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RUSSELL BERGER | Fired for Calling Pride a Sin (Ep. 466)

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RUSSELL BERGER | Fired for Calling Pride a Sin (Ep. 466)
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In this episode, Kyle Thompson interviews Russell Berger, who was fired from CrossFit for defending a gym owner's decision to cancel a pride-themed workout. They discuss the implications of cancel culture, the importance of standing firm in faith, and the need for authentic masculinity in the church.
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0:51 I'm your host Kyle Thompson.
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0:54 All right, guys.
0:55 We've got a special guest on the podcast today.
0:57 His name is Russell Burger.
0:58 He is a former chief knowledge officer and spokesman for the fitness gym brand CrossFit.
1:03 And he was fired in 2018 for tweeting in defense of a CrossFit franchise owner that
1:07 canceled an LGBTQ pride theme to work out for religious reasons.
1:11 So in the podcast, we go into the backstory just a little bit, but the gym in question
1:15 is CrossFit infiltrate in Indianapolis.
1:18 And the gyms manager and the staff created an LGBTQ pride theme to work out.
1:23 That was going to be done during the first week of so-called pride week there in June
1:26 of 2018.
1:27 Now that was the plan until the gym owner, a guy named Brandon Lowe canceled the workout.
1:32 So he sent out a statement.
1:34 He emailed this out to all the gym members concerning the cancellation.
1:37 Here is a statement.
1:38 Our underlying goal for the staff and members at CrossFit infiltrate and our other gyms
1:43 is total health and well-being for the individual and community.
1:47 Total health involves the body, the emotions, relationships, and the spirit.
1:52 As the foundational detractor from health as we believe God sets the parameters for is
1:56 pride.
1:57 We believe that true health forever can be found within humility, not pride.
2:03 Humility is seeing oneself as they truly are and as God truly defines them to be.
2:08 As a business, we will choose to deploy our resources towards those efforts and causes
2:12 that line up with our values and beliefs.
2:15 So wouldn't you know it, shock of all shocks?
2:17 The Woke LGBTQ mob didn't like this one bit.
2:20 They came after him, it was kind of like this crazy thing that went on.
2:23 All of his trainers and managers quit basically at the same time and most of their clients
2:28 canceled their memberships and the harassment of the gym owner continued until he eventually
2:32 had to close his gym down and I think he had to close down his other gyms as well.
2:36 Now all that sounds like it was plenty dramatic and disruptive on its own.
2:40 But everything kicked off or kicked up a notch rather when CrossFit's Russell Burger, who
2:44 again is a guest today, he tweeted.
2:48 And I know we live in an era where when you tweet things, that's like currency to people
2:51 that hate you, right?
2:53 But he tweeted support for CrossFit infiltrates owner and his decision.
2:58 So here's the tweet.
2:59 As someone who personally believe celebrating pride is a sin, I'd like to personally encourage
3:03 CrossFit infiltrate for standing by their convictions and refusing to host and pride
3:09 workout essentially.
3:10 So he also tweeted that, you know, the tactics of the LGBTQ movement towards dissent, it's
3:14 a clear and existential threat to the freedom of expression.
3:19 But he deleted those tweets and we talked about some of the deleted tweets.
3:23 But then he did have this tweet that he put out later after he had deleted some and then
3:27 added some more.
3:28 He said, allow me to double down.
3:30 I believe indie pride is a celebration of sin as do most Christians.
3:34 I deleted this and reposted a different version to make sure it's clear these are my personal
3:38 beliefs, you know, since the Twitter mobs are hard at work trying to get me fired.
3:43 So again, you know, there's kind of that line, like, okay, is he tweeting on behalf of CrossFit
3:47 or is he tweeting on behalf of his own personal opinions?
3:50 But these tweets did put him in hot water with his employer CrossFit.
3:53 And within a few hours, you know, they, they went from suspending him pending an investigation
3:57 to basically coming out and firing him same day as all this stuff went down.
4:02 The CrossFit CEO at the time, Greg Glassman came out and actually called burger a zealot.
4:07 And it wasn't long.
4:08 And again, that before he was fired, it was just kind of this crazy, a dramatic thing.
4:13 Now he's one to tell you and he'll tell you in this interview today that that was a great
4:16 experience for him.
4:17 He got him out of a job that he was, you know, never going to leave and it wasn't the best
4:21 fit for him.
4:22 He went into ministry, but he didn't always start out, you know, as a Christian, you know,
4:25 he grew up as a fairly egregious atheist or, you know, combative atheist, I guess you could
4:31 say and then found his way into agnosticism and then eventually found his way to Christ
4:35 as well.
4:36 And so in this interview, we talked about an entire situation, the process of being caught
4:41 up in something like that.
4:43 Why do you even tweet?
4:45 Does he regret it?
4:46 What would he do differently if he could go back now?
4:49 What it's like whenever you're being canceled.
4:51 I mean, this is 2018.
4:52 That seems like a million years ago, but what was it like back then when you're being canceled
4:56 by these people that just hate you and also, you know, what about diversity because CrossFit
5:01 claims to be the super diverse brand, but apparently not diverse of all different types
5:05 of opinions.
5:06 And so we get into all that.
5:08 We get into his ministry work that he's doing now.
5:10 We talk a lot about, you know, masculinity inside the church and how discipleship and
5:14 true masculine discipline is going to kind of lead to masculinity within the church.
5:19 I really, really enjoyed my time with him today.
5:20 So guys, without further ado, let's get into it.
5:24 Russell Berger, welcome to Undaunted Life of Man's podcast.
5:27 Thanks for having me, Kyle.
5:28 I'm glad to be here.
5:30 So let's let's actually start early on in life because we talked a little bit off air,
5:34 but athleticism, activity, that's kind of been a part of who you are even as an adult,
5:40 been a part of your career.
5:41 And we'll of course get into all of that, you know, that's the stuff that I talked about
5:44 in the intro.
5:45 But let's talk about early life.
5:47 Like have you always been active?
5:48 Have you always been athletic?
5:49 Like what was what was that connection for you?
5:51 Cause like I didn't grow up in a family of athletes.
5:53 I was the only athlete.
5:55 So it wasn't like I, you know, I came by it honestly, I just kind of fell into it.
5:59 Yeah, I definitely didn't grow up in a family of athletes per se.
6:04 I grew up in the Southeast.
6:07 I bounced around a lot as a kid because my dad was in the Navy.
6:11 And everywhere we ended up living was generally pretty rural and we usually had a lot of woods
6:16 to play in.
6:17 And so my athletic background is running around in the woods, climbing trees, throwing rocks
6:22 at stuff and fighting other kids.
6:25 So surprisingly if you end up as a startling well, yeah, you can't do that stuff now.
6:29 I don't know.
6:30 Yeah, exactly.
6:31 No, I had like a real Tom Sawyer upbringing.
6:36 So that's, I mean, my athletic abilities in my backgrounds were really not sports based.
6:41 It was just real play, you know, kids doing what kids do.
6:45 So the idea of going outside without shoes on and running for two hours was just, I mean
6:50 that was just daily life.
6:52 Climbing trees pull ups.
6:53 I could always do pull ups as a kid because that's what I did every time we climb stuff.
6:57 When I was a little older, my grandfather got me into pole vaulting.
7:02 He's a pole vaulting coach.
7:04 And so every kid that comes through our family has to pull it's sort of like a rite of passage.
7:09 So I did that during the summers for a few years.
7:13 I did some, you know, some tee ball as a kid.
7:16 So a little bit of a soccer, I didn't stick with anything.
7:21 We didn't have the money for any kind of sport that required purchasing equipment.
7:24 So there were a lot of things that were off the table.
7:28 And yeah, I mean, that's really it.
7:30 I didn't really actually start doing sports in any sort of meaningful sense until high
7:36 school and even there I was inconsistent.
