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JEREMY STALNECKER | March or Die (Ep. 641)

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JEREMY STALNECKER | March or Die (Ep. 641)
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In this episode, Kyle Thompson sits down with Jeremy Stalnecker, a retired Marine and co-founder of the Mighty Oaks Foundation, to discuss the challenges veterans face and the importance of faith in overcoming them. They dive deep into the realities of military service, the impact of combat, and the necessity of community and resilience in the lives of men today.
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0:50 This is Undaunted Life a Man's Podcast.
0:54 I'm your host Kyle Thompson.
0:56 Let's get into it.
0:57 All right, guys.
0:58 We've got a special guest on the podcast today.
0:59 His name is Jeremy Stalnecker.
1:00 He is an author and speaker and he is a retired Marine because you are technically never a
1:04 former Marine, but he was in the United States Marine Corps.
1:07 He was an infantry officer and an Iraq war veteran.
1:10 He also received the Navy Commendation Medal with V for Combat Valor and also he is the
1:15 co-founder and CEO of the Mighty Oaks Foundation.
1:18 We've had Chad Robashow on the podcast several times and he is the co-founder of that organization.
1:22 I really, really enjoyed our conversation today because I was on his show like two or
1:26 three years ago or something like that.
1:28 We just haven't really found the time to get him here on this podcast, but on this podcast,
1:31 we talked about Jiu Jitsu.
1:32 We talked about him and his son and that's what got him into Jiu Jitsu because his 13-year-old
1:37 son took his back and basically was about to choke him unconscious.
1:40 He's like, "Oh crap, I guess I need to get with it and get with the program."
1:43 We talked about that at the beginning, but then we talked about why the Marine Corps,
1:46 why did he want to get in, what it was like being in combat, some of the differences between
1:50 a combat veteran and somebody that never saw combat and what that looks like.
1:55 I also asked him, "Hey, if you were a 17-year-old today as opposed to back in the day, would
2:01 you join the military with all the issues we see with the wokeness in the military and
2:04 not focusing on the things that the military should be focusing on?
2:08 More worried about DEI and not really worried about lethality."
2:11 We get into a lot of that as well, but then we talk about him getting into ministry after
2:15 leaving the Marine Corps, how that led to the Mighty Oaks Foundation, what they can do
2:19 to help out veterans.
2:20 For any of you guys out there that are veterans, about to become a veteran because you're going
2:24 to be leaving the military soon or that you've got veterans that you know that are kind of
2:27 in your world that are loved ones, I would really appreciate you sticking around to kind
2:30 of talk, hear him talk more about his program to see if it would help those folks or to help
2:34 you.
2:35 Also, he has this moniker called "Marcher Die."
2:38 So towards the end of the episode, we actually get into the moniker, "Hey, where does that
2:41 come from?
2:42 How do we really use that?"
2:43 Then we flow at the end a little bit more about men's ministry versus man-friendly churches.
2:48 There were some other subjects that I can't really remember right now, but it was a very,
2:50 very fun conversation.
2:51 I think you guys will enjoy it.
2:52 So without further ado, let's get into it.
2:55 Jeremy Staleneker, welcome to "Dawn to Life of Man's Podcast."
2:58 Thanks, Kyle.
2:59 Good to be with you, man.
3:00 It's good to be with you, and I got to say it's taking us a while to pay this off because
3:03 I was on your show roughly 17 years ago, and so now we're finally taking care of this.
3:07 But right from the beginning, I think I have some issues with you personally.
3:11 It's because I don't think I can trust your judgment of human beings because you were like
3:14 really, really good friends with Chad Robocho, and he is one of the more problematic and
3:21 least impressive human beings that I know personally, so what in the world is wrong with
3:24 you?
3:25 Yeah, he's a real quiet guy.
3:26 He's very hard to get to know.
3:27 He doesn't talk to you much.
3:28 I know.
3:29 It's so frustrating.
3:30 Man, so Chad and I go back a long way, right?
3:34 And we've been through an awful lot together, and yeah, it's been one of my best friends.
3:39 Very good.
3:40 And so now, is Chad the one that got you into Jiu Jitsu?
3:44 So yes and no, that's a yes and no question.
3:46 So my son was 12 years old and he was overweight and really enjoyed playing video games.
3:53 And so, you know, at the time I was pastoring a church, and I knew that we needed to get
3:57 him into something physical.
3:58 And I'm like, man, I'm not going to do the sports thing, teams running around all weekend.
4:04 Part of it is we can't and part of it is I just don't want to set my kids down.
4:09 Both of them.
4:10 And I said, look, let's be honest.
4:11 I don't know if you should have this conversation with your 12 year old, but let's be honest,
4:14 you're not going to be a professional athlete.
4:16 Let's just be honest, right?
4:17 You're not going to be a professional basketball player or baseball player, but you need to
4:21 do something.
4:22 So what would you be interested in?
4:23 We need to get you out doing stuff.
4:25 And we had a good martial arts gym near our house.
4:30 And I didn't know a lot about Jiu Jitsu at the time.
4:32 I knew it was a thing, right?
4:33 And I had met Chad and I knew, you know, kind of what he was into, but we weren't close.
4:39 But there was a gym.
4:40 And my son said, well, I wouldn't mind trying that out.
4:43 And it was a big gym, they had Muay Thai, they had Jiu Jitsu, of course, they had boxing.
4:48 And so I knew if we paid the membership, he'd find something he wouldn't mind doing.
4:52 And we got him into that gym, crazy, crazy stories.
4:55 So I reached out to Chad and I'm like, hey, I'm getting my son into this gym.
4:57 A lot of instructors, do you know any of these people?
5:02 And the Muay Thai instructor, the kickboxing instructor, Daniel Kim, not only was kind
5:08 of, you know, world ranked and incredible kickboxing instructor, but he had trained Chad for several
5:14 of his fights.
5:15 He started out of his gym in Houston.
5:17 So that was a connection.
5:18 So my son started training at 12 and Chad goes, no, you got to be careful because he's
5:23 going to start learning stuff and he may be smaller than you, but Jiu Jitsu is really
5:27 powerful.
5:28 I'm like, it's all right.
5:30 We're rolling around in my living room one evening.
5:34 And my probably 13th this time, your old son took my back and man, I was going out.
5:41 I reached down.
5:42 I grabbed his foot.
5:43 He's barefoot.
5:44 I like, I'm going to break your toes.
5:45 I don't care.
5:46 You're going to go with me right now.
5:48 And he let go.
5:50 And I paid his medical insurance, so I'm like, it'll be fine.
5:53 He let go.
5:54 And I'm like, I need to start training.
5:56 So so Chad definitely encouraged me.
5:58 And then we all moved together, Chad and his family and my family moved to Southern California
6:03 at the same time.
6:05 And he found a gym and we got into it and that's when I started training.
6:07 So yeah, man, Jiu Jitsu for me is it's a personal thing like it is for anyone who trains, but
6:13 it's a family thing, all four of my kids have trained.
6:16 My son, that son is a police officer now.
6:20 When he was 12, we got him in just to get him to do something.
6:22 He would end up spending.
6:23 He was homeschooled at the time.
6:24 He spent four hours a day there.
6:26 He'd go through all the classes and it really shaped his life and has shaped kind of our
6:32 family dynamic.
6:33 So a long answer to your question, but yeah, Chad definitely was was instrumental.
6:37 But there were a lot of factors that got us into it and still training.
6:40 So yeah, it's awesome.
6:41 Well, I'm going to ask you follow up questions.
6:43 So it's going to be even longer because this is one of my favorite subjects to talk about.
6:46 So what the last picture I saw of you was you and your son.
6:48 I think you were both purple belts or what level are you at now?
6:51 I'm a brown belt.
6:53 He's also a brown belt.
6:54 If he trained more, he would be a black belt, but he's he's working a lot.
6:58 But yeah, brown.
6:59 Yeah.
7:00 Been trained for about 10 years.
7:01 Okay.
7:02 So obviously like I'm a walking billboard for jujitsu because you know, we constantly
7:06 talk about spiritual mental and physical resilience.
7:08 And you know, I loved baseball.
7:10 I played baseball my whole life.
7:11 It's the sport that I've played probably more than any other sport other than jujitsu.
7:15 But it's just not hard in the same way.
7:17 It's it's probably the hardest thing to do is hitting a spherical ball with a round bat
7:22 squarely.
7:23 Like that doesn't even make sense to say so it's probably one of the more difficult things
7:26 you can do.
7:27 But it's not like hard to do.
7:28 You don't really have to be resilient to be a baseball player.
7:30 You just need a lot of skill and a lot of practice.
7:33 But in terms of resilience for a kid, I mean, the confidence I've seen little kids that
7:37 were, you know, smaller bodied kids that were getting picked on and then all of a sudden
7:41 they have they start training jujitsu and so out and they're walking, you know, head
7:44 up with their shoulders back and chest out and not because they're ready for a fight.
7:48 But if a fight, not because they're picking a fight, but they are ready for a fight now.
7:52 And so the value that a kid can get from the discipline and from all that, yeah, yeah,
7:55 we get it.
7:56 But the hardest problem I have Jeremy is with adults.
7:59 Yeah.
