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DAKOTA MEYER | The Medal of Honor & The Way Forward (Ep. 287)

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DAKOTA MEYER | The Medal of Honor & The Way Forward (Ep. 287)
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In this episode, I sit down with Dakota Meyer, a Medal of Honor recipient and Marine Corps veteran, to discuss his harrowing experiences during the Battle of Gone Jigal and the profound lessons he's learned since. We dive deep into the realities of combat, the weight of loss, and the struggle to find purpose after tragedy.
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0:30 This is Undaunted Life, a man's podcast.
0:51 I'm your host Kyle Thompson.
0:52 Let's get into it.
0:53 All right, guys, today I've got a very special and intense guest on the show.
0:56 His name is Dakota Meyer, so if you don't know who that is, he's a United States Marine
0:59 Corps veteran.
1:00 He was also a veteran of the war in Afghanistan, and he was actually the first living United
1:04 States Marine in 41 years to receive the Medal of Honor, and he's one of the youngest recipients
1:09 of the Medal of Honor here in the United States, and he was given the award for his actions
1:14 during the Battle of Gone Jigal on September the 8th of 2009.
1:18 He wrote a New York Times best-selling book about his life and about that experience,
1:21 and it came out in 2013, and it's called Into the Fire, a firsthand account of the most
1:25 extraordinary battle in the Afghan War, and he's also the co-author of the new book, which
1:29 is surely to be a bestseller.
1:31 It's called The Way Forward, Master Life's Toughest Battles, and create your own lasting
1:34 legacy.
1:35 And he co-authored that book with retired cell team six operator Robert O'Neill, and that's
1:39 the man who killed Osama bin Laden.
1:41 So Dakota's been featured before on the Joe Rogan experience, on Jocko podcast, on Mike
1:45 Drop, on all these different shows, and today Meyer serves in the individual ready reserve
1:49 of the United States Marine Corps Reserve.
1:51 He's an advocate for American veterans.
1:53 He's a creator of podcasts called the American Party podcast and front towards the enemy.
1:57 He's an entrepreneur behind a lot of different brands, including Own the Dash and Flipside
2:00 Canvas and some others, which we talk about in the show and all that's in the show notes.
2:04 But this interview is legitimately one of the favorite interviews that I've ever done
2:08 in my life, and it was wildly intense.
2:11 I've done some other interviews before that were intense when you're talking about these
2:13 crazy life and death type stories.
2:16 There was something different about this interview with Dakota, and it just struck me different.
2:20 I was trying to hold it together myself at different points, which, you know, I feel like
2:23 I did a pretty okay job.
2:24 And he and I talked a lot beforehand and a lot after the show.
2:27 I think that he and I are going to have a good relationship moving forward, a good friendship
2:30 and it's just such a cool opportunity to be able to connect with these people that had
2:34 done some very, very unique things but have a different perspective on it because he talks
2:37 about the Medal of Honor.
2:38 And, you know, the name of this episode has Medal of Honor in it, but the Medal of Honor
2:42 that he was awarded is something that he's not a big fan of.
2:45 He actually hates it.
2:46 It reminds him, and we talk about this a lot in the show, it reminds him of the worst day
2:49 of his life and the fact that in his eyes, he didn't do his job.
2:53 He didn't get his teammates, his Marines home.
2:56 He didn't get them back state side.
2:57 He didn't get them to safety, right?
2:59 So we dig into that, you know, we dig into, you know, when he had this particular moment
3:04 where he basically was fighting a Taliban fighter and he killed him right up close, right?
3:09 He beat him to death with a rock.
3:11 I mean, if you've heard a story before you've kind of heard that story and if you haven't,
3:14 you're in for a treat.
3:15 But, you know, there's a mild intensity warning with this podcast.
3:18 If you're listening with kids, mild, you know, language warning and then things like that.
3:21 But it's just such an awesome conversation.
3:23 But even toward the end, when we're talking about his family and talking about his views
3:27 on fatherhood and all that, like we went everywhere in this conversation, I couldn't be more pleased
3:31 with how it turned out.
3:32 But guys, I'm not going to keep them from you any longer.
3:34 So without further ado, let's get into it.
3:37 Dakota Meyer, welcome to Undaunted Life of Man's podcast.
3:39 Thanks, Matt.
3:40 I appreciate it.
3:41 Dude, I've been so excited to talk to you and to interview you because I feel like you've
3:45 been talking to me for like the last several weeks because I've been reading your books.
3:48 I've been going through some of your interviews and everything like that.
3:50 So finally, I get to address, you know, questions directly to your face.
3:54 I'm just sorry that you have to look at mine while we talk about it.
3:56 But I do like to start as generically as I possibly can.
3:59 Anytime I talk to a veteran, I myself did not serve in the military.
4:03 I went a little bit of a different route.
4:04 It's something that I'm like, you know, a little bit, I'm like, oh my gosh, I wish I
4:07 would have done that.
4:08 That's something I wish I would have checked off at some point in my life.
4:10 But for you, why did you join?
4:12 Why did you join the military and why become a Marine specifically?
4:15 Man, I'll be honest, I don't have like the cool story of like, oh, you know, I grew
4:22 up, you know, I knew I was going to be a Marine since I was five years old or whatever.
4:26 Honestly, when I joined the Marine Corps, I had no clue what the Marine Corps was.
4:31 You know, my grandfather was a Marine, but honestly, I didn't know he was a Marine really
4:36 until, I mean, I knew I'd heard about it, but I didn't pay attention.
4:41 But like, until I joined, right?
4:44 I just, you know, when I look back at it, I joined off of a dare, right?
4:51 So like, basically a recruiter told me there's no way I'd make it as a Marine.
4:55 And you know, look, I was like, I'm in, right?
4:58 I guess, I think that just, I think that it's either in you or it's not, right?
5:03 And I think a guy like me, like, it's not about like being infatuated with something
5:08 or, or, you know, I don't, I don't try to live out some dream.
5:12 And I think for me, it's just about, I don't know, I think it's just, it's either in you
5:16 or it's not.
5:17 And I think looking back, like watching my dad, watching my grandfather, you know, service,
5:23 service was something that they did, but it wasn't something that was talked about, right?
5:27 It was just a way of life, like the way they lived their life based off principles based
5:31 off of, of, you know, taking care of others, putting others before yourself, treating people
5:38 the right way.
5:40 All these things, I just think that it was just, it was just etched in to me, my entire
5:45 life of watching this.
5:46 And I think that that's how, you know, I found this path to join the Marine Corps.
5:51 Right.
5:52 Well, it's also just kind of where you're at.
5:53 So I grew up in Lawton.
5:54 So Lawton, Fort Sill, I was around the military my entire life.
5:57 I just went, you know, the, the academic leadership sports route.
6:00 I just went a different route, right?
6:01 So if it, if you had been challenged by like a Navy recruiter or an army recruiter, do you
6:06 feel like it would have been the same thing?
6:07 Or was it some special about, you know, the few, the proud?
6:10 The Marines, that whole deal.
6:11 It was just a way the Marine recruiter was versus, versus, I mean, cause I had been, I
6:19 had been, you know, I had been talked to before by a army recruiter, right?
6:24 Right.
6:25 But it was just, it was just the way that the Marine recruiter presented himself.
6:28 You know, usually when I see army recruiters, they're in their fatigues, right?
6:34 Like they're in their, they're in their, you know, their, their, whatever you want to
6:38 be, whatever it would have been for them right now, right?
6:41 Right.
6:42 You use AC, whatever it is.
6:43 And, you know, Marine recruiter was in his dress blues, you know, and it was like how
6:49 he held himself, how he talked and, and it was just a, I don't know.
6:54 And, and, you know, but I just think that all of it played into, into it and look, he
6:59 told me I couldn't do it.
7:00 I think I was probably looking for something a little different than being in my, in my
7:04 town and following the same route as everybody else.
7:07 And I think all that played together, you know, and, and I ended up where I was supposed
7:11 to be.
7:12 Absolutely.
7:13 And we'll get a whole lot more into that.
7:14 But in 2013 Dakota, you released your memoir called Into the Fire and I just, I appreciate
7:19 you and your team shooting this copy over to me so I can dig into it before I interview.
7:22 But this week you're releasing your second book, right?
7:25 As of this week, as of the release of this episode, it's called the way forward master
7:29 life's toughest battles and create your lasting legacy.
7:32 And we'll be referring to both books a lot in the show.
7:34 But the thing that's unique about the way forward is that you actually co-authored it.
7:38 It was co-authored with retired Seal Team six operator, Robert O'Neill.
7:42 So I guess the question generically from the beginning is you're obviously not setting
7:45 out and you've never said that you're setting out to, you know, be some sort of best-selling
7:48 author and, you know, have a bunch of different books.
7:51 So I guess why do another book and then, you know, how did you get connected with Robert
7:55 to where y'all, you know, wrote this thing basically together?
7:58 So Rob is one of my best friends, his wife, Jessica, is by far one of my best friends,
8:06 right?
8:07 And both of them are just incredible human beings, right?
8:11 And me and Rob relate a lot, right?
8:13 We have a lot of commonalities and, you know, we, you know, we cross paths a lot, you know,
8:19 so how we met was we both speak for the same speaking agency and, or we did.
8:24 And, you know, we cross paths talk, just we hit it off and it was just such a natural
8:29 fit, right?
8:30 Like Rob never wanted to be in the spotlight.
8:32 I never wanted to be in the spotlight.
8:34 Like none of us asked for this.
8:36 We just literally loved our job and we loved what we did and this is where we got, right?
