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DOMINION | Mitch Renda (Ep. 768)

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DOMINION | Mitch Renda (Ep. 768)
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In this episode, Kyle Thompson talks with Mitch Renda about the importance of financial health and the transformative Dominion Program. They discuss mentorship, the pursuit of excellence in manhood, and the necessity of being rooted in biblical principles as they navigate life's challenges.
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1:18 This is Undaunted Life, a Man's Podcast.
1:22 I'm your host Kyle Thompson.
1:24 Let's get into it.
1:25 Hi, guys.
1:26 As you know, we've been talking to several guys that have already been a part of the Dominion
1:29 Program, or are currently going through the Dominion Program, and so we have a representative
1:32 of Team Two, Dominion Team Two, so that's Mitch Arenda, so Mitch, thank you for coming
1:36 on the show, and just as a wave introduction, we need to know, where are you located?
1:40 What do you do for a living?
1:41 How old are you?
1:42 Let's just start with the basic stuff.
1:44 I located in Cincinnati, Ohio, commercial real estate development and redevelopment, and
1:50 I'm 30 years old.
1:52 Okay, so now from Ohio, and so people are automatically thinking like, "Oh, did you go
1:58 to the Ohio State, and why do they put a capital all capped, the in front of Ohio State?
2:04 Can you set the record straight for us?"
2:05 Arrogant, cocky, other words, I won't use.
2:10 I'm a Penn State guy, and we don't have to go down that route, Kyle, we've done it before,
2:14 but I am as anti-Ohio State as one can get.
2:18 I just so happen to live in the same States as many of these folks.
2:22 Well, we're either going to get people excited about you, or they're going to be really, really
2:26 mad at you.
2:27 So, when you compare Big Ten football or B.I.G. football, or whatever that stupid logo is,
2:32 where it's like a 10, but it's a G, so big football, and SEC football.
2:37 All right, so I'm from Big 12 Country, but the Big 12 technically doesn't exist anymore,
2:41 or whatever, sorry, shots fired.
2:44 But what do you think?
2:45 Yeah, I mean, if you were being honest, you know, gun to your head, better players, better
2:50 overall game play, better school, I mean, what are you going on?
2:54 Let's not get emotional about it, and let's stick with statistics and, like, facts in
3:00 history.
3:01 Okay, all right.
3:02 In most recent history, we had a national champion two years ago, right?
3:05 And then we had a national champion this year.
3:09 What kind of crisis?
3:10 What about, like, the previous 20 years?
3:12 I said, "What?"
3:13 I'm having trouble.
3:14 Are you asking about now, or are you asking about history?
3:18 Like, where are we at?
3:20 Hey, three years ago is still now, and, you know, basically, hey, and if football were
3:25 a woman, they remember everything for all time.
3:27 Okay, and so let's start counting up the champions for forever, so I don't know where
3:31 that would end up.
3:32 But we're not talking about football.
3:33 All I say is the last word.
3:35 The whiteout is better than Georgia's environment tell Jobe that, and I'll tell them that too.
3:42 The whiteout, oh, shots fired directly at Jobe.
3:45 He's not even trying to--
3:46 I had to do it.
3:47 He thinks SEC is end-all be-all, I just got to say.
3:51 There's more to the world.
3:52 Well, Mitch, I just got to tell you, he's been to a lot of SEC football games.
3:56 I've been to a couple of big 12 games.
3:58 I've never experienced a big 10 games, so I think the way that we fix this is the next
4:02 whiteout, or where there's, like, a big game that Penn State's going to lose, because anytime
4:06 they play someone at the top five, that's what happens.
4:08 But, like, when there's a big game like that, that happens, just invite Jobe and I up there
4:12 flies on your private jet or whatever you got, because everyone in Ohio apparently has
4:15 one of those.
4:16 And then just zip us on up there, and then we can experience it for ourselves, we say.
4:19 Note it.