8:00 So these are guys that are in their thirties and forties and I by now I've been training,
8:05 I've been training for this is seven years, you know, as of right now is how long I've
8:10 been training.
8:11 I've heard every excuse in the world for white guys can't do it.
8:15 I don't have time.
8:16 Well, what about the business?
8:17 Well, what if I get hurt?
8:19 You know, I just love golf too much.
8:20 Dude, I'm never going to get into a fight like dude.
8:23 I can feel carry.
8:24 I don't need to know how to fight with my body and my hands.
8:27 Like, you know, just hey, if something happens, I'll call the police.
8:29 Like, I keep hearing all of these things and it's like, yeah, there's the self defense
8:34 mechanism of it because obviously you can stop a fight in its tracks or you can end a
8:39 threat before it becomes a threat towards you.
8:42 But then there's all the ancillary benefits of it.
8:44 But for you talking to guys that are in your world, like, how do you kind of get guys involved
8:49 in it?
8:50 Because again, the biggest one is injuries and most guys won't actually say that because
8:53 they know it makes them sound like a person.
8:54 So they're not going to be like, well, I'm scared I'm going to get hurt.
8:57 Well, yeah, the odds of you getting hurt, you know, chipping balls onto the green at
9:00 your local golf course are not very high.
9:02 But there's also no transferable value to being able to chip a wall onto the green.
9:07 It's only valuable in a golf context, whereas jujitsu is valuable inside the room and outside
9:11 the room.
9:12 So keep flowing on that a little bit more.
9:14 Yeah.
9:15 I was actually, it's funny.
9:16 I was having similar conversation last night.
9:17 There's a white belt in our gym and he's been training for a while.
9:20 He's still white belt and we were sitting against the wall talking and he's like, man, I come
9:24 in here and some days I feel like I'm doing great and some days I'm not and we went through
9:27 that.
9:28 Like, what's that saying?
9:29 You know, some days you're the hammer and some days you're the nail and I said that
9:32 to him, he started laughing and he's like, I just want to learn to defend myself.
9:35 And I said, you know, for me, this is just Jeremy talking and I was talking to him.
9:40 For me, defending myself out on the street is like at the bottom of my list of reasons
9:45 that I trained jujitsu.
9:46 And everyone thinks it's like it's about fighting and it's about this and that I'm thankful
9:51 that I feel confident and if something happened when I was out, honestly, if there's a door,
9:56 I'm going to go through it, right?
9:57 Like I'm going to avoid fighting.
9:58 I have no interest in it, but if I'm with my family or we're in a place or things happen,
10:03 I know I can handle myself and that's very important to me.
10:07 But the reason I trained jujitsu, the reasons I trained jujitsu, that's near the bottom
10:11 of the list.
10:12 Part of it was first because my kids were there and I wanted to spend time with them.
10:17 And so there are people who are adults, you know, men who are adults, like go do stuff
10:21 with your kids.
10:22 You're always talking about you don't have a connection, you don't this or the hat.
10:25 Get your kids into jujitsu.
10:27 They learn something real they can use for the rest of their lives.
10:30 They can train for the rest of their lives and you get to be there with them.
10:34 That like, honestly, my kids are getting older.
10:38 They're training kind of at their own times.
10:39 It's been harder for me to get in the gym now because I'm not going with them.
10:43 Not to me is like the most special part about jujitsu is training with people that you care
10:47 about, with people that you love.
10:48 So that's one thing.
10:50 And then the community is incredible.
10:51 If you're in a gym where the community is not incredible, go to another one.
10:54 I can recommend some.
10:55 There's some wonderful communities in the jujitsu gym.
10:58 It's so special and like it's hard to explain but you don't know these people most of the
11:04 time outside of the gym, maybe a few of them.
11:06 But the connection you have, the respect you have for each other is amazing.
11:12 And then just the doing hard things.
11:15 I do not enjoy most of the time, you know, rolling particularly with people who are younger
11:22 and faster and stronger than me.
11:25 And you put on a purple or a brown belt.
11:27 Now you have half the class trying to murder you to prove something.
11:30 Exactly.
11:31 I'm 47.
11:32 I don't care.
11:33 I'll tap.
11:34 You would have heard something.
11:35 I'm not the guy.
11:36 Right.
11:37 But it's doing hard things, man.
11:38 And it's like, okay, I got to go to class.
11:40 And I know what that means.
11:42 It's going to be physically exhausting.
11:43 It's going to be difficult.
11:44 But here's what it does.
11:46 It strikes at your pride.
11:48 This is why I think even people who say like, well, it's injury or this or that, most jujitsu
11:53 gyms are very safe.
11:54 Again, if you're in one that people are getting hurt all the time, you need to find another
11:58 gym.
11:59 Right.
12:00 Exactly.
12:01 It strikes at your pride.
12:02 That's why you don't like it because you feel like I'm a tough guy or I'm a strong guy or
12:05 I'm fit or I'm this or that.
12:07 Look, I run ultra marathons.
12:09 I feel like I'm very fit.
12:12 My cardiovascular is very strong.
12:14 I go to the gym and work out.
12:16 If you get away from a jujitsu gym for three weeks, your first role is going to trash you.
12:21 It's not the same.
12:22 Right.
12:23 And so again, in my world where I'm dealing with a lot of tough guys, a lot of veterans,
12:28 people who have done really hard things and really austere environments, they've been in
12:32 combat, I think the reason most of them don't want to train is because it's going to strike
12:37 at their pride.
12:38 They're a 13 year old kid, shred them on the mat.
12:42 But to me, that's exactly the reason you need to be in there.
12:45 Jeremy, I literally wrote down ego when you were given your first answer because it's
12:51 the hardest for the guys who are physically big, who are physically strong, who are athletically
12:56 gifted.
12:57 And I can't remember the guy that said it was just on some random reel on Instagram or
13:01 something, but it's like the problem for most guys with jujitsu is you can't just athlete
13:05 your way out of it.
13:06 That's right.
13:07 You can help with that kid that first time he picked up a football, he threw a 40 yard
13:11 spiral.
13:12 First time he picked up a basketball, three pointer swish, you know, he talked about this
13:15 kitty new growing up where he had never skateboarded and he picks up a skateboard and he starts
13:19 riding around a little bit 30 minutes later, he's kick flipping, right?
13:23 And that's a trick that guys may, you know, practice for six months or a year or longer.
13:27 Certain guys can do that.
13:28 That doesn't happen in jujitsu.
13:30 You're not going to athlete your way in taking someone down and then doing a mounted triangle.
13:35 It's just not going to happen.
13:36 You might be an explosive athlete, you might have some physical advantages where you can
13:40 explode out of an armbar or you can, you know, keep a guy from taking you down because your
13:45 hips just bounce off the mat because you're basically made a rubber.
13:48 Like I get that, but it's coming for everybody.
13:51 Like we've had some guys that were former NFL athletes, one linebacker and one safety
13:55 coming to our gym and you could see when they first started training, they were like, wait
14:00 a minute.
14:01 I am physically superior to every human being in here.
14:04 What is going on into both of these guys credit?
14:07 They kept training.
14:08 They're like, Oh boy, I have found something in my post NFL career that is like something
14:14 different.
14:15 Like this is the first time I've never been dominant in an athletic context before and
14:19 I need to go through that.
14:21 But most guys don't have that Jeremy, like most guys don't get past white belt because
14:25 they can't get past that grind.
14:27 They can't sit there in the parking lot and like just make themselves go in and goes back
14:32 to the hammer and nail thing.
14:33 Here's the thing guys, all of us are nails forever, unless your name is Gordon Ryan.
14:38 The entire planet is a hammer, right?
14:41 And even now, like, you know, I have some physical advantages over some of the guys I
14:44 train with and things like that and you know, I've been training for a long time.
14:47 So it's, I don't get in bad positions as often as I used to, but there are classes, Jeremy,
14:53 where I just get smashed and there are those kids you talked about homeschool, you know,
14:58 homeschool kids and training.
14:59 There's a kid named jet.
15:01 Yeah, exactly.
15:02 There's this kid named jet home school.
15:03 He started training jujitsu and he was like four or five years old.
15:07 And so he just got his brown belt here recently, but in for all intents and purposes, he's
15:10 17 years old.
15:11 He's a black belt.
15:12 He's done well over 300 tournament and pro matches at this point.
15:16 He beats black belts all the time.
15:18 Jeremy, I've never scored on him, like I'm like, I have a wrestling heavy style, right?
15:23 Yeah, I can get two.
15:24 You might tap me a bunch, but I can get two.
15:26 I've never scored on.
15:27 Yeah.
15:28 The other thing is if you've got an ego problem, like you're never going to be able
15:32 to train.
15:33 There was a guy that at white belt, now he's kind of a savant blue belt, so I feel better
15:36 about it.
15:37 But at white belt, I had his back as a purple belt and I left my feet in the wrong position
15:41 for a second.
15:42 He kind of did an ankle lock on me.
15:44 But if I had this ego problem, I would have gotten hurt because I wouldn't have tapped,
15:48 but instead, you know what I did, I tap and I go, crap, man, you got me.
15:52 I fell asleep for two seconds and you took advantage.
15:54 Good for you.
15:55 Yeah.
15:56 I feel like Jeremy, most guys don't have that in any other context.
