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Ask a Pastor with JOBY MARTIN | February 2025 (Ep. 713)

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Ask a Pastor with JOBY MARTIN | February 2025 (Ep. 713)
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In this episode, Kyle Thompson and Joby Martin tackle tough questions about faith, culture, and the challenges men face today. They discuss the implications of cultural Christianity, the importance of genuine faith, and the struggles within marriages regarding intimacy and leadership.
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0:50 This is Undaunted Life, a man's podcast.
0:54 I'm your host Kyle Thompson.
0:56 Let's get into it.
0:57 Joe B. Martin, welcome back to the show.
0:58 You look safe and warm and here recently you were really, really, really cold, so this
1:03 is coming out a few weeks from now, but you were just recently in Washington, D.C.
1:07 For the inauguration of our 47th President of the United States, Donald J. Trump.
1:12 So what was that like?
1:13 How did you get hooked up and why didn't you bring me?
1:16 I was an invited guest, and because of you, man, you introduced me to Chad Roboshow.
1:23 And so, Trump wanted to--
1:24 And then he gave me no love.
1:25 What the heck, Chad?
1:26 Well, it's because Trump specifically wanted to bring some pastors, and so that's how that
1:32 happened.
1:33 So, good on him.
1:34 Dude, it was awesome.
1:35 Yeah.
1:36 The energy in Washington was through the roof.
1:38 I mean, it was just really great.
1:40 It was exciting.
1:41 Okay, so you sent me a few pictures that made me jealous.
1:44 So you hung out with-- So the one that's funny is John Jones.
1:48 So obviously, he's popped for steroids.
1:49 He's had some terrible run-ins with the law.
1:52 He's used his physical skills on women.
1:55 But all I could think about is John Jones is the only dude walking around in Washington,
2:00 D.C. with zero fear for his life.
2:03 That guy is the most dangerous man when it comes to hands and feet on planet Earth.
2:08 So what was it like standing next to somebody so dangerous?
2:10 Dude, he was super awesome.
2:13 You know, I mainly just went to talk to him so I could send a picture to JP by 19-year-old
2:17 son who competes in Jiu Jitsu and is the biggest USC fan.
2:22 But then we talked about the Lord, because all these guys assumed that I'm former military,
2:27 you know, just 'cause like bald beard and tattoos.
2:30 And I'm like, "No, I'm actually a pastor."
2:32 So we talked about Jesus, and he followed me on Instagram, he said he was going to watch
2:37 Sermon.
2:38 So let's go.
2:39 All right.
2:40 We'll see how that goes.
2:42 Well, speaking of Jesus, Joby, I don't know, because you've seen this.
2:46 But I got this new Jesus tattoo on my floor.
2:48 Let's go.
2:49 I'm working on my sleeves.
2:50 Shout out to Dustin Yip in Oklahoma City.
2:52 It's kind of peeling right now, but you guys can see it there on YouTube and rumble.
2:55 But I've been reliably informed by theology professors online, right, on Instagram that
3:02 I am violating one of the 10 commandments.
3:05 And so I want to read it here in Exodus 20, okay, Exodus 20 starting in verse four.
3:10 You shall not make for yourself a carved image or any likeness of anything that is in heaven
3:14 above or that is in the earth beneath or that is in the water under the earth.
3:19 You shall not bow down to them or serve them for I, the Lord, your God, am a jealous God
3:24 visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children of the third and fourth generation
3:28 of those who hate me, but showing steadfast love to thousands of those who love me and
3:33 keep my commandments.
3:34 And these guys, these geniuses have reliably informed me that not only does that apply
3:38 to putting a rendering of Jesus on my body, but if I were to put one in a picture frame
3:42 on my wall or to watch the passion of the Christ or the chosen or something like that,
3:46 but I am violating one of those 10 commandments.
3:49 What say you?
3:50 Those guys sound like a lot of fun, don't they?
3:53 Oh, man, I've had fun with them.
3:56 So this, the whole point, if you if you shrunk down the second commandment is, it's just
4:01 don't worship idols.
4:03 And then it instructs you on some ways that people historically have worship idols, particularly
4:09 during that time.
4:10 So are you worshipping an idol?
4:11 Uh, no, I don't believe so, sir.
4:15 And you are not breaking the second commandment.
4:17 So, uh, that I will translate for Joby suck it nerds.
4:21 You got it wrong.
4:22 Joby's right.
4:23 I'm right.
