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SEAN MCDOWELL | Bringing Truth to a New Generation (Ep. 398)

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SEAN MCDOWELL | Bringing Truth to a New Generation (Ep. 398)
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In this episode, Kyle Thompson sits down with Sean McDowell, a leading Christian apologist, to discuss the evolving landscape of apologetics and the pressing issues facing today's youth. They tackle tough topics like gender identity, race relations, and the importance of truth in a world filled with confusion and misinformation.
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0:32 - This is "Undaunted Life" a man's podcast.
0:51 I'm your host Kyle Thompson.
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0:54 All right guys, today we've got a special guest
0:55 on the podcast, his name is Sean McDowell.
0:57 He's a Christian apologist, author, speaker,
0:59 blogger and professor.
1:00 He is the author, co-author, or editor of over 20 books,
1:04 including one of the greatest books of all time evidence
1:07 that demands a verdict.
1:08 It is on the book list that is on our website.
1:10 So the next generation will know the fate of the apostles
1:12 and his newest book that we're gonna be talking about
1:14 a lot today, which is a rebels manifesto.
1:17 So Sean is also an associate professor
1:19 in Christian apologetics at Talbot School of Theology
1:22 at Biola University.
1:23 He got his PhD from Southern Baptist Theological Seminary
1:26 and MAs in both theology and philosophy
1:28 from the Talbot School of Theology.
1:30 He's also the co-host of the Think Biblically podcast.
1:32 So I was very excited to talk to him
1:34 'cause obviously he's from the first family
1:36 of Christian apologetics 'cause his dad is Josh McDowell,
1:38 wrote more than a carpenter.
1:39 So we talk about that.
1:41 We talk about how he's different from his dad
1:43 and what apologetics was like back in the day
1:44 when his dad was really up and coming
1:46 and versus what he does now.
1:48 And so we really look at all those different things.
1:50 We look at the trends in Christian apologetics
1:52 and how it's different, how you can't communicate in 2022
1:55 in the same way that you could do in 1982
1:56 or something like that.
1:58 We do talk about evidence that demands a verdict
2:00 and how people read that book and how they should read
2:02 that book, you know, the reasons why they did that book
2:05 and kind of how they changed it over time.
2:06 And then we dig into a rebels manifesto, his new book.
2:09 We talk about what that's about.
2:10 But that is a book that is written basically for teenagers
2:13 and giving them a primer on all these really, really
2:15 difficult topics.
2:16 So it's gonna talk about homosexuality and climate change
2:18 and transgenderism and guns and racial tension
2:22 and all these other different things.
2:23 And so we dig into some of those different categories
2:26 and we dig into what most Christians talk about today
2:29 in terms of what it means to be loving.
2:31 He and I have a great interaction about the transgender thing
2:33 and, you know, whether or not you should use someone's chosen
2:36 made up pronouns, even if they don't align with reality
2:39 or even basic biology.
2:41 And I really enjoyed our interaction about that.
2:43 And then I pushed back on him on specifically
2:45 his chapter on race because I felt like he was holding back
2:47 in that chapter and there was a lot of ground
2:49 that he didn't cover.
2:50 So he's engaged quite a bit on that.
2:52 And I asked him at the beginning,
2:53 if we did a good job on the podcast,
2:55 if he would be willing to come back very, very soon
2:57 'cause I had a bunch of other topics I wanted to talk to him
2:59 about that I knew we wouldn't be able to get to.
3:01 And so you'll have to stick around
3:02 until the end of the interview
3:03 to see if we did enough, good enough job
3:05 to get him back on the show.
3:07 So guys, I really, really enjoyed my time with Sean McDowell.
3:09 So without further ado, let's get into it.
3:12 Sean McDowell, welcome down to the Life of Man's podcast.
3:15 Kyle, thanks for having me.
3:17 I'm excited to have you on and I'm just gonna start out
3:19 with something unique here, okay?
3:21 I've never actually done this before in an interview,
3:23 but I'm going to put you on the spot
3:24 from the very, very beginning, okay?
3:26 So as I was preparing for this interview,
3:29 it became abundantly clear to me that almost immediately
3:32 that there would be too many things
3:34 that I would wanna talk to you about,
3:36 but that we weren't gonna have enough time
3:37 to sufficiently get into all of them.
3:39 So to put you on the spot from the jump,
3:41 assuming that our time together goes well today,
3:44 can we have you back on here soon
3:46 to dig into even more stuff?
3:48 I'm gonna be selfish from the jump here.
3:49 Can we dedicate to that?
3:51 - You know what?
3:52 I'm gonna hold out and say, you bring your A-game,
3:56 do a good job, and then I'll come back.
3:58 I'm not gonna make it too easy on you.
4:00 I don't think your audience would want that.
4:02 So bring it, and if you knock it out of the park, for sure.
4:06 - Guys, that's what it's called
4:07 when you throw down the gauntlet to somebody
4:09 and then they pick that up,
4:10 they smack you in the face with your own glove,
4:13 and then move from there.
4:13 So here we go, A-game is coming out.
4:15 So let's start as easy as we could possibly start.
4:19 It seems like Christian apologetics and writing
4:21 and speaking is just the McDowall family business, okay?
4:25 So you're the, now who's been in Christian ministry
4:29 for well over half a century at this point.
4:31 And he's author of one of the most important works
4:34 in all of Christian apologetics history,
4:36 in my opinion, at least.
4:37 And that's more than a carpenter.
4:38 And so just talk to me about that.
4:41 Like, you've been asked a question before.
4:43 Why did you get into this?
4:44 Was it because you wanted to be like Daddy-O?
4:46 Do you feel the pressure that he's been doing this
4:48 for so much longer?
4:49 And you know, you kind of have a different style.
4:51 Take me through it.
4:52 - Yeah, one of the things I appreciate about my dad
4:55 is he never once said that I could remember
4:57 something like, "Son, you ought to write a book.
5:00 "Hey, son, you could speak like I do.
5:03 "Hey, son, we need more apologists.
5:05 "Hey, you're a McDowall, carry the mantle forward."
5:09 - Yeah. - Never once.
5:10 The narrative as I remember it was,
5:13 "Hey, son, God's gifted you in different ways.
5:15 "Just use it for the kingdom, whatever that looks like."
5:18 And I think my dad understood
5:20 the kind of work that he and I do.
5:23 There's a lot of pressures
5:24 and there's also a lot of temptations that can come with it.
5:28 And if you're not in it for the right reason,
5:30 you're gonna hurt yourself
5:31 and you're gonna hurt others a lot more along the way.
5:34 So it was actually the opposite.
5:36 I actually resisted doing it 'cause I thought,
5:39 boy, if your dad's like the Michael Jordan, you know,
5:43 of a certain realm,
5:45 do you really wanna go in and face incessant comparisons?
5:50 - Yeah. - That gave me some pause.
5:53 But I think the reason I got into it is I did see
5:56 my parents live a life of meaning, of significance.
5:59 My dad is the same on the stage as off.
6:02 What you see is what you get.
6:04 I grew up hearing stories that people impacted
6:06 by more than a carpenter,
6:07 evidence and demands verdict, his speaking,
6:10 and just the sense of a higher calling.
6:14 And so when I worked through some of my own questions
6:16 and doubts and started to have my own passion
6:19 for the next generation,
6:20 I started to think, you know what,
6:21 this makes sense to do this.
6:24 And then when I started it slowly,
6:27 I think what happened is people would invite me back.
6:29 I'm like, oh, they're not just inviting me once
6:31 'cause I'm a McDowell, that helps.
6:33 Then I got people inviting me, not even knowing my dad.
6:35 I was like, you know what, maybe,
6:37 maybe I can make a real contribution here
6:39 and to make a long story short,
6:41 just became a passion of my own.
6:44 - So Sean, you kind of alluded to this a second ago.
6:47 Give us an idea of how your focus
6:50 and your work differs from what your dad did
6:53 or what he's still doing.
6:54 And then I guess what you could give us
6:57 is provide us with a little bit of a longitudinal idea
7:02 or study of how apologetics has changed
7:05 from when, you know, your father was in it
7:07 in the early days to kind of where it is now.
7:10 - Those are two great questions.
7:12 I love these.
7:13 Let me start with how different from my dad.
7:14 My dad is an evangelist first.
7:17 That's his heart, that's his wiring.
7:19 Now I think a lot of that comes from the fact
7:20 that he grew up in a broken home.
7:23 He was told that he was an accident, not wanted as a kid.
