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Ask a Pastor with JOBY MARTIN | January 2024 (Ep. 549)

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Ask a Pastor with JOBY MARTIN | January 2024 (Ep. 549)
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In this episode, Kyle Thompson and Joby Martin tackle the pressing issues of manhood and faith as they kick off 2024. They discuss practical ways for men to improve themselves, the implications of recent Catholic controversies, and the importance of standing firm in biblical truth amidst cultural shifts.
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0:50 This is Undaunted Life Man's Podcast.
0:53 I'm your host Kyle Thompson.
0:55 Let's get into it.
0:57 I'm Toby Martin.
0:58 If I'm not the first one to welcome you, welcome to 2024.
1:01 How the heck are you?
1:03 About the same as 23, but I'm doing good.
1:05 Future's bright.
1:06 Yeah, I figured that was a good thing.
1:07 The future is definitely bright.
1:08 I think we both got a lot of momentum carrying us into this year.
1:12 But as everybody knows, I love to start out my year by telling guys how they can stop
1:16 being so crappy.
1:17 Okay.
1:18 So one of our best podcasts every single year, one of the most downloaded is my ways to avoid
1:21 being a crappy man and whatever year that is.
1:24 So we got a lot of favorites.
1:25 Like don't let sports ruin your night, no porn, no jerking off.
1:29 Be nice to the weight staff, all kinds of good stuff.
1:31 But I want to know from you, because you didn't know this was coming, but I'm putting you
1:33 on the spot here.
1:34 I want you to give me three to five ways that men can avoid being a crappy man in 2024 and
1:43 they can't be the ones that are on my list already.
1:45 So if you do that, that's a violation.
1:47 I throw a flag 15 yard penalty and then we have to repeat the down and you have to give
1:51 me two extras.
1:52 So we'll just say three.
1:53 We'll keep it to three.
1:54 Three ways that you can avoid being a crappy man in 2024 and don't say go to church.
1:59 Okay.
2:00 Because everybody knows that one.
2:01 Number one, read your Bible every day.
2:03 Is that on your list?
2:06 It's not on there.
2:07 But well, thanks for making feel terrible.
2:08 Like the very first, the very first one you throw out and ideally on my list and the first
2:13 thing you do like after you pee or whatever, when you get up, the first thing you do should
2:17 be read your Bible.
2:18 You prioritize that.
2:19 Number one, number two, the miracle where they bring the paralytic God of Jesus and
2:26 Terry, a hole in the roof.
2:27 He's got four friends that carry the mat, make it a priority to have four corner toters
2:33 in your life.
2:34 And then number three, find a life giving hobby that your wife can give the thumbs up
2:40 to that steals your mind away from all the really important things in your world.
2:46 But it's got to be healthy and life giving.
2:48 Okay.
2:49 I feel like you were prepared for that because that just ran right off your tongue.
2:52 One, two, three, but hey, you know, define, define life giving though, because I think
2:56 everybody's going to have a little bit of a, a little bit of a different definition.
2:59 But when you say life giving, what do you mean?
3:00 Well, it's really more just like not bad or not life stealing because a lot of men, especially
3:06 the kind of men that would listen to this podcast are kind of adrenaline junkies, you
3:10 know, they're kind of looking for a zing.
3:12 And so it could be golf or it could be surfing or it could be reading or writing poetry.
3:17 It doesn't matter, it's just got to be something that is filling as opposed to drinking too
3:22 much or going places you shouldn't, shouldn't go or gambling too much or, you know, spending
3:27 money you don't have.
3:28 So just something that doesn't suck life out of you, but it, it helps fill you to be the
3:33 man that God's called you to be at home and with your kids.
3:37 So would you like to go ahead and share some of that poetry with us right now?
3:40 Do you just want to pull out your journal and just, you know, I know you got at least
3:43 a high coup for us.
3:45 No, I'm terrible at that stuff.
3:47 What I try to do in pasturing this church though, is not every example I give is boots
3:53 and motorcycles and bows and deer, you know, just like 97% of the examples.
3:59 Well, there's, there's the things that just come to my mind naturally and then art like
4:05 some guy, you know, like Shane Bernard, some guys that we respect highly.
4:09 I mean, that's, he's a man, he's a dude and, and that guy probably has a big extensive journal
4:14 that we all benefit from because, you know, his music comes from it.
4:18 And his hands, except for his fingertips from playing guitar, but his hands are a little
4:22 bit soft.
4:23 But you know what?
4:24 That dude's a gangster.
4:25 And if we're storming the gates of hell, I'd be okay with a spiritual warrior like that
4:28 on my side.
4:29 I can tell you that right now.
4:30 Well, let's go ahead and roll into the next one.
4:31 And you know, you know, Joby, I like to kind of keep things very low key.
4:34 I don't really like getting into confrontation.
