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166 - Vogue Thinks It’s Okay For Men To Wear Dresses

November 19, 2020 39m 59s Full transcript available
166 - Vogue Thinks It’s Okay For Men To Wear Dresses
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In this episode, we tackle the absurdity of Vogue's latest cover featuring Harry Styles in women's clothing and the ensuing outrage sparked by Candace Owens' tweet about masculinity. This isn't just about fashion; it's a cultural battle over what it means to be a man in today's society.
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0:31 This is Undaunted Life of Man's Podcast.
0:50 I'm your host Kyle Thompson.
0:52 Let's get into it.
0:52 All right, guys.
0:53 I've got breaking news for you and the breaking news is this.
0:56 The world has ended.
0:58 The world is absolutely ended, guys.
0:59 I know the world has ended so many times in 2020 already.
1:02 Too many times to count actually.
1:04 But it is really ended now, right?
1:07 But not because of the pandemic.
1:08 No, no, no, not because of an election.
1:11 Not because of that either.
1:12 Not because of systemic racism.
1:14 It has ended because of a tweet.
1:17 And now you might be thinking a tweet.
1:19 Okay, so this has got to be a tweet from President Trump because, you know,
1:22 that's when the world really starts to end and melt is when President Trump tweets something.
1:27 And it wasn't even that.
1:28 It was a response to a tweet from of all things Vogue magazine.
1:33 I feel like it is so dumb that I'm having to talk about this, but it has exploded.
1:37 And everyone's weighing in on it.
1:39 So obviously being that this is a men's podcast made for dudes.
1:43 This is something I got to talk about.
1:44 So on November the 13th last week, Vogue magazine sent out a tweet,
1:49 pumping their December cover story featuring Harry Styles.
1:52 So for some of you guys, you don't know who Harry Styles is.
1:55 So Harry Styles came to prominence.
1:57 He was on some, I think it was whatever Simon Cowell's latest thing.
2:01 I think it was X Factor or something like that over in the UK.
2:03 He came on there as a 16 year old saying, you know, it was like, oh, you're all right.
2:06 But then they brought him back with like four other young guys.
2:10 And they created a boy band called One Direction.
2:13 There's like one One Direction song that that even even recognizable to me.
2:17 It's just very typical poppy boy band type stuff.
2:20 But Harry Styles was always kind of like the main guy.
2:23 And the one the girls always liked the most.
2:24 And he was the one that could actually sing a little bit and all that.
2:27 So he went off and did his own thing.
2:28 He's got some solo albums out.
2:30 His latest album, I've actually listened to a few songs off of that.
2:33 They're not bad at all.
2:34 They're kind of catchy.
2:35 He's been in Dunkirk.
2:36 So some of you might recognize him from his acting work in Dunkirk.
2:40 But that's basically who Harry Styles is.
2:41 But in this tweet where they're introducing their December cover story,
2:46 there were two pictures that were a part of the tweet.
2:49 And the pictures show Harry Styles wearing Lacey women's clothing.
2:54 Okay.
2:55 One picture has him in a full length.
2:57 It's a full link picture actually of him wearing a long flowy frilly dress.
3:00 And the other ones kind of like this open, chested, frilly thing.
3:03 I don't really know exactly what it's supposed to do.
3:05 But the caption of the tweet from Vogue magazine said this.
3:08 There's so much joy to be had in playing with clothes.
3:11 I've never thought too much about what it means.
3:13 It just becomes this extended part of creating something.
3:16 Okay.
3:17 So that is a quote from Harry Styles from the cover story.
3:19 So there you go.
3:20 The thing is, is that it's kind of an innocuous thing.
3:25 It's kind of an easy thing to scroll past, especially if you're like me
3:27 and you follow the people that I do or the things that I do,
3:30 it may not even register.
3:31 It may not even come across your feed.
3:33 The algorithms are not going to feed that to you.
3:36 Unless they're trying to feed you outrage.
3:37 But then enter Candace Owens.
3:40 Okay.
3:40 So for those of you who don't know, Candace Owens is,
3:42 she is a political commentator, a conservative political commentator.
3:46 If this matters to you, she's obviously a she
3:48 and she is a black woman as well.
3:49 I think she was just hired by the Daily Wire.
3:51 So I think she was previously with the Blaze or,
3:53 or she was kind of doing her own thing.
3:54 I'm not exactly sure.
3:55 But she is actually the author of a recent book that's a bestseller
3:59 called Hot How Black American, or sorry, what's it called?
4:03 Let's just read it straight from the page here.
4:05 How Black America can make it second escape from the Democrat plantation.
4:10 There you go.
4:10 Got it all out at once.
4:12 And so the reason why you may have heard her name before
4:13 is she's one of the founders of the Brexit movement.
4:16 So those are people that are trying to convince black people
4:19 that they don't have to vote Democrat.
4:21 Okay.
4:21 So she's kind of a firebrand.
4:22 She has been interviewed on the Joe Rogan experience before.
4:25 A lot of great stuff was said on that show,
4:28 but all anyone can focus about was their little interaction
4:30 about global warming.
4:31 But anyway, you can check that out on your own.
