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Ask a Pastor with JOBY MARTIN | January 2025 (Ep. 701)

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Ask a Pastor with JOBY MARTIN | January 2025 (Ep. 701)
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In this episode, Kyle Thompson and Joby Martin tackle the pitfalls of New Year's resolutions, emphasizing the necessity of true repentance over mere remorse. They discuss the importance of resilience and the biblical foundation for change, while also addressing how to navigate difficult church situations and the complexities of faith.
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0:50 I'm your host Kyle Thompson. Let's get into it.
0:57 Joe B. Martin, welcome back to the show, but you know the rules. If you're going to wear
1:00 a hat, it's got to be one of mine. What's the deal? I wear your hats all the time, but
1:05 I don't know. I got this one on today. You know what it is interesting though, is you
1:09 will be speaking somewhere and you'll be wearing one of my hats and the official uniform of
1:14 Undaunted Life of Man's Podcast, which is a black V-neck. And I'll get pictures from
1:18 people. They'll just send me pictures and be like, "Ah, he's doing your hat." And I
1:21 was like, "Well, yeah, I mean, it's a dope hat. It's a good logo." And you know, he's
1:24 a big supporter. So I appreciate you wearing it around. It's a good thing.
1:28 I especially do it at men's events because, you know, like when guys want to talk afterwards,
1:33 a lot of them come, they're like, "Oh, listen to Undaunted." Then I kind of know who I'm
1:37 talking to, too. It's good. I put them in a positive category.
1:41 That's right. That's right. Well, hey, let's see if we can get you in the negative category
1:44 with some of these questions. But here's the thing. This is the first ask capacitor of 2025,
1:48 if you can believe. I don't know how many of these that we've done, but this is coming
1:51 out right at the beginning of 2025. And here's the thing, I hate an entire category of people.
1:57 And I think that's biblical. You're allowed to hate entire categories of people, right?
2:01 And it's new year, new me people. So these are the people that are convinced that this
2:05 is the year. This is the year that they get their drinking under control. This is the
2:09 year they finally get in shape. This is the year that they're going to make their wife
2:12 love them again. This is the year they're going to take Bible study seriously and guess
2:16 what, Joby? Before we even get to spring break, just about all those people fall completely
2:21 flat. So what's your philosophy about all these kind of new year, new me folks?
2:27 I mean, their intentions are okay. They're just, they're actually confusing a very biblical
2:31 concept. The biblical concept would be repentance. And so an actual, like, hey, new year, new
2:39 me would be to change your mind that would lead to a change in direction. Praise God
2:45 for that. But remorse and resolution will never work because it's always rooted in the self.
2:51 And you don't like you are not the solution to you. That's the problem. The real solution
2:57 is to repent to know Jesus, to abide in him. And as you go close to him, the fruit of the
3:02 spirit will begin to emerge out of you and will be produced, not manufactured too many
3:07 New Year's resolutions are manufactured activities, but things I love, joy, peace, patience,
3:12 kindness, goodness, faithfulness, generalness and maybe the biggest one for New Year's and
3:16 self control is a fruit that is produced from the inside out. So if your change in lifestyle
3:22 is rooted in repentance, I'm going to rewire my mind to line it up with the scriptures
3:27 to act a different way. Go for it. If it's remorse and resolution based in your flesh,
3:33 then you will fail because you are a failure. That's right. You heard it here. First guys,
3:39 you all suck. You're all failures. And there's no hope for any of us. That's exactly what
3:43 Joby just said, right? But you, you talk about this in a different say, I can't remember
3:47 the words you use. I know, I know you talk about resilience a lot, but like when you
3:50 talk about when you have decided that you're going to the gym, regardless of whether you
3:54 want to or not, pre decision, pre decided, right? Same thing, man. So again, that would
4:00 be way more in line with repentance. You have re metanoia is the Greek word. It means to
4:07 change your mind. So you have rewired your mind that this is just what you do. And I also
4:13 think I don't know who I've heard talk about this, but when you begin to see yourself the
4:17 way God sees you, you'll begin to do the things he says. It's kind of like people that see
4:22 themselves as an athlete, they train because they're that's who they are. They're not just
4:28 trying to improve a part of their life. You know, and so I think that's the mindset that
4:34 you've got to change. When it's something like, you know, I talk about resilience all
4:37 the time, not strength and it's like resilience is not just something that you do here in their
4:42 resilience is a state of mind. It's a state of being. It's, it's what you do and resilience
4:47 begets resilience. But guess what? The bill comes do every day. And that normally starts
4:52 right there. First thing in the morning, when all you want to do is just stay curled up in
4:56 that warm bed of yours. But it's like, no, I'm going to drag just like this morning, man,
5:00 dragged myself into my garage. And I was like, ah, I got to put weight on the bar and got
5:04 to lift it and put it back down and lift it again over and over. But it's what's required
5:08 to you if you want, because every here's the thing with your body, guys, is pain's coming
5:12 for you regardless. You're going to have pain from use or pain from numb use. And I got to
5:16 be honest with you, I'd rather have pain from being strong than pain from not being strong.
