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SATURATED 2024 | DERWIN GRAY (Ep. 650)

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SATURATED 2024 | DERWIN GRAY (Ep. 650)
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In this episode, Kyle Thompson and Derwin Gray tackle the critical need for Christians to embody love in a world that often misunderstands it. They discuss the parable of the Good Samaritan, the importance of overcoming historical pain, and how true love requires courage and faith in Jesus.
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0:00 This is Undaunted Life, a man's podcast.
0:24 I'm your host Kyle Thompson.
0:26 Let's get into it.
0:27 All right.
0:28 Thank you, Derwin, for that message.
0:30 Lit up with love, baby.
0:31 Let's do it.
0:34 Let's go.
0:35 Jesus said that people would know we were His disciples because of our love.
0:44 But I bet if we went out in the streets of Duval and said, "What do you think about Christians?
0:52 Where do you think loving would be on the list of responses?"
0:56 Anti?
0:57 Yeah, right.
0:58 Probably not on the list, so why?
1:01 If that's the thing that He said, why does it seem to be what most people think of when
1:06 they think of Christians?
1:07 So your sermon was the parable of the Good Samaritan.
1:13 And I'm sad to say, as a person that's worked in church for 31 years and passed with this
1:17 one for almost 13, that the mindset of most church people is the same mindset as that of
1:25 the Pharisees that ask the question and ultimately when Jesus said, "Love your neighbor."
1:31 And they ask the questions of, "All right, help me narrow this to who?"
1:38 And Jesus expands this to be loving.
1:42 And there's just a bunch of church people for all kinds of reasons.
1:46 It's like, you know, the way they were brought up, whatever news channel they've decided
1:52 to hitch their mental wagon to, whatever the reasons are, the gospel has not flooded and
2:00 washed away all of that fleshly filth.
2:05 And so their primary filter is not how Jesus loved me.
2:10 Oftentimes our primary filter is, "All right, well, who exactly do I have to love?"
2:15 Yeah.
2:16 You know, it's interesting that, so people haven't changed very much.
2:26 Sin is still an issue, right?
2:29 Yeah, very much so.
2:30 But when you think of the story of the good Samaritan, you have a religious scholar and
2:36 he's Jewish.
2:37 His background as a Jew would have been traumatic historically.
2:45 His ancestors were enslaved by Egyptians and a can of his his Babylonians, Romans, right?
2:52 So the Jewish people had to circle the wagons, so to speak.
2:59 However, the Pharisee, the religious scholar, knew that to love your neighbors, you love
3:05 yourself is Leviticus 19, 9 through 19.
3:09 And that's all about loving the immigrant, the foreigner, the Gentile.
3:14 So sometimes what we do is we allow historical pain to keep us stuck in the past.
3:22 And we don't have the ability to live in the presence.
3:25 So that's what one too is, it takes a lot of faith to actually believe if I love, are
3:35 they going to hurt me again?
3:37 So as a black pastor of a multi-ethnic church that's probably 58% white and 42% everything
3:46 else, a lot of my black pastor friends will say, man, like, how do you trust them?
3:50 I'm like, well, who is, like, who's the them?
3:52 He goes, you know what I mean?
3:54 And I'm like, so this is what it comes down to.
3:58 I can either be afraid to love because I may be hurt while loving or I can live in hurt
4:06 and still be hurt by not trying to love.
4:09 Love takes courage because when I love, I open my heart to be hurt.
4:13 So if I can't be hurt, I'm truly not loving.
4:17 But by the way, isn't that what the cross is?
4:20 And so it takes that type of love to be able to break these things down.
4:24 But this isn't generated within us.
4:26 It's the Holy Spirit's power, but it takes faith to go, Jesus, if you really died and
4:32 you really rose again, then your life in me has to give me this faith to love this way.
4:40 So is that what you're getting at?
4:41 When you use the word unreasonable, which stood out to me tonight, like when people
4:45 are looking at the love that you're showing to people that it needs to, I don't know if
4:49 you said seem or feel unreasonable, is that kind of what you were getting at?
4:52 Yeah, yeah.
4:53 I was years ago, I was preaching at a church planters thing in Oklahoma.
4:59 And so I went to the restroom and as I was leaving, I noticed an older white pastor staring
5:11 at me.
5:12 So I'm like, okay, when the restroom, my guy is kind of strange.
5:16 And then tears were in his eyes and he was probably 60.
5:20 And he said, pastor, I need to apologize you.
5:23 And I'm like, we've never met.
5:25 He goes, he goes, I was reading one of your books.
5:29 And then I read that you were black and I got a fit-fended by it.
5:35 And he goes, I told my wife that she says, you need to repent to God and you need to
5:39 repent to that man because it's wrong.
5:42 So we're in the restroom and he's sharing his story.
5:45 And I look at him and I said, who am I not to forgive you when Christ has forgiven me?
5:51 And so we're hugging in the bathroom.
5:53 Now if you didn't know the context, that could be really strange.
5:58 But in the corridors of heaven, it was praise.
6:02 And that's what I mean by unreasonable love.
6:04 And then also I have a choice to get offended.
6:09 Either the righteousness of Christ, purchased by the blood of Christ, is my defense or it's
6:14 not.
6:15 Why should I give someone the power to wield over me with their ignorance?
6:21 Now, I haven't done that all the time though.
6:25 There was a time, and this was right in the middle of the George Floyd stuff, and I was
6:29 leaving the coffee shop and I was at a stoplight.
6:34 And some white dudes drove by, you know, the big truck and flag and everything.
6:39 And I heard the N word, typically I just pray and let it go.
6:43 But the next thing I knew, man, I was flying down the street.
6:47 I mean, I'm like one of them NASCAR dudes and I am mad.
6:53 And when I pull up to him, I see they're probably 23, 24, and they are just shaking in their
6:59 boots.
7:00 Of course.
7:01 Look at you.
7:02 And immediately when I saw the terror in there, when I saw the terror in their eyes,
7:08 I repented.
