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JOSHUA BROOME | From Porn Star to Preaching the Gospel (Ep. 487)

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JOSHUA BROOME | From Porn Star to Preaching the Gospel (Ep. 487)
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In this episode, Kyle Thompson interviews Joshua Broome, a former porn star turned pastor, who shares his incredible journey from the depths of the adult film industry to finding redemption in Christ. They discuss the misconceptions of pornography, the struggles of identity, and the transformative power of faith.
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0:20 This is Undaunted Life, a man's podcast.
0:23 I'm your host Kyle Thompson.
0:25 Let's get into it.
0:26 All right guys, we've got a special guest on the podcast today.
0:28 His name is Joshua Broome.
0:30 So he was a porn star for six years and performed in over a thousand adult films.
0:35 And at one point, he was even given the top award in the adult film industry as performer of the year.
0:41 And so a lot of you guys know his story because he's not a porn star anymore.
0:44 He's actually a pastor.
0:46 Now, he went to school for biblical theology and that's kind of what he does now.
0:51 But in this particular podcast, we talk about what things from his childhood led him to go to Los Angeles
0:56 to try to become famous and then end up in the pornography industry.
0:59 We go over some of the misconceptions about the pornography industry, especially from consumers
1:05 of that particular, you know, I guess form of entertainment, if you can call it such a thing.
1:09 And even we talk about the different levels of depravity and things that he was pulled into.
1:13 Because at one point, even after doing a thousand different films in straight pornography,
1:18 he actually transitioned into doing gay pornography.
1:21 And you would think like, oh, you know, maybe he's bisexual.
1:23 Maybe he had homosexual leanings as a kid.
1:25 But the way he describes it is very, very different.
1:28 So you need to stick around for that because it's incredibly interesting to look at that.
1:32 But then we go into, you know, how he considered suicide at one point, not just considered it,
1:36 planned it out and kind of how the Holy Spirit had a hand in keeping that from happening
1:41 through working from some, you know, through another employee at a business that he was at at the time.
1:45 And then we get into, you know, how he's rebuilt his, his life, how he met his wife right now,
1:49 kind of how they've worked through like, okay, here y'all are trying to have a healthy sexual
1:54 relationship within the confines of a godly marriage with a man that had promiscuous sex all the time.
1:59 And a lot of times got paid to do that.
2:01 And so we talked through that and then at the end, we just kind of flowed for a little bit.
2:04 We went well beyond the time we had even planned for just because we got into what our identity is
2:10 and what an actual porn problem says about you, because we think it's a porn problem.
2:14 But it's not.
2:15 It's a masturbation problem, but it's not just that.
2:19 It's even worse than that.
2:21 We have a self-medication problem, but it's even worse than that because we don't have a self-medication
2:26 problem. We have a god-shaped hole in our soul that we're trying to fill with this,
2:31 you know, release of ejaculation or something like that.
2:34 And so we just get into a lot of those different areas and you can just tell this guy's
2:38 just had his life completely turned upside down by God in such a great and amazing way.
2:42 I will tell you again, it is an adult subject matter today.
2:45 And so some of the things that are described are probably going to be a little bit too severe for
2:48 some super, super young ears, but it's not an explicit interview in the way that you might
2:52 think. But guys, I really, really enjoyed my time with Joshua. So without further ado,
2:56 let's get into it. Joshua Broome, welcome to adult to life of man's podcast.
3:01 Hey, glad to be here. Glad we finally made it happen.
3:04 We finally made it happen, but I do got to ask you right from the jump here, Joshua.
3:08 I've seen you on other shows. I've seen you being interviewed and you've got like this fancy studio
3:13 setup. You got this cool mind. You got a cool background. Why do you hate the listeners and viewers
3:18 of undaunted life of man's podcast? What did we do to you? Hey, I know that you guys didn't need
3:24 all the bells and whistles. So I wanted to just bring some more authenticity and vulnerability.
3:30 So I want to remove myself from the comforts and just put myself into the woods. So here I am.
3:36 Okay. Well, hey, if pastoring doesn't work out for you, you might have a future in politics,
3:40 because you just scattered it right around my question. But we're going to dig into your story.
3:45 A lot of people, my audience know your story. But for those that don't, we're going to be covering
3:48 a lot of ground. When I did the introduction, I kind of gave a sense of where we were going
3:52 to be going today. But where I wanted to start is obviously a hinge point of your story, Joshua,
3:59 is when you moved out to Hollywood to make it as it were, you went out to LA and you chased a dream
4:04 like a lot of people do. And we'll get to that. But when you talk to people that ended up doing
4:09 things that you did, and we're at the kind of dire place that you were in, you can kind of look
4:14 at their childhood and see the scars and some of the things that shaped them at that time,
4:20 that led to future sins, future mistakes, future lifestyle choices. So let's start with your
4:25 childhood and then let's make it all the way up to Los Angeles. Yeah, I mean, to your point, a lot
4:31 of people have made the decisions that I made later in my life have traumatic stories. I mean,
4:37 you said that you, you know, you've had Brittany on and Brittany has just a horrible season of her
4:47 life led to her making decisions that were contingent of how she saw herself and how she saw the world.
4:53 But for me, not similar in that sense, but I grew up in South Carolina. The thing for me,
5:02 my gap or my trauma was the fact that my mom had me when she was 16. And I didn't have a father.
5:10 But my father was in close enough proximity, being in a small town in South Carolina,
5:18 that I saw him on a daily basis. So growing up in this really small city, you know, just a few
5:25 thousand people, one, one grocery store, one gas station, one drug store. So I would see him in town.
5:32 And as I was young, it was confusing because I knew him to be my dad, but he never played the
5:40 role of my dad in my life or in my home. So that was confusing in that eventually led to me being
5:47 frustrated and angered by that. Because as he got older, he gets married, has a very successful career,
5:54 has other kids. And as I'm growing up, we're, you know, my mom's amazing, but we were struggling
6:02 financially. So I didn't have some of the things that I saw other people having. And then these
6:09 other two siblings that I have growing up, having the things that I didn't, like financially sure,
6:18 but even more importantly, they had a dad. Right. So there's so much there, but we'll tease that up
6:27 for a little bit later. So you have kind of this, this father shaped hole inside of your soul,
6:33 and you were looking for validation in other places. And from what I know about your story,
6:37 you did find validation in dating in girls, you found validation in athletics, and performing
6:44 well athletically, I think you played basketball. But then you thought you had a future and you
6:49 wanted to get basically go be a movie star, you make it out to Los Angeles, you do what most people
6:54 do in Los Angeles where, you know, they don't just walk right onto the set of the new Avengers film,
6:59 right? They got to go do something bus tables, wait tables, something like that. So you're doing
7:03 that type of work. And then you're approached by a group of good looking young ladies. And they
7:08 pitch you on something that really led you on a crazy path. So go back to to that restaurant and
7:13 go back to those ladies, what happened? Yeah, like to your point, like many people chasing
7:18 their dream, I move out to Hollywood. And again, my story, you know, tying it back to the trauma
7:26 was, you know, I was working at a really well known place in in Hollywood on Sunset Boulevard.