5:20 All right. I think also, don't you think people also make whatever kind of self control that
5:27 you demonstrated in your life, people usually just take their hands off the wheel from like
5:30 Thanksgiving to Christmas. And so the New Year's resolution, they think is going to make up
5:35 for about eight weeks of just being a turd. And so I know this is well past that. But if
5:40 you really want to make a difference, you start resolving in your mind, pre Thanksgiving.
5:45 This is how I'm going to act over the next several weeks so that when I get to January,
5:49 I'm not a complete sack.
5:51 Well, that's why I say to people all the time, it's like, look, this is just another day
5:55 that ends and why? Because people will put extra emphasis on a Monday, because it's at
6:00 the beginning of the work week or on a Saturday, because it's first day of the week and bro,
6:04 this is a day that ends and why this is a day where you get after it, right? So it doesn't
6:08 matter if it's your birthday. It doesn't matter if it's Christmas. It doesn't matter any of
6:11 that. Now if you're traveling and all that, again, I'm being somewhat tongue in cheek
6:15 here, but that's the reality is the there there are requirements of you at all times. Imagine
6:19 you saying, Oh, I'm not going to love my wife as Christ love the church today. It's my birthday.
6:24 Like, I think that wouldn't make any sense to anybody. They'd be like, what a lunatic.
6:28 Like why in the world are you even saying something like that? But hey, let's get into
6:31 the first non Kyle question of 2025. And I hate to do it, but it's actually a good question.
6:37 So we got to give it up to Ryan Horn every now and then he finds a good question. So the
6:41 forging table or that Joby loved here is his question. Let's say that you've been going
6:45 to a church for a couple of years and the pastor starts espousing some ideas and is
6:50 bringing in speakers whose messages are antithetical to the Bible. How do you go about talking
6:55 to your pastor? If they say this isn't the place for you, how does one go about leaving
7:01 but not leaving fellow brothers and sisters stranded there? And so he's asking that question.
7:06 This was a real life situation that Ryan was going through. This was before I knew him,
7:10 but he actually went through a situation very similar to this. He was very concerned about
7:13 some of the things that the pastor started to say. And, you know, Horn in a very, as
7:18 far as he tells the story in a very curious and loving, but also very, you know, steadfast
7:25 way was like, Hey, I don't know that this is right. I don't think this is biblically.
7:27 You can't prove it biblically. And the pastor just said, Yeah, I don't think I don't think
7:31 you should be here anymore. So what do you think about how you should handle a situation
7:34 like that?