7:39 I didn't like to show up to practice his own time.
7:41 So it didn't work out for me, so.
7:44 So I'm getting the sense that you're a bit of a knucklehead.
7:47 But you know, and you kind of like kept that going on into adulthood, which is a good thing
7:51 and we'll get to that.
7:52 But also kind of a big part of your story, Russell, is your personal faith.
7:56 And so everyone kind of has there when I became a Christian moment or realization.
8:01 But for you, if I remember correctly, you also went to seminary if I remember correctly
8:05 from your bio.
8:06 So I know we're just going to be scraping the surface on that part of it.
8:09 But like, give me the 30,000 foot view about how you became a Christian and kind of how
8:13 like, and I guess correct the record if I was incorrect about seminary, but how that's
8:17 kind of been a central point of your entire life.
8:20 Yeah, so I attended seminary, didn't graduate, just kind of sort of collecting classes here
8:25 and there.
8:26 But I did go to Bible College rewinding many years.
8:31 So as a kid, as you could kind of pick up, I was stubborn and I was a contrarian.
8:36 So if somebody told me there's a rule here, don't do this.
8:40 That was sort of like a personal challenge to see if I could do it without getting caught
8:44 or how close to doing it, I could get away with without actually breaking the rule.
8:50 And so to be in the Bible Belt South, with that sort of character, I really, from a young
8:56 age, really very openly rejected Christianity.
9:01 So I had a lot of friends who were Christians, at least in name, one of my friends growing
9:06 up around the eight, nine years old, his dad was a pastor of a Methodist church.
9:12 And my mom at the time would kind of drag us along to small little Baptist churches on
9:17 Sunday mornings.
9:20 And she's not a Christian, but she just sort of saw this as like the cultural thing to
9:25 do in the South.
9:26 And so every step of the way I found reason to dig my heels in and say, "No, that's not
9:31 me.
9:32 I'm not a Christian.
9:33 I don't believe in God.
9:34 I don't want to be a part of that because that's just the thing that people do around
9:38 me and I've got to be different."
9:40 My dad was an atheist.
9:41 He was raised Roman Catholic and the Roman Catholic church produces a lot of good atheists
9:47 is my experience.
9:48 And so he from a very early age, he was kind of discipling me in atheism, kind of teaching
9:54 me how to be the free thinking, rational kind of atheists that can take down silly Christian
10:02 arguments and expose it as just blind faith and foolishness.
10:08 And that's the attitude I took.
10:09 And I ran with that all the way through my teenage years, got out of high school, didn't
10:15 really know what I was doing, didn't have the money for college, didn't have the aspiration
10:21 to go to college, saw a lot of my friends go into college and wasting time and doing
10:25 stupid stuff I didn't want to be a part of.
10:28 And so I joined the army, this was 2003, 2004, just a couple years after 9/11.
10:37 And so I wanted to go kill terrorists and so I joined the army.
10:41 I was selected in the first range of Italian and spent four years getting deployed every
10:49 six months to 90 day deployments in Iraq and Afghanistan.
10:53 I met my wife.
10:55 We got married.
10:56 I was living in Savannah, Georgia, and around this time, there's just something about living
11:01 on the edge of death, hanging out of helicopters, getting shot at, that just sort of, even
11:07 as a very stubborn atheist, it just kind of, it calibrated my senses a little bit more
11:13 towards agnostic, having to face death and the thought of death, maybe just a little
11:18 bit more open to the reality of, maybe I will meet a creator someday.
11:26 Maybe there is someone who is behind all of this, who is keeping me alive right now.
11:33 So after that, I got out, kind of had the American dream, I had a house, I had a wife,
11:38 had two little babies at home, had a good job, I was working for CrossFit.
11:45 And really at that point in my life, I was making a tremendous idol out of my job and
11:53 out of my athletic success, and those two went pretty close together because it was CrossFit.
11:59 And I put so much of my time and my effort and my talent into being the best at my job
12:04 and being the best athlete that I was really leaving my family kind of high and dry.
12:09 And at a time when my wife, with two little babies at home and she was starting to have
12:14 some health issues, she really needed me there and my kids needed me there and I was just
12:19 not there for them.
12:21 And out of nowhere, I got hit with the overwhelming conviction that I was in sin.
12:28 Which as an atheist, really didn't make sense.
12:31 Here I am an atheist, I'm captain of my own destiny.
12:35 There is no God, I am just a combination of pieces of stardust banging around in a universe
12:43 governed by time and blind chance.
12:45 And here I am feeling like there's some rule that applies to me and my behavior that I
12:50 didn't agree to, that does not comport with an atheist's worldview.
12:55 And yet I couldn't shake it.
12:56 So this is a thing that I didn't want to believe and I didn't think I believed.
13:00 And yet I had this external moral conviction that I was in sin and that I would someday
13:07 give an account for my sin and the way that I was treating my wife and my kids.
13:11 And I spent about two or three months just in this terrible state of anxiety and frustration
13:19 and just not really sure how to deal with that.
13:22 And then I actually was doing a crossfit competition, it was one of the regional competitions
13:27 to go to the crossfit games.
13:29 And I had a terrible time and I was still wallowing in this anxiety and this feeling
13:35 of moral guilt that I couldn't shake.
13:38 And I met Rich Farron, who was a multiple crossfit games champion.
13:43 At the time nobody knew who he was, he hadn't won anything yet.
13:47 And now he was a Christian and when I saw him I had a little bit of like a jealousy.
13:51 Like this guy is very similar in his desires to just be the best.
13:57 But he's not wearing it around like an idol.
14:00 I didn't know that word but I knew the difference.
14:04 He was content with what God was giving him.
14:06 He was content to win or lose and he had sort of this piece about him that I was really,
14:11 I was envious of.
14:13 And so even in my desire to kind of know God and him drawing me to himself, it was still
14:18 governed by selfish ambition.
14:20 I wanted things that would make me feel better.
14:23 It just goes to show that we're sinners through and through.
14:28 So I realized like, okay if he's got this sense of peace and he seems like the kind of guy
14:33 I want to be, maybe that would be the solution to this anxiety I'm feeling, this guilt.
14:38 And so I started reading my Bible.
14:39 And so every night when I was putting my infant son to bed I would open up the Bible by headlamp
14:45 and I would start reading.
14:47 And I read through Genesis, I read through the Old Testament, I got into the New Testament.
14:51 I didn't have anybody telling me how to read the Bible.
14:54 So I just treated it like any old book, page one, page two, page three.
14:59 And as I was reading it, I unmistakably heard God speaking to me, which I didn't expect
15:07 as an atheist either.
15:08 And I was reading it and realizing this is a different kind of book that I've ever read.
15:15 It had an authority and it had a cohesion to it that I didn't expect.
15:22 And I hadn't read the Bible.
15:23 I had a Bible on my shelf since I was a teenager, I'd never opened it up.
15:26 Despite all of my claims that I knew Christianity in and out and knew how false and foolish
15:31 it was, I never actually read my Bible.
15:33 Yeah, so when I read it, I was convicted of its truth.
15:37 I didn't really know what to make of that though because I didn't have anybody to disciple
15:40 me.
15:41 I'd never had the gospel presented to me clearly.
15:44 So as I'm reading it, I'm sort of starting to get the picture of what the gospel is.
15:48 But it still took many months of me sort of fumbling through the pages of scripture before
15:55 I heard a clear presentation of the gospel.
15:59 And so I'm not even really sure when in there I was saved, but when I was, I realized I moved
16:04 from thinking, "Okay, these things are true."
16:08 So there was at least six months where I decided Christianity was true.
16:12 But I wasn't really a Christian.
16:15 The idea that you believe it's true and that makes you a Christian is not really biblical.
16:20 James says even the demons know that God exists and they shudder.