16:00 They don't have that at work.
16:01 They don't have that in their relationships.
16:02 And I just like anything that we can do to get more guys into it.
16:05 I'm there for, you know, it's, it's wild too.
16:08 Like people don't get this.
16:10 If you go to like through a karate program, right, like there's testing requirements.
16:15 There's if you do these four things, then this is going to happen.
16:18 Jiu Jitsu literally is you show up on day one and you can be learning something as basic
16:23 as the guard position or something as advanced as, you know, a rubber guard or some, some
16:30 crazy like you have to go inverted and do this thing and it's day one, right?
16:35 And in most schools, I know some schools have a curriculum and they have testing requirements,
16:40 but most are not that way.
16:42 It's you're going to learn whatever's happening today.
16:44 If you have a good instructor, he can tie the techniques throughout the week or the last
16:48 couple of weeks together, you start to learn things, but you have to be committed.
16:52 And that's what's crazy.
16:54 You don't like, oh, I've got it now.
16:56 No, you need to keep learning.
16:58 And then you get to the next level and there's more to learn.
17:01 There are more people, you know, in front of you, you hear black belts talk about this
17:04 all the time.
17:05 I got promoted to black belt and I feel like I'm a white belt again, because I'm starting
17:08 over with all these guys who've been training for 40 years.
17:11 And it's, it's, yeah, it's pretty insane.
17:14 And if, if you're not willing to set your ego aside, you're not going to make it.
17:17 There was a guy in our gym last night and he's been training for a couple of weeks.
17:20 I've, I've done some drilling with them and some rolling with them.
17:24 And during our, you know, our sparring, I looked up from the guy I was, I was sparring
17:29 with and he was kind of next to me.
17:32 And he was, he was going to get his arm broken.
17:34 This kid was a wrestler that he was going against.
17:37 He had him in a tight arm bar.
17:39 And this guy has been training for two weeks.
17:40 I'm sure he's a strong guy.
17:42 He's a young guy.
17:43 He's trying to hold it.
17:44 I'm like, dude, stop.
17:45 Like tap.
17:46 He's like, no, no, he doesn't have him.
17:47 No, he has it.
17:48 And he's going to break your arm.
17:49 And, and if you're not willing to set your ego aside and like reset, then you're going
17:54 to get killed.
17:55 There's so many.
17:56 Yeah.
17:57 I'm not, I'm not a jujitsu evangelist per se, but it has been, it's probably been the
18:02 most powerful thing in my life to keep me grounded and keep me coming back to learning
18:06 again.
18:07 And then I'll just tell you just practically, you know, my son, we got him in early.
18:12 All of my kids have trained, but he has trained the most.
18:16 And he started saying when he was like 13, 14, he wanted to be a police officer.
18:19 But now it became a non-negotiable and any strain, I mean, he's training five, six days
18:23 a week, right?
18:24 So he loves it.
18:25 He's in it.
18:26 Now he's out on the street as a police officer doing that work and, and I feel super confident
18:32 that he knows how to take care of himself because he does.
18:34 And so it's very, very practical, just physically and what you learn, but on the emotional and
18:40 mental and just growth, personal growth side.
18:43 Just do it.
18:44 Nobody in their cares.
18:45 Anyhow, so go do your thing and go home and live your life.
18:48 One.
18:49 Yeah, we'll put a bow on the Fujitsu thing for anybody that hates it, which by now we're
18:52 15 minutes in.
18:53 So you better just set it up.
18:54 But I will say this as I've, as I've grown kind of in a donut in some of my understanding
19:00 of leadership and just matured as a human, I don't like goal setting as much as I like
19:04 standard keeping, right?
19:06 So there's goal setting and then there's standard keeping and the, I'll set it up this way.
19:10 You'll have a guy that'll say, Hey, they probably won't do an ultra marathon.
19:14 People say, Hey, I want to do a sprint triathlon.
19:18 Okay.
19:19 It's three months from now.
19:20 It's on the calendar.
19:21 I paid my fee.
19:22 So I'm going to, I'm going to train like crazy for the next three months to do this sprint
19:25 triathlon.
19:26 So they train, train, train, they're dieting, they're getting their arrest or doing all
19:29 this stuff.
19:30 Maybe they're taking peptides.
19:31 Who knows?
19:32 And then they go and do the race.
19:33 And then you know what happens?
19:34 They take the next three months off.
19:36 And so if you look at that six months period, Jeremy, would it have been better had they
19:41 just had some sort of a standard for their physical health and cardiovascular health
19:47 and strengthen all that for six months, as opposed to train, train, train like crazy
19:50 for three months and then to take off three months and end up worse than they were at
19:55 the beginning of the process.
19:56 Yeah.
19:57 And so that's why I tell guys, like, don't set goals, have standards.
19:59 Like I don't set a goal to wake up tomorrow to go and work out my garage gym.
20:04 That's just what I do.
20:05 Yeah.
20:06 So this is kind of this weird amalgam of both things though, because the goal could be to
20:13 win the next tournament or the goal could be to train long enough to get my purple belt
20:17 or to get my black belt or to get my first stripe on my black belt.
20:20 You can set a goal, but it's the standard that keeps you coming because as an upper belt,
20:26 you know, purple, brown, black, there is an ideology that you should be of a certain certain
20:32 level against people that are vaguely like you.
20:34 So guys in their late 40s that are at this brown belt level that are roughly this size,
20:39 you should be able to have a good match with that type of person, right?
20:43 That's basically what this means.
20:44 It doesn't mean you're going to beat, you know, a 22 year old blue belt.
20:47 That was a wrestler at Oklahoma State.
20:48 Yeah.
20:49 Like that, you know, that's, that's not who you're being compared to.
20:52 But you're setting the standard of this is what I do.
20:55 It's not that I've gotten my black belt and I stopped training.
20:57 I know a couple of guys like that and it's like, gosh, like, why did you do all this trouble?
21:01 It's because they set a goal and the goal was black belt, but they didn't have a standard.
21:05 So we'll get off of that because I'm the apostle Paul for Jiu Jitsu.
21:08 I admit it, but we will get off of that.
21:10 I want to rewind the clock back 30 years or so.
21:14 So you're just some knucklehead and then you decide you want to be a professional knucklehead
21:18 and become a Marine.
21:19 So you individually, why did you want to go in the military?
21:23 Why did you pick the Marine Corps?
21:25 So, you know, I've tried to answer that question a few times.
21:28 I was raised in a pastor's home and so you see up front, right?
21:33 Like very close what that looks like, what it looks like to be a pastor, to be in ministry.
21:37 My mom and dad, our family, I guess, started a church.
21:40 And what that meant practically was my dad worked all night and then he would come home,
21:46 clean up, take care of my, my sisters and I, he homeschooled us and then he would do
21:51 all the church stuff all day, he'd get a couple hours of sleep at night and then go do the
21:54 same again, day after day.
21:57 My mom was working a full time job to kind of keep a roof over our head and food on the
22:02 table while that was all happening.
22:03 So, you know, at like 13, 14, 15 years old, that was the life we were living and I was
22:08 super proud of them.
22:10 I wasn't running from God, but I knew clearly that was not the life that I wanted to live.
22:15 Well, kind of you connect that to just things I was reading.
22:18 My dad had given me a book about a congressional on a Medal of Honor recipients and I started
22:24 reading that when I was 12, 13 years old.
22:26 So I became interested in that.
22:28 So this thought of service was certainly a part of my family, but thought of service
22:32 through the military and, and you know, what can be done, what is possible.
22:37 We had some family friends who had been in the military, one of the families who was
22:41 very close to us, Mr. Stevens, he was, I don't know how old he was when I was a kid, but
22:47 my dad would take me over there and sit me down next to his chair, he could barely walk,
22:51 but he was part of the island hopping campaign during World War II and I heard all the stories.
22:55 So just the idea of service, the idea of the military, the idea of doing something big
23:00 and important was, was drilled into me by my parents.
23:04 It was demonstrated through these books that I read and these stories that I heard.
23:07 And then honestly, and I say this sometimes joking, but, but, but honestly, I didn't know
23:11 there was another way to serve in the military other than the Marine Corps until I was like,
23:16 like in college, probably, I'm like, I know there are other services.
23:18 I know that, but like it was never an option, right?
23:22 It was always the Marine Corps.
23:23 And I thought if you are going in the military, you go in the Marine Corps and if you go in
23:26 the Marine Corps, you go into the infantry, that's just how this thing works, right?
23:30 And so that's what I did is set my life toward that, told my parents I wanted to enlist.
23:35 They said, look, you can do whatever you want, we'll support it, but you need to go to college
23:38 first.
23:39 That was very important to them.
23:40 So I went into college, I found a commissioning program that I could do while I was in college
23:46 and yeah, I was commissioned as soon as I graduated.
23:50 So yeah.
23:51 So, Marine Corps, you decide that you're going to kind of do that and from the beginning,
23:57 did you think I'm going to make a career of this?
23:59 Yeah.
24:00 You know, hey, I'm just going to do my first contract or I'm going to do, you know, 20.
24:02 What were you thinking?
24:03 Yeah, I definitely thought that was my career.
24:05 Again, when I was, I think I started talking to my parents about this, not as 14 years
24:08 old, 15 years old, my whole life had been pointing toward that.