4:20 All right, note it.
4:21 He's written it down, guys.
4:22 But we got to get to some business today, but obviously you and I have known each other
4:26 for a while now.
4:27 But I just want to, first of all, get an idea.
4:29 How did you find Undaunted Life?
4:31 Why in the world do you still consume Undaunted Life content?
4:33 Kind of how did all that start?
4:35 I started searching diligently for biblically rooted content for men a while ago.
4:45 This is probably, like, pre-COVID or COVID time, something like that.
4:50 And you came up, you popped up.
4:52 I don't really remember how you popped up, but you popped up, and you are a fierce and
4:58 vicious redhead, and I love that about you, Kyle.
5:02 And you're not afraid to say it how it is, and that's truly what I was looking for, someone
5:05 who's not afraid to say it how it is, to save the truth and to stand firm on the truth.
5:09 And so I found that in Undaunted Life, and I've just been listening and following ever
5:13 since then.
5:14 Yeah.
5:15 And so it's so interesting and fun for me.
5:18 The people that reach out, it's everything from, like, 14, 15-year-old boys that, you
5:23 know, started listening to this, it's like they're one of their first podcasts to guys
5:26 in their 70s and 80s that are like, hey, I've never heard anyone talk this way, and so it's
5:30 weird kind of being in the middle of all those different generations.
5:33 And now in terms of the Dominion program, so you were one of the people that signed up
5:37 or put in an application whenever we announced it publicly, because Team One was private.
5:42 We were just kind of doing it almost like a beta.
5:44 Is this really going to work?
5:45 Are guys really going to be into this?
5:46 And it just went so spectacularly, we're like, okay, we got to roll this out.
5:50 But it was still kind of a smaller rollout, right?
5:53 So I talked about it on the show where you're immediately flooded with applications, but
5:57 there's not like a huge staff of people here that were handling the application.
6:01 So it was just me.
6:02 So here I am like, oh, my Google Docs, like, you know, looking at the different people
6:06 that put in their applications and reading them and trying to find time.
6:09 And if I remember correctly, I was, I was in Jacksonville when we did your interview because
6:15 I was supposed to be doing something else.
6:17 I was in town for something else that fell through and I'm like, what the heck am I going
6:19 to do?
6:20 I've got like two days to waste.
6:21 So I was like, okay, I'll do some more, some more interviews.
6:24 And so I sent a second email out to a small group of people, I was like, Hey, I've got
6:28 this many interview slots, I'm sitting in a hotel room, like, you know, strike while
6:32 the iron's hot.
6:33 And I think you were one of those when I was in Jacksonville.
6:35 But what was it about what we said about the Dominion program publicly through the podcast
6:39 on our email list where you're like, okay, that's something I at least need to apply
6:42 for and look into a little bit further.
6:46 I think one thing that really caught my attention.
6:49 So I, again, another season of life where I've been seeking for mentorship that's biblically
6:54 rooted, that can help me grow in areas of a father, a husband, a father and a business
6:59 and an entrepreneur.
7:00 So I'm looking for that right now.
7:02 And then you start coming out with the Dominion marketing and stuff like that, but you use
7:06 specific language like guys who are killers, guys who are elite, guys who are like ruthlessly
7:13 trying to grow.
7:15 And that's what really triggered in me in interest to at least explore it more and talk
7:21 to you and figure out what this is all about because I've just noticed in life when you're
7:26 surrounded by guys like that, and guys who are, again, it's another one of those in line
7:31 with tell you how it is things like I'm not, you're not trying to tell people what they
7:34 want to hear, you're trying to tell people what they need to hear.
7:37 And when you're surrounded by guys like that who have, who are, who are seeking that out
7:41 and guys like maybe who have been there done that, who are feeding into others, you can't
7:45 help but grow and grow near to the Lord, which is ultimately what I was looking for.
7:51 And I remember at the beginning when I started talking about like, hey, I'm looking for
7:54 killers.