4:36 So let's talk about the Pope.
4:37 Let's talk about Catholicism and let's talk about homosexuality.
4:41 So obviously at the end of last year, it was very famously reported that the, the Pope
4:46 and the Vatican have now approved the blessing of same-sex couples, Catholics swore up and
4:52 down that nothing had changed, but you don't really announce something.
4:55 If nothing has changed, you don't say, Hey, breaking news, everything's the exact same.
5:00 And so as we sit here, it took one day before a priest in America, blessed a same-sex couple
5:05 while they were holding hands.
5:07 And to date Joby, the Vatican and the Pope have said nothing about that.
5:11 They haven't had a word to say about that.
5:13 They haven't repudiated this person.
5:15 They haven't called him a rogue.
5:16 They certainly haven't defrocked him.
5:18 But I think what this does, Joby is I certainly want you to address that specific controversy.
5:23 But even though we could do a whole hour on this, I would like to pull out to the whole
5:27 picture of Catholicism because I do know there are a lot of Protestants that are in
5:32 the John MacArthur wing of the Reformed circle that believe every single Catholic is going
5:37 to hell.
5:38 And then there are people that are on the other side that think, Hey, it doesn't matter
5:40 how you worship.
5:42 It doesn't matter.
5:43 You know, if you're Pentecost, well, if you're Catholic, if you're whatever, Jesus is here
5:46 for all of us and he's going to take us all up to heaven when it's all said and done.
5:50 And then there's everybody else in the middle that's really, you know, kind of trying to
5:53 figure out what exactly is going on.
5:54 Even my dog right here, you hear that big sneeze, that may have been a demon that he was sneezing
5:58 out just now for those of you that are listening with the headphones turned on high.
6:01 So just go, go with that wherever you want to go with it because there's a lot of confusion
6:05 right now.
6:07 Regardless of your denominational background, if you trust in Jesus Christ as the propitiation
6:12 for your sin, you are saved.
6:14 There's going to be a lot of Catholics in hell, but there's going to be a lot of Southern
6:17 Baptist in hell too, because I think their lack of dancing and drinking is going to somehow
6:21 earn their salvation.
6:23 So in regards to our justification, there is no good work that we can add to it to justify
6:30 ourselves before the Lord.
6:32 Core Catholic doctrine does teach that.
6:36 So it is off.
6:38 Thank God for the Reformation.
6:40 In regards to the Popes, whatever you want to call it, eat it.
6:44 I don't know what it's officially called because what happens is he says a thing and
6:49 then the Catholic PR team comes along and says, well, that didn't count because it didn't
6:53 come from a council.
6:54 I don't know what that means.
6:56 Bottom line is this.
6:57 If you're a Protestant like me, the fundamental difference between a Protestant church and
7:02 a Catholic church is where their source of authority comes from.
7:06 And Catholic authority actually comes from three different places, the Bible, whatever
7:12 the pope currently thinks or says, and church history of tradition, which was written down
7:17 in councils.
7:18 Okay.
7:19 Well, a big part of what Martin Luther said, no way.
7:21 There is one source of authority and it is the Word of God.
7:25 The things that the pope is reported saying about blessing same-sex marriages or unions,
7:32 it is, it is out of line with the Word of God, period end on.
7:38 And take John 15 or John chapter eight, anytime you move away from the authoritative Word
7:45 of God, you are moving away from the good shepherd Jesus Christ.
7:50 It is disobedient and it is something.
7:54 You go far enough and it's beyond heresy and you get to the place of apostasy because
7:59 you're not, you're saying Jesus isn't Lord anymore, my opinion is Lord, that's apostasy.
8:07 So hey, and it's happened in a bunch of denominations, 7,600 Methodist churches just left the United
8:13 Methodist denomination because the United Methodist church moved away from the Word of
8:18 God in regards to what the Bible says about what marriage is and what marriage isn't.
8:24 And so the interesting thing is people, it's been happening a long time.
8:29 People think if the church doesn't get with the times and it's going to lose everybody.
8:34 Well, when Jesus made that promise, in Caesarea, Philippa, upon my rock, upon this rock, I will
8:39 build my church and the gates of hell will not prevail against it.
8:42 He was talking about the rock of the public declaration of the gospel of Jesus Christ.
8:46 And so what you see in actuality is the churches that are reaching people are growing.
8:51 These are the churches that believe in the authority of the Word of God and preach the
8:54 gospel on a shame.
8:56 Okay.
8:57 Now, I want to make sure that we have time for some of the fan questions because again,
8:59 guys, the only way that you can get your question answered on ask a pastor with the one and only
9:03 Job and Martin is if you are a monthly donor, but I do want to ask a kind of a side to that.
