:12 Hey, guys, this is what we need to do. Because if you just waltz in as a stranger, like imagine
47:17 being in a board meeting, like whether you're on a 501c three or you're in a business or something
47:21 like that. And it's your first meeting at the board meeting. And while the CEO or the chairman
47:27 of the board is starting the meeting, yeah, cool. Thanks. Thanks, guy. Would you mind go
47:31 getting me coffee in a bagel? All right, guys, here's what we're going to do. And you just pull
47:35 out your marker and you start writing on the whiteboard. Odds are not going to go supremely
47:39 well for you. And so I think that that is a very important thing to note here, especially for
47:44 someone like me that likes to draw conclusions very, very quickly. Like, let's just get to the
47:49 point. Like, let's just figure this out how we can fix it. That's not what he did. And what that
47:54 leads to is immediate and positive action from your constituency. And we see that at the end of
48:00 verse 18. So they strengthened their hands for the good work. Okay, so we don't know exactly what
48:07 that means. We don't know exactly how long that means what it means or what the level of preparation
48:12 was. But the note that I wrote down as I was reading this is so many men strengthen nothing.
48:17 And they want everything to be good. So Browning, you see this in your life. People want their
48:24 shoulder to not hurt, but they don't want to work at it, right? They want their heart to work better.
48:30 But cardio and dieting and not eating Cheetos and smoking cigarettes, you're crazy. Why would
48:35 you suggest I do that? I'm an American. Like, it's that type of attitude, like, I'm going to do
48:39 whatever I want. And you're going to fix it, right? I'm going to do what I want. And doctor,
48:44 you're just going to write me a script to fix all of my bad decisions. And the same thing here,
48:49 men want things they they may they'll say that they want their house to be a spiritually positive
48:56 place. They want their kids to be catechized and they want there to be a positive environment.
49:00 But then they don't spend any time catechizing their children. They don't study the Bible with
49:04 them. They don't pray with their wives. They don't go to church. They don't value church. They value
49:08 the lake. They value going to ball games like those are the things that they value. And then
49:13 we're seeing in these moments that you need to strengthen your hands for the good work, whatever
49:18 the good work is. But we're in this super lazy malaise in modernity to where it's like, it's so
49:24 easy to just not do anything. And just to, you know, use an app on your phone to get your food or
49:28 whatever the thing is that we think, Oh, there's an easy button processed all this. And I don't
49:32 actually need to be strengthened spiritually, mentally or physically. And yesterday I had a
49:36 had a patient that transferred to my office. And you know, it's standard. I'm like, okay,
49:41 so when you hurt yourself, it's just six months ago. And you've been at physical therapy. Yes.
49:46 What have you been doing with you? And she goes, well, you know, they can bring me in. They may be
49:50 like going to rub on me a little bit. Put some heat on me a little bit, a little bit of IFC. And
49:55 then that's about it. I'm like, wow, that's called fake and bake. You know, and that's not going to
50:00 work. And I was like, and how are you feeling? She was, I feel about the same as I did about six
50:03 months ago. Oh my God. Yeah, I bet you do. Yeah. Yeah. So I mean, I, what was hilarious, I started
50:09 showing her some exercises. And she was kind of like, I could tell she was like, oh my gosh,
50:13 and what am I doing? I was like, okay, we're going to ramp this up a little bit. So we go over
50:16 to like this other area. And I'm like, all right, we're going to do some warm up stuff. And we just
50:19 started going after it. Man, I could tell that she was, she was like, what? I actually have to put
50:24 some effort into this. You're not just going to like rub on my back a little bit and then put
50:28 heat on me. I think we can turn God into a genie and think like, okay, if I pray, he'll just let
50:35 the, he'll do this or he'll make this happen. And I think Nehemiah is just a great book of
50:39 obviously God is working and God is moving things and he's doing things. And the old cliche comes to
50:45 mind God can move mountains, but he expects us to bring a shovel. And I think this is a really
50:50 good example of that. Like, you know, a guy that, a guy that struggles with pornography and goes to
50:55 someone who has, who has killed that sin in his life. So how do you, how did you do it?