24:11 I went to college because they made me.
24:14 It opened a door for me, which was a commission, but I thought I would, I would only ever go
24:19 into the Marine Corps and serve there as long as, you know, as long as they'd let me.
24:23 Yeah.
24:24 So Marine Corps infantry, you get your commission and then you do eventually deploy to Iraq and
24:30 saw combat.
24:31 And so talk to me.
24:32 The first thing I want to ask about is a very awkward subject for some people to say.
24:36 And I love putting people in awkward situations.
24:39 So ready, set, go.
24:40 Yeah.
24:41 Try.
24:42 Just try.
24:43 Okay.
24:44 Yeah, you're a jiu-jitsu guy.
24:45 There's no such thing anymore.
24:46 You've been mounted by a sweaty, angry man.
24:47 So it's just kind of how it goes.
24:48 Yep.
24:49 But there, there simply is a difference in kind between a member of the military that
24:56 has seen combat and a member of the military that has not seen combat or never went outside
25:01 the wire.
25:02 And what I mean by that is where all this kind is coming from Jeremy, a buddy of mine
25:05 was in development group for the Navy Seals and, you know, they're out every single night
25:10 on kinetic missions, you know, capture, kill missions every single night and they get back
25:14 to base on Thanksgiving night and they're all covered in, you know, other people's brain
25:18 matter and sweat and different things.
25:20 And by the time they get back, the only thing left at the Thanksgiving dinner was rolls
25:24 and butter.
25:26 And you know, they all got really, really mad that all these guys that are basically working
25:30 out the Starbucks on base or basically just cleaning out the Humvees and all that got
25:33 to eat all that stuff.
25:35 Now that was how they felt in the moment.
25:37 Obviously later they realized, look, we can't go out there and do these capture kill missions
25:40 unless these guys are taking care of our weapons when we get back.
25:44 We can care the Humvees making sure everything's working properly and so that they had that.
25:49 But there is kind of this consternation in this, you know, this push and pull between
25:54 guys that are combat veterans and guys that are just veterans veterans.
25:58 And so have you ran into that with the work that you've done as you yourself, a combat
26:02 veteran?
26:03 Yeah, for sure.
26:04 So the work we do with veterans, there is often and in the programs that we do, there
26:08 is often this idea that I don't belong here because I didn't serve in combat or I don't
26:13 belong here because I didn't deploy, particularly when you're putting, you know, not just people
26:18 who have been in combat, but people who have been in combat over 20 years, they've done
26:21 six, seven or more deployments.
26:24 The Marine Corps stayed basically to six or seven month deployments, but the Army was
26:28 doing like these 18 month deployments, right?
26:31 And they'd even have, they'd send soldiers home on leave, mid combat or combat, a theater
26:37 environment, a combat theater deployments.
26:40 And so, so there, there is, for some people who've served in the military, this idea
26:44 that, well, I didn't deploy that way.
26:45 And so, you know, we're not the same or I need to be ashamed of something.
26:50 There's, there's a lot to this question, but I'll say a couple of things.
26:53 One, if a person raises the right hand to go into the United States military and they
26:59 are willing to follow through on that responsibility.
27:02 Now this is an important part of this, right?
27:04 But they're not going to run from combat if it comes their direction.
27:06 They raise the right hand.
27:07 They say, I'm willing, I think I just raised my left hand, but you know what I mean?
27:11 Raise your right hand and, and they say, I'm willing, I'm going to go do this, whatever
27:16 that means.
27:17 And they follow through on that.
27:18 If that takes him into combat or not, there is nothing to be ashamed of.
27:22 You put yourself in a position where you could, you know, pick up a weapon and defend the
27:29 ideals that we say we defend in the military.
27:31 So, so there's nothing to be ashamed of.
27:33 So that's number one, but, but number two, there is something different between someone
27:37 who's been in combat and someone who hasn't.
27:40 But that also needs explanation as well, right?
27:42 When we talk about combat, that means different things to different people, different units,
27:47 encounter combat differently.
27:49 I went to Iraq.
27:50 We were part of the initial invasion into Iraq.
27:52 We were the first Marine infantry battalion into Iraq.
27:55 And it was very kinetic in the sense that we took a Marine infantry battalion.
28:01 The berm was breached.
28:02 We pushed through the berm and started killing guys on the other side to secure the first
28:06 objective.
28:07 We did a road march to Baghdad.
28:09 We had engagements along the way.
28:11 We had a tank platoon with us, right?
28:14 It was very much a, a kinetic combat environment.
28:18 When that ended, we came home, troops and follow on would do more of an urban type of
28:24 combat where they're sitting, you know, in urban environments and they're, they're dealing
28:28 with all this involved in that.
28:30 And so their combat looked different than mine.
28:32 There are those who did one combat deployment, which was me.
28:35 There are those who have done many other combat deployments.
28:37 Right?
28:38 So, so again, the combat experience is not the same for everyone is what I'm trying to
28:41 say.
28:42 But if you have been in an environment where you don't have control of what the enemy does,
28:48 where those trace arounds are coming back your direction, where the death of someone close
28:53 to you is imminent, that changes the way you look at the world.
28:57 And so yeah, those who've been in combat, I think, think and act and view the world differently
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30:41 And it's one of those interesting things where again, jujitsu example, like there are certain
30:45 guys, I went to a concert the other day and it was like this underground metal band, my
30:48 favorite band of all time named Zao.
30:50 And there was just this guy, how he was walking up to the line, I was like, that guy wrestled.
30:55 And then when he got closer, I saw his ears.
30:56 And so it's like, okay, he didn't get those from doing his taxes.
30:59 So you kind of feel like you know a little something about a guy like that without them
31:02 having to say something.
31:04 And there is a difference when you talk to someone that is a combat veteran that wasn't
31:08 a kinetic situation that saw death, that dealt death, like there's something different in
31:15 how they describe everything, because it's very easy for people like me who has never
31:20 raised their right hand or left hand to say that I'm going to defend this country from
31:25 enemies, foreign and domestic.
31:27 I can be poetic about war, right?
31:29 Because I've never smelled rotting flesh and in all those things in kind of this war context.
31:35 But when these guys, there's a certain level of calm, but also a certain level of anxiety
31:40 of anxiety in these guys that have done both of these situations.
31:43 And so I guess to kind of fast forward to the end of your career.
31:47 What made you decide, okay, I've done, I've done my time in the United States Marine Corps.
31:52 You know, that's it for me.
31:55 So it was a few things all at the same time.
31:57 And part of it was just ignorance.
31:58 I had, I went into the Marine Corps in 1996, did reserve time before I was commissioned.
32:04 It was just the program that I was in and then started my active duty time in 1999.
32:10 So my lead up to Iraq was all peacetime Marine Corps, became a platoon commander, did peacetime
32:18 deployments to Okinawa.
32:20 So all that happened, right?
32:21 Well, anyone who's been in a peacetime military, particularly in a leadership position, will
32:25 tell you it sucks really bad because you're not dealing with combat preparedness or readiness.
32:31 I mean, you train, you do all of that.
32:33 But so much of your time is spent dealing with DUIs and behavior issues and marriage stuff
32:39 that your Marines, in my case, are going through, like it's all that kind of stuff, right?
32:43 And so I didn't go into the Marine Corps to do that.
32:46 I did that.
32:47 And it was fine.
32:48 We were told shortly after 9/11, we were going to deploy to actually to Jika Stan in support
32:54 of the special operation stuff that was happening in Afghanistan.
32:58 We got pulled off that at the last minute.
33:00 We were told then that instead of going to Afghanistan, we're going to go back to Okinawa.
33:04 And it was during that time that I said, I can't do this anymore.
33:09 I had a wife, we had two little kids, and we were part of a very good church.
33:14 It was a church plant.
33:16 I went to church at that point in my life because I knew it was the right thing to do.
33:19 And I wanted my wife and kids to be in a good church, but started attending there.
33:24 And God used that in a great way to turn my heart toward ministry, which is something
33:28 I had said I would never do.
33:30 So I'm looking at my military career, right?
33:33 It's about to get to the end of my first contract.
33:35 I'm going to miss this war.
33:37 It's going to be over because everything was over quick in the 90s, right?
33:40 It's not going to go very long.
33:42 So if I stay in, I've missed it.
33:44 I'll probably never have another opportunity to do a combat deployment as an infantry guy.
33:48 That's what I was training for.
33:49 That's what I wanted to do.
33:51 And so there was an opportunity to go work at our church when I got out.
33:54 And so all that happened at the same time.
33:57 And then last minute, we're not going to Okinawa now.
33:59 Now we're going to Kuwait.
34:01 And then the war in Iraq started.
34:03 If I had known what that was going to look like, I would have made different decisions.
34:07 But even when we were in Iraq, we made our way to Baghdad.
34:11 And after a major engagement in the city of Baghdad on April 10th, the Battle of Baghdad,
34:16 that was our battalion as well.
34:17 When that was over, the fighting stopped.
34:21 We started to do a dismounted foot patrols in the city.
34:26 The whole environment stopped.
34:28 And so this is George Bush saying mission accomplished, right?
34:31 It was that time.
34:32 And so when we came home, the belief was, all right, the war in Iraq is over.