9:09 Homosexuality seems to be the pet sin, the, the asterisk sin, if you will, at the end of
9:15 the last year, LaCray posted this video, basically saying, Hey, these people were born this way.
9:19 Like, you know, what, what, what are we supposed to do about it?
9:21 And it's that one sin that everyone seems to be like, okay, you know what, I know what
9:24 the Bible says about that.
9:26 And I know what the clobber passages are as Andy Stanley would say it, but what do you
9:29 have to say to people that are a part of modern culture that they're lovers, right?
9:34 They're very emotive.
9:35 They're very feelings driven.
9:37 And guess what, Joby, they've got gay friends and gosh darn it.
9:40 They're more moral than some of their Christian friends in church.
9:43 And guess what, they're not nearly as racist as their grandpa that purportedly loves Jesus.
9:47 And so we just excuse it.
9:50 We go along to get along.
9:51 We attend their gay marriage wedding ceremony.
9:55 And we do all these different things to basically tut, tut the sin.
9:58 Like, what do you have to say to these people?
9:59 Because gosh, it's just damnable behavior, in my opinion.
10:04 I would ask them the question who their Lord is.
10:06 And if Jesus is their Lord, fundamentally, that means they got to do what He tells them
10:10 to do.
10:11 Now, we should love all people to withhold truth is not loving and clarity is kindness.
10:20 Now, just like I don't lead every conversation with who you're sleeping with, I don't think
10:26 that has to be the lead foot of every conversation that I have with a gay couple.
10:31 However, to try to shift what the Word of God says to match our current culture means
10:38 that culture rules and the Bible teaches us that the enemy is the prince of this air.
10:43 Well, that's who you're serving when you begin to mold to the culture.
10:47 Now, I do think that the church, historically, probably for the last 2000 years, but at least
10:53 American church in the last 100, has mistreated the homosexual community and not led with
11:01 love.
11:02 So the pendulum is swung all the way over here where it's nothing but grace with no truth.
11:07 And Jesus came full of grace and truth.
11:09 Listen, the message to every sinner you know is the same, repent.
11:15 And there is no kinder thing you could say to a person than repent because you turn from
11:20 the sin of this world.
11:21 You turn from death and darkness and you turn to the kingdom, the king and the kingdom
11:26 of light.
11:27 It's the kindest thing you could do.
11:28 Well, and I've said this before, the people that have the higher levels of sin in terms
11:33 of how we at least keep score, when those people turn to Christ, they understand the
11:37 grace of God more than the person that, you know, maybe minded their P's and Q's sat in
11:41 the front of class and was a straight A student, but still realized one day that they were
11:44 a depraved sinner.
11:46 So if a homosexual person is their sin is pointed out to them and said, you can't live
11:49 this way.
11:50 It's, it's, you know, anti nature.
11:52 It's anti God's law.
11:54 It's all those different things.
11:55 Those people are going to have likely a deeper understanding of what true propitiation for
11:58 their sins actually is, but we need to go ahead and shift gears.
12:02 We need to get into the first question from a donor.
12:04 So this is according to, or a question from Elijah, so Elijah, thank you for being one
12:08 of our donors.
12:09 And no, that's not my son.
12:10 He's, he couldn't have possibly worded a question like this.
12:12 But here we go.
12:13 I have a friend that I've been burdened for in a big way recently.
12:16 His heart is pretty hard towards religion in general, but I'm burdened for him and want
12:20 to be a better witness to him.
12:22 However, the main issue is that I constantly mess up in front of him in speech or actions.
12:27 I'm worried about doing more harm than good with my testimony since I've been outspoken
12:31 regarding my faith since we met around two years ago.
12:34 How should I approach witnessing to people like him who are very intellectual, skeptical
12:38 and heart of heart and do that better?
12:40 He actively avoids discussing any deep topics, let alone religion.
12:44 So I feel if I bring up something like faith abruptly, I'd be in danger of pushing him
12:47 further away.
12:49 Any advice would be appreciated.
12:51 Yeah, I appreciate the question.
12:54 One, don't give yourself, well, there's two things.
12:57 One, don't give yourself a pass on sin in your life.
13:03 You know, I mean, one of the best ways to put a mirror up to your face about your own
13:08 depravity and how much you need a savior is if you're real serious about leading your
13:12 lost friend to Christ, because now not only are you convicted of your sin, but you're
13:16 like, holy crap, I might be in your mind, you're thinking in the flesh, I might be screwing
13:20 it up with this guy.
13:22 However, one of the most authentic things your friend could see is what it looks like for
13:27 a sinner in need of a savior.
13:29 So live your life, but you've got to pursue walking with Jesus.
13:34 I mean, you really do.
13:36 You should let him know that you're praying for him constantly.
13:40 You really should.
13:42 And a part of what happens is even though he might reject your invitations to a conversation
13:47 or to a church, what's going to happen is when this guy's life hits the ditch and it's
13:52 coming one day, he's going to go run to that praying friend, not to the party and friend.