7:55 Like some people are kind of uncomfortable with that language because obviously I'm not talking
7:57 about people that murder other humans, but it's that, that killer instinct, that killer
8:01 mindset to where guys want to be elite.
8:04 They don't just want to be a dad.
8:05 They want to be an elite level dad.
8:06 They don't want to be a husband.
8:07 They want to be elite level husband.
8:09 They don't want to be just a member of their church.
8:10 They like, they want to serve the local body of believers in an elite way.
8:14 And so when I use that language, like I'm looking for killers, killers understand what
8:17 I'm saying.
8:18 So if someone were to say that to me, I'd be like, oh yeah, that's, that's kind of my
8:21 mentality.
8:22 Like it's not killer be killed.
8:23 It's just having that killer mindset.
8:25 But I guess for you, it's always, I don't know if I've, I've asked you this, but you
8:29 know, we've evolved the program a little bit to include a couple of different tracks and
8:33 you went with the track that gets a lot of one on one access with me.
8:37 And so every month we're, we're doing one on one interactions.
8:41 And also you're, you're coming out to Oklahoma here soon to spend some time with me kind of
8:44 in my world.
8:45 You're getting tattooed by my tattoo artists.
8:47 And like, you know, just text messages throughout the month and like connecting on very specific
8:52 things to your life, to your business.
8:54 And so for you, like what made you make the jump?
8:57 Like what made you, because it is a significant investment of time and effort and capital.
9:02 Because the thing is, is if it's, if it's cheap or free on time or effort or capital,
9:08 then guys just treat it that way.
9:10 And that's why I'm just real public about it.
9:11 It's like, yeah, this, this program, um, you know, it's, the investment just kind of is
9:15 what it is, but you have guys that have plenty of capital, but they don't really have the,
9:19 the will or desire to put it in.
9:21 And it's only if you really put in the time, effort and capital to where you really get
9:24 the overall experience.
9:25 But what made you jump?
9:26 Yeah, I've always been at least of recent and recent years wired to either, if I'm going
9:33 to get something out of something, I'm going all in.
9:35 It's like a go, jump off the deep end kind of thing.
9:39 And if I'm not, if I'm not going all in, then, you know, I don't treat it.
9:45 Like I'm going all in.
9:46 And so for, for this, I eat two options, you know, one more expensive than the other, one
9:52 more one on one direct time with you than the other.
9:55 And I, I didn't, I, for me personally, it was either I'm going all in or I'm not going
10:00 to do it.
10:01 And, and I get a ton out of the, I get a ton out of the, you know, the package that isn't
10:06 the elite package or isn't the one out a lot of one on one time with you package.
10:09 I get a lot out of that for sure.
10:12 But what it went out, what I was seeking wasn't necessarily another smoger or anything and
10:16 not that that is, it's more than a smoger, but I was seeking direct one on one time with
10:23 someone who can pour into me and directly head on answer or at least provide insight
10:30 into the things that I'm dealing with in my own life, into the challenges, into the, the
10:35 risks that I want to take and the decisions that I feel like I need to make, I need that
10:40 head on one on one time.
10:42 And I find that that's really, that's really hard to find.
10:45 It's really hard to find someone you want to listen to who's rooted in scripture, who
10:49 I can look at their family life and be like, yeah, I, I would get behind that guy.
10:53 Like, I, I want to be, I want my family to look like his family one day more or less.
10:59 And then someone who is also trying to build something and create something and willing
11:03 to take risks and willing to make sacrifices and be in uncomfortable positions to just
11:10 follow where God's calling them to go.
11:12 And so I'm in that right now, I'm trying to take risks and, and go where God's calling
11:17 me to go.
11:19 But I hear in there, I'll get advice and some wisdom, but I haven't had direct one on one
11:25 very intentional deep time.
11:27 And that's what I thought I was going to get out of the lead.