7:35 Yeah, I think, well, I think he did the right thing. He because if you're preaching anything
7:40 other than the Bible, you are sinning. And if you are hearing those words, you are being
7:45 sinned against. And Matthew 18 says, if somebody sins against you, if your brother sins against
7:50 you, you talk to him, not about him. So Horn did the right thing. You go and talk to the
7:55 pastor and dude, you heard it from the guy's mouth. If he said, this is not the place for
7:59 you, then, you know, not to dust off your shoes and go. But in so doing, you should take the
8:06 high road and you should be very honest with all the people that are that you have built
8:12 relationships on the why. I don't think you have to necessarily go hunting, you know,
8:17 and do a whole like campaign on why you were leaving. But if you were, if you're really
8:22 doing what you ought to be doing in church, you should at least be in a Sunday school
8:25 or a disciple group or a small group or a life group or whatever you call it. And I would
8:29 at least alert those people. Guys, the reason my family and I are leaving are because these
8:35 biblical reasons. You do whatever you think the Lord is calling you to do, but this is
8:42 and we're going to another church that is alignment with the scriptures. Now, if I was
8:46 with him or I might dig in a little bit just to make sure there are some things that churches
8:52 might differ on and to quote Driscoll, there are some things that are like state borders
8:58 and some things that are national borders. And you can cross state borders and you're
9:03 still in the United States. But if you cross national borders, then you're not in this
9:07 country anymore. So if he's if the guys preaching things that are, you know, that Jesus wasn't
9:15 divine or the Christ isn't the only way or that he didn't come out of the grave or that
9:20 the Bible is is is not in, you know, if it's not infallible, things like that, those would
9:25 be worth leaving on. There could be secondary issues that I would want to dig in with him
9:30 and just make sure that he wasn't leaving based on secondary issues. But if you want
9:35 to leave on secondary issues, that's fine too. You just want to be clear about that.
9:38 Well, so I'm glad you made the delineation between primary issues and secondary issues
9:42 because then you get into tertiary and all kinds of other different issues. But part
9:45 of the thing is, is if a if you can acknowledge in in your own intellectual honesty that what's
9:51 happening here is a secondary issue, but that it is also violating your conscience, then
9:57 yeah, you probably don't need to be at that church as well because I mean, this came up
10:00 I remember into last year, it always comes up with Halloween. There are some Christians
10:03 that are like, it's no big deal. My kids is dressing up as Buzz Lightyear and Leonardo
10:06 from the Ninja Turtles. We're just going and getting candy and we're not worshiping Satan.
10:10 And then there's other people that are like, if you participate in Halloween, even if it's
10:13 called a fall festival and it's in your church parking lot, you're going to hell. And the
10:16 thing is is like, look, if you feel that way about your own family and you don't want to
10:21 do that and you don't want to participate, you don't even want to hand out candy, then
10:24 okay, fine. That's not a big deal. Don't extrapolate that out into an entire worldview,
10:28 though, that you espouse, you know, in a disgusting and loud way all over your neighbors. Is that
10:34 fair? Very, very fair. It'd be very, it's very close to what Paula dresses in food sacrifice
10:40 to idols. There's what's right. And there's what's wrong. He's like, dude, they're not
10:44 even idols. It's like a half of a chair leg, somebody carved a face into. But if your conscience
10:49 does not allow you to eat because that food has been sacrificed to that fake idol, I get
10:54 it. So it, you know, the biggest thing is we try to love and honor one another while standing
10:59 on the truth.
11:00 All right, very good. Well, here's our first listener question. Guys, again, remember,
11:04 if you want to have your questions put into the question bang for ask a pastor, you have
11:07 to be a monthly donor to undaunted life. So go to undaunted.life backslash donate. This
11:12 is from Ben. Thank you, Ben, for being a donor. This is a long setup, but I think it's good
11:17 for the question. I would say the majority of evangelical churches today use large amounts
11:21 of emotionalism during their during their services that I believe can help people turn
11:26 to Christ. However, as we all know, emotionalism drives people to undertake ideas and actions
11:32 that they normally would not. This is typically expressed as the church at summer church camp,
11:38 where in all the girls start crying on the final night and they supposedly give their
11:42 lives to Christ and then change nothing after they go home and the emotions wear off. Evangelical
11:47 churches are also typically low church, meaning they do not place an emphasis on knowledge
11:52 of scripture. Do not engage in any sort of reverence in terms of decorum or tradition
11:56 and do not exhort their members to have any serious growth in their understanding of the
12:01 faith or develop an apologia, thus leading to lots of folks, lots of folks's faith being
12:07 false. See Kanye West. So here's my question for Joby. Given these factors, is it understandable
12:14 to have initial doubts when a person who's led a hedonistic life tells you that they've
12:18 been saved? Is it normal to want to see some fruit first? Or do I just need to check myself?