7:35 You know, I was making four or $500 a night, you know, in that restaurant, which sounds like a
7:39 ton, but in Hollywood, it's not, you know, it's enough, but it's not a ton. And but I mean, I had an
7:47 agent. I was doing modeling and I was doing acting, I was taking improv classes. I was doing all the
7:53 things that I needed to do to move into the direction that I wanted to go. And then I'm to
7:58 your point, I'm working in this restaurant, three women walk, walk in, sit down at this table, I'm
8:04 going to wait on them, very attractive, you know, I'm going to, you know, use my southern charm,
8:09 you know, maybe get their numbers, hang out with them, you know, maybe get a good tip. I don't know,
8:15 a lot of celebrities came in there. And then we started to have this conversation. And then they
8:21 pretty much, you know, within five minutes, we're like, Hey, do you want to be an actor? And I was
8:26 like, great, you know, this is my segue into a project or they're going to introduce me to someone
8:32 because, you know, in that industry and pretty much any industry, the trajectory of your career
8:38 moves at the speed of relationship. It's not, you know, having the right reel or having the right
8:43 photos or or whatever preparation that you could have, which is important. But more often than not,
8:50 you meet someone that knows someone that gets you somewhere. And that's what I thought was going
8:56 to happen. But they were like, no, we're talking about porn. And for me, so I'd seen porn when I
9:04 was like 14, 15. And it was a magazine. And, you know, I, you know, made me feel some sort of way. And
9:13 then, you know, as I got older, I saw it, you know, a few videos here and there. But it was never
9:19 something that I struggled with. But I do believe it impacted the life of promiscuity that I was
9:28 leaving because again, I was searching for validation. And I had access to things. But, you know,
9:35 a good rule of thumb is just because you could doesn't mean you should. So, you know, and I'm
9:41 trying to fill this gap. And unfortunately, I'm, I'm using people to try to mitigate my pain.
9:48 And so I was very promiscuous. But I do believe that me seeing those images and me seeing pornography
9:56 and seeing people portrayed in this way, seeing women portrayed in that way, it did make me believe
10:02 a lie that that's what sex looks like. And that's what, you know, it's as easy as just walking into
10:10 a room and asking for it. So they say this. And, you know, just to give you a little context,
10:16 I have been exposed to it before, but never been in it. And they asked me this. And I, and, and they
10:21 used language. They kind of broke down a barrier. They said, Hey, do you want to meet with our agent?
10:27 And being someone that was in the entertainment industry, I was like, okay, well, that for some
10:34 reason that validated at least meeting the guy, because agent agency representation, I'm like,
10:43 okay, well, I guess I'll meet the guy like, what could it hurt? And I go and meet the agent.
10:48 And he asked me three questions, which were highly manipulative in retrospect. But he asked me,
10:55 what, what was I doing out there? I'm sorry. He asked me, how did I grow up?
11:03 What was I doing in LA? What did I hope to accomplish? And I was like, well, he has pretty much just
11:10 me and my mom. And I want to be an actor and maybe do some modeling. And I guess my objective
11:20 is to be famous. And it's funny that I said that because that was somewhat true. But I think even
11:27 my passion was skewed by my trauma, because I being famous wasn't really my goal. It was really,
11:36 I have a desire to be creative, to impact people in a positive way. And that's true today. That's
11:42 still who I am. But I think under the gun, that's what I said. And he was like, great. In the porn
11:51 industry, everything was shifting to parroting movies and doing, you know, doing these things
11:56 with these big scripts and all this stuff. So he's like acting, you know, having an acting
12:02 background is going to be advantageous for you. You're a good looking guy. If you can do it,
12:07 you can be as famous as you want to be. So I think I could make you the number one guy.
12:13 You can make all the money, you can be famous, you know, all these things that
12:19 like my heart was hearing and my mind was interpreting as well. I understand like I wasn't
12:29 not even to believe this is exactly what I want to do. But I did hear it through
12:35 that like a counterfeited lens where it's like, this sounds somewhat like what I want. You know,
12:42 this is this is kind of what I want. And you know, like how bad could that be? Like sure, you know,
12:48 I'll give it a shot even even though hearing it. And I should have thought, well, if I do this,
12:56 which which which which is this is how you stop doing the thing you don't want to do.
13:00 I feel this, but what's the cost? You know, I want to do this. And maybe it will feel good
13:13 or maybe it seems like a good idea in the moment. But what is it going to cost me? And I did not
13:21 think that through one of course, Joshua, when you're when you're at that age, you can kind of
13:25 give a guy the benefit of the down and say, okay, maybe there's there's nothing there. But
13:29 he wasn't manipulating you. He knew what he was doing. He had likely done it hundreds of times
13:33 before. Get you through the door. Well, even I'm sorry. Go ahead. Yeah. No, no, no, please.
13:39 Well, I was going to say, even the girls, the girls were scouting. So they're right. Exactly.
13:44 They were compensated for every person they got to sign a contract.
13:49 Yep, that's that's commission. That's that's prospecting. That's all the things you learn in
13:53 sales is just a slightly different industry. So you get you get through the door. And you know,
13:58 obviously, as I said, in the introduction, you were in this industry for six years, you were named
14:03 performer of the year at one point, you were known as a reliable guy, you know, in a kind of a shady,
14:09 weird world of pornography, you were like the reliable guy that would show up on set and be
14:13 ready to go. Yeah. But what I want to talk about, because obviously we're talking to guys in this
14:18 audience, me being one of them that I used to struggle with porn a long time ago, there's a lot
14:22 of guys in the audience that are currently in that fight. Part of it is because of what we perceive
14:27 porn to be. Yeah. And what we perceive being in the porn industry is there are a lot of young guys
14:31 are like, Oh man, that's got to be great. You're having sex with the most beautiful women every
14:35 single day. This is amazing. Yeah. But they're not thinking about the fact that you're on a set.