11:30 And that's what I've gotten out of the lead.
11:32 And I, I appreciate you going into the detail because, uh, what I've learned over time,
11:37 especially because I have a public profile, like I'm not, you know, I guess there are
11:41 people all over the world that listen to the show and it's, it's really, really grown over
11:44 the years and we've seen tremendous blessings come out of it.
11:47 People want, um, they want proximity to me.
11:51 And that was the thing that we couldn't figure out for years, for years, people and advisors
11:56 and just friends of mine would be like, man, like we got to get you in front of more people.
11:59 Like we, we need your philosophies like actually being lived out in individual lives and not
12:04 just people listening to the show, which is tremendously valuable, but like, you know,
12:07 how do we do that?
12:08 And that goes back to why we designed the Dominion program the way that we did to where
12:12 it's like, okay, equipment to push back darkness.
12:17 You know, cultivating spiritual, mental and physical resilience.
12:20 Now what does that look like when I'm doing that one on one with somebody?
12:22 What does that look like when I'm doing that one on small group of killers, right?
12:26 What does that look like because that's how a program like this becomes, you know, and
12:30 I don't want to be hyperbolic, but more of a movement as opposed to just a program because
12:34 it's like, okay, if we have individual guys and their individual businesses, individual
12:38 church congregations, individual homes, neighborhoods, whatever, pushing back darkness, equipping
12:44 themselves to push back darkness, equipping others, cultivating spiritual, mental and
12:48 physical resilience, like that's that's how you turn the ship, right?
12:51 That's how you change society.
12:53 That's how you change culture.
12:54 That's how you do those different things and obviously we partner with some very specific
12:57 ministries and churches and things like that for the stuff that we, we don't specifically
13:02 do.
13:03 We kind of help get get that out there.
13:04 But for you, I'm curious as because, you know, you're an eyes time during this initial part
13:09 of the program is going to be winding to a close before too long would have been some
13:13 of the things that you've seen that have been a benefit to you, a benefit to your family.
13:16 Because I mean, you had your first kid during during this process.
13:20 So I kind of got to see and you know, you look like you've been getting sleep, which is
13:23 shocking at this, at this point, because I think what, what are they two, two months
13:27 old or something like that, three months old.
13:28 And so like what would have been some of those aha moments with either me or the groove to
13:32 where you're just like, okay, these are the, these are the nuggets that I've taken that
13:35 have helped me as I'm trying to operate.
13:37 Yeah, there's been a lot of those.
13:40 And yet, I got to say the reason I'm looked like I'm getting sleep is I am because my
13:44 wife's a beast and she does majority of the work.
13:47 So shout out to Mrs. Rinda.
13:48 Yeah.
13:49 But a lot of those and a lot of those in our one on one times and a lot of those in the
13:53 group times with the guys going through the content that you've provided for us.
13:59 I'd say I can give like, like for me in building the business that we're trying to build, that
14:06 was a huge focus for me in, in seeking out and entering dominion and, and seeking what
14:12 I was looking for it was to provide some clarity and wisdom in this path that I was on in business.
14:19 And so in this over the course of the last five months, five months or so, I think decision
14:27 making and discernment, I can go deeper into this, but I'll, I'll stay a little higher level,
14:32 I guess decision making in discernment.
14:35 One of the meetings we had was specifically on that opportunities arise.
14:39 How do we, how do we assess the opportunity, pray, guess, go kind of thing?
14:45 What's the, what's the process and how we make a decision to go or to not go or turn
14:50 right or turn left?
14:53 That was a huge aha moment for me.
14:57 I think, especially when you used, I don't know if it was, was it Frank Thomas?
15:00 You used it.
15:01 You used an analogy from, I think baseball tonight on a movie network or something where, or
15:07 it, I don't know who it was.
15:08 I know.
15:09 It was, it was Pete Rose.
15:11 Pete Rose.