4:24 Just appreciate this amazing content.
4:26 That might be a sin.
4:27 Tell them some might suck at nerds that you might be sitting there.
4:29 Well, no, no, I didn't, I didn't mean like literally or maybe I did.
4:32 Who knows?
4:33 But we could just move right on.
4:34 I do have another question, uh, because recently we've had, and you and I've talked
4:38 about this, we had, uh, Christian apologists, Wes Huff go on the Joe Rogan experience and
4:43 represent himself and Christianity very well.
4:45 We had the great Jordan Peterson publicly saying that he believes that Jesus rose from the
4:50 dead.
4:51 He did that last year, but then in a recent interview on the, the diary of a CEO podcast,
4:56 he said that he believes that Jesus is God, which implicitly means that he publicly admitted
5:01 for the first time that he believes in God, which he has not done.
5:04 You've got guys like, uh, Russell brand and gals like I on Hershey Ali, uh, coming out
5:10 as, as Christians and publicly declaring, uh, that Jesus is Lord and, and their savior.
5:15 You have Richard Dawkins admitting that he's at the very least a cultural Christian, right?
5:20 One of the four horsemen, you've got the explosion of Bible sales.
5:23 You have our show, the Daily Blade that is taking off and we were one of three Bible-based
5:29 content, you know, shows that were in the top 10 of the Associated Press's best new shows
5:35 of 2025.
5:38 But at the same time, Joby, the fastest religion in the world in terms of growth is Islam.
5:43 And so I want to ask you, is there a revival coming?
5:47 Is there a burning off of the fake and weak Christians and more of the legitimate stuff
5:54 is coming out now?
5:56 Are we losing cultural Christianity for real Christianity?
5:59 Are we heading for our final duel with Islam or the dragon, which may be the same thing?
6:06 Just give me your thoughts overall.
6:08 Uh, yeah, probably some conglomeration of all that you just said.
6:12 I mean, I think oftentimes, uh, in societies, you know, the pendulum swings and over swings
6:17 and corrects and over-corrects.
6:19 And so there was definitely a societal over-correction in regards to where, I mean, what, fifteen
6:28 years ago, the four horsemen of atheism were thought to be the future.
6:32 And now they're literally irrelevant, right?
6:34 Uh, and even, you know, our guys like Jordan Peterson and, and, and Rogan are saying things
6:41 about the Lord, even President Trump in his inaugural speech talked about God, like I've
6:46 never heard him talk before.
6:48 So what is this?
6:49 Well, we'll see.
6:50 I mean, the ultimate answer is we'll see.
6:51 I want to believe that God is on the move and that the prayers that people have been sewing
6:55 into our nation and our culture for a long time are coming to fruition.
6:59 And I want to believe, um, you know, I know that God's arms are not too short to save
7:05 and he's saving all kind of people all over the place.
7:08 That's what I want to believe.
7:09 Only time will tell.
7:10 I would highly encourage your audience to not be, to not, not have your first instinct
7:15 to be a critic of what God could potentially be doing, but to for your first instinct to
7:21 be a champion of what God could be doing.
7:24 Um, you see it in Mark chapter two, uh, you see it with the Pharisees all the time.
7:28 Jesus does a miracle and they criticize instead of champion the miracle.
7:32 So you want to be on team Jesus here hoping for hope, the hope of glory, which is faith
7:37 in Christ Jesus.
7:39 We don't want our instincts to be, well, I'm a critic of anything that I didn't have
7:43 something to do with.
7:44 Well, when we do have this chronological snobbery, as C.S. Lewis points out that for a lot of
7:49 us, we think that history started in like 1987 or something like that.
7:53 But it's like, okay, I bet the people that were sitting just recently, I was, I was digging
7:57 into Jonathan Edwards's centers in the hands of an angry God sermon.
8:02 And I bet people that were on the front end of the great awakening thought that something
8:05 was going to happen there in the very, very near term.
8:07 I bet you the people in that were living through the Great Depression in the 1930s and 1940s
8:13 and the, you know, hundreds of millions of people or over a hundred million people that
8:16 were killed between Mao and Pol Pot and Stalin and Lenin and Hitler and all those guys.
8:21 I bet they thought that we were living through, no, the end times are, we're here.
8:25 We're in it.
8:26 And so that's, I guess my encouragement for some people, you, you revelation people that
8:29 love like digging in and you're trying to crack the code and you're trying to like do
8:32 the math and all that.