13:57 That's just going to happen.
13:59 And then the other thing, bro, is it doesn't necessarily have to be your words, like share
14:04 links to podcasts, share links to sermons, share links to even little Instagram reels
14:11 that point towards Jesus, just be the guy that's sharing those kinds of things.
14:16 And then the biggest thing is pray for him, not about him.
14:19 I prayed for my dad for 30 years before he came to Christ.
14:23 And I feel like I'm equipped to share the gospel in a convincing way.
14:27 And it's not until the power of the spirit of God draws this guy unto himself that the
14:32 guy's going to get saved, but don't ever give up.
14:36 And I would use as many angles.
14:37 The other thing too, is if you could team up on the guy, that often works great.
14:41 So some night, like when I was coaching, when my son was younger and I was coaching baseball,
14:46 what we would do is all three of the coaches were, we were all believers, but we would
14:50 pick off a dad or two and we would all three befriend the guy and get involved in his life
14:56 and start inviting him to church.
14:57 And so just don't give up, man.
14:59 Just don't give up.
15:00 I love that.
15:01 And the thing that I would add to that is be careful what side of the ledger your preferred
15:06 friend status is on.
15:08 And so what I mean by that is there are those guys that are in a bunch of dudes weddings,
15:13 right?
15:14 So they're groomsmen and best men in a bunch of weddings because they're fun to be around
15:17 and gosh, they've got the best jokes and man, they always got liquor and they were always
15:21 the guy where the party was basically following them.
15:24 But when somebody's chips are down, you don't go to the goofball.
15:27 That's fun to hang out with.
15:28 You go to the solid three AM friends.
15:31 And so don't be the preferred friend to be the first guy to get texts when there's a
15:35 party coming.
15:37 Be the preferred friend that it's like, Hey, it's three AM.
15:39 The chips are down and we need some guys with shovels to go bury a body.
15:43 It's a very, very different thing.
15:44 So be careful about your preferred friend status.
15:46 Okay, so this next question is not from one single donor because I've kind of gotten
15:51 a an accumulation, a coalescing of a bunch of different questions that are in this exact
15:56 same vein.
15:57 So I'll just flow on it, but I know a bunch of you guys have asked about it.
16:00 And it centers around two particular people, Mark Driscoll and Ravi Zacharias.
16:05 And so when Ravi Zacharias died, right, oh, it don't be laughing.
16:10 You already have an idea what you're going to say.
16:12 But when Ravi Zacharias died and his sexual depravity was found out, there were a lot
16:16 of people at that exact moment that said, okay, Mark and avoid anything ever put out
16:20 by Ravi Zacharias.
16:22 All podcasts, all YouTube videos, all speeches, all books, all everything.
16:26 It's gone.
16:27 Same thing with Mark Driscoll.
16:28 So whether or not you believe the narrative painted by that, you know, podcast that went
16:32 all over the entire planet, whether or not you believe that he is sanctified now or asked
16:37 for forgiveness.
16:38 I've been told by multiple people that I love and respect Joby that if I support Mark Driscoll,
16:42 I am supporting an unrepentant center and someone that is disqualified from being a
16:47 pastor because they apparently hold a higher level of knowledge than the rest of us about
16:52 somebody's status before the Lord.
16:54 But just in general, there are people that are in pick your favorite person that has been
16:58 disqualified from sinning, you know, the guy from, oh, I guess just the big guy up in Chicago
17:05 that had the big church.
17:06 It was like the first, you know, super big church up there and then Carl Linson pick your
17:10 favorite guy, but what are we to do with these people that lo and behold, end up becoming
17:15 a sinner?
17:16 Do we mark and avoid them without any nuanced perspective?
17:19 What are we supposed to do?
17:22 What if I proposed it this way?
17:24 What if I was like, man, there's this new worship song and galley.
17:26 I love singing it.
17:27 I mean, I love it.
17:28 It brings me closer to the Lord.
17:29 I think it's theologically accurate.
17:32 And then I don't know if you've heard, but this worship leader that wrote the song, man,
17:36 he actually had a baby out of wedlock and apparently he's been arrested for putting out
17:42 a hit on a dude.
17:44 What do you think about that guy?
17:45 Should we sing his song?
17:46 Turns out that guy's name is King David.
17:48 So we haven't thrown his stuff out.
17:51 So I think you got to eat the fish, spit out the bones.
17:56 I mean, the, you know, the, the information about Robbie Zacharias is just terrifying
18:01 and heartbreaking.
18:02 It really is.
18:04 That I know Mark a little bit.
18:08 We're not like best buddies or anything.
18:10 All of my experiences with him have been super positive.
18:15 But content wise, dude, find me a better Bible preacher.