7:09 I said, Lord, I'm sorry that I allowed them to draw me into their circle of hate.
7:17 I should have prayed them into your grace instead of allowing that to pull me down.
7:24 I should have prayed to lift them up, right?
7:26 So I pulled over to the side of the road pastor and I just started crying like, why did I
7:32 allow them to do that?
7:35 And so I don't do it perfectly.
7:36 But at the end of the day, I have a choice to be offended or walk as Jesus is my defense.
7:42 And what I have found when I walk in Jesus as my defense, more bridges are built and
7:47 a multi-ethnic church is flourishing.
7:49 Yeah.
7:50 Matt Chandler was here last night and I'm stealing this from him.
7:56 But in, in reference to the season that we're in with political divide and, and all the
8:03 things, man, the George Floyd, just everything that you've seen on the news for the last
8:08 bunch of years, right?
8:11 I want to echo what he says.
8:12 He says, church, we were made for this.
8:15 We were made for this.
8:17 If the love of the church is ever going to change a culture, then the darker the night,
8:22 the brighter the light of the gospel shots, we should be sticking out.
8:26 We should be so counter-cultural, so upside down, so like, help me understand.
8:32 Like somebody could walk into any of our campuses and be like, wait a minute, there's all kind
8:37 of different people here.
8:39 Help me understand how they're getting along, but everybody on TV is telling me, we can't,
8:43 something's different here.
8:45 The church was made for a moment like this.
8:47 Dude, the church took off in Rome against, I mean, all kind of hell on earth and the church
8:55 was different.
8:56 They had a different sexual ethic.
8:58 There was no racism.
8:59 I mean, in the early church, a part of what blew all the Romans away is they have a common
9:06 table and no common bed.
9:08 Yeah.
9:09 They couldn't understand why.
9:10 They would look at the table of the Christian and there was all thoseites you were talking
9:14 about, right?
9:16 Everybody's there, but then they had a sexual ethic.
9:19 They took care of poor and sick.
9:21 They were fighting for the lives of babies that were being abandoned and it was love that
9:27 toppled Rome, not the sword.
9:30 You said one of the things stood out and I for an eye makes everybody blind, but we have
9:36 open eyes.
9:37 Yeah, that's right.
9:38 Exactly what you're talking about.
9:39 So I stole something from, I think Gandhi took that from the Old Testament, Jesus opened
9:44 our eyes and then I put some Derwin-Grace also on it.
9:47 That's it.
9:48 But I think why our eyes are not open is because we are choosing lesser gods and the reality
9:58 is most churches are not like your church or our church, a transmission church where Jesus
10:05 is preeminent.
10:08 And so when you preach a self-help gospel, when you preach a moralism, when you do those
10:15 things, people go after lesser gods.
10:19 So part of preaching and leading is for people to behold the magnificence of Jesus.
10:27 And yes, civil government is a gift from God.
10:31 Civil government is important.
10:33 I'm thankful for laws that allow women to vote for people like me to be free.
10:38 I mean, I'm thankful.
10:40 Those are important things.
10:42 But when we make those things, ultimate things, that's when division and darkness gets into
10:50 it.
10:51 And so as Christians, we should be civically responsible because our allegiance is to a
10:56 greater kingdom.
10:58 That doesn't mean we don't vote.
11:00 What it means is when we vote, we have a greater allegiance to Jesus and we love people who
11:06 vote differently than us.
11:08 Amen.
11:09 I love what you said about, well, my version is you're never going to hate somebody into
11:13 the kingdom.
11:14 You're never going to mean somebody into the kingdom.
11:17 It's actually really hard to win your enemies.
11:19 You win them to friendship before you win them to cry.
11:21 I mean, that's typically how it goes.
11:24 There may be an exception or two out there, but it really is, right?
11:27 It is that love and kindness that compel people to repentance towards God.
11:33 Well, even what you said in the middle of it, where you're talking about, it wasn't the
11:37 three nails that were holding Jesus to the cross.
11:40 It was his love for us.
11:41 I was holding Jesus to the cross.
11:42 And so when you think about the, you think, I mean, that's so theologically rich, but it
11:48 goes back to what you're saying about the certain types of churches.
11:50 So if you have this kind of moral therapeutic deism where it's like, okay, let's just get
11:53 some, let's fix some of our foibles as a person so that we're more presentable to apply culture.
11:59 That's one thing.
12:00 But when you think about the true love of Christ, it's not that you're not as worried
12:04 about those lesser gods, but you're not going to elevate them as easily.
12:07 And so you may have made a little G God out of social justice or cultural justice or advocacy
12:14 of some kind or hitting the pavement for whatever your thing is, right?
12:18 Or for whoever your candidate is, but you will leave those things in the correct space because
12:23 on the other side, you've got the Benedict option, right?
12:25 You have those people that are like, you know what, we're going to be Christians.
12:29 We're not going to be, you know, we're not going to be part of this culture war thing.
12:32 We're not going to be entered into any of the stuff.
12:34 We're going to just, you know, be out here and we're not going to be salt that preserves.
12:38 We're not going to be salt that does anything actually.
12:40 And so I think, I mean, it's a compliment I overheard you getting while, you know, right
12:45 after you got done preaching, which is like, you have to keep the main things, the main
12:49 things and so many people think that Jesus in and of itself in the study, the deep study
12:54 of the gospel isn't enough to be the main thing.
12:57 And what's so beautiful is when you look at Jesus when he says, okay, the law and the
13:03 prophets is summed up in this, love God with all your heart, my soul and strength, love
13:07 your neighbor as you love yourself.
13:10 If I love my neighbors, I love myself, I'm not only going to feed them the bread of life,
13:16 I'm going to feed them physical bread.
13:18 And I'm not only going to tell them about the mansions and the new heavens and the earth,
13:22 I'm going to help with housing in those things.
13:25 When you try to have justice without Jesus, what you get in return is vengeance.
13:32 Jesus is the embodiment of God's righteousness.
13:35 Justice means shalom, right relationships, broken relationships are made right.