8:33 It's like, we, we could, we could be in the final days of the, of, of, you know, the
8:39 real end times, but we just can't know that.
8:41 But let's try to open our arms wide and welcome as many people into the tent as possible.
8:45 Is that fair?
8:46 Yeah, that's very, very, I also think, you know, history has a tendency of repeating
8:50 itself and if you look in the late sixties, the late sixties looked a lot like our COVID
8:59 race riot kind of thing going on here, very, a lot of similarities and those two things.
9:05 And then what happened coming out of the late sixties was the Jesus revolution, which, you
9:10 know, the gospel was being preached and people that were church people would have thought
9:15 the least likely group of people to get saved were getting saved in the huge numbers.
9:20 And it was a legitimate movement.
9:22 I'm, I'm hoping and praying that coming out of like what the enemy intended for evil in
9:27 America four or five years ago that God is at work in that thing to bring a whole generation
9:33 under Christ.
9:34 I mean, honestly, Kyle, if you just looked at like if our church was in the 17, 18 hundreds,
9:41 they would write books about like the number of people getting saved and baptized coming
9:46 to Christ.
9:47 There's a real movement of God right here in Jacksonville, but then you see it in these
9:51 pockets all over.
9:52 So I hope and pray.
9:53 I mean, I really do.
9:54 I hope and pray that God's just on the move, saving a whole bunch of people.
9:57 Yeah, history doesn't technically repeat itself, but it certainly does echo.
10:00 So let's go to the next question here.
10:01 This is from Eric Browning of the forging table fame.
10:04 Brain science people tell us our bodies are constantly assessing threats and are built
10:08 to naturally avoid pain and seek pleasure is seeking pain for the right reasons.
10:14 One of the ways we deny our flesh, if so, in heaven is pleasure.
10:19 All we are going to experience all the time.
10:22 Will there be war competition, healthy pain and suffering?
10:25 So kind of a little bit more of an ethereal question.
10:27 But what do you got?
10:28 Yeah, I mean, oh, man, I have no idea.
10:30 So I think it is the goal of why you're seeking pain.
10:36 That determines like if it's under the glory of God.
10:38 So for instance, I'm sure both of us got up this morning early and we intentionally put
10:43 ourselves through pain for a greater purpose, which was the steward, the gift of our bodies
10:48 that God has given us check to go to the pain of taking the gospel to the third world check.
10:53 Okay, those kind of things, but I do think to seek pain to somehow pay penance for sin
11:02 is anti-gospel because Christ payment on the cross fully paid at all.
11:08 So there's no amount of pain that you can endure physically that somehow adds to that.
11:12 Yeah, it's like self-flagellation, like Opus Day and different sex where they would like
11:16 literally, you know, make themselves put themselves through pain.
11:20 But I have thought about this as well.
11:21 And again, we can't really know.
11:22 I'm just wondering where your thoughts are.
11:23 Think of some of the most pleasurable moments you've ever had in your life and we'll keep
11:27 a PG here, but maybe when you see your kid do something amazing where they help someone
11:31 else.
11:32 You're like, Oh my gosh, that's awesome.
11:33 And just that fluttery, you know, lovey-dovey feeling when something just goes really, really,
11:36 really well, is that what heaven is going to be like?
11:41 Is that kind of going to be what we're experiencing?
11:43 Like do we have any hints from scripture?
11:45 Yeah.
11:46 Well, in Revelation, you know, we don't, with the consummation of all things, we don't live
11:50 in heaven forever that heaven is a holding pattern right now for the consummation of all
11:53 things, which is a new heaven and a new earth that we will live in a new earth where there's
11:58 the new Jerusalem. And if you take that down to the granular level, that sounds like we're
12:03 going to be doing stuff like, you know, living in houses and having jobs and accomplishing
12:08 things. So it would be all speculation. But imagine, I mean, when Adam and Eve were cultivating
12:15 the garden, there was hard work that had to be done. You just pulled out all of the pests
12:20 and all of the thorns and thistles to that hard work. So there still seems to be that
12:27 we will be overcoming things as a part of our eternal human experience. It'll all be
12:33 the glory of God and none of it will be tainted by sin.
12:36 Okay. So we can't fully know, but can we at least agree that in this new earth, there's
12:41 going to be dogs, right? We're going to have dogs and it's going to be, you know, like
12:45 Samson, Roman, like those types of dogs.