18:18 I mean, seriously.
18:19 So, you know, I don't attend this church.
18:22 I would be very, very skeptical of making judgments about people from this far away,
18:28 just on what you've heard about what you heard.
18:32 Because I don't know if your listeners have figured this out.
18:35 Most of the new sources we have in America are not very reliable.
18:39 See all of the last three years about what science says.
18:44 Now we know science doesn't say that.
18:45 So I would just be really, really skeptical about the new sources, particularly take the
18:52 rise and fall of Mars Hill, that podcast.
18:55 Well, it was all fall, no rise.
18:58 And just check the sources of everybody that was interviewed.
19:02 Sounds like to me, 99% of them aren't even Jesus' followers today.
19:06 So I don't know that I'd put a lot of stock in what those folks thought.
19:10 Now, I would not try to convince somebody that they should or should not listen to Driscoll.
19:14 I think that's probably a matter of conscience, you know, between them and the Lord.
19:18 Maybe it would be in the food-sacrifice to idols, kind of realm.
19:23 But it's for me, man.
19:25 I mean, I listened to his teaching because he's an unbelievably gifted Bible teacher.
19:31 And I feel like it's edifying to me and it's helpful to me.
19:35 But again, I haven't had a lot of personal interaction with him.
19:39 One time I reached out and asked him to do something for my son.
19:42 And in about two seconds, he said, "No problem, I'd be happy to do anything I could for you."
19:46 But that's what I know.
19:47 I never met Robbie Zachariah, but I believe most of the information that's come out.
19:51 But again, man, God uses all kinds of crooked people to preach His truth in this world.
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20:27 One I think another thing that is important for us to reckon with is we're not consistent
20:32 in our ability to mark and avoid, because I know some of those same people that are marking
20:37 avoiding Mark Driscoll, they're dancing to Thriller on Halloween without any regard to
20:42 the allegations to Michael Jackson and the things that he did with underage boys.
20:47 And then there are poets that people read.
20:49 And there are novelists that are rapists, and some of them are murderers.
20:54 People love Ty Cobb.
20:55 Ty Cobb murdered a guy.
20:57 And so they're just these things like we don't mark and avoid people that we typically like.
21:02 If we already didn't like Mark Driscoll, if he already rubbed us the wrong way, now we're
21:06 going to mark and avoid him, it's like, "Ah, okay."
21:08 But I'm okay with telling somebody, if I'm suggesting a Robbie Zacharice thing to him,
21:12 you know what I'm not going to share with him?
21:13 One of his speeches on sexual morality, that one's going to ring super hollow.
21:18 And so that would be something that I would tell someone like, "Hey, this guy was apparently
21:21 a sexual deviant, but also he was a tremendous Christian philosopher, just like Thomas Jefferson.
21:27 We have to hold him historically in tension."
21:29 He was the guy that was basically on the front end of eradicating slavery in America.
21:34 The first draft of the Declaration of Independence had in it that we should earn, not the Declaration,
21:39 but the US Constitution basically, no, it was the Declaration of Independence.
21:43 But it had in there that we were going to eradicate slavery, but he knew the Southern
21:46 States wouldn't have signed on, and so we would have never been able to break off from
21:49 the British because we would have never been a joined country in the same time.
21:52 So he's trying to abolish slavery while at the same time being a terrible owner of human
21:57 beings.
21:58 We got to be able to hold these things in tension.
22:00 Like, you know, it's what Thomas Olens talks about with trade-offs.
22:03 So appreciate your feedback on that.
22:05 Now this next question is from the one and only famous from the forging table, Matt Grassmeyer,
22:11 because a couple of these ago, I just mentioned a guy named Matt and he was like, "Oh, everybody
22:16 else gets the big forging table treatment, but then I'm just some guy named Matt."
22:20 Well, Matt is one of my oldest friends.
22:21 I didn't think I had to give him this big, huge introduction, but here you go.
22:25 The moustachioed man himself with the silky voice asked this very, very short but awesome
22:30 question.
22:31 What is your favorite book of the Bible to teach from?
22:34 Oh, wow.
22:37 Mm-hmm.
22:39 Probably.
22:41 What a question.
22:42 It's good one. James, James.
22:46 I don't feel you're going to say that.
22:48 Well, it's just, okay, so my mind first goes to Romans, but just 9 and 10, not the funnest
22:56 topics to unpack because there's, for thousands of years, there's been a lot of theological
23:02 debate about what this means.
23:03 You know what I mean?
23:04 Then I thought about Philippians, I love that because of the theme of joy, but James
23:10 is just, it basically requires the least amount of work, because you just say what it says.
23:16 And I think a lot of it is, I mean, imagine if you grew up with Jesus, right?
23:20 You were not going to tell parables.
23:21 You were like, I grew up with this dude talking about stories.