14:40 Yeah. Like there's there's a bunch of cameras around and there's a bunch of resets and you're
14:45 you're having to do a bunch of different things that people don't really see with the finished
14:48 product. So let's talk a little bit about what the public perceives about porn. That's true.
14:54 But then what the generalized public perceives about porn that is just super off the mark.
14:58 Yeah. So it's pretty interesting. So for me, you kind of, I mean, it was still kind of old school.
15:04 So for the guys in the industry, so it this was, you know, before the world of only fans and all
15:12 this stuff, like you had to pay your dues to get in. So what paying your dues look like as a younger
15:20 guy was what was popular is young guy, older girl, young fit guy, very large girl. And that's
15:30 what I that's what you had to do. It's like, I was, you know, doing scenes with women who were
15:36 older than my mom. And it's like you in in the reason that they do that is you it's not about
15:46 intimacy. So if you if you are trying to be in that industry and you believe it's through connectivity,
15:53 it's actually the opposite of that to be successful in that industry, you have to be able to disconnect
16:00 and it becomes arbitrary. And it's just this monotonous task that you're doing that's not contingent on
16:06 connection. It's you doing something so that you can get paid. And the way that you do that, you take
16:15 erectile dysfunction medication, but even if you can't disconnect, it's still not going to work.
16:20 So, so I would just say, look, you pay your dues to number one. You're the lie is you're having,
16:29 you know, relations with all these beautiful girls, not the case. Because the person having,
16:35 you know, the person doing that with the pretty girl, they had to do a hundred scenes with
16:40 someone else to prove that they wouldn't fail because here's the deal. The person holding the
16:46 camera, they're footing the bill for everything. And everyone's getting paid except the guy for
16:50 sure. And what I mean by like the girl, she shows up, she's getting paid the, you know, the director,
16:55 the sound, the lighting, the location, all those things are getting paid for. But if the guy doesn't
17:02 do the job, there's no product. So that guy's certainly not getting paid and he's not working again.
17:06 So there's a lot of pressure. So the director's only going to hire someone that's reliable.
17:12 But yeah, man, like to your point, like you get on set, you know, there's, there's three cameras,
17:21 you know, there's someone holding a boom over your head. There's someone holding a sea light.
17:25 You know, under your crotch, there's someone eating Doritos in the corner. You know, it's,
17:31 it's so far removed from anything that's real connection. The probability that you know the
17:39 girl's name, little to none, there's, there's no, there's, there's often there's no eye connection
17:45 whatsoever, because she's trying to get through it and you're trying to do it. And both of you,
17:51 while you're connected from a physical standpoint, you're disconnected from a emotional and a mental
17:58 standpoint, because that's the only way to get it done. And you have a director telling you what
18:03 to do. So you're not doing what feels good. You're doing what you're being told to do. And you're
18:08 doing it for camera. So you're doing it to be seen. You're not doing it for your feelings or your
18:15 benefit. So like, yeah, to your point, it's so far removed from anything, you know, the girls using
18:23 some kind of lubricant, the guys using some kind of, you know, erectile dysfunction medication,
18:29 and it's, it's about as fake as it could be what with it still happening in a sense.
18:37 Well, and so as you're watching it, you have to disconnect. But as you just described,
18:42 there's a lot of disconnection happening with everybody that's that's on the set. I want to talk
18:46 a little bit more about that disconnection in terms of the level of depravity, because some
18:51 people think, Oh, if you bring up stuff like that, you're trying to shame people. But but the reality
18:54 is, is as far as I understand it, at different points of your career, you weren't just doing
18:58 straight porn, you were also doing gay porn. But for you, I think I've heard you described before,
19:03 but it's been a while to where it's like, it wasn't as if, you know, you grew up questioning
19:07 your sexuality. It was, it was a job. It was just another person. It was just another scene
19:13 that you had to shoot. Yeah. So talk to me just about really where it went, because it's not just a,
19:18 you know, I had to, you know, have sex with some bigger women or add to have sex with this type
19:23 of thing. It was like, you were just a guy checking a box every single day, regardless of who it was
19:28 on the other end. Yeah, and it's funny because a lot of people would just like do a quick Google
19:32 and it's like, Oh, this guy did gay porn. Like, well, the reality was, is I did six years of straight
19:38 porn. I did over a thousand movies. And I won every award there was to win. And that messed my head up
19:45 so much that like, did I have a desire to do gay porn? No, like literally, so every day I thought
19:53 about taking my life. And I didn't want to do what I wanted to do. And it's, it's wild to even like
20:01 talk through this. But what made sense in my head were two things. Number one, if I do a gay scene,
20:09 then that would disqualify me from going back that would burn that would burn my boat. Because
20:15 back then again, very different world, you know, this is 10 plus years ago. If you did a gay scene,
20:23 girls would not work with you. There were there were no crossover. So if you did a gay scene, bridge
20:31 burned, no directors hiring me, no girls will work with me. So that career, the credibility that I
20:38 had, the stature that I had gone, like completely gone. So once I do that one, it's gone. And I thought,
20:46 okay, you know, obviously very popular guy, you can guide the gay studios all the time. Every,
20:52 every successful straight actor would get, you know, get emails requests, hey, if you do one scene,
20:58 we'll pay you an astronomical amount of money. And then, you know, I got these requests all the
21:04 time. And then one day, you know, I'm thinking, you know, whatever. And I get an email, and I get
21:10 this offer for this massive contract for 30 scenes. And I was like, screw it, you know, I,
21:18 who cares? And then I do it. And it's so much worse than I thought.
21:25 It's so much worse than I thought. And then I had to go from taking Viagra to taking
21:31 Kaverjack. So I'm injecting something into myself so that I have an erection, whether, you know,
21:36 I'm reading a newspaper or, you know, whatever I'm doing. And then a lot of those studios require
21:42 that because, man, it's so twisted because in that industry, you've got straight guys doing this
21:49 stuff, watching straight porn in the background, trying to get through it. And it's like, you know,
21:58 talking about, you know, like, how sad is that? But that was, that was to a point where
22:05 every single day leading up to that, I was thinking about taking my life. And then I started doing
22:11 those movies. And then I started making a plan to take my life. And you know, one day I did a scene
22:17 in Atlanta, I flew back and on the plane, I'm like, I'm gonna, I'm gonna take my life. I got
22:22 enough pain pills to do the job. I lined them up on the counter. And there was this, I had a payroll
22:29 check in my pants pocket. And it was just driving me crazy. It was, I just couldn't like, I mean,
22:34 I just got to get this check on my pocket and look at it. I'm like, well, if I'm gonna take my life,
22:39 then I might as well have as much money as possible in the bank. So it goes to my mom or whoever is
22:44 going to go to. So I go to this bank and I go to deposit the check. And normally, I would either go
22:51 to the ATM or the Dropbox, because I didn't want to hand someone a check that had a memo on it that
22:56 said, you know, what the name of the movie was, which was always, you know, something vile. And,
23:03 but this day I didn't care, you know, I was about to go back to my place and kill myself. So I,
23:08 I go and, you know, I was about to go back to my place, you know, the political correct term that
23:16 we can use to be on social media is I was going to unalive myself, you know. And I go back to my
23:22 place. I mean, and that's why I plan on doing, but I'm in the bank, slide the check across the counter.
