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MAX LUCADO | Tame Your Thoughts (Ep. 798)

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MAX LUCADO | Tame Your Thoughts (Ep. 798)
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In this episode, I sit down with Max Lucado, a legendary pastor and author, to discuss his new book, 'Tame Your Thoughts.' We dive into the importance of renewing our minds, the power of scripture, and how to combat the victimhood mindset that plagues so many today. Max shares his journey, insights on manhood, and the transformative power of faith.
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0:31 This is Undaunted Life a Man's Podcast. I'm your host Kyle Thompson. Let's get into it.
0:56 All right, guys. We've got a very special guest on the podcast today. His name is Max Lucado.
1:00 So he is a pastor, speaker, and literally one of the most prolific and successful Christian authors
1:05 of all time. He's written or contributed to well over a hundred books since 1985, and his books
1:13 guys have sold more than a hundred and fifty million copies. And they've been printed in 50
1:19 languages, over 50 languages. It's just an absolute... His career has been absolutely insane. I'll just
1:25 tell you, I can still remember and I will never forget how early on in this podcast, guys,
1:31 how I was just thrilled when anyone would come on the show, right? It was a one-to-one ratio of
1:37 people that I would want to come on the show or people that were pitched to come on the show
1:40 and the people that came on. And now it's very different. We're looking at... I'll get 25-ish
1:45 pitches for every one person I'll accept onto the show. But his team reached out to us last week,
1:50 and we're like, "Hey, we've got a tight window here. We recorded this several months before it came
1:55 out because that's how tight his windows are with his writing and his pastoral work and everything
1:58 else." And it was just the easiest, yes. Like, of course, we'll do what we can to make this happen.
2:04 But it was such a pleasure to talk to Max because not only you're just going to feel like... I guess
2:09 he's been called America's Pastry. He feels that way. He feels like he could just be your dad or your
2:13 grandpa, like just very encouraging, very, very positive. And we really did hit it off. But we
2:18 started out by talking about the fact that he got his first tattoo at the age of 70. Okay, so
2:22 that kind of gets you into the conversation as to what in the world were you thinking,
2:24 "No tattoos for 70 years, and here you go and get one. Love a story as to why." Then we talked
2:29 about, "Hey, why did you become a writer? How did you kind of go that direction? How do you
2:34 approach a kid's audience?" Because he's written kids of books versus an adult audience and what
2:38 that looks like. And really overall, why do that and be a pastor? Because you can just go and write
2:45 books and stay in your library or your office and just write your books. But he is still a pastor.
2:50 He's been a pastor for decades. Why is he doing that in addition to what he's doing here? But then
2:54 I talked to him about the same question you've heard me ask a lot this year about, "Hey, do you
2:57 feel like there's a coming capital A awakening? We see the cracks of the foundation of New Atheism,
3:04 we see prominent people coming to Christ. What do you feel like is happening? I love this answer
3:08 there." And also I talked to him about the state of manhood in the church and what he's noticed
3:12 over the last 50 years of being a Christian and over the last several decades of being a professional
3:16 Christian, what that looks like. And then we get into his brand new book. It's kind of weird talking
3:20 about a guy that's got literally over 100 books, but this is his newest one. So it's called "Tame Your
3:25 Thoughts, Three Tools to Renew Your Mind and Transform Your Life." So why this book? Why it doesn't just
3:31 use Bible, but it also gets into neuroscience, cognitive science. We talk about UFOs. You guys
3:36 have to stick around and know exactly what we're talking about there. But even when we got into
3:40 just this victimhood mindset that is currency in our modern age and how we should view that,
3:45 but then at the end I asked him. And this is a crazy thing because I've asked a similar question
3:49 or at least a derivative of it to a lot of different people, whether they're in music or whatever.
3:53 But since he's such a prolific author, I was like, okay, what is the one book? If we had to
3:59 erase your entire catalog of books and there was one book that was left to humanity for us to
4:04 remember you by, what would that book be? So you have to stick around till the end to get that
4:08 answer. So guys, I'm not going to keep Max from you any longer. So without further ado,
4:11 let's get into it. Max Lucado, welcome to a Dawn of Life of Man's podcast.
4:16 Oh my, I've been looking forward to this and congratulations on the wonderful impact that you
4:23 are having on the lives of men around the world through a variety of ways, especially this podcast.
4:29 It's really a treat. I've been looking forward to getting on the program with you. Thanks for
4:34 having me on. Well, gosh, I am thrilled to have you say that. Thank you so much for that. But
4:39 right from the jump here, we got to talk about something because, you know, we're recording this
4:42 a little bit before it comes out because this is coming out with the release of your new book,
4:46 which we'll certainly get to guys. It's in the show notes. You should definitely go check it out
4:50 and purchase it. But if you search your name right now, this time in history,
4:54 the headlines are you just got a tattoo on your arm and I think it's your first tattoo and you're
5:00 in your 70s. And I just got to say, Max, if all your friends jumped off a bridge, would you do that
5:05 too? Come on, what's wrong with you? Can you see it there? I can see it to tell us die.
5:09 To tell us die. Yeah. Can I talk about it for just a second? Let's go. Absolutely.
5:14 So I came to faith when I was 20 years old, March 12, 1975, which is almost,
5:24 I got the tattoo almost to the day 50 years later, because I was a, you know, the short version of
5:32 my story is I was a true train off the tracks. I was way into courers and not into Christ. And
5:39 that was a misogynist. I was a racist. I was a fighter. I was a drunk. I was just a mess. And I
5:46 come from a family that battles alcoholism. I do not like to think where my life would have gone.
5:54 I had Christ not intervened. And the what I, my challenge, Colin said, I just didn't think God
6:01 could forgive a jerk like me. I just didn't think he could. I thought I was the exception to the rule.
6:06 But the other side of that is that I didn't have a plan B. I saw what alcoholism did to my older
6:13 brother, or I was seeing what it was doing. I remember as a youngster visiting aunts and uncles
6:19 and addiction facilities. And I wasn't bright, but I thought, man, if I don't, if I don't get help,
6:25 I'm going to be following that path. And so in March, I was a 20 year old and I went and heard a
6:32 guy preach who became a friend of mine later in life. And when he asked if anyone would like to
6:38 come forward and accept grace, well, iron chains couldn't have held me back. The truth is chains
6:45 had held me back, but mercy set them free. So to tell us, I is the Greek word for what Jesus
6:53 said on the cross just before he gave up his spirit when he said it is finished. And as you know,
7:00 it's a beautiful word. It has a variety of meanings. One of the meanings is paid in full, paid in
7:07 full, or it is paid. And I really believed that day in March, 1975 that my sins had been paid changed
7:16 my life forever, changed me forever. And so I commemorated by getting to tell us the tattooed
7:22 on my arm. And I've had a few arched eyebrows at the idea of a 70 year old pastor getting a tattoo.