23:24 People would ask him a question and he's like, well, let me tell you about three little
23:26 birds.
23:27 We're like, all right.
23:28 James just said this is it.
23:29 So, and I just told on it last year, which was a lot of fun, just to march through James.
23:34 We're actually this year, no last year, yeah.
23:37 Yeah.
23:38 So, it's 23 March through James, and here's the funny thing is I feel like, I feel like
23:42 you hold back sometimes when you're preaching.
23:44 I mean, you, you kind of let it fly, but I can tell sometimes like, ah, he wanted to
23:48 go a little further.
23:49 He wanted to say more.
23:50 So that's why I think you like James, because James just like, here it is, everybody, like
23:54 don't hate the player hate the game.
23:56 Don't hate the messenger.
23:57 Like it just is what it is.
23:59 And so I think you like a little bit more of that cut and dry style than you show everybody.
24:02 You think maybe in 2024, that can be one of your resolutions is to [inaudible] more people off
24:06 in your congregation.
24:07 I think we can make that happen.
24:08 Well, the list is already pretty long.
24:10 So we'll see.
24:11 Very good.
24:12 Okay.
24:13 Well, we'll see what we can do about that.
24:14 All right.
24:15 We have a question that is combined.
24:16 Well, it's not combined.
24:17 It's from two different people, but I'll read both of them.
24:18 This first one is from Benjamin again, Benjamin, thank you so much for being a donor.
24:21 A lot of guys don't jive with modern Christian music.
24:23 In fact, many listen to country music.
24:26 It's not hard to see this when you compare some feminine Christian track to Jason Aldin's
24:30 try that in a small town.
24:32 Some songs are raunchy or sing casually about sin, while others seem fine in our love song
24:37 songs, slash reminiscent songs.
24:39 How would you go about listening to secular songs and where do you draw the line for songs
24:43 that men of Christ should not listen to?
24:45 And this is related to that question.
24:47 This is from Ryan again, Ryan, thank you for being a donor contemporary Christian music
24:51 CCM looks to have become so in goal to with secular culture.
24:55 Do you see a biblical decline in this industry?
24:58 So there's a lot of things in here.
25:00 It's mainly around contemporary Christian music.
25:02 But if you're listening to secular music, because that's one thing about country music
25:05 that I talked about in country music theology is just because it has a Southern twang to
25:08 it doesn't mean it's more moral.
25:10 They're singing about the same things that a rapper would mumble during one of their
25:14 songs.
25:15 They're talking about sleeping with random women and getting drunk and getting high.
25:18 It's not really that different from your least favorite rapper.
25:20 So take that wherever you want to go with it.
25:23 Oh, man, what a complex issue.
25:26 First, I will agree with you 100% that what people are mostly talking about is preference,
25:31 not God's precepts.
25:33 So Alan Jackson sings way down your under by the Chattahoochee.
25:36 What a terrible song, man.
25:38 He's like, if you don't put out, I'm taking you home and I'm going to go find somebody
25:41 that will.
25:42 But man, it's a catchy tune.
25:44 We can ride around and truck, all right.
25:46 Which by the way, can we just can we just take an aside and say, why did our parents,
25:50 well, my parents, why did they let me like a seven year old kid sing hoochie koochie at
25:54 the top of my lungs in public at the pizza hub buffet?
25:57 Why in the world did you all guys let that happen?
25:59 Come on now.
26:00 It's all cultural, bro, because culturally it was not offensive like to our southern,
26:05 you know, country folk.
26:07 But yeah, and so you're absolutely right.
26:10 There's a lot of hip hop songs, but but culturally it offends a generation's preferences.
26:16 That's why it's so easy to point out all of the same content that is evil.
26:20 I think when it comes to listen to quote, unquote secular music, it is the content and
26:25 the intent that makes something Christian or secular.
26:29 So not the music style.
26:31 You've talked about this before because you have a very unique style of music that you
26:34 like.
26:35 It sounds amazing.
26:37 Amazing.
26:38 Amazing.
26:39 Great.
26:40 It's personal.
26:41 So, but the way to think about it is not good, bad.
26:44 You got to think when culture officers, something, there's three ways that we can view this.
26:48 There are things that need to be rejected.
26:51 There are things that need to be received.
26:53 And then there are things that can be redeemed.
26:55 And there's a lot of secular music that they don't have the Lord in mind whatsoever, but
27:01 it's very redeemable because there's some by his common grace, some godly qualities
27:06 like love and sacrifice and things like that.
27:09 There are some things that just need to be outright rejected.
27:14 And then man, and then there are some country songs that are very like that Larry Fleet
27:21 song.
27:22 That's where I find God.
27:23 I love it, bro, I mean, more than love it, like, but I'm such a country guy.
27:28 Like I know, if you don't know what an Evan root is, you're not going to get into that
27:31 song anyway.