23:29 And, you know, normal transaction, and I get the receipt and I go to walk away. And this,
23:36 this woman with glasses, brown hair, she had a little bit of gray in her hair. I can remember
23:42 her face so clearly, but she looks in the eye and says, Joshua, are you okay? Joshua, is there
23:49 something I can do for you? And what she didn't know, which I believe it was a, the Holy Spirit,
23:58 working through her. But what she didn't know is I had not heard my name in about 18 months.
24:07 Because as I, as I started going through this depression, I started distancing myself from my
24:15 mom, my brother, my family, my friends, anyone that would say, Joshua, I love you, but you're
24:23 better than this. Are you okay? What's going on? Like, you're not yourself. You could be doing
24:29 something else. Anyone that challenged my life choices. And this is true for anyone. This is a
24:34 beauty of accountability. When someone comes to you and say, Hey, man, you're acting a little off,
24:39 you're out of bounds here. You're talking to your wife in a way that I've never heard you speak to
24:46 her that way. Are you okay? And you hear these things and you either acknowledge them to be true
24:52 and you make a change or you push that person away. And I pushed everyone away that was telling me
25:01 anything other than, you know, I was doing a good job or I was the man or my life's amazing. If
25:08 anyone that wasn't saying that to me got pushed away. And now I, I made these choices. And I'm in,
25:15 in, you know, the gay industry is completely a different industry. It's not the same director,
25:21 it's not, you know, the same people in it. So I have ostracized myself. I'm not communicating with
25:28 anyone in that industry. I don't have any friends. I'm not friends with any of the directors.
25:33 And I'm completely on this island. No one even called me by my name. And I've gotten to the point
25:40 where I had allowed the people that I saw on the gym, they knew me to be this guy. They called me
25:47 that name. My barber knew me to be this guy. He called me that name. No one was calling me Joshua.
25:53 And in a, in a very real way, Joshua, in my life and in the real world, it ceased to exist. But when
25:59 she said my name, dude, well, so Joshua, the, the thing that keeps coming to mind as you're talking
26:07 is the word disconnection. Yeah. So early in life, you had a disconnection from your father.
26:12 You were working in the porn industry, but you were disconnected from what you were doing with
26:16 your body. You were disconnected from your given name. You were disconnected. You were trying to
26:21 disconnect yourself from your life. Yeah. Until I absolutely believe God used that bank teller to
26:27 just be like, and guess what guys, that bank teller probably heard a whisper in her ear. Yeah. And she
26:32 got to decide whether or not she was going to act on it. And so just think about that the next time
26:36 that you feel like we're going to talk to that person, go talk to somebody else, you get to decide
26:41 whether or not that you're a part of the Holy Spirit's plan. But you see what I'm saying? Like,
26:48 it's that it's that level of disconnection because again, we just think, oh, you know, I just maybe
26:52 I had gas, maybe, maybe I just like, I got that idea, but filter that whisper in your ear through
26:57 the scriptures, through biblical understanding and know that that's not coming from Satan. That's
27:01 coming from somewhere else. Yeah. And so even even further to keep going within your story,
27:08 you get out of the pornography industry, you basically burn your bridges, you go back home,
27:12 you move in with your mom, you're trying to rebuild your life, you keep running into all these people
27:17 that know you as the other guy from the other thing that they watched. And it's a difficult time
27:22 period. But you're as I understand it, you're working at a gym. And you see a young lady that
27:27 you're attracted to and you go into your normal mode, and you're going to ask her on a date. Yeah.
27:31 And she was like, no, no, she basically shuts you down. And this is not something that you're
27:38 used to, you're not used to being put in that. And she's like, no, she wanted to be disconnected
27:42 from you. But y'all did eventually start going out and pick the story up from there, because it's
27:47 an interesting start to that relationship, especially compared to where you're at now.
27:51 Yeah. So to your point, you know, this like super gorgeous girl, so I'm working in a cross
27:57 fit gym. I, you know, this is this is about two years after I got out of the industry. So
28:05 made some strides in the right direction from the outside looking in, because I quit the industry.
28:14 And then, you know, I, again, you know, I was someone who was thinking of taking my life. So
28:19 was I making responsible financial decisions? No, of course not. Wasn't paying my taxes quarterly.
28:26 I was making astronomical amounts of money, spending a time living in expensive places.
28:30 But I remember taxes came back around a year after the industry, because I quit like right at
28:37 the end of the year. So I get paid taxes, you know, right after that, but the following year.
28:44 And it was not good. It was not good. So it pretty much, you know, clean me out. And I remember I had
28:52 a Breitling by Bentley watch that I just absolutely loved that I had to sell that to pay my taxes.
28:57 And but anyway, I was working at this gym and working in a grocery store, finally worked my way
29:03 up in this gym, made it to a place where like I'm somewhat respected. I'm one of the lead trainers
29:10 in the gym. Because again, that's my mentality, like whatever I'm doing, I'm going to be the best,
29:15 because I have to be because that's how I validate myself. And so, you know, this girl, best athlete
29:22 in the gym, incredible gymnast, gorgeous, walk up to her. Hey, I'll put your weights away. I got
29:29 you, babe. She's like, get out of here, dude. Get out of here. You know, and I was like,
29:35 I'd love to grab dinner with you some time. She's like, I think I'm okay. And then she's like,
29:41 well, I'm going for a run in the morning. And it's like me. It's like, you know, I like to do like
29:47 power cleans and sprints or push a sled. It's like run a 5k. It's like, man, that's a nightmare,
29:52 but I'll do it for you. I will do it for you. So I met her in this park to go run. And
29:58 like this, this boy starts whispering to me. And I think it was a combination of, you know,
30:06 God trying to work on me and my mom, don't you lie to that girl. Don't you dare lie to that girl.