7:30 But you know what? I don't care. I really don't. I'm at that stage of life where I can't wait to see
7:37 my savior in heaven. And anything I can do to thank him, I'm happy to do. And this really does prompt
7:44 a lot of conversations. People see it. Yeah. What is that? It looks like titleist. I've had a few
7:50 people said it looks like titleist. Big golf guy, huh? Yeah, I mean, you'd have to be fairly
7:56 extremely into golf to get a titleist tattoo on your farm. But no, I mean, so at this point,
8:01 you might as well just keep going. You might as well just start filling up your arms, you know,
8:05 filling up your chest and get something across your stomach. But no, you're absolutely right,
8:09 because I just started working on the sleeve here and I've got a portrait of Jesus on the outside.
8:14 I've got a representation of Golgotha and the Lamb of God on the inside, the three crosses,
8:18 the dove. And so like, I'm telling the story of the gospel on my arms. I mean, the artwork is
8:24 fantastic. Shout out to Dustin Yip in Oklahoma City. So the artwork is fantastic. So even if
8:28 you're just into art, you'll be attracted to it. And then on the right arm, we're going to be doing
8:32 more of like, you know, the Lamb of Earth. So we got Lamb of God here on the left, and then we're
8:35 going to have lying to Judah on the right to where it's like, Hey, guys, when he comes back,
8:38 he's going to have sore in his mouth, his eyes are going to be like fire. He's got a tattoo on his
8:41 leg and his robe is dipped in blood. And we don't know if it's the blood of the cross or the blood
8:45 of his enemies. So let's make sure we're on the right side of that ledger. So that's a great story,
8:50 a great way to start out. But but obviously for anyone in our audience that knows you,
8:53 they're going to be familiar with your name. Because if you've ever been within a mile of a
8:57 Christian bookstore, your name has been plastered all over in some way, shape or form, because you're
9:02 one of the most prolific writers in the history of Christendom at this point in terms of published
9:07 authors. And so the first thing is, is I can't get the internet or chat GPT to tell me how many
9:13 books you have written precisely. And so let's dispel with all the rumors and let's start there.
9:19 But then how do you go from, okay, a center that's saved by grace to now you're going to be a pro,
9:24 not just a writer, but actually a pro. You know, I don't know if I know the answer to that question.
9:30 I do know that this book that we're going to discuss is the 44th of a particular type of book
9:37 called adult nonfiction adult nonfiction trade book. So this, you know, it's kind of your more
9:44 traditional book. I know I've written 44 of those. But what I've also done is a variety of gift books.
9:51 I've edited several Bibles and a whole lot of children's books. I love writing. I love kids.
9:57 And I love stories. And so that's been the reason I've written a lot of children's books. So you'd
10:04 have to tally all those up. But the kind of the bread and butter are these adult nonfiction trade
10:10 books like the one we're discussing. And this is number 44. Nobody's more surprised than I am.
10:16 Really nobody. I think the advantage in being a great sinner is that grace just comes to life,
10:25 just comes to life. I've battled with a lot of things in my life, but I no longer have never
10:31 battled with the fear that God would not save me. Once I crossed that line, I have just felt the joy
10:38 in my heart that it is sealed to this day brings emotion to my voice to think that he would save a
10:45 sinner like me. I don't deserve it. I don't warrant it. My best work, if there's any,
10:51 does not add to my salvation. My worst works and there have been a bunch have not deducted from
10:58 my salvation because I truly believe it's God's work. It is finished. He did it for me.
11:03 Well, and Max, the thing is, is the better sinner you are, the more material you have
11:08 to use once you get saved. Because I tell people all the time and Max, perhaps you ran into this as
11:13 a pastor, there are people that have very exciting testimonies. Maybe they were like a navy seal,
11:18 they're getting shot at and all that kind of stuff and they see God while they're in a foxhole,
11:22 as it were. They've got the needle still left in the arm and the belt still wrapped around,
11:26 and then they hover over their body or have one of those experiences. But I've even encouraged
11:30 people that don't have that kind of testimony. You grew up in a pastor's house and maybe you
11:35 were going to a Wanna and memorizing scripture when you're five, six, seven years old, and then you
11:40 come to a saving grace and faith in Christ. Even at that age, it's like a boring testimony is okay,
11:47 too. Why? Because it's your testimony and your testimony is going to be something that can speak
11:51 to somebody else. I was telling the gentleman that I was coaching, like he was worried that
11:56 here he is in his fifties and he doesn't have an exciting testimony. And I remember he had a
11:59 couple of granddaughters and I said, Hey, bud, do you want your granddaughters have a boring
12:03 testimony or an exciting one? And he was just like, Oh my gosh, I want them to have a boring one.
12:08 I was like, yeah, why? He's like, well, because what would have to happen to a young girl for
12:13 to have an exciting testimony. It's like, yeah, some bad decisions or some evil things would
12:16 have to happen to them. Your testimony just is what it is. That's part of your story. It's up to
12:21 you to use it, right? And if your testimony is what a person might call non dramatic,
12:28 praise God for that, because you have been delivered from living in the mud of addiction
12:37 or the mud of rejection. You know, if you had a healthy upbringing, praise the Lord. That means
12:42 that you don't have some of the inner scars or the strongholds that many of us have had to develop
12:49 treat. And secondly, I would say, really, all our testimonies are dramatic. You know,
12:57 it's like salvation is when God says, OK, I need you to jump from the earth to the moon.
13:05 OK, that's salvation. We've got to do the impossible jump from the earth to the moon.
13:10 Kyle, you're in great shape and you're healthy and young. You could probably jump twice as high as I
13:16 could. But by comparison for how far we need to jump, both of us fall miserably short. And that's
13:23 that's the message of scripture that all have sinned and fall short of the grace of God.
13:29 Now, I may be able to jump only a foot in the air. You may jump five feet in the air,
13:34 but compared to the thousands of miles, we need to jump who cares who can jump higher.
13:40 Truth is we all need help. So all of our salvation stories in that sense are extremely dramatic
13:48 because the promise of the gospel is, and I know we say this all the time, we've got to say it over
13:53 and over because people don't get it. The gospel says done, done. Every other religion says do.
14:02 The gospel of Jesus Christ says it's done. It's done by Christ. It is finished. He has done the
14:07 work. We are saved by grace through faith, not by work, so that no one would boast. So it's done.
14:13 It's a done deal. And so we trust that. We rely upon that. And that changes a person's life.
14:20 It doesn't deliver me from doing good deeds. It changes my motivation for doing the good deeds.
14:27 I don't do good deeds in order to be saved. I do good deeds because I am saved.
14:31 I live in a relationship with God that he says, okay, now I'm going to fill you with the Spirit.
14:37 I'm going to cover you with grace. I'm going to hold you so you don't fall away.
14:41 And that frees me up to take risks, to love wildly, to go on great adventures in the name of God.
14:49 And so it's it is the greatest discovery of life. And that is the grace of Christ.
14:54 One, Max, our works are an outworking of the done-ness, right? Of the fact that it's been paid in full,
15:00 right? Because that's what we do because you're right. You just will never be able to run fast enough
15:06 or jump high enough to be able to get over the hurdles of our sin. Because whether you're a
15:10 seven year old little girl in a wana or you're a 50 year old murderer that's sitting on death row,
15:16 we're all black-hearted wretched sinners in need of a savior. And we can't get ourselves
15:21 into the presence of a holy and just father without the propitiation of our sin debt.