51:00 When he doesn't get the answer of, oh, I just prayed and God took it away from me. Like,
51:05 surely that can happen, right? But most times it's probably something like, well, you know,
51:09 I got rid of, I put, I put a, you know, accountability software on my phone and my computer. I started
51:18 meeting with accountability partner. I started reading my Bible reading the Bible. I started
51:24 doing these things that like put some, put some accountability and some work into my life. And then
51:30 I feel like probably the, the reaction a lot of times is it was, is there some, is there something
51:36 else? Like, maybe I can talk to somebody else about this. This doesn't really seem like something
51:40 that I want to do. And it's like, okay, but yeah, it's going to be tough. Like catacizing your kids
51:45 is hard. But it's also worth it. So what's funny about that is I will get asked from time to time.
51:52 And I just had a DM from a stranger just a guy that listens to show about a week ago. And I will
51:57 get asked like, Hey, Kyle, you mentioned before that you used to look a porn masturbating that
52:00 that's no longer part of your life in any way, shape or form, like how did you do that type of
52:04 thing? What they're actually asking me is what accountability software did you use? Like what
52:09 method did you use to pray? Like what do we deliver from this? That's actually what they're asking.
52:14 And we love to over complicate things. Because being in shape is not hard to understand how you
52:22 become that way. You have to move more and eat less typically now that you can move some stuff
52:28 here and you can optimize. And if you're going to be a professional athlete, obviously, there's a
52:31 whole lot more that goes into that. But at the end of the day, it's not complicated. It's just
52:35 difficult. That's kind of what you're saying, man. It's not complicated. It's difficult. And so
52:39 what I told this guy is I said, Oh, the best way to stop looking at porn, I was like, you ready?
52:44 Lean in. Stop looking at porn. Yeah. And I was like, and I was like, I also told, I was like,
52:51 you don't have a porn problem. You have a jerking off problem. Like, because you don't need one
52:56 without the other. Like porn is a masturbatory aid. And that is how you are using it. So a great
53:03 way to stop looking at porn is to stop jerking off. And it was just kind of like,
53:07 you could just see like he was like shocked by that. But it's like, Jaco, again, hey, man,
53:13 how do I do my more pullups? You should probably start by doing more pullups. How do I get better
53:17 at running? You should run. How do I learn to get better at jujitsu? You should probably go to class
53:22 and like learn how to grapple and, you know, fight people. Like those are the types of things we love
53:26 to overcomplicate things. Can you imagine that the same thing was happening during Neomize Age
53:31 in Jerusalem? For how many generations were people like, Oh gosh, I really wish these we could
53:36 rebuild these walls. It'd be so much cooler if we lived in a city where the walls were up.
53:40 Gosh darn it. I guess I'll go on about my day. And it's like, I got to rebuild the walls. It's
53:47 like you're kind of being sarcastic. But I think that's really spot on like how like and and I say
53:52 that as someone who's been there and yeah, I find myself often I want this but like,
53:58 do I want it that bad? Yeah. And I mean, you get to choose your heart. There's a difference like
54:06 Jaco, how do I how do I wake up early wake up early every day? Like you're saying, right? Yeah.
54:09 I do think and I'm no expert from a porn standpoint, it seems like there's something more sinister
54:16 satanic happening in that realm. So I think it's important that you do emphasize prayer
54:21 and reading your Bible and everything that you just said. It may be more than just you having
54:27 discipline in that sense to a degree. Here's what I would say. There's demonic activity happening
54:32 there. Certainly. Yeah. Right. So reading the scriptures, praying, getting counsel,
54:37 having accountability partners, you know, having software. I'm telling you guys, all that stuff
54:42 is valuable. But you also know how to get around all that. So at the end of the day,
54:48 and this is awkward not for some people at the table, you do have free will to make decisions.
54:54 Look at looks at Matt, but it's like, you do have free. No, we're not going to go there. We're
55:00 towards the end here. My laptop's open, which is the signal that we're almost wrapped up. Stop.
55:03 But you have free will. And so at the end of the day, this is why I tell people, I was like,
55:08 you can have the best software. You have covenant eyes. You can have guys that are literally checking
55:12 in with you constantly. You can have guys where before you're alone, before your wife and kids
55:16 are out of the house, which is the time when you would normally look at porn and masturbate,
55:19 you could tell guys, Hey, I'm about to be alone. Pray for me. You could have those guys check in
55:23 that night and check in the next day. And you have, you know, carrot or stick consequences,
55:28 like you can have all that. But you get to decide whether or not you do that. Right. And so
55:35 you could have the best path towards success, but you have to choose to go down that path.