7:27 My grandfather, his dad was an alcoholic growing up.
7:31 My dad's older sister took her own life
7:33 and my dad was sexually abused severely
7:36 for seven years by somebody on their farm
7:39 until my dad was old enough to slam the man
7:41 against the wall and say, if you touch me again,
7:43 I'll kill you and he meant it.
7:45 And that was in the 40s.
7:47 So nobody believed when he talked about it then
7:50 'cause those things didn't happen.
7:52 So his come to Jesus moment was radical
7:56 and life changing and revolutionary.
7:59 So his whole life is about evangelism.
8:03 Growing up in the church, my story is more of one.
8:05 I went through a pretty significant season of doubt
8:08 and questioning, even in telling my dad,
8:09 I'm not sure that I really am convinced
8:12 that this Christian stuff is true
8:13 and him encouraging me and loving me along the way,
8:16 my experience is just different.
8:19 But I also think I'm wired differently.
8:20 I'm not first and foremost an evangelist.
8:23 Although I do evangelism and I care about it,
8:26 I'm first and foremost a teacher.
8:28 Hence I've taught high school for years.
8:30 I'm a professor.
8:31 So I'm in a little bit of the academic world.
8:35 I've written an academic book, some journal articles.
8:38 I go to some of the conferences.
8:40 And then I do popular level things.
8:43 So I got a PhD and my dad didn't need to get a PhD
8:46 in his world.
8:47 That's probably the big difference.
8:49 I think the other difference,
8:50 and this maybe gets your second question is,
8:53 my dad is just wired for the way apologetics was done
8:58 in probably 60, 70s and 80s, the free speech platform.
9:03 My dad doesn't lack chutzpah for a better word.
9:06 He's confident, he's always told me he's like,
9:09 son, I'm gonna attack hell with a squirt gun.
9:11 Let's go.
9:13 So when you go back, he cut his teeth in Latin America,
9:16 debating Marxists.
9:19 I mean, radical taking over Marxist rallies,
9:22 going to Berkeley on the free speech platform.
9:24 And you grab a mic and you have to shout things.
9:27 You show confidence.
9:28 If you show weakness, you're throwing off the stage.
9:31 That's the way when people are protesting the war,
9:34 he's out there preaching Jesus.
9:36 That's a very different time.
9:39 Now, in a sense, everybody's shouting,
9:42 everybody's angry, everybody's offended.
9:45 I actually think a more powerful apologetic today
9:48 is one that's relational, one that is gracious,
9:52 one that builds bridges and listens
9:55 and does the opposite of cancel culture.
9:58 I'm wired a little bit more for that kind of engagement.
10:04 And so that's some of the differences,
10:06 as far as the way apologetics has changed.
10:08 I mean, when my dad's start,
10:09 there was basically C.S. Lewis and Francis Schaeffer
10:14 and nobody doing it on a popular level.
10:16 I mean, nobody Kyle.
10:18 - When C.S. Lewis wasn't even as popular in his time
10:21 as he is right now, he gets more and more popular
10:24 every year that goes by.
10:26 - I think that's right.
10:27 He died in what, early 60s, I think 63, maybe if I remember.
10:32 But nobody was doing it.
10:34 There was no Frank Turic, there was no Greg Cocoa,
10:37 there's no JP Moreland, no William Lane Craig,
10:39 Geisler was coming on the scene.
10:41 So he really was a trailblazer when he started.
10:44 And he found a way to take academic stuff
10:47 and just popularize it
10:49 and would always share his story as a part of it
10:51 on college campuses.
10:53 And would get massive audience of six, eight, 10, 12,000 out
10:58 for these huge events.
11:01 And when he started, really the question was,
11:03 is Christianity true?
11:05 I think the question has shifted.
11:07 Now there's a ton of people doing apologetics.
11:10 You have TikTok apologists, you have Twitter apologists,
11:13 you have blogs, you have YouTube channels,
11:14 you have speakers, you have professors,
11:16 you have like people doing it in their church.
11:19 But the question is shifted really from is Christianity true
11:23 to is Christianity good?
11:25 And a lot of people think because of hypocrisy,
11:28 church abuse, the narrative about sexuality,
11:32 that even if it were true,
11:34 I don't wanna believe it 'cause it's harmful and it's bad.
11:37 That's how I think some of the apologetic questions
11:39 have shifted.
11:40 - I would say I certainly agree with that.
11:43 And that opens up a whole can of worms and stuff
11:45 that I wasn't even planning on asking you.
11:46 So we'll see how we do time wise today.
11:48 But yeah, I'm reminded of another apologist
11:50 that you didn't mention, which is John Linux.
11:52 And he's the type of guy that he was at Oxford
11:56 when C.S. Lewis was wrapping up his public career.
11:59 He got to sit down in lectures at Oxford with C.S. Lewis.
12:04 And here he is in 2022.
12:05 And he's still, he's like working on three books right now.
12:08 And it's just me and all the other ones.
12:09 And he's a guy that we had on the show a few months back.
12:11 And I was like, oh, I was literally sitting there,
12:14 like talking to him, like, I feel like my intellect
12:16 couldn't lightly toast a piece of bread.
12:18 And here's this guy, just this absolute lion of intellect
12:22 in of just intellectualism.
12:24 And I'm just like, gosh, I'm just,
12:25 I'm here for it, but I don't know if I can really make it happen,
12:28 which leads me to the book that you mentioned earlier,
12:31 which is one of the most important books
12:34 that I think exists in terms of Christendom.
12:36 No, I don't just mean apologetics.
12:38 And that's evidence that demands a verdict.
12:40 So we have a book list on our website,
12:42 the 100 books every modern Christian man should read list.
12:45 That book is featured in that list.
12:47 And you know, that list has literature,
12:48 it has apologetics, that's theology, money, parenting,
12:51 it has all these different categories.
12:53 But that is a book that I'm glad I read it
12:56 the way that I read it,
12:57 even though I think I read it incorrectly.
12:59 Because I read that book as if it were a book
13:03 that you start in page one and you just work your way through.
13:06 And about 100 pages in it, I'm like, oh, no.
13:09 This is a reference book.
13:11 This isn't like a read from beginning to end book.
13:13 Someone should have told me,
13:15 this is why I can't be trusted to do things on my own.
13:17 But if you have a question about a random topic,
13:21 about creation or about the resurrection
13:25 or about the first century church or something like that,
13:28 you just go to the table of contents of that book
13:30 and then you start digging.
13:32 And the level of footnotes is astonishing.
13:34 It's like a Thomas soul book.
13:35 I mean, it's just absolutely incredible.
13:38 And so talk to me a little bit about that book
13:40 because that is a book that you worked on with your father.
13:42 And I mean, it's a tone, it is dense.
13:46 It's like, man, it's just one of those books
13:48 that if you're a Christian,
13:49 that's not only a bookshelf, you're messing up.
13:51 - So the story behind this book is really interesting.
13:54 My dad, his journey to faith,
13:56 I talked about his broken background
13:57 as he was challenged by some Christians
13:59 to consider the claims of Christ.
14:01 And really what drew them is that this group
14:03 of Christians had peace, they had love,
14:06 their lives were different.
14:07 He wanted to know and they mentioned this guy, Jesus.
14:10 He's like, give me a break.
14:11 I'm gonna prove that the Bible's false.
14:13 Jesus was not God, didn't rise from the grave.
14:16 Well, at this time there was no internet.
14:18 There were no apologetic books
14:20 you could really get on this, very few.
14:23 So he had enough money, he had saved up.
14:24 He's always been an entrepreneur,
14:26 even though it is probably, I don't know,
14:28 about 20, 20, when years old, maybe.
14:30 From a painting business, he travels internationally,
14:33 go to these museums to go to all these sites
14:38 to find some of the original evidence
14:40 to examine manuscripts.
14:42 Ends up concluding that Christianity is actually true.
14:46 Well, a few years later when he's worked
14:48 for Campsker Save for Christ, he decides,
14:50 you know what, I'm gonna take some of my notes,
14:53 put them together, staplum together,
14:54 I don't know, maybe eight or 10 pages,
14:56 and just sell them at an event.
14:58 And he told me he goes,
14:59 Sunday sold like wildfire.
15:03 He goes, then I knew I was on to something.
15:06 And so he decides to write a book
15:09 and the crazy thing, Kyle,
15:10 is no publisher wants the book.
15:13 They're like, it's not gonna sell
15:15 if it's a reference book, it's facts, it's arguments.