12:25 You need to check yourself. You also need to check your categorization of what you're
12:28 calling the evangelical churches. I think what he means is like big box secret sensitive
12:32 churches, not evangelical churches. I mean, because, you know, part of the premise of
12:37 being an evangelical church is like a deep commitment to the word of God. And he's saying
12:41 the evangelical churches are light on the word of God. So I think he's got his categories
12:45 wrong to start with. Because we're, we're a big church and we have lots of people come
12:50 to Christ. And I don't think there's any way you could come and sit here under this Bible
12:55 teaching and say that we have a low view of scripture or that we have a low threshold
13:01 of what it means to be a disciple. So I think what he means is like what you talk about,
13:06 especially when you used to talk about, you know, the big box secret sensitive, do whatever
13:11 it takes to get him in the door. You know, that kind of thing. To that, I would agree.
13:16 Me, you and Chandler were doing a podcast here and we talked about the subject. And if you've
13:24 got good sound doctrinal Bible preaching, then you don't have to fear an emotional response
13:31 and a service because it's going to course correct with every single week, you're opening
13:35 God's word and you're digging into what God's word says. And you're not trying to manipulate
13:43 people, you're just trying to love the Lord with all your heart, soul, mind and strength.
13:47 I would encourage this brother, Ben, to you want to be, you want to celebrate any positive
13:55 step towards Jesus that you can as opposed to over evaluate any step. So yeah, you should
14:06 check your heart. Like you want those people to be safe, right? You're hoping that they,
14:11 but then Jesus teaches the, the parable of the solar, you know, I mean, somebody's casting
14:18 the seed and only a quarter of it works. And you know, 50% of it looks like it works at
14:24 first, but it doesn't. And so Jesus acknowledges that that happens. But listen, man, because
14:31 when you get into like the fruit inspector kind of thing, man, I'm just telling you, you're
14:35 about that far away from being a Pharisee. Because oftentimes what we're inspecting is
14:40 we're inspecting some kind of, we've ordered it in a man went man made preference way.
14:46 And if you don't do the things that I think are most important, then somehow you're not
14:51 being sanctified, but nobody checks the sanctification boxes in the right in the same order because,
14:56 you know, God may be dealing with a, with a pride issue in you that I can't see, but
15:01 he hasn't dealt with the language issue yet. And you're still cussing like a sailor. And
15:06 then what am I going to evaluate that and say, well, you're not a Christian, you still
15:10 say bad words. Whereas the guy next to you, God might deal with his language immediately,
15:15 but then the pride's like the granddaddy of all sins. And he's still the most prideful
15:18 arrogant guy that doesn't bend his name to Jesus, but he's learned how to talk like church
15:22 people. So you just want to be really, really careful in judging other people's hearts.
15:29 If somebody believes in their heart that God raised Jesus from the dead and confesses with
15:33 their mouth that he is their Lord, the Bible says they're saved. And then we want to come
15:37 along and help those people take steps and what it means to actually be a follower of
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17:18 What I think is perhaps a larger part of his question is the whole emotionalism thing.
17:23 The church can phenomenon where you're raising your hands, everyone's going crazy crying,
17:26 tears, snot and all that. I can't remember if it was moody or Spurgeon or something like
17:30 that. But I'm going to, I'm going to jack the story up. But I think the general just
17:34 will be true. I think Spurgeon took over church for somebody or maybe it was the person that
17:39 took over Spurgeon's church. And the previous person, whoever that was, they would always
17:44 do an altar call. And then it was either Spurgeon that took over, whoever took over for Spurgeon.
17:49 For Spurgeon, here we go. They would not do an altar call. And then, you know, someone
17:53 asked them, like, why aren't you doing that? He's like, well, I have, I have office hours
17:56 on Monday morning. And so if they want to come in and get counsel, it should that feeling
18:01 or that, that decision or that, whatever is still going to be there Monday, you know,
18:05 regardless of whether or not it was whipped up on Sunday morning. And so I can see where
18:10 there could be like this thing. It's almost like, again, the John MacArthur, nobody's
18:13 fruit is sweet enough approach to where it's like, Hey, it's not people falling out in
18:17 the aisles necessarily. There might be people that in their sober mindedness, they have,
18:23 either they make the decision or the decision was made for them by God before anything was
18:26 ever invented. But then it's just, it's just a reality that will be the same the next day
18:31 after the smoke had cleared during the rock concert. Does that make sense? Yeah, I hear
18:36 you on that. So I think, you know, there's old Scottish proverb for every mile of road.