8:41 And both of us had, rather, been back serving and still taking out bad guys and to be doing
8:46 what we're doing right now.
8:47 But we were kind of forced into this situation and we just had to figure out how to make the
8:53 best of it, right?
8:54 And, and I think that that was a thing that brought us together and there's actually one
9:00 story that many of them were talking about whenever I was going through a tough time.
9:03 I can remember we're out in a, we're actually out in, in DC and I was talking to him about
9:10 it.
9:11 And I know it really connected with me and I was like, man, like we're on the same page.
9:15 And, but, but yeah, I mean, like that, that's how we met, you know, and, and you know, when
9:21 you ask like, well, why do it again, you know, I felt like in my first book, you know, I,
9:29 I have this theory that look, you know, right, like, and I understand the reasoning behind
9:33 it, but I feel like you've got to be fair, right?
9:36 And so, you know, in the beginning, all of us came back and wrote these books that made
9:43 like the books on war made it like we were, we were larger than life, right?
9:50 Like we told the good side of it.
9:52 We told the side of it that was exciting and entertaining, right?
9:56 About, about going in and, and killing guys, bad guys and then fighting evil across the
10:01 globe.
10:02 And you know what I mean, and it, and it, and it, it was wrote in a way that I understand
10:07 the reasoning behind it, but I don't think it was fair, right?
10:11 I don't think it was wrote in a way to, to empower the everyday citizen.
10:16 You know what I mean?
10:17 It wasn't wrote in a way to where it was like, hate normalizing, humanizing us, right?
10:21 Of, hey, I mean, it was wrote so, it was wrote in such a way that, think about this, right?
10:27 These books were wrote in such a way that, that our children are now playing video games
10:34 of the stuff that keeps us awake.
10:36 Right.
10:37 Yeah.
10:38 So, so it would, so it tells me that like, yeah, look, we need kids to look up to stuff
10:42 like this, right?
10:43 We need kids to look up to honorable people, but it's not fair for us to, to tell just
10:52 one side of it and pretend like it's not, you know, that you don't humanize the things.
10:57 But I also think that with the perspective of when we wrote that versus five years later,
11:01 and that's what this book is, it's your perspective changes.
11:06 There's a day of, I caught, there's a day of reckoning for everything.
11:10 And it's not necessarily held in your accountable, but it's like the either, it's between the
11:13 day of reckoning versus the aha moment, right?
11:16 And that's what this, the way forward is, is like taking all these bad situations or
11:23 whatever these, these lessons or these hard times and how they make good times, hard
11:29 times make good times.
11:32 And, and that's what the, the collection of the way forward is, is, is the hard times
11:37 for me and Rob coming through all the way from growing up to war to after war.
11:43 And how we've, we've taken these things and these lessons and put them in the toolbox
11:48 to make good times and make a better life now, right?
11:51 And that's, that's kind of it.
11:52 But it's not about being a title or a new, it's literally like, if this book goes out
11:57 and somebody reads it and it makes them feel better, or it makes them say, look, I can
12:02 do this, or it makes them, empowers them in one way, it's worth it.
12:08 Yeah.
12:09 And I think I'm with you that the new book, the way forward, it seems more accessible
12:13 to the everyday man because when you read into the fire, or you read the operator, which
12:17 is Rob's memoir, it's like, bro, like most people can't be, they can't even fathom some
12:23 of the stuff that happened in that book, good and bad, right?
12:26 But, but this one, it's more kind of like, here are some life lessons, here's some things
12:29 that I did that were ridiculous, that were crazy, and we're going to get into your story
12:33 a lot more here in just a second.
12:34 But it makes it accessible to where it's like, okay, here's how I can apply this to my life
12:38 as a stay at home mom, or as a salesman, or as a teacher, or as a whatever.
12:42 And so I think you guys nailed it.
12:44 And it's funny because I was reading, I'm rereading the operator right now, read into
12:47 the fire.
12:48 And so, you know, you're referring to a lot of the same stories in both books, but you
12:52 know, it isn't a more accessible light, it's not as much as the nitty gritty detail.
12:55 But I will say, just as my own, just aside here, when I was reading into the fire, I felt
12:59 like it was fair, because you didn't, you didn't try to make yourself seem like the
13:04 genius the entire time.
13:06 Like you were, you called yourself out for being dumb in certain areas, and when you
13:09 were in support, and it wasn't the right call at the moment.
13:13 Also when you were in support, and when it ended up being the right call.
13:15 So I feel like it was at least fair.
13:17 So that's what I got out of the new book is how accessible it was.
13:20 But I feel like we obviously have to transition because it's really hard to tell your story
13:24 Dakota without going into the battle of Gone Jigal.
13:27 But as I was preparing this podcast, right, as I was reading through your books, I was
13:31 preparing my questions and everything like that, I was kind of struck by the thought
13:35 that like, are you tired of talking about the battle of Gone Jigal?
13:40 Is it cathartic for you?
13:42 Do you like telling the story because you get to tell the story of your fallen teammates?
13:46 Or does that make it even worse?
13:47 I mean, what do you think at this point about talking about it all the time?
13:51 Yeah, I mean, I don't want to speak for raw, but I think that was one thing that, that
13:56 me and him related arm was, there's so much more to us than that.
14:01 You know, like, like, I mean, Rob's killed tons of evil people, you know, and, you know,
14:13 it's just, I mean, you know, I always ask people, you know, if I can tell it in a way
14:19 to people who genuinely care, that's one thing.
14:25 But like, to go out and tell it is entertainment, it's another, right, and it's like a chamber
14:30 of commerce meeting or something like that, it's like, ah, yeah.
14:34 And so it's like, I think that like what, am I tired of telling it?
14:39 I mean, would you be tired of talking about the worst day of your life, right?
14:44 The toll of it, I don't care, I don't care to talk about it because I know that if I
14:48 can help somebody and people genuinely want to know because they can't fathom it, right?
14:53 So I know that and I don't care to talk about it, right?
14:56 I don't care to talk about it, but like the mental exhaustion after I walk off the stage
15:02 and tell that story, it's just like, most people can't even think about the worst day
15:07 of their life.
15:08 Right.
15:09 Much less going in front of crowds and tell it, you know what I mean?
15:14 So it's like, am I tired of talking about it?
15:17 There's a lot more to, like, there's a lot more of it, like, there's a lot more to my
15:20 life and, you know, so now I don't get tired of talking about it, I just, it's like, what's
15:27 next?
15:28 Right.
15:29 Well, I definitely understand the what's next thing.
15:31 There was a few key moments in both of your books that I want to get to, which I'll kind
15:35 of feed in that to a little bit here.
15:36 And guys, just frankly, if you're listening to this, I'm going to tell you right from
15:39 the jump to code.
15:40 I genuinely care about your story.
15:42 My audience is going to super, duper care about this.
15:44 The guys that I told that I was talking to you, they're very, very excited to get a little
15:48 bit of a peek behind the curtain, but it's impossible to get into all the details here.
15:52 This isn't going to be a 10 hour long podcast.
15:53 So guys, you have to get into the fire.
15:55 You have to get the way forward so you can get the details of all of that.
15:58 But just for our listeners in the most basic, I guess generic way possible, go ahead and
16:02 tee up the battle of Gone Jigal because it took place on, you know, the border of Afghanistan
16:06 and Pakistan.
16:08 You know, there were some kind of weird things going on leading up to this mission, things
16:12 that didn't really set well with you.
16:14 And then obviously things kind of went wrong pretty quickly.
16:17 So just kind of tee up, you know, the pre battle and then kind of where things started
16:21 to go wrong.
16:22 Yeah, you know, so like we, so we, I was on an embedded training team.
16:25 I was in Northeastern Afghanistan.
16:27 So a lot of people, when I tried to try to, you know, get them in the area, it's like
16:32 I was one valley over from where Marcus Latrell was in the Corngo Valley, right?
16:37 I was just north of Asada Bad, which, which are two really distinct places over in Afghanistan.
16:45 And so I was on, it was four US and AD Afghans on a team.
16:48 And so we've gone over, we were on an embedded training team, our mission was to train the
16:53 Afghans on how to, I mean, look, the theory behind it is amazing, right?
16:59 We go over, we train them how to fight, we, we make them better, we train them up, get
17:04 them up, then they can hold their own.
17:06 That's the theory and that's the methodology to it.
17:09 It was a very unique, very unique, it was a unique mission, like it was so rewarding.
17:18 I loved my Afghan soldiers as much as I did my Marines, right?
17:21 Like they were, we were all that close.
17:24 And so we got called in that we were going to a place called the Gangegal Valley.
17:29 This valley is notorious in a book called the Bear went over the mountain.
17:34 This valley is just known for being savages, it's a, it's a valley that goes connect straight
17:39 to Pakistan.
17:40 It is a, it is a valley that's used a lot by, by the enemy.
17:45 And so we were going to go in the, the, the Gangegal Valley people had came to, to us.
17:53 There have been like some guy got killed by a rocket or something.
17:57 They came to us, we talked and they, they basically said they wanted to renounce themselves
18:01 from the Taliban and start supporting the government and so we were going to go in and
18:05 see how we could help them help facilitate that, right, help, help, help change this
18:10 over because this would be huge for this valley.
18:12 I mean, this would, this would really be a big, big deal.
18:15 No chance of it ever happening, but, um, so the mission was we got brief the night before
18:23 about this mission that we were going to go in, uh, to this valley.
18:27 Uh, we were going to park the vehicles at the mouth of the valley.