16:26 But when I recognized that Christ had died for me and that if I trusted in him and believed
16:33 on him and put my love and affection and my trust in his person and in his work, that
16:39 all that he accomplished for sinners would be applied to me.
16:43 That's when I really changed and my life changed.
16:46 My wife could see it.
16:47 People who used to know me could see it.
16:50 And that process was slow and it was painful and I don't know exactly what had happened,
16:54 but it was over about the course of the year.
16:56 And so from there I went to Bible College.
16:58 I was still not in a healthy church.
17:00 I didn't have anybody discipling me.
17:02 So I figured, hey, I got the GI Bill, I pulled out of the secular school that I was in and
17:07 I started going to Bible College and the rest is history there.
17:12 Well, I really appreciate you going into all that detail because I know a lot of people
17:16 have been on a similar journey.
17:18 I guess you could say one quick thing and I don't want to divert too much from what
17:22 I wanted to talk about today.
17:24 But you mentioned something early on there, Russell, about Catholicism and how you know
17:28 a lot of people that are, it's almost like people that are culturally Jewish, but they
17:32 have no connection to the Jewish faith.
17:35 There's something very similar to that within Catholicism where you're raised Catholic,
17:39 but you have nothing even fathomably close to a belief in even God, much less the gospel.
17:46 And even you have people like Joe Biden that are good Catholics, but they believe in things
17:51 and advocate for things that are literally antithetical to what we see in scripture.
17:56 And just a little bit more about that because I know some truly devout Catholics, Catholics
18:01 that give me a hard time for being Protestant and I give it right back to them.
18:05 But there seemingly is a massive problem with cultural Catholicism.
18:09 Yeah.
18:10 So when we talk about Catholicism, it's important to not talk about it as a monolith as if everyone
18:18 who is Roman Catholic believes and thinks the same things or even believes and thinks
18:22 the things that the Catholic Church teaches.
18:26 So there's a lot of diversity within Roman Catholicism, much to their chagrin.
18:34 The main thing is that the gospel as taught formally by the teachings of the Roman Catholic
18:40 Church is a false gospel.
18:41 That's why we had the Protestant Reformation which split with the Catholic Church over
18:46 the distinction between God's grace being necessary for our salvation, which both Protestants
18:54 and Catholics would agree with, versus God's grace being sufficient for our salvation,
19:00 which only Protestants believe and it's what the Bible teaches.
19:03 Now having said that, I know Roman Catholics who I think are Christians who believe the
19:09 true gospel and that's not because of the teaching of the Catholic Church, that's in
19:13 spite of the Catholic Church's formal teaching.
19:17 So like I said, there's a lot of diversity within the Roman Catholic Church, but Roman
19:21 Catholicism has also for centuries been sort of at the forefront of the culturally Christian
19:28 nominalism that we now see all over the Bible Belt.
19:32 So people who call themselves Roman Catholic, what they'll often mean is that's my tribe.
19:38 That's my family.
19:39 Those are the people who I identify with.
19:41 That's how I was raised, but there is no personal saving faith or conviction.
19:47 They've perhaps never even read their Bible, which I've encountered Catholics who didn't
19:52 really know much about the Bible at all because like modern Jews, it's almost their ethnicity.
19:59 It's their tribe.
20:00 And so when you interact with Catholics, it's always good to ask them personally, what do
20:05 you believe?
20:06 What do you mean by saying you're a Catholic or you're a Christian?
20:09 I think the thing that's important as well is you need to listen earnestly and you need
20:13 to listen from almost like an intellectually neutral position to just understand kind of
20:17 where they're coming from.
20:18 Because I know within Protestantism, there are so many different denominations that say
20:21 things differently.
20:23 If you were to walk into a goodness, like maybe a more reformed Baptist type circle, and if
20:29 you were to say something like, I accepted Jesus into my heart, they would look at you
20:33 like you had a boob on the top of your head, they'd be like, what does that mean?
20:37 You accepted or you'd like the best acceptor ever?
20:40 Like when you use different language, people are going to kind of come to it a little bit
20:44 differently.
20:45 But I do want to talk a little bit more about where you introduce that you worked for CrossFit.
20:50 So you were a CrossFit athlete, you were competing in CrossFit, but you also worked there.
20:54 You're the chief knowledge officer.
20:56 But mainly the reason why people that are outside of the CrossFit community came to know your
21:01 name is because of something that happened in June of 2018.
21:05 And I'll flow on in a little bit, and then you can fill in details here and there.
21:09 But essentially, there was a CrossFit gym or box called CrossFit Infiltrate in Indianapolis.
21:15 And they were planning to do a pride themed workout again, June, June is pride month,
21:21 you know, all the things that come along with that and it gets worse and worse every year.
21:25 But the gym owner, so the person that planned it as far as I understand it was a manager
21:29 of the gym and the staff and trainers at the gym planned this pride themed workout.
21:34 But the owner of the gym, Brandon Lowe, canceled the workout, okay?
21:38 And he sent a letter or an email out to the community basically saying that we're not
21:43 going to be doing this and he gave his reasons for that.
21:46 But you came out and tweeted in support of Brandon Lowe.
21:51 And there were people like, "Wait a minute, is Russell tweeting on behalf of CrossFit?
21:56 Is he tweeting as just an individual that can have his own opinions and has free speech
22:01 to do so?"
22:02 But you publicly came out and you touched the third rail as it were and you came out in
22:08 support of somebody that was anti-not people that celebrate LGBTQ, but anti-the celebration
22:16 of pride in and of itself, specifically in that context.
22:20 So let's go back there and I've got several questions about some things that happened
22:23 in there.
22:24 But tell me about what it was like, how you found out about what CrossFit Infiltrate did,
22:30 why you decided to tweet about it and then we'll work from there.
22:33 Yeah, I don't want to disappoint.
22:36 There's not much to it.
22:37 Yeah, I got on Twitter one morning and I saw a bunch of shrill LGBTQ activists attacking
22:46 one of our CrossFit affiliates.
22:50 Not only was it my job and the company to defend our CrossFit affiliates, but I was
22:55 personally sympathetic to the owner as a Christian.
22:59 And so I tweeted that I supported him and that pride was a sin.
23:05 And this was in the heyday, the very early days of Twitter activism.
23:09 And I was one of the very first people that the LGBTQ mob, as it's come to be known, targeted
23:16 for, I don't know, they call it canceling now, they just want me fired.
23:21 And so they fired me and, well, they didn't fire me, they called for me to be fired and
23:25 the pressure was so enormous from externally that internally people buckled and started
23:32 sort of demanding the CEO fire me and it within a matter of hours he had so.
23:38 So I want to dig more into that certainly, but I want to go back to even just the thought
23:45 to tweet things because, you know, growing up, because we're about the same age, growing
23:48 up, there was no stream of consciousness to put your opinions out there.
23:53 Because if you had a thought, you left it in your brain because they're like, maybe
23:56 you had a Zenga page or something like that, but there was nowhere to kind of put that
23:59 thought.
24:00 Whereas now we have stream of consciousness Twitter where we can just, oh, I have this
24:04 thought and we can fart it out onto the internet.
24:07 But you put these tweets out there.
24:09 Obviously the mob immediately, you know, just like white blood cells attacking a virus or
24:13 something, they just they swarmed you, but you deleted your tweets, you deleted some
24:19 of them.
24:20 Another one, I guess, take me back to that time period and we'll get into the firing
24:25 and all the hubbub that happened there.
24:27 But if you could go back, would you leave up all the tweets?
24:31 Would you have even tweeted anything to begin with?
24:33 Would you have taken a different tact?
24:35 Because I think I saw somewhere where I read that you regretted tweeting it out to begin
24:39 with, but I just want to kind of get it from you.
24:42 Yeah.
24:43 Yeah.
24:44 So after I tweeted it, I did delete the tweets and I deleted them because my company asked
24:49 me to, this is prior to them threatening to fire me.