30:14 And what you'll find is often like obviously a lie to someone's face is hurtful, but sometimes
30:21 it's what you don't say. That's just equally bad. So for me, I would, I would withhold information
30:29 until it would come out. And then I would just like, I didn't deal with it. And that's, you know,
30:35 that's, that's how I was leading my life. And I just couldn't do that with her. So I'm like,
30:40 Hey, you know, before the even the run started, we were walking and I was like, Hey, I, I did a
30:47 little bit of porn. She's like, what? What'd you say? And I was like, all right, man, I'll tell her
30:53 the whole truth. And I did, I told her everything. And she was pretty shocked by what I said. And
31:01 then, you know, she looks at me, kind of, you know, put your foot down. It says, well, a person is
31:07 not defined by the worst thing they've ever done. And a person is not defined by the greatest thing
31:14 they'll ever accomplish either. God defines a person. You don't get to define yourself. Do you
31:21 know who God is? And for me, you know, I'd gotten very good at, you know, pretending to be whoever
31:28 I thought the person across from me wanted me to be because I didn't know who I was. But I was
31:34 great at putting on that first date mask and I'm gonna become whoever you want me to be. So I was
31:39 trying to sell her on like, yeah, you know, I, I believe in this and that. And like, yeah, I know
31:43 God. And she's like, well, what's your relationship with Jesus like? Are you like, are you part of a
31:49 community? And just asking me a few questions that quickly disqualified me from whatever I thought
31:54 I knew. And she's like, well, you know, I've been following Jesus since I was in the seventh grade,
32:01 my whole family's Christian, and I'm not perfect by any means. But my relationship with Jesus
32:06 is the foundation of how I live my life. And then she, you know, quickly transitioned into, okay,
32:13 you know, what, what kind of food do you like? What's your hopes and dreams? I'm like, what?
32:18 Wait, I just told you that and you want to know if I like tacos? Like, yeah, it just blew my mind.
32:26 And in a very real real way, it's like, the way that she responded to me, it created this curiosity
32:35 is like, if what is in her is causing her to be able to respond like that. I want to know more.
32:43 It's I mean, a really great, you know, representation like Colossians like for six,
32:48 talking about your speech being gracious and seeing them assault. So you might know how you
32:51 ought to answer each person. And some and sometimes it's not what you say. It's what you don't say
32:58 or how you say it. And, you know, we text like maybe acts for a week and then she invites me to
33:05 church. And then, you know, I go into church. And again, I'm thinking, you know, I'm curious,
33:13 but I'm probably going to like catch on fire. I walk in here, you know, like, I don't have any
33:19 business here. And they had this like big wooden plaque when you walk on the door and said, we want
33:23 to love people where they are and encourage them to grow in their relationship with Jesus Christ.
33:31 I was like, Jesus, I know a little bit about him. He sounds cool. But if you knew where I was,
33:37 no way, no way. And, you know, again, I grew up in a very small, independent Southern Baptist
33:49 church. And what I knew was that if you had a wrinkle in your shirt or tattoo one of your
33:54 arm, you're going to hell pretty much all I knew. And this guy gets up and t-shirt and jeans and
34:00 cowboy boots and he sounds like my grandpa. And he's talking about his relationship with Jesus.
34:05 And he starts telling the story about Jonathan and David and how when David took over his king,
34:16 when Jonathan died, historically, the previous kingdom was wiped out. They would make sure that
34:22 every person that was still alive, that was attached to the previous kingdom was killed because they
34:27 didn't want them to think they had access to this new kingdom. And David was different. And David
34:33 actually asked, hey, this is from first annual. But David asked, is there anyone left, Jonathan's
34:40 lineage? And they're like, yeah, my fellow chef, and they go and find him. And my fellow chef knew
34:45 history because it was important. And what it meant historically was that he was deserving of death.
34:52 And David sent a guard to go find him. And David's guard extended a hand instead of a spear and
34:58 brought him back into David's kingdom. And David gave him a seat and even restored his land. And
35:04 then the pastor pivots, he's like, you know what, Romans 323 says that we've all sinned and fall
35:10 short of the glory of God. So who's guilty? Everybody. And then Romans 623 says, the wages of sin is
35:18 death. So if we're all guilty and the cost of that sin is death, meaning eternal separation from a
35:25 holy and perfect God, what are we to do? So we're all guilty and we're all separated from the God,
35:30 you know, and it's like, well, I was like, man, maybe I'm not the only bad person here. You know,
35:37 I guess everyone, you know, and then he starts talking about how Jesus being fully God and fully
35:42 man came into this world, lived a perfect life. And then what joy said before him was humiliated
35:49 and just tortured and beaten and died on the cross willingly to pay the sin for all people,
35:55 for all time that will put their faith in him. And he didn't say dead on the third day he rose,
36:00 the feeding hell, death, sin, the grave, and he's seated. He's not standing. He's seated at the right
36:05 hand of God because it's done. And that is available to you, that forgiveness, that reconciliation,
36:12 that standing with God is available to you, not because you deserve it, not because you're special,
36:18 not because you're good, because you're loved by Jesus so much that he was willing to die for
36:23 you. And if you put your faith in him, that changes everything. The bridge that you need to get to
36:29 God, you cannot build. You can't be tough enough. You can't be strong enough. You can't give away
36:35 enough money. You can't walk enough old ladies across the street. There's nothing good that you
36:41 could ever do to make you perfect. Only Jesus was perfect. And not because of you, because of him,
36:48 you can be saved. And I heard that message and I gave my life to Jesus. And there was a lot of
36:53 snot, a lot of peers. And I felt, man, this weight come off of me that day. And it wasn't the porn.
37:04 It was the burden of being carrying my entire life believing that I wasn't deserving of anything.
37:10 And I wasn't any good. And I was inadequate. And I was like, man, we all are. But we all are equally
37:18 loved so much that Jesus died for me. And that's, that's the message of the gospel.
37:25 That's the message that everybody listening to this is there are varying levels of depravity,
37:29 but every level of depravity separates you from God. And so we need the payment for our sins.
37:35 And the only way to get that is through Jesus. And so we're running a little short on time. So
37:39 just to bring everybody up to speed, you ended up marrying that lovely gal from the gym that took
37:44 you on the run and took you to church. I believe you'll have three kiddos. Now you got a fourth on
37:48 the way. There is a question though that I don't intend for it to be voyeuristic. But I know that
37:54 there are guys in my, in my audience that are probably struggling with this and gals that are
37:58 in my audience are struggling with this. Because if you've heard from different counselors or
38:02 different things, when a man has looked at porn and has been caught by his wife, what she's constantly
38:07 thinking about is, Oh my gosh, now he's going to compare me to all these beautiful perfect women.