15:25 And so it's like, okay, once we can kind of operate, I'm remembering a story as I'm talking to you,
15:31 I was invited to speak at Lewisburg prison a couple of years back. And it's been one of the most
15:36 incredible experiences of my life because this this group of guys had kind of been forgotten.
15:43 No one had really come to visit them or speak and all that. I'm brought in and you weren't compelled
15:47 to come. You could just come if you wanted to. And whenever they were walking in to where we were
15:51 speaking, I just started shaking hands introducing myself. And like, I know that a lot of these guys
15:56 are murderers. A lot of these guys are rapists. A lot of some of these guys are pedophiles,
15:59 you know, armed robbers, drug dealers, like, you know, all those things. But I was just compelled
16:04 in that moment to say from the very beginning, I said, look, guys, y'all violated the laws of man.
16:10 That's why you have to stay here and I get to leave and go home. But all of us have violated
16:16 the laws of God. So in that way, we are brothers. So can we just dispel with this nonsense that I'm
16:21 somehow different or better than y'all? No, I just have a microphone attached to my face.
16:25 That's the only difference between us today. And I think we would all do well, especially
16:29 those of us who are not in prison or those of us who have maybe had a less dramatic testimony
16:34 to just remember where we could be if a few things broke one way or another. You know what I mean?
16:38 Isn't that what Paul told us to do to remember the situation you were in when God called you?
16:46 Never forget that. And you know, Paul never forgot, did he? He really never forgot. He would
16:53 present himself as the chief of sinners. You know, that's what his resume had. He said, I'm just
16:59 the chief of sinners. By God's grace, I am who I am. I believe that's the healthiest posture
17:06 in which to live life. And I've tried to do that myself. You know, the pastors, we can struggle
17:14 with egos. We can struggle thinking we are something special. And it does good to me to
17:20 introduce myself as I have in a few occasions. I say, hi, I'm Max. I'm a drunk. I'm a reformed
17:27 drunk. And it does kind of shock people. But I am. I am. And had Christ not done that miraculous
17:35 work in my life in March of 1975, I know my life would have been a disaster. Now he saved me
17:43 that day, but he's been transforming me every day. You know, salvation is a once and for all
17:51 accomplishment by God. Salvation is his work. Transformation or the bigger word
17:58 sanctification is that ongoing work in our lives day by day of being transformed, not being
18:05 conformed to the world, but being transformed by the renewal of our mind. And so that process is
18:11 going to, you know, go on until we're taken into the presence of Jesus, which I'm praying
18:17 is any day now. And so I bless on blessings on all that you're doing and all your audience.
18:25 Let's make this a day in which we let the Lord bring that transformative power into our lives.
18:30 Well, Max, I just don't know if we can even continue this conversation because you're a
18:33 reformed drunk. You've got a tattoo. Like, what's next? Like, what are we going to be doing after
18:37 this? I think we've got some issues. I do have an idea for a second tattoo. This will be the first
18:42 time I've ever said this out loud, except my wife. Somebody told me once, and you can test me on this,
18:48 somebody told me that you get one tattoo, you're going to want to 100%. I walked out of the tattoo
18:55 place. By the way, that's a funny story. I had to call another pastor in town who is Mr. Tattoo,
19:02 like I'm like, you are. And ask him, where do I go get a tattoo? And he was so funny. He was so
19:10 funny. And he met me at a place and eternal courage. You gave a shout out to your guy. I'll give a
19:19 shout out to the good people at eternal courage tattoos in San Antonio. And so I went and
19:25 Ed, the pastor who met me there said, now you're going to want to. Well, I said, no, I think once
19:31 enough, you know what? The next day, I had an idea for number two. Now, am I going to do it or not?
19:36 I don't know. But I got to get into Greek words. I'm not a scholar. I'm not trying to show off here.
19:42 I use every pot. I made a D in seminary in Greek. Okay, so I'm not showing off. But I do love words
19:50 in Greek words. And so this one is to tell us time. Now, when Jesus rose from the grave,
19:56 one time I made an Easter sermon out of the one word that the angel spoke when the angel said,
20:03 he is risen. He is risen. Can you imagine how that one statement changed the world? Well,
20:10 he is risen. Now, that's three words in English, but in Greek, it's E-G-E-R-T-H-E,
20:17 eggarthae, eggarthae. So I thought it'd be super cool to have paid in full on one arm,
20:24 eggarthae, or he is risen on the other. Now, I've never, I've not decided yet. I have to get
20:30 clearance from my bride of 44 years. She wouldn't care at all. But I'm thinking about it.
20:36 Well, guys, you heard it here first. He's definitely getting the other tattoo on his other arm. He
20:42 just said it as clear as day. No, but I will tell you it. Like I'll be getting tattooed in the
20:47 process of it. And you know, I've got about 80 hours total of tattoo work and you're seeing
20:51 80 hours. Yeah, like 20 minutes. Yeah. So it's a little, it's a little different, but like when
20:57 you're that far into it, it's like, well, I might as well keep going. But there's a place in Jerusalem
21:01 called, I think it's pronounced Razook's where it's, it's the oldest tattoo. I know exactly what
21:06 you're talking about. Yeah, it's an unbroken chain of families that have been doing these tattoos.
21:10 And for those of you in the eyes that don't know, they have these stamps, some of which are
21:13 six or 700 years old, where they're, they dip them in ink, they put it on your skin, and then
21:17 they tattoo it. And some of these stamps were used to tattoo the crusaders, right? That were
21:23 going to war in the, in the Holy Lands and things like that. And so there's several of those because
21:28 I hope to get to Jerusalem before too long. So getting the Jerusalem cross somewhere, or they've
21:32 got, you know, the archangel killing, killing the dragon killing Satan. There's a bunch of cool
21:37 ones like that. One thing that I'm curious for you, because you've already mentioned being a pastor.
21:41 So some people are like, okay, they know he has the author, they don't know you as a pastor though.
21:45 So I guess my question is, is why even do that? Because being a pastor, you're a shepherd,
21:50 a sheep or dumb, and you're constantly having to deal with dumb sheep and, you know, do that,
21:55 that kind of thing. Why not just sit in your office and write books and keep, you know,
21:59 getting published and doing all these things and work on your 45th, you know, nonfiction adult
22:04 content book and all those types of things. Why deal with all these dumb sheep?
22:07 I love the church. I really do. And I get, I hear people quite often make that comment. I'm a
22:14 Christian. I just don't like churches. And that does get to me just a bit because we recall the
22:21 church in the Bible is called the bride of Christ, the bride of Christ. I hope you never come to me
22:27 and say, Max, I like you, but I don't like your wife. That's not going to go very,
22:34 what's that old Merle Haggard song? That'll put you on the fighting side of me.
22:40 I love it. Yeah. And I know that nobody, I nobody, as a pastor, I fully get how the church can have
22:51 weaknesses and inconsistencies and struggles. But hey, the church is the place we go to serve,
22:57 not to be served. We go not as consumers, but as worshipers. And it's a place where we go to build
23:04 up other people, not just to be built up. So I feel like as a pastor, I get to do that. I get
23:11 to do that. I get to see great victories. I've been at our church since 1988. We've had good years.