24:54 So we didn't have any policies at CrossFit for using personal social media accounts.
25:00 So there were no rules about how I couldn't tweet, whatever I wanted on social media.
25:06 But more than once, like I was saying things as a CrossFit spokesperson from my personal
25:12 accounts and that was actually encouraged.
25:15 And I would say things and there'd be feedback from other executives in the company and say,
25:21 hey, don't say it that way, say it this way, so I delete it and rewrite it.
25:25 And this was one of those instances where they thought, okay, you've kind of kicked
25:29 the hornet's nest, you need to delete that.
25:33 And because I'm talking to people who I respect as colleagues and they're saying delete it,
25:38 I was fine to delete it.
25:41 Not I know they were going to fire me, I would have kept it up.
25:44 I wasn't deleting it in any sense that I disagreed or regretted the words that I said and said
25:50 I was trying to help out my company to not basically have to put out fires that nobody
25:56 really wanted to be putting out.
25:58 Yeah, again, looking back, had I seen the writing on the wall and seen that they were
26:03 going to fire me, yeah, I definitely would have not deleted those tweets.
26:07 And then I did repeatedly say that I regretted putting my company in a position where they
26:13 felt like they had to defend and as an organization my particular views, which our process was
26:21 full of diverse political and religious views.
26:24 And so to put them in a position where they felt like they had to distance themselves
26:28 for me and explain their position on gay pride, which like what company needs a position
26:34 on gay pride.
26:35 These days you have to, but back then it was a thing like companies don't step into that
26:39 realm.
26:40 It's a company, which sounds so foreign these days, but you know, 2018 like you could still
26:46 be a company and not have a rainbow flag emoji on all your posts in June.
26:51 So yeah, I regretted putting a lot of my coworkers in that position where they were like, man,
26:56 I did not want to wake up this morning and have to tell the world how I feel about gay
27:00 stuff and you know, put out a position statement on this.
27:04 So I regretted that for their sake.
27:06 I know I regret and have never regretted my position saying pride is a sin.
27:13 Could I go back and redo it differently?
27:14 No, I wouldn't.
27:16 There are no what ifs in God's universe.
27:19 He sovereignly ordains everything that comes to pass and looking back now I can see how
27:22 he used that for tremendous good for me and my family.
27:27 It's probably one of the best things that's ever happened to me.
27:31 I didn't love that job and it was one of those jobs that was too good to quit.
27:35 I never would have quit.
27:37 And because I got fired, it really opened up an opportunity for me to do ministry, which
27:43 I'd been doing as a layover in my church and had wanted to be doing more.
27:47 And because they fired me illegally, I had severance, which I never would have gotten
27:51 otherwise.
27:53 And so I had the ability to transition into ministry in a way that it worked for my family.
27:58 Yeah, and one of the highlights of that whole thing was I got interviewed by a lot of mainstream
28:05 news sources and because I worked a lot with the media and I knew the tricks that they
28:14 employ, I was able to really pin some of them down to print some exact statements without
28:19 manipulating them.
28:20 And the Washington Post I think it was printed like a word-for-word what I said and it was
28:26 a clear proclamation of the gospel.
28:28 So there was some really good fruit that came from that despite it being an absolute mess
28:33 in some ways.
28:34 So I wouldn't change it.
28:36 Gotcha.
28:37 So I want to go back to something that you said there, Russell, about CrossFit having,
28:41 you know, a diverse type, many diversities of types of people and backgrounds and all
28:46 that that worked actually at CrossFit because the official CrossFit Twitter sent out this
28:52 tweet the day that you were fired.
28:55 CrossFit is a diverse community in every way and that's what makes us strong.
29:00 No matter who you are, how you're built, what you believe or who or how you love, we are
29:06 proud of you.
29:08 And so it seems like they have diversity for everyone except for conservative Christians
29:18 or just Christians in general.
29:20 It's a diversity of immutable characteristics and lifestyle choices, but not diversity
29:26 of thought.
29:27 So talk to me a little bit more about that because that is, that is at 645 p.m.
29:32 The day all this, you know, kerfluffle started, right?
29:36 And so like, imagine thinking that that, oh, we work in this very diverse place and then
29:42 you're literally fired because your version of diversity goes outside of what they feel
29:46 is acceptable.
29:47 Yeah.
29:48 I mean, it's not terribly surprising.
29:51 That statement wasn't terribly surprising.
29:52 I know it was, it's, it was just sort of a canned predictable PR move.
29:59 You know, somebody looked around and said, hey, what are, what are big companies doing
30:03 when somebody gets accused of being a bigot and oh, they say something like this?
30:08 And so they threw that up there to appease the mob and that's, that's the whole motivation.
30:13 Like, what does the mob want to hear?
30:15 Well, the mob wants to hear something like this.
30:16 So that's where you get that statement.
30:19 The internal inconsistency of that statement, just the utter foolishness of saying we're
30:24 such a diverse and accepting group of people that we have to fire someone who is not fitting
30:29 the mold of what we believe, but it's self-evidently absurd, it's self-contradictory and, but that's
30:36 the thing.
30:37 No one cares about whether it's self-contradictory because we're not looking for rational logical
30:44 consistency in, in this world.
30:46 We're looking for emotivism, right?
30:48 We want to say the right virtue signaling things that will appease the right group of
30:52 people and emotion dictates that not reason.
30:57 And I think the, the thing that's important for that is again, do you have someone that
31:01 went to school for PR, they went to university for PR and they're just like, okay, we need
31:06 to follow the mold because everything doesn't fall into the, you know, what Tylenol did with
31:11 the cyanide poisoning back in the day.
31:13 Like we kind of live in different times, but something that you talked about earlier, it's
31:17 just overall what, what Twitter activism became, okay?
31:23 Because again, 2018 seems like it may as well be a billion years ago because that's pre-COVID,
31:28 that's pre George Floyd, that's pre this, that's pre that.
31:31 And this was really at a time when you didn't have every single sports franchise changing
31:38 their logo on Instagram in the month of June, right?
31:43 So there's not a sport where you can get away from it, whether you're, you're watching the
31:46 NBA or F1, everybody has to show their, their woke LGBTQ bona fides during this time period.
31:53 But let's go back if we can to 2018 and the way back machine, what was it like specifically
32:00 when the LGBTQ plus mafia came after you?
32:03 Because again, today we kind of know what it looks like they, they call and try to cancel
32:07 your advertisers if you're Tucker Carlson or they'll, they'll try to get you fired from
32:11 your job or they'll just basically smear you in the media because they know that you basically
32:15 can't sue them for libel or slander.
32:18 Yeah, you know, it wasn't surprising to me, I've worked in social media for CrossFit for
32:24 a couple of years and doing some kind of, kind of novel stuff that, I mean, at the time
32:30 it was now, it's just how people use social media.
32:34 But we saw a lot of what was building up, I say we, me and my coworkers in social media
32:41 there at CrossFit, we saw a lot of the bad ways that social media was trending, in particular
32:47 like the advent of the retweet and the way you started being able to reverberate sentiments
32:56 and create these, the swarming effect around certain ideas and posts and shared posts.
33:05 What it did, what it did, and what we recognized pretty early that it was doing, is it amplifies
33:09 a very shrill minority and gives the illusion that they are the majority.
33:17 And we see this all the time now and I think few people really understand the significance
33:20 of what I'm saying and that is, you can take a hundred people that have nothing to do all
33:27 day today except share and comment and downvote and threaten related to some particular Twitter
33:35 storm and that hundred people can convince multi-million dollar companies that the world
33:40 hates them.
33:42 And yet there's thousands and thousands of people who are more reasonable have stuff
33:47 to do with their daily life, probably don't care enough to comment on issues either way
33:52 who are silently observing but those companies only see the negative interactions and so
33:57 they get the sense that everyone hates us, we have to do something.