13:41 And so there is no dichotomy, so, and I know that you guys do these things here at 1122.
13:47 So some of the things that we do from last year, we paid off $12.8 million of medical
13:55 insurance debt.
13:57 We have a free grocery store, we feed 500 people per month and many other things.
14:04 But if we were just to feed people bread but not give them the bread of life, that's not
14:09 true gospel.
14:10 Gospels proclaim, gospel is demonstrated as well, but I think when it comes down to it,
14:19 is if Jesus is not presented as he truly is, we are going to lust after other things to
14:26 find fulfillment.
14:28 Yeah, it's the, it's unbelievable how, in my mind at least, it's unbelievable how churches
14:34 have fallen to the tyranny of the oar, like either it's gospel doctrine or it's justice.
14:42 And you're like, hold on, wait a second, bullet down this simple.
14:45 There's a lot of churches that say, either it's grace or it's truth.
14:49 And we're a grace church, and we're going to feed people, but we're not going to tell
14:53 them that they're sinners and need to repent.
14:55 We're not going to do that.
14:56 Or they're like, we're a truth church.
14:58 And they don't care about anybody.
15:00 Like they, they just ripped Matthew 25, or let's just don't look at Matthew 25.
15:04 I mean, who's he talking to, right?
15:06 And you're like, you dummy, the whole thing is he came full of grace and truth, and there's
15:11 no more full than full.
15:13 And so it's so, I mean, you know, me and you got a bunch of buddies that run a bunch of
15:17 churches like ours that we have not fallen to the tyranny of the oar, it's the genius
15:22 of the gospel and of course, because God loves us, we love our neighbor.
15:29 And because we love our neighbor, we share the gospel truth.
15:34 And we share the gospel grace, which is not just eternally speaking and doctrinally speaking.
15:40 It's also physically speaking.
15:42 Again, see Matthew chapter 25, I mean, you know, the exam to get to heaven is not a theological
15:49 one.
15:50 I mean, that the, the, the evidence of your salvation is because you know Jesus and he
15:57 knows you when you see image bearers of God in need, you think gospel will wait a minute.
16:04 What did God do when he saw me in need, which is so glad you close the, I mean, I knew you're
16:10 going to do a bit.
16:11 I was so glad you closed the sermon the way you did the point of the Good Samaritan is
16:15 not going to be a good Samaritan.
16:17 The point of the Good Samaritan is you were beaten down, broken, naked, lifted, and Jesus
16:22 came on a rescue mission for you.
16:24 And because of that, now that's what fuels you to go and do.
16:30 And that's the, your church does both.
16:32 Our church does both.
16:34 Everybody that we bring here for saturated does both.
16:37 It's not an either or thing.
16:38 Well, you can't give away what you don't possess, right?
16:41 And so one of my, one of my passions is I want to see every pulpit in America ablaze
16:48 with a high and lofty view of Jesus, the beauty of the gospel.
16:54 The gospel is not just how sinners get saved.
16:56 It's how saints are edified and ultimately glorified.
17:00 It's how bellies that are hungry are fed.
17:02 It's how orphans are given homes.
17:04 It's how a human sex trafficking is the bunk.
17:08 It's how police officers and first responders and all of life becomes an opportunity to
17:14 be agents and ambassadors of the kingdom of God, but it starts with as simple as this.
17:22 How can Jesus love a person like me?
17:26 Like I've known the Lord since August 2nd, 1997, and I can never get over the fact that
17:35 I didn't call him.
17:37 He had been calling me and that he loved me when I didn't know what love was.
17:44 It was unearned.
17:46 It was unachievable.
17:48 He met me in my mess.
17:50 How can I not want that to influence and shape every part of my life?
17:56 And you had achieved all the world says is the best, right?
18:00 I mean, playing in the NFL.
18:02 Yeah.
18:03 Good contract.
18:04 Yeah.
18:05 I mean, you had the things.
18:06 Oh, man.
18:07 Shame right.
18:08 And athleticism.
18:09 Yeah.
18:10 I was young.
18:11 Yeah.
18:12 I was young.
18:13 You know, the Fresh Prince from Bel Air, I was a Fresh Prince from San Antonio.
18:18 Yeah.
18:19 You know, I made it to the league, had some money, you know, wife.
18:22 I mean, the Lex is everything, but ultimately, so like things aren't bad, right?
18:26 But things become bad when you think they're ultimate, when you think that they're ultimately
18:30 going to satisfy you.
18:31 And so despite those things, I still couldn't get over the fact that my father wasn't in
18:39 my life.
18:40 I couldn't get over the fact of certain traumas and abuses I experienced.
18:43 I couldn't forgive myself and I do not love my wife.
18:48 And probably the biggest one at that time was I live with such anxiety.
18:54 Who would I be if I didn't play anymore?
18:59 Because the NFL defined me and you guys have been around and you have NFL friends.
19:03 It's NFL stands for not for long.
19:09 And every guy knows that they're on a pitch count.
19:11 They know they're on a clock and a lot of us struggle when we're done playing because
19:16 you go from people cheering your name to working for the guy who used to cheer your name.
19:21 And when you've been told you're great since middle school and all of a sudden you're like,
19:26 man.
19:27 And so that's why having a deep rootedness in Christ that he is my enough, that he is
19:33 my my life, that's allowed me to be able to be healthy as a husband, as a father and
19:39 ultimately as a pastor.
19:40 Well, Darren, one of the first things you said, I mean, this may have been like the third
19:43 sentence out of your mouth tonight.
19:44 It was what you do in life is not your purpose.
19:46 It's the vehicle for your purpose.
19:48 Yes.
19:49 I mean, I've heard I've heard that sentiment kind of, you know, echoed clunkly throughout
19:55 the years, but that's probably the most succinct way that I've heard it because, you know, you'll
19:59 get someone that's working, you know, a job that maybe they don't feel fulfilled in or
20:02 maybe it's beneath them or they think it's beneath them or something like that.
