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204 - How To Build A Godly & Manly Foxhole, Day 2 - What Makes A Manly Man?

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204 - How To Build A Godly & Manly Foxhole, Day 2 - What Makes A Manly Man?
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In this episode, we dive into what truly makes a manly man, moving beyond cultural caricatures to define manhood through spiritual, mental, and physical resilience. It's about cultivating these traits daily and surrounding yourself with like-minded men who strive for the same goals.
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0:30 Welcome to day two of how to build a godly and manly foxhole.
0:34 I'm your host Kyle Thompson of Undaunted Life.
0:37 Let's get into it.
0:38 All right, guys.
0:39 In day one of this devotional, we talked about what makes a godly man.
0:42 So kind of the main two things we went over in that episode is number one, there are truths
0:45 that exist outside the self.
0:47 And so that's essentially the narrative of humanity.
0:49 And regardless of your belief system, we all exist in this narrative of humanity.
0:54 And the second is truths that are displayed publicly.
0:57 This is where we really got into listing out the characteristics of a godly man.
1:01 And that is what answered what makes a godly man.
1:03 So make sure you go back and listen to the first day of this.
1:06 If for some reason you missed it.
1:08 But today we're going to be focusing on this question.
1:11 What makes a manly man?
1:13 And that is a question, frankly, that I get asked often.
1:16 And culturally that is asked a lot because there's a lot of different answers and depending
1:20 on who you're talking to and what their political leanings are or the worldview is, you're going
1:23 to get a different answer, a wildly different answer.
1:26 Let's think if you went out and asked a hundred people that on the street or at a coffee shop,
1:29 what do you think that they would say?
1:31 What makes a manly man?
1:32 You're going to get a lot of different answers.
1:33 But I would say that most of the time, the answer is given, especially in kind of a Western
1:38 cultural context is the negative caricature of what a man is and does.
1:43 So you're going to get, you know, big muscles and eats meat and drives a four wheel drive
1:48 truck and hunts and chases women, you know, mini sexual exploits and gets in fights and
1:53 goes his own way, you know, etc., etc., on and on.
1:56 And that's what you're going to get from a lot of people, especially in modern culture.
2:00 Then you have the mostly positive side, but it's still a caricature of what a man is
2:05 and does.
2:06 And so that might be, you know, brings home the bacon, knows how to fix stuff or, you know,
2:10 he's a protector.
2:11 He's decisive.
2:12 He leads.
2:13 He's an amazing shape, you know, has a good business, you know, it could be things like
2:16 that.
2:17 Now, me personally, I know a lot of men that I would consider to be very manly, right?
2:22 A lot of guys in my own foxhole and they check off a lot of the boxes on both of those lists,
2:26 right?
2:27 So even if they're all in kind of that first list, it's not, you know, it's not a kind
2:31 of a negative thing.
2:32 It's just something that they do.
2:33 It's just something that they happen to like.
2:35 But in total, I guess in a macro sense, I don't think that those lists truly encapsulate
2:40 what being manly is.
2:42 So at Undaunted Life, we have a definition of what a man is and it's this, a man is
2:49 a male that cultivates spiritual, mental and physical resilience daily.
2:55 So I will just kind of have a little bit of a comment here about we live in a culture
3:00 now that people would even bristle at the use of the phrase a man is a male.
3:04 But that's not the point of today's lesson.
3:06 So I'll digress a little bit.
3:07 So let's talk about spiritual, mental and physical.
3:09 So those essentially cover all the aspects of what it means to be a person.
3:15 There's a spiritual side to you.
3:16 There's a mental side and there's a physical side to you.
3:18 Now, there's certainly relational sides and there's a psychological side and an emotional
3:23 side.
3:24 But if you're crushing it and those three areas, you're crushing it in general, right?
3:31 Spiritually, mentally and physically.
3:32 I mean, you just have to ask yourself, are you a guy that is crushing it in all three
3:35 of those areas?