12:48 Those types of dogs, I agree. Yeah. Okay. Very good. Glad I could pull you all the way
12:52 over to my side of things. All right.
12:54 This next question is from a donor. Thank you, Adam, for being a donor. And guys, if
13:00 you want your questions asked and put in this question, make you either need to be me, you
13:03 need to be on the forging table or you need to be a monthly donor. So here we go. Pastor
13:08 Joby, I've been following your sermons and the Q and A's you do with Kyle for a couple
13:12 of years now. I'm pretty sure that I remember you saying from the pulpit and on Kyle show
13:16 that women are not allowed to be pastors nor preach to mix gender audiences. However, I
13:21 saw where your church announced the saturated speakers for this year. And there is a woman
13:25 that you are allowing to preach from your pulpit at your church. Have you changed your theological
13:30 understanding of having women preach? If so, why?
13:33 Well, he put words in my mouth. The Bible says that the role of elder or pastor is for
13:40 a man, but I did not say that a woman is not allowed to, you know, ever talk in front of
13:47 mixed gendered folks. So it really comes down to a second Timothy when Paul says, I do not
13:54 allow a woman to preach or hold authority over a man. And so the question there is, does that
14:01 mean both of those together? Like, can a woman not give instruction to a man on where the
14:06 bathroom is during a church service? Is that what it's because some people would say yes.
14:10 And then some people just kind of throw out the Bible and say it means whatever. Basically,
14:15 if he wants to go, let's do a deepen podcast that will come out in two or three weeks,
14:20 I'll go into it for about 30 minutes. So I think what the Bible means is that the position
14:27 of pastor is only for men, just like the position of father is only for men, period. And that
14:34 though there were women in ministry all throughout the New Testament, but none of them held the
14:40 position of elder or pastor. And so that's where we land as a complimentary in church.
14:47 But there's all kinds of ministry activities that can happen, but the role of the Sunday
14:53 weekend regular gathering preacher needs to be a man. Now what we're putting on is a conference.
15:02 And so I would give more latitude and a conference than I would the church service. And so that's
15:09 where we land. There are going to be people on the right and left of me. The real thing
15:14 you have to come to is how did you get to that idea? And the reason we got there is because
15:23 we believe in the authority of scripture, and we're trying to walk out the authority
15:28 of what the Bible says for us today in our time, not trying to bend anything that it
15:35 says, but just apply it. And that means apply it not to just limit the roles of men and women,
15:42 but also fully express the roles of men and women in our church to the best of our understanding.
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17:45 Yeah, I was wondering because when I was reading through the question, it's like, okay, well,
17:49 there are church services, there are worship services, there are conferences, there are
17:53 revivals, there are, there's a lot of different categories of things. And so, you know, I think
17:59 you did a great job of kind of explaining, okay, what is the difference between a Sunday morning?
18:03 Because there's also been, I think you and I've talked about it to where it's like,
18:06 do we talk about political things for the pulpit or is that something for Wednesday night, you know,
18:10 for churches that typically do a Wednesday night or a Sunday night or something? But what is Sunday
18:14 morning for? So thank you for going into that detail. This next question is from me. And I don't
18:19 think you and I've ever talked about this before. I frankly don't know that I've heard anyone talk
18:22 about it. But it's why, so we see from scripture that when Jesus was resurrected, that he still had
18:27 holes in his hands and a hole in his side, right? So why was he seemingly at least visibly not wounded
18:37 in any other way? Because obviously we can tell from the cat of nine tales that he would have had
18:41 his his insides ripped open, his organs probably would have been exposed. You know, the crown of
18:45 thorns would have left a bunch of crazy marks all over his face. He was beaten, you know, all the
18:49 things right. And so he comes back, he's fully healed, but he's got holes. Help me.
18:55 Yeah, somehow in our glorified bodies, we are still recognizable, but not limited by any of the
19:04 pains that we have gone through in this earth. So I mean, you know, the thing about a hole or a
19:09 scar is that it a scar shows that there is it has been healed, you know. And so I think a part of
19:17 it, because he is the prototoco from the dead. He is the prototype. That means that when you and
19:22 I see each other in glory, we will recognize each other even though we're in our glorified states.
19:27 I mean, I think, I think one of the biggest things that you should take from that,
19:33 and I don't think I'm answering your question physically, philosophically, or theologically
19:38 very well, but I think the real takeaway from the scars of Jesus post resurrection is that the
19:44 enemy constantly tries to get you to be defined by your scars. And Jesus says, no, no, you're
19:48 going to be defined by mind. So the things that happened to you don't get to ultimately determine
19:54 who you are, but believing in the resurrected Christ means that he tells you who you are.