38:13 My curiosity for you and for her is, and from the first time I heard your story, I was like,
38:19 how does she cope with the fact that you you did over a thousand straight scenes with with other
38:25 women? And like, because she obviously seems like a very self-confident, very strong young lady,
38:30 very strong faith. But man, your brain can really take you to some dark places. How have you all
38:37 kind of worked through that as a couple? And I don't just mean that relationally, but also sexually.
38:42 Yeah, I mean, to be completely honest, so for us, it's never been an issue because for her,
38:50 she believes the Bible to be true. And if 2 Corinthians 5, 17 says that person that I used to be is
38:58 dead and gone, and now I'm a new creation, either that is true or it's not. Though for her,
39:08 why would I let something that had nothing to do with me that a dead person did that I have
39:16 nothing to do with impact me today? So, so no Satan, you don't get to steal my joy. No Satan,
39:24 you don't get to be in my marriage. No Satan, you don't get to have any authority in my life.
39:29 So is it true that I did those things? Yes. Do they have any impact on my life? No.
39:37 I think that's a healthy way of looking at it because I think there's a lot of cultural
39:42 Christianity. There's a lot of country music Christianity in this world to where it's just like,
39:46 you know, God's that man upstairs and I'm going to find him in nature. And you know, I know these
39:51 verses, I'm going to put them on a t-shirt or a coffee cup. But it's like, yeah, you read them,
39:55 but you don't believe them. But that is true. The old has passed away and there is a new life
40:00 before you. So that's a really healthy place for her and for you both to be. I know we're
40:06 running short on time. So I guess we'll make this the last question of the day. But you don't just
40:11 become a Christian. You don't just kind of turn your life around and marry the girl and happy ending.
40:16 You know, you go and get a degree in biblical theology and you are going to use your former
40:22 self, your former life, your former depravity and actions to assist other people to not only
40:29 try to lead them to Christ because, you know, you don't have a porn problem, you have a sin
40:33 problem. And out of a masturbation problem, you've got a sin problem. It goes way deeper than just,
40:38 you know, acting out in a way that makes you feel good. So talk to me a little bit about the work
40:42 that you're doing now, the ministry that you have and how you're helping people.
40:46 Yeah, I want to extend what I said that our time would be together just because I want to say a
40:51 few things and I think they're really important. Yeah. So number one, other people's opinions and
41:00 words can only impact you emotionally if you give them access to that person that's on the other
41:11 side of the screen that's commenting something about you. They know 1% of your life. And
41:20 why would you allow someone you would never ask advice from to impact you emotionally?
41:29 Right. Like, don't take advice from people who don't take critique from someone you wouldn't
41:34 take advice from. Yeah. Like, why would you do that? But it's just true. I mean, so either,
41:39 because at the end of the day, like to your point, like we don't have a porn problem,
41:44 we have an identity problem. And if your identity is contingent on your feelings and your action,
41:50 we're all screwed. Like, that is not who you are. The author of life has designed you.
41:57 There's interesting, there's, there's, there's integral things about your life that have been
42:03 designed by a designer that are absolutely true about you. And you might feel a certain
42:09 way or someone that you respect might say something or you might read something that impacts you.
42:16 But if it doesn't line up with the author of life and what he says about you, you have to reject
42:22 that as a lie. That's why, like, like first, uh, current his 47, I believe it is, uh,
42:28 talking about you have to take every thought captive. You have to take every thought captive
42:34 and make it obedient to Christ. So how do you do that? Well, you got to renew your mind. So
42:38 Romans 12 to Roman 12 to talks about how we're either being conformed by the world
42:44 or we're being transformed by the renewing of our mind. We will, Joshua, let me hop in there
42:51 because that that's the exact point. I think a second Corinthians 10 five is like, we thought
42:54 captive. Yeah, take every thought captive and make it accountable to Christ. The reason why I know
42:58 that scripture is because when I was struggling to get over my porn and masturbation problem,
43:03 that this is going to be a little crass. But here we are 45 minutes into this. But that was
43:07 my make my boner run away scripture. Yeah. Because it was like, Hey, all these thoughts I'm having
43:12 right now and I'm lonely and I heard and I just want to do this. It's like, no, no, no, no. Those
43:18 thoughts are not mine. Yeah. Like those thoughts were placed there. Yeah. And I need to gather up
43:23 those thoughts, put them in a little baggie and make them accountable to Christ. And if I do that,
43:27 then I will not act out in the way and I will not try to find my identity. I will not try to find my
43:32 self medication or my release in that. Yeah. And you made a really great point because again,
43:38 like porn is problematic, but porn is not your problem. Your problem, like porn is the medication
43:45 for your actual problem. So if I can, if I can go back in time, the, you know, this, this porn
43:51 agent says, I can do all these things for you. Why would I say yes to something that's a counterfeit
43:57 version of what I want? Right. So if I want to watch porn, I genuinely would want to watch it.
44:05 But if I stopped and asked myself, okay, what am I actually feeling? Am I angry? Am I lonely?
44:11 Am I frustrated? Am I bored? Okay. These things are true, but I don't have to let them take me to
44:19 this other place. Maybe I need to think about why am I feeling this way? And that's a tough thing
44:27 to do. That's a tough thing to do. Men and women, it's a tough thing to do. What, what is prompting
44:33 this feeling is, is there an underlining issue? There always is. And when you get to the root,
44:38 you get to the source of the problem. It's not porn. It's the root. And the root is
44:43 something that happened to you, something that you did, something that's not confessed,
44:48 something that, you know, you don't have to get on a, you know, social media platform and tell
44:53 everyone, but maybe tell someone you trust, something that happened to you or, or something that you
44:59 went through or something that you did that you feel embarrassed about and process those things,
45:03 because often when it's in your head and then it comes out of your mouth, man, there's so much
45:09 freedom in that. Well, and Joshua, like, we are obsessed in our modern culture with univariate
45:15 analysis. Oh, this thing is happening. And so we do the top line of research and say, well,
45:20 that's got to be the problem. But it goes so many lines deeper, because you just mentioned going
45:24 back to that conversation with that agent, he was providing you with things that you thought you
45:29 wanted. But if we can go all the way back to your childhood, and if you had found identity,
45:36 as Joshua Broome, the son of blank, and if you had found your identity in that, you're not in LA,
45:45 you're not in that restaurant, you're not with those girls, you're not with the producer,
45:49 and then on and on and so forth. Now, you're probably not with your wife, you're probably
45:52 not with your kids. But anyway, we're not going to extrapolate this out to a completely different
45:56 universe here. But again, it goes back to your earthly father did not show you who you were.