3:36 And most guys would have to honestly answer no, because it's really, really hard to do
3:40 that.
3:41 But that's part of what we point out at Undaunted Life is we know a lot of guys that are crushing
3:44 it physically, right?
3:45 You know, they can lift every weight in the gym.
3:46 They can, you know, run a four minute mile and, you know, bench press 400 pounds.
3:50 But they haven't read a book since high school.
3:53 So they would potentially have the physical box checked, but mentally, they're not there.
3:58 You know, maybe they're, they're a prayer warrior, right?
4:00 And you know, they, they really go to battle in the spiritual realm.
4:02 But if they need to sprint to the end of the parking lot to save their life or the life
4:06 of someone they loved, sorry, they're goners, you know what I mean?
4:09 So that, that's kind of the deal that we run into.
4:11 But then I also want to talk about the word resilience because we use the word resilience
4:14 and we use that very, very specifically because most people talk about spiritual mental and
4:18 physical strength, right?
4:21 But strength is something that can wane certainly over time or timing.
4:26 So you know, Martine's lead seats.
4:28 This is a guy, you know, hard name to say, but he is currently the world's strongest
4:31 man.
4:32 He's one of the strongest human beings to ever live.
4:33 But the day after the world's strongest man competition, this man was not the strongest
4:37 man in the world because his body was broken down.
4:41 It was busted up.
4:42 He was still strong, but he wasn't as strong as he was just 24 hours prior to the competition.
4:47 Right?
4:48 It's one of those things.
4:49 He is a resilient human being.
4:52 He was physically resilient.
4:53 His ability to bounce back is what's important.
4:56 And so that's why we focus on spiritual and mental and physical resilience because depending
4:59 upon where you're at in your life and what you're going through, that's going to be
5:01 hard for you really to reckon with and figure out in terms of where you're at in terms of
5:05 strength, but resilience, you can always work on the ability to bounce back.
5:08 And then also in the definition, we talk about daily.
5:11 I mean, think about how ridiculous it would be.
5:12 If someone said, Hey, I worked out this year.
5:15 I checked my one workout for the year off, like that would essentially be useless.
5:19 Like you essentially did nothing if you only did that once a year, but the same could be
5:22 said of, Hey, I went to church this year.
5:24 I checked off the went to church box once.
5:26 Hey, you know, I read one book this year.
5:28 I did something difficult this year that really taxed me mentally.
5:31 I did that once.
5:32 No, no, no.
5:33 This is something that you have to cultivate on a daily basis.
5:36 So now you might be thinking to yourself, man, I don't know anyone.
5:40 That is crushing it spiritually, mentally and physically, like I don't know anyone that's
5:45 spiritually mentally and physically resilient all at the same time.
5:49 And I would say to you, that's okay.
5:51 It is an incredibly high bar to attain.
5:55 But two of the main reasons for this seven day devotional is that number one, you would
6:00 become one of those men that is spiritually mentally and physically resilient.
6:04 And number two, that you would build up a group of men around you that are striving towards
6:08 the same goal.
6:10 And so we, we've had a devotional that we put out a few years ago.
6:13 It was called a man's devotional.
6:15 And so it's a 21 day devotional.
6:16 We spend seven days on spiritual resilience, seven days on mental resilience and seven
6:20 days on physical resilience.
6:21 And you'll, I'll make sure that that is in the show notes so you can check that out after
6:24 you're done with this one.
6:25 But this is, this is just one of those things that it's something that you have to think
6:29 about.
6:30 It's not going to happen on accident for most of you guys.
6:33 But while it's preparing this, there was one amazing example of a man that perhaps got
6:38 the closest to truly checking off these three boxes of resilience, spiritual, mental, and
6:43 physical.
6:44 And that's a man named Adam Brown.
6:47 So this is the unbelievable, true, but unbelievable, but true, I guess, story of Adam Brown and
6:54 his life.