18:32 We were going to go in on foot on a 90 man patrol and have, uh, have meetings with the
18:38 village elders and then see what they can do and then we're going to come out.
18:43 So I had a couple of issues like listening to the brief.
18:45 I brought up a few issues with the mission planning the night before, um, my background
18:51 just so you know, for who doesn't know, uh, I was a, I was a sniper, I was a school trained
18:55 sniper in the Marine Corps, one of the youngest, uh, went over, I had already served in Iraq.
19:00 Um, so I'm not saying that I knew, I'm not saying I knew anything about combat, but I
19:07 knew about mission planning.
19:08 Um, so I, I, I, I did have that.
19:12 So I went over and we got the brief and I had a few issues with the brief, right?
19:20 And so now, now to be fair, to be fair to my leadership, I was the guy who was always
19:26 like, well, what if, right?
19:28 Well, what if, whoa, you know, like, well, do we have, do we have a plan in case?
19:32 I mean, like, and this is exaggerating, but like, this would be something that was not
19:36 far from my radar of, well, well, what if we, you know, do we have a plan for if we have
19:41 an aerial platform coming at us and it's like Dakota to Taliban doesn't have an aerial platform,
19:46 right?
19:47 Like, but either way, I was always what ifing.
19:49 I was always wanting, uh, you know, you know, secondary tertiary plans of how we're going
19:56 to do this.
19:57 I looked at combat as combat.
20:00 I was a warrior.
20:01 I was a fighter.
20:02 Like, that was my job.
20:03 And so I was always looking at the it from the fight side, right?
20:07 Um, so with that being said, I brought up a few issues, you know, one of the issues was
20:13 and it doesn't take a tactician to understand this.
20:16 We were going to have between the overwatch positions and the different breakaway, like
20:21 this 90 man patrol breaking into different sections to do their jobs.
20:26 And we were going to have, it was like over eight different sections on one radio frequency.
20:32 That radio frequency was going to have to be relayed back to base through a sniper team.
20:40 So yes, this all works.
20:42 And I, and I remember stating this that look, if, if one shots fired, the chaos that will
20:51 turn onto the radio will cause people lives.
20:55 Yeah.
20:56 So I didn't want to change it.
20:58 The second factor I didn't like or I didn't think was okay or was smart was they kept saying
21:04 that, well, we got air on 15 minutes.
21:07 When I looked into it, we had air on what's called 15 minute strip alert.
21:11 So that just means that the rotors have to be spinning and they have to come off the ground
21:17 within 15 minutes.
21:19 It doesn't give us priority air.
21:21 It doesn't like the still 30 minutes 30 to 45 minutes away in Jalalabad.
21:29 So which where they would, where they would be coming from.
21:32 So either way you're in an hour with air.
21:34 So I wanted to get out of their head that they had air within 15 minutes, brought that
21:39 up.
21:40 And then the last issue I had was if you're taking a 90 man patrol in there, I understand
21:47 not wanting to come in and being as aggressive with having trucks because the look on that
21:53 is different, but bring the trucks in behind this patrol, right?
21:57 So you go in, we have the truck stage closer.
22:01 That way that if it does hit the fan, you've got these up guns and armor to try to get
22:07 people out.
22:08 And I promise I'm going to quote to you what I was told was on this was, well, Dakota,
22:13 we want to go in clandestine.
22:16 Like you want to go in clandestine with a 90 man patrol, are you like dumbest thing
22:21 ever?
22:22 So anyways, these were the facts.
22:23 So this is what got me removed from my team and they replaced me with a guy named Gunnar
22:26 Sartre Johnson.
22:30 You know, you can what if that all day, right?
22:32 You can, you can lay in bed and beat, you know, and beat yourself up about, well, should
22:37 I've kept my mouth shut, should I not, whatever, right?
22:40 I don't even know how to look at it anymore.
22:44 So I got, take out my team, we rolled in that morning.
22:47 My team rolled in.
22:49 My team was actually going to be, they were in the front of the patrol.
22:52 So they were the furthest in the valley when everything broke off.
22:57 And so they pushed up and as soon as they got to the valley, we've been set up, like
23:03 and there was like so many factors that we weren't told that they were watching guys
23:08 come from the Pakistan border.
23:10 They're watching them on a, on a UAV.
23:14 They never told us, they knew it and they never told us, they seen guys patrolling over
23:20 to set up in this valley like that we're going into.
23:22 Like there's so many factors to it that are just so weird.
23:26 But anyways, myself and Rodriguez Chavez, incredible guy, we were sitting back at the
23:34 trucks and just the fighting started.
23:36 I won't get into all the details, but the fighting started and then we just, we, we started
23:40 going in with the trucks to go and try to pull people out.
23:43 Well, and that's the crazy thing is it's one thing to Monday morning quarterback Dakota.
23:48 And it's another thing to say here are the things that I saw that were wrong from the
23:51 beginning because it's really, really easy to connect the dots looking backwards, but
23:54 it's hard to kind of perceive what you think might happen.
23:57 But yeah, you're right.
23:58 You can't get into all the details.
23:59 You're going to have to get the books to really get into the details, but you basically
24:01 spurned the orders from your command to not go into the valley and, you know, you and
24:06 the guy driving the truck, you said, forget that we're going in there.
24:09 And you made several trips into and out of the valley, you saved a lot of lives that day,
24:14 but there was a quote from into the fire that I thought was really, really interesting.
24:16 And it's not something I've read quite a few military memoirs.
24:19 I never really got something like this.
24:20 And this was a quote strange, though it may seem I wasn't scared or angry.
24:24 I was beyond that.
24:25 I didn't think I was going to die.
24:27 I knew I was dead.
24:29 There wasn't anything I could do about it.
24:30 I wasn't a thinking human being.
24:32 I had gone somewhere else.
24:33 I wasn't firing the machine gun.
24:35 I was the machine gun.
24:37 So that's kind of a very macabre way of describing playing with house money.
24:41 You're like, Hey, I'm already this far into this.
24:43 I know that I'm dead.
24:44 I just haven't caught the bullet yet, right?
24:46 But describe that a little bit for me because it's one thing to be in a flow state because
24:50 people have heard about that.
24:51 Oh, I got in a flow state, you know, I started making a bunch of free throws like Rob, you
24:55 know, said in his books are like, I got in a flow state doing a sport or doing like a
24:58 project or something like that.
24:59 But to have no fear of the ramifications of death.
25:03 I mean, take through, take a sippy through that because it doesn't make sense to a lot
25:08 of people.
25:09 Yeah.
25:10 I mean, looking, you know, like when you're getting shot at, like you, it literally sounds
25:12 like the best way to describe it is if you take a whole piece of paper up and you take
25:17 a pencil and you push it through that piece of paper, it's like that crack, right?
25:20 Right.
25:21 Like that's exactly what it sounds like.
25:22 And the closer it is, the louder the crack is, right?
25:26 And so, you know, we've been in quite a few gun fights up to this point.
25:30 And man, when I went in, it sounded like static, like it was just like static.
25:36 The rounds were hitting because they had elevation inside the turret, right?
25:40 Like, like there was nothing like, as soon as we turned this, it was like we had to come
25:45 in this valley and it was terraces, like the valley was built with terraces all up through
25:49 it.
25:50 So some of them were high.
25:51 And as soon as we turned around and we got in the wash, I mean, there were bodies everywhere.
25:56 Like Rodriguez Chavez literally was running guys over to keep them off the truck.
26:04 And it was just like so bad, like, and I think that like, there was a shock factor as soon
26:11 as it turned, right?
26:15 But it was just the reality that I'm going to die.
26:18 Like it was just the reality that I was going to die and I mean, I'll be honest, I remember
26:24 as soon as we turned and I was fighting, there was one time that like, I sat down on
26:30 the, there's a strap in the, in a turret.
26:33 There was one time that I sat down and I was like, I don't, I don't even know what's going
26:40 to happen.
26:41 Right?
26:42 Like, I'm like, this is, this is insane.
26:45 But it just, I didn't care.
26:49 I seen so many people suffering that I cared about.
26:52 Like literally, I seen so many people that I cared about suffering, that I didn't care.
27:01 And I knew that all I could think about in my head was that I'm not going to, I'm going
27:09 to make it as hard as I can for them to kill me.
27:11 They're going to kill me.
27:12 Yeah.
27:13 But they're going to have to [inaudible] do it.
27:15 Yeah.
27:16 Again, as I was reading through that, that totally came through that you had gotten to
27:20 this point where you can't literally understand it unless you've been in that point.
27:24 I have a lot of friends that have been in combat that have been in situations like that.
27:28 And it's, it's weird for them to be living now and living alive with kids and a wife
27:32 or in a, in a business or a job or whatever.
27:34 And to, to think that at one point they went to that place mentally, but also a lot's been
27:39 made about during that battle, you know, this, this Taliban member, this jihadist militant,
27:43 he got the jump on you, right?
27:45 And so you basically look up in one of your, your moments of exhaustion and stupor and
27:50 you see this guy, and for whatever reason, he didn't just engage you immediately.
27:54 He tried to get you to come with them.
27:56 Maybe he thought, you know, we can get this guy on the news later and chop his head off
27:59 and, you know, get some more converts to who the heck knows what happened, but you managed
28:02 to get a shot off on him.
28:03 You shot your grenade, you know, hit him in the chest.
28:05 You thought it killed him, but it didn't kill him.
28:07 There's, you know, there's a live grenade round somewhere and you guys are basically in
28:10 a wrestling match where, you know, the ramifications are death for one of the two of you.