19:59 So he is recognizable and yet he's glorified. So even our glorified state, I'll still have my
20:06 cauliflower is what you're saying. So people will at least, you know, recognize me in heaven. That's
20:11 what you're saying. I would if I had it, I would want it. Don't you want it? It's like the biggest
20:16 badge of honor right now. I mean, what used to be, because I had, I mean, I had it in college a
20:21 little bit, but I got it drained and got it under control fast. So it was fun. But
20:24 Hey, I will tell you, I was, I was talking some of the other things about you if you got
20:28 cauliflower here. That's true. Right. If you have an ugly face and messed up ears,
20:32 people are like, well, you know, that that guy did a thing or two, but it is funny because I've
20:36 had conversations with guys that I know were extended, like gospel conversations that were
20:40 extended because they noticed my ears, right? And they said something about it because they're like,
20:44 all right, this is, this is not just like, you know, some random like youth pastor or something
20:48 like that. But I forget what I was going to say specifically. Oh, there was a, there was an
20:54 objection that came up on the West Huff interview on Joe Rogan that I had never heard before,
20:58 but Joe Rogan asked West Huff about, well, did these people understand time back then,
21:04 which is kind of a silly question because we understand the sun going up and the sun coming
21:08 down. So it was very chronologically snobbish, you know, question, right? But in terms of them
21:13 writing it down, there is certainly a big difference between three days and three months.
21:18 Because the thing that destroys Christianity is, you know, the resurrection not being real. So if
21:25 you can literally prove that Jesus never rose from the dead or that Jesus never died, right,
21:31 that Jesus didn't die in the first place, but he went and hung out somewhere for three months
21:35 and got a bunch of like, you know, sage oil or something like that spread on all of his wounds.
21:40 And then he came back, he looked better. Everyone thought he died, but he was actually alive.
21:44 So I guess that's kind of where I was, I was thinking about it. I was trying to think about it from
21:47 like a, if I was a strict material, satheus, and I was trying to destroy Christianity and
21:52 looking at the evidence for it, that would be one way to explain it. Like, oh, it wasn't three days,
21:56 you dummies. It was actually three months, he went and healed, he went and hid and healed. And then
22:00 when he came back, everyone was freaking out because they're like, Hey, the Romans, they always
22:04 shoot their shot with crucifixion. And they always hit their target. Does that make sense?
22:08 It does. The only thing is there is a little bit of difference between like a Roman calendar
22:13 and a Jewish calendar, but it's only a few hours off. And the difference is, is that like in the
22:19 United States, we would say we would use a day in 24 hours interchangeably, but any part of a day
22:26 for the Jewish calendar is a day. So like, they talk about a Sabbath day, but it's not even, you
22:31 know, it starts one day and ends the other day. So it would only be a few hours off, you know,
22:35 because technically, if he goes into the grave Friday evening and he comes out Sunday morning,
22:40 you know, that that's less than three 24 hour days, but it's a part of three days. That's what
22:46 that's where you get the three days from. So that would even all fall apart. But I did like,
22:51 I mean, I feel like Rogan was just asking inquisitive questions.
22:54 You know, the whole thing is, is the amount of evidence for the resurrection is just absolutely
23:02 overwhelming. I mean, from a human nature standpoint, from a sociological standpoint,
23:07 from a physical standpoint, and like Huff said, even the most hardcore atheist agree that
23:13 the Romans did not put an almost dead guy in the grave. He was dead, dead all the way dead, you
23:18 know? And so all Rome had to do is produce the body. Nobody dies for a lie. We've been over these
23:25 a hundred times. But the, in fact, Kyle, sometimes if I, if and when I have moments of doubt,
23:32 the thing that brings me back to the certainty of my faith is the overwhelming evidence of the
23:39 resurrection of Jesus Christ. When I get to confusing things in the Bible about, you know,
23:44 because it's not like a house of cards built upon some, it's all built on is the, did the
23:51 resurrection happen or not? And because it did, now I can believe, I mean, that's my whole first
23:58 two books. If the tomb is empty, anything is possible. So he's already pulled off the greatest
24:01 miracle of all time through the resurrection. So I can believe him for all kinds of things.