4:33 But the very next day, after the original Vogue article,
4:36 or the Vogue tweet was put out, she quote tweeted the article
4:39 and then she wrote this.
4:41 There is no society that can survive without strong men.
4:45 The East knows this.
4:47 In the West, the steady feminization of our men
4:50 at the same time that Marxism is being taught to our children
4:53 is not a coincidence.
4:54 It's an outright attack.
4:55 Bring back manly men.
4:58 Now, I saw this tweet the day that it was tweeted.
5:03 And I was like, yeah, totally agree with that.
5:05 Boom, gave it a favor.
5:06 And then I moved on.
5:08 Right.
5:08 I just kind of moved on.
5:09 It's like, okay, there are a lot of things to be outraged
5:11 about.
5:11 Yes, it was ridiculous that Harry Styles was walking around
5:14 and dressed for a Vogue shoot, all the different things.
5:16 But I've got other things to worry about.
5:18 I got a six month old I got to take care of.
5:19 And her tweet was kind of a slow burn.
5:21 It took a couple of days, but then it exploded.
5:24 And then I think whenever I opened up my laptop
5:26 on Monday morning, she was trending on Twitter,
5:28 which anytime Candace Owens turns on Twitter,
5:30 it's because she's made somebody mad.
5:31 But I just couldn't fathom that it was actually because of this.
5:34 So her quote tweet of the original tweet got,
5:37 and I think it's around 100,000 likes at this point.
5:40 But not everyone liked it, as you can probably imagine.
5:43 There was immediate backlash, the actress Olivia Wilde,
5:46 who is, I'm not exactly sure who she is,
5:48 but you know, she's supposedly well known.
5:50 She's blue check mark on Twitter.
5:52 She has the most liked response.
5:54 And her response with your pathetic,
5:56 like that was literally all that she wrote.
5:58 And it got over 100,000 likes on its own.
6:00 But the thing about it was that,
6:03 Candace Owens didn't really back down from this.
6:04 If you know anything about Candace Owens,
6:06 or if you've been watching for her for any length of time,
6:08 she doesn't really back away from controversy.
6:10 She kind of like weighs into it.
6:12 And so she doubled down on Monday,
6:13 following all the attention,
6:15 seeing that she was finally or not finally,
6:17 but seeing that she was trending and all the things.
6:19 And then she tweeted this,
6:20 "Since I'm trending, I'd like to clarify what I meant
6:23 when I said bring back mainly men.
6:25 I meant bring back mainly men.
6:28 Terms like toxic masculinity were created by toxic females.
6:32 Real women don't fake feminism.
6:34 Sorry, I'm not sorry."
6:35 So obviously she doubled down on it.
6:37 I think some other big conservative commentators
6:40 came in and commented on the thing.
6:42 But we're going to break this down on today's episode,
6:44 because there are some important things
6:45 that are coming out of this, okay?
6:47 And sometimes you can read too much into something.
6:49 Sometimes things are innocent,
6:50 and sometimes they are nefarious.
6:51 So we're going to get into that a little bit here today.
6:53 But before we really get there,
6:55 let's actually get into what the actual cover story from Vogue, okay?
6:59 So the thing is,
7:00 is we need to kind of look at what this is actually going for.
7:03 Because before we get too much in the commentary on this,
7:06 I just have to be honest about what this is.
7:08 This was meant to be provocative.
7:10 Because duh, Vogue got exactly what they wanted out of this deal.
7:16 They got eyeballs.
7:17 They got attention.
7:19 They got exactly what they wanted.
7:21 I mean, just think about it, guys.
7:22 When was the last time any of you listening to this right now
7:26 read a Vogue article?
7:27 Like when's the last time you picked up Vogue
7:30 while you're sitting in line at Walmart
7:31 and you just thumb through it real quick, right?
7:34 I mean, have any of you paid attention to anything that Vogue
7:37 has ever tweeted?
7:38 They probably tweeted tens of thousands of times.
7:40 I don't recall ever responding or even thinking about a Vogue tweet, okay?
7:45 So they got exactly what they wanted out of this deal, okay?
7:48 But the thing about it is,
7:50 everyone kind of gets what they want.
7:52 Everyone gets what they want.
7:53 Progressives get to show people how progressive and artistic they are
7:57 by sharing and liking this.
7:59 And by being outraged at gender stereotypes
8:02 and then conservative people like me get, you know,
8:05 that are generally concerned with the feminization of society.
8:07 We get to be outraged and, you know, everybody gets a little bit.
8:10 Everybody gets their win.
8:11 But the thing is, I actually read the cover story, okay?
8:15 Because I didn't want to just look at the pictures
8:17 because I thought, you know, maybe there was something else.
8:18 Maybe there was something else I was being communicated.
8:20 And I read it.
8:21 I read it, you know, all the way through.
8:22 Most of it was dramatically overwritten.
8:26 You know, it was, you know, very artistic.
8:27 It was kind of swill at a lot of points.
8:29 Like, again, it just, it was very flowery poetic language.
8:32 And that's just not something I'm really into.
8:35 And all throughout the cover story, for the link that I'll provide for you later,
8:39 so you can look at it for yourself.