27:32 Okay.
27:33 Barstool on an Evan root.
27:34 Yeah.
27:35 You're absolutely right.
27:36 Or barstool.
27:37 Same one interest few.
27:38 Yeah.
27:39 Yeah.
27:40 That's it, bro.
27:41 I love it.
27:42 I love it.
27:43 I love it.
27:44 I love it.
27:45 I love it.
27:46 So anyway, but that's the way to think about these things.
27:47 It's there are things that need to be rejected because to say that is sin.
27:51 There's some things that can be redeemed.
27:53 Like that is a that is a redeemable biblical quality that we can receive.
27:57 And then there's some things that you just you just outright take and say, I don't care
28:01 who sings it.
28:04 That's a God glorifying song, regardless of the genre of music.
28:08 Now in regards to Christian music, I don't know what ton I think a couple of things happened.
28:17 Back when like Jeff Moore and Michael W. Smith and Steven Curtis Chapman, when they were
28:23 selling out stadiums, there was something to it because they would say we are creating
28:32 performances to be consumed by believers.
28:37 That was their intent.
28:39 And that I think I think one of the downfalls is when when worship music became mainstream,
28:48 I don't know that it's a good idea that the background at Chick-fil-A while you're in the
28:52 bathroom peeing is a worship tune that you kind of recognize.
28:56 Yeah.
28:57 There is there is still something about there's a sacredness should take more attention from
29:07 God's people to say, this is not just a throwaway background song.
29:12 This song should focus my eyes towards Jesus.
29:15 Now the one thing I would encourage you to understand though is if a song is too feminine
29:21 for you, the key word there is for you.
29:24 You just have to at least go, my preference is not this type of music.
29:29 So you don't don't put that in the God's precepts.
29:33 That God likes all kinds of different music and a lot of it just depends on where you're
29:37 from and what represents your heart.
29:42 And so you've talked about this ad nauseam, which is great man, they're all kind of different
29:46 types of music.
29:47 God is a very diverse God, he's created all kinds of different types of people and we
29:51 all express love and worship towards him.
29:54 I don't think it takes very long though in today's contemporary Christian music world
29:59 to go find some people that sing the kind of music you like.
30:02 One of my favorite bands now that you turn me on to is the altar music.
30:06 And so if the dude likes country music, get you some altar music, it is very, very theologically
30:12 accurate lyrics and it's really well done and I can't get enough of it.
30:17 Yeah, shout out to Maddie Montgomery and the altar church.
30:19 I want to keep that going just a little bit because just as one aside to all the people
30:23 out there that think demon notes exist, that thing certain guitar riffs or certain drumbeats
30:28 are irredeemable, they're irredeemably satanic, please stop being so shortsighted.
30:33 But a lot of that is actually rooted in some serious like racism stuff.
30:42 Like I mean, there was a whole bent that said any music with drums came out of Africa and
30:46 things from Africa or demonic and it takes about one second from a guy with a Bible to
30:51 realize that most of the hymns that we're singing were bar tunes in the 1500s to realize, wait
30:56 a minute, you don't have a theological problem.
30:59 You have an ethnic sociological problem with this music.
31:03 And let's talk about that.
31:06 Yeah, absolutely and where did the church explode first?
31:11 Not in Europe, y'all had exploded like an Ethiopia and other parts of Africa.
31:14 So you got to be real careful.
31:16 And so, but another thing in addition to that, like again, when people, I always ask them
31:20 the same thing, people that are like, hey, metal music can't possibly serve God, you need
31:23 to remove that from your show.
31:24 I'm like, how little do you think of the God of the universe that there are noises that
31:31 I can make with sticks or guitar strings that he can't redeem?
31:35 Are you out of your mind?
31:37 But we need to keep this going, but we have to be brief because we both got to wrap this
31:40 up soon.
31:41 You and I've talked about this privately, but I think this, this bears repeating.
31:44 You've talked about several times in your sermons that Satan was, he was like the worship
31:49 leader of the heavenlies, right?
31:51 And so he was either made of instruments or he was an instrument or he played instruments,
31:56 some sort of the way like that.
31:57 We don't know exactly how to define it.
31:59 And so it kind of hit me one day whenever I was like driving down the road, I'm like,
32:02 wait a minute, music is so all encapsulating for people.
32:06 And it gets them to this crazy place.
32:08 Like when you watch Swifties at a Taylor Swift concert or when you go back and watch
32:12 video of like the Beatles and the fans that were in the stands or people, I know people
32:16 like because I've been to a lot of metal shows, they will literally cut themselves before
32:20 they will go into the mosh pit so that they bleed on people while they're mashing.
32:23 Like there's, but music causes people to move in this way.