20:05 And you'll hear, you know, a pastor or some sort of like spiritual guru tell them, you
20:09 know, try to talk to them about their placement, but they don't really see where they're at
20:13 as a vehicle.
20:14 They don't really see it as their mission field.
20:16 And I think it goes back to what you were talking about a little bit earlier.
20:18 And I want to have you dig in just a little bit more on is making sure that we can think
20:22 rightly about Jesus because if we're to think highly about Jesus, we need to think rightly
20:27 about Jesus.
20:28 And you were talking about seeing Jesus as he truly is.
20:32 This is something I've railed on for a while.
20:34 Everyone talks about Lamb of God.
20:35 They don't want to talk about lying to Judah, lying to Judah, a little scary, a little bit,
20:38 you know, you know, how are we going to deal with this?
20:40 But you don't understand Jesus unless you understand both.
20:42 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
20:43 You know, so, so I think as I read between the lines, I think what I hear you saying is Jesus,
20:50 and I heard you say this, dude, I have so stolen this, by the way, preach is so good.
20:54 You're going to, you're going to meet Jesus as Savior or judge.
20:58 That's it.
20:59 I think what people have to understand is God's justice against sin is his love.
21:06 Amen.
21:07 That's right.
21:08 God is not like living on these different poles, like God in his infinite essence cannot
21:16 be divided.
21:18 So his love and justice are the same.
21:20 So imagine walking down the street in the wind is blowing against your face.
21:25 You say the wind is blowing against my face.
21:26 If I turn around and the wind is blowing against my back, who changed?
21:30 The wind didn't change.
21:31 You changed.
21:33 And so justice says sin must be dealt with.
21:38 Love says I will deal with sin.
21:41 And in response to the spirit of God, we get to choose.
21:44 So if God was not just against sin, his love wouldn't mean anything.
21:49 If God was not holy, his grace wouldn't mean anything, and I think one of the reasons why
21:57 followers of Jesus don't appreciate and are not blown away by the magnitude of God's grace
22:03 is because we have a shrink wrapped Jesus.
22:07 Like we don't talk about the otherness of God, the holiness of God.
22:12 Jesus, and please hear my heartness, Jesus is not just useful.
22:17 He's beautiful.
22:18 A Jesus that is simply useful, you don't worship.
22:23 You use.
22:24 Like we want to be stunned by him.
22:26 We want to be in awe of him.
22:29 You only follow the one that you have reverence for.
22:33 And then built into reverence is love as well.
22:36 Like holiness is love.
22:39 His otherness is he's pure love for God is love.
22:42 And let me say this thing is important because love is Jesus looking at Peter saying, get
22:48 behind me Satan.
22:50 Five verses earlier, he told him, Simon, dude, you know I'm the Messiah and only my father
22:56 will build that to you.
22:57 Five verses later, he's like, dude, get behind me Satan, you know what I'm saying?
23:01 So love looks like the cross.
23:03 It's bloody and it's life giving.
23:06 It's forgiving.
23:08 It's justice making.
23:10 Wrath poured out, mercy given.
23:14 Yeah, I talk to our church all the time about the cross.
23:17 If you could look at the two vertical beams that, I mean the two beams that make up the
23:20 cross, that vertical beam when you look at it, that is the justice of God being poured
23:26 out on sin and simultaneously the horizontal beam represents the love of Christ and his
23:32 blood is poured out for you.
23:36 These things are fulfilled in the cross of Jesus Romans three, man, that because God is
23:42 just, I'll say it must be paid for because God is merciful.
23:47 He delays the payment.
23:48 It's how any of us are sitting here and because he is gracious, he is the just and the justifier.
23:55 He makes the payment on our behalf.
23:56 What you just said is really hard for a lot of people to understand like so God reveals
24:02 himself at God is love as a scripture that many people know.
24:07 John 3 16, God so loved the world, but the prevailing cultural understanding of love is
24:11 that you don't push back on me, or you don't challenge me.
24:14 So the misunderstanding of the word love inside of culture confuses a lot of people because
24:19 they will how don't you love, I thought you're going to love me.
24:22 Don't you know what I'm doing is wrong.
24:24 So I clear that up for the cast.
24:26 Yeah.
24:27 Yeah.
24:28 You know, so I've noticed that just like you've noticed that in in your church and your context
24:32 is a lot of times people think that love is you let me do what I want to do.
24:38 Love is you agree with everything I agree with.
24:41 And so what I've learned to do is number one, not panic, because God saves.
24:46 I don't.
24:47 There you go.
24:48 What I've learned to do is to ask questions and say, okay, so if I agree with everything
24:54 you do, that means I love you.
24:56 Correct.
24:57 Well, you don't agree with me, not agreeing with you.
24:59 So doesn't mean you don't love me, you know, you know, and then you know, as a degree in
25:04 apologetics by the way, and so people are like, okay, and then the other thing too is
25:12 I say, you know, because I love my children, when they ran out in the street, I aggressively
25:18 pulled them back because I don't want them to get run over because I love them.
25:22 There's no match for a car, brother, sister, you are no match for the one who came to kill
25:29 still and destroy.
25:31 You are no match.
25:33 He will use you and abuse you and keep you hostage longer than you want to stay.
25:39 And you cannot pay your way out.
25:41 But I know one who's come to do so.
25:44 And so I think people need to see that we're inviting them into abundant life, like, like
25:51 God isn't a killjoy, like being hung over is not fun.
25:58 Even abusing relationships and using people is not fun.
26:03 What's fun is purpose and that purpose is to be loved by God and to give that love away
26:09 and all of life becomes God's playground to do that.
26:13 When people do know that you do love them, even if they disagree with you, their defensiveness
26:21 are totally different.
26:22 So listen, so like, this is why I think, I mean, you're so effective.
26:26 It's part of the reason I brought you here.
26:28 I mean, I preach with you, you know, all the conferences we do, that's kind of how these
26:32 things work.
26:33 You end up at the conferences and you're all in the same sense.
26:35 And we were a lot younger back, tell me about it.
26:38 But here's the thing.