55:39 And so that's not me disagreeing with you. That's me adding even more emphasis that at the end of
55:44 the day, you know how to get around your software. You know how to lie to the people in your life.
55:48 You know how to hide it. You're an expert at it. You've been doing it your entire life. And guess
55:52 what? You're going to make all the excuses possible. And you're going to be right back where you said
55:57 you didn't want to be. That's the problem that I see with a lot of people is they're liars. I really
56:01 want to be in shape. No, you don't. You haven't exercised in months. You like the idea of being
56:07 in shape. But you have no discipline to actually do that. I don't feel bad for you. So like when
56:12 these people like, you know, they spend 40 years not taking care of themselves and they get some
56:16 sort of debilitating disease that came from them neglecting themselves, it's like,
56:20 I don't feel bad for you. Like I'm sorry, you did this to yourself. Like if I were to take
56:25 a drill and drive it through my hand on purpose, you shouldn't feel bad for me that I have to go
56:30 through rehab and potentially get surgery because I'm an idiot. I'm a moron. I chose to do that.
56:35 And so again, there there is a an element here that most guys want to think their circumstances
56:40 controlled them. Now there are things that just happened to you that you can't control. But most
56:45 of the negativity that would befall a person in this world is by their own hand and by their own
56:49 doing because they made a bunch of bad decisions that led them to that moment where they were even
56:54 susceptible to that temptation or susceptible to that disease or susceptible to that ailment.
57:00 And so I'm not trying to diminish the power of God, the power of the power of, you know, warring
57:05 in the spiritual realm. But that's just the reality of kind of where we're at here.
57:09 Now guys, as we we wind up close here with Nehemiah two, this is where we start naming the the people
57:16 that are really going to be big in terms of the the negative tension in this situation.
57:23 So we've already heard about sandbout the Horanite and Tobia the Ammonite, but then we're also
57:27 introduced to Gesham the Arab and they're all ready to go in terms of how can we stop this
57:33 from happening. An interesting thing as I studied this is Nehemiah is literally surrounded by people
57:40 that don't want him to do this because sandbout's influence is north of Jerusalem, Tobia's influence
57:46 is east of Jerusalem, Gesham's influence is south of Jerusalem. He is literally surrounded by people
57:52 whose only job is just a nice saying be like, man, I don't let John do that. And it's like,
57:58 it's not just one guy, like all these people have people, right? So someone says, oh, you know,
58:03 Joe Biden's against me. It's not Joe Biden is the administration. Oh, you know, Donald Trump was
58:08 against me. It's not just Trump. It's the entire administration. The same thing is happening here.
58:12 So he gets there. He's doing the Lord's work and it should be smooth sailing from there, right?
58:17 That wouldn't be much of a story. No, he's got people that are really trying to contradict what
58:21 he's trying to do. And the point is that you're you're going to encounter opposition. When you
58:26 when you do something virtuous, worthwhile, there will be opposition. So plan for it.
58:31 And then we can look, we see that I was just looking back up really. I was like, oh,
58:36 SWAT analysis look like a perfect SWAT analysis. You know, uh, BMI knew of the threats that we're
58:42 going to come. And he was already planning for that. Um, I'm sure he, I'm sure he knew that
58:48 there would be others that would probably were less predictable. But he was already,
58:52 he already had his mindset. And just one more thing. And now I just watched with my son at the
58:58 book of Eli. And I told some of you guys about that. And I was just reminded of Denzel Washington
59:03 every time he met somebody where he headed, I'm headed west. You know, and then finally about
59:09 midway through the, the movie you hear kind of the why he's heading west and the, and the vision
59:14 that he had and the purpose that was placed on him and the promise that was given him that he would
59:19 be protected. And, and, I mean, he was just so set and I'm just going to, I'm going west,
59:24 he's going west and God will protect me. He told me I would be protected from harm, you know,
59:29 and of course you see the old movie is everybody's trying to kill him, you know, but he, he's,
59:34 well, I'm not going to give it away. I mean, it's like 13 years ago, really old. So you know,
59:39 spoiler alert, you guys, if you have not watched that movie, like fast forward, but go ahead and
59:42 make your point. Well, I mean, that was the point is just that I feel like me and I was kind of in
59:47 that realm. He just, it was like, this is what the Lord has set on me to do. This is how I've
59:52 found favor in his eyes. This is where he's placed me and this is what I'm bringing with me,
59:58 which is like, you know, all the wood and blah, blah, blah. And I think that is what, you know,
1:00:02 when we have a test, when we have passion and we have a testimony behind that, you know, that,
1:00:08 I think that's inspiring to people. And I think those people saw him in his passion.