8:40 He's not just wearing women's clothes in some of those.
8:42 In a lot of the pictures, he's wearing men's clothes.
8:45 But the thing about it is, is he looks ridiculous,
8:47 even in the men's clothes that he's wearing.
8:48 He looks absolutely ridiculous.
8:50 Again, this is one of those high fashion things where it's like,
8:53 no one really understands it.
8:54 Even the people that put the stuff together,
8:57 they just got a bunch of fabric and they threw it on a wall
8:59 and they started making things combined.
9:01 And then they got, you know, a famous good looking guy
9:03 to throw the clothes on to make a statement or something like that.
9:05 But again, the cover story was ridiculous.
9:09 The pictures were ridiculous.
9:11 And to a certain degree, some of the commentary about it that's come out
9:14 is ridiculous.
9:15 But there were three quotes, actually,
9:17 that I wanted to kind of bring to your attention
9:18 to kind of tell you and give you better ideas
9:20 to what's trying to be communicated here.
9:23 Because Vogue is not doing this by accident.
9:25 Obviously, they wanted to get publicity
9:27 by having Harry Styles dress up and address.
9:29 If they got me to dress up and address,
9:30 nobody would really care, but it's Harry Styles.
9:32 It's a big deal.
9:32 He's a big, you know, famous dude, right?
9:34 But there are three different quotes,
9:35 and I'll read them in the order that they showed up in the article.
9:38 So here's the first quote here.
9:39 It's a short one.
9:40 "As a kid, I definitely liked fancy dress,"
9:43 Styles said.
9:44 "There were school plays,
9:45 the first of which cast him as Barney, a church mouse.
9:48 I was really young and I wore tights for that," he recalls.
9:51 "I remember it was crazy to me that I was wearing a pair of tights,
9:54 and that was maybe where it all kicked off."
9:57 Okay, so you can maybe see how this is going.
9:59 That's the first quote here,
10:00 but let's get into the second one.
10:01 It's a little bit longer.
10:01 Now, Harry Styles declares that
10:04 you can never be overdressed.
10:06 There's no such thing.
10:07 The people that I looked up to in music,
10:09 Prince and David Bowie and Elvis and Freddie Mercury and Elton John,
10:13 they're such showmen.
10:15 As a kid, it was completely mind-blowing.
10:17 Now, I'll put on something that feels really flamboyant
10:20 and I don't feel crazy wearing it.
10:21 I think if you get something that you feel amazing in,
10:25 it's like a superhero outfit.
10:27 Clothes are there to have fun with and experiment with and play with.
10:30 What's really exciting is that all these lines are just kind of crumbling away.
10:34 When you take away, there's clothes for men and there's clothes for women.
10:37 Once you remove any barriers,
10:39 obviously you open up the arena in which you can play.
10:42 I'll go to shop sometimes and I just find myself
10:44 looking at the women's clothes thinking they're amazing.
10:46 It's like anything.
10:48 Anytime you're putting barriers up in your own life,
10:50 you're just limiting yourself.
10:52 There's so much joy to be had in playing with clothes.
10:54 I've never really thought too much about what it means.
10:57 It just becomes an extended part of creating something.
11:00 Then we've got one that's a little bit later.
11:02 This is the final quote I'll bring to you.
11:03 He's really in touch with his feminine side
11:06 because it's something natural.
11:07 Notes, Michelle, and that's the stylus of the shoot.
11:10 And he's such a big inspiration to a younger generation
11:13 about how you can be in a totally free playground
11:17 when you feel comfortable.
11:18 I think that he's a revolutionary.
11:22 So first I'll kind of give you some of my general commentary
11:24 and then we'll kind of get into some of the things
11:25 that have been said here.
11:26 The general commentary is that Harry Styles
11:30 doesn't really care one bit about anybody's commentary
11:32 about what he wore.
11:34 He doesn't care that Candace Owen said something about it.
11:36 He doesn't care that Ben Shapiro said something about it.
11:38 He doesn't care that I said something about it.
11:39 He doesn't care.
11:40 This guy is worth a ridiculous amount of money.
11:43 He's a sex symbol.
11:45 He's an artist.
11:46 He gets to do what he wants for a living.
11:47 He's still in his 20s.
11:49 Like this guy doesn't really care.
11:50 He's not really concerned about the outrage.
11:52 So I'm not really concerned about potentially offending him
11:56 and neither should you be.
11:57 I want to look at this and how this applies to us
11:59 and also to the young men in our life.
12:01 And the next thing is Vogue is known for being provocative.
12:04 This shouldn't be a surprise to anybody.
12:07 Certainly shouldn't be a surprise to you.
12:08 So those are just the general things.
12:10 Harry Styles doesn't care
12:11 and Vogue is known for being provocative.
12:12 No one should be surprised by that.
12:13 But there are several reasons why this article,
12:17 this cover story, Candace Owens's commentary,
12:19 the reaction from people that liked it and didn't like it.
12:22 There's a lot of reasons why this is important.
12:23 The first reason I wanted to go over
12:26 is that artists push boundaries, okay?
12:28 But they also move public opinion.
12:31 All right.