15:19 You know, now I think it's well over four million copies.
15:23 I mean, it could have made some publishers rich
15:25 just in having that book.
15:27 So got a publisher, wrote it in '70,
15:32 I gotta think about this, '72,
15:33 more of the carpenter was '77,
15:35 updated '80s, updated in the '90s.
15:38 And then 2017, he asked me to head up
15:41 and updated the book.
15:42 And so we had about a dozen leading scholars
15:44 in the world, three dozen grad students
15:47 from our apologetics program at Biola,
15:49 and spent about two years updating this book.
15:53 And the cool thing to me is it won an award
15:55 in its category for Book of the Year,
15:57 which for me, it only mattered as a way
15:59 of just honoring my dad
16:01 and this powerful resource he put together for the kingdom.
16:05 But you're right, it's not meant to be read through,
16:07 but if I had a dollar every time somebody told me
16:09 what you told me and said they just did,
16:11 I might be rich.
16:13 But the thing was is like, even if you read it that way,
16:15 it's not like you won't get value out of it,
16:17 but there are times there are books
16:19 that they're just not meant to be read that way
16:21 because I'm a narrative sponge.
16:24 So I can read a 500 page book
16:26 and then I can tell you in three minutes or less
16:29 the high points of this book
16:30 and why it's gonna be important for you in your life,
16:32 I can't do that with that book necessarily.
16:34 Like I gotta go into a different area
16:36 to explain why it's so important.
16:38 So that's kind of the seminal work for me,
16:41 for you and your dad combined,
16:43 because like, you know, I'll answer for you,
16:45 but if we had to delete the rest of y'all's catalogs
16:48 of everything that you've ever written
16:50 and that was the one thing that survived,
16:52 humanity would be better for it.
16:53 So there's your compliment.
16:54 No, I'm not just buttering you up
16:56 so that you'll come back on the show here soon
16:58 because that's what I want, okay?
16:59 I'm still keeping my A-game face on right now.
17:02 But we do need to talk about your new book
17:04 or Tindale, your publisher is gonna be really, really mad at me.
17:07 It's called A Rebel's Manifesto.
17:09 And so I just finished reading this.
17:11 A subtitle is Choosing Truth, Real Justice,
17:13 and Love Amid the Noise of Today's World.
17:17 And so I want you to give us an idea
17:19 about where the idea for this book came from
17:21 and what it's about and all that kind of normal generic stuff.
17:23 But I wanna read a quote from early in the book
17:26 'cause I think it helps set up what the book's about
17:29 and then we'll start digging into some individual things
17:31 from the book, but here's the quote.
17:33 One reason it is so challenging to love our neighbors today
17:36 is that our culture operates
17:37 under a different definition of love than held by Jesus.
17:40 Today, love means affirming someone's behavior and beliefs.
17:44 It means accepting someone for who they believe themselves to be.
17:47 And it means agreeing with however someone feels about themselves.
17:51 If not, you're hateful.
17:53 So again, you talk about love right there and that quote,
17:55 "Love is in the subtitle of the book."
17:57 So A Rebel's Manifesto, why'd you write it?
17:59 What's it for?
18:00 What do you want readers to get out of it?
18:02 - Yeah, so people who know me in my ministry
18:04 would be like, "A Rebel's Manifesto."
18:06 I'm not sure Sean strikes me as the rebel.
18:10 Why that title?
18:12 And some have come from the fact that I was thinking about recently
18:15 how rock music represents rebellion.
18:19 So go back to the '50s,
18:20 rebellion against certain racial injustice
18:23 in the '60s against the system,
18:26 in the '70s against war, et cetera.
18:30 But when we get into the early 2000s with social media,
18:32 rock music has lost in terms of the dress,
18:36 in terms of the sound, in terms of the lyrics.
18:40 It's lost its contrarian voice
18:43 because everybody has a medium or a TikTok count
18:47 to shout to the world and make their point.
18:50 So given who our culture's gone,
18:52 I thought, what does it mean to be a rebel today?
18:55 What does it mean to be contrarian?
18:57 It actually means to be the opposite.
18:59 Rather than shouting somebody down,
19:01 rather than canceling somebody,
19:04 it actually means building bridges,
19:06 trying to love somebody in many of the ways
19:10 that Jesus did when he was physically here on earth.
19:15 So I'm trying to get people to realize
19:16 there's a different way of being a rebel today.
19:19 And so the book, really what it does,
19:21 is I got the top 25 most controversial issues
19:26 I could come across with the help of students,
19:29 Christian school teachers, youth pastors,
19:31 whether it's immigration, gun control, transgender,
19:36 climate change, and just said,
19:38 what Christian truths apply to this?
19:42 How do we think about it?
19:43 And then how do we engage our neighbors
19:46 in positive conversations about these issues that matter?
19:51 Now, some issues we die on
19:53 'cause they're tied to the heart of the gospel.
19:55 Other issues we don't have to die on,
19:57 we can show charity and kindness to others,
20:01 and learn from it and build relationships.
20:03 So basically it's about written for students
20:05 to try to say, how do you stand boldly for truth
20:09 in a loving fashion as a rebel,
20:13 which means to follow Jesus today?
20:16 That's kind of the heart of it.
20:17 - And so it certainly reads that way.
20:19 So for a lot of guys,
20:20 especially guys that are fans of this podcast,
20:22 it might seem rather elementary,
20:23 but you have to remember
20:24 the target audience is going to be teenagers
20:26 that haven't spent decades
20:28 thinking through some of these issues
20:29 or really dug into the philosophies of the world.
20:31 These are those types of things.
20:32 And a lot of ways, this is an introduction
20:35 to those subject matters.
20:36 And then it will tee them up
20:38 to go and check them out in other areas.
20:39 So the guys listening to this,
20:41 if you have teenagers right now
20:42 and you're struggling with some of the conversations
20:44 around those really important incendiary
20:47 and dramatic topics,
20:49 this is a great primer for some of those conversations.
20:51 So it's in the show notes you guys can obviously check it out,
20:54 but let's dig into some of the stuff from the book.
20:55 There was another short quote from early in the book
20:57 that I think is important
20:58 'cause it kind of describes the moment we're in.
21:01 Here is a very important point to remember.
21:03 Disagreement about truth does not erase
21:06 the existence of truth.
21:08 So I don't even know if you use the word in that section
21:11 'cause I can't remember,
21:12 but you're talking about postmodernism there
21:14 because postmodernism has eroded the foundations of truth
21:17 and there's no such thing as capital T truth anymore.
21:20 There's only lowercase T truth
21:22 and it's usually preceded by the word my.
21:25 This is my truth and what people mean when they say that
21:27 are these are my facts.
21:29 These are not things like, you know what I mean?
21:31 Because if you can destroy capital T truth,
21:34 then you are in control of quote unquote facts.
21:37 So talk to me about kind of the world that we live in now,
21:41 which is another reason why apologetics has changed
21:43 because in the 60s, 70s and 80s,
21:44 it's like, is this true or is this not?
21:46 But now we don't have a binary category of true
21:49 or not true, it's true or not true for you
21:53 or for him or for me.
21:54 It's just a crazy space and time that we live in.
21:57 - Yeah, I saw a study recently that said
21:59 we used to have different interpretations.
22:03 Now we have different facts.
22:06 And at least that's how we see the world.
22:09 We used to be able to agree on certain facts,
22:11 but then determine how we interpret those facts.
22:14 Now, literally it's like people live in different universes.
22:17 So what happens is we demonize people
22:20 who see the world differently than we do,
22:23 breaks down communication, doesn't help
22:25 and actually gets us further away from knowing the truth.
22:29 A phrase that we hear a lot that I think captures
22:31 this postmodern idea that you're getting at
22:33 is you'll hear people say, live your truth.
22:37 - Yeah.
22:38 - I remember during the Kavanaugh hearings
22:40 when Ford was raising some charges,
22:42 Senator Booker kept saying to Ford, share your truth,
22:47 share your truth and I'm sitting here going,
22:49 wasn't this guy trained at Stanford?
22:52 She doesn't have her own truth.
22:54 She has her own experiences.
22:56 She has her own beliefs,
22:58 but there is a truth about whether those charges
23:02 happened or not and that's what we need to figure out.
23:06 So I'll say to people, you can have your own beliefs,
23:10 but you cannot have your own truth.
23:14 You can have your own belief.
23:15 You can live your beliefs.