18:41 There's two miles of ditch. Yeah. And the one, the one side is we're going to give an invitation
18:45 every single time. And we're going to try to over emotionalize this thing and help and
18:50 try to get people to make an emotional decision instead of surrender to life to Christ. The
18:54 other ditch is we don't give it a people an opportunity. You know, the thief on the cross,
18:59 Jesus didn't look at him and be like, listen, if it, if this really, if you really want
19:04 to follow me, then you can four hours from now before you die. He's like, no, today you
19:08 will be with me in paradise. Like he sealed the deal in a moment. Joshua looks at the
19:12 nation of Israel and says, choose for yourself this day whom you will serve. So he drew a
19:17 line in a sand and said, now is the time to make a decision. Um, the Ethiopian Munich says,
19:24 there's water. What hinders me from getting baptized and he wasn't, he wasn't Philip didn't
19:29 tell him, but you know what? Why don't you wait a week and you'll have a meeting with
19:31 somebody? So I do think there is, uh, no, we are not promised tomorrow. So you do not
19:37 know, it is presumptuous to say your office hours are on Monday. James said, don't you
19:41 do that. You don't know that God's going to give you office hours on Monday. So I would
19:46 highly encourage people to surrender their life to Jesus right now. Like if you're listening
19:52 to this right now, right around in your truck and you're thinking about following Jesus,
19:57 do it right now. Put your faith in Jesus right now. So if they pay, I don't want to
20:02 be pedantic, pedantic about this, but if they put their faith in Jesus right now, what does
20:06 it matter if the guy has office hours or if they just take you right to the baptismal right
20:10 now? Well, we wanted him to know what he's doing. Uh, I would say if he knows what he's
20:15 doing, he should get baptized right now. That'd be great. Um, the key is, is that salvation
20:23 shouldn't be so transactional. It's supposed to be transformational and we're calling into
20:28 a church family. And then we help each other take steps to continuously follow Jesus or
20:34 to become more and more sanctified, which would be to be more and more like him. So the caution
20:40 on, you know, on the immediate decision is, let's just make sure you know what you're
20:46 doing and you're not just caught up in groupthink. Uh, but then the hesitation on the other end
20:53 is you should make a call for people to put their faith in Jesus right now. Okay, very
20:59 good. Well, let's move on to the next one here. So this is also in kind of the world
21:02 of salvation. This is a question for me. I was just wondering why does hell have to
21:07 include suffering? So guys don't think I'm getting all squishy in 2025, but why can't
21:13 the lights just go out for somebody and they just don't get to live in paradise for eternity.
21:17 Like what they will be eternally separated from the father, which, you know, why can't
21:22 it be just their life just ends and there's nothing for that person. There's, there's nothing
21:26 beyond the carnal world that they inhabited temporarily. Well, I think part of it is because
21:32 we were created as image bears of God and to bear his image means that we are eternal
21:36 creatures. So he didn't make puppets for a season and a way to think about it when you
21:43 say, why does hell include suffering? Why does a light with no, I mean, why does a room
21:49 with no light include darkness? Because the source of light is not there. And so every
21:55 good and perfect gift is from above. So when you remove that, then all you have left is
22:02 the shadow. So there's no joy. There's no peace. There's no patience. There's no love.
22:09 Everything you know that is good. If that source is separated from you, then all you
22:14 have is the bad is suffering. And honestly, I mean, maybe look, when the Bible talks about
22:21 it, I mean, I do think it's actual like flames and stuff, but it's at least that. It's at
22:26 least that maybe just being separated from God is the eternal punishment. Okay, very
22:34 good. Well, I appreciate that. We're going to get into the next question here from Eric
22:37 Browning of the forging table fame. So where does hatred belong in our lives? I am referencing
22:43 Psalm 139 19 through 22. I'm going to read it here in a second. Psalm 139 verses 19 through
22:49 22. Should we have a hatred of some people? And how does this contrast with Matthew 9 36?
22:57 I will read both. Okay. So here is Psalm 139 verses 19 through 22. Oh, that you would slay
23:02 the wicked. Oh God. Oh men of blood, depart from me. They speak against you with malicious
23:07 intent. Your enemies take your name in vain. Do I not hate those who hate you? Oh Lord?