12:32 So if we go back to episode 103 of this podcast,
12:35 I talked about GQ's new masculinity issue, okay?
12:39 So that was featuring Pharrell and they kind of did the same thing.
12:41 Take a famous, you know, musical artists and dress them up,
12:44 you know, cross dress them, right?
12:44 You know, there's pictures of David Bowie doing that
12:46 and Iggy Pop and Kurt Cobain and all that.
12:49 But at the same time, this is something that's been going on for a while
12:53 because no one, if you've ever watched like Fashion Week
12:57 or watched any of the red carpet shows
12:59 or any of the New York Met Gala or whatever those things are
13:03 and you see what these people wear.
13:05 No one wears that like in public, like real public,
13:08 not normal people, right?
13:10 That's not normal things that you would see on the street,
13:12 you know, walking down the road in your rural city
13:14 or your suburban city or your urban city.
13:16 No one ever sees people that are wearing stuff like that.
13:19 But bell bottoms were a ridiculous thing until they weren't, right?
13:25 Baggy shirts were a ridiculous thing until they weren't, right?
13:30 Facial tattoos were a ridiculous thing until they,
13:33 well, those are probably still ridiculous,
13:34 but you kind of get the point that I'm making here.
13:36 But a lot of things in terms of worldview changes,
13:39 they're being smuggled in with artists.
13:41 That's why you see a lot of, you know,
13:43 conservative political commentators.
13:44 They kind of dismiss when, you know,
13:46 leftist celebrities and actors and actresses
13:50 kind of get behind a political candidate.
13:52 It's like, oh, that doesn't matter.
13:53 What do these people know?
13:54 But most people aren't that nuanced.
13:56 They see Robert De Niro telling them who to vote for.
13:58 They see Jennifer Aniston telling them who to vote for.
14:00 They see LeBron James telling them who to vote for.
14:03 That's all they need.
14:04 Some people are legitimately morons.
14:06 They don't care about the actual issues.
14:10 They don't care about a nuanced opinion on the issues.
14:12 They care about what their favorite actor or actress
14:14 or ballplayer thinks about it, right?
14:17 Artists are the same way,
14:18 whether musical artists, singers or painters or whatever.
14:22 A lot of times there's going to be things that are communicated
14:24 that you just don't understand.
14:25 Like, again, no one's going to be wearing the things
14:27 that he wore in the Vogue cover shoot.
14:30 Like no one's actually going to be wearing those things,
14:32 but it's what's being commented on
14:34 and what is being propagated message-wise,
14:37 the thing that's underlying that.
14:38 Okay. So that's one thing that's important to consider.
14:40 The next thing that's important for us to consider
14:43 is that progressives, right?
14:44 So take that to me, whatever you mean,
14:45 but the way I mean it are people that consider themselves
14:47 to be politically progressive,
14:48 socially progressive, so progressives, right?
14:50 They try to normalize crazy stuff,
14:53 and then they get mad at conservatives for noticing.
14:57 Okay. So I'm certainly not the first person
14:59 to point something like this out,
15:00 but you have a lot of people that try to make these statements, right?
15:03 So Vogue was not just trying to neutrally put out
15:06 these pictures of this incredibly famous male wearing dresses.
15:12 They didn't think it was neutral.
15:14 That's why they led with the two pictures
15:16 from this of him wearing women's clothing.
15:19 The overwhelming majority of the pictures in the cover story
15:21 are him wearing ridiculous looking men's clothing,
15:24 and there's some where he's kind of wearing
15:26 kilt looking things,
15:27 and then there's ones where he's just straight up
15:29 wearing like frilly women's dresses, right?
15:32 But they obviously didn't think it was normal
15:34 because they would have led with other pictures,
15:36 and then this outrage would have never occurred.
15:39 But the thing that is so interesting about people that are on that side of things
15:42 is when you notice and say,
15:44 "I don't really like that."
15:45 It's like, "Well, why are you even paying attention?
15:48 Why is it so important to you to crush everyone else's dreams
15:51 and creativity and art?"
15:52 Well, you know, "Arches in the eye of the beholder."
15:54 It's like, "Whoa, whoa.
15:56 I just said that dude, look, dumb wearing a dress,
15:59 and I don't think he should be wearing it, right?"
16:01 It's just an interesting phenomenon
16:03 that these people that try so hard to get everyone's attention,
16:07 they get so mad when they get our attention.
16:10 I find that incredibly, incredibly funny.
16:13 The next thing that's important for us to talk about,
16:15 this is a little bit of a mouthful,
16:16 but whenever I jotted it down, it's like,
16:18 "Okay, this makes sense.
16:19 I might have to say it twice."
16:20 But only in a society that was forged by strong men,
16:24 can you get weak men complaining that some people think
16:29 that men wearing dresses is wrong?
16:31 Let me say it again.
16:32 Only in a society that was forged by strong men,
16:35 can you get weak men complaining that some people think
16:39 men wearing dresses is wrong?
16:40 Because again, Harry Styles is an English guy,
16:44 and I think this photo shoot actually took place in England,
16:47 but he doesn't get to even do such a thing
16:51 without the sacrifices and strength of strong men.