24:04 Well, and also don't un hitch. Yeah, don't un hitch from the Old Testament. That's not what he's
24:08 saying. And then also the, you know, if we want to get minute, the minute thing is that it was
24:14 recorded that clear liquid came from when his heart was punctured. That can only happen postpartum
24:21 or post mortem. Sorry, not postpartum, but post mortem. That's the only time something like that
24:26 can happen. We got time for maybe a couple more questions here. So I want to get into this. This
24:29 is from a donor Reg Reg. Thank you for being a donor. Reg was one of our very first donors. So
24:33 shout out to Reg. We appreciate you. And it's kind of a flowing question, but psilocybin mushrooms.
24:38 Obviously, we're talking about Joe Rogan. He's had guys on a show that just spent three hours
24:41 talking about mushrooms. We've heard about veterans that go down and do these psilocybin
24:45 mushroom and this these ayahuasca trips and things like that. But these are still in America considered
24:50 to be controlled substances. There are some people that are like, Hey, man, these are not free lunch
24:55 things. All right, this is not like, Hey, it's it's natural man. What does it matter? It's like,
24:59 yes, it is helping people, but it is also hurting other people. And there are downstream consequences
25:04 that we're not considering. And that people like Joe Rogan and people that go on a show are not
25:07 considering either. But specifically as it pertains to Christians, these things are categorized as
25:12 drugs. And for the most part, you know, all of us good kids that grew up Southern Baptist or whatever,
25:17 it's just like drugs bad. We're not going to do it. I went through the dare program. And just where
25:22 are you at on that? How should Christians think about that? Some people see it as medicine. And
25:26 some people see it as a psychedelic drug. I don't think I'm very well informed. First of all,
25:33 secondly, I would say there are some things the Bible is clear about and getting drunk would be
25:38 one of them. So you need to avoid that. I don't I don't trust our FDA as far as I can throw it.
25:46 So I get all that. The question would be, so why do you want to do this thing? Like what is it that
25:53 you are pursuing? If if a person is actually pursuing health for the sake of glorifying God
26:00 with all of their strength and mind, okay, now I would have to get more informed on what that is,
26:06 you know, like I wouldn't fault if you had some kind of cancer and there was a there was something
26:14 that was illegal in the States, but it was legal in Mexico. And you were going to go do that to be
26:18 healed so that you could be the dad and the and the husband that you've been called to be. I wouldn't
26:23 fault you whatsoever for that. The drug thing makes it a little different. Rogan, if he's being
26:28 honest, just wants to do drugs. Yeah, he wants to get high. Yeah, correct. And so, and okay,
26:34 whatever. I mean, you know, he's not a believer. So if if if folks would just be real about what
26:40 their actual intentions are, that's the real root of whether this thing is okay or not.
26:47 Now that's different from like government policy, like here in America. I mean, here in
26:54 in Florida, there was a ballot about legalizing marijuana. Man, I voted no because just the amount
26:59 of people that would be exposed to it. And if we could give them the time machine and back up and
27:05 have different societal idea about what marijuana is and about what alcohol is, okay, maybe and I
27:11 hear all that, but we can't. We live here. And here's what I know. If that thing is legalized,
27:16 there's going to be a bunch of 18 year olds or 21 year olds that have no business ever touching
27:20 the stuff and they're going to try it and they're going to ruin their lives over this thing. And so,
27:24 asking a question theologically and governmentally, I might even give you two different answers.
27:31 The question behind the question on it, should you do those kind of silicile mushrooms and all
27:35 that kind of stuff? In my opinion would be what's the what's the why behind what you want to do?