1:00:13 It probably almost radiated in some respects. So well, and just I know the statue of limitations
1:00:19 on spoiler alerts is about a decade. So if you're about to describe a scene from the Godfather,
1:00:23 and if you say spoiler alert, no, no, no, no, when you said when you talked about them being from
1:00:32 different, like they're surrounding him, I immediately thought of song 22. So I turned to that deliverance
1:00:37 is not easy. Like God delivering his people is something that he will do. And we know the end of
1:00:44 the story. And it's something that happens. But that doesn't mean that there's not obstacles. And
1:00:49 so some 22 talks about it a couple of places, many bulls encompass me as strong bulls of Bishan
1:00:55 surround me. They're open wide their mouths at me, like a ravening and roaring lion. And then
1:01:01 it goes on to say for dogs encompass me a company of evil doers encircled me. They have pierced my
1:01:07 hands and feet. And there's this picture. Again, I think we should be looking to how this points
1:01:13 towards Christ and our own salvation and how we interact with what the Bible tells us about us
1:01:19 is he went to do God's work, but they're still like dogs and bulls encompassing him. There's going
1:01:30 to be obstacles. I would add one thing to that, which is, and this is coming from one of the
1:01:36 guides that I read, but it says not only was Nehemiah able to challenge his own people, but he was
1:01:39 able to stand up against the enemy and deal effectively with their opposition. Just as soon as God's
1:01:45 people step out by faith to do his will, the enemy shows up and tries to discourage them. So for
1:01:51 anybody that's that's leading teams or participating in teams, I think this is very important. It's
1:01:57 because we've talked a lot about I feel like God's getting me to do this and do all that. It's very
1:02:02 difficult to get a team pointed in the right direction in the midst of so many other challenges
1:02:07 that are occurring. And in order for this to truly be effective, it goes back to what this is saying,
1:02:11 what Jocko says other people, you got to get people on the same team working with you towards
1:02:14 the same goal. So I think as I read this, it was just it was like, wow, you know, this tells me how
1:02:21 difficult this must have been and what he was dealing with. Well, Zach, your point on opposition
1:02:25 is very well taken and probably a great place to end this because, guys, if you make a change
1:02:30 in your life, I've gotten a lot of messages over the years about, gosh, you know, you're right. I
1:02:35 finally, I decided I was going to get in shape. Or man, I have not been taking my relationship
1:02:39 with my wife seriously, man, I've not been catechizing my children, that type of thing.
1:02:42 And wouldn't you know it? As if it was part of the plan, they immediately run into a brick wall,
1:02:48 right? Maybe it's that their wife doesn't really care to work on their relationship right now.
1:02:52 Well, I do. So I thought you would, or maybe they get an injury, you know, right when they're
1:02:56 starting to get in shape, or they hit that plateau, you know, when people start losing a lot of weight
1:03:00 and then they hit the plateau and then they don't lose anymore. And there's always something that's
1:03:05 going to happen. It's almost inevitable. And or, you know, it's something not related to the
1:03:09 thing. So you decide you're going to get in shape. And then, you know, your father gets cancer.