34:01 And so the virtue signaling mafia, LGBTQ mafia like the swarm effect that they are able to
34:09 use and it's really not just them, there's, there are people who do this in every part
34:15 of the ideological spectrum with social media, it really is just a shrill minority and most
34:21 instances people would do best to just ignore them and make them go away.
34:25 And you started to see that the amplification was even more built on by the media who stopped
34:31 reporting on news and started reporting on the things on Twitter people were talking
34:38 about that that had become the news.
34:40 So rather than there being a news event, oh and by the way people here are upset about
34:43 it, the news events were the upset people on Twitter.
34:47 Right.
34:48 So you get a double effect there where now the mainstream corporate media is doubling
34:51 down on this amplification effect and really like I went out when I worked for CrossFit
34:57 and we documented some of this, we would go count, look at some of these Twitter storms
35:03 where people were getting outraged about something and look at the media's response and then
35:06 we'd go back retrospectively and we count how many original users on Twitter were actually
35:11 contributing to these things and it would be something like 100, 200, it's a handful
35:16 of people who are bringing companies to their knees and so these companies have all bowed
35:22 to the idol of social justice and LGBTQ ideology because their perception is so skewed by their
35:29 fixation on social media as the new public square and there are thousands of them, thousands
35:36 of Americans who want nothing to do with that, they stay out of that stuff that are just sort
35:40 of the silent majority as it's been called who are getting kind of ticked off of that
35:45 and I think you're starting to see some of that like with Bud Light.
35:49 It's a good example of the blowback there.
35:52 Well so Russell I literally wrote down Bud Light and I wrote down Adidas and we'll see
35:56 with Adidas but one comment to what you were saying there is a lot of these, a lot of people
36:01 in general want to be thought nice.
36:04 They want to be thought of as nice and accommodating and that leads to a whole host of negative
36:09 things.
36:10 I was even thinking the other day about how do we get this generation of people that can't
36:13 lose?
36:14 Like they literally just like if if someone tries to push against them it's the worst thing
36:18 that could possibly happen.
36:20 Well it's because well-meaning people were like well kids won't be able to develop self-esteem
36:25 if they lose and literally the exact opposite is true is you only develop self-esteem when
36:30 you accomplish something that you worked towards like I've been on teams that won zero games
36:35 and I've been on championship undefeated teams and you learn a lot from both of those circumstances
36:40 but you need both of those circumstances.
36:42 But let's talk a little bit about what's happening.
36:45 We've seen with Bud Light we've seen what happened with Dylan Mulvaney and that's still that's
36:49 going to have reverberations for months if not years within the brand of anheuser bush
36:54 and the greater brand of maybe even beer in general everyone kind of knows what happened
36:59 in that situation but conservatives said you know what screw you guys we're not we're
37:03 not playing this game like I can buy cheap beer from somebody else and you know some
37:08 people are like this isn't that big a deal why are they doing this but it was like and
37:13 I've said this for a while Russell conservatives and Christians have been pushed and pushed
37:18 and pushed and pushed and their backs are against the wall and used to it was like hey
37:21 you see you better not keep pushing me say or you'll make me angry you see and now it's
37:26 like no we're going to start pushing back and as I told you off air on Dante life is
37:29 here to equipment to push back darkness that doesn't mean you go around constantly looking
37:34 for a fight but when a fight brings itself to your front door you're ready to throw down
37:39 and so conservatives are pushing back on Bud Light and they're not buying Bud Light we'll
37:43 see how that goes Adidas they have male models that are modeling their women's swimwear so
37:50 dudes with Dixon Balls are sitting there with their big bulges inside of women's you know
37:55 swimwear and so it's like well Adidas isn't going to think about changing that unless
38:00 they lose 20% of their sales overnight unless they lose billions of dollars worth of market
38:06 valuation basically in a quarter talk to me a little bit more about what Christians and
38:11 conservatives can do because you have some people out there Russell that are like the
38:15 Benedict option people they just want they want to be completely outside of culture they don't
38:19 want to be salt and light they don't want to preserve culture they want to be outside
38:22 of it they want to you know make their own shoes and they want to do their own thing
38:26 and they don't actually want to push back in the fight inside a culture I knew I threw
38:30 a lot out there but go ahead yeah yeah I guess one of my first thoughts when we start approaching
38:38 the subject of Christians interacting with culture is is local you know you're not you're
38:45 not going to change America but you might change your your neighborhood and you might
38:49 change the attitudes of people in your local church you might get all the people in your
38:55 county to change policies at the local schools you may in fact gut your local schools and
39:00 start everybody's in Christian homeschool co-ops which would be my dream come true but
39:05 you know there's there's so much you can accomplish at the local level like I would love to make
39:10 local politics great again I would love to see a lot more autonomy and a lot more experimental
39:18 policy done at the local level I think we already see this nationally with with what's
39:23 happening in the States you know there's a huge I mean back when I was a kid you know
39:29 looking back at the politics of the United States and basically every state was kind
39:33 of the same in most ways now you have states on the extreme ends of the spectrum from Florida
39:41 and Texas and Tennessee on the right to California and New York and Washington on the left you
39:48 have some pretty wide ranges of diversity politically and then when you get down to county level
39:54 it only gets more diverse so I'm yeah I'm a big fan of focusing locally when it comes to
40:01 dealing with with big Woke companies and their their silly shenanigans you know there's I'm
40:08 not a huge fan of taking to the Twitter sphere to do the same thing that the Woke
40:13 culture warriors are doing and just haranguing people through social media I feel like that's
40:18 just spinning wheels and wasted effort I like to just encourage people to think about making
40:24 sacrifices and putting their money where their values are and it's surprising how many people
40:29 will be on paper utterly opposed to Adidas for their blending and basically their disdain
40:38 for God's design for gender and yet they'll go out and buy Adidas shoes for their kids
40:44 the next day you know they just you really do have to start making small sacrifices and
40:50 taking stands on the small things before you're going to see any effect in any big way I mean
40:57 I can't tell you how many Christians I know that have Disney+ subscriptions and it's freedom
41:02 of the conscience I'm not going to tell them they're wrong for that but me personally I
41:07 think Disney's vile enough that I'm okay not watching even some awesome Star Wars stuff
41:12 so I'm told you know I'm willing to give that up and as long as we're more interested in
41:18 being entertained then we are you know basically voting with our wallets I don't see Disney
41:24 going anywhere or changing a whole lot so so you know I tend to think of like the every
41:29 man kind of approach I don't have any big grand schemes for overthrowing the hedge money
41:35 of the pagan sexual cult that seems to be running our country but like every day things
41:42 that we can do like every man can do are spend your money in the right ways where your values
41:48 are get involved in local politics and school your children in a way that you want them
41:52 school and disciple I think it's important with that as well people will say things like
41:58 well I can't put Bud Light out of business so I'm just going to buy Bud Light it's like
42:03 you're right you individually cannot put Bud Light out of business but you get to choose
42:07 where you spend your dollars you get to choose where you point your attention you get to
42:11 choose how you influence your children and so years ago when I found out that Starbucks
42:16 was a massive donor to Planned Parenthood it's like I don't even drink coffee but it
42:21 was like in our household we will not support Starbucks and people are like well that's
42:25 crazy like you know this organization does it too and this organization does it too and
42:28 it's like look I'm going to be held responsible for what I know about not what I don't know
42:33 about and whenever there is a brand out there that I did know support something that I think
42:37 is heinous and egregious that's another opportunity for me to say hey we're not going to spend
42:43 our money there we're not going to support that and everything there there is a threshold
42:47 with everything you have to do things within reason if you're in a town that only has a
42:51 target and you need medicine for your kid and you know that type of scenario okay ignore
42:56 the chest binders as you walk by to get your your kids some medicine there is a greater