26:39 You had just preached a whole sermon about how to love people.
26:42 So as you're calling out sin, people might disagree with what your assessment of sin
26:47 is because they got blinders on, right?
26:51 But they can't argue that that guy up there telling me what I'm doing is wrong.
26:55 You can't argue that he doesn't love me.
26:57 The whole point of the sermon was love people that are different than you, that do different
27:01 than you, that vote different than you, that look different than you.
27:04 What I have found, as I don't know how this happens, but it seems to me that this thing
27:11 I have in my heart for our people, when I'm praying for them, when I'm in the woods on
27:16 money, write my sermon, begging God to move and change lives, somehow it comes through.
27:21 I find myself like you, a pretty aggressive preacher, and yet, people that are living
27:26 lifestyles completely outside of my understanding of what it looks like to be in the footsteps
27:32 of Jesus, somehow still feel loved and wanted here at this church.
27:38 Amen.
27:39 And they'll tell you.
27:40 Yeah, yeah.
27:41 They'll tell you.
27:42 I know you love me.
27:43 100%.
27:44 And I will immediately tell them, listen, we live in a world that's going to try to lie
27:47 to you and tell you that mean you can't be friends, because of something that you're
27:51 doing or feeling or have identified as.
27:54 Don't you believe that, La?
27:55 Mm-hmm.
27:56 I don't care who you are.
27:57 This place is a movement for all people.
27:59 Yeah.
28:00 Mm-hmm.
28:01 You said also tonight that the way that you label the person is either going to limit
28:06 your ability to love them or launch you or catapult you to be able to love them.
28:12 So who is that?
28:14 Who's that for you?
28:15 Who's the label for it?
28:17 It's hard to love.
28:18 Yeah.
28:19 And can we park there?
28:21 Yeah.
28:22 I think that's really important, right?
28:24 So when we label someone, Imagebearer of the Living God, that's different than going,
28:32 "Oh, they're Maga.
28:34 They're Democrat.
28:36 They're Mexican.
28:37 They're white.
28:39 They're black.
28:40 They're Haitian.
28:42 And we give these labels right now, ethnicity matters because God created them.
28:46 It was a gift.
28:47 It is a gift.
28:49 But we look at the person.
28:52 We said, "Transmitage church.
28:54 Treat everybody like Jesus died for them because he did."
28:57 So good.
28:58 And so my label for you is someone loved by God.
29:02 So this was when we were in our old warehouse.
29:05 We had this little 200-seat warehouse and it was just junky and we were just preaching
29:10 the gospel and a guy after service, a white dude runs up.
29:15 This is before I had security and stuff.
29:17 So I'm thinking to myself, I'm shaking hands with my left hand and something.
29:21 When he gets close, I can dip, put my hips into it, knock him out with my left and just
29:26 continue.
29:27 As he gets closer, there's snot dangling this white dude, probably 34.
29:31 Snots everywhere.
29:32 And before I know it, he's on me.
29:34 I don't know where the snot went, probably went on me, but we don't want to discuss that.
29:38 So he hugs me and he's just weeping, he's just balling and he goes, "I can't believe
29:44 I'm in church and I can't believe you're black.
29:47 I don't even like black people, but I want to know Jesus.
29:51 Will you teach me about Jesus?"
29:54 I want to know him.
29:56 So his girlfriend, who was a former addict, spent time in prison, met him, addict, he spent
30:04 time in prison.
30:06 He comes to our church, gets saved, witnesses him to him for a year, he finally comes and
30:11 he's like, "I don't want to go.
30:12 This blankety blank inward, this and that and that and man, Jesus got a hold to him."
30:17 That dude ends up getting baptized.
30:21 They begin to serve at our church and then she comes to me a few months ago by, she goes
30:25 "Pastor, we need to get married.
30:28 My dad disowned me at 16.
30:30 Will you walk me down the aisle?"
30:33 So the wedding comes up, we're in our little junkie warehouse.
30:37 I mean, it is a country white ghetto wedding.
30:41 She's got on cowgirl boots, Wranglers, bro, Wranglers.
30:46 She's got like this white halter top on with her bob wire tad.
30:49 He's got on some cheap suit and man, I'm walking him down the aisle to his bride.
30:55 He's crying.
30:56 So we get to her and then I go behind the pulpit and I go, "Who gives this woman away?
31:00 I come back and say, I do," and then I perform the wedding.
31:06 And as I look at that, I think the wedding feast of the lamb where God breaks down all
31:13 these barriers and brings everybody together.
31:16 And so at the end of the day, the power of the Holy Spirit can break down any barriers
31:24 in the human heart.
31:26 And it takes prayer and it takes fasting, that doesn't make God work more.
31:31 That's for us to be in tune with the rhythm of His grace.
31:34 Here's what I thought about immediately when you said the label can limit or launch into
31:40 love.
31:41 Think about the mission trip mindset versus the like scarcity mindset, okay, think about
31:49 this.
31:50 I haven't fully thought this out, so give me some serious grace here, okay.
31:54 And some person has the scarcity, fearful mindset and sees a group of people and they're like,
32:00 they're different than me.
32:02 I'm scared, let you know, okay.
32:06 But when you go on a mission trip, you're like, these people are different than me.
32:09 This is who I came to serve.
32:11 Like it immediately triggers the Jesus.
32:14 You know what I mean?
32:15 Like, okay, here's the point.
32:16 Like here's why I studied, here's why I raised the money, here's why I got on the plane.
32:20 There they are.
32:21 And it's like, you know what I mean, versus like you look around your, all the Americans
32:25 you're with and you're like, you don't have that same sort of propensity to say, because
32:31 man, I'm just telling you, you wake up and you go on a mission trip and you do what Jesus
32:37 said to do in John 13 and dress yourself as a servant and you realize you're the blessed
32:42 one.
32:43 And okay, so what's the difference?
32:44 The difference is exactly what you said, man.