16:55 Like, again, I feel like so many throughpoints
16:59 and so many points go back to World War II,
17:01 when a bunch of American men and English men,
17:05 they stood up against tyranny and defied the odds
17:08 and defied evil and defeated Hitler
17:11 and the rest of the German army, the Nazi army, right?
17:14 So they literally, I know people kind of say this tongue in cheek,
17:18 they could be speaking German in England right now.
17:21 They could be speaking German all over the United Kingdom,
17:23 all over Europe, frankly,
17:25 if not for the sacrifice of strong men.
17:27 And now we're being lectured to, if not through art,
17:32 but by actual words, by these individuals,
17:35 and they're trying to tell us what manhood actually is.
17:37 They're trying to tell us what strength is.
17:41 They're trying to redefine what masculinity and femininity is.
17:44 But the thing that's so interesting
17:47 is they never try to make it to where the women can be more masculine.
17:51 That's not really something that's mainstream.
17:53 It's always the other way. Isn't that interesting?
17:54 The society is pushing us leftward,
17:58 and it's pushing us to where we're feminizing men.
18:02 That's why I thought the point that was being made by Candace Owens
18:05 was absolutely spot on.
18:07 I'm going to get more into that here in just a second.
18:09 And we'll really get into it because she mentioned Marxism,
18:12 and that's kind of the next thing that I want to talk about is Karl Marx.
18:16 If he was alive today, which I'm glad he isn't,
18:18 he would be ecstatic about the Vogue cover story, ecstatic about it.
18:22 He would love it.
18:22 And he would also love the pushback that people like Candace Owens
18:26 and me are doing, right?
18:28 He would love the pushback.
18:30 Because again, Karl Marx was somebody that wants to disintegrate society, right?
18:35 He thinks that society, especially western society,
18:37 capitalism, that those things are evil and that the system needs to be torn out
18:43 from the roots, okay?
18:44 It's not something that is salvageable.
18:46 You can't adjust it.
18:48 You need to destroy it.
18:49 Again, I read the Communist Manifesto this summer,
18:52 and if you haven't read that, it's free anywhere, right?
18:55 Actually, I think it'd be really funny.
18:56 I actually think you should pay money to read the Communist Manifesto
18:59 because that just goes right against most of what Karl Marx believed
19:03 and in terms of like a free market and being able to purchase things.
19:05 But I read it.
19:07 And again, there are some things inside of it that actually seemingly makes sense
19:10 until you read everything and get the full context.
19:12 And we have Marxist ideology that is being taught to our young children in school.
19:18 And if they miss it, you know, in K through 12,
19:22 they're going to get it in college.
19:23 They're going to run into one, if not several dozens of Marxist professors
19:28 that are going to be giving them this ideology, giving them this worldview,
19:32 this utopian worldview where the proletariat is being, you know,
19:37 stomped out by the bourgeoisie.
19:38 And the only way to rip this out is to rip it out systemically.
19:42 So this is where we get postmodernism.
19:45 This is where we get communism.
19:47 This is where we get, you know, first, second-wave feminism.
19:49 This is where we get all these isms that are really doing a,
19:52 have an incredibly deleterious effect on our society as it comes right now.
19:56 So Karl Marx, he's just super excited.
19:58 He's just spinning around in circles in his grave.
20:00 The next important thing to point out about this is the point is not that
20:05 masculinity is under attack.
20:07 Because that's what some people think the point is.
20:08 That's not actually the point.
20:09 It's actually that we are getting so used to masculinity being under attack.
20:14 Like I remember the first few times people, you know, accused me or accused any of my friends
20:21 of the things that we did as toxic masculinity and it being like, oh, what?
20:26 What do you mean?
20:26 Like, let's fight about it.
20:28 Let's figure this out.
20:29 But it's just kind of old hat now.
20:31 Like everything is toxic masculinity, right?
20:34 Anything that you don't like is toxic masculinity.
20:38 It's a patriarchy, right?
20:39 I just honestly don't think that this controversy has anything really
20:43 to do with what we culturally consider as masculine or feminine.
20:47 I think it has to do with manliness in general.
20:50 Because one of the interesting things that people posted in response to Candace Owens
20:54 is they posted her, you know, they responded to her tweet with
20:57 her in pictures where she was wearing a suit, like a business suit.
21:01 And they're like, oh, yeah, well, you're wearing a men's suit, even though it's clearly a woman's
21:05 suit.
21:06 But they're like, oh, look at this.
21:08 And then they also posted pictures of other music stars that have, you know, cross dress before.
21:12 But then other people were posting like, well, remember back in the day, whenever
21:16 Scots were killed, even when they were at war, and you remember way back in the day when, you know,
21:20 in 16th century England, all the men wore frilly dresses and things like that.
21:24 But, but that's not the point.
21:26 Because in all those different circumstances that I just described, you know, old-timey
21:31 Scotland or England or France or any of those types of situations, there were always differences
21:35 between what the men and women wore.
21:37 And it was easily definable that the men wore stuff that kind of looked like this and the
21:42 women wore stuff that kind of looked like that.
21:43 There was no confusion as to what each gender would wear, okay?