43:00 good here but you're absolutely right that the inconsistency the people that want to
43:05 just rail on the woke mob and oh they're coming after our kids but it's like you're
43:08 funding them coming after your kids that's the difference it's kind of like the Great
43:14 Commission you know every Christian is told essentially by Jesus through his words in
43:21 Matthew 28 go and make disciples of all nations teaching them to obey all that I've commanded
43:25 you baptizing them in the name of the Father Son and the Holy Spirit how are you doing
43:29 at that well not everyone needs to be a missionary to unreached peoples in Papua New Guinea
43:35 but day to day are you putting your resources your time your town your treasure into a church
43:42 that is supporting that are you taking opportunities to share the gospel with people who you know
43:49 in daily life art Christians you know what are those little things that you can do just
43:54 to be faithful where you are that's the same principle I think is just take what you've
43:59 been given be faithful where you can and leave it to God to fulfill the bigger picture through
44:05 people like you right and you you say that on a local level you you talked about things
44:10 being local because again we focus on national politics but we don't know what the name of
44:14 our mayor is like that's kind of the consistency or the the I guess environment that we live
44:19 in now yes but let's let's talk a little bit about ministry a little bit more about ministry
44:23 because yes you can have a tremendous impact in your house in your neighborhood in your
44:28 small group in your church in your local community as opposed to you know changing how politics
44:33 is done in Washington DC so after CrossFit you know you go through all that everything
44:38 kind of chills out for a little bit then you get more into ministry and you've kind of
44:42 kept that momentum going through even to today so you've been doing that for the last you
44:46 know five-ish years or so talk to me about ministry talk to me about the stuff that you're
44:50 working on now yeah so I was I mean I was a as I said my testimony I was a Christian
44:55 for a while before I had any real discipleship I bounced around the country working for CrossFit
45:02 ended up in some different churches of varying degrees of health really never in a healthy
45:08 church meaning there were churches I was hearing the gospel but they they really were not being
45:17 faithful to scripture in regards to like church membership helping people to apply the gospel
45:24 to their lives that you know the one another commands throughout the New Testament even
45:29 even in some of the the secondary issues of the faith things that are gospel imperatives
45:35 but some theological things that come from just being a church they just weren't encouraging
45:40 us to think through that some of the some of those things were wrong so I finally bounced
45:45 around enough in churches to realize okay there's got to be more to what God has instituted
45:53 this local church than showing up in sitting in a dark room to watch a rock band perform
46:00 and then hearing a 30 minute Ted talk that seems more about therapeutic use of the gospel
46:06 than what the Bible is actually saying and so that's when I started trying to learn what
46:12 the church is I met a really solid brother who's now my senior pastor at Sixth Avenue
46:17 Sean DeMars we actually met doing some so I was doing some ministry outside of our local
46:22 abortion clinic and we met on the sidewalk out there he knew of me from CrossFit and
46:28 so we hit it off pretty quickly and he kind of gave me some resources to help me think
46:33 through biblically what should a church look like how can a church be faithful to scripture
46:39 and not just be there to entertain and please itching years and he ended up coming back
46:44 after doing an internship in DC he came back and started past during a church in Decatur
46:49 and I joined as one of the early members there and served as a lay elder for few years this
46:55 was this is around the time I got fired from CrossFit and then I went off from there to
47:02 do the same internship at Capitol Hill Baptist Church in DC so I lived on Capitol Hill like
47:07 inside of the Supreme Court in the Capitol building for about nine months and came back
47:14 to Huntsville, Alabama around the time COVID started which was an enormous blessing from
47:20 God because I would have been arrested in DC within a month of the COVID lockdowns and
47:27 so we were in pretty laid back Alabama where I would just not wear a mask and people would
47:32 give me mean looks and I would just laugh and no one cared so you know we in this environment
47:39 at this time my wife had some pretty serious health issues she was on a list for intestinal
47:43 transplant she had multi organ failure she was then moved under like palliative care sort
47:49 of a sort of a step before hospice where you're basically just saying this person is going
47:53 to die how can we make them comfortable and so I was her I was her caregiver full time
47:59 I didn't work really for a while because I couldn't and then in the Lord's kindness
48:04 we had some pretty big breakthroughs she she had an immunologist diagnosed her with a sort
48:10 of a source of her organs being killed it was this thing called angioedemas it's kind
48:14 of in the family of allergic reactions but it's not the same and they got her this crazy
48:19 expensive drug that took like three months to get approved through insurance that she
48:25 just injected and once a week and it kind of kept her symptoms a day so she went into
48:30 remission she's in the last year she's got her driver's license back she's got quality
48:36 of life back she's doing pretty well despite not having any organs she's still dependent
48:41 on TPN like she has no digestive tract really so she's dependent on her nutrition coming
48:46 through a line that goes right near her heart so she's frail she's got a lot of health issues
48:50 but she's way more independent than she was and so I've been free to to work again and
48:56 so I did some secular work for about a year just because I needed a job it it basically
49:02 became untenable and everybody I knew was like yeah you really should be a ministry
49:07 that's why you're miserable and so in in God's providence the church had an opportunity and
49:12 the funding and the need to hire me and so I've been working as an assistant pastor at
49:18 Sixth Avenue Church for like a week now and prior to that it was a pastoral assistant
49:24 until the church had voted to our gandy okay very good well I'm glad to hear that things
49:29 are going better for your wife obviously that's I mean we could talk a whole lot more about
49:33 that but that seems absolutely terrifying when you also have kids and you know you have
49:37 to you know you like to eat food and live indoors like that's a lot of stress to have but let's
49:43 talk a little bit more about church and about ministry yeah because one thing that's I guess
49:47 you could call it a calling card of undaunted life is we will call out cowardice and a femininity
49:55 inside of churches inside of ministries inside of individual men and we want to there's kind
50:02 of this clanging bell of men's ministries that like everything they do is about let's
50:09 see me let's go sleep on the ground let's go do all that and it's like that stuff's fine
50:14 like I'm I'm all for a lot of that stuff but they're not getting the buy-in from the men
50:19 of their churches and then you have churches that if they do quote unquote men's ministry
50:24 at all what they mean by that is once a year we're gonna do a cookout and we're gonna do
50:30 a chili cookoff and we're gonna bring in an ex football player to come in and talk about
50:34 how he used to you know snort coke off a stripper's bottoms and and now he doesn't do that anymore
50:39 because of Jesus right like that's that's kind of what men's ministry is but then they
50:44 go the other 364 days of running a church and the church itself is not man friendly and
50:50 so when churches talk to me and ask me about you know how do we get our men engaged and
50:53 how we do all this I'm like well first of all don't pretend like you have a men's ministry
50:57 you don't second of all don't even try to build a men's ministry because it's not going to
51:01 work build a man friendly church from top to bottom from the man on stage the senior pastor
51:09 with the microphone attached to his face to the music that is sung the lyrics in those
51:15 songs the key that they are sung in maybe make it a key that a man can actually hit and that
51:22 is like really having an impact on churches to where they're like for the first time ever
51:27 they're like oh my gosh I've never even considered the fact that the lyrics to this song sound
51:31 homo erotic to a guy that's why he doesn't know why but he just sits there with his hands
51:36 in his pockets because the song is making him deeply uncomfortable but talk to me a little
51:41 bit about just really the state of manhood inside of Christ church you know I guess we'll
51:46 keep it specifically to America yeah oh wow that's that's a broad subject so just some
51:53 thoughts right off the top of my head yeah I think evangelical churches tend to fall into
51:59 some common tropes you know you see it every Mother's Day a church will make a huge ordeal
52:07 out of Mother's Day just fawning over the sacrifice of Mother's how important they are
52:13 this and that which is I think I think good but then you see them do the same thing on
52:19 Father's Day and Father's Day is admonishing fathers for never doing enough and not being
52:24 there enough you know there's this kind of this this sentiment this posture towards man