15:12 So they, they, they did a segment.
15:13 Let me, let me go ahead and tell the audience who, if they don't know what I'm talking about.
15:17 Once I got a, somebody to, all right, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
15:21 All right.
15:22 We had a little setting miss app here.
15:23 Got to fix.
15:24 Okay.
15:25 So, this is one of those moments where they need to give the cameraman a raise.
15:29 And so we have Pete Rose on set at, you know, wherever they're at, for, uh, MLB network.
15:36 And on set with them, I believe is Frank Thomas and Alex Rodriguez.
15:39 And they just start chit chatting about hitting.
15:42 And so on the set, they've got like, you know, played a batter's box and things like that.
15:46 And the cameraman just keeps rolling, right?
15:47 And I don't know if they showed this later or something like that, but they just kept
15:50 the production thing rolling.
15:52 And so Pete's talking to them.
15:53 And here you have Frank Thomas and Alex Rodriguez, you know, Alex Rodriguez, how do you not juice
15:57 would have been a surefire Hall of Famer, Frank Thomas, surefire was a surefire Hall
16:01 Famer, I think first ballot.
16:02 And then you've got, you know, obviously Pete Rose, who's now passed, but not a very
16:07 good guy, you know, cheat, you know, bet on baseball, bet on teams, you know, games that
16:11 he was playing in and all kinds of things, right?
16:14 But probably the best pure hitter of all time, right?
16:16 Just sweet swing, pure hitter, you know, great guy in terms of baseball.
16:20 And so they're just leaning in to Pete Rose talking.
16:23 They're just like basically drooling and salivating.
16:25 Two of the best hitters ever are just drooling and salivating.
16:28 And they're like, your swing is what gets you to the show, right?
16:32 Because when you're drafted guys, again, you go to rookie ball and then low A and then
16:37 high A, then double A, then triple A, then the majors, and then even if you get to the
16:40 majors, you could be sent right back down and never come up.
16:43 So these guys that are just 10 plus year guys in the major leagues, like their, their special
16:47 lead athletes, right?
16:49 But in so he's like, when I would slump, I wouldn't change a thing on my swing and our
16:54 batting coach would never want to change my swing.
16:57 And that's what we see today in modern baseball.
16:59 If something's going wrong with your swing, they start changing it.
17:02 They start jacking with your mechanics, right?
17:04 There's a young stud on the St. Louis Cardinals, which is my team.
17:07 He comes up.
17:08 All the way to the majors with his swing, things don't go well the first month or so.
17:11 They start changing the mechanics of this dude's swing.
17:13 Pete Rose, I would never in a million years do that.
17:16 You know what I would do?
17:17 I would just move where I stood in the box.
17:20 So if I was getting beat by the slider a lot or whatever, I was chasing the curveball,
17:24 I would move up in the box, right?
17:26 So I could get on the, on the pitch, you know, better, you know, if I was getting beat by
17:29 the fastball or whatever, I'd move back in the box.
17:32 My swing stayed the same and Frank Thomas and Alex Rodriguez were just like, their minds
17:36 were blown.
17:37 And of course, it's your swing that got you there.
17:40 And so that was the story that I told you in one of our one on one call is just to bring
17:43 the audience up speed.
17:44 And that was huge for me because I was going through a mini season of business where there's
17:48 big decision looming.
17:49 And I didn't know.
17:50 Do I do it?
17:51 Do we move forward?
17:52 Do we not move forward?
17:53 I had told you about a call it a spiritual strategy I had used in the past to make decisions
17:59 and that I, a lot of freedom in that I just, I felt like that was how God had had wired
18:05 me to operate.
18:06 And I deviated from that and felt off and not, I didn't feel peace.
18:13 And you said, and I have it highlighted here.
18:15 I have it started and underlined your swing is what got you here.
18:19 But you also said, you know, the move move up or move back in the box analogy.
18:25 So maybe this could, this could look a lot of different ways.