32:48 It's my mentality and I'm trying, like I'm allowing this spirit of fear to do a thing
32:55 or a spirit of pride or whatever that thing is that is not from Jesus versus when you're
33:00 all Jesus up, because you know, you're trying to be a missionary and an ambassador for him.
33:05 Well, and I think that's why every believer must see themselves as an everyday missionary.
33:13 Yeah, 100%.
33:14 The father sent the son, the father and the son send the spirit and now the father, son
33:18 and spirit send us and they give us the nutrients of life to be able to go into the world.
33:28 But that once again comes from getting acquainted with Jesus, like we need more Jesus, not less.
33:35 We need more of him to see him, how he talked, how he walked, how he engaged, what he did
33:44 and how he did it, even the people he picked.
33:47 I mean, think about it, like if I'm picking a team, I'm so not picking Judas.
33:54 That's right.
33:55 I'm not picking him, but Jesus watched Judas feet knowing he's going to betray him.
34:00 I'm also not putting a tax collector that works from Rome, with Simon's nizelle who wants
34:04 to kill them all.
34:06 They're all he's like, all right, same team guys, I mean, you want to talk about getting
34:09 guys from the different sides of the aisle there and put them all on one team and saying,
34:13 hey, I'm bigger than all of these differences.
34:16 So Durham and I actually talked to a lot of men who kind of came from where I came from,
34:21 which was they didn't grow up in church, but since I grew up in Oklahoma, I call country
34:24 music theology like, you know, you listen to country music, your grandma went to church,
34:29 your baptize as a kid and you vote Republican occasionally.
34:31 So you're going to go to heaven because God likes all those things.
34:34 But the problem is, is we get this caricatured view of who Jesus of Nazareth was even as a
34:40 historical figure, much less how he's described in the gospels.
34:44 And I can't, I think you said something along the lines of it tonight, but maybe as a, um,
34:51 as something that could help the people in the audience slow down as they're reading
34:55 scripture so that they're reading, reading specifically the gospels and actually gathering
35:01 who Jesus is because it's one thing to just buzz through one of the gospel accounts of
35:05 his life and just, you know, Jesus comes off as like this robotic guy that just did some
35:09 cool things as opposed to slowing down long enough to understand the emotion and all the
35:15 context that that was there.
35:16 Well, yeah, and, and, and, and, and here's what's incredibly beautiful about him, right?
35:22 So the Old Testament talks about the one who was the come, the suffering servant, the,
35:28 the Messiah.
35:29 And when you look at his story, born to the Virgin Mary in Bethlehem prophesied in Micah
35:36 5 2, um, grown up in Nazareth, fill up the one of the 12 disciples, can anything good
35:44 come out of Nazareth?
35:46 Like, like Jesus was not the likely candidate to be the chamashia.
35:53 And so he can relate to us.
35:56 Like he knows what it, what it means to live under the boot of an empire.
36:02 So grown up as a little boy, um, up in Nazareth, there was a lot of Gentile towns.
36:08 Jesus would have been familiar with seeing Jewish men on crosses as he, as he went to
36:14 school and as he went to work with his dad, like he would have seen the power of Rome
36:19 and would have known that that was his destiny, right?
36:22 And so when you look at him, even at 12, he goes into the temple and the scholars are
36:26 like, man, who is this dude here, this kid?
36:30 By the way, he was lost from Mary and Joseph, it was like a couple of days.
36:34 That's wild.
36:35 It's not, it's not, it's not like helicopter parenting, but, but, but when, when we follow
36:41 him, if you want to know what God looks like, look at Jesus because he's the human face
36:48 of what Yahweh is, he's the image of the invisible God and he's beautiful.
36:53 And when we get to the point that his beauty is enough, man, we are so lit up with love,
37:02 we are, we're just dazzled by him and the fruit of the spirit, the gifts of the spirit
37:07 begin to come out of us for the glory of God.
37:11 Some I want you to talk a little bit more about, not, it was incredibly clear, I try
37:17 to talk about it as much as I can.
37:18 It's a, it's crazy to me how many church people just can't get this in their mind.
37:23 There's a Pew research poll that says it's almost 60% of evangelical church attending
37:31 Christians will say that their right activity plays a key role in them getting to go to
37:36 heaven.
37:37 Okay.
37:38 So you said it, I think he said it three times.
37:39 You said quit trying to fix you, quit trying to fix you, quit trying to fix you.
37:45 I know one who can.
37:47 So when, when people hear that, and I don't know, some people hear, well, you, you're
37:51 saying, am I, am I not supposed to try to do good things with just, you know, I could
37:56 preach it too.
37:57 I just want you to, cause I, for whatever reason, there might be somebody that was sitting
38:01 in there tonight or watching online, but somehow the third time they hear it, maybe
38:06 it'll make sense.
38:07 But we don't want them to hear it.
38:08 Just let go and let go.
38:09 No, no, no.
38:10 Jesus said, dude, I want you to unpack good.
38:15 Tell, tell us what you mean when you say quit trying to fix you.
38:18 Yeah, so, so, so one of the, one of the illustrations that I share with our church is this, the
38:25 way we're conditioned as human beings, because our first parents, Adam and Eve said, you
38:32 know what God, we want to do it our way.
38:35 When they did that, they launched us into this performance based living of approval.
38:42 So basically we're all born thinking that life is a test that we have to take.
38:49 And we have to score a certain percentage or higher than someone else.
38:54 And what I say to people is this, particularly at our church, said it to them last last last
38:59 year, if you're Gen X, and if you're not, when we were in school, we had these number
39:05 two pencils and we had paper, God tore up your number two pencil and he threw your
39:12 paper away because he says, you can't score high enough.
39:17 But my son came to earth and for 33 years, he took the exam of life and he passed it
39:25 for you and by faith in him, his test score, which is God made him who knew no sin, becomes
39:35 sin that we might become the righteousness of God is given to you as a gift.
39:40 He put into your Venmo account the perfect righteousness of God.
39:46 You cannot achieve it.
39:47 It's so great.
39:48 You can only believe it.
39:51 He took the test.
39:52 His score is your score.