27:40 Now that being said, I wish we had the kind of government that would really research this stuff
27:46 if it actually did help veterans fight against PTSD and come off alcohol and help with suicidal
27:53 thoughts. And if that was the why behind it, then okay. But if you just are looking for a loophole
27:59 to get high, then bro, just say what it is. That's a sin. All right, very good. Well,
28:04 we got time for one more question and it's it's a tough one. And I mean, we probably need more
28:09 than five minutes to to unpack it, but five minutes is what we got. So in the last year or so,
28:15 I've had the unfortunate duty, I guess, of talking to several men that are in categorically
28:22 sexless marriage marriages. And essentially, I think what that means is they're having sex
28:27 six or less times a year. And with the men that I've been exposed to, again, I'm getting one side
28:33 of the story, it is completely being controlled by their spouse. Okay, they desire sex, they want
28:39 sex and their spouses withholding it from them on purpose. It is a power play. And one guy,
28:46 it didn't end up so good. And the other guy is still in his marriage. And he is doing everything
28:51 he can to lead his wife, right, whatever the hell that means. And so both of these guys,
28:56 I just like, I just I don't know what to tell them because it's like there's only so much you can do
29:02 to create fertile soil for the plant to grow. But if the woman refuses and she is not going to
29:10 listen to Godly counsel, even if she claims to be a Christian, she won't listen to other women
29:14 that are going to tell her what you're doing is sinful. She's not going to listen to her husband,
29:18 she's not going to be led by her husband in a lot of these cases, she has the more dominant
29:22 personality than the husband. Anyway, the husband has not been the leader. They've usurped their role
29:26 as the leader of the household, the women have taken over. But just straight up, what do you tell
29:33 the guy in that situation? Like, when the world is he supposed to do? Yeah, be faithful and it sucks.
29:40 I mean, I've got no good news based on all those parameters you laid out that you're supposed to
29:48 love her like Christ loved you. And so that's a part that's this incredible gift of God given by God
29:55 that you have to lay down in order to love and serve her till death through his part in good times
30:03 and bad and sickness and health. So it's sick and it's bad. And that's what you signed up for.
30:08 That sucks, dude. And I mean, you know, the best thing that could happen is if she could get
30:16 around some godly women and have some godly women pour into her 1st Corinthians 7 on
30:22 she's in sin. Like, Porneo is not just about that Greek word Porneo, sexual immorality is not
30:30 just about going outside of your marriage. Like in fornication or homosexuality or pornography and
30:38 lust, it's also abusing sex within your marriage. That would also be sexually immoral. Whether that
30:43 means the guy is emotionally or theologically or physically beating up his wife in order to get
30:50 sex, that would be sexually immoral or a wife with a power play withholding sex from her husband
30:57 to punish him is also sexually immoral. So she is living in sin and what he needs to do. I mean,
31:04 listen, people are like counselors are going to give them all kind of like tips and tricks on how
31:08 to communicate and share needs or whatever. But fundamentally, what that brother's got to come to,
31:13 which is this sucks, man, but is that you take up your cross and you follow Jesus and you die to
31:19 yourself and you love her unconditionally like he's loved you. And the only way you're going to be
31:27 able to pull this off is through the gospel of Jesus Christ and the spirit of God living in you.
31:31 And every time your advances get turned down, even when they're good and godly and you did it right,
31:37 then you remember Christ on the cross crucified for you. And this is just an opportunity for you
31:44 to be Christ like to her, even if you never get what you want. I mean, dude, the gospel
31:50 that's what we've been called to. And I can't imagine. I mean, you know, I have a really godly
31:58 awesome wife who likes me and acts like it. And even, and even, I know there's some women
32:05 listening to this and, and, and the last thing I would ever want is for some guy to use some
32:10 verses out of first grade, you seven to like manipulate or force his wife or whatever. But
32:16 my wife has a really incredible understanding of my wants and needs. And she's a really,
32:22 really godly wife when it comes to that. So that is the ideal, but where the ideal is unrealized,
32:28 then grace abounds. But dude, it's a, it sucks. I mean, that poor guy. And it's going to damage
32:35 everything in his marriage. It is because you talk about the thermostat and the thermometer.
32:41 Through the bedroom, it can set the temperature for your whole house. It can. And, but yeah, you,
32:49 you made a vow and God commands you to love her like Christ loved us. So even when we're terrible,
32:55 which she's being terrible, then, then you got to love her. And that really does mean that not
33:03 manipulator that I really love her. Not, not be resentful towards her, but really love her.
33:11 It's brutal, but I obviously think that you're right, but we're out of time. That's all for me.
33:16 Anything else you want to get off your chest? Well, that's a fun way to end, huh? Good luck.
33:20 Good luck sucks to be here. I could have ended, I could have ended with another one, but I went
33:23 this route. So of course you did. Of course you did. The guy that loves to lament Psalms more than
33:27 anything else. I didn't say I loved him. I just said I learned from him. Okay. And I did end with a
33:32 baby Hitler joke or a scenario. So, you know, count your blessings. All right, Joby. We'll see you next
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You take up your cross and you follow Jesus and you die to yourself and you love her unconditionally like he's loved you.
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The real thing you have to come to is how did you get to that idea? And the reason we got there is because we believe in the authority of scripture.
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