18:27 Maybe it's you got to spend more time and with, with the Lord, maybe you got to sit quiet
18:31 and just listen to him more than you have been lately.
18:34 And you still apply the same strategy, but in order to get the clarity in order to feel
18:38 the, you know, feel the conviction that you're, that you need to move forward, you might
18:43 just have to tilt one way or the other, but don't change the whole, you know, the whole
18:48 strategy and the whole, the whole swing.
18:51 So that was a huge one.
18:52 And then I'll say one more that I, it's, because it's, it's not the advice you'd get
18:57 from the world today, but you gave it to me.
18:59 And I think there's a ton of truth in it as we were talking about leadership and culture
19:03 building, just a couple, this was recent.
19:07 And that's where in a season right now where we're trying to build culture, and I want
19:10 to do it in a way that glorifies God and that reflects, reflects Christ.
19:14 And, and you said building a culture and all the time people spend on it is a complete
19:20 waste of time.
19:21 And there's other things, unless it's toxic, you said unless it's toxic, complete waste
19:25 of time.
19:26 And what I got out of that was operational excellence and also individually focusing
19:31 on certain people on your team is immensely more important than this like cloud of culture
19:37 that you're trying to bring over your, your business or your team.
19:41 And so I've already figured, figured out figuring out a lot of ways to apply that, but that's
19:45 another huge thing.
19:46 And a lot, I know a lot of these are business related, but that's just the season I'm in
19:50 right now.
19:51 A lot of it is, and there's fatherhood stuff in there too, because obviously I just said
19:54 a kid.
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21:24 Yeah, I mean, I remember that on our last call because people just, you know, business owners,
21:33 they chase culture, but culture is really vague.
21:36 And you spend all this time and money and then you have people that you have a lot of
21:41 people in your organization.
21:42 Again, if you follow the Pareto principle or distribution, it's like you, your top 20%
21:45 of employees are going to do the 80% of the work that needs to keep the thing rolling or
21:50 right or keep the revenue coming in.
21:51 And so you're spending all this time and effort and on culture building for people that would
21:56 literally go to the office across, you know, the parking lot and go work for them, your
22:02 direct competitor for a dollar or more per hour, right?
22:05 Like, and so, yes, focus on your, your key employees, make sure that their needs and
22:10 their desires are met, not just from a financial, you know, standpoint, but also the type of
22:15 job that they're doing.
22:16 It's not just being on the right bus.
22:17 It's being on the right seat on the right bus, like all that kind of stuff.
22:20 And then one, one thing you were talking about earlier is it goes back to our pillars.
22:24 So that's the core of the Dominion program are the six pillars of a Dominion man, the
22:28 six pillars of a Dominion man.
22:30 And one of those pillars is direction over vision, direction over vision.
22:34 So vision's fine.
22:35 Vision's good.
22:36 But you have people that will get a vision and it'll like shoot them off in a completely
22:41 different direction.
22:43 And it's not, it's not good for them overall.
22:45 And it's also not what God would have for them, but they get this vision and it feels
22:49 good and it's an exciting thing.
22:51 And it's just like, but are you in the core door of the direction that God has for your
22:55 life?
22:56 Yes or no?
22:57 And so yeah, I will say, Mitchell, a lot of our conversations, they, they've been very,
23:00 you know, simulating for me because they really talk more in a business context.
23:03 And I like talking to business owners about their businesses and the, in the areas, like
23:07 I'm not going to look at your spreadsheets and be like, well, your EBITDA is not really
23:09 looking too healthy.
23:10 So how about we burp up and do all that?
23:12 But I have people at my disposal that could really, really help there.
23:15 But for you personally, like as a man, as a husband, as a new father, let's talk about
23:21 some of those things in terms of what value you've gotten out of a program like this,
23:27 not only from our one on one interactions, but also the group component.
23:30 Yeah, a huge one.