28:14 And you've talked about this a lot, you talked about it in the book, you ended up taking
28:17 this guy's life with a rock.
28:19 But the difference I feel like with the situation you went through is the modern military in
28:24 a lot of ways is mastering how to kill people from a long ways away.
28:28 There are people in a, in a room in Stillwater, Oklahoma that are flying drones and taking
28:33 people out like it's a video game, right?
28:36 Like this is, you know, call of duty or battleground or something like that.
28:39 It's just or battlefield, whatever the name of it is.
28:41 But this was a very up close and personal thing like you talked about the smell, you
28:45 talked about everything.
28:46 And again, I don't want you to get into any areas that you don't want to get into here,
28:50 but talk about kind of the difference and the way we do things and the way that happened
28:53 with you.
28:54 Yeah.
28:55 I mean, yeah.
28:56 And like, and I'll, look, I'll be, I'll be honest with you.
28:59 This is one of my deficiency struggles, whatever is the, the, the anger that I have towards
29:09 people, like it's not their fault that they're in a room over there.
29:14 Yeah.
29:15 It's not their fault that they just used to shoot, shoot back against guys on a mountain
29:21 where they could only see muzzle flashes, right?
29:24 Like it's not their fault, but it is different.
29:27 Like, like the, the combat that they know versus the combat that I'm not, and it's, it's
29:32 not their fault.
29:33 And it's not anything to say I'm, I'm anything more than them.
29:37 All I'm saying is, is the lens of combat for us two is way different.
29:42 Yeah.
29:43 And, and, you know, um, and so it's really, it's, it's, it's a struggle that I have, like
29:50 when I hear people like, oh yeah, you know, I just want to go, you know, I just want to
29:55 go back to combat.
29:56 Cause I want to kick indoors and shoot people in the face.
29:57 It's like, dude, you've never looked somebody in the whites of their eyes as you've taken
30:01 their life.
30:02 You know what I mean?
30:03 Like don't quit giving off this perception that you've ever kicked in a door and shot
30:07 somebody in the face.
30:08 Cause first off, I don't know too many people who were that good of a shot, right?
30:12 Uh, second off, it's like quit giving off this mentality, quit romanticizing war.
30:19 There's nothing romantic, there's nothing about it that's, that's awesome, right?
30:23 Yeah.
30:24 It's a different kind of stolen valor.
30:25 Like some people still valor by wearing the wrong uniform in public, but these people
30:29 like talking about that, we have a friend who's in, who's in the seals and in, he talked
30:33 about how they came back on Thanksgiving day and all the people that had never been outside
30:36 the wire ate all the turkey and stuffing and good stuff.
30:39 And here are these guys that have been outside the wire for 48 hours.
30:42 They're covered in blood and everything else that you can imagine.
30:44 And here they are eating biscuits, right?
30:46 You know, it's just, it's a different, weird thing, but that doesn't diminish their, the
30:49 other people's service, but it's not the same.
30:51 Doesn't, but they have a responsibility to stick to what they've seen and what they did.
30:56 And when you start lying about your stories or you start romanticizing of more than what
31:00 you did, it's stolen valor.
31:03 And so anyways, that's my rant on that, but yeah, no, I, I never, I'll never forget this
31:08 guy, right?
31:09 Like up to that point, up to the point of where I met him.
31:14 And I always sad met him.
31:15 I mean, I came in contact, you know, you come in contact with people.
31:20 Up into the point where I came in contact with that man, I, I loved fighting.
31:27 Like, I loved it.
31:29 I was a guy who would look for fights.
31:32 Like I was a guy who like, I just loved it.
31:38 And you know why I loved it?
31:39 I loved it because look, I would, you know, look, we're America, right?
31:43 So we're America.
31:44 So we have, we are a powerhouse.
31:47 So the cool part is, is that I can go in here and mean you, let's say you're the enemy.
31:53 I mean, you can start fighting and as soon as you start kicking my ass, well, guess what
31:57 I'm doing?
31:58 I'm calling up air.
31:59 I'm going to call an artillery.
32:00 And I'm going to call on all this [inaudible] that you don't have and I'm going to win, right?
32:04 And then I walk out pounding my chest as if I did it, right?
32:10 Yeah.
32:11 It ain't the same.
32:12 The fight that they have against us versus the fight we have against them, it ain't
32:16 the same, right?
32:17 And so, so I'd always, I loved it, right?
32:22 And until this moment and when he got to jump on me, I mean, before we went in that valley,
32:32 if you wanted to know how bad ass I was, all you had to do is give me two seconds of silence
32:37 and I would have let you know.
32:40 And then I messed up, right?
32:47 I was on my knee.
32:48 I'd gotten complacent.
32:49 I mean, all I'd been doing is running around carrying bodies out and like, you know, we
32:53 shot some guys here and there and I mean, literally, I was running around, I was holding
32:59 my weapon in one arm, like a briefcase kind of like we're just running with it.
33:02 And I didn't even, I don't even know if I had my chest rig on.
33:05 Like I was like, I took my chest rig off, I had my body armor on, I was running around
33:08 with it and I'll never forget like getting hit in the back of my head.
33:12 But it was like, you know, like when you get hit and it's like that, that kind of like
33:16 that the stars like, but you know what I'm talking about, like it doesn't hurt, but it
33:20 was kind of like getting, I remember turning around and looking up and he's just standing
33:25 over me and all I could think about my mind was like, I just, I, I didn't want anybody
33:32 to have to come look for me.
33:35 I didn't want anybody to get hurt looking for me.
33:36 I didn't want my family to have to worry about me.
33:38 I would rather them know that I was dead right here than to have to cause all that anxiety.
33:45 Yeah.
33:46 So I turned and when I turned, luckily my fingers like it literally like just swung naturally
33:52 and hit the grenade launcher on my 203, the way the trigger was and so I'm like, what
33:56 do I got to lose?
33:57 And I didn't even know if it was loaded because I'd been shooting and I didn't know if I'd
34:00 reload it or not.
34:01 Like it was, there was a lot of factors to it that it was just luck.
34:05 And I squeezed the trigger and it hit him, he hit the ground and I literally thought
34:10 he was dead.
34:11 I didn't even, I didn't even look at it.
34:14 I just went back to grabbing one of my best friends dot Ali and I had laid down a little
34:19 bit and this guy comes up and next thing I'm getting choked out and I was like, man,
34:30 this is it.
34:31 Like my division just started closing, like, you know, it started diminishing and I don't
34:38 know what happened.
34:39 I don't know how I got out of it.
34:40 I kind of relaxed a little bit.
34:41 I don't know if you bled out.
34:42 I don't, you know, I don't know if the injuries got him like what it was, but he let up enough
34:48 to where I could get out and we were fighting on the ground back and forth and I was just
34:53 grabbing everything I could and I got a rock and I remember hitting him across the side
34:59 of the face and just about the third or fourth hit.
35:04 He's laying on his back looking at me and you could tell he knew he was going to die.
35:13 And I don't know that I realized that at that moment, but I think subconsciously I realized
35:20 that I just probably didn't process it then, but I'll just, I never forget, like, I remember
35:26 I didn't know that guy.
35:29 He believed in he neither one of us thought we were wrong at that moment.
35:34 He believed in his cause as much as I believed in mine.
35:39 He has family that's going to miss him just like I would.
35:44 Could have a wife, he could have kids, but literally we were there at that moment because
35:55 we were born in two different places.
36:00 And for me, at that moment, I realized that I don't fight because I hate what's in front
36:11 of me.
36:13 I fight because I love what's behind me and that's a whole different perspective.
36:23 You know, like, that's a whole different perspective.
36:27 And at that point, fighting has never been fun for me since.
36:32 I don't, obviously I don't care to do it, but I don't see the reason to do it.
36:39 And I went ahead and killed that guy, took his life because that's the way life works.
36:45 But I appreciate that man.
36:48 I appreciate that man for the lesson that I was taught, for the person that it made me
36:53 now.
36:55 That guy right there changed my life forever.
37:00 And I killed people before, but I don't know that there's many people in my life that made
37:09 such a positive impact on my life as that man.
37:14 It's an odd thing to say, it's an odd thing to hear, but it does also make perfect sense.
37:18 And it reminds me of a quote actually from the way forward because since this all happened
37:23 and, you know, there have been people that have questioned your story, you know, questioned
37:26 the validity of your battle story and the situation with this Taliban guy that you took
37:30 out.
37:31 But here was a quote and I want to get your feedback on it.
37:33 Here's what I have to say to that BS, unless you were there, you don't know.
37:37 And let me tell you why I can say that because when I close my eyes at night, it's the eyes
37:41 of that Taliban soldier that I see looking in the mind, knowing what was coming and that
37:46 he was about to leave this world and enter another night after night.
37:49 I look into the eyes of a dying man.
37:52 And every time that image replays my mind, I don't see an enemy.
37:56 I see myself.
37:58 So I was with you Dakota all the way.
38:00 Yeah, like I can imagine closing your eyes and seeing the eyes and the of the man that
38:05 whose life he took.
38:06 But it was those last three words, I see myself.
38:09 What did you mean by that?
38:10 I think that the evil in me died right then too.
38:18 You know, that man took some bad out of me, right?
38:24 Like he forged me, challenged me to be a better person after that.
38:33 You know, because what nobody likes to understand is good people don't kill bad people.
38:45 Bad people, you have to drop to that level.
38:48 I don't care how you look at it, murder is murder, like whether it's self defense, whether
38:54 it's either way, it's killing, it is killing.