23:18 We've had some really tough years or far from a perfect church. But I would say the joy in my life
23:24 is being a Christian, being married to a wonderful lady, and then also being a pastor or being a
23:30 husband and father, and then being a pastor. I love it. And I don't really know what else to say,
23:37 except I just find myself loving the church. It's what who crossed his loving. He's preparing us.
23:44 We're the bride of Christ to be being prepared to reign and rule with him for all eternity.
23:51 And so I would encourage anybody who's kind of kept the church at arm's length. Don't do that.
23:56 Do it out of obedience. Find a church. I find one close to your house where you can serve or
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25:48 okay, where do you go to church? Okay, do you know of a church in my area? I was like, buddy,
25:52 I can't even name you the, I can't even name you all the churches in my town, much less one. And
25:57 who's this what's at Indiana? I don't know a church, but I tell them things to look for. Look,
26:02 look for people that expos it the word. Look for pastors that go verse by verse. Don't look for a
26:07 pastor that's doing a four week series and whatever they want to do it on. And then they kind of back
26:11 into the Bible so that, you know, they just basically sprinkle Bible verses over their TED talks so
26:16 they can keep their tax exempt status. It's like, don't do that. So if you leave entertained,
26:20 but it's like spiritual skittles to where like wears off before you even leave the parking lot.
26:24 But yeah, like don't go to the church that's going to serve your needs. Oh, well, the music's
26:29 not really my style. Oh, well, the pastor is kind of, you know, kind of does the same thing. He kind
26:33 of rinses repeats and Bob. Okay, is that a good place? That a good local body of believers that
26:38 your kids can grow up and mature that, you know, you got a body of believers that are going to help
26:42 them grow up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Are there people there that you can serve like,
26:46 is everyone on their own discipleship and sanctification journey? Or are people just coming to get their
26:51 coffee cookies and to be entertained? Like, those are some things to think about. But as a pastor,
26:56 Max, I'm wondering, I've asked this question of a lot of people this year, because there seems to
27:01 be something happening. And I don't know if a capital A awakening is coming, but you've got
27:08 Arden atheists that are converting to Christianity, like I on her, she Ali Russell brand. You have
27:14 West Huff going on the Joe Rogan experience that the biggest thing in media, and that immediately
27:19 becomes the most, the most viewed and most consumed Christian apologetics conversation in history.
27:26 You've got Richard Dawkins coming out and saying he's at least a cultural Christian.
27:31 You have intellectual giants like Jordan Peterson, who I don't think you could say that he is a
27:36 Christian, that he has pushed you out in in Jesus at this point. But he says that he believes that
27:41 Jesus was God and that Jesus actually was resurrected, stunning emissions, right? From, you know,
27:46 from basically a modern academician. And then there's just all these things that are kind of
27:51 happening. You have big time pastors that are giving false gospels that seem to kind of be
27:56 falling away and separating themselves off and becoming less relevant. You're having, you know,
28:01 the young men in the UK going to church in droves, because, you know, they look at the
28:05 undertates and they look at the four horsemen, a new atheism like, this isn't it. Like, this
28:09 isn't how I need to go. And so they're flocking back to churches, flocking back to the Bible.
28:13 For you as a pastor, what does this feel like? Because again, I was born in 1986. I can't
28:18 know what the trends have looked like for the last, you know, 50 years. I can only look in this
28:22 small period of time since my brain's been fully developed. But what are you saying?
28:26 I say it's unlike anything I've ever seen in my lifetime. It brings tears to my eyes to
28:32 think about your everything you've said is exactly true. And more and more, we're reading reports.
28:38 One was just out about a week ago in the New York Times, talking about the revival taking place
28:46 in the UK of all places, and that the United States, what's happening on college campuses,
28:53 reports of hundreds of baptisms taking place. It's super encouraging. It's a dream come true.
29:01 It's what we've been praying for. And I also agree with you. I think at the same time,
29:07 we're seeing some pastors, colleagues of mine who, for whatever reason, the curtain is being pulled
29:16 back on some activity that was not honoring Christ and not honoring God. We need to pray for our
29:21 pastors, especially our young pastors, that they don't follow that trend. And that's older guys that
29:26 we can finish strong and continue to reflect while the body of Christ. But the short answer to your
29:33 question, I would love to hear that two-minute summary again, all those milestones that you just
29:39 cited there. That's wonderful news. That's wonderful news. And may it be so. May we head in.
29:46 I think people are just aware of how empty life can be. How empty life can be.
29:55 You know, I read the other day that the 22% of teenagers have seriously contemplated suicide.
30:03 Yeah, 22%. What a tragedy. In a season of life that should be full of promise and joy.
30:10 What am I going to be when I grow up? Who am I going to marry? Am I going to play sports?
30:14 You know, full of possibility. One out of five have seriously considered orchestrating their own
30:20 departure. And so that's sad. It's just heartbreaking. And I think the message is that people are
30:28 realizing that the society just doesn't deliver. Just doesn't deliver. All this talk about what
30:34 gender you are, what your sexual preference is, what's your, all the stuff we just kind of get into.
30:44 That's, that's a dead end. It's a dead end. We're crisis. Let's talk about your eternal life.
30:50 Let's talk about your eternal life. These brief and momentary troubles are not worth comparing
30:55 with the glory that far outweighs them all. Well, that activates joy and hope in someone's life.
31:01 And so I believe it's happening. May it be so. Well, and I think as well, I just recently had a
31:09 great conversation with an author of Happy Lies. And, you know, in this book, she's talking,
31:17 this is Melissa Doherty, she's talking about new thought and new age and some of these things.
31:22 And one of the, one of the most nefarious things about new thought, new age, some of those things,
31:26 is they actually work kind of. And it's, it's very similar to what Satan did to Jesus when he was
31:33 in the desert. He was quoting scripture to him, kind of, right? And then it all kind of goes back
31:40 to the garden where it's like, did God really say, did God really say that it's one man and one woman
31:45 for life, you know, and sex should only be in a covenant of marriage? Did God really say he
31:50 created us male and female and there's not really a spectrum in between in that we can't also become
31:55 furries? Like did God really say, and I feel like you've had a generation of people that were
32:00 marinated in the four horsemen of new atheism until they lived it out and they realized,
32:05 oh, well, this is nonsense. Like none of this is actually attached to anything. It's like having
32:09 your feet planted firmly in midair. Because if what's true for you isn't necessarily true for me,
32:15 well, when we're talking about capital T truth, whose truth wins yours or mine? And that's just not,
32:20 that's not a livable, workable thing. And I mentioned young men earlier, Max,
32:25 going back to the Bible, going back to the church, becoming more conservative in a political sense,
32:30 all that type of stuff. But that's what I've dedicated my life to is equipping men to push
32:35 back darkness. Okay, so they got to be able to recognize darkness and then they need to be ready,
32:40 they need to be equipped, they need to be trained to push that back spiritually, mentally and physically.