6:55 And it's actually recounted in my favorite book of all time fearless, the undaunted courage
6:59 and ultimate sacrifice of Navy SEAL Team six operator, Adam Brown, and that was written
7:04 by Eric Blem.
7:05 And I'll actually leave a link in the notes for today of the interview that I did with
7:09 Eric Blem discussing Adam Brown and discussing this book.
7:12 But that book is also on our 100 books that every modern Christian man should read list.
7:16 That's on our website.
7:17 So if you go to undaunted dot life backslash book list, you can check that out there.
7:21 And that one is prominently featured on that list.
7:23 And now I obviously can't get into all the intricacies of this man's life here today and
7:27 in terms of this episode.
7:29 So I would encourage every single one of you listening to this right now to go pick up
7:32 a copy of that book or download it or something like that and read it or listen to it.
7:37 So and if you've read it before, read it again, listen to it again.
7:40 But the very first words of that book are these.
7:44 What you are about to read is the account of an American hero who bravely gave permission
7:49 in his final written requests to share his journey from small town America to the gutter
7:55 to jail to Jesus to war to the top tier of the U.S. military seal team six.
8:03 So in one sentence, that really was the story of Adam Brown's life.
8:08 And so there's no spoiler here because you know, it's pretty well known at this point,
8:11 but Adam Brown actually did die on mission on March 17th St. Patrick's day of 2010 while
8:16 running towards the sound of a danger in Afghanistan when he was with his brothers.
8:20 He did not make it.
8:21 Very unfortunate, but this man during his life, he had displayed insane amounts of resilience
8:30 and he really had to display this insane amount of resilience for us to even understand and
8:35 be able to hear his story today.
8:37 So the first thing I'm going to talk about is his spiritual resilience.
8:40 So before his days, you know, as a Navy seal, a member of seal team six, Adam Brown was a
8:44 drug addict.
8:46 He was a thief.
8:47 He was a criminal, right?
8:49 This was a guy that shouldn't have even been in the Navy.
8:52 There was a man in the book that I'll let you read about.
8:54 He signed every waiver possible to get Adam Brown into the Navy because with his track
8:59 record and his rap sheet, he should never even have been in the Navy much less than Navy
9:03 seals.
9:04 So I'm actually going to read an excerpt from the fearless book and this is an interaction
9:07 between Adam and a man named pastor Smith while Adam was in jail.
9:12 I've been here before with other people in jail, pastor Smith said.
9:16 They've prayed like you were about to, but Adam, I want you to know that God can and
9:20 really does want to change your life, but it begins with an honest and open desire from
9:25 you to say, God, no more is it about me.
9:29 It's about you.
9:30 Are you ready for that commitment?
9:32 I am said Adam.
9:33 And on the other side, the glass partition, he got off the chair, knelt down, bowed his
9:37 head and repeated after the pastor.
9:40 God for the first time in my life, I trust you and God, I thank you that I'm here in
9:45 jail.
9:46 God, whatever you've got planned for my life, I trust you.
9:49 God, I'm sorry for my sins.
9:51 And today the best way I know how I ask you to come into my life, come into my heart and
9:56 save me.
9:57 I want to begin a brand new life, amen.
10:01 Pastor Smith visited Adam again for several days.
10:03 Adam had questions.
10:04 He says lots of questions, but the biggest one was after all I've done, how do I begin
10:09 to live this Christian life?
10:11 How do I turn my life around?
10:13 Well, the bad news is you can't, Pastor Smith said to Adam, but the good news is Christ
10:18 can turn it around for you and he'll give you the strength and power to do it.
10:22 How Adam asked, let me just show you a verse in the Bible.
10:26 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
10:29 That's Philippians 4, 13.
10:31 If we try to do it within our own power, Adam, we're going to fail.
10:35 And so this was the start really of Adam's spiritual journey.