23:17 In fact, we all live our beliefs,
23:19 but you can't have your own truth
23:21 because truth is when a belief matches up with reality.
23:26 That's what people miss.
23:28 Now why do we hear people saying, like you said,
23:31 Kyle, that may be true for you, but not true for me.
23:33 That's my truth, not your truth, live your truth.
23:36 The locus of truth has shifted.
23:40 So back to when my dad started ministry 60s and 70s,
23:44 people would say, give me facts, give me proof,
23:46 give me evidence.
23:48 The assumption was there's a truth in the world.
23:52 We discover that truth.
23:54 Maybe it's Marxism, maybe it's Christianity,
23:57 maybe it's Islam, maybe it's atheism.
24:00 And then we conform our lives to that external truth.
24:05 Now it shifted inside that if I simply believe something,
24:10 then it's true for me.
24:13 It's not about the facts in the world.
24:16 It's about my feelings, my choice, my autonomy.
24:20 And if you don't affirm it, you're the bigot,
24:23 you're hateful, you're intolerant.
24:25 So one way that my dad framed it for me again,
24:29 that was helpful is he said,
24:30 when you go back to like the 70s,
24:32 there was the sense that the problem is out in the world
24:36 and we could all identify it in the world and fix it.
24:40 Now the problem has shifted internally to my feelings,
24:44 to my mental health, to my autonomy.
24:47 It's gone from external to internal,
24:50 from objective to subjective.
24:54 - And it's almost like truth is out to get them, right?
24:56 So these people that get offended by words
24:59 and by other things, because the reality is truth
25:01 is undergirded or the scaffolding beneath truth
25:05 is something called facts.
25:06 And so I use this example all the time
25:07 because it's just common for people,
25:09 but Abraham Lincoln was the 16th president of the United States.
25:12 That is true and undergirded by a bunch of facts.
25:15 Abraham Lincoln existed, there was an election,
25:18 it came after the 15th president
25:20 and before the 17th president,
25:21 he won that election.
25:22 These are all facts that undergird a truth.
25:25 And the thing about it is now,
25:26 is I feel like people, especially conservatives
25:29 and Christians that are just really, really nice
25:30 and want to be known for how nice they are
25:31 and they want to be known for what they're for
25:33 and not what they're against.
25:34 And all these nonsense slogans,
25:35 it's like it's okay to point out
25:37 that we can have different lenses
25:39 through which we view things,
25:40 but we can't have different facts.
25:42 Because again, you grow up in an Eastern Orthodox context
25:46 versus growing up in a Catholic, Roman Catholic context.
25:50 Obviously your lenses are different,
25:52 but it doesn't change the truth or falsehood
25:53 of the resurrection as an example.
25:55 And so I think that's kind of where we've gotten to
25:57 is we get into this struggle
25:59 and there are people that are uncomfortable
26:02 with relying on truth
26:04 because they're so concerned about people's feelings
26:06 and it's just like, man, at a certain point
26:08 we have to get to bedrock, you know?
26:11 I think that's really well said, it's interesting.
26:12 I was just doing a book review with my co-host
26:16 for this podcast that I do about a transgender male
26:21 and the experience with scripture.
26:24 And at the beginning, what this author says was,
26:28 you might be thinking that queer and trans writers
26:33 are making God in their own image.
26:37 In other words, you might say we're beginning
26:39 with this narrative and forcing scripture into our narrative.
26:44 And then this writer said, but the reality is
26:48 the obvious problem is we all start from somewhere
26:52 and have certain biases.
26:54 And I thought, oh my goodness, this is such a straw man.
26:58 There's, yes, we all have biases,
27:01 but we can work to minimize those biases.
27:04 We can read different perspectives.
27:07 We can talk to people who see the world differently
27:10 just because we have biases and are standing somewhere
27:14 doesn't mean we don't have access to truth.
27:18 So the mere fact that I have a certain race
27:20 and a certain socioeconomic status
27:22 doesn't determine that I can't know truth
27:25 and therefore it's all relative, rather what it should do
27:29 is make me say, okay, I wonder if I see the certain world
27:32 'cause I have a skin color.
27:33 Okay, that's an important question.
27:35 I wonder if because I'm a male,
27:36 like those are fair questions
27:38 because I'm a Christian biases,
27:40 but they don't determine truth and blind me
27:44 if we work hard to know what is true.
27:48 Those are the two extremes that I've seen
27:50 and I think it's an unhelpful way to move forward.
27:53 And we as Christians gotta be willing
27:55 to listen to different perspectives.
27:57 Read books, work hard to minimize so we can know truth
28:01 and then frankly, make sure we're not doing the same thing.
28:04 Make sure we're not interpreting the data
28:06 in a way that's comfortable to us
28:09 and rejecting voices that disagree with us.
28:11 We've gotta make sure we're willing to follow truth
28:14 even if it's inconvenient.
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28:46 - I think to a degree as well
28:48 that Christians have potentially acquiesced too much
28:52 to worldviews that don't comport at all with the scripture.
28:56 And so you see a lot of people now using language like,
28:59 oh, you know what, we're just gonna use critical race theory
29:01 as a lens to help us understand the plight
29:05 of these apparently homogenous groups of people
29:07 that have a certain level of melanin.
29:10 And it's just like, wait a minute,
29:11 like why would you use a worldview
29:14 that comes from critical theory,
29:15 that comes from the Frankfurt School,
29:17 which comes from Karl Marx,
29:19 which comes from the Butthole of Satan,
29:20 like why in the world would you like go to that
29:23 and be like, I wanna use this as a lens through which
29:25 we can help spread the gospel.
29:27 It's like, this is oil and water.
29:28 These things cannot mix,
29:30 but I do wanna just stay on the transgender topics
29:32 since you brought it up because, you know,
29:33 I saw this recently talked about it on my show.
29:35 There was a speaker at Trinity College at Cambridge
29:37 that talked about how Jesus was transgender
29:40 and had a transgender body.
29:41 And he used all these paintings and artwork
29:44 to kind of prove his point.
29:45 And then the dean came out and said, yeah, yeah,
29:47 that's plausible because that's where we get to now.
29:49 It's like, we don't wanna be mean.
29:51 We think that being nice to our neighbor is akin to,
29:54 we should just lie to our neighbor.
29:55 And so you cover the transgender topic in the book again,
29:58 it's brief and it's a primer.
30:00 The specific thing on the transgender topic
30:02 I wanna talk to you about, Sean,
30:04 is Christians that will acquiesce to pronoun requests
30:08 even when it violates truth.
30:10 So a guy that I respect a lot,
30:11 I've been on the show a couple of times,
30:13 Justin Briarley over in the UK,
30:14 whenever he's had a transgender person on his podcast,
30:17 knowing the biological sex of the person,
30:20 he will use the chosen pronouns of that person,
30:23 which does not align with truth and does not align
30:26 with, you know, their biological sex.
30:28 And when he came on my show,
30:29 I asked him about that as politely as I could and said,
30:31 hey man, truth is the ethic that we should hold
30:34 above everything else, not necessarily someone's feelings.
30:37 That doesn't mean you should be demonstrably, you know,
30:40 argumentative with somebody when you first get to know them.
30:43 But if you have a problem with truth,
30:44 like just use their name.
30:45 I don't care what you call yourself,
30:47 but I'm not going to lie.
30:48 I'm not gonna allow you to compel me to use speech
30:51 that I know to be untrue.
30:53 But talk to me about the myriad of Christians
30:55 that disagree with me that they're like,
30:56 yeah, pronouns are just pronouns, it doesn't really matter.
31:00 - So I'll tell you my position on this one.
31:03 I think there's generally two takes that Christians have.
31:06 One is the position you laid out, I think very carefully.
31:10 And well, that I'm not going to lie
31:13 and speak something that's not true.
31:16 So if I use a preferred pronoun,
31:18 I mean, I'm violating my conscience.
31:21 My answer would be don't violate your conscience.
31:25 You should not, if you feel that way, Kyle.
31:27 Now, by the way, some Christians can have seared consciences
31:31 if they haven't prayed about something,
31:33 haven't got guidance, haven't been reflective on it.
31:35 But in this case, I can tell you thought about this,
31:38 don't violate it.
31:40 I was talking to my co-host and he goes,
31:42 he goes, Sean, here's how I see it.
31:44 He goes, I'm willing to simply meet somebody
31:47 where they are at, relationally,
31:50 for the sake of speaking truth to them.