21:47 And then you got these people that are like, well, in certain cultures, even in modern
21:51 day, you got these people that, you know, are supposed to be feminine, but they're actually
21:56 masculine and it's actually different than what people are showing in America.
21:59 But no, that's not the point.
22:01 The point isn't cultural norms about masculinity or femininity.
22:05 Because at a certain point, masculinity and femininity is biological.
22:11 It's just biology at one point.
22:13 You know, yes, there are men that are more masculine than other men.
22:17 There are women that are more feminine than other men or other women.
22:20 But that's not really the point.
22:21 The thing that's under attack is masculinity in general.
22:25 And I think this relates to the last point, which is if you are planning to tear down the system
22:31 to where the government is in control of everything, you can't have a whole lot of strong men around.
22:39 You need a bunch of pussies.
22:41 You need a bunch of pushovers.
22:42 You need a bunch of feminized men.
22:45 You need a bunch of men that have been convinced that their aggression and their competitiveness
22:49 and their testosterone is a bad thing, a bad thing.
22:52 You need school teachers that get these little boys that have all this energy to just sit quietly
23:00 in rows as they talk at them for eight hours a day.
23:03 And they get one little reprieve when they go to lunch and when they go out to recess.
23:07 That's what you need.
23:09 You need these robotic dad bod fat dudes covered in Cheeto dust with no
23:15 aspects of their personality.
23:19 That would lead you to believe that they have any fight in them whatsoever.
23:22 They have no ability to defend themselves or the people around.
23:27 That's what you need.
23:28 You need a bunch of beta males.
23:30 And now you actually have men that will look at this vogue article or things similar to it
23:37 and think, oh, well, you know, maybe this isn't that big of a deal.
23:40 Maybe a man can wear dresses and wear makeup and maybe it's not that big of a deal.
23:44 When at the end of the day, he is suiciding his own masculinity.
23:50 This isn't about cultural norms.
23:52 It's just not.
23:53 It goes way, way deeper than that.
23:55 And here's the reality.
23:57 When we're talking about this, guys, this overall cultural decrease in masculinity.
24:01 The most important thing for us to maybe remember or think about in all of this
24:06 is that the decrease in masculinity will hurt women and children more than it'll actually hurt men.
24:12 Because as we've seen, if you've read any history book that had violence in it,
24:18 that when there's no society undergirding men in general,
24:22 that the biological underpinnings and foundations for men, that competitiveness,
24:29 that testosterone, the violence, all of those things, when it goes unchecked by society or unchecked
24:34 by some sort of Judeo-Christian worldview or something like that, things go really, really poorly
24:38 for a lot of people, but especially for people that are weak.
24:42 And yes, I'm talking about in general women and in general children, people that are physically
24:49 weaker and less dominant than most males.
24:51 That's exactly what I'm talking about.
24:52 But it even goes deeper than just the basic, okay, can a man beat up a woman and beat up a child?
24:58 It goes deeper than that.
24:59 Let's talk about fatherlessness.
25:01 You know, this is an epidemic of all cultures, of all races, right?
25:05 I mean, if we look at like kind of pre-1960s America, I think there were 3% of white children
25:11 who grew up in a house without dad.
25:14 Now it's like 30%.
25:15 You know, now we have blacks, up to 70% of black children are living in a house without dad,
25:21 50% of Hispanic children.
25:23 This is across cultures, guys.
25:24 We see this fatherlessness everywhere because one of the things that we see
25:31 is that when a man is being a man, he's responsible.
25:34 And when he's responsible, he takes care of his kids, regardless of if he likes the mom or not,
25:38 regardless of if they've got the suburban white picket fence existence that we're supposed to
25:44 all be shooting for, the men are going to take care of their own.
25:47 They're going to do what it takes to take care of the household, even if they're not there,
25:52 even if they've chosen to not be a part of that life.
25:56 They're going to be there to do something, to increase the bounty for their children.
26:01 So when you see this tremendous decrease in masculinity, that has a lot of impacts on society.
26:08 And, you know, we've talked about this before and that's not what this podcast is about,
26:12 but in the United States, there's been an incentivization for a lot of these men to not be there.
26:17 They're incentivizing women to be single mothers.
26:20 To where, you know, dad's not dad, but US government is daddy.
26:26 So with these people that are rooting for the destruction of toxic masculinity,
26:32 when you destroy toxic masculinity, because there certainly is that you're also destroying
26:35 masculinity in general. And we need that. Again, hard times make strong men, strong men,
26:41 make good times, good times, make weak men, weak men, make hard times.
26:45 That's where we're at right now. We're towards the end of that spectrum.
26:48 We've got a lot of weak men that are about to create some really hard times for us.
26:52 And a lot of you dudes out there, you're not fully prepared.
26:56 You're not prepared for what that has has in store for you. You're just not.
26:59 Another couple of points here, the demasculinization of men doesn't start when they're adults. It starts
27:07 when they're children. So I've already talked about this in terms of schooling. You know,
27:11 let's just keep the kids, especially the boys is kind of tamp them down. You know, let's,
27:15 you know, school, most K through 12 school, most public education is built for girls and boys that
27:20 behave. It's not built for highly rambunctious boys. They don't learn well. That's why a lot of
27:25 boys fall behind early and girls excel early. There's a lot to discuss around that, but we'll
27:30 discuss those at a later date because, you know, frankly, as my son gets closer to school age,
27:34 there's going to be a lot of fights I might have with a lot of administrators that are probably
27:38 going to go nowhere. But, you know, those are fights that I can have a little bit later.