32:44 But I've lamented what the church has done in terms of tough guys. It seems like the church,
32:52 the music bins way more feminine, you have a lot of churches that love to talk about grace and the
32:56 lamb of God. And they avoid truth in the line of Judah. They avoid doing things that speak to the
33:03 virile testosterone filled masculine soul as they cater to women, children, the elderly,
33:10 and men that being a little bit softer. That's why he even got into this, this game of trying to
33:16 figure out how we can make sure tough guys don't miss out on Christ. And I'm not saying I'm usurping
33:21 the Holy Spirit guys don't hear what I'm don't hear it was something that I'm not actually saying.
33:25 But for you over your career, and even over the 50 years of being a Christian, how do you feel
33:30 like the church writ large has handled masculinity, manhood, and ushering boys into that?
33:37 What a fascinating question.
33:40 My mind is going two or three different directions. I'm trying to direct traffic here.
33:50 Let's explore all the roads. Let's go. Yeah. Yeah. I was super involved in the promise keeper's
33:57 movement of the 1970s. And at the same time, I was involved, I was an adherent to what was called
34:07 a seeker sensitive church. Do those phrases right reconcile with you? That's going to resonate
34:14 with the whole audience. Yes. Okay. So seeker sensitive was a movement that said, let's
34:21 speak to felt needs. Let's speak to felt needs.
34:23 Because the people who are walking in off the street, they don't embrace scripture as the
34:30 authoritative word. So let's access their hearts through speaking to felt needs. I think there's
34:34 some real value in that. Like any other thing, we many, I'll go ahead and say this, many of us.
34:43 I'll put my name in there. I think I went too far in it. To the point where I wasn't opening
34:50 scripture first, I was opening with a felt need first. So I didn't help people see that the authority
34:57 for scripture for dealing with these felt needs is scripture. Now, couple that with my interaction
35:04 with promise keepers, promise keepers helped me a lot. Promise keepers. The very first event I went
35:11 to was a Texas stadium in the Dallas area. And I remember Mike Silva was who's in a wonderful
35:19 evangelist spoke on Friday night. And from my seeker sensitive perspective, I thought, okay,
35:25 we're going to be here Friday night all day Saturday. At the end of Saturday, we'll give an
35:30 altar call. We'll warm people up. Mike did just the opposite. His message was you're a sinner,
35:37 you need a savior. And within 10 minutes, he had opened the altar and guys who had just gotten
35:43 off work driven to Texas stadium from probably far away as Edmond, Oklahoma and San Antonio, Texas,
35:49 they flooded the, they flooded the altar. And I learned a lesson through promise keepers. And that
35:56 is men need clear, a clear invitation. They need the truth. They don't need me to package it,
36:05 prepackage it, soften it, put perfume on it. Men just want to know, men want to know we're sinners,
36:12 we need a savior. We can't save ourselves. And how do I say yes? How do I get in?
36:17 So I don't know if I have a great answer to the question, how has the church done it? But as I look
36:23 back to my formative experience as a pastor, promise keepers taught me that men need a clear
36:30 articulation of the gospel. And they don't need to be, that doesn't need to be wrapped in ribbons.
36:39 It just needs to be clear. And we're doing that now in our church. It's been a great,
36:44 that was a lesson we learned. In fact, what we say here in our church is, we're going to tell,
36:49 we're going to make it hard for you to be a Christian. We're going to tell you all the
36:52 things that are going to be tough about being a Christian. And then at the end of my sermon,
36:56 if you want to be a Christian, you stand up right here in front of everybody. We make it real clear,
37:01 real bold, very, very straightforward. And we're seeing we had 75 baptisms on Easter Sunday alone.
37:10 And so we're seeing so many people come to Christ every week. And I think we're
37:15 in that age, not just for men, but for everybody. It's time to be straightforward about the gospel
37:20 and let Jesus let the Holy Spirit do His work.
37:23 When it almost feels like I've said this before, it's like everybody wants gospel plus. It's the
37:27 gospel. But for $9.99 a month, you get that you get all these extra things and all it's like, no,
37:31 no, no, like you don't need to make the gospel any sweeter. There's nothing sweeter than the gospel.
37:36 And so it's like, you mentioned not wrapping your message in ribbons. Well, we don't want to
37:40 wrap it in mud and dirt and whiskey either, because that's kind of the other side where people go full
37:45 aggro. And everything is about, you know, the size of their biceps and how dirty their truck is,
37:50 because they just got back from off-roading or whatever. And it's like, that's not manhood either.
37:54 And kind of the thing that I've seen, Max, is guys are putting their faith in their preparedness,
37:58 because it's this Western idealized stoic male that, you know, they know how to shoot,
38:05 they know how to fight, they know how to take care of somebody that's wounded. They've got,
38:09 you know, buckets of food and their basement and they've got, you know, sun panels and all the
38:13 stuff. They got all that figured out. And that's one thing I love to tell those guys is like, guys,
38:18 I'm pro all that. I think you should know how to fight. I think you should know how to care for
38:21 somebody that's got a minor injury. I think all that stuff's great. But if you don't have Christ,
38:26 then you're just a chimp, right? And some other chimp that's going to be stronger or smarter than
38:32 you is going to just take all your stuff at some point, right? Because your days are numbered,
38:37 and it's like you did all this preparation for this life, but none for the next one. And so it's
38:42 like, as good as that is, as pros I am and all that, you might want to seek your creator as
38:47 opposed to seeking his creation. And so that's just a slightly, slightly different thing.
38:51 But I guess we should go ahead and transition into the main reason that you're on the show today,
38:55 because I don't know if you guys know this, but Max is an author. So he writes books every now,
38:59 and then it's kind of like his thing. But you got a new book out, which guys, if you're listening
39:02 this on time, it is out now it is available. You can pick it up for yourself. It's in the show notes,
39:06 tame your thoughts, three tools to renew your mind and transform your life. So let's just start
39:12 generically 30,000 foot view. Why this book? Why now? Why you statistics? We mentioned to mention
39:18 them earlier, just in passing. But one out of every five teenagers has contemplated suicide
39:26 seriously over the last prior in the months prior to the interview, I mean, to that survey.
39:32 42% of adults live in a perpetual state of anxiety or sorrow, which is to go
39:42 right down the line. At the same time, we are seeing great hope of revival. We are being also
39:49 brought face to face with the fact that our thoughts are sucking us under. They're just sucking us
39:54 under. I believe when a person becomes a believer that God gives them what scripture calls the helmet
40:01 of salvation. We talk often about the Ephesians 6 full armor of God. And one of those pieces of
40:08 armor is a helmet. A helmet of, I played football in high school. It's been forever, but you would
40:14 never get me out on the field without a helmet because I would be carried off the field on a
40:19 stretcher. We all need a helmet of salvation. Isn't that interesting that the helmet is called
40:25 salvation? To me that says God saves. He redeems the mind. He redeems the mind. In the key passage
40:34 here in Romans 12 and verse 2, do not be conformed to the world, but be transformed by the renewal
40:42 of your mind. And so this particular book explores how can I allow God day by day to not just save
40:51 me, but transform me through the renewal of my mind. And we as men know that our thoughts,
40:59 you know, we have 70,000 thoughts a day, according to the Cleveland Clinic, 70,000 thoughts a day.
41:05 And according to that same study, four out of five of those thoughts are negative or critical,
41:11 where we're being critical of ourselves or negative about the world. Four out of five. That's tragic.