31:54 This is somebody who's been thoughtful,
31:57 doesn't feel coerced into it.
31:59 He says, my conscience says, if I'm not willing to do this,
32:03 this conversation is going to break down
32:05 and they're not even going to hear me.
32:07 So before this person can change who they are,
32:10 they've got to have Jesus to clean her up
32:12 or from the inside, that's his position.
32:15 And because this person is so thoughtful,
32:18 I'm not going to say to him, hey,
32:21 you should use that pronoun.
32:22 I wouldn't say to Justin, who's my friend
32:25 because he's a very thoughtful person.
32:28 I'm not going to tell him he's wrong on his conscience.
32:31 Now, somebody who's going to tell me I'm being soft,
32:32 I'm being mistaken, I can tell you for me,
32:36 I would have a hard time using a preferred pronoun
32:41 because I feel the way that you do,
32:44 I feel there's a certain coercion
32:46 sometimes that comes into this that says,
32:48 if you're going to respect me,
32:49 you have to use this language.
32:51 So respect is fully on that person's terms
32:54 without a sense from the worldview
32:56 and where I'm coming from.
32:58 I would have a hard time,
32:59 I don't mind avoiding pronouns,
33:02 I don't mind using a person's first name,
33:05 that stuff doesn't bother me.
33:07 But in my own conscience,
33:08 I just don't feel comfortable doing that.
33:11 The only exception might be in a personal relationship
33:14 with somebody that's not public,
33:17 then that would concern me less if we're able to talk it through
33:21 and find a certain level of common ground,
33:24 but that's where I'm at with that topic.
33:28 - I appreciate you going into that detail.
33:30 And this is what I would ask your co-hosts,
33:32 this is what I would ask Justin,
33:34 if I were sitting down with him
33:35 and we were having a discussion.
33:37 I would say, what if somebody has come over to your home
33:41 and they identify as a furry?
33:43 And so these are a category of people
33:46 that identify as animals.
33:47 So they identify as house cats or dogs or something like that.
33:50 And I would ask them, ask them,
33:53 would it be loving of you to invite someone over to dinner
33:56 and to put it on a bowl on the floor?
33:58 Because they identify as a furry,
33:59 is that a loving thing to that person?
34:01 After the meal, would you put them on a leash
34:03 and take them out to use the restroom in the yard?
34:06 Like where do we take this and where do we stop this?
34:09 Because you might be like, oh, that's ridiculous,
34:11 that's egregious.
34:12 It's categorically the same as somebody
34:14 who is confused about their gender
34:17 and you playing into that confusion
34:19 and mainlining it and mainstreaming it
34:21 and pretending like you're being nice and virtuous.
34:24 So obviously I'm a little bit more abrasive in my approach,
34:26 but that would be my question to him.
34:28 And I would just let it sit there in the ether
34:30 and be like, what are you gonna do with that person?
34:32 Because there are people that think they are those things,
34:34 they genuinely believe that.
34:35 There are people that think they're furniture.
34:38 And so if someone comes over to my house
34:39 and they identify as a chair, shall I sit on them?
34:42 Unless I be called a judgmental bigot?
34:46 You kinda see what I'm saying?
34:47 - I think that's totally fair.
34:48 Now I'm not gonna mention who it was,
34:50 but there's a well-known apologist you would recognize.
34:53 And I asked this, I said, hey, would you use
34:55 a preferred pronoun?
34:57 He said, Sean, I would call somebody a horse
35:00 if that's what it took to be in relationship
35:03 with that person to share Jesus with them.
35:06 Now, you might disagree and I doubt that apologist would say,
35:09 yeah, I'll put him out in the stall
35:12 and I'll feed him water under a trough.
35:13 Like we're all gonna draw the line somewhere.
35:17 The question is just where are we going to draw that line
35:21 is where the debate comes in.
35:23 So I think that's totally a fair question.
35:25 I think that's the right question.
35:28 But I think even a well-known apologist who you know
35:30 and respect, and that's not me, by the way,
35:33 who answered that would give that response.
35:36 - So I'll put it this way.
35:37 So I've said a lot of judgmental
35:39 and things about this particular pastor,
35:42 but Craig Rochelle of Life Church,
35:43 I attended his church for over 10 years.
35:45 I think his standard, I don't know
35:47 if he still holds to the standard.
35:48 But I remember him saying over and over and over
35:50 is that he and the church is gonna do anything short of sin
35:54 to bring people to the gospel, to bring them.
35:58 And so it's like, if you start your evangelical conversation
36:02 and relationship with somebody on a lie, on a falsehood,
36:06 I think it's not exactly fruit of the poisonous tree
36:09 to where, okay, we can't take anything else,
36:11 but I liken it to things like this.
36:14 When all the revelations came out about Robbie Zacharias
36:17 and the horrific sexual deviant that he was,
36:20 I wish he was still alive to be able to deal
36:22 with those consequences, unfortunately,
36:23 he died before all that happened.
36:25 But what he caused is not just pain and agony
36:29 and for all of his victims.
36:31 For all the people that came to a RZIM event
36:34 and were saved at an event,
36:36 they're now all of a sudden questioning their own salvation
36:39 because of the foundation that was laid out
36:42 by the man that gave them the so-called truth.
36:45 You could liken it to Christians pretending like God exists,
36:48 but lying to their kids about the Easter Bunny and Santa
36:51 and all these other things and expecting
36:53 whenever they come of age,
36:54 not believing those things anymore
36:55 that they'll still believe in this God
36:56 that they can't see either.
36:58 And so I think it creates a lot of entrails
37:01 that I think people are given short shrift
37:03 and not enough thoughts to,
37:05 but I think we belabor that point.
37:07 I wanna move on to some other things
37:09 that are gonna potentially get us.
37:10 - Can I make one point?
37:12 I don't know the context with which this pastor said that.
37:15 I'm not sure I would frame it the same
37:16 and say anything short of sin.
37:19 The way I would approach it is I wanna be as charitable
37:22 to the person as I can be without violating my conscience
37:27 and doing anything biblically wrong.
37:32 So what does that look like?
37:33 If someone says to me, "Hey Sean, you know,
37:36 can you use my preferred pronoun?"
37:38 I would say, you know, I sense this is something
37:41 really important to you.
37:43 Would you be willing to go to coffee with me and sit down
37:47 and share about your experience being transgender?
37:51 All I wanna do is listen and understand.
37:55 The Bible has a lot to say, Kyle,
37:57 about speaking after we've listening,
38:00 after we've listened first,
38:01 there's proverbs that talk about the importance
38:04 of understanding.
38:05 And I would sit down and say,
38:06 tell me when you first experienced
38:08 gender dysphoria or gender expectations.
38:11 Who did you first tell?
38:12 How do people respond?
38:13 How does this affect your faith?
38:14 Have you ever had doubts?
38:15 I would just listen to understand this person's story.
38:19 Then I would say, tell me why it's so important to you
38:22 that I use this preferred pronoun.
38:24 My only goal is to understand.
38:26 And at the end, I'm gonna say,
38:28 do you feel like I've taken the time
38:30 to understand where you're coming from?
38:32 Do you feel like I've been empathetic?
38:34 Yes.
38:35 Would you be willing to hear me out about my worldview,
38:39 where I'm coming from?
38:41 And why using preferred pronouns
38:44 is also very significant to me.
38:48 Now the person can say no, and then what have you done?
38:50 You've extended as much charity as you can.
38:54 And then you have a clear conscience before the Lord.
38:57 You've bent over backwards, so to speak,
39:00 to try to show kindness and love to this person.
39:03 And then you lay out, if you have the kind of concerns
39:05 that you and I have and say, you know what?
39:06 I think God has made us male and female.
39:11 And that our gender identity is to match up
39:14 with our bodily sex.
39:16 I don't think I truly am what I believe in my mind.
39:20 My body is a part of who I am.
39:23 So just like you want to be a person who's authentic
39:26 and live out who you believe you are,
39:28 I want to be an authentic follower of Jesus.
39:32 And Jesus tells me to speak the truth.
39:35 So are you asking me to be inauthentic to who I am?
39:40 That's a really interesting question
39:43 I've asked in different settings.
39:45 And then at the end, I just say,
39:47 given how difficult this is and the worlds we're coming from,
39:50 I'm committed to be in a relationship with you.
39:53 Is there a way we can find common ground to proceed?
39:56 And then you haven't done anything wrong
39:58 if that's your understanding like you and I have.
40:01 You've shown understanding, you've shown empathy,
40:04 you've shown kindness.