10:40 This is the start of him becoming a spiritually resilient person because he grew up in the
10:44 state of Arkansas, which, you know, if you grow up in the Bible belt, you're going to
10:48 get some Christian knees.
10:49 That's just going to like, you know, be on your skin like it's just going to be around
10:52 you, right?
10:53 So you're almost going to be culturally Christian.
10:56 But at this moment, he became a disciple of Jesus Christ.
10:59 And he had to lean on that several times throughout his life.
11:03 And that certainly relates to the next two things that we're going to talk about his
11:06 mental and physical resilience.
11:07 I'm going to go ahead and combine these with a couple of stories.
11:10 The first story is Adam Brown actually lost an eye because of a training accident.
11:16 So him and the Navy seal.
11:17 This was when he was in the seals.
11:19 He actually got shot in the eye with what's called a simulation.
11:21 So it's, it's not an actual bullet, but it's like a simulated round.
11:25 So it can hurt you, but it, you know, it basically can't kill you.
11:27 It hit him in the eye and it took a while, but he actually did end up losing that eye.
11:32 So for a Navy seal, he had to learn to shoot with his non dominant eye.
11:36 And for any of you that are out there that are shooters, you have a dominant eye.
11:40 He had to train himself to shoot with his non dominant eye and shoot at the level to
11:44 keep him in the Navy seals, an unbelievable task.
11:49 And then in story two, after he had lost the eye, he got in a Humvee accident overseas
11:53 and it actually crushed his hand.
11:55 The Humvee, you know, actually I hit another American Humvee, it rolled over his hand was
11:59 out the window.
12:00 It rolled over on his hand, you know, basically it was a miracle that he didn't lose the hand
12:04 and didn't lose any fingers, but the hand was essentially useless.
12:07 Okay.
12:08 So, so he could hold things with it kind of, but it was essentially useless.
12:11 So this man not only had to learn how to shoot with his non dominant eye, he also had to
12:16 learn to shoot with his non dominant hand.
12:19 And for any of my shooters out there, I just blew your mind because some of you guys will
12:23 do that on the range because you're being funny.
12:25 No, no, this guy had to do it in order to just keep his job.
12:29 And with those two things combined, and this is just amazing to talk about, he managed
12:33 not only to stay a US Navy SEAL, he graduated from the hardest sniper school in the world.
12:39 And that's the Naval Special Warfare Sniper School, a school that he had previously failed
12:44 whenever he had two working eyes and his dominant hand.
12:48 And then he also eventually passed the green team screening to become a member of the Naval
12:52 Special Warfare Development Group or dev grew or as many of you know it, SEAL Team six.
12:57 So the amount of mental and physical resilience this man had to have just to keep his job
13:03 was incredible enough.
13:06 But then to pass the Naval Special Warfare Sniper School and then to become a member
13:10 of SEAL Team six, it's incredible.
13:13 And again, guys, I'm barely scratching the surface here.
13:15 So you really need to go read the entire book to truly grasp how incredible Adam was and
13:20 how amazing his spiritual mental and physical resilience was.
13:23 But before I move on, I do want to kind of point out that it might seem like a one eyed,
13:28 you know, bad handed member of SEAL Team six might seem super hard for you to relate to.
13:32 It's hard for me to relate to, right?
13:33 I've done some hard things in my life.
13:34 I haven't done anything even that even comes close to what he's done.
13:39 But stick with me because Adam Brown accomplished something that many of us can.
13:45 He had the circumstances of his life.
13:47 He had the hand he was dealt as it were, but he played it well.
13:52 He didn't tap out.
13:53 He didn't quit.
13:54 He didn't just say, Oh, well, I lost my, I guess I don't have a job anymore.
13:58 No, no, no.
13:59 Oh, hey, I messed up my hand.
14:00 I guess I should stop working out and stop trying to be a Navy SEAL.
14:03 Maybe I can go do some other job.
14:05 No, no, no.
14:06 He said, I'm here for a purpose and God put me here for this purpose.