52:30 that I think is more reflective of the culture we live in than it is of anything biblical
52:37 and I've seen that from time to time within evangelical churches you know I also think
52:44 I know what you're talking about with some of the ephemeracy you know there's so many
52:50 churches are their philosophy of ministry is how many people can we get in a building
52:56 if we can get a bunch of people in this building it will be a successful church and we measure
52:59 the health of our church by how many people are showing up on a Sunday morning well there's
53:03 a lot of stuff you can do to get people to show up in a building that's not biblical that's
53:08 not faithful to God that doesn't convict anyone of sin that doesn't save anyone it just gets
53:14 people to show up and one of the things people love is just sort of feel good therapeutic
53:19 emotionalism you can get a lot of people in a building for that but a lot of the people
53:24 you get in the building won't be your typical men who don't thrive on therapeutic feel good
53:30 emotionalism so I think some of what we're seeing is that it's not that the church is
53:35 necessarily making men a feminist or not you know not considering more masculine men it's
53:43 just it's that they've their philosophy of ministry is so work that those men just aren't
53:47 interested in what they're giving and so I think one of the solutions just to go back
53:51 to sort of what I talked about earlier is just making churches healthier so if you have
53:56 a church that is not offering feel good therapeutic entertaining versions of the gospel and that
54:03 just preaches God's word that starts with telling men who they are in God's sight both
54:09 as image bearers of God created distinctly from women with God given masculine roles and
54:16 God given masculine attributes God given masculine strength and God given masculine weaknesses
54:23 that we are you know a very strong complementarian theology is going to make both women and
54:31 men want to hear more from God's word about what it means to be male and female and then
54:37 on top of that telling men that their sinners as God sees them you know they're in need
54:41 of a savior in need of a sacrifice to atone for their sin and in need of the righteousness
54:48 of Christ that is across all of humanity a truth that applies to every man and when those
54:56 things are missing or you are you water that down and make it more of an individual therapeutic
55:02 sort of expression of what the message of the gospel is you're not going to have things
55:08 that that men want and I think I think you can even see that even if the church is trying
55:14 really hard to have like a type a super macho masculine men's ministry you know hey guys
55:20 we're going to go out and we're going to lift some weights and we're going to go on a hike
55:23 and then we're going to shoot some guns and then we're going to sit around and we're going
55:27 to talk about this this parable Jesus top we're going to completely miss the point of the parable
55:31 and we're going to make it this emotionalistic therapeutic application that's really not what's
55:38 there in scripture you're not going to fix the problem that way and the reason for that
55:42 is because I think the church and we see even as people who see the problem we look around
55:49 and we see churches that are dominated by women that are they're more feminine in their
55:55 leadership and in the men that are there we see that and we think okay the solution is
56:01 we need masculine stuff we need to lift weights and we need to eat meat and we need to hike
56:07 in the woods and shoot guns and change car tires but none of that is inherently masculine
56:13 what the Bible says about being a man does not include those particular skillsets and
56:19 activities what the Bible says being a man is is rooted in Genesis the man protects the
56:26 man cultivates the man is head over the family the man represents the man takes responsibility
56:33 and blame and all of those things when when those are theologically applied to us as men
56:40 well guess what skills we develop to be good at those we learn to provide for our family
56:44 by hunting we learn to provide for our family by doing the dirty difficult jobs that were
56:49 hardwired to do like changing car tires and changing the oil in the car and fixing things
56:54 we're going to go out and put ourselves in harm's way because that's how God has wired
56:59 us as men and so if you if you put the car before the horse you pursue these masculine
57:03 activities without having to theological grounding to understand why men are drawn to that stuff
57:09 you're probably not going to fix your issue in the church.
57:12 I think as well with what the stuff that you're talking about like I think the way that I've
57:16 heard it said is moral therapeutic deism that's what we get from these Ted talk churches is
57:20 just this therapeutic deism that makes you feel decent about your sin maybe you'll make
57:25 some adjustments so that your business can thrive more in the next couple of quarters
57:29 but you're not really going to make any substantive life change and you mentioned there if you
57:32 know pastors and churches needing to teach men that they're sinners part of the thing
57:36 is they need to teach women the same thing one of the things I feel like when we worship
57:39 at the altar of women during motherhood is we're making them feel that yeah your depre
57:44 your depravity is different than men's because men's depravity is louder typically it's a
57:49 little bit more bombastic it's the same thing like whenever I talk about abortion at churches
57:53 it's like you can tell women that have had abortions that they are murderers and at
57:57 the same time not condemn that condemn them in that exact moment you're revealing to them
58:02 the depravity and the level of depravity of their sin so much so that they need a savior
58:07 to overcome that but one thing I jotted down as you were talking is I guess the main problem
58:12 that most churches have is there is no discipleship you mentioned that that how long were you
58:17 a Christian before you were discipled you know I've gone basically my entire Christian career
58:23 as it were not being discipled by other people now that could be a you problem certainly the
58:28 you the collective you but that can also be a church problem to where it's like okay our
58:32 men aren't volunteering our men aren't going on missions our men are doing this they're
58:37 not doing that it's like well are you discipling them to where they would even want to do those
58:42 things or are you producing a product as it were that may as well be a blinking neon sign
58:47 that says we don't have you in mind we don't need you because you know this just like I
58:51 do men that don't feel desired and needed will go somewhere where they feel desired and needed
58:57 whether that's into the arms of another woman whether that's to a new job if on Sunday morning
59:01 they don't feel like they have a place and guess what they're going to feel as opposed to being
59:05 a church they're going to go to the golf they're shooting range they're going to go to the driving
59:09 range they're going to go somewhere else they're going to hit the jujitsu mats they're going to go
59:13 do something else what is I guess for in a micro sense what is your church doing to make sure that
59:18 men are not falling through the cracks on discipleship and I guess what would your
59:22 greater advice be to the pastors listening to this of which there are several um to hey let's make
59:27 sure that we're discipling men so that everything else kind of falls into place oh yes step one
59:33 the primary discipling tool of God's church is the pulpit so if you're in a church that's not
59:38 preaching expositionally and if you don't know what that means you're probably in a church that's
59:42 not preaching expositionally you need to find a church that does so and preaching expositionally
59:47 just means that the pastor is going to be going through every line of scripture throughout a book
59:54 of the bible or or one of the you know one of the gospels one of the epistles one of the prophets
59:59 and explaining what the text means verse by verse and then applying that to the hearers to the
1:00:07 congregation and so an easy way to think about it is expositional preaching the point of the
1:00:12 sermon is the point of the text right so God is setting the curriculum God's word is setting
1:00:18 the curriculum of the sermons and of that congregational discipleship the alternative to that is you
1:00:23 get a guy who wants to get up and talk about something and he just uses scripture as a way to sort of
1:00:28 prop up what he's interested in talking about this you tend to think of it as the topical sermons
1:00:34 and topical sermons aren't wrong but if that's the primary diet of your church there's a really high
1:00:40 risk that you're not applying God's word in any meaningful way to some huge portion of your
1:00:45 congregation uh you're only you're only going to be teaching the congregation what the pastor
1:00:50 who's preaching wants to talk about and what that pastor thinks whereas if you have expositional
1:00:56 preaching then all of the counsel of God's word which is perfect and applies to men and women
1:01:01 as we need from God then that's going to be fed to them so that's number one number two
1:01:06 individual discipleship I mean it's not a program I see a lot of people say like yeah we need
1:01:14 discipleship so they come up with this 12 week structured book reading thing where that's not
1:01:20 that's not necessarily discipleship discipleship just means helping people learn to follow Jesus
1:01:24 better like so in our church we intentionally grab young guys and we grab lunch with them