34:38 So I also felt confident in like, okay, I went, I did this thing.
34:42 And it was a one time thing and it's over.
34:45 So it's time for me to move on with my life.
34:47 So it was a lot of things unfolding all at the same time.
34:49 I think God obviously directed that, but had I known that there were going to be 20 more
34:55 years of that, I would have stayed in and done something different, but God used that
34:59 in my life.
35:00 Yeah, for sure.
35:03 Before we get off the subject of the military, I've asked a lot of guys that are now out
35:06 of the military.
35:07 So some of these guys, all mostly combat veterans, I basically most of the guys that know in
35:12 that world were combat veterans, saw kinetic fighting, you know, everything from seals
35:16 and green berry's to Marine recon infantry, all that.
35:21 Several these, all these guys are proud of what they've, what they did, they're proud
35:25 of the evil that they took care of, they're proud of the meetings that they scheduled
35:31 for some of these guys with their maker.
35:33 They're proud of all those things.
35:34 What they're not proud of, almost every one of them to a tee is what has become in the
35:39 United States military, a United States military that seems to be way more concerned about
35:44 diversity, equity and inclusion and making sure that, you know, if you've got two mothers
35:49 and you're growing up in a big city that you feel comfortable to try to get into the military
35:53 to see what it can do for you, as opposed to what you can do for your country through
35:57 the military.
35:58 And many of these guys are saying like, look, I'm going to tell my kids to not go into the
36:04 military, whereas when they were, you know, still in there like, man, what an honor it
36:08 would be if I could have progeny that would want to go into the military and for these
36:12 guys that have sons, it's like, man, what if my son could also be a Navy SEAL?
36:16 What if my son could be a Marine Marine infantry and all these things?
36:21 And it's because of the wokeness that we've seen in the military and it's because we seem
36:26 to be not concerned with the two biggest tasks of the military, which is to kill people and
36:31 break stuff.
36:32 We seem to be concerned with all these other things.
36:35 What about for you?
36:36 Do if you were the age you were when you decided to go into the Marines now, would you want
36:41 to go into it?
36:42 Like, would you be disappointed if your son like wanted to no longer be a police officer
36:46 and wanted to enlist?
36:47 Like, where would you be on all these things?
36:48 Yeah.
36:49 So it's interesting, right?
36:50 He was a police officer's 23, he's young.
36:53 When he was coming up, I pushed him toward, why don't you at least go into the Marine
36:58 Corps as a reservist and you know, you can get that experience.
37:01 And so we talked a lot about that.
37:02 He didn't end up doing that.
37:03 I have another son who's 14 and actually wants to be a paramedic.
37:07 So he's decided that the Navy is a place he can get some training and he can become a
37:11 paramedic, right?
37:12 And we've had very, not confrontational, but very direct conversations about what that
37:19 looks like and why and no, me pushing my older son, there's seven years between them, me
37:25 pushing my older son into the military.
37:28 And now my younger son, seven years later, like, no, I don't think we need to do that.
37:33 Because of exactly that, there are a lot of wonderful people in the Marine Corps, a lot
37:36 of wonderful people in the military.
37:38 And I know a lot of them, but the direction at least right now at the military is going,
37:44 it scares me to think of my kids being a part of that.
37:50 Yeah, it's a very different world.
37:51 I think there are a lot of reasons for that, but it's a very, very different world than
37:54 it is today.
37:55 And it's so crazy, particularly coming up through the infantry, that was my home, right?
38:00 Like you're there to do a job.
38:03 My job is to train these guys, these young men, how to go anywhere in the world at any
38:09 time and kill bad guys.
38:12 That's our job.
38:13 It's not complicated.
38:14 That's our job.
38:16 We didn't have these conversations that are being had now.
38:18 And to think that we are looking at individuals, not from the perspective of are they capable
38:24 of doing that job, but putting so many other factors on top of it.
38:28 I mean, we could talk about women in combat, we could talk about all these factors, but
38:33 the most important thing for a combat unit is to be combat ready.
38:39 And that means they need to be trained, they need to be healthy, they need to be mentally,
38:42 physically prepared.
38:45 And we as leaders need to be in a position where we can deploy them.
38:49 Anything other than that, doesn't have a place.
38:52 And we're at the point now where it's everything other than that that we're talking about.
38:56 Well, and here's something that seems to make sense to people that are currently in
38:59 the military or to just generalize Americans that realize we have to have a standing military
39:04 of some kind.
39:06 What makes sense is we need a military to defend the homeland in case of invasion from
39:10 our north, south, east or west, we have to have that direct conflicts like, you know,
39:16 we invade Afghanistan after 9/11 to try and go get the guys.
39:20 This is all like, supposedly, but to go get the guys that perpetrated this crime on the
39:25 United States and kill thousands of our citizenry, like all that type of thing.
39:29 But what doesn't make sense to a lot of people is boots on the ground in Ukraine, so going
39:34 from a proxy war against Russia to an actual war against Russia with our 18, 19, 20, 21
39:41 year old boys going over there to fight for Ukraine.
39:45 It doesn't make sense to put boots on the ground in Taiwan, just in case China decides
39:48 they want to invade there.
39:49 There's a lot of conflicts that are kind of being bandied about that people are like,
39:54 wait, that's not for us.
39:55 And even a lot of people, I know that, you know, more patriotic Americans seem to have
39:58 a positive view of Israel and their stance in the Middle East and being the only democracy
40:03 in the Middle East, but they're the same way about that is like, man, if Iran and, you
40:10 know, Syria and Egypt, and if they all just start popping off and trying to take Israel
40:15 off the map, as they've tried to do several times over the last century or so, people
40:20 are like, that also is not my son's fight.
40:22 Like I don't want my kid over there in Israel defending all these people either.
40:26 I think that's an element of this equation too, don't you think?
40:29 Oh, 100% the role of the military is to protect American interests, role of American military
40:35 is to protect American interests at home and abroad.
40:38 And if there is not an American interest, we shouldn't be involved in that.
40:41 Now we can talk about things like democracy and freedom in that.
40:44 And I think we need to support Israel, for example.
40:47 And I think we need to, at least from a position of public acknowledgement support countries
40:54 like Ukraine.
40:55 I don't think we should be sending them money.
40:56 We could talk a lot about that.
40:58 But anyone who's fighting against tyranny, I think we need to support America.
41:02 But what fixes that problem in many ways, short of putting boots on the ground is having
41:07 a strong administration that has a clear understanding of their role in the world.
41:13 When, again, this isn't a political statement, it's just a true statement when Donald Trump,
41:18 when Ronald Reagan, we'll go back to Ronald Reagan, became president, things changed in
41:21 the world.
41:22 Iran did what Jimmy Carter could not get them to do.
41:26 Even the world things changed, even into the Soviet Union, because we had a strong president
41:30 who understood clearly his role in the world, understood that he was a leader, and the rest
41:36 of the world knew that there would be repercussions.
41:38 There would be consequences if they behaved badly.
41:41 When you have an administration in our country that is weak, the rest of the world, tyrants,
41:46 dictators, these are bullies.
41:47 These are the kids down the street who pick on little kids, right?
41:50 They're just in a bigger neighborhood.
41:52 They, when there's not someone to keep them at bay, will pick on the other kids in their
41:56 neighborhood.
41:57 And that's what we're seeing.
41:58 So a strong administration, in many ways, again, we saw this in the Trump administration,
42:01 will keep us from needing to put boots on the ground.
42:05 There are a lot of other ways we can deal with things around the world.
42:07 And so, yeah, absolutely.
42:09 The goal role of the military, the goal and role of the military is to defend American
42:14 interests.
42:15 And, you know, I could get off on a tangent here, but, and not lie about it.
42:21 I'm thankful for my service.
42:22 I'm thankful for what I was a part of in Iraq, but looking back 20 years, I don't think
42:27 we should have been in Iraq.
42:28 And I feel bad about a lot of that because we were lied to, right?
42:33 And so it's, it's clarity, it's integrity.
42:35 It's all of those things from our leadership, but we have strong leaders.
42:38 The world is a different place.
42:40 Yeah.
42:41 I mean, piece of strength is an actual thing.
42:42 Let's talk about Trump whenever they were doing negotiations with the Taliban to try to
42:45 have a organized pullout from the country over a certain period of time, as opposed to an
42:50 all of a sudden pull out so that you can have a, you know, a win, which is what the Biden
42:54 administration did.
42:55 Like it's a famous story now because it's been told by people that were in the room,
42:59 but Trump looks at the leader of the Taliban at the time, the person that was negotiating
43:03 and he says, tell him that if he harms a single, one of our military members that I'm going
43:08 to kill him through an interpreter and he's like, tell him.
43:11 And then he pulls out a picture of the guy's house and just slides it across to him and
43:15 then leaves the room.
43:16 Right.
43:17 And I was just thinking about that story, but even Ben Shapiro has told this story because
43:20 he was talking about, you know, when Trump was privately talking with Vladimir Putin and
43:25 he was basically telling Putin, like you better behave or else and Putin's basically like,
43:29 you're not going to do anything.
43:30 And Trump says, I might and just that chance, just that five, 10% chance that Trump's not
43:35 bluffing is enough to keep someone like Putin, you know, sitting on his hands.