1:03:12 And all of a sudden you're like trying to work out, but also be a caregiver. There's a lot of
1:03:16 those types of things. Expect it. Right. Do you think Nehemiah showed up in Jerusalem and expected
1:03:22 to be, you know, greeted as a conquering king? No, he, he expected this. Again, we don't see that
1:03:29 in the text. So I'm read, I'm I suggesting that into the text. But I, you got to know for a planner,
1:03:35 that he knew that he was going to walk in there and that the local governors and influencers in
1:03:39 that area, we're not just going to bow down and be like, Nehemiah, or the greatest, just let us know
1:03:42 what we can do to help. And so for all of you guys that are moving in that direction, just
1:03:46 understand that those things will happen to you. And I've heard other people talk about it before
1:03:50 is like Satan's not worried about you until he's worried about you. Okay. So when you're a non-Christian,
1:03:55 he doesn't really have to worry about you. You've been romanced by the world. You've been romanced
1:03:59 by these other, you know, a biblical, you know, a godly, you know, worldviews and philosophies. And now
1:04:05 all of a sudden, you're reading the Bible and you're praying and you're doing all those things,
1:04:08 go back to the screw tape letters, you're, you're seeing this with warm wood and you're seeing this
1:04:12 with with those types of individuals. It's like, now you're in the fight. Okay, you weren't in the
1:04:17 fight before. So you shouldn't expect slings and arrows heading your way. But now you're in it. But
1:04:21 guys, we're gonna have to, I was gonna, okay, that was ending with the thump, you know, this is,
1:04:28 this is a, he ends, he ends that in response with the perfect, the God of heaven will make us prosper
1:04:34 and we, his servants will arise and build. Yeah. And there's this God will, God will prosper us,
1:04:40 but we are also going to do the work. What a perfect response to their, you know, coming into
1:04:46 try to foil this, this whole plan. Even the last part, Matt, but you have no portion
1:04:51 or right claim in Jerusalem. It's like, if you're wondering where you're at in this setup,
1:04:56 there, that's the gauntlet. Yeah, that is absolutely the guy I'm like, dang, yeah, guys, there's,
1:05:02 there's so much in Nehemiah to again, if you were at all hesitant to anybody in the audience as to
1:05:07 why I said Nehemiah was one of my favorite books, you know, this is one of those chapters that should
1:05:11 really, really allow you to understand that more, but we're gonna have to leave it there for now.
1:05:15 But come back next Sunday, where we're gonna dig into Nehemiah three, and you might look at
1:05:20 Nehemiah three and read Nehemiah three and be like, what in the world are these guys going to do with
1:05:24 that? Guys, we're wizards over here. We're just the smartest dudes that have ever spoken,
1:05:28 and stop it, Eric, we are the smartest guys that ever said words into a microphone. So we're
1:05:33 gonna absolutely blow your guys's mind. So make sure you read that so you're prepared for next week.
1:05:36 But before I let you guys go, we are gonna do a quick resilience boost and in Daunted Life,
1:05:40 our mission is equipping men to push back darkness with content that for just spiritual, mental,
1:05:44 and physical resilience. The only link I've got for you today is a link to our donation page.
1:05:48 Guys, the way that we're able to pull things off like the forging table, all the stuff that we're
1:05:51 gonna be working on into the future is because we have guys just like you that are donating.
1:05:55 We have guys giving five bucks a month, 10 bucks a month, 100 bucks a month, 500 bucks a month,
1:06:00 whatever they can do. And it's going directly to support the things that are going into your
1:06:04 ear holes right now. So if you want to see us equip guys like you around the globe to be able
1:06:08 to push back darkness, please go to that link. It's on Daunted.life/donate and hop on board.
1:06:21 On your podcast, you shoot me an email to info@andontin.life. That's i-n-f-o@andontin.life.
1:06:27 Follow us on Instagram and like us on Facebook and check out our website for everything else,
1:06:30 including how to donate to keep more content like this coming your way. Just go to www.andontin.life.
1:06:35 And as always, we want to thank the band August Burns Red for allowing us to use their music for
1:06:39 our content. The musical and this podcast is our song, Cutting the Tides, which is off their 10th
1:06:43 anniversary re-recording of their album Leveler. The links are in the description.
1:06:48 I'm your host Kyle Thompson. Remember, keep pushing back darkness, keep forging spiritual,
1:06:54 mental and physical resilience, keep seeking the Lion of Judah.
1:07:18 [Music]
Key quotes
2
Kyle Thompson
The best way to stop looking at porn is to stop looking at porn.
Kyle Thompson
You can have the best software, but at the end of the day, you get to decide whether or not you do that.
Free Resource
31-Day Resilience Reset
If this episode hit, the next 31 days will be the reset. Free PDF, instant download.
START FREE →
Brotherhood
Apply to Dominion
Six pillars. Application only. The men's program Kyle built around the show.
APPLY NOW →
Dig Deeper
Ask the Archive
"Which episodes cover this topic?" Get answers grounded in all 940+ episodes.
START A CHAT →