23:13 And do I not load those who rise up against you? I hate them with complete hatred. I count
23:18 them my enemies. And then we have Matthew 9 verse 36. When when he saw the crowds, he
23:25 had compassion for them because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without
23:29 a shepherd. So there's a lot there in that because again, why are you getting mad at
23:34 people for being dumb? Like if you believe that they don't have the Holy Spirit? Well,
23:38 yeah, of course they're dumb. They don't have the Holy Spirit. They don't have the
23:40 understanding of scripture. They haven't had their eyes opened, whatever your favorite
23:44 theological way to describe that scenario is. But back to the original question from
23:48 Eric is where does hatred belong in our lives? It does not belong in the New Testament believer.
23:55 So part of the reason it's one of my favorite things about that text and 139 is if you read
24:00 it in context, David sounds like a schizophrenic person. Do you ever notice that? Like yeah,
24:06 the verse right before it is how precious or how precious to me are your thoughts. Oh God,
24:12 how vast is the sum of them? Two lines later, he's like bashing the head of my enemies. Next
24:16 line, search me and see if there's any way we're part of me, which is good news. So you can
24:21 you can pray like a crazy person because we have all kinds of emotions. Now, even though
24:26 all of the Psalms are inspired by God and infallible, David does not know the gospel,
24:35 the life death and resurrection of Christ. He know that a lamb is coming to die on behalf of
24:42 sinners that take away their sin, but our forgiveness is upgraded in the New Testament.
24:49 In the Old Testament, it was just a law of retribution so that there would not be a law of
24:56 retaliation. This is why there's eye for iron tooth for tooth. So if you poke my eye out,
25:02 I can't kill you. I can only poke your eye out. This is where Moses takes us. Then Jesus comes along
25:07 and says, no, it's a higher level than that. And he lets us know more of who God is and that we
25:13 are actually supposed to love our neighbors. Why? Because that, I mean, love our enemies because
25:19 God has loved us. So even the people that hate God, God loves them and sends his son Jesus to
25:24 down the cross for them. That is why we are supposed to love our enemies. So the reason that we don't
25:29 hate is because we trust that God will get his vengeance. So the sin that these people are doing,
25:39 that makes us want to hate them, we can trust God that he will either cover it at the cross
25:44 or they will pay for it in hell. And so vengeance is his. And even though God had plenty of reasons
25:50 to hate us, he didn't hate us. He loved us and he laid down his life for us. Therefore,
25:55 that's how we should treat our neighbor, even the ones that we want to hate.
26:00 We pray for their salvation. And if God doesn't say them, then we know that he will repay their
26:08 evil with his perfect justice. All right, very good. They're the parameters for hate, you guys.
26:14 I know you've been waiting all this time to know when and if you could hate your neighbor. So
26:18 there you go. There's your answer. All right. So this question is from Matt who is not from the
26:22 forging table. This is Matt, a donor Matt. Thank you for being a donor to undaunted life. I'm retired
26:26 military PTSD and all that. I recently met a guy at a church's celebrate recovery who is really
26:32 suffering from PTSD or spicy deja vu, as I like to call it, and suicidal thoughts besides
26:39 assuring him that he is loved by God and others and that he is wanted and needed here. What's the
26:45 best way to support him through this? I've never been this deep into someone's life who is struggling
26:51 or at all. Now that I think about it, I'm just looking for some practical advice.
26:54 Man, I hate to just promote my own books, but I wrote a chapter on the empty tomb is empty on
27:04 the mountain of transfiguration that talks about like, what do you do when God doesn't do what you
27:11 think he ought to do? And it ends in Mark chapter nine, where the dad brings the kid and says,
27:18 if you can help, we please heal my kid. And Jesus says, if I can, all things are possible for the
27:22 one who believes. And he says, I believe help me overcome my unbelief. And I walk through that.
27:27 What is it like to try to want to believe, but you need Jesus to help you overcome your unbelief.
27:33 And then at the end of that chapter, there is a real prayer of deliverance because if somebody's
27:39 having suicidal thoughts, that is demonic. There's no other, there's no other, you know, animal species
27:46 on the world that thinks, you know, what we ought to do is take our life. And so demons want to
27:51 steal, kill and destroy. And there may be some, well, first of all, man, praise God that this
27:56 guy's had a celebrate recovery meeting because that's a, a Christ centered 12 step program.