41:17 That means our minds are being consumed by toxic thinking. Well, God will help you on this. You
41:25 don't have to. He can he can allow you not to be conformed to the world, but be transformed
41:31 by the work of the Holy Spirit in the renewal of your mind. And that's what this particular book is
41:36 all about. When even as you were talking about the helmet of salvation, I saw recently somebody was
41:42 doing an interview with Michael Knowles on the daily wire and it was around Easter time. And so
41:46 we all know about the typical crown of thorns and, you know, acacia thorns because we've seen bad
41:52 representations of that, but acacia thorns can be two, three, four inches long. But this person
41:57 had it not just as like a headband crown, but like a helmet crown. And I immediately they're like,
42:03 this is literally what what it could have looked like. This is what the Roman soldiers could have
42:07 fashioned onto Jesus's head. And it was more of a of a helmet look, right? Kind of the old school
42:12 crown that basically covered the entire top of the head. So all that's connected as well.
42:17 One thing I was struck by with the book, because I know some people get a little nervous
42:22 anytime you stray outside of the Bible for anything. And so if you're trying to understand something
42:26 scientifically, people are like, Nope, just read the Bible. And it says what it says. Earth is
42:30 6000 years old. If you don't believe that you're going straight to hell and you die, don't do that.
42:34 Like, and so we don't like going into other fields because this book you get you dig into
42:39 cognitive science neuroscience. And people are going to be like, wait a minute, wait a minute.
42:43 That's not biblical. That's not straight Bible. Like I can't, you know, take that all the way back to
42:47 the original Greek Hebrew or Aramaic transcripts or manuscripts. So you can't do that, right? It's
42:52 outside. It's outside of this world. Whereas I'm more of a guy that's like, no, these different fields
42:57 like neuroscience or biology or chemistry, that's giving us insight into how God's doing it and how
43:02 God did it and how God created it. So it just doesn't bother me that much. But it does bother
43:06 a lot of people. So for you, why do you even go into some of those areas in this book?
43:10 I think that's a very good point and a very fair question. If we ever use
43:17 science more than we use scripture, we're off balance. But when we use scripture and find,
43:23 oh, science is authenticating. It's just giving modern language to what God is doing. I think
43:30 that's very healthy. A fancy word that is we're hearing a lot these days is neuroplasticity.
43:38 Right. You know, that forever people thought that the brain is the brain is formed and it can't
43:42 be changed. And that's been debunked. We realize now that our brains can be changed for the better
43:51 or for the worse. And that as we practice thinking in certain ways, our brains are more like malleable
43:59 putty and fresh ruts. I don't really like that word, but that's what neuroscientists say.
44:05 There are ruts that are created in our brain that create either healthy or unhealthy habits.
44:11 Well, that tells me that Romans 12, too, just has some new scientific language. Do not be
44:16 conformed to the world, but be transformed. So God is in the business of transforming our minds,
44:24 be transformed by the renewal of your mind. 2 Corinthians 10, take every thought captive,
44:32 every thought captive. We learn to exercise stringent control over what we think. Well,
44:38 behavioral scientists are telling people that, but the Apostle Paul was saying that 2,000 years
44:43 ago. So I think sometimes it's helpful to use this research never to take the place of the scripture,
44:50 but just authenticate what scripture is already teaching us.
44:53 That's right. Same thing with, you know, you have our biblical archaeology where it's confirming,
44:59 oh, yes, indeed, this people group did exist at this time period in this area, even though we
45:03 didn't know that until modernity or something like that. But here in this in this episode,
45:08 we've already talked about tattoos, drunkenness. But now we got to talk about UFOs, apparently,
45:13 because if you read through the book, guys, Max talks about UFOs, you might be shocked to find
45:18 out. So when you say you have so UFO, what do you mean? You're the best, man. I love interviewing with
45:24 you. Yeah. So there are three tools that I've developed as a pastor to help people learn to
45:35 manage their thoughts. And UFO is the second one. So let me give you the first one, because the
45:39 sequence matters. First one is picky thinking, just because you have a thought, you don't have to think
45:44 it. And people say, well, of course, that's true. Well, you know what? I've been stunned. How many
45:49 people will use phrases like, well, my mind wandered or this thought came in a be careful, be careful,
45:56 because Satan is all about depositing ideas in our minds that are dangerous, that are dangerous.
46:04 Did you know there's a scripture in John 13 and verse two, my Bible is open here. Jesus and his
46:10 disciples were eating supper and the devil had already put an idea into the mind of Judas Iscariot,
46:18 Simon's son. So Satan put this idea into the unguarded mind of Judas. And that's just an example. We could
46:26 unpack several in scripture of how Satan loves to deposit ideas in our mind. And so first, practice
46:34 picky thinking, just because you have a thought, you don't have to think it. In many ways, being a
46:40 disciple is simply someone who is submitting their thought process to God. Then the idea number two,
46:47 or tool number two is one you referred to, UFOs. This refers to the sequence of thoughts. And
46:54 untruth becomes a false narrative that leads to an overreaction. And untruth, here's an untruth.
47:02 I have to have a lot of money to be happy. That's a lie. That's a lie. But it is a pervasive thought
47:10 in the world. So if you believe that untruth, that's going to lead to a false narrative.
47:15 Get all I can, can all I get. I've got to go into debt to buy whatever I have got to show off. And
47:22 that leads to an overreaction. Either I'm not any good because I don't have much or I'm the best
47:28 in the world because I have a lot. It just leads to an overreaction. Typically, when we're trying to
47:34 help people, we find ourselves dealing with the overreaction without tracing it back to the untruth
47:41 that gave root to that false narrative that leads to the overreaction. So if I'm talking to one of
47:48 your listeners who's battling with, let's say guilt, guilt, I will try to help them find that
47:56 untruth that refuses to allow them to be released from a toxic thought pattern of guilt. What is
48:06 that untruth? I talk a lot about that in the book as well. And then the last one, uproot and replant.
48:12 My dad put me in charge of our yard when I was 12 years old, told me to get all the weeds out.
48:17 I took out the lawn mower and I cut them down a week later. They were back. I didn't know to get
48:23 a weed out. You've got to grab it by the roots. Many of the thought patterns that we deal with
48:28 have deep roots. And it's going to take a while, but we uproot those. We get serious by picky thinking,
48:35 by identifying the UFOs, we uproot them. And then we learn to replant, replant with scripture,
48:42 replant with truth. You rightly pointed out what Satan did with Jesus in the wilderness
48:48 temptation. He almost quoted scripture, but he was not accurately quoting scripture. Jesus, in
48:56 response quoted scripture, scripture was enough for him to face temptation. So if it was enough
49:02 for the Son of God, surely it's going to be enough for us as well. Of course, that presupposes,
49:07 we've got to get acquainted with the Bible. We've got to learn scripture. We've got to let that be
49:12 our go to for dealing with our emotions and our negative thought patterns. So that's the tools.