27:41 But the other thing that we have to think about is guys, you may not be on Twitter.
27:45 Okay. You may not have clicked on the link in red through this article, but your teenage son might
27:50 have. Maybe he's a fan of Harry Styles, maybe the girl he likes likes Harry Styles. And he saw
27:56 Harry Styles was trending and he kind of clicked on the story. And that's the message that he's
28:01 getting from society is that this is what a man does. A man isn't bound by silly things like gender
28:08 stereotypes. A man's not going to avoid an entire section of the store because it says
28:14 women across the top. You know, a real artist is not going to sully themselves by only wearing the
28:23 clothes that are deemed by society as masculine. So the thing I would ask you guys that have sons
28:31 or have boys in your life that you have influence over is who's communicating to them. What men
28:36 should do? Because a lot of boys are just going to watch. I was just telling somebody on the phone
28:41 today that, you know, my dad never told me to give a good handshake. You know, my dad never
28:46 told me, Hey, hold the door for a lady. I just saw him do it over and over and over again. So I just
28:54 got it. It's like, Oh, that's what men do. Like, I remember this story, like, I remember the story
28:59 until the day that I die, our family's eating at Golden Corral, right, which is for those of you
29:04 that are, you know, well adjusted people or don't live in this country, it is a buffet that has
29:09 everything on it. And they ring a bell when the the hot buns come out of the oven. And then you see
29:14 just droves of fat people waddling over there to get these buttery hot buns. Okay, so it's that
29:19 place, but I love it at the same time. So we're sitting there as kids. I'm probably eight years old,
29:24 maybe nine years old, and we're sitting there eating dinner. And there's like two or three steps to
29:28 kind of go from, you know, the buffet area up to the main area where all the seating is, right?
29:32 And this woman trips or her knee gives out or something. And she just wha splats on the ground,
29:38 right? And you know, her food goes everywhere. And guys, I just got to tell you, my dad was out
29:44 of his chair before her mashed potatoes hit the ground. And he was running over there and he was
29:49 helping her up and he was getting her cleaned up and he was helping the bus boy get everything
29:52 taken care of. He just, boom, didn't even think about it. Just responded. And so for me, I learned
29:58 a lot about what a man is to be not because my dad conversated with me just because of the things
30:03 that he showed me. But I say that and I use that example to say this that some of the things that
30:08 the boys and men in your life need to learn, they need to learn from your mouth. They need to learn
30:12 from you actually telling them and conversating with them. I think it was, if I remember correctly,
30:18 it was Stephen Mansfield. I think he was on this. I think it was him that said this in his interview
30:22 that we did on a podcast earlier on this summer, where he was talking about the things that he
30:26 learned from his dad. He learned by watching. He didn't learn a whole lot by, you know, listening
30:29 and conversating. But some of you guys need to have some conversations. Maybe this is a teaching
30:34 moment for you. Get only offensive here. Sit down your little eight year old son and say,
30:39 Hey, do you know what Harry Styles is? Or do you know who this band is or whatever? Hey, I just want
30:42 to show you, you know, this, this shoot that he did. I'll show you one of the stuff that he's,
30:47 that he's wearing. You know, what do you think about this? And just kind of see what he says,
30:50 because you might get an insight into what's being taught to him at the public school that he goes
30:54 to or something like that. But it kind of gives you fodder for a good conversation about what a man
30:58 is and what a man isn't. Because some people are looking at this like, what's the big deal? That's
31:03 an artist wearing a dress. But that's not what Vogue is trying to communicate. That's not what
31:08 GQ is trying to communicate with for all. The communication is clear. Masculinity is bad
31:14 in all forms. And so the only way for us to have masculinity now is if we redefine it
31:20 and expand it to where basically it's not masculinity and femininity separate. It's them together.
31:27 Okay. And the last thing that I want to kind of go over here is like, we just need to be clear.