32:26 I feel like of all the chosen flavors of temptation that God or that Satan would have to give
32:33 to his, his minions, it would be through music because that's the language he understood.
32:37 It's kind of like, you know, maybe a musician has a hard time describing in words to somebody
32:42 like in a conversation, how they feel, but maybe they can write that poem or write that
32:46 song and maybe it's three chords in the truth and they can get their feelings out.
32:50 Am I maybe drawing some lines that aren't there or is there maybe something to that?
32:54 Well, I think there's a lot to that.
32:55 I mean, so what you're talking about is Ezekiel 28, where Lucifer was in charge of leading
33:01 worship for the heavenly host.
33:04 And I think where his pride is, is he would, so God was the source of light that was going
33:08 to refract through him to lead worship to the heavenly host and he gets tired of being looked
33:14 through and wanted to be looked to.
33:17 He wanted to sit on that seat.
33:18 Okay.
33:19 So he gets cast down.
33:20 He's such a good liar.
33:21 He convinces the third of the angels to go with him.
33:23 And, and then you get to Genesis one, two and three, everything God creates, the enemy
33:28 tries to corrupt.
33:30 And if you look at Genesis one, look at the rhythm in which creation was created, everything
33:36 about this, why did he take six days and then rest on the seventh?
33:41 He could have just said everything and everything's there, but he doesn't.
33:45 Days one, two and three, he creates the environments in which he fills in the corresponding days
33:50 of four, five and six and there was evening and there was morning, the next day, there's
33:54 a rhythm to it.
33:55 He creates seasons.
33:56 It's why people like to sit at the beach and watch the waves, it's our heart beats
34:00 and a rhythm.
34:01 I think all of that is tied to why music gets to places in our hearts where words can't.
34:08 And then the enemy takes what God created and he corrupts it.
34:11 And so now one of the most influential means to change a culture is music.
34:19 And if you look at the corruption and the content, regardless of style in the, in music
34:25 over the last, say the eighties and nineties, then there's no doubt that we're living in
34:31 such depraved society because the music made it palatable for us to begin to treat people
34:37 like commodities and sex outside of marriage and kill whoever you want.
34:42 So I think you're very much on to something when you've heard the quote and people said
34:46 the quote before the law is a teacher.
34:48 And so we look at something like Roe v. Wade, which was the law of the land from the early
34:52 seventies.
34:53 And so you had multiple generations of people that said, well, it's legal.
34:56 So it must be moral.
34:57 The same thing.
34:58 Art is a teacher as well.
35:00 And so the, the lyrical content of things that parents allow their children to listen
35:06 to, like whenever I was growing up, my parents would literally, or my mom, she would read
35:11 the lyrics because that was when they, you know, CDs and their lyrics would be printed
35:14 in there.
35:15 If there was anything that was reprehensible, according to her, I had to take it back to
35:18 Hastings.
35:19 And that was just the way that it was.
35:20 We weren't going to be exposed to that.
35:22 But then I hear these kids singing along or dancing along to these songs on TikTok or whatever
35:26 that are literally talking about sex outside of marriage, violent, penetrative rape, you
35:32 know, dealing drugs, like taking advantage of people, hurting people, killing people.
35:37 And they're just singing along because the beat sounds nice.
35:39 And it's like parents, y'all are asleep with the wheel, wormwood is not dead.
35:44 Like he, he just found a new person to torture.
35:46 You know what I mean?
35:47 But here, I feel like I'm about to bust this off into another thing and I don't want your
35:49 staff to hate me.
35:50 So that's all for me in terms of this one.
35:53 Welcome again to 2024.
35:54 I think that's off to a good start.
35:56 Anything else where we let you get out of here?
35:57 Yeah.
35:58 Oh, you were.
35:59 Thank you.
36:00 Your books to read, you mentioned anything responsible in the top five.
36:04 You didn't have to do that.
36:05 I really appreciate that.
36:06 It means a lot.
36:07 Well, like I've told you before and like I tell everybody, I feel no need to give compliments
36:11 to people when they don't deserve it.
36:13 And so it's like, if you suck, I may not tell you you suck or I might tell you that you
36:17 suck.
36:18 And again, I feel no desire or pool to give somebody any plot is that they didn't earn
36:23 and that they didn't deserve.
36:24 I think you and your co-author did a fantastic job on that book.
36:27 You've already given me some peaks behind the curtain on some of the other stuff you
36:30 have coming up.
36:31 That you're working on.
36:32 I'm very, very excited for that, but my standards are high, Joby.
36:34 So if you and Charles don't hit the mark, I will be sure to tell everybody through this
36:38 microphone.
36:39 You understand?
36:40 Yes, sir.
36:41 We'll do our best.
36:42 All right.
36:43 We'll see you next time, Joby.
36:44 Peace.
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To try to shift what the Word of God says to match our current culture means that culture rules.
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