39:54 But we don't believe that.
39:56 That's part of the issue is we just can't get there.
39:59 And it's what you say.
40:00 Well, hold on, hold on, hold on.
40:01 So I can tell you lift weights, you lift weights and I mean, you definitely lift weights
40:05 over here.
40:06 I can tell you be throwing up some iron, right?
40:09 So when you lift weights and you get to the point to where you can't go anymore and those
40:15 muscle, you know, that's when you grow, oftentimes we cannot receive God's grace because we haven't
40:23 been crushed, my life and dark powers enough.
40:27 Let's go.
40:28 God ultimately will allow us to be crushed a part of my crushing, my third year in NFL
40:35 nominated for the Pro Bowl team captain.
40:39 The next year I get hurt, I never get hurt.
40:43 The next year I get hurt.
40:45 I never get hurt.
40:46 The next year I'm hurt again.
40:50 And amidst to me being hurt, I'm recognizing that this body ain't going to be 25 my whole
40:58 life.
40:59 And I'm recognizing who am I without playing?
41:03 Who will I be?
41:04 And someone was telling me, I can tell you who you can be.
41:08 You can be a new creation.
41:10 Your life isn't planned on this field.
41:14 God has something more for you.
41:17 Matter of fact, he wants to give you an eternal contract and he signed it with his blood and
41:23 he traded a son to draft you on his team and you're a first-round pick.
41:27 Well, that's what you said though, a lot of us think, I need to get cleaned up before
41:31 I come to church and I forget exactly like you said it, but it's like, no, you're going
41:34 to be cleaned by blood and you need a blood bath.
41:38 Come with your dirty clothes.
41:41 Come with your dirty clothes because that's all you got.
41:43 Yeah, but we think again, we think we have to do something a little bit different because
41:47 we can like tilt the score in our favor and you know, come a little bit cleaner than some
41:51 of our other things.
41:52 Well, I mean, you know, I, you know, so my life, my wife is from Montana, my daughter
41:57 lives in Montana.
42:00 For those of you who don't know, I grew up in Texas.
42:02 So I actually wore cowboy boots senior year in high school.
42:06 Bro, I have a pair at the house.
42:09 So you know, I'm from Texas, I rock some cowboy boots.
42:13 Here's the thing, like a horse has to be broken before it can be ridden, right?
42:20 And a lot of times we have to be broken before we know our need for grace.
42:25 God only pours grace into a broken heart.
42:28 Jesus, the first words of his kingdom, launching sermon, blessed are the poor in spirit for theirs
42:35 is a kingdom of heaven.
42:38 And for the men that are listening like, man, would you, would you try to make me weak?
42:42 No, brother, I'm trying to make you more powerful than you ever thought you will be because your
42:46 power is puny compared to God's power that is made strong in your weakness.
42:52 And that's what weakness is, right?
42:54 Yeah, it's interesting.
42:55 Same thing.
42:56 It's interesting.
42:57 You pick the horse reference because, you know, blessed to the poor in spirit is basically
43:02 blessed are you when you realize I'm spiritually bankrupt and I ain't got this because the kingdom
43:06 of God is at hand.
43:07 You're that close to getting saved.
43:09 Then blessed are the meek and meek isn't weak.
43:13 In Greek, I know it's a lot of eek say, I'm like Eminem, it is, it is a bit bridal horse
43:20 is what the Greek word means.
43:22 If you look at the physiology of a broken horse, they're stronger, more powerful, live
43:27 longer can go farther.
43:29 Everything's better.
43:31 In essence, meekness is to turn over the reins, all right, Jesus, I'm not going to be the
43:37 boss of me anymore.
43:39 You are.
43:40 All right.
43:41 I got another question.
43:43 We all are in a performance trap.
43:45 I mean, you know, if you go to college, you got to make grades to get out, whatever.
43:49 But your world was way more.
43:53 Your semester wasn't evaluated.
43:55 Every play that you were on the field in slow motion.
43:58 Okay.
43:59 Yeah.
44:00 What did that impact you in regards to receiving the free gift of grace?
44:06 One of the things I tell preachers all the time, by the way, I think they should write
44:10 the verse when Jesus gets baptized and the Bible says that the heavens open to God said,
44:13 behold, my son, I in whom I am well pleased.
44:16 He hadn't done any ministry yet.
44:18 So before he ever did anything, God had already placed his approval on his son.
44:22 Okay.
44:23 What was that transition for me, okay, you went from the most performance based thing
44:30 in the world, professional American athletics, right?
44:36 And now you're a gospel preacher.
44:37 How was that transition for you?
44:39 So in high school, right?
44:41 So me getting a football scholarship was life or life or death.
44:46 It was like there was no plan B.
44:49 So I've worked hard, I learned, I studied, and I love the game.
44:55 I love my coaches.
44:56 I wasn't a believer at the time, but God in this common grace used that.
45:00 So watching film, I mean, there was pressure, but it was like, there was no option.
45:06 Yeah.
45:07 Like this had to take place.
45:08 I get the college and it's like, Oh, also, if you go to the NFL, your high school tape
45:13 is so good.
45:14 I mean, level, because you know, you play where I coach for a bunch of years too.
45:18 And I played high school.
45:20 So the guys that end up in the pros, in high school, they're doing things that one guy,
45:26 every nine counties can do.
45:27 Okay.
45:28 So let's just make it real.
45:29 All right.
45:30 So outside of where would San Antonio high school team, that was fun for you.
45:34 The high school team I played for on defense out of the 11 starters, 10 of us played in
45:40 a 10 of us went to D one, four of us played in the NFL.
45:45 But we lost to Dallas Carter, who had 28 guys to get scholarships.
45:50 Okay.
45:51 Yeah.
45:52 So anyway, it's all different.
45:53 Yeah.
45:54 Yeah.
45:55 Yeah.
45:56 So I mean, so when we, so when I got to college, it was kind of the same thing.
46:00 I mean, college is click, man.
46:02 I was college is going to be why you be why you?
46:05 Yeah.