46:03 Yeah. And so you were almost blockaded from the heavenly father, because who wants a heavenly
46:07 version of this crappy worldly version? You know what I mean? Yeah. And at the same time, I think,
46:12 like you're the way that you see yourself, and the way that you see the world is often through the
46:19 lens of your trauma, or the lens of your sin, or the lens of your lack. Because you'll see,
46:24 well, I can't do this. Because for me, like part of me wanting to take my life was I would never be
46:30 a dad, I'll never be a husband, like sure, I could get to go pregnant, sure I could marry someone,
46:35 but I would never have those things in the way that I hope for them to be long ago.
46:42 And then I was like, and I'll never be able to be creative in a way that impacts people in a
46:48 positive way. No organization will ever take me seriously yet. I find myself again, you know,
46:55 because I did the work, like I didn't step out of the industry and step onto, you know, a stage
47:01 and start preaching. You know, I did an internship for about four years. I spent, you know, 15 to 20
47:07 hours a week with someone mentoring me, teaching me how to read the Bible in proper context.
47:11 I go and I study the Bible at Liberty University. You know, I do all this stuff, and this has been
47:17 an eight-year journey where I'm learning more about myself, and I'm learning more about the word
47:21 each and every day. And it's like, man, if you want to do something that is in your heart, pursue it,
47:28 and if it lines up with God, guess what? There's actually gifts and talents and abilities,
47:33 and there's provision, and there's going to be an anointing on what you're doing, because guess
47:38 what? God made you to do it. The fact that you're on this planet is for a reason. There's purpose
47:46 for you to step into, but often we're afraid of it because it doesn't line up with what I think
47:51 I can do, and it's distorted and diminished by what people say, or what I've done, or what I've
47:58 heard if I don't step into it. So yeah, I mean, be strong and create, be strong and courageous in
48:04 that not who you believe you are and what you believe you can do, but what has been done on your
48:10 behalf and once you have access to you, because who Jesus is? Well, Joshua, everyone's read that,
48:17 you know, self help book and though, or maybe they watch some dork on Instagram that thinks he's
48:21 an influencer in there, they talk about your mindset and you got to be able to solve these problems,
48:26 you got to, you know, communicate to yourself positive vibes and meditation and blah, blah,
48:31 blah, and all that. It's about who's are you? Yeah, not who do you think you are? What qualities
48:37 do you think you have? It's who's are you? Are you Satan's or are you God's? Because if you think
48:42 you are Satan's, you will go those directions and you mentioned counterfeits a little bit ago,
48:47 the best counterfeiter on the planet is Satan. Yeah, because he's going to tell you that, oh,
48:53 you know, jerking off with your pants around your ankles is just like the real thing. You don't need
48:58 to go ask that girl out. You don't need to do any of those different things. You know, it's fine,
49:02 it's good enough, or it's just another drink. What's it going to hurt? It's just another line. What's
49:07 it going to hurt? And again, it goes back to who's are you? Yeah, and whose hand is going to be
49:13 protecting you because Satan's hand is a false hand. Yeah, it looks like it's strong, but it's
49:18 vapid. It's nothing. It's worthless. Whereas the hand of God is something that cannot only hold you
49:23 up, but it can sustain you through those moments where you are as far down as you think you could
49:27 possibly go. Yeah, it's a different thing entirely. Yeah, 100%. And just to, you know, for me, you
49:33 know, just thinking about counterfeits like in, you know, for me, I associate that with a bank
49:38 teller because a bank teller is able to identify counterfeits, not by examining everything that's
49:45 fake. Yeah, they become very familiar with what is real and what what is trustworthy. And that's
49:52 the beauty like where Rome is 12 to tie is it. And that that's exactly it. You hear that all the
49:58 time. It's like there, you don't become experts on the thousands of counterfeits. You become an
50:02 expert on the real thing to where you can identify it where it's just like going back to the bank
50:06 teller that whisper that she heard. Yeah, she probably didn't have a long theological discussion
50:10 with herself later that day where she kind of broke down whatever she felt like God was telling
50:14 her like that's probably not what happened. Yeah, but the whisper came. Yeah, and she got to
50:19 decide whether or not to act and who that whisper came from. And so another encouragement I want
50:24 to give to people because sometimes Joshua, when you say like, ah, you know, you don't have a
50:29 porn problem. You got a soul problem or something like that. The answer is true, right? That that
50:34 is the right answer because it's not a porn problem. It's not a masturbation problem. It's not a
50:38 self medication problem. It's a God shaped hole in your soul that you got to fill and you're trying
50:41 to fill it up with a jacket. But in this exact example that we're talking about, I don't want
50:46 people to hear the wrong thing. Yeah, you still have an habitual problem. Yeah. Right. And so that
50:51 doesn't mean, okay, I don't need covenant eyes anymore. I don't need this software anymore. I don't
50:56 need accountability partners. I don't need any of that. Yeah. But I will tell you, if you're using
51:00 that as a mask, you will be found out. If you have covered eyes on your computer so your wife will
51:06 get off your back, that's going to be a problem for you in the long run. Because here's the deal.
51:11 You know how to get around your filters. Yeah. You're smart enough to do that. You also know
51:15 how to get around your accountability partners. Yeah. And you know how to lie or lie by omission,
51:20 by not telling them the full truth. And so at the end of the day, you have to go those several
51:25 layers deep and do that hard soul level work of why it's just happening right now. But there are
51:30 great things out there that can assist with getting rid of those habits that you've created,
51:35 because those are hard to break as well. Yeah, 100%. Yeah. So for me, you know, it's like,
51:41 I don't think you can be, you can't be disciplined until you become self-aware.
51:46 So I have to be self-aware first. And then that comes from me saying, okay, pornography is problematic
51:54 to me in my life. And it's hurting me and hurting those around me. It's detrimental to my heart,
51:59 my brain, and how I interact with the world. And then next, I need to take inventory of my life.
52:05 What am I allowing into my life? Who's speaking into my life? What am I watching? What am I listening
52:09 to? Because my input often determines my output. So I need to take inventory of what I'm bringing
52:16 in. And to your point, there has to be boundaries. I tell my kids not to touch hot things because I
52:21 want to protect them. And you think about like John 14, 15, if you love me, you'll obey my
52:26 commitments. It's not do what I say, or I'm going to, you know, spite you, trust what I'm saying,
52:33 because it's best for you. If you understand the character of God, you'll understand the tone
52:38 of God. And what he's trying to do is lead you into a better way. So if he does that for you,
52:45 we're image bearers of him. So we're to replicate that. So we need boundaries in our own life
52:51 to protect us from ourselves. And that looks like accountability partners, safety software.