23:32 And it was just our last month of the pillar standards over goals.
23:40 That was a huge because because so the, you know, the pillars are caught a little more
23:46 high level and then we go deeper on our calls, you, you walk us through that.
23:51 And then it's on us to go even deeper, be up like even deeper than what we talk about
23:56 on our, on our calls.
23:58 And so I sat with that one for a while and the way I processed that pillar was really
24:03 like long term, over short term, a lot of us live in this short term, perpetually short
24:11 term world, whereas that's not biblical, really, it's not biblical at all, we're eternally
24:19 focused in scripture.
24:21 And so I dug further and deeper into that because that's what the pillars do.
24:27 They kind of force you to dig deeper and came, came across God's, one of God's first original
24:33 commands of man, which is to be fruitful, multiply replenish, so do and have dominion.
24:40 And this resonated, because my mind is set on standards over goals.
24:44 Like as I'm reading scripture and I'm digging into things, I'm thinking standards over goals,
24:49 especially in, in as a new father.
24:54 And what I want my, my kids life to look like over the next 18 years until he leaves that
24:59 leaves the house.
25:02 But in business, just the same how we want our business to look over the years, you get
25:07 so focused on like what needs to be like, like, how can I get my business that in reality
25:17 might take 10 years?
25:18 How can I experience that in a year?
25:21 And we get so consumed with the timeline.
25:23 So long story short, I'm sitting with that scripture and, and there's a having at the
25:29 end, this is kind of what I mean.
25:30 We get so concerned with the having.
25:31 When can I have dominion?
25:33 When can I have the thing that I'm, the thing that I'm chasing?
25:36 And, and that's like elementary level.
25:39 And then you get to like the college degree where you're like, well, I got to do a lot
25:42 of stuff in order to have.
25:43 So I'm going to start doing a lot of stuff in order to have, but then you get to like,
25:47 I feel like the, the ultimate level where you're like, no, it starts with the being.
25:52 And this is where I line it with standards and the standards we talked about and what
25:56 standards really are, and it's a, it's so much more about being, being, being, who God's
26:02 called you to be right now, because you can be, you don't have to have to have, to have
26:07 the thing that God's promised in order to be who God's called you to be.
26:10 So be who God's calls you to be right now.
26:12 What does that look like?
26:14 Be that that will flow into the doing and the doing will flow into the having.
26:19 So I was like, that's just super recent.
26:20 That was just, you know, within the last couple of weeks, which has helped me really slow
26:25 down and be more, you know, peaceful in my, in my moving and, and in business and as a
26:36 father, and it helps you be more present for sure.
26:39 And you're not always chasing a timeline, you're not putting a timeline, anything like
26:43 God put the timeline on things.
26:44 You don't put the timeline goal setting is not biblical.
26:47 We talked about this.
26:48 It's not biblical.
26:49 I don't see it in the Bible.
26:50 So that's a big one for me.
26:51 Yeah.
26:52 Again, standards over goals.
26:53 They're one of the pillars like that's the one that really trips people up because we've
26:57 been bred, especially if we went to college, everything's about goal setting and you know,
27:00 read how to win friends and influence people and then set some goals and then read 12
27:04 week year and set some goals, but people don't suck because they suck at goal setting.
27:08 People suck because they suck.
27:09 And so if it wasn't like if we could just get 5% better at goal setting, we wouldn't
27:13 suck so bad.
27:14 No, it's because people don't live with any type of a standard.
27:17 And so I don't want to really give away too much more of that.
27:19 But as we wrap up here, Mitch, I really appreciate you, you're taking the time to give us all
27:22 this input, but obviously there are guys that are putting it there are a lot of guys that
27:26 have put in applications already.
27:28 There are guys that are kind of on the fence about putting on an application again, guys
27:31 on Donna dot life slash dominion and Donna dot life slash dominions in the show notes
27:34 or you can just go to our websites right there on the top right.