38:57 There is nothing pretty about it, whether you're on the good side or the bad side, you have
39:01 to drop to the level to fight, to do these types of things, to be capable of doing these
39:06 types of things, right?
39:07 It has to be in you, like, and that's what, like I think Jordan Peterson talks about it
39:12 really good.
39:13 And I don't mean bad people, good bad, whatever.
39:15 I mean, you know, Jordan Peterson talks about the monster inside you, right?
39:20 You have got to be able to get on the level to fight monsters.
39:25 You've got to be able to become a monster.
39:28 And that's just the reality of it, right?
39:31 Like, that's the reality of it.
39:37 And I think that like, I think that when I say, when I say I see myself, I just, I see,
39:52 there's just so many anecdotes to that, right?
39:54 Like, obviously I've seen the evil of me about to take this man's life.
39:57 And I also, he also pulled some good out of me.
40:02 You know what I mean?
40:03 Like, as crazy as it is, like it's such a crazy thing to say and it's such a deep thing
40:07 to say, but it's like this moment, literally, literally this moment makes me the man I am
40:14 when I get off the truck, when the level of empathy that that man pulled out of me to
40:20 have understanding for others, if I can connect, if I was able to connect with a guy who just
40:25 tried to kill me, who believes who are so far away, if I could find a way to connect
40:32 with him, we can find a way to connect with anybody.
40:38 Yeah.
40:39 And Dakota, it's a cornerstone moment for your life, but it's just, it's a different intensity
40:43 because like some people, the cornerstone moment of their life is losing the state championship
40:47 game or a book they read or, you know, a crazy, great thing.
40:51 You know, the moment they saw their child born, like something like that, yours just has obviously
40:55 a different tinge to it, but it's just part of your story and it does create a pathway
41:01 for you to have other people's understanding, because there are other people that are in
41:04 your situation that I can't align with them and say, Hey, brother, I know how you feel,
41:09 right?
41:10 That's just not something that they could ever say.
41:12 But to even keep the story of the battle going just a little bit, obviously the battle ended
41:16 at some point, you go into all the detail in the books, but you lost your teammates, right?
41:21 You lost your team on teammates, you weren't with them because you know, you question authority,
41:27 they thought you were being insubordinate.
41:28 They took you away from your team.
41:30 So I know that there's a little bit of guilt there.
41:31 You talked about that a lot, but you lost Lieutenant Michael E. Johnson, Staff Sergeant Aaron M.
41:36 Kinefic and corpsman third class James are late, right?
41:39 And you found their bodies.
41:40 You talked about taking them out.
41:42 You know, it's a tough situation.
41:43 I don't envy the position you're in of having to talk about it.
41:46 But there is a quote from the way forward that doesn't seem like it should relate.
41:51 But it like snapped into my brain whenever I was thinking about this interview, okay?
41:55 There was a time in your life when you were growing up, because you lived on a farm with
41:59 your father and you were caring for a cow of yours named Tinker, right?
42:04 So Tinker was supposed to die.
42:05 We don't have to get into all the veterinary medical reasons why, but Tinker should have
42:08 died.
42:09 But you said, no, you're like, I'm not this, this cow is going to live, [inaudible].
42:14 And you cared for this cow.
42:15 You spent months trying to preserve her life, and there's a really funny story of how you
42:19 ended up preserving your life, which will, we'll leave that to the imagination of the
42:22 readers whenever they get to that part of the story.
42:24 But here was a quote, and it was just a random quote.
42:27 It was because my biggest fear in life was not being able to be what someone needed me
42:31 to be when they needed me to be it.
42:34 It's still my biggest fear.
42:36 So in that moment, when you found your teammates, I know you thought you should have been with
42:42 them, right?
42:43 You still think that you should have been with them.
42:46 Maybe the outcome would have been different for them.
42:48 Maybe the outcome would have been different for you.
42:50 Maybe you would have died instead of them, something like that, right?
42:53 But I just that quote, it seems like that's been in you from the beginning, Dakota, that
42:57 God wired that in you, this overwhelming desire to overcome that biggest fear of needing to
43:03 be what people need you to be in that moment.
43:05 So take that wherever you want, man.
43:07 I want to be cognizant of where you're at in the story, but is that related?
43:12 Do you feel like it's related to your story?
43:13 Yeah, I mean, it's every day, right?
43:15 I mean, it's every day and where it came from.
43:18 I don't know, you know, I spent a lot of time trying to figure that out, you know, and it's
43:23 like, yeah, I mean, you know, that's literally, that's why I get up and I train so hard.
43:31 I steal today, right?
43:32 Like it's why I, it's why I try to push myself so much further, right?
43:38 It's why I try to push other people.
43:39 It's why I'm a firefighter.
43:41 It's why I do these things because it's why I try to read up on knowledge.
43:46 I'm always trying, I don't, you know, I, you know, when I lost my teammates, it's still
43:56 the biggest failure in my life.
43:58 And when people say, well, it's not, no, no, it is.
44:03 And it's, and it is, and it's not arguable, it's, you don't get to change the facts because
44:09 you don't like how it feels, right?
44:12 And, and if you take that away from me, it, it changes up the drives that I have, right?
44:22 It's like, no, I, I failed.
44:23 I went in to go get my teammates.
44:25 We all know that.
44:26 And when I got to them, I didn't get them out alive.
44:29 Like it's a clear failure, period.
44:34 Again, it's, it's defined who I am, it's, it's gave me the, the why that a lot of people
44:39 don't have.
44:40 And so with that quote being, you know, my biggest fear is that I won't be able to be
44:45 what someone needs me to be, when they need me to be it, it's, it's real.
44:52 Like, I, I just want to help people.
44:57 Like I just, I just want to help people.
45:01 I just want to make the world a better place, right?
45:04 Like, man, I don't, I don't care how much money I have.
45:06 I don't care what type of house I live in.
45:10 I just want to serve people.
45:11 I just want to, I want to take away all the pain from these bad, like from people who
45:17 are in bad situations or those moments that they don't know if they can get through.
45:23 Like, I want to be able to come in and help them get through that and help them see that
45:29 it's going to be okay.
45:30 And, and whatever the circumstances are, we will get through it and I will stand next
45:34 to you and I don't care what's in front of it, but we will go through hell together.
45:39 And where we end up, like you're not going to be alone, right?
45:43 And that's literally it's, it's, it's whether it's a car wreck, whether it's a, whether
45:48 it's a friend going through something or, or whatever it is, like, I just, I try to show
45:55 people that no matter what, if you think nobody cares about you, I do, and I don't care who
46:05 you are.
46:06 I don't care if I know your name.
46:07 I don't care what I know about you.
46:08 Like, I genuinely care about you and it's like, people say, oh, that's cliche or whatever,
46:14 right?
46:15 It's like what it's, it's not, it's not.
46:17 And, um, it's not a cool thing to say.
46:20 It's not a, it's not, it's just a way of life.
46:25 It is a way of life.
46:26 And it's a good word to live by, but in all honesty, and you've, you've talked very openly
46:31 about this.
46:32 You weren't always in that position mentally, um, because whenever you did get back, whenever
46:36 you got out of the Marine Corps, you were obviously having some, some big time issues.
46:40 Um, you, you were kind of falling apart in a lot of ways in your life.
46:43 And at one point, you decide that that was it.
46:46 And that you were going to take your own life.
46:48 You parked your vehicle.
46:49 You reached in the glove box, grabbed your Glock, put it to your head, pulled the trigger,
46:53 thick, but no bang, right?
46:55 Um, and it reminded me of a quote from your book because, well, here, I'll just read it
47:00 here.
47:01 It's from Into the Fire.
47:02 As a grunt, I was resigned about death.
47:04 I don't go to church.
47:05 To me, organized religions seem like bureaucracies, but I believed in God, grunts see his acts
47:10 on the battlefield.
47:11 Guys beside you get shot or blown up.
47:14 You don't.
47:15 God has a plan that we won't understand until we cross to the other side.
47:18 There's no sense obsessing about getting tagged.
47:21 Whether a bullet has your name on it or it doesn't.
47:23 No need for philosophizing.
47:26 So to philosophize a little bit Dakota, there was a bullet with your name on it and it should
47:31 have been in your Glock, but it wasn't, you know, somebody unloaded your pistol, right?
47:36 You didn't know that when you put it to your temple, but that bullet had your name on it,
47:41 brother, but it didn't take you, right?
47:43 There's a different plan for you, right?
47:46 And again, I'll know how that's affected you moving forward.
47:48 Obviously, that's another cornerstone moment of your life whenever you made the decision
47:52 to end it all.
47:53 But here we are talking.
47:54 So give me a little bit more on that.
47:55 Yeah.
47:56 I mean, you know, look, in a hundred percent, like, you know, one of my closest friends
48:00 is Mack Rashard from Lake Hills Church.
48:03 I mean, the guy has been with me.
48:04 I mean, look, you know, I believe in God.
48:07 I believe that God is, I mean, I watched the acts of God all the time.
48:13 You know what I mean?
48:14 All the time.
48:15 I am a living.
48:19 You know what I mean?
48:20 Like, my life in so many ways, like, you know, are just God's hand, you know, taken
48:29 it in his own hands, right?
48:32 And yeah, I mean, you're right.
48:33 There's a bullet.
48:34 And I do believe that.
48:35 I believe that it doesn't matter if you have a paper cut and you're in the best hospital
48:39 in the world with all the best doctors in the world, it could be a paper cut on your
48:44 pinky finger.
48:45 And if it's your time to go, it's your time to go and there's nothing we can do about
48:48 it, right?
48:49 I've seen this happen so many times.