43:40 And so when you have an administration that's like, they don't even understand what peace
43:45 through strength is or what it does, it makes a lot of sense that that's not going to be
43:48 a good thing for us on the international stage and not good for the people that are having
43:52 to suffer and die in those conflicts overseas as well.
43:55 So let's kind of circle back.
43:57 You're out of the Marine Corps, you're into ministry, but at certain point, there's kind
44:02 of this hybrid of military ministry thing that comes up because you are one of the co-founders
44:08 of the mighty Oaks Foundation with Chad Robocho.
44:11 And so let's talk about that, like, how do you go from, okay, I'm out of the Marine Corps,
44:15 oh crap, maybe I shouldn't have gotten out to doing stuff where you are like helping
44:19 veterans in these day in, day out ways.
44:22 So it's crazy, right?
44:23 I left the Marine Corps, came home from Iraq 30 days later, I was out of the Marine Corps
44:26 and working on a church staff.
44:27 I mean, I can spend a whole episode talking about that.
44:31 I set you a hard time adjusting to the new role.
44:35 I didn't realize my identity was so wrapped up with who I was in the military and all
44:39 those things, right?
44:40 So I'm working on a church staff, I'm screaming at staff members who I felt like weren't maintaining
44:45 the standard, whatever the standard, I was the standard for everybody.
44:48 These guys had been to Bible college and I had just come, I mean, literally just come
44:52 back from combat in Iraq, right?
44:54 So like I'm getting thrown out of staff meetings and I'm just a complete disaster around the
44:59 church office and it was a mess.
45:02 Then I was a mess at home, again, I can spend all day talking about that.
45:05 I was eventually confronted by my pastor and by my dad and by some other people and was
45:10 able to get back up and move forward in a positive way.
45:13 But part of that for me was kind of putting my military service behind me.
45:17 I did what I went there to do, I did it well, I'm proud of that, but I didn't stay connected
45:21 to anyone.
45:22 I didn't talk to anyone that I had served with, I didn't stay connected to anyone.
45:25 So I just continued moving on.
45:28 I served at that church for about five years and then I passed her to church up in the San
45:32 Francisco area here in California for seven years and needless to say, there aren't a
45:37 lot of veterans in the San Francisco Bay area, so we had a great church.
45:40 But I just felt like that was a phase of my life and that, I don't know what God did
45:46 there, but I did that and it's over 10 years after I came back, had a guy who I served
45:52 with reach out to me, he's actually a fighter based in a mixed martial artist based in Houston.
45:58 He now owns a Gemini coaches, but at the time he was fighting and he knew Chad and reached
46:04 out to me and said, hey, I met this guy, Chad Robocho, he's starting this program called
46:08 Mighty Oaks and having a hard time getting anyone to attend, they're just getting it
46:12 off the ground and he knows that I know several guys who served and wants us to come up to
46:18 Colorado where he's getting this thing started and do a program.
46:21 So I said, all right, and that's what I did, it's weird looking back on it, I hadn't talked
46:27 any of those guys and I never felt guilty or bad per se, but I just felt like I closed
46:32 the door and walked away and I didn't think I'd ever talk to him again.
46:36 Went up there, that's where I met Chad, Mighty Oaks was just getting started and I would
46:40 go to every program after that and eventually leave the church to be a part of Mighty Oaks.
46:45 But that day or that week, I think there were 10 guys who were a part of my platoon, started
46:50 to hear stories about suicide, started to hear stories about broken homes and broken marriages,
46:55 all the stuff we hear about veterans and I had struggled and part of my struggle was
46:59 saying this is probably unique to me and so I need to put that behind me and walk away.
47:04 I had been helped but I hadn't done anything to help anyone else and I remember where we
47:09 were when these conversations were had and I remember the thought that I felt like I had
47:14 abandoned these guys, like I said, I would be there for you and in combat I was, I tried
47:19 to take care of my Marines, but then I left and I abandoned you and I put that uniform
47:26 in the closet for the last time and my service to these guys was over and I realized man,
47:32 like I've been given a gift and I know the path forward and I'm not perfect and I'm still
47:38 struggling and there are still issues that I'm dealing with in my marriage and in other
47:42 places.
47:43 I don't have it all figured out but I have the tools and more than anything, I understand
47:47 what a relationship with God looks like in this context and how that can carry you forward
47:51 and so really it was that man, it was like you still have a responsibility to these guys,
47:58 not like the military or veterans but like these guys, right?
48:02 The guys you served with and I've got to know Chad that week and you know you're kind of
48:07 joking about it but he he's super charismatic and he's he can get people to do things but
48:12 he had just accepted Christ like a year before that and he was just figuring things out and
48:18 certainly didn't know how to run a Christian program or a faith-based program and so he
48:22 said, hey, would you help me with this thing and we started working and and it went from
48:27 helping these guys to helping you know thousands over time and so yeah, I passed through the
48:33 church and did that for a while and then I think three years after I was involved with
48:38 Mighty Oaks, it just got too much and I had to make a decision and so we decided my wife
48:43 and I decided to resign the church and and do the Mighty Oaks thing full-time.
48:48 So let's talk about programmatically how Mighty Oaks operates because there are you
48:54 know because of the GWOT, there are so many different nonprofits out there now and some
48:58 for-profits that are here to help veterans and their families in a lot of different ways
49:02 and you know I help with some of them like we love full sub-honor and the things that
49:06 they do and you know love Mighty Oaks and different things.
49:09 There is a different element altogether when there is an explicitly Christian, not explicitly
49:15 spiritual because that could be avatar you know, you know, putting your ponytail on a
49:19 tree and trying to like get in touch with the roots kind of thing but like when there's
49:23 an explicitly Christian component to the things that you're doing, my buddy out of Florida
49:27 does project save your outdoors, Mike Dragotch in the end the stuff that they do and when
49:31 it's when it's out front it's very different because there's kind of like the completely
49:37 secular ones and then there's the ones where it's kind of Christian adjacent where once
49:42 you get there and then once they sit you down and you talk to the people individually you
49:45 realize they're Christians and that's why they're doing it but then basically when you
49:49 put your cross the cross in front of everything it changes the game considerably so talk to
49:54 me a little bit about that because I know between you and Chad you've had a lot of experience
49:58 with other non-profits with competing non-profits frankly so talk to me a little bit about the
50:03 difference of this being an explicitly gospel-centered, Christ-centered endeavor.
50:08 I think fundamentally the difference is that we believe that short of a relationship with
50:12 God through Christ whatever therapies, whatever techniques or habit adjustments you're making
50:18 are going to fall short.
50:20 Whatever it is you're doing eventually it has to hit the ground of faith and again that
50:24 can be a broad thing.
50:25 When I say that I mean faith, a confidence in Christ and his payment for our sin on the
50:31 cross, his death, his burial and his resurrection because he's God, defeating sin, defeating
50:35 death, defeating hell and giving new life right and because of that faith that confidence
50:40 in Christ we're able to be reconciled to God okay so that's what I mean when I say faith.
50:43 If eventually whatever you're doing doesn't hit this ground of faith, confidence in God
50:49 in a relationship with him then it's always going to fall short so there are great therapies
50:53 certainly and I wouldn't even argue that.
50:56 Medication even has a place, not the place it's been given but it has a place often and
51:02 a lot of other therapies do but what the clinical world does is they start with the clinical
51:07 therapies, the medical interventions, these things and say if eventually we need to add
51:11 faith whatever that looks like then we'll add it.
51:15 Our starting point is just different.
51:16 Our starting point is you need to have a relationship with God in order to find your identity, in
51:22 order to understand your purpose, in order to be able to move forward with confidence,
51:26 with hope and able to throw off the chains of whatever past trauma is holding you back,
51:32 you have to have a relationship with God or you can't move forward.
51:35 Now if we also at some point have to add other kinds of therapies we can do that as tools
51:41 but the hope and the help is found in a relationship with Christ and so fundamentally that's what
51:46 makes us different.
51:47 We'll add God to the other stuff that's happening, we say that God is the answer and we just
51:53 need to get people to that.
51:54 Okay, very good.
51:56 So this is the part where I basically just opened it up for you to give a commercial for
51:59 Mighty Oaks because there are a lot of folks in our audience that are veterans themselves
52:04 or are about to be veterans because they're still in the military or they have family that
52:08 is that and so who are the guys that y'all help and how is it specifically that you help
52:13 them?
52:14 So our audience would be veterans and again that's a broad category but veterans those
52:19 who have served in the military, active duty service members, we have a lot of active duty
52:22 folks who come to our programs.
52:25 First responders and again first responders is really broad, look I don't want to get
52:28 into a contest about who's a first responder, it's not, I don't mean with you but I have
52:32 people to speak out like, I'm a, you know, TSA agent, I'm my first responder I'm like,
52:37 yeah, not technically, no.
52:39 So but first responders a broad category for us and we'll have folks come and then spouses
52:44 so if you're married to one of those we would invite you to be a part of our programs.
52:48 We have what we call the legacy program, that's a five day program at one of five locations
52:52 across the country.
52:54 We cover the cost of the program for the student, we also cover the cost of travel so there's
52:57 no financial output to you to come to one of our programs.