46:06 So I was none more men went to BYU and I mean, it just, it just, it clicked.
46:12 When I got to the NFL, it was business.
46:15 And that's when the anxiety came, man, film session.
46:20 And so like in high school and college, you know, they kind of, I went to BYU.
46:24 So coaches didn't cuss.
46:26 When I got to the NFL, man, I had coaches like I'll effing blank and fire blank and blank
46:32 before blank.
46:33 And I'm like, what have this is not what I thought it was.
46:38 So every year, every game, like the level of anxiety and like, man, when you make an
46:44 NFL team, the celebration when you make the team is like, yeah.
46:49 But then the next week you're like, man, somebody's going to get cut.
46:51 Yep.
46:52 Like people get cut all the time.
46:53 Wow.
46:54 And so man, I survived and I survived, but your worth is in what you do.
47:00 And it should be right externally.
47:03 It wasn't until my last year when I got saved that I understood, okay, how well our play
47:10 or don't play is no reflection on God's love toward me.
47:15 It doesn't affect my identity.
47:18 And I actually could play better.
47:21 Loose.
47:22 I could play better.
47:23 So the coaches I played best for were ones who said, look son, you're going to make mistakes,
47:29 but you're my guy.
47:30 Oh, yeah.
47:31 I believe in you.
47:32 1996.
47:33 Pre-season cuts.
47:37 And my defensive back coach comes up to me.
47:39 This is warmups.
47:40 He's like, hey man, if you don't play good, we probably going to have to cut you.
47:46 And this is right before the game.
47:48 Like how's that going to encourage me?
47:51 But what he didn't know was we're playing in Houston.
47:54 We're playing in the old Astridome where my senior year in high school, I went ball,
48:02 I went, I balled out, bro, my people's was up in the stands.
48:07 Yeah, let's go.
48:08 I went crazy.
48:10 I sacked Steve McNair.
48:11 I blew up Eddie George.
48:13 I was flying around the field and two days later practice, he goes, you did good.
48:22 And so, you know, and then another experience.
48:26 This is my last year.
48:27 So if you win an NFL game, the locker room is exuberant coaches high five in you.
48:32 If you lose, don't even say it, say it, say it, say anything.
48:35 We're playing Buffalo.
48:36 I didn't play very well, a guy beat me and scored.
48:40 In the game, we lost defensive coordinator walks in.
48:43 He's still in a NFL now and he looks at me with disgust and just walks away.
48:48 And I said to myself, I was a believer in it.
48:50 I said, if I'm ever in a position of leadership, I will value people over their production.
48:57 I can still honor you and cut you.
49:00 Yeah.
49:01 I can still honor you.
49:02 Right.
49:03 And I want you like trash because you didn't play very, very, very good.
49:07 And that, that affected my leadership is I always want people to know I believe in them
49:13 and even if it doesn't work out with us, I'm still in your corner.
49:17 But at the end of the day, even now, leading a church, I mean, we have to show up.
49:24 One of the things that I do often is I'll tell our church, as I'll say, guys, I don't
49:30 have to be lead pastor to be okay because Jesus is my good enough.
49:35 And as a result of that, I can serve you in such a way that I'm not grasping for power,
49:40 but I'm free because Jesus is my good enough on a good day, a bad day.
49:47 He is my good enough.
49:48 And then that frees me to live in overflow.
49:52 As you were saying that, I just think about the number of people that walk into churches
49:58 and they think God is your like your defensive back coach.
50:02 Absolutely.
50:03 And the second song's gone and they're like, Hey man, if you don't play good enough, if
50:08 you don't do good enough, I don't think I'm going to keep you.
50:10 And I'm, I thank you so much for preaching the gospel here.
50:17 Part of what compels me to preach the gospel over and over and over is that it would stamp
50:22 out the lives of the enemy that whisper in people's mind.
50:26 If you don't do good enough, God's done with you.
50:29 Mr. Jobe, you talk a lot about sometimes people compare it was that we talked about this earlier,
50:37 like the difference between God and the Old Testament or the old covenant, it's law, it's
50:41 justice.
50:42 And thank God we have a covenant of grace and it's like, wait a second, which is harder.
50:48 You know, the ethic of love is such a high demand.
50:53 We're close to out of time, but let's close with that.
50:56 Like, I mean, you, you closed the message with this, don't, don't try to bring something
51:02 to God, receive from him because he's our, you were the beat up guy, you know?
51:06 And so put that and close this out with that covenantal perspective of Jesus brought that
51:12 new covenant of grace and it's actually a higher calling than keeping a list of rules.
51:18 I actually think people are more afraid of God's love than God's wrath.
51:24 And the reason why is people already feel like they're not good enough.
51:29 They're not worthy, which they're not, we're sinners.
51:34 And so wrath is kind of like what I expect.
51:37 What's so shocking, what's so scandalous, what's so breathtaking is Jesus says, I'm going
51:46 to the cross and I know everything you've ever done and I want you anyway.
51:54 And that is terrifying to be loved that way because that type of love demands a change.
52:01 A transformation.
52:02 I'd be a good name for church, transformation, church.
52:07 I agree.
52:08 Fellas.
52:09 Thank y'all.
52:10 Let's pray.
52:11 Our good and gracious Heavenly Father God, I thank you so much for my friend, my brother
52:16 Derwin Gray.
52:17 God, thanks for all the things that he's been through in his life and that you have, you
52:22 have used him and shaped him and molded him and placed him and exactly where you would
52:27 have him God.
52:28 I thank you so much for how much he just lifted up you tonight and that you drew a hundred
52:35 and twenty people to you tonight through the proclamation of your word.
52:41 God, I pray your blessings upon his two grown kids, upon his marriage and upon transformation
52:49 church.
52:50 God, I know that because he continuously makes much of you God, then your spirit is in that
52:56 place and where your spirit is, there is freedom and so God, I pray that we would quit trying
53:01 to fix ourselves up, but we would receive your gospel, your love, your grace.
53:08 We pray this in Jesus name, amen.
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