40:06 That's how I'd like Christians to proceed.
40:09 Now still, some people say you're big at, I hate full.
40:12 People are taking their own lives
40:13 because if you're non-affirming theology,
40:16 I can't control that response.
40:18 But I can control how I treat people.
40:21 That's how I would approach something like this.
40:24 - I'm really glad actually that you laid that out
40:26 in such a detailed fashion
40:28 because this is gonna come as a shock to you.
40:30 But I'm gonna get to the point, kind of a person.
40:32 It's like, so it was funny is immediately
40:35 when you pose that question, like if someone came up to you
40:37 and said, "Well, you use my preferred pronouns."
40:38 I'd be like, "No."
40:39 Like, that's just my default mechanism.
40:42 My default mechanism, yeah.
40:43 It's just like, you know,
40:45 people love to use the word nuance.
40:46 It's a word that dumb people use to sound smart.
40:48 And it's like, no, there's not a whole lot of nuance here.
40:50 The answer's no.
40:51 And so like, but I think that's a really good,
40:53 I guess you can say apologetic
40:55 for how you can have a true and lasting impact on somebody
40:58 all the while understanding that you are risking chips
41:01 that you may never get back
41:02 because you could spend a lot of time and energy
41:04 on this person and get back around to the same exact place.
41:07 But that's not the only potential outcome
41:10 and some of the other outcomes could be positive as well.
41:12 So let's move off the transgenderism topic
41:15 and get to a more low key topic
41:16 that nobody's really concerned about.
41:18 Let's talk about homosexuality.
41:20 So specifically, I wanna talk about the approval
41:23 of same-sex lifestyles and actions within the church.
41:26 Okay, so let's just start there
41:28 with, you know, kind of gay affirming churches
41:30 and things like that.
41:31 I wanna read a quote from the book
41:33 that part of it just kind of caught me a little bit off guard
41:36 but I'll read the whole thing so we have the full context.
41:39 Although Jesus did not mention homosexual behavior
41:42 explicitly in his teaching,
41:44 he condemned all sexual behavior outside
41:46 of marriage, the marriage relationship.
41:48 See, for example, Mark 7 21 through 22,
41:51 which would include both heterosexual
41:52 and homosexual behavior.
41:54 To put it simply, Jesus believed that same-sex sexual behavior
41:57 violated God's design for sexuality.
42:00 So, you know, as it ends there,
42:02 that ends with a thump and not a thud.
42:04 Like I'm good with that.
42:05 The thing that caught me off guard was the very beginning.
42:08 Although Jesus did not mention homosexual behavior
42:11 explicitly in his teaching.
42:12 And what that automatically reminded me of
42:15 is Carl Lynch, the now-ashamed pastor,
42:19 formerly of Hillsong, New York City,
42:21 when he went on the view and he was asked specifically
42:24 about homosexuality, it may have been with Katie Curry.
42:26 It was one of those interviews he did
42:27 when he was everybody's favorite good-looking pastor
42:29 there for five seconds.
42:31 But he was asked specifically about that.
42:32 And he said, you know what?
42:35 Jesus never talked about homosexuality
42:37 like from, you know, during his ministry.
42:39 So I'm not gonna talk about it from the pulpit.
42:41 And it was like, wait a minute,
42:44 the word that was used to record in the Greek,
42:46 what Jesus was talking about was poor Nia,
42:48 which was talking about any sex outside of a man
42:53 and a woman underneath, you know,
42:56 the connection and covenant of marriage before God.
42:59 So that included masturbation and sex outside of wedlock
43:02 and multiple partners had a sex or homosexuality and all that.
43:06 So I feel like just by adding that little,
43:09 like clarifying statement at the beginning
43:11 about how he never explicitly talked about it,
43:13 I don't wanna say it's inaccurate
43:15 because here I am talking to a guy that's a professor at Biola
43:17 about something, you know, that goes back to the Greek language.
43:19 You know, I'm getting out beyond myself a little bit.
43:22 But I think that's a little dangerous framing it that way
43:25 because I know what you mean.
43:26 But I think some people are gonna focus in
43:28 on the first part and forget the rest of the paragraph.
43:32 - Well, if somebody's going to take that line out of context
43:35 and ignore the rest of what I said, I can't control that.
43:38 People do that with the Bible.
43:39 I think what I said is true.
43:41 The Bible doesn't explicitly talk about Jesus
43:46 didn't explicitly, at least you can say
43:48 we don't have record of Jesus explicitly addressing
43:51 same-sex sexual behavior.
43:54 That's a fact.
43:55 But then the next-- - But did he not do that?
43:57 Sorry to interrupt, but did he not do that?
43:59 'Cause he obviously he would have spoke it
44:01 in, you know, ancient Aramaic or whatever.
44:03 But when it was recorded as Pornea,
44:05 obviously the Greek language is--
44:06 - I get that. - It's easier--
44:07 - I get that before. - Yeah.
44:08 - That's the next point that I make.
44:11 'Cause I'm only making a distinction
44:13 between directly and indirectly.
44:16 Explicitly and implicitly.
44:19 Because something is stated indirectly or implicitly
44:23 doesn't mean Jesus did clearly condemn it.
44:26 And that's exactly what my point is.
44:28 So for Jesus doesn't have to say,
44:31 same-sex marriage is sinful and against God's design.
44:36 He wouldn't have spoken into that
44:38 because there was no debate about the morality
44:40 that within the Judeo-Christian tradition
44:43 until five minutes ago historically speaking.
44:46 But when Jesus affirms that marriage is one man,
44:50 one woman, one flesh, one lifetime in Matthew 19,
44:54 and he says Pornea is wrong,
44:57 he is clearly saying that any sexual behavior,
45:02 including same-sex sexual behavior is wrong.
45:06 So it's a nuance that I think is important
45:09 to be accurate to the text.
45:11 It doesn't undermine how clear Jesus is about sexuality.
45:15 Now if I was on the view,
45:17 here's how I would have responded to this.
45:19 I would have said, you know what,
45:21 we gotta realize that the question of homosexuality
45:24 is a very, very sensitive question.
45:27 And there's some people waiting right now,
45:28 no matter what I say, to condemn me.
45:31 - Yeah, right.
45:32 - So first off, we gotta realize
45:36 Jesus is the one who gave us the ethic
45:39 to love our neighbors, the Good Samaritan.
45:42 Jesus is the one who gave us the ethic
45:46 to love our enemies.
45:49 Jesus is the one who affirmed Genesis
45:51 and said we are all made in God's image and have value.
45:56 I am a follower of Jesus.
46:00 But Jesus also talked about what marriage is.
46:04 He also talked about sexually immoral behavior
46:08 that would include divorce,
46:10 it would include looking at pornography,
46:12 and it would include same-sex sexual behavior.
46:16 I'm a follower of Jesus on this.
46:18 I think he got it right.
46:20 Are you telling me on the view
46:22 that you know better than Jesus?
46:24 And I'd let it sit.
46:26 - And it would have been fun to see that happen.
46:29 Maybe we can finagle you onto that show
46:31 and then we can have a redo
46:32 because I feel like Carl Lynch crapped the bed on that one.
46:35 So well, I appreciate you going into that
46:37 because again, it's one of those topics.
46:38 It's not only important to people.
46:40 It's very, very personal to people and their experience.
46:43 And obviously if you've never had same-sex attraction,
46:45 you can't really understand like these Christians
46:48 that are very prominent that have basically said,
46:49 yeah, I'm gonna go to bed alone
46:51 for the rest of my life for the sake of Christ.
46:52 And that is literally going to be my cross to bear.
46:55 Like I don't have to do that, right?
46:56 Because I wasn't given that as a struggle.
46:58 But some people struggle with chemical dependency, right?
47:01 Some people struggle with anger and violence
47:03 like that we all gonna have our thing
47:04 that we have to try and overcome.
47:06 So at this point of the interview,
47:08 everyone might be like, all right,
47:09 you guys are agreeing too much.
47:10 And so as much as I agree with most everything you said
47:13 in the book, they're actually aware of them being honest.
47:15 There were a couple of low points in the book for me.
47:18 And it was specifically your chapters
47:20 about race in America and guns.
47:22 And so to be charitable and also in interest of time,
47:25 I'm gonna let you pick which one we're gonna talk about.
47:27 So you either get to talk about race in America or guns
47:30 and we'll dig in.
47:31 So which one do you wanna talk about?