28:01 Praise God for that. But I mean, if you, I'll send you a free book, if you can't swing the 20
28:07 bucks or whatever, but chapter six of if the tomb is empty ends with a prayer of deliverance.
28:12 And I would go after this thing, heart, soul, mind and strength. So hearts about relationships,
28:17 call them every day, talk to him, mind, he's got to pay very close attention to the things that
28:22 he's putting in here, because the enemy wants him to think that he's not worthy of life.
28:27 Soul, I think you've got to go after this thing, like at the spiritual warfare level. And so I've
28:34 given words here that I would encourage you to pray over this guy or encourage him to pray it
28:39 over himself. And then strength, he should, you know, see a doctor and make sure like PTSD is a real
28:46 thing. You know, sometimes there, there are chemical realities that need to be dealt with
28:51 physically. And God is the, he is the great physician and all healing comes from him.
28:56 So I would attack this thing, heart, soul, mind, strength, relationally, spiritually, physically
29:03 and mentally. When it's good that he's even asking this question, because that means that he's
29:06 burdened for this guy. He has an actual burden for him. And it's not just because he himself
29:10 understands, but that probably has a lot to do with the fact that he's in his life.
29:14 So Matt, that would be my encouragement to you if you're listening to this is like,
29:17 there's a reason why you're burdened about this. You were burned enough to where you, you know,
29:21 got in our inbox, just ask this question and we threw it out there for everybody else.
29:25 So we've got time for one more question left here today. We've covered a lot of important.
29:29 I'm sorry. Let me try one other thing. Please. Contact Project Savior Outdoors with our boy,
29:34 Mike Dragotch. It's a ministry specifically for veterans that are struggling with suicide
29:38 or contact Mighty Oaks, which is also a ministry with our boy Chad Robos show that for the same
29:44 thing, there are two ministries there that can help equip you to serve veterans that are battling
29:49 with things like PTSD and suicide. Hey, man, shout out to both of those guys. They do amazing,
29:54 incredible work. Last question of the day, Joe Bean, this one's from me.
29:59 Okay, for the rest of your life, you can only ever have one of these two things. That doesn't
30:06 mean it's the only thing you have, but one of these things is gone forever from your life.
30:12 You only get to keep one. Okay. Peanut butter and jelly or grilled cheese?
30:16 I would keep grilled cheese. I don't think I've ever had a peanut butter and jelly.
30:24 You've, wait, what? Not to my memory, not to my knowledge. My mom doesn't think she's ever fed
30:29 me one either. So I love peanut butter and I love jelly. I've never put them together.
30:33 Okay, Joby, I feel like I've learned a lot about you personally and publicly over these last
30:39 few years. That may be one of the more concerning things that I've ever heard in my entire life
30:43 come out of your mouth. What in the world? I think I'm at the point now. It's been so long
30:47 watch right now. You know what I mean? I don't, I've hardly ever had a meal without meat. So
30:51 let me just start there. Okay, well here, this is what I'm going to do for you. It's not a peanut
30:56 butter and jelly, but the next time you're here at my house or I'm at your house, what I'm going
31:00 to do for you is I'm going to make you, I don't even remember what it's called, but it's it's it's
31:05 basically peanut butter, banana, bacon, syrup, bread, right? So what does that call like the
31:13 filthy Elvis or something like that? That's delicious. Yeah. Okay, so I'll make you one of those and
31:18 then maybe we can ease into the peanut butter and jelly. It's a staple, man. I mean, it's just
31:22 something that you need. And I've had way more peanut butter and jelly than I've had grilled
31:26 cheese. And I love grilled cheese. But yeah, get the heck get that the heck out of here. I need
31:29 PB and J. That's that's a survival thing, man. Yeah, I love peanut butter. But well, we can
31:35 figure that out the next time you're here. Well, hey, man, that's all for me. Is there
31:38 anything else you want to get off your chest? That's it. Appreciate it. All right. Talk to you next
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32:17 I'm your host, Kyle Thompson. Remember, keep pushing back darkness,
32:21 keep forging spiritual, mental, and physical resilience. Keep seeking the lion of Judah.
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