31:32 Okay. The demasculimization of men is very much so a Western phenomenon. It's a Western trend,
31:42 but it is not a worldwide trend. So if we even go back to the response that Candice Owens had,
31:49 she says, you know, here, let me just go back and actually read it so that I don't misquote it,
31:53 because I thought I thought that it was absolutely excellent. She said this, there is no society
31:57 that can survive without strong men. The East knows this. In the West, the steady feminization
32:03 of our men at the same time that Marxism is being taught to our children is not a coincidence. It's
32:07 an outright attack bring back manly men. So the thing that's so interesting is in the Western world,
32:13 which again has been forged by the sacrifices of lots and lots of very masculine, traditionally
32:18 masculine men is now being attacked from the inside by its own people. Okay. Because for most of
32:27 us in the West, we don't have an enemy that we're fighting right now. You know, a lot's been made
32:31 post election with, you know, the unity calls by Joe Biden and all that. And a lot of people are
32:35 like, man, can we go back to, you know, September 12th of 2001, when everybody was an American,
32:41 you know, black, white, Republican, Democrat, gay, straight, like, we were all just Americans,
32:46 and you know, we had this common in an enemy, right? You know, al-Qaeda or Taliban or, you know,
32:51 just fundamentalist Islam, like we had something that we were fighting against, but we're just not
32:56 there anymore. We're so disjointed from our military and the fights going on overseas and we
33:01 barely have an opinion on a lot of those issues. But where we're at now is as a Western society,
33:06 is there's a decay, there's a moral decay, there's a foundational decay for some of the things that,
33:13 you know, we were founded on, but this is not a trend everywhere. They're not demasculating the
33:21 men in China. They're not demasculating the men in India. They're really not demasculating the men
33:28 anywhere other than the West. And the thing about it is if you look at the writings of people like
33:36 Karl Marx, this is exactly what they want to do. But you might also say, well, isn't, you know,
33:42 China, a communist country and isn't Karl Marx an influencer of communism? Didn't he write the book
33:46 on it? Why aren't they doing that? Because the Chinese government is actually communist in that
33:52 they don't actually want to be the ones to tear down the system. They want to run this system.
33:55 And they can't run the system with a bunch of, they can't fight a war against the strength
34:03 of Western countries. If it ever comes to that, which a bunch of weeny guys running around,
34:08 they can't do that. And so the thing for us to be looking at is, again, to a certain degree,
34:14 we need to be worried about the United States. We need to be worried about the community that
34:17 we live in, the state that we live in. But we also have to be worried about the world to a degree,
34:22 not worried about it in the sense of, you know, it's going to keep us up at night because guys,
34:26 we know the score, God wins, you know, there's going to be new heavens and new earth, like we're
34:30 going to be a part of that. You know, so there's not really a whole lot to worry about, but
34:34 societally, as we raise our children as we develop as men ourselves, we have to be looking at these
34:39 trends. And we're not getting the same things in the same areas across across the world, we're just
34:45 not. So it's something to really think about. And so to kind of put a bow on this for everybody,
34:50 this is a bigger deal than ever than it would seem at first blush, no pun intended. This, this is
34:56 a bigger thing. So to most people, it's not going to be a big deal. Right, even people that agree
35:01 with me in general are be like, is this really the thing that was this really we're talking about
35:04 for 30 minutes? And the reason is is yes. And it's, I'm all the more sensitive to it now because I
35:10 have my son. And I'm just thinking about like, again, the idea 10 years ago, that a kindergarten
35:16 teacher might be asking your kid what gender they feel like that day seemed crazy. Like that,
35:22 that was closer to science fiction than it was to actual fact, to actual real life. But we're living
35:27 in that world now where gender confusion is the norm, where some dummy that barely made it through
35:35 to get their teaching degree or whatever certificate they needed to teach your kid how to do basic
35:41 arithmetic. They're also going to be giving them worldview lessons. And there's a lot of school
35:46 districts where the sexual education and the other educational stuff, they're not even going to give
35:50 the parents the opportunity to opt out. They're just going to teach it and assume that you're not
35:55 going to create a fuss. So guys, there are some hills that are that I'm willing to die on. And I'm,
36:01 I feel like I'm preparing myself and my soul for four and a half years from now, when my son
36:05 enters into whatever school system we're going to end up, you know, letting them go to. And I'm
36:09 ready for these cultural fights, because they mean something. Because I will do everything in my
36:15 power to make sure that James Kyle Thompson is a manly masculine man, that he's a well-balanced,
36:23 well-developed, tender warrior. And the only way that we can do that is to be on the front lines,
36:29 is to understand the trends, because the trends that we're seeing, they point to the enemy that
36:34 we're fighting. And the enemy that we're fighting is only getting stronger and only getting louder,
36:39 and only getting more common and more accepted in modern society. You're going to maybe have to be
36:45 the dad that stands up at a PTA meeting at some point and says, Oh, hey, by the way, we shouldn't
36:49 be letting our kids read books like this. Hey, our teachers shouldn't be doing curriculum on
36:54 transgenderism, because they're not explaining it in the way that explains what it is, which is a
36:59 mental disorder that someone has gender dysphoria. Like, I don't think these are things that we should
37:03 be implanting in the brains of a nine year old. So guys, we got to be ready for that fight,
37:09 and I'm going to do everything I can to prepare my family and also to prepare you for the same
37:14 fight. All right, guys, before we let you go, we are going to do a quick resilience boost.
37:18 As you know, by now we are men's ministry and our mission is cultivating mainly resilience.
37:22 Specifically, we do that by helping provide content like this podcast and helps you forward
37:26 spiritual, mental and physical toughness. So for today, I have the original tweet from Candice Owen.
37:30 So you can check that out there. I've got the Vogue article. I would absolutely encourage
37:34 you to click on that read through it to see if I'm absolutely off my rocker. And then I was just
37:38 reminded of this great video by Ali best Stucky called make men masculine again. It was a video
37:43 that she recorded for Prager, you I think back in 2019. This girl is is amazing. Her, she has
37:49 spot on in this little five minute video. It's definitely a good listen for you and a good watch
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