49:19 Those are the toolkit for the tame your thoughts project. Well, Max, let's dig in that to a little
49:24 bit further, because I remember hearing about a long time ago from someone like, okay, you're
49:28 going to be hearing whispers. But where are the whispers coming from? Are the whispers coming from
49:33 God, the Holy Spirit? Are they coming from the evil one? And you need to have a filter or some
49:39 sort of matrix of decision making to put the whisper through to come out on the back and like,
49:44 is this muck or is this a directive from my creator? Right? And so if you have the UFO that
49:50 you talked about, untrue false narrative overreaction, part of the problem is we don't have a biblical
49:58 foundation, because as Americans, we have Bibles, we have a stack of Bibles, but they have an inch
50:05 of dust on the top of them that we blow off when we walk in on Easter or when we walk in on Christmas
50:10 or something like that, or when grandma's coming over, because we want her to think we're actually
50:13 reading it. So we don't we have tangential understanding of Bible light stuff, right? It's Bible-ish,
50:23 but it's not Bible, right? And I just, you know, I've done things recently where I've tried to dispel
50:28 rumors about some of the most often cited, often incorrectly cited, verses about judge not less
50:34 ye be judged. Well, like, who was that for Jeremiah 29 11? Like, who do you think that promise was
50:38 for that was a promise for, you know, the exiles and Babylon at the time, that's not a promise for
50:43 you and your job today in Nashville. Like, and just when you're trying to like tell these people,
50:48 like, okay, I see that there's text there, but text without context is basically just stuff printed
50:53 on paper. But part of my thing, and you can tell me if you think I'm wrong, I don't think that we
50:59 actually believe it's the word of God. We don't actually believe that, because if we really believed
51:04 it as Christians or people that would call themselves Christians, we would read it. Because if I told
51:11 you, look, I've got this manual. I know you've been struggling a lot financially. I'm bringing
51:15 that up as an example, because you brought that up, Max. I know you're struggling a lot, John,
51:19 you've got, you know, you've been really, really struggling. Here's a book. It's long. It's a long
51:24 book or it's going to take you a while to get through it. But here's a plan where you can read
51:27 this book in a year. And at the end of the rainbow, you're going to know exactly what it takes
51:32 to be a mega millionaire, not just a millionaire, not just, you know, quiet and comfortable mega,
51:38 mega millionaire, the number of people that would treat that like the Bible and study every single
51:44 word and highlight and take notes and ask friends for their input would be astonishing.
51:49 But no, it's just the word of God revealed in scripture, you know, through dozens of authors
51:54 over a few thousand years. Ah, no big deal. I think I'll go watch Netflix. I just don't get it, Max.
51:59 You know, I agree with everything you're saying. And I liken that to not having a definitive,
52:10 authoritative voice, helping you make the decisions. God's word, the purpose of this scripture that
52:19 I'm holding up right here is to give us a definitive authoritative word that tells us where to go and
52:27 how to make decisions. I played catcher on the little league baseball team. I played catcher
52:32 on the middle school baseball team. I played catcher in the high school baseball team. I wish
52:37 I had been good enough to play catcher in college. I wasn't, but I still played on the intramural
52:42 team. I have squatted behind home plate for literally thousands of innings and caught hundreds of
52:48 thousands of pitches. And you know what I've observed? The size of home plate never changed.
52:54 That's right. Never did. Never did. I mean, strike zone may have changed,
52:59 that's right. Yeah. I couldn't turn to the empire and say, Hey, I need a narrower home plate for
53:06 this guy because he's really a good hitter. Or I couldn't walk to the plate with a bat in one hand
53:12 and a home plate in the other and say, I like this size home plate that what what made home plate
53:18 work is that it's the same. It's reliable. It does not change if you're in Dominican Republic,
53:24 if you're in Japan or if you're in Cuba, if you're in major league baseball, it does not change.
53:29 Dear brothers, let me tell you something. You need a home plate for your life. You need a home plate.
53:35 You don't need your authoritative voice in life for your home plate in life to be your locker room
53:42 buddy or to be a podcast or to be what you're feeling. You know, because that is unreliable.
53:50 A lady came to see me just the other day. She said, I really believe in heaven. And I think
53:55 it's when we're reincarnated into butterflies. I said, where did that come from? She said, well,
54:00 I don't know. I was just talking to so and so and so. And so her mind is all over the place.
54:06 Well, she doesn't have a home plate. And I really believe that in order for us to manage our thoughts,
54:13 we have to do what the scripture says. And that is take every thought captive
54:17 and present it before the throne of the king of kings and say, is this what you want me to believe
54:23 or is this what the world wants me to believe? Again, Romans 12 to don't be conformed to the world.
54:29 Don't let society conform you or press you into a mold, but be transformed by the renewal of your
54:35 mind. And the tool that the Bible uses to transform our minds is right here is scripture. And scripture
54:42 says that it is the unchangeable, unerring word of God. And we can trust it for all that is good
54:51 and for all that is right. Well, you're absolutely right, Max. And as you're quoting their second
54:55 Corinthians 10 five, me memorizing that verse got me beyond my addiction to pornography and
55:03 masturbation. I've talked about this a lot on the show. That was 12, 13 years ago now. But what I
55:07 would do is when I was tempted, right, to do what I had normally done, which was to slate my lust,
55:13 which was attached to some sort of insecurity somewhere in my psyche, blah, blah, blah, all that
55:17 cycle, Bible, I would just quote that scripture, right? You know, we demolish arguments in every
55:22 pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God. We take every thought captive and make
55:26 it accountable to Christ. And I know it's kind of curt, but basically I'm sexually aroused. And here I
55:32 am just reading scripture over and over and over until the arousal goes away. And don't you know it
55:38 works. And then I had accountability and I had all the things. But at some point, I just had to take
55:42 those thoughts to scripture. Now you mentioned being a catcher, I just got no because I'm a baseball
55:47 guy. Who's your favorite catcher of all time? Not not the best catcher of all time. Who's your
55:51 favorite max? Yeah, it would be a toss up between Pudge and Johnny Bench. Johnny Bench is the old
55:57 name. Of course, Pudge is becoming an older name, right? Right. Yeah. But those those two, I think
56:04 were great. Yeah, Ivan Rodriguez was my favorite when I was a kid. And then as a Cardinals fan, I
56:09 have to say yachty or Molina just being able to watch him and the stuff he was was able to do
56:13 behind the plate. He was an absolute wizard. Well, there's there's a quote from the book
56:17 that I thought was interesting, especially considering our time in culture. And you basically say you
56:22 are not a victim of your thoughts. Well, Max, I've been reliably informed by dorks on the internet
56:27 that victimhood is currency. That if you are a victim, if you can somehow place yourself in the
56:33 victimhood hierarchy, that that not only makes you write in all arguments, but it means that I
56:37 should somehow use my tax dollars to serve you and all of your needs regardless of your decision-making.
56:43 And so why, why do you go into that idea of like, okay, you're, you're not a victim of your thoughts,
56:48 like kind of trying to almost get us out of this victimhood mindset.