53:01 Because we're non-clinical as I just mentioned, there's also no reporting requirements so
53:07 particularly for the active duty military folks, those with, you know, with clearances that
53:10 they're concerned about or those in the first responder community, firefighters, police officers,
53:14 we are a place that you can get help without that help then or your problems being reported
53:19 back to your command.
53:20 So if you're afraid that you're going to have to quit your job after you get this kind of
53:24 help, you don't have to.
53:25 So that's important as well.
53:29 And we start from a position of faith, as you mentioned, now it's not all about, you
53:33 know, it's not a camp, like youth camp, right, we talk about trauma, we talk about all the
53:38 things that happen in our lives and happen perhaps in combat or in your service in the
53:42 community.
53:43 We talk about all of those things, we explain all those things, but we spend the majority
53:46 of the week talking about how to find a life aligned to the life that God's called us to.
53:52 Every one of our instructors, this is important.
53:54 Every one of our instructors started as a student.
53:57 They came as a student.
53:59 Maybe they, you know, accepted Christ or they rededicated their life to Christ, whatever
54:03 the case.
54:04 They go through about a year-long leadership training process that we have and there's
54:08 a lot to that.
54:09 And then they're able to lead.
54:10 They can teach the classes, they can lead small groups, and they do all of that from
54:14 a testimonial standpoint, again, very important.
54:16 This is not me telling you what I've read that you should do.
54:19 This is me saying, hey, I know where you are because I've been there.
54:22 I've struggled the same way you're struggling.
54:23 I've dealt with a lot of the same things you're dealing with.
54:26 I don't have it all figured out, but I've started to move forward in my life and here's
54:30 how I'm going to share that with you.
54:32 That tears down a lot of these walls that people put up, no one knows what it's like to
54:35 be me, no one's struggled like me, that kind of thing.
54:38 We get past that really quick.
54:39 In fact, like our first conversation is, this is, we say this way, this is not a hug event
54:44 program.
54:45 This is a poke event in the chest program.
54:47 Like we're thankful for your service, but we're not here to say thank you for your service.
54:50 We've all served.
54:51 So we've got that out of the way, right?
54:52 If you want someone to make you a quilt or bake you cookies, that's wonderful.
54:55 That's not what this is about.
54:57 We're here to poke you in the chest and help you to get up on your feet and start moving
55:00 forward again.
55:02 And so that's really what we focus on.
55:03 We have men's programs separate from our women's programs.
55:05 We have both, but they're separate programs.
55:08 And over those five days, we just work to help you understand who God created you to
55:11 be and how to move forward in a meaningful way.
55:14 Very good guys.
55:15 Well, in the show notes, you can get all the information there.
55:17 You can go to the website and check out everything that they have going over there at Mighty
55:19 Oaks.
55:20 I highly recommend that for anybody that you feel like falls in what you just described
55:24 there.
55:25 Yeah.
55:26 So I can see it on your coffee cup, and I know it's a big moniker for you.
55:28 March or die.
55:29 Yeah.
55:30 So when people think of Jeremy, yeah, they think of Mighty Oaks and they think of the Marine
55:32 Corps, but they also think March or die.
55:35 So you got to tell our audience what is it about that, that moniker, why have you branded
55:40 your podcast in that way?
55:42 And what's the deal with that?
55:43 Yeah.
55:44 So that came from a story while we're in Iraq, and I'll give the short version.
55:50 I wrote about this in the book entitled March or die.
55:53 This is part of my podcast.
55:54 March or die.
55:55 I've also told the story there, but it has become a moniker for my life, kind of a mantra
55:59 for my life.
56:00 You have the opportunity to make a decision.
56:03 But as crazy as life may seem, you only get one or two choices.
56:06 You can stay where you are and die.
56:08 Maybe not physically, hopefully not, spiritually, emotionally, relationally, or you can do the
56:12 better thing in March.
56:13 You can put one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward.
56:16 Where that came from for me was an actual event.
56:18 We were, it was April 1st, April Fool's Day, 2003.
56:23 We were making our way toward an objective that we were supposed to secure.
56:26 It was a bridge on top of a canal, and we were supposed to get there and just secure
56:30 the near side, so not go over the bridge, stay on the near side so other units could
56:35 follow through.
56:36 We were given the orders to do this in the middle of the day because there were presumably
56:39 no enemy soldiers there, right, and this is military intelligence.
56:44 It's never been very good.
56:46 I was the second vehicle back in our column.
56:48 It's about 1200 Marines in a battalion, so we're stretched out over a couple of miles.
56:53 I was navigating for that unit for the battalion.
56:56 I had a lead vehicle out of security, and then my vehicle I was navigating and was on
57:01 the radio to direct the battalion to that position.
57:04 As we came around the corner, we came into this straightaway where you could see the
57:08 berm on top of the berm was the bridge.
57:10 That was our objective.
57:11 The mortar rounds started to fall around us.
57:13 Clearly, there were enemy soldiers there.
57:15 The ground around us was soft enough that those explosions were happening underground,
57:20 so the shrapnel was contained, but you still have the percussion and the smoke and everything
57:23 goes along with that.
57:24 We got closer to the bridge.
57:26 There was a machine gun position.
57:27 It was a company-sized element we found out later.
57:29 Over 100 enemy soldiers in that position that were oriented toward us and started to engage
57:35 us, and the mortar rounds continued to fall.
57:38 We fought our way through that machine gun position.
57:40 I had to make the decision to push on top of the bridge and just to figure out where
57:45 the mortars were coming from.
57:46 We weren't supposed to be there, but we were pushed on top of the bridge, got bunched up
57:50 on top of the bridge.
57:51 There was also an anti-aircraft gun there, ZSU-23-4, which is an old Soviet-era 23mm anti-aircraft
58:00 gun.
58:01 It was there, elevated to prevent our aircraft.
58:04 We got on top.
58:05 We're the threat.
58:06 They start spending our direction.
58:07 We got the mortar rounds falling around us.
58:09 We're caught in that kill zone, what people call the X of the ambush, and at that moment
58:14 in time, and this is where it all comes together, at that moment in time, a decision has to
58:18 be made.
58:19 Are we going to stay where we are and die?
58:20 We just fought through two other obstacles.
58:22 We're in a very bad position.
58:24 We don't know what's coming next, or we're going to stay where we are and die, or we're
58:27 going to get out of that kill zone and figure out where we can better engage the enemy from.
58:32 We did.
58:33 That phrase came, actually, the French Foreign Legion used that many, many years ago.
58:37 That was their moniker, "Marcher die."
58:40 The first unit I was a part of in the Marine Corps, when I was a rifle platoon commander,
58:45 that was their motto, "Marcher die," which I love it because it's Marine proof, right?
58:47 You don't have a lot of choices.
58:49 You can march or you can die.
58:52 It's crazy what you think of when people are trying to kill you.
58:54 I've had this experience a few times, but on top of that bridge, it's like, "Yeah, we've
58:57 got to get out of here.
58:58 We need to march.
58:59 We've got to get out of here."
59:01 I have a whole resiliency talk wrapped up in that and the decision process that's made
59:05 from time to time, but you find yourself in these battles you didn't expect.
59:08 We didn't expect that that day.
59:10 You may not get to pick the fight, but you definitely get to decide how you're going
59:13 to fight.
59:14 We had to fight.
59:15 The decision to do that was made many months and even years before, as we trained for a
59:19 moment like this one, so you pre-decide how you're going to deal with those engagements
59:23 that will come.
59:24 You find yourself on that X and now you have to make a decision.
59:28 Am I going to stay here and die or am I going to move on?
59:30 Then you have to make that decision.
59:32 You only have two.
59:33 As overwhelming as it may seem, you only have two.
59:35 Put one foot in front of the other, keep moving forward.
59:38 When you do, you'll learn finally that perseverance is a superpower.
59:43 Just keep pushing forward, keep pushing forward, and you'll get to where God wants you to
59:47 be.
59:48 It didn't happen on purpose.
59:51 It just became part of my thought process and how I looked at the world and I started
59:56 writing about it and talking about it, but March or die.
59:58 That's it, man.
59:59 That's all you've got.
1:00:00 Stay where you are.
1:00:01 You're going to die, but you're making the decision.
1:00:03 No one takes that power away from you or you can March.
1:00:07 There's also in line with that, and I think I've heard you explain it this way before.
1:00:11 There are people that think that they can just stay where they're at and while they make
1:00:16 their decision, it's like, no, no, no, you are either moving forward or moving backward.
1:00:20 You are not hovering in place.
1:00:22 That's just not how this works.
1:00:25 You have to make some sort of a decision and the decision to stay does not lead to good
1:00:29 things and the decision to move could lead to much better things.
1:00:33 I appreciate the way that you explained that.
1:00:35 We're getting close to time here, but I did want to talk a little bit about this because
1:00:39 you've been in ministry before on the church side.
1:00:42 You've been in ministry on the pastoral side, on the nonprofit side.
1:00:46 I want to talk generically about men's ministry because when I started Undaunted Life, it's
1:00:50 like, hey, we are a men's ministry, but then even saying it that way, I'm like, I know
1:00:53 what people are hearing when I say that because typically men's ministry is just women's ministry
1:00:58 that's repackaged for men.