48:52 And yeah, you know, when I tried to take my life, it wasn't because, honestly, I just
49:04 felt like I'd become a burden on everybody else.
49:07 You know, I, I felt like that I, I had just, and I had, I'd lost my way.
49:15 I had gotten to this victim mentality that so many do of, well, you know, like, I just
49:21 didn't want to look in the mirror.
49:22 I was blaming everything around me, like, oh, you know, I went to combat, lost my whole
49:26 team, blah, blah, blah, blah, like, I served this country, this country owes me.
49:31 I'm the veteran, blah, blah, blah, whatever it was, right?
49:33 Like, I used all these lines, I got PTSD, you know, the world needs to, and what I, what,
49:40 that moment made taught me was that, and obviously not instantly, but nobody owes me
49:47 [inaudible].
49:48 And honestly, I owe, because of, because of the, the hard times I've gone through, I owe
49:59 people more, and I owe them more because I'm still here, and I owe it to be able to
50:10 connect with those people on times like this to help them get through it.
50:14 I am here to help bring them through these times that they've never seen that I already
50:20 have.
50:21 Like, that's my obligation to people.
50:24 And instead of this mentality of, well, I'm, you know, I'm just gonna, it's, it's a selfish
50:31 entitled victim mentality, and I have an obligation to, to be better for it, and then it gives
50:39 me more tools and more ways to connect to people by these hard times, and I have an obligation
50:47 to do that until God tells me I'm done.
50:51 Right.
50:52 Well, I mean, we've all heard it, and I think you alluded to it even a little bit earlier,
50:55 like hard times make strong men, strong men make good times, good times make weak men,
50:59 weak men make hard times.
51:00 So if you can focus in on the hard times making strong men, like that, that's kind of what
51:04 you're talking about, but it would also not be a full, you know, recounting of the Dakota
51:09 Meyer story if we don't talk about what happened in 2011.
51:12 So in the summer of 2011, you were alerted by a Marine colonel that the White House had
51:16 reviewed your award packet from your time of service and what happened in the battle
51:20 of Gone Jigal and that they might be giving you a call.
51:22 And so you eventually did get a call, you know, why you're out working a construction
51:25 job, which is a pretty funny story.
51:27 He had a call from the president of the United States, Barack Obama at the time, he informed
51:30 you that he had reviewed the notes of the battle and that he had signed your citation
51:33 for the Medal of Honor, which is not a call that most people will ever get.
51:37 You go to the White House in September of 2011 for the Medal of Honor ceremony.
51:41 You mentioned kind of ingest to a White House aide that you wish you could sit down and
51:45 have a beer with the president.
51:46 That ended up happening regardless of what you think about Barack Obama.
51:49 That's a pretty cool story.
51:50 Then you go through the entire Medal of Honor ceremony, but from the outside looking in,
51:56 you would think that if you go to, you know, Dakota Meyer dot com or whatever your website
51:59 is, it'll be in the show notes that you would have the Medal of Honor right there, that that
52:02 would be the first thing that you would talk about, that you would have a Medal of Honor
52:05 tattoo and be, and be that guy, right?
52:07 And I've heard you talk about this in previous interviews that you kind of hate the medal.
52:11 Yeah, like you don't, you don't really like it.
52:13 It reminds you of the worst day of your life.
52:14 And I want to read this quick quote and then I want to get, you know, your feedback on
52:17 the entire process before the medal afterwards, how you feel about it now.
52:21 But this is a quote from Into the Fire.
52:22 "When the president hung that medal around my neck, I felt glum.
52:26 I couldn't smile and I said nothing.
52:28 I gave no remarks and avoided the press.
52:30 As a Marine, you either bring your home, you bring your team home alive or you die trying.
52:35 My country was recognizing me for being a failure and for the worst day of my life.
52:40 So a lot of people would disagree with you.
52:42 But guess what?
52:43 I don't get a vote, right?
52:44 You're the one that gets to figure out how you feel about certain situations.
52:47 But take us through that whole thing, knowing that you were up for the Medal of Honor, getting
52:50 the call from the president all the way through to present day.
52:53 Yeah, I mean, you know, look, when I got notified that I was going to be getting the medal,
52:57 you know, we went back and forth and I'll never forget the first meeting that we had.
53:02 I walked out and said, "I don't want it."
53:05 I walked out and said that I'm not a hero.
53:12 And the quote that the colonel said back to me was, "Well, the president of the United
53:17 States thinks you're a hero."
53:19 And I remember saying back to him, I said, "Well, if he thinks I'm such a hero, why
53:22 don't you call my teammates up and let them know?"
53:25 And walked out.
53:26 Brutal quote, yeah.
53:28 And so finally, like, I was like, "Hey, just meld me the medal.
53:34 I got no ceremony.
53:35 I don't want [inaudible].
53:36 Just meld it to me."
53:37 And he's like, "That's not how it works."
53:40 And so we went back and forth and a lot of people don't know this, but the only way I
53:45 agreed to come to the ceremony was if they had a ceremony at each one of my teammates'
53:51 grave sites at the same time.
53:55 And so the Patriot Guard went and did that, and it was just, so at the same time I was
53:59 receiving my medal, they were honoring those guys across the nation.
54:05 And I'll never forget standing up there and getting that medal around my neck, and it
54:15 was the sickest, sickest I've ever been.
54:17 And it still is.
54:18 Like, I hate.
54:20 I don't wear the medal.
54:21 I honestly, just full disclosure, I don't even know where it's at right now.
54:28 I gave it to my daughter.
54:30 You know, she asked about it one time, and I just gave it to her.
54:35 And you know, she wears it, probably has it in a play box somewhere.
54:38 I think she might have took it to school and let her friend borrow it for a week or two.
54:43 I don't know.
54:44 I haven't seen it in a while.
54:47 But I understand what the medal represents, but for me, like, it's, for me, it's, you
55:03 know, I, for me, I have a lot more to do.
55:11 And if I wear that medal around, I feel like it's the Uncle Rico syndrome.
55:18 Yeah.
55:19 Yeah.
55:20 You know, and that was one of the reasons I become a firefighter.
55:26 And because how long could I go living off of 10 years ago of one day of my life and wearing
55:35 this medal around and people looking at me like I'm, I'm something I'm not.
55:44 And so that's why it's important for me to still get on a truck and to still go and serve
55:52 the community at that level.
55:55 And I just that medal, I, yeah, I hate that medal.
56:00 I hate it.
56:02 It's such a hard, you know, from my perspective, it seems crazy to hear you say that.
56:07 But at the same time, I've read your books.
56:10 I get it.
56:11 Like I get it and I don't, it's a, it's a weird dichotomy in my own brain because it
56:15 doesn't make sense while it makes sense perfectly.
56:18 But, but also the thing that's curious as I was thinking through your story and thinking
56:23 through all the things that I seemingly felt like I knew about you before we got to this
56:26 conversation is how different of a perspective you would have on the pull out from Afghanistan
56:32 than, you know, another combat veteran or another veteran that didn't see combat or just someone
56:36 here stateside looking at the news, you know, you talked about even in some of your books
56:40 about how, you know, Afghans, you can, you know, people, there's an Afghan saying that
56:44 you can rent an Afghan, but you can never buy one.
56:47 And then we kind of see that with what's going on with people that are like switching from,
56:51 yeah, go America to, I guess I'll be a tally now or something like that.
56:55 But from your perspective, after, as this was happening, I got the perspectives of a
56:59 lot of people in the show, you know, gold star widows and people that had seen battle
57:04 in Afghanistan, people that had covered the battle on the ground there to kind of get
57:07 their perspective.
57:08 But from your perspective, as somebody who lost brothers in Afghanistan who shed blood
57:12 and had your bloodshed in Afghanistan to see the United States pull out and the way that
57:16 it did and seeing what we're seeing now with the humanitarian crisis moving forward with
57:21 innocent Afghans, you know, on the ground there, what are your thoughts?
57:24 I mean, I'm going to be a straight shooter to you, right? Like I'm not going to get
57:29 all emotional about it romances. Again, romanticizing about it, right? Look, we should have never
57:35 been there past. I mean, we first off, we should have never been there, right?
57:40 We had Osama bin Laden cornered pretty early in our occupation. It wasn't even occupation
57:46 at that point. And we decided not to go get him. And then, you know, here we were 20 years
57:49 later. I believe that if you don't think for one second, that if the Taliban had thought
57:57 that we were going to occupy them for 20 years, they would have gave bin Laden up on 9/12,
58:03 right? Yeah. No, no, this was all about money. There were too many, like, why do you think
58:10 every administration kept kicking it down the road? Because guess what? It was all about
58:15 money. Let's get out of this romanticizing that, oh, it was about protecting our country
58:21 because it wasn't. None of the guys I killed were ever going to come attack America. It
58:26 was literally about money. And it's about [inaudible] politics, right? Which is something
58:32 we've seen so many times. I mean, you're watching this Ukraine situation going right now. Why
58:37 don't you give me one reason as to why? What benefit is it for us to go over and be part
58:47 of that, right? Like, it's just crazy. But anyways, for me, like how we pulled out, yeah,
58:54 it doesn't suck to know that my teammates died for that. Yeah. But I knew that way before
59:05 we ever pulled out of Afghanistan. You know what I mean? Like, like, I knew it. We knew
59:12 it when we were there. You know what I mean? None of us thought that Afghanistan wanted
59:16 to be a democracy or wanted to be free. None of us did it. We all were over there and we
59:22 knew that this was going to happen at some point. And so, like, when I hear like, oh,
59:30 we should stay there. Why? Why? Like, why should we stay there? Like, they're not our
59:36 problem. I don't care what anybody says. They're not our problem. We've got bigger problems
59:41 here. You know, and it's like, you know, it's just a damned if you do damned if you don't.