47:33 - Let's do race since you mentioned it first.
47:35 - So one thing as I'm reading through your book
47:37 is I had to constantly remind myself
47:39 that this book was not really meant
47:41 for a guy like me specifically.
47:43 Because I spent hours and hours and hours a week
47:46 digging into these topics, thinking about it,
47:49 talking about it on the show.
47:50 And so like, I'm beyond a lot of the arguments
47:53 just because I've been marinated in it for so long.
47:55 But even knowing the target audience,
47:57 I thought that your chapter on race was a little bit weak tea.
48:01 It was almost like you were holding back a little bit.
48:04 So I wanted to maybe dig in a little bit deeper
48:06 into some points that maybe I missed
48:08 or I'm maybe making something out to not be what it was.
48:12 So it's chapter 14 called racial tension.
48:15 You seem to speak out of both sides of your mouth
48:17 in the chapter in my opinion.
48:18 You kinda hint that systemic racism is real,
48:21 but you stop short of actually saying that
48:24 and actually providing like very specific examples.
48:27 You make the claim that there are people
48:29 that think that racism doesn't exist at all.
48:31 And I gotta be honest, I don't know of a single human
48:33 in existence that actually believes
48:34 that racism doesn't exist.
48:36 Yeah, in the book, you dedicate a whopping three sentences
48:40 to the biggest racial grift in American history,
48:42 which is Black Lives Matter.
48:44 And so like when I got to the end of the chapter,
48:46 I was shocked that there weren't more pages in it,
48:48 that there wasn't a little bit more time and effort
48:52 spent with that.
48:53 And especially knowing, and I think you said this in the book,
48:56 that the last time you wrote about all these different
48:58 incendiary topics, you didn't talk about race
49:00 and people kind of gave you crap for that.
49:01 So this was kind of like you making up for, you know,
49:04 not writing about it the first time to, you know,
49:06 this was gonna be the time when you really step up
49:08 to the plate and take a swing,
49:09 or for you being a college basketball player,
49:11 step up to the foul line and sink the last, you know,
49:14 second free throws to win it for your team.
49:16 But talk to me a little bit about that chapter,
49:18 because I don't wanna make a bunch of assumptions
49:20 about where you were at going into it.
49:22 But again, whenever I was done, I was like,
49:24 yeah, that just didn't hit the mark for me.
49:26 - So that's fair.
49:27 I've had people from the right and probably from the left
49:32 give me the same kind of feedback.
49:34 So I said, we want you to speak up more about systemic racism
49:38 and condemn Black Lives Matters.
49:41 Now we've had people from the other side, and by the way,
49:44 these are all Bible believing conservative Christians.
49:49 So if you take the, you've asked me about transgender
49:52 and you've asked me about homosexuality,
49:55 the Bible is very clear about God's design
49:59 for what it means to be human, male and female,
50:02 and God's design for marriage.
50:03 That is not an in-house issue Christians can differ on.
50:08 When it comes to issues of race,
50:11 there's a whole lot of difference
50:13 within the body of Christ about Black Lives Matters.
50:17 And of course, we've got to make a distinction
50:19 between the organization and the phrase.
50:22 And I have a full on blog, Make It An Distinction,
50:25 how the organization itself is Marxist in its roots,
50:30 its pro-choice, its critical theory.
50:33 I quote all that stuff and they took their site down,
50:36 interestingly enough.
50:37 - Of course.
50:38 - The phrase, by the way.
50:40 So I draw out some of those distinctions.
50:45 The key is, again, Bible believing conservative Christians
50:51 are going to differ over the depth of systemic racism,
50:56 how we best answer it.
50:58 This is a book that's meant to give people tools
51:02 and principles and biblical ideas
51:05 and then go talk them through with people.
51:10 And so if you had a son, maybe you do,
51:13 he reads this, you talk through them and say,
51:15 hey, you gave three lines of systemic racism.
51:17 What's the evidence for systemic racism?
51:19 How strong is it?
51:20 Are we okay with systemic racism?
51:23 Where do we find it?
51:24 What are lies about systemic racism?
51:26 That's not the purpose of this chapter.
51:30 The purpose of this chapter, so that,
51:31 how, what's a biblical approach to race?
51:34 What are some mistakes that people make broadly speaking?
51:38 How do we make some progress on racial tension?
51:43 I approached it differently than I did the trans issue
51:46 because I think it's more of an in-house issue
51:50 than it is one that's defining really the faith itself.
51:54 That's why.
51:55 Now that might still not satisfy you,
51:56 but that was my approach to the chapter
51:58 differently than say trans.
52:00 - Well, it's satisfying enough.
52:01 And I think to get me to, I guess complete satisfaction,
52:04 I would ask this follow-up.
52:06 So let's say you were writing a magnum opus
52:09 of all of these subjects.
52:09 So not, you know, 250 pages,
52:12 but you know, you're trying to be in William Craig land
52:15 where you're writing this magnum opus
52:16 that's like eight or 900 pages long or something like that.
52:19 What things did you not discuss in full detail?
52:22 Where did you hold back in that specific chapter?
52:25 What would be the things specifically
52:26 on the subject of race that you would have given,
52:28 you know, pages and pages and pages to as opposed to
52:30 just maybe a few sentences?
52:32 - I think I would have gone into questions
52:34 of systemic racism.
52:35 I think the heart of critical race theory
52:38 is an assumption that there is systemic racism.
52:42 It's not, I think I would have unpacked one of the ideas
52:45 that critical theory says not is racism a factor,
52:50 but how is racism a factor?
52:54 And that biases the data towards racism always being a factor.
52:59 Now, like you said earlier, I think race can be a factor.
53:04 And I think we need to be aware and honest
53:06 if it is a factor, then we should be willing to call it out.
53:11 But my problem with things like critical race theory
53:14 is they assume it and then end up not discovering the truth,
53:19 bias the data and we're seeing race where it doesn't exist.
53:23 So I would unpack that a lot more
53:27 in a way that I just wasn't able to.
53:29 - So it almost goes back to the lenses comment
53:31 from earlier to where it's like, okay,
53:33 if I were to go out today looking to be offended
53:36 as a white male, it's gonna be a shock to knowing
53:39 that I'm gonna find times where I feel offended
53:41 because of my immutable characteristics.
53:43 So if you go out, it's like these DEI diversity equity
53:46 and inclusion offices at campuses or companies.
53:48 Isn't it amazing how when they do their little annual report,
53:51 they've always found evidences of racism
53:54 where most people thought they didn't exist?
53:56 Because it's like they were looking for it
53:58 and the lens through which they saw
53:59 is the least charitable lens possible.
54:02 So when someone says, oh, hey, where are you from?
54:04 And that person meant like, hey,
54:05 you have a little bit of a Southern accent.
54:07 I wonder what state you're from.
54:08 Someone's gonna be like, oh, do you think I'm not American
54:10 because I have dark skin?
54:11 Right, of course, like that's gonna go down as a microaggression
54:14 or a macroaggression or something like that.
54:16 So I think we kind of, to get into that a little bit,
54:19 to leave the book and again,
54:20 - And by the way, before we leave race,
54:23 you gotta keep in mind what's the purpose of this book?
54:27 It's really not a culture warrior book.
54:30 I'm not saying there's not a place for that.
54:34 This is a book for individuals to better engage
54:39 their neighbors around them who see the world differently.
54:43 That's the purpose of this.
54:45 So I have people who are white, people who are black,
54:47 people on the left, people on the right
54:49 who are going to read this.
54:50 And I'm trying to push some of their assumptions
54:53 and get them to say, is this biblical?
54:55 How do I make progress in this area
54:58 with other Christians and non-Christians?
55:00 So for me, I've read a good amount of critical theory.
55:03 And I have definite concerns with it
55:07 on an intellectual level.
55:10 But I've also had a lot of Bible-believing
55:13 African-American friends reach out to me
55:16 just over the years and say things like,
55:19 why is the white community so worried
55:21 about critical race theory?
55:22 This feels like a diversion
55:24 from trying to understand us and our experience.
55:29 Like, okay, tell me about that.
55:32 How do you process this?
55:33 Am I just willing to listen and understand
55:37 where somebody is at?
55:39 I think there's a way to do that
55:41 without affirming ideas
55:43 that I might take serious issue with
55:46 and I do in other contexts.
55:49 That's it.
55:50 So a lot of my black friends have told me and I'm asking,
55:52 I'm like, how do you think we make progress
55:53 in racial relations?