1:01:32 and spend time with them and and when we do we don't waste time talking about foolish stuff
1:01:38 of the world we say hey uh how are you doing spiritually do you want to do you want to grab
1:01:43 a book and read it together and so we have a short list of books that are really easy to read
1:01:47 that help people develop and grow in godliness and in maturity and in understanding the gospel
1:01:53 and so we'll read that along with them grab lunch together again talk through it and in that since
1:01:59 you're opening the door to talk through all sorts of other things as well and we found that that's
1:02:04 to be a really effective thing to build a culture of godly men who are who aren't shy about reaching
1:02:12 out and then starting those same discipleship relationships with other men that are coming to
1:02:16 the church doing the same thing that some of some of the older men did with them um and so yeah we
1:02:21 we emphasize that culture of discipleship a lot it's not a program it is a culture so with that
1:02:28 culture there will be things that you should encouragement to do outside the church one thing
1:02:33 that i've encouraged men to do for years and years and years and tons of guys have i guess
1:02:37 converted to this is doing jujitsu when i talk about jujitsu because you know i'm a purple belt
1:02:42 i've been training for about six years it's one of those things i've never had a single thing in
1:02:47 my life that as as is as difficult and as addictive as jujitsu because is it physical yes is it mental
1:02:57 yes and that's the thing where you have some people that can dominate physically but if you're
1:03:02 not good mentally you will not be good at jujitsu there are people that can dominate mentally but
1:03:06 if you're not good physically you will not be good at jujitsu but we talk about resilience all the time
1:03:11 the thing about jujitsu is it's it's not the going that's the problem it's the coming back
1:03:16 right because there's a lot of guys that got their white belt and have one stripe on it right
1:03:20 but then they never got their blue belt or they got their blue belt and then they stopped going
1:03:24 they just they just got to a certain point they're like i'm good i feel decently dangerous enough
1:03:29 but the real question is or the real answer is not that they got busy with work it's not that
1:03:34 their family life got out of control it's that they wussed out they they stopped because this is
1:03:39 too hard it's too difficult like i can't see the light at the end of the tunnel and so i tell guys
1:03:44 like jujitsu if you're able-bodied like we have a guy that's in his 50s that just started at our
1:03:49 gym about six months ago like if your body works there's nothing better than i know of on this
1:03:55 planet to teach you how to be physically and mentally resilient and perhaps even spiritually
1:03:59 resilient than jujitsu you're a fellow jujitsu practitioner talk to me a little bit about that
1:04:05 like i try not to be romantic but about jujitsu but it's really hard not to be
1:04:09 yeah no i i love it uh i'm a brown belt i got a brown belt in 2019 uh my senior casters shawn
1:04:17 just got his brown belt um i i think it's fantastic um i think crossfit does something similar
1:04:25 um i like i like to use both of those i encourage people to do both of those so so shawn my senior
1:04:32 caster has a two car garage that's a dedicated crossfit gym and every member of the church is
1:04:37 is welcome to come to group workouts all the time and we have a lot of people in the church that do
1:04:41 we have jujitsu mats in the upper story of our church building that we we bring guys in who are
1:04:48 from the jujitsu school who are maybe they think they're christians maybe they know they're not a
1:04:53 christian but we just bring them in what we drill with on monday it's just to uh just to get more
1:04:57 time with them and start to try and provoke spiritual conversation so we use it as an evangelism tool
1:05:01 but we also use it as a tool for for men and women in the church uh crossfit and jujitsu uh because
1:05:09 a lot of people miss this but kind of what you said like there is an element of the physical
1:05:16 that overlaps with the spiritual in a really significant way and i've seen people who struggled
1:05:22 spiritually with anxiety and a fear of uh assurance like she's not having an assurance that that
1:05:29 god really was saving them that they you know their sins were were truly paid for and just doubting
1:05:35 themselves and you can spiritually counsel somebody like that to death and and just not get anywhere
1:05:42 suddenly they clean up their diet and they start lifting weights and they're like wow i feel good
1:05:45 now i i trust god and so there is an interesting spiritual and physical connection where the more
1:05:52 physically we're pushing ourselves and gaining confidence and capacity in something like grappling
1:05:58 fighting or or crossfit uh i love the quote from fight club like fight club uh just turns the
1:06:05 volume down on the rest of the world there's a very similar effect to training and difficult
1:06:11 physical context that suddenly all the other problems that are assailing you just seem a little
1:06:16 quieter and less of a big deal um and and there's something to be said for that in terms of spiritual
1:06:22 health you know the the darkest times i've ever had spiritually is when i couldn't make it to the
1:06:27 gym and stopped taking care of my body it stopped eating well um and is that is that a one-to-one
1:06:33 like i was spiritually suffering because i wasn't working out probably not but there's definitely a
1:06:37 connection so there's a contextualization as well with so whenever i lift and do my workouts and my
1:06:43 workouts are fairly insane and when i do jujitsu it's typically early in the morning so we have a 545
1:06:50 jujitsu where we roll first so we're rolling four or five rounds first and then we drill right so
1:06:55 it's kind of opposite of how most classes are or i'm lifting you know squat deadlift you know
1:07:00 bench presses you know pull it's like that that's kind of what i'm doing and then the rest of the day
1:07:05 regardless of what i have to deal with with the family with the business with the podcast it just
1:07:09 seems easier because i've checked the most difficult boxes even this morning russell this morning i
1:07:15 needed a squat and i'm about to have surgery and so it's like okay i need i need to knock this out
1:07:20 and it was one of those moments where i just sat on my bench and looked at my squat shoes my lifting
1:07:24 shoes and i was like no i just know i just i can't i can't today and you know what i did i put them
1:07:30 on and i squat it okay and i was just making that's a daily deposit in the resilience piggy bank to
1:07:37 where it's like one of these days i'm going to need to you know take some money out of the account
1:07:41 and there better be some there and so that's what i tell guys all the times it's like if you're
1:07:46 life if the hardest thing you do in life is carry your bucket of balls to the driving range
1:07:51 man like i i hate to see when things were to fall apart and i don't mean like global collapse
1:07:57 you know a civilization but it's like if you need to be resilient if your wife is so sick that
1:08:04 you're you're trying to consider what life would be like without her and you haven't made those
1:08:08 daily multiple times a day deposits in that resilience uh bank and that's one of the one of the easiest
1:08:14 ways to do that is to exercise really really really hard not going for a jog not doing a little
1:08:19 light lift or stretch in here and there but really really getting after it and man i feel like you
1:08:24 and i could continue talking for the rest of the day today but i've taken up enough of your time i
1:08:28 got to give some time back to your family you got stuff you need to be doing but that's all for me
1:08:32 is there anything else you want to get off your chest yeah i would just say one last thought is
1:08:37 that this is this is probably kind of unique but there's another ditch you can fall into with pursuing
1:08:43 masculine endeavors and that's kind of going all the way back to where i was before i was a
1:08:48 christian which was fitter than i've ever been like constantly lifting weights successful in my job
1:08:54 uh i just got out of the army i mean i i can hike and shoot and jump out of planes do everything i was
1:08:59 i was as masculine as i could be and by god's definition i was not i was profoundly not masculine
1:09:07 because i was uh making my whole life about me and i wasn't providing for and and leading my family
1:09:15 spiritually or really in any way and and so again like don't put the car before the horse you both
1:09:21 of those things in order to really thrive as a man i think that's a great uh a great word as well
1:09:27 because we're we're in this kind of we're not in a masculine obsessed culture we're in the exact
1:09:32 opposite but for those that are focused on it it can't become an obsession and you want to make
1:09:37 sure that you're obsessing over the right foundations and not the wrong one so that's a great word to
1:09:42 leave it all russell burger thank you for coming on dawn to life a man's podcast thanks god there you
1:09:47 go guys i hope you enjoyed my time with russell burger but before i let you go we are gonna do a
1:09:51 quick resilience boost add on dawn to life our mission is equipping men to push back darkness
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1:09:59 you today i've got a link to a faith wire article that came out around the time that he was being
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