59:49 But it's like, we went in there with no strategy of what a win was. Like, what are we supposed
59:54 to do? If we were going to go occupy or try to make all these countries who are doing
59:59 evil stuff better? I mean, we got to go all over the world, right? And so, as upsetting
1:00:06 as that is and as hard as that is to swallow, you know, we're over here trying to fight
1:00:14 in these countries that don't even want help as we're over here, rising the debt for mining
1:00:18 your children. You know what I mean? It's like, it's a hard pill to swallow. It's a hard
1:00:25 way to look at it. And I understand it. It's hard to look in the mirror and say, you know,
1:00:33 the guys that I cared about so much died not for what I thought they were dying for.
1:00:42 But just because we don't like to look at it that way, it doesn't mean it's not reality
1:00:50 and it doesn't mean that we should continue to stay there because we don't like the feeling
1:00:54 of pulling out and saying that this was done.
1:00:57 Yeah, it's, I mean, Dakota, I literally feel like we could spend the next five hours talking
1:01:03 about the military industrial complex and how real that is or how reality that is or,
1:01:08 you know, geopolitics and all that. And it just kind of muddies the waters. But to even,
1:01:12 I guess, bring it down to, to a simple, more just basic military level. Again, as an ounce,
1:01:17 as a civilian on the outside looking in, there's some concerning things whenever I look at
1:01:21 the military, obviously the seeming lack of leadership or just basic common sense with
1:01:26 some of the general class, some of the woke stuff we're seeing in the military, some of
1:01:30 the things that are happening at the academies, you know, I had somebody from the Air Force
1:01:34 send me a private message on Instagram saying how they were being trained on how to put
1:01:38 pronouns in their email bios, this is in the Air Force, the lowering of standards so that
1:01:44 women or just basically weak men can make it into these spec ops communities or make
1:01:49 it into just the basic military or whatever. It's concerning to me. Obviously, like I don't
1:01:54 necessarily think we need to be the world's police, but I want the US military to be strong
1:01:59 and I want the best people to be in these positions. I don't want anybody to be elevated
1:02:03 to position where they could potentially lead to someone's death later. Like you get this
1:02:08 person to be a special pick and now they're a seal or now they're a marine recon or something
1:02:14 like that. And then something happens on the battlefield and they're not strong enough to
1:02:18 pull someone out of danger. And I'm concerned about it, but for you having been in the military,
1:02:23 but not being a 20 year guy, but someone that still supports veterans and veterans causes,
1:02:28 what do you, what do you think about when you see some of the woke stuff, some of the
1:02:31 lowering of the standards and just in general lack of leadership with our military?
1:02:34 Yeah, I mean, look, the lack of accountability, right? Like that's, that's the issue, right?
1:02:38 It's accountability, the lack of accountability. And you said, I love how you just said, because
1:02:45 I hate what I hear men talking about, oh, they're lowering the standard. So we're going
1:02:50 to have women in there and it's like, hold on. They're also lowering the standards so
1:02:55 that there's going to be weak ass men in there. Like let's don't forget this. And I,
1:03:00 I serve next to men who I'd rather have. They're like, I've served next to men and women. I've
1:03:04 been in gun fights with men and women. And I've seen women outperform some of these guys
1:03:09 that should have never been there, right? So like all that is just whatever. But I, yeah,
1:03:16 it's concerning. If you're not concerned that the joint, the joint chief admitted that he
1:03:25 called China his counterpart and let them know that he would call him and tell them if we
1:03:32 were going to do anything nuclear, if that doesn't concern you, if just that piece of
1:03:37 it. But here's what I want to say. And I'm with you. And I know my view on Afghanistan,
1:03:45 Iraq, all that, I know it kind of seemed like, like, okay, well, I don't want to go take
1:03:51 care of other countries. And that's not it. What I want to say is, is I don't think we
1:03:57 need to occupy it. We have the best SF units, CAD, Delta, you've got, I mean, I mean, you've
1:04:05 got the still team six, they are like, you can trust this, they are the best on the globe.
1:04:14 And at the point that people dial us into where we can spend money in these pockets like Iraq
1:04:19 and Afghanistan or, or Syria, like we're, we're occupying big military there and making
1:04:27 you think that that's the only place. Understand this, like the people of American need to
1:04:32 understand this, that the war that we have is global. It's global. It's on our border.
1:04:41 It's all across the world, right? So we just need to be taking hits everywhere. There are
1:04:46 no boundaries. Like, if it's in Germany and we know that a [inaudible] is there, we go into
1:04:52 Germany and we smash that dude. Like, like, that's, that's how we do it. And when you
1:04:56 talk about weakening the world's military or the America's military, we are, when America's
1:05:03 strong, everybody hates us. Right. But when America's weak, the world suffer.
1:05:11 Yeah. I mean, we see that all, all the time in those people that are like, we shouldn't
1:05:16 be the world's police. That's ridiculous. It's easy to say that when you live in a compound
1:05:21 or you live in a gated neighborhood or you live in Manhattan and all this is like, yeah,
1:05:25 of course you would say that. You're not worried about some tribesmen from over the hill coming
1:05:29 over here trying to take your cow and your family. Like, what are you talking about?
1:05:32 Like you have no perspective whatsoever. And I feel like we've been like super intense
1:05:36 for this entire hour. I do want to shift gears a little bit to talk about, you know, Dakota
1:05:41 Meyer, the person because you're obviously way more than what you did on one day as you
1:05:44 just described. I want to talk a little bit about fatherhood because in both of the books
1:05:49 and into the fire and the way forward, you talk about how you don't know your biological
1:05:53 father that a guy named Mike Meyer. This was a guy that adopted you whenever the day that
1:05:58 you were born, he was with your mother for a short period of time. You went to go live
1:06:02 with him whenever you I think you were 12 or 13 years old. And you basically talk about
1:06:07 how that well, here's a short quote from your book. I learned early on that just because
1:06:11 you come from the same blood as someone doesn't mean that they are family. Big Mike Meyer was
1:06:15 my real dad as far as I was concerned. The thing I'm curious about is I'm a relatively
1:06:19 new father. I've got a one and a half year old, you know, about 20 month old and I got
1:06:23 another son on the way. By the time this episode comes out, he may be here with us, right?
1:06:29 And so I see myself as a father through the lens of my father and the things that my father
1:06:34 did that were good, that were bad, that were indifferent or whatever. So for you, with your
1:06:38 daughters and with your family, how does that affect, you know, basically not knowing your
1:06:44 biological father, but having a relationship with Mike, but it wasn't perfect. And there
1:06:47 was some craziness with with your biological mom and blah, blah, blah and all that. How
1:06:51 does that directly reflect who you are today as a father? How does it shape you?
1:06:56 Yeah, I mean, you know, my dad, I mean, my dad taught me, I mean, if I can be half the
1:07:03 dad that he was, I'll be successful. You know, I was fortunate that my mom showed me what
1:07:09 not to be and my dad showed me what to be. And you know, like, I look at a lot of things
1:07:17 like the way he handled things, the way he didn't. And you know, it's always a back and
1:07:23 forth of like, you know, I don't remember my dad telling me you love me, right? Like,
1:07:27 I don't remember those ever being conversations. I don't ever remember my dad, like, setting
1:07:31 me down and like, Hey, you know, like, okay, so we did this, like, do you want to think
1:07:36 about how this made me feel when you said that, right? Like, right, I don't ever remember
1:07:43 that being part of it, right? Now, I do think that there's certain situations where I need
1:07:48 to do that with my children. But I'll tell you what my dad did is my dad didn't have
1:07:54 to say anything. My dad lived it. My dad didn't have to tell me how you should live. I could
1:08:00 watch my dad every step of the way every single day. My dad woke up and brought it, right?
1:08:06 Like he woke up and he brought it. He was a bad ass son to my grandfather and grandmother,
1:08:12 right? He was a bad ass dad to me. He was a bad ass businessman, right? Like, like all
1:08:17 these aspects, my dad didn't have to talk about it. My dad was being about it, right?
1:08:23 And I think that, like, like for me, that would, you know, like, if I can be half the
1:08:31 man that he is, like, I'll be somebody. And, you know, my dad didn't get, my dad was like,
1:08:39 my dad didn't question how he was doing things. You know, my dad knew what right and wrong
1:08:46 was. My dad knew, my dad, basically my dad is one of the simplest man you'll ever meet.
1:08:51 And he basically does two things. He wakes up every day and he gives all he's got. And
1:08:57 he doesn't have to question or live by social norm or whatever it is, right? Like he's not
1:09:03 like going with the norms. My dad knows what right and wrong is. And he knows he's doing
1:09:07 his best. And he knows what right and wrong is. And that's as simple as it gets for my
1:09:12 dad. And, but just because it's simple doesn't mean it's easy.
1:09:16 Yeah, I mean, for me as a father, there are a lot of things that I want to say that I
1:09:20 do and I want to say that there's things that I do incredibly well. But I know the score
1:09:24 for a lot of people. And I know the score for me. I know that there's a lot of things
1:09:27 that I do that's just like, it's astonishing. But it is really awesome when you get to see
1:09:31 an unpolished dad, because I would say in a lot of ways I had a dad that wasn't polished,
1:09:35 right? You know, they're probably not going to write a bunch of like relationship books
1:09:38 about how father should treat a son. And oh, he said this and he shouldn't have done that.