55:55 One of the most common things I'll say to me
55:56 is they'll say, Sean, just be willing to listen.
55:59 Like, okay, that's where I'll start.
56:02 Now, we got to challenge ideas and we got to go further,
56:05 but am I willing to start there?
56:07 That's all I'm saying.
56:09 That's the heart of the chapter.
56:10 And in 1500 words, you can only say so much.
56:13 - Sure.
56:14 And I think for me, I kind of go back to,
56:16 what was it, when Morgan Freeman,
56:17 he was being interviewed on CNN or 60 Minutes
56:19 or something like that.
56:20 And the white journalist is basically teeing up
56:24 to talk about how horrible and racist America is.
56:26 And he goes, yeah, I'm done talking about it.
56:28 Like, you know how we stop racism in this country?
56:30 We stop talking about race.
56:31 Like, we don't have Black History Month.
56:33 We just have history, right?
56:34 Because Black History is American History
56:36 and all these different things.
56:37 And so for me, I try not to lean towards
56:39 the homogeneity of any group.
56:40 That's why I try to not say the black community
56:43 or the gay community or the black community
56:45 because pretending as if these people are all the exact same
56:48 because of the level of melanin in their skin.
56:50 I know a lot of people during George Floyd summer
56:52 because he died in police custody
56:53 and people pretended like it was because he was black
56:55 and it didn't have anything else to do with anything else.
56:57 They were like, okay, let's invite this random black person
57:00 up on stage at the church and let's ask questions to him
57:02 because we want to get to know the plight
57:04 of the American black man.
57:06 And it's like, wait a minute,
57:07 like you're trying to compare him
57:09 to a criminal in Minnesota.
57:11 Like, this is a guy that owns a coffee shop down the street.
57:14 Like, what kind of magical thing do you think
57:16 he's going to tell you that is going to change your group
57:19 of an entire race of people that all think and act
57:23 and vote and feel differently about every subject.
57:26 And again, we're running short on time today.
57:28 So it's kind of hard to really dig in.
57:29 But I appreciate your approach to the chapter.
57:32 And I appreciate you answering my questions
57:35 on all those different things.
57:36 But you mentioned the culture wars there.
57:38 So this will be our last question of the day
57:39 and then we'll wrap up.
57:41 There are a lot of Christians now, Sean,
57:43 that think it is the virtuous thing to do
57:45 to not lower themselves to fighting in the culture wars.
57:49 I had some dork on my podcast here recently
57:50 that basically was like, I want to be known
57:52 for what I'm for, not what I'm against.
57:53 And I'm not going to talk about any of the things
57:55 happening in culture until we figure out
57:57 what's going on in the church.
57:58 And then I asked him, I was like, wait, so, you know,
58:00 you're not going to publicly talk about
58:02 how abortion is a slaughter of the unborn,
58:04 about how all these, all these things in culture,
58:06 the the middleization of children,
58:09 the sexualization of children, you know,
58:11 changing the term from pedophile to minor attractive persons
58:14 and all that.
58:15 You're not going to talk about any of that
58:16 because there are people in the church
58:17 that are still sinners.
58:18 And he basically said, yes.
58:20 And so for me, I struggle with Christians
58:22 that are using that as, you know, almost like a shield
58:25 from them having to actually dig in to the culture
58:28 and to push back against darkness,
58:30 which unto life we're here to equip men
58:32 to push back darkness.
58:33 But talk to me about Christians that are unwilling
58:36 to even engage in the smallest way possible
58:39 in the culture wars, which is where
58:41 a lot of these biblically centered things go into
58:44 because abortion is not a government law issue,
58:46 but it does play out in that arena.
58:48 Does that make sense?
58:49 - Yeah, I think there's two mistakes we can make.
58:51 I think there's some people who say, you know what?
58:53 I'm God's prophet, I'm speaking truth.
58:55 I don't care how it lands.
58:56 And they die on every hill and they're jerks
59:01 in terms of how they communicate and it's not effective.
59:05 That's one mistake.
59:06 On the other hand, there's those who just say,
59:08 I just want to be nice.
59:09 I don't want to ruffle any feathers.
59:11 I don't ever want to say anything
59:12 that's not going to land well.
59:14 Well, I think that's also a mistake.
59:17 There is a time and a place and a need
59:20 for a prophetic voice today.
59:23 That cannot and should not go away.
59:26 But there's also a huge need in our cancel culture
59:30 for people in their interpersonal relationships
59:34 to learn how to listen better, define common ground,
59:38 to love their neighbor and meet them where they're at.
59:42 I'm not sure we do that well.
59:44 So the reality is some of us are wired more towards
59:48 being a prophetic voice.
59:50 Some of us have more of a pastoral voice.
59:52 It's not right or wrong, it's just different.
59:54 And we need to lean into that.
59:56 That's for sure.
59:58 But I think there's a way to do better.
1:00:00 The purpose of the whole book is like,
1:00:02 how can I listen better?
1:00:03 How can I get through the noise?
1:00:05 And actually ask the question,
1:00:07 how is my statement going to land with somebody
1:00:11 so I can show love to them so they can know the body of Christ
1:00:15 without backing down on speaking truth on important topics?
1:00:21 I've tried to do that.
1:00:22 I've done some pretty bold videos on issues of sexuality
1:00:26 and on pro-life and on some other controversial topics
1:00:30 while trying to be gracious with people interpersonally.
1:00:33 Don't pretend I always have it down,
1:00:35 but I think and believe there's room for both.
1:00:38 So the prophet who's just out there speaking truth
1:00:41 and counts and everybody, I say,
1:00:42 I want to ask you if you're really speaking away
1:00:44 that's a loving because you might not be.
1:00:47 There's a lot of Christians who aren't.
1:00:49 And the person who's having conversation afraid to ruffle feathers,
1:00:52 I might say, are you living more in fear of men
1:00:55 than you are living in fear of God?
1:00:57 There comes a time where we have to speak truth, come what may.
1:01:01 And I think as well,
1:01:03 that's an almost impossible needle to thread,
1:01:05 but God gave you some immutable characteristics
1:01:08 and some immutable qualities that I'm assuming He gave you
1:01:10 so that He could use those.
1:01:12 And so not everyone's going to be William Farrell,
1:01:14 not everyone's going to be St. Nicholas
1:01:15 who's going to basically fight a guy in a church meeting
1:01:18 over a hereditary statement that was made.
1:01:20 But some people are wired for that.
1:01:22 And so you have to temper that just like with anything else,
1:01:25 sex is a blessing, but it can become an idol.
1:01:27 Food is a blessing, but it can become an idol.
1:01:29 Same thing with this, you can say, like with me,
1:01:31 I'm a prophet, I'm going to speak truth.
1:01:32 But if that's all you ever do,
1:01:34 then guess what, you're bludgeoning people to death.
1:01:36 And then when you look behind you,
1:01:37 there's nobody following you because they're all in pieces
1:01:40 and pile of blood behind you.
1:01:41 So there's always that little bit.
1:01:43 And if you're the more sensitive,
1:01:45 stoic type person and all that,
1:01:46 God wants to be able to use that quality as well.
1:01:49 But don't be the Christian, don't be the conservative,
1:01:51 that looks up one day, realizes that the war has ended.
1:01:55 And every battle has passed you by
1:01:57 and you never found a hill that was worth dying on.
1:01:59 You never found a hill that was worth getting your sword,
1:02:01 putting your helmet on and charging up
1:02:03 because you just couldn't find it in your heart to do so.
1:02:05 But Sean, we're unfortunately out of time,
1:02:08 but that's all for me.
1:02:09 Is there anything else you want to get off your chest?
1:02:12 - You know what, if you still want me back,
1:02:15 even though we different on a couple issues,
1:02:16 I think you knocked it out of the park.
1:02:19 I'd do it for sure, that was fun.
1:02:21 - Okay, well off air, we will make sure
1:02:22 that we can get that going for early next year
1:02:25 'cause if you saw my notes,
1:02:27 there's a lot of other stuff that we got into.
1:02:28 We handled most of the incendiary stuff on this one,
1:02:31 but I saved a little bit in the tank for later on,
1:02:33 but Sean McDowell, thank you for coming on
1:02:35 on Daunted Life of Man's podcast.
1:02:37 - Thanks Kyle.
1:02:38 - There you go guys, I hope you enjoyed my time
1:02:40 with Sean McDowell, but before we let you go,
1:02:41 we are going to do a quick resilience boost.
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