56:52 Well, the victimhood mindset says that I actually have no power. I have no,
56:59 have no power over the kind of person that I've become. I am controlled. I am victim. I am
57:06 subjugated to powers that are greater than me. The great news of the gospel is not just that Jesus
57:12 saves me from my sins, but that he, he positions me in the highest place. I have been raised with
57:20 Christ, the scripture says, and I am seated with Christ in the heavenlies. Spiritually speaking,
57:27 call my, I'm, I'm not in San Antonio, Texas. I'm in heaven and I have authority and I'm being
57:34 equipped to reign and rule with Christ. I believe in a thousand year reign and then ultimately
57:40 for eternity and we're, we're all being equipped. If you want to know how our story ends, we go back
57:47 to the beginning. We look at the Garden of Eden and we see there's Adam and Eve raining and ruling
57:51 over creation without shame, without fear, perfect harmony with God, perfect harmony with one another.
57:57 The victimhood mindset says, well, I don't have any future. I don't have any destination.
58:03 That's just hogwash. Nothing empowers people more than the promise that we are being equipped
58:09 by God for a holy assignment. And so enough of this victimhood stuff. My, my victimhood is long
58:17 gone. I have authority by God's power over the desires of my life. Thanks for your good word,
58:23 our honest word about struggles with pornography and lust. I have a good chapter, I think, in the book
58:28 on taming those thoughts as well, because that's what you're, you're not the victim here. You're
58:33 going to have to take some steps. It may not be easy. It may not take, it may take some time,
58:37 but believe in the God who believes in you because he has great power and he gives that power into
58:43 your life. Well, Max, even as I'm going through the content of taming your thoughts and knowing
58:48 about just the long career that you've had, I'm just curious for you, because, you know,
58:53 there's a gal that works with the Daily Wire that says, you know, she found out I was going to be
58:56 interviewing you today and she was so excited because you are special. It's her favorite book.
59:01 And it's a children's book that she found as an adult, but for her and how she put it,
59:06 it's, it's kind of the, I don't want to speak for, but it's like the first time where the gospel
59:10 resonated in a different way. And so now she gets out as a gift every time, you know, one of her
59:16 friends, it gets pregnant or has a kid or something like that. But for you, is it like two different
59:21 muscle groups when you're trying to write for, you know, an adult audience versus writing for
59:27 children? Or is it like, Hey, we're all supposed to have childlike faith? So there's through points
59:31 and elements of both. Like, how do you, you approach the two different audiences? Yeah,
59:37 Akala, I really hope I get to know you. You're such an interesting guy. Do you have a family? We've
59:43 never even had a conversation. Yes, I have a wife of now 16 years. And by the time this is released,
59:49 I'll have a five year old and three year old boy. And they're going to be the most toxically
59:53 masculine little boys. And I mean, the best, the best way possible those boys are going to be awesome.
59:58 That's great. Well, I'm a dad too. And I'm a granddad. And I found early on that the most
1:00:04 enjoyable time of the evenings was story time. Now, I may be of a different, you know, I'm a bit
1:00:11 nerdish. I've always loved stories. I really have. I've loved stories. I've read stories.
1:00:16 I've written stories long before I was saved. I was trying to write stories. And so I've had this
1:00:22 bent in me to be a storyteller. I think stories take great encouragement that our savior, Jesus,
1:00:30 always use the story to make a point because I love stories. So it only made sense when I started
1:00:36 having kids, when I became a dad, we have three daughters. When story time came, I would make
1:00:43 up stories for my kids. And all of my children's books began as stories for my kids. And we had a
1:00:50 game where I would start a story and then they would tell me the next thing, you know, I would say
1:00:57 once upon a time there's an elephant named Bobo. And Bobo went and I would stop. And we would take
1:01:03 turns and each of the kids would say, Bobo went and whoever's turned was would fill in that sentence.
1:01:09 Went to the grocery store and I'd say, okay, went to the grocery store and went Bobo. So I just,
1:01:14 we had this silly game. Out of that, just like all of my, all of my books come out of sermons,
1:01:20 all of my children's books, including the one you referenced, you are special. Come out of stories
1:01:25 that I made up for my kids. And now I'm making up for my grandkids. And so there's some, you know,
1:01:32 real life situations, I think that have given birth to some of the elements of my ministry. And
1:01:39 for that, I'm really, really grateful. Well, that's fantastic. Well, we're running short on
1:01:43 time. So I got a couple of lightning round questions for you. It's always like making people just a
1:01:47 little bit uncomfortable. It's kind of my thing. But as you look back over your career,
1:01:51 you've, you've got to know that at some point, you're looking at something, you're like, ah,
1:01:55 I wish I could get that one back. I wish I could have a do over. I wish I could just rewrite that
1:02:00 chapter or something like that. So if you had to point to a do over, if you could get a mulligan
1:02:06 on something that you've put out there, what would it be and why better senior pastor with my staff.
1:02:14 When I came to the church, there were three of us on staff, and then a week later, one of them
1:02:19 left. So where there were two, it's easy to manage one person. But as the church grew, Kyle, I did not
1:02:26 develop the muscle of being an effective team leader for our staff. There are, there is training
1:02:34 for that. And that does not come natural for me. I'm more of a, a full back than I am a quarterback.
1:02:41 And I could have done better looking back. We battled staff issues and I that's on me. It's on me.
1:02:47 I could have solved a lot of problems. If I had learned earlier how to develop strategy and mission
1:02:55 and job expectations and that kind of stuff, I just, by the time I realized I needed to know
1:03:00 it, I'd already made several messes. So I would do that over. Well, I appreciate you, you own
1:03:05 it up to that. But last question of the day, okay, and this one's going to make you super duper
1:03:09 uncomfortable because you've ridden somewhere in the neighborhood of 857 books at this point,
1:03:14 or whatever we've decided was earlier. But if you could only leave one book that you've written or
1:03:22 contributed to for humanity, so a thousand years from now, we look up Max Ocato and whatever the
1:03:28 internet looks like then. And this is the only thing that you are remembered for in history is
1:03:34 this one thing that you've written. What would it be and why? The book is called 3 16. I wrote it
1:03:41 about 20, I don't know, 22 years ago, I think it was some soon after 9 11. And it just takes the
1:03:50 greatest verse in the Bible for God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son that
1:03:55 whoever believes in him should not perish but have everlasting life. It takes that phrase by phrase,
1:04:01 it was my best effort at presenting the gospel. So I would pray that that book would be the one
1:04:10 that's still being read because the gospel, that's all that matters. Very good. And I certainly
1:04:15 co-sign and agree with that, but Max, we've weaved in and out of a lot of different subject matters.
1:04:18 I've thoroughly enjoyed our conversation, but that is all for me. Is there anything else you
1:04:22 want to get off your chest? Well, are you ever going to get one of those tattoos that started the
1:04:27 back of your neck and go all the way down your back down past your rear end onto your thighs?
1:04:32 Yeah, so that's kind of like a Yakuza bodysuit thing. Now most of my back is already covered.
1:04:38 I'm working on covering the limbs and then who knows, I might just start getting stuff put on my face.
1:04:43 You never know, Max, because you're thinking about one and then you you're obviously just like you
1:04:47 thinking about the next one. So I'm just following your lead here. I hope I'm setting a good example.
1:04:53 I think you're setting a fine example. Max, thank you so much for coming on.
1:04:57 All the very best to your friend. Thank you.
1:04:59 There you go, guys. I hope you enjoyed my time with Max Lucado. But before I let you go,
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