52:57 And then also ask like be willing to ask yourself tough questions. You know, it's like, why don't I
53:03 feel like this? Because the emotion that you're feeling is not sinful. It's what you do with the
53:10 emotion. Yeah, it's the acting out that people don't really because they want to associate the
53:15 action with who they are as a person. But then they don't want to associate it with something
53:19 deeper. But yeah, when you have those conversations with yourself, that's hard work fellas. That's
53:24 that's some call you on the carpet thing. That's why you need a foxhole of guys around you that
53:28 you can go to you perhaps need to work through that with a trusted counselor or pastor. So that
53:33 could actually step through. Yeah, so I mean, that's part of my story. It's like I did counseling for
53:37 over a year. And again, the maybe not my favorite book I've ever read, but definitely the it's in
53:46 the top 10. But it's definitely the most impactful book that I've ever read. And I read it often,
53:51 Eugene Peterson's long obedience in the same direction. Like that's the source of winning in
53:57 any area of your life, because what you need is obedience and discipline, not for a short period,
54:03 but for the long haul. And if I can be obedient and be disciplined for a long time, guess what?
54:11 I'll I'll start moving in that direction. And I'll continue moving in that direction. Because if
54:17 I'm five degrees off and I'm going from New York to Los Angeles, I'm going to end up in Seattle.
54:22 And that's the absolute truth. Again, guys, I say it all the time. What do I say it for
54:28 my examples working out? There's nothing that has more diminishing returns than exercising. The
54:33 reason is is because if you do it once, it doesn't cover you for the rest of the year. It doesn't
54:38 cover you for the rest of the quarter, the rest of the month, the rest of the week. It's something
54:41 that you have to constantly do, but it is that obedience in one direction constantly. And it
54:47 doesn't matter what the modality is. It's the action that you're doing and the same applies
54:51 to your spiritual life, sexual life, everything else. But Joshua, we've covered a lot of ground
54:56 in a short period of time. I really appreciate your time today. But that's all for me. Is there
54:59 anything else you want to get off your chest? Yeah, I mean, I just want you to know, like, first and
55:04 foremost, man, if you're watching this and you are struggling with sexual syndrome, if you're
55:07 watching, if you watch pornography 30 minutes before you turn this podcast on, there's there is no
55:13 condemnation, right? There's there's no shame. There's no guilt, right? Because if if you're in
55:19 Christ, if you're in Christ, Romans 8 one says, therefore, there is no condemnation for those
55:25 who are in Christ Jesus. But there is conviction and conviction is from the Holy Spirit. And that
55:31 conviction is you understand, you feel this prompting that, Hey, the direction that I'm moving,
55:37 what I'm thinking that this I saw this on Instagram, and then I'm going to go in this direction,
55:42 you have the choice not to do that. So be like Joseph, not like David David. He looked, he looked
55:51 again, he did something he shouldn't have done. Instead of clearing his browser history, he killed
55:54 Uriah, we don't want to do that. We want to be like Joseph, Joseph, you know, he had this
55:59 interaction with potter for his life, wife, and he didn't stick around and man up. He fled, he fled,
56:05 you know, so when you feel like you're going to do something you don't want to do or you're in a
56:11 situation where you know something is moving in a direction you don't want to go, get out of there,
56:16 close the computer, stop the conversation, get out of there, go take a walk, go hit the gym,
56:22 call someone, do something else. Don't try to man up because what you'll find is you'll end up
56:29 flat on your face and you'll end up doing something you never would have done if you would have just
56:33 removed yourself from that situation. So that's my advice. That's the way to win and just do that
56:39 for a long time. And if you're struggling with pornography, man, that urge might not ever go away.
56:45 Like those thoughts might not ever completely dissipate, but I do promise you this, the more
56:51 that you say no, the easier it will be to say no. And it's like two dogs in the fight, whichever
56:57 when you feed is going to be the strongest. And it's going to pull you in that direction.
57:01 So the more that you do the right thing and the more you say no to the thing you don't want to do,
57:06 even if that desire that Paul talks about Romans 7, you know, what why do I do the things that I
57:12 don't want to do? That desire might still be there, but it's going to be easier to make the right
57:18 decision. And the more you make the right decision, it's going to get easier and easier and easier.
57:23 You just got to keep doing the right thing. I was going to hit my outro. But I do want to
57:28 follow up on something you said, because that's exactly right. Because some people whenever they
57:33 accept Christ or when Christ, you know, snatches them, whichever your your status of theology is,
57:37 their propensity for whatever self medication goes out the window. Right. So they don't want
57:44 to look at porn anymore. They don't want to do drugs anymore. They don't want to have sex
57:48 with random strangers anymore. They don't want to drink alcohol anymore. But then there's everybody
57:52 else. So like me, I've, I don't watch porn anymore, but I feel the pull, I feel the tug towards that
58:00 every day. Yeah, because that's the world that we're in every time you open up any app on your phone.
58:05 There you are one click away from hardcore pornography, even if you're watching YouTube videos.
58:10 But it is that pre decision I talk about all the time, you have to pre decide I am not a man that
58:16 looks at pornography. Yeah. Okay. Because guess what? Oh, and even more pre decide I'm not a man that
58:22 masturbates. Yeah. And you're not going to watch porn unless you need a masturbatory aid. And so
58:27 it's, it's about that pre decision. It's about having the right modalities in place. So I absolutely
58:32 love it. That was a great place. I kind of stole a little bit of your fire from there. But you
58:35 look okay. You know, you didn't blow out your fancy microphone today. So it's okay. I kind of
58:39 got back at the end. But Joshua Broome, thank you so much for coming on a Daunton life of man's podcast.
58:44 Absolutely. There you go guys. I hope you enjoyed my time with Joshua Broome. But before we let you
58:49 go, we are going to do a quick resilience boost at undaunted life. Our mission is equipping men to
58:53 pushback darkness with content that forges spiritual, mental and physical resilience. So I've got three
58:57 links for you today. I've got a link to Joshua's website. I got a link to his Instagram. And then
59:01 also a link to his video that he did with I am second. Thank you guys for listening to this
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59:33 which is off their self titled debut album on face down records. The links are in the description.
59:39 I'm your host Kyle Thompson. Remember, keep pushing back darkness, keep forging spiritual,
59:44 mental and physical resilience. Keep seeking the lion of Judah.
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You don't have a porn problem, you have a soul problem.
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