14:09 So I'm going to overcome this.
14:11 I'm going to be resilient.
14:13 So again, you probably have both of your eyes and both of your hands work.
14:15 That's not the point.
14:16 The point is overcoming the circumstances that life has thrown at you.
14:20 Now the story of Adam Brown's life actually reminded me of another story of a truly manly
14:24 man.
14:25 And that's the story of the Apostle Paul.
14:27 So I would consider the Apostle Paul to be a manly man for a myriad of reasons.
14:31 But I especially think that it's true of how Paul comported himself at the beginning of
14:35 his second letter to his pupil Timothy.
14:37 So before we actually get into the scripture here, I do want to kind of set the scene for
14:41 he set the tone for you at the time of the writing of this letter, Paul is essentially
14:45 languishing in a Roman prison.
14:47 So this was likely his second stint in a Roman prison and he was awaiting his coming
14:51 execution.
14:52 He didn't really see any way around it.
14:53 He figured that he was going to die, that he was never going to make it out of a Roman
14:56 prison alive.
14:57 So I actually love the way that the cross way English standard version study Bible encapsulates
15:01 this letter to Timothy.
15:03 They say this, second Timothy is a bold, clear call for perseverance, or you know what I
15:08 would call resilience in the gospel in spite of suffering.
15:12 Paul calls on his young co-worker to continue the fight of faith, even as Paul approaches
15:17 the end of his life.
15:18 So Paul is absolutely up against it, right spiritually, mentally and physically while
15:23 he's in prison.
15:25 Now spiritually, he knows his execution and death are imminent and we know this because
15:30 in second Timothy four, six through eight, we see this, for I am already being poured
15:34 out as a drink offering and the time of my departure has come.
15:38 I have fought the good fight.
15:39 I finished the race.
15:40 I have kept the faith henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which
15:45 the Lord, the righteous judge will award to me on that day and not only to me, but also
15:50 to all who have loved his appearing.
15:53 So he knows it's coming.
15:54 He knows he's right up against it, but look at his spiritual resilience there.
16:00 He knows he's about to, you know, his ticket's about to be punched, right?
16:05 But he's so excited about what lies on the other side in the crown of righteousness that
16:11 will be afforded to him.
16:13 It's just an incredible, incredible thing.
16:15 And then we also see that he's mentally up against it right now because in this letter,
16:20 Paul talks about how several of his supporters had abandoned him during this time in his
16:23 life.
16:24 And for any of you guys that have ever felt abandoned or have literally been abandoned
16:27 by maybe family or friends that you thought were your friends or maybe, you know, some
16:31 coworkers or whatever the situation is, the mental strain that that puts on you is extreme.
16:37 And yet Paul can still pin a letter like this.
16:41 And then in terms of physical resilience, I don't know about you guys, but I've never
16:44 heard of stories of ancient Roman prisons being known for their extreme comfort, right?
16:49 And also at this point, the Apostle Paul had been flogged and beaten a lot.
16:54 This dude should have died 10 times over, right?
16:56 But he hadn't been, right?
16:58 He hadn't been killed.
17:00 He was such a physically robust and resilient person to survive those things.
17:04 You know, Paul is going through spiritual, mental and physical anguish, but then he still
17:10 manages to show resilience to share this message with Timothy.
17:15 So I'm actually going to read 2 Timothy 1 verses 1 through 14.
17:20 Paul and Apostle of Christ Jesus by the will of God according to the promise of the life
17:24 that is in Christ Jesus to Timothy, my beloved child, grace, mercy and peace from God the
17:29 Father and Christ Jesus our Lord.
17:31 I thank God whom I serve as did my ancestors with a clear conscience.
17:35 And I remember you constantly my prayers night and day.
17:38 As I remember your tears, I long to see you that I may be filled with joy.
17:42 I am reminded of your sincere faith and faith that dwelt first in your grandmother, Lois
17:46 and your mother, Eunice, and now I am sure dwells in you as well.