27:37 There are dudes that are on the fence about applying because they don't know what that
27:40 means.
27:41 Like, what does that require me?
27:42 Well, probably nothing, you know, like you you're going to get contacted by our team.
27:45 We have a team now that's kind of handling that.
27:47 And then, you know, if you're a good fit for the program, yeah, you'll end up doing an
27:50 interview with me and we'll we'll make sure it's a good fit.
27:53 But there are people that are maybe a good fit for the program and they want to be in
27:56 it.
27:57 But there's something that's like they're just straddling the fence for whatever reason.
28:00 Maybe they're worried about the time commitment.
28:02 Maybe they're worried about that investment.
28:04 And again, we require significant investment of time, talent, effort, resources, all the
28:10 things to be a part of this program.
28:13 What would be your message to those people in the fence?
28:16 I can say what I did, I asked God first and foremost and how God answered that was through,
28:22 I think it's Proverbs 4, 7, get wisdom, though it costs to you all you have.
28:27 Get wisdom, value wisdom over money, value wisdom over all the things and if in the one
28:32 who provides the wisdom deserve to be paid, rightfully so.
28:36 So that that was a lot of other instances happened resulted me make that decision.
28:42 But I would say that ask God see what he has to say and then like are you actually ruthlessly
28:50 trying to grow like are you the way you would call it a killer or like do you really badly
28:56 want to be like I don't know if I'm a killer but I would love to be considered one, not
29:01 the way that you know the world defines that.
29:04 But I would love to be considered one and I would love that to I would love my marriage
29:09 to look like that, my parenting to look like that, my business to look like that, my walk
29:13 with God to look like that and I have told you from the very beginning throw me in the
29:18 deep end because that's what I need, uncomfortable things, hard things to be told hard things
29:25 that maybe I don't want to hear and if you're like willing to receive all of that then do
29:31 it you know if God if you feel like there's not a hard no from God on that and you're
29:37 willing to get thrown into the deep end with a desire to grow in whatever area of life
29:42 it is, do it, just do it, I don't know, you know, yeah, Mitch I love that because I remember
29:51 you tell me that from the beginning on our first call like hey throw me in the deep end
29:54 because some some programs like this, it's some some dude with with an outsized ego with
30:01 not a whole lot of wisdom just screaming at people do this and do it faster and if it
30:06 doesn't work do it harder next time or blah blah and it's like okay like maybe some people
30:11 need some of that but a lot of a lot of my calls with people that are one-on-one it's
30:15 a lot of questions because I may have an idea of exactly what you need to do but I want
30:20 to ask questions that maybe get you there to where you're like okay I think I figured
30:24 out what I need to do as opposed to me just being like yeah just do this this and this
30:27 and it'll all be better right because again we want to churn out killers we want to churn
30:32 out people that are making unbelievable improvements in all those very very important areas right
30:37 some of it's going to be business based on season some of it's going to be their kids
30:40 based on season or their wife but again you know when the lawyer asked Jesus you know
30:45 what's most important law I said love Lord your God with all your heart's whole mind
30:48 and strength and second is like it love your neighbor as yourself so if God's not in that
30:52 primary seat we're going to have issues now when you talk about our neighbor who's your
30:56 primary neighbor Mrs. Rinda right so if that's not in the right order things are not going
31:00 to go well who's your secondary neighbor now you have a secondary neighbor and that's
31:04 your kiddo right and hopefully a whole lot more coming through that's got to be in the
31:08 right ordering behind mom behind God or things are going to be out of place then we start
31:12 getting into business since we start getting into you know brother business owners you
31:16 know like all those types of people that kind of help you know make this scaffolding for
31:19 your life and so all that's very very important but Mitch I know you got things to do and
31:23 places to be so I just really appreciate you coming on talking to our audience today man
31:26 yeah man absolutely appreciate it thank you for listening to this podcast wherever you're
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