1:09:41 He should have, you know, done this this way. But you know what my dad did? My dad, when
1:09:45 I decided to play sports, he decided that he was going to see everything. He was going
1:09:49 to go to every practice and he was going to go to every game. And I always knew the score
1:09:52 growing up that my biggest fan on the planet was my father. And that hasn't been in a huge
1:09:58 impact. My dad didn't read a bunch of books. He didn't go get his PhD and fathered him or
1:10:02 whatever to kind of figure that out. He just modeled it. And this was a guy my father lost
1:10:07 his dad when he was 13 years old. Around the same time you went to go live with Big Mike,
1:10:11 right? So you're looking at these things like, how could he have decided to do those
1:10:14 things? And I'm so thankful for the man that he is and for the man that he helped me to
1:10:18 become when all the signs would have pointed to the fact that he wasn't going to be able
1:10:22 to do that. So I would go ahead and think about this, right? You know, like, like, you
1:10:28 know, we get wrapped up in what so being a parent is my kids liking us, right? Or, or
1:10:35 like, you know, brotherhood is about me not hurting your feelings, right? Like, there's
1:10:40 all these aspects of it. And it's, and it's exact. It's wrong. Right. My dad, I'll never
1:10:45 forget. My dad looked at me and he's like, I'm, I'm not your friend. I'm your father.
1:10:51 And, and when you think about that, you know, like, I see this in the fire service. I see
1:10:56 this in the military. You know, you got these guys like, you have an obligation as brothers
1:11:02 to hold people accountable, even when it's hard. It's about accountability. It's about
1:11:07 pushing them to be do their best. It's about making sure that you are being truthful to
1:11:12 them as to where they're at. And right in that brotherhood, isn't that like what teammates
1:11:18 do of like, Hey, hey, you're wrong right now. Like you need to fix this, right? But we've
1:11:23 gotten this idea that, Oh, I want to make everybody like me as a parent, as a friend,
1:11:28 as a brother, as a husband, as a wife, like we've gotten this idea that we want to be
1:11:33 liked. We want the likes of Instagram, social media, we want to be liked. Instead of, instead
1:11:40 of truthful.
1:11:41 And it's, it's not just truth. It's capital T truth, not my truth in your truth. And let's
1:11:46 just do whatever it's been, no, no, right. Like there, there is a truth here. This, this
1:11:50 postmodern idea that somehow truth doesn't matter and truth is somehow the power of white
1:11:55 supremacy. It's just a ridiculous thing for people to think through. And here, I don't,
1:12:00 you've got your own podcast where you get to talk trash. I need to talk to you more. I
1:12:03 don't need to go off on my own tangent here. But one guy I am curious about, because we
1:12:06 got into your story and I really appreciate it. But obviously you're your own guy now,
1:12:10 right? There's a lot of stuff that you're doing now. You've mentioned being a firefighter
1:12:14 often, you're also still reserving the remains as I understand it. You've got podcasts, you've
1:12:19 got your own companies, own the dash and others. So you just give my audience the rundown.
1:12:23 What is Dakota Meyer up to these days? No, I'm a firefighter. Obviously a father. I have
1:12:29 a gym called the dash gym. It's a, it's out here on my property. We've got some really
1:12:34 awesome people that come to it every morning. We got a five AM class. So just awesome community
1:12:41 there. I've got an apparel brand called own the dash, which is just, it's about living
1:12:46 your life. It's about going out and just owning it. Owning that dash, it's on your tombstone
1:12:50 between the day you're born and the day you died, right? I've got, we've got a podcast
1:12:55 myself and Dan Holloway called the American Party podcast where we just talk about principle,
1:13:01 like principally looking at the issues that we have in the world today, which is something
1:13:06 that doesn't happen often. And then I've got, I have a company called the dash IV, right?
1:13:11 So basically we do a hydration therapy or IV therapy. We do NAD. We do all these, these
1:13:19 really incredible, incredible therapy sessions for people that just, it's really just awesome
1:13:24 watching people get excited about their health again. So really fulfilling. And then I have
1:13:29 a company called flip side canvas, right? So we do canvas art that I like to think it's
1:13:33 the most badass art on the face of the planet. And so yeah, it's, I think, I think that's
1:13:38 kind of it. Dude, all that stuff will be in the show notes, but a little aside on flip
1:13:42 side canvas. What's funny is the moment I went to your site, it's like, okay, if you
1:13:45 guys can imagine all of the like CPA offices or insurance offices you walk through, but
1:13:49 there's like an eagle flying, you know, in the mountains and then it'll be like, be the
1:13:54 leader that you want to be or something stupid like that. It's basically what those signs
1:13:59 are trying to be, but in real life for dudes that are bad, right? So like that's, that's
1:14:04 what I kind of put that as. So bravo from some of the stuff that you're creating. But Dakota,
1:14:08 we've talked about a lot of stuff in this podcast, but this is likely going to be my
1:14:11 last question of the day. Towards the end of the way forward, the new book that'll be
1:14:15 in the show notes. There you go. We've we've done our our stuff. The publishers are below
1:14:19 us now. You have a short, almost throwaway quote that caught my attention. It's like in
1:14:24 the middle of a paragraph. Okay. So around this time in the book, you're talking about
1:14:28 being a firefighter, you're talking about going on these emergency calls. You're talking
1:14:31 about always being ready, how you've responded to a bunch of roadside crashes and problems,
1:14:36 how you kind of always seem to be, you know, at the right place at somebody else's wrong
1:14:40 time kind of a deal. But here was the quote that stood out to me. Sometimes I wonder if
1:14:44 maybe God is preparing me for something in the future, but I don't know what it is yet.
1:14:50 So as I read your story, and as I reflect on your story, Dakota, being being a Christian
1:14:53 myself, being a disciple of Jesus Christ, there's nothing more clear to me than the fact that
1:14:58 God has a very specific purpose for you. And that the Dakota Meyer story is not done. The
1:15:04 Dakota Meyer story is not wrapped up in this book. That's in my hands. There's a whole
1:15:08 lot more to your story. It's not wrapped up in your daughters. It's not wrapped up in
1:15:11 your any of your past relationships, or even in your future relationships. But God has something
1:15:16 I can feel in my bones, Dakota. God has an extreme calling for your life where he is
1:15:20 going to utilize everything that you've experienced up to that point in order to respond to his
1:15:25 calling. Do you feel the same way? When I'm upset. Yeah, I mean, and that's, yeah, and
1:15:32 as scary as that is, right? Like, to think that he's preparing me for something bigger
1:15:42 than what I've already had to go through is a scary aspect, right? But, you know, what
1:15:51 I don't know is, is like, you know, I'll tell you, I had a big shift. I had a couple
1:15:57 calls that really kind of bothered me of, you know, where we were with people that died.
1:16:06 And you know, I had a huge shift on my mindset of it. And now, like, whenever I get to it.
1:16:13 And I say this, and you got to hear it out, because it doesn't sound good at the beginning.
1:16:18 But when I get to watch somebody die, I used to look at it negative. And now, I just, I
1:16:27 look at it in a positive thing that I got to share these last moments with these people
1:16:31 on earth, and I made sure that they're not alone. That someone was with them that cared
1:16:35 about them, that as they're about to go across the threshold, I got to stand there with them
1:16:44 and hopefully make it just a little bit better. Hopefully that they're, my dream is, my goal
1:16:49 is that every person that I know is about to leave this world, that I'm around, I want
1:16:54 them or that their last thought, whatever it is, I don't know, I don't know, right? But
1:16:58 like, whatever their last thought is, whatever their last feeling is, whatever their last
1:17:02 breath is, is that they felt loved and cared about on earth. And if I can be that, I'll
1:17:11 do it all day long. Well, Dakota for all we know, maybe you've already found that maybe
1:17:15 that is you're calling, maybe it's just constantly putting in those reps. Maybe it's not that
1:17:20 one big day like in the battle of Ganjigal, maybe it's just those constant reps of being
1:17:25 that guy that can help people as they cross over. But man, I can't think of a better place
1:17:29 to leave our discussion for today. But that's all for me. Is there anything else you want
1:17:32 to get off your chest? Thanks so much, man. I appreciate you.
1:17:35 All right, Dakota Meyer, thank you for coming on Daunted Life of Man's podcast. Thank you.
1:17:40 There you go, guys. Hey, I told you it was an intense one. But man, that is one again,
1:17:44 that's one of my favorite shows that I've done. It was just such a cool interview. I'm
1:17:47 so glad that you guys were here for it. But before I let you go, we are going to do a quick
1:17:50 resilience boost at Undaunted Life. Our mission is equipping men to push back darkness with
1:17:53 content that forge a spiritual, mental and physical resilience. So I've got a lot of links
1:17:57 for Dakota here. So I've got a link to his website from there. You can get to a lot of
1:18:01 other places, including to his socials. I got a link to both books that we talked about
1:18:04 in the show, the new book, the way forward and his memoir into the fire. Also, I've got
1:18:08 links to his podcast, to his businesses that's owned the dash, the dash IV, flipside canvas,
1:18:12 American party podcast, front toward enemy. Basically, if you want to get connected and
1:18:15 stay connected with Dakota, we've got you squared away. It's in the show notes. We're
1:18:18 here for you. All right, guys. Thanks so much for listening to show. We do appreciate it.
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1:18:53 description. I'm your host, Kyle Thompson. Remember, keep pushing back darkness, keep
1:18:59 forging spiritual, mental and physical resilience. Keep seeking the Lion of Judah.
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