17:50 For this reason, I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through
17:55 the laying on of my hands.
17:57 For God gave us a spirit, not a fear, but of power and love and self-control.
18:02 Therefore, do not be ashamed of the testimony about our Lord, nor of me his prisoner, but
18:06 share in the suffering for the gospel by the power of God, who saved us and called us to
18:11 a holy calling, not because of our works, but because of his own purpose and grace, which
18:16 he gave us in Christ Jesus before the ages began, and which now has been manifested through
18:20 the appearing of our Savior Christ Jesus, who abolished earth and brought life and immortality
18:25 to light through the gospel, for which I was appointed a preacher and apostle and teacher,
18:31 which is why I suffer as I do, but I am not ashamed for I know whom I have believed and
18:36 I am convinced that he is able to guard until that day what has been entrusted to me.
18:41 Feel the pattern of the sound words that you have heard from me in the faith and love that
18:46 are in Christ Jesus by the Holy Spirit, who dwells within us, guard the good deposit and
18:51 trusted to you.
18:53 I mean, that's overwhelming, even to read because of where he's at in his life, because
19:01 guys without the context there, it's really easy to overlook what he's going through.
19:06 It's really easy to be like, oh, you know, that's kind of a nice letter.
19:08 Like, oh, I might, you know, steal some of that and send it to a buddy.
19:11 No, no, no.
19:12 He is really, really in dire straits, spiritually mentally and physically.
19:18 And he writes that, I mean, you want to talk about being a manly man, again, at undaunted
19:23 life, you have to cultivate spiritual, mental and physical resilience daily, but Paul obviously
19:28 did that because you can't write a letter like that unless that's your reality.
19:34 So Paul is quite the manly man.
19:36 And so this entire lesson should have given you some ideas as to what makes a manly man.
19:41 But before you move on to the next thing, here are some questions to ask yourself.
19:46 Number one, when it comes to spiritual, mental and physical resilience, in which area am
19:51 I lagging the most?
19:53 How can I remedy that?
19:55 That's question one.
19:56 All right.
19:57 I mean, guys, you got to be honest with this one.
20:00 You can't say, oh, yeah, I'm doing pretty good.
20:02 I'm checking the boxes.
20:03 I don't know very many guys are checking all three of those boxes all the time.
20:06 There is a weak spot and typically it's kind of easy to see for you if you're kind of
20:11 being intellectually honest with yourself and you really need to think how you can remedy
20:15 that.
20:16 The second question is this, what steps am I going to take today to begin correcting that?
20:21 Right.
20:22 So I'm not letting you guys off the hook because a lot of guys have it has an easy, have an
20:25 easy time, you know, saying what the problem is, figuring out what the problem is, but
20:30 then they don't do anything about it.
20:32 So they have identified the issue and then they just let it sit there.
20:36 So we're not going to let you off the hook.
20:37 You need to figure out what steps that you can take today, like right after you're done
20:40 with this.
20:41 So you can begin creating, correcting that place.
20:44 Okay.
20:45 And the last question is this, who are the men in my life that are cultivating spiritual
20:49 mental and physical resilience daily?
20:53 And guys, we're going to talk about this throughout this, this lesson and throughout
20:57 this devotional, you have to surround yourself with men that are doing the same thing.
21:01 If you're looking around right now and you don't see any of those men, that is a major
21:06 problem.
21:07 But don't worry.
21:08 We're going to help you fix it.
21:09 All right, guys, for more content like this, check out the rest of our podcast episodes
21:12 wherever you get your podcasts and don't forget to leave a review and a five star rating and
21:15 check out our website at www dot undaunted dot life.
21:20 Make sure you come back tomorrow for day three, where we discuss if it is possible to be both
21:24 godly and manly until then keep pushing back darkness, keep forging spiritual mental and
21:30 physical resilience, keep seeking the Lion of Judah.
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