1:01:00 And so you go to the U version Bible app and you scroll the men's devotionals and it's
1:01:05 as if they were written by women for women and so they attract a more feminine type of
1:01:10 man or you can tell it's like people that are just trying too hard to seem tough and
1:01:14 to seem aggro and they're just not and it's just, that's not authentic and doesn't feel
1:01:18 right.
1:01:19 Yeah.
1:01:20 And I kept Jeremy over the years.
1:01:21 I kept having guys ask me like, you know, my church doesn't have a vibrant men's ministry.
1:01:24 What can I do?
1:01:25 And how can we have a better men's ministry and blah, blah.
1:01:26 And I would keep getting invited to speak at these events that they were calling men's
1:01:30 ministry and it was their once a year thing for men where they make chili or smokes a
1:01:38 meat and they bring in a guy like me to yell at their people and tell them that they suck
1:01:42 and then then it's just like, all right, we'll see you guys next year.
1:01:45 Yeah.
1:01:46 And so I stopped talking about men's ministry and I started focusing on what it takes to
1:01:50 be a man friendly church.
1:01:53 So it's very different, but it's like most of the time when men walk into a church, especially
1:01:58 men that are kind of, you know, rougher around the edges or like things like jujitsu and fighting
1:02:02 and combat and things like that, their minds will be a blinking neon sign outside the church
1:02:06 saying, this isn't for you.
1:02:08 Like this is for the women and the children, the ministry, the ministry opportunities, the
1:02:13 volunteer opportunities, the mission opportunities are going to ping way more feminine.
1:02:17 And if that's not you, it is what it is.
1:02:19 The music is going to be more so homo erotic, more so like emotionalism as opposed to like
1:02:24 singing to the God of the universe as if he's the God of the universe.
1:02:28 And the sermon content is going to be a little bit more Ted talky with a little bit of practical
1:02:32 Bible verses that you can sprinkle over the top.
1:02:34 So it's more life lessons and not, you know, exegesis of the scripture and all that.
1:02:38 And most men are like, ah, these people don't even need me.
1:02:41 I'll go somewhere where I'm needed.
1:02:43 And so I'm trying to encourage new men like, Hey, worship leaders, think about the men
1:02:49 in the audience, think about the men in the congregation, rather, and think about why they're
1:02:53 not singing.
1:02:54 Is it the way you're presenting yourself?
1:02:56 Is it the lyrical content and what's being sung?
1:02:58 Is it the key that you're singing in that the man can't hit for the pastor?
1:03:03 Is this content going to invigorate the heart of a man?
1:03:06 Because it's like it's not the mom that keeps the family in church.
1:03:09 It helps raise the children to be believers as well.
1:03:13 It's a dedicated father that is dedicated to discipleship and catacizing their entire
1:03:17 family and performing headship of their household.
1:03:21 So what is your experience and your opinion on that because you've seen this thing that
1:03:25 I'm talking about basically from all sides of the issue?
1:03:29 I have.
1:03:30 And you know, I've talked about this too.
1:03:32 You've even a lot of what you talk about has helped me think through some of this.
1:03:35 But it's interesting because I think we're told like something like 70% of churchgoers
1:03:40 or women, something like that.
1:03:41 I don't know if that's exactly right.
1:03:42 But it's a lot, right?
1:03:43 And if you look around your normal church on a Sunday morning, you'll, you go, Oh, I
1:03:47 didn't notice this, but, but that's true.
1:03:50 Even if you're in a church that doesn't, you know, necessarily per their faith statement
1:03:55 believe that women should be pastors, most of the leadership in the church would be women
1:03:59 as well.
1:04:00 Right?
1:04:01 And so, like, well, you can't stand and preach, but you can do everything else.
1:04:03 I'm not saying this right or wrong.
1:04:05 I'm just saying if you look at who's leading the church, who's attending the church, who's
1:04:08 guiding what happens to the church in a lot of churches.
1:04:11 And again, a lot of research would say in most churches, it's women.
1:04:15 So then there's almost like this over correction, right?
1:04:17 But then there are people who are like, I want to make a church for men.
1:04:21 And if women want to come along and they can, well, then you get into like this silly, like,
1:04:24 if you don't, you know, if you're not an MMA fighter, if you're not a hunter, or if you're
1:04:29 not this or that, if you don't like, you know, swords and carry three guns, then you don't
1:04:33 fit here because that's what a man is, right?
1:04:35 Like, well, that's not what a man is either.
1:04:38 And so my opinion and where I feel the most comfortable is funny.
1:04:42 I was preaching at a church a couple of months ago and it wasn't even on men's topics or
1:04:46 anything else.
1:04:47 And then I came up to me afterwards like, man, the way you preach is just so, I mean, you
1:04:50 pause like it's just so masculine talking about what's preaching the truth of the word
1:04:55 of God.
1:04:56 Robert Lewis is an author, he writes a lot to men and he said, you know, real men reject
1:05:01 passivity, accept responsibility and lead courageously.
1:05:06 And to me, that's what a man is.
1:05:07 It's not a style per se.
1:05:09 It's not a thing that you do.
1:05:11 Some people love you, Jitsu and others don't.
1:05:13 It's, it's doing hard things.
1:05:15 It's being responsible for the family that God has given to you.
1:05:18 It's leading that family.
1:05:20 It's leading in a society and a culture that is pushing you down and saying that you have
1:05:24 no place and you have no voice.
1:05:27 It's understanding what God's word says, which means you study it and you know what it says.
1:05:32 And then it's responding to what it says.
1:05:34 It's doing what God has called you to do.
1:05:37 It's doing those hard things.
1:05:38 And man, why it's so hard for churches to call men to do that, why we take a middle ground
1:05:46 and it's like, well, you know, men and women are basically the same and we're, we're basically,
1:05:52 I just don't understand that messaging because it's not biblical messaging.
1:05:56 And so I think where a pastor needs to be and where a church needs to be is asking the question,
1:06:00 what is the role of men?
1:06:01 What is the role of women biblically and how do we help the men and women in our church
1:06:04 express that if we would do that, then we would see men being men and stepping up.
1:06:11 And it is, it's crazy to me that that's not just the normal, even if you look at the New
1:06:17 Testament examples, right, you look at the church of the New Testament, it's strong men
1:06:20 being strong men.
1:06:21 I don't know if they ate raw meat or not, but I know they stared down some very powerful
1:06:26 people and did so with a strong backbone that there were a lot of people watching who after
1:06:32 the death of those martyrs who stood those people down went out and changed the world.
1:06:36 And we need to be those kind of men and we become so complacent and so comfortable and
1:06:41 a pastor needs to call men to to action and getting away from that.
1:06:46 Well, part of the problem, Jeremy, is we're taking our cues from culture.
1:06:49 And so much of the modern church has accepted its position and has downstream from culture.
1:06:54 And so if you're downstream from culture, you will be more egalitarian than complimentary
1:06:58 in because that's what the culture is, it's well, anything a man can do, a woman can do.
1:07:03 And the reality is, is if that is not a biblical ethic, that is a cultural ethic.
1:07:07 And so the biblical ethic is men and women are created equal in the sight of God and in
1:07:13 his image, but they don't have the same role and purpose.
1:07:16 And so, but that is anathema to culture.
1:07:18 Like you couldn't possibly say that you're telling me a woman can't be the CEO, you're
1:07:21 telling me the woman can't do this, you're telling me that you start getting into those
1:07:25 conversations.
1:07:26 And so that's where I think a lot of modern pastors have really screwed the pooch is because
1:07:30 what they do is that they they figure out what five week series they want to do.
1:07:36 They want to figure out what life lessons they want you to walk away with.
1:07:40 And then they start thinking about the scripture they want to apply to how to be a better person.
1:07:45 But it's like, guys, this isn't how to win friends and influence people.
1:07:48 Like this is the gospel being taking to every people group and to the ends of the earth,
1:07:53 so that, you know, Christ could gather his, his flock as it were.
1:07:58 And so that's the thing that I think for a lot of guys is the same to your point that
1:08:02 you made about the aggro guys where if you don't eat beef jerky, have a four-wheel drive
1:08:06 truck covered in mud and kill animals on the regular, that you're not a man either.
1:08:09 That's also being downstream from culture, because that is like caricature machismo and
1:08:15 all that.
1:08:16 And some of those things in and of themselves are not wrong.
1:08:18 But as my pastor, buddy, Joby Martin would say, those things make you awesome.
1:08:21 They don't make you a man.
1:08:23 And so I think that that's, that's very applicable here.
1:08:25 And so man, we've, we've done it out of a lot of different conversations here and talked
1:08:29 about a lot of different things, but I can't think of anything else to ask you actually.
1:08:32 I have a lot more things I could ask you, but we don't have all the time in the day.
1:08:35 But that is all for me.
1:08:36 Is there anything else you want to get off your chest?
1:08:37 No, man.
1:08:38 I appreciate it.
1:08:39 Thanks for the work that you do and for being a clear voice for a lot of men who need
1:08:43 it.
1:08:44 All right, Jeremy.
1:08:45 Appreciate you.
1:08:46 We'll see you next time.
1:08:47 There you go guys.
1:08:48 I hope you enjoyed my time with Jeremy, but before we let you go, we are going to do a quick
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