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128 – Women Don’t Need Us To Be Nice

April 2, 2020 36m 44s Full transcript available
128 – Women Don’t Need Us To Be Nice
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Women don't need us to be nice; they need us to be present, dangerous, and meek. It's time to redefine what it means to be a man in today's world, moving beyond mere niceness to embody true strength and character.
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0:40 This is on Daunton Life, a man's podcast.
0:43 I'm your host Kyle Thompson.
0:44 Let's get into it.
0:45 All right, guys.
0:45 Here recently I was listening to a podcast episode and here's the deal.
0:48 Sometimes I'll be listening to content or reading content or watching content
0:51 and it'll just kind of catch me off guard.
0:53 Maybe I've not been paying super attention to what's being said on the podcast.
0:57 Maybe I've kind of zoned out a little bit because I'm working out
0:59 or mowing the lawn or driving or something like that.
1:01 But here recently I was listening to an episode of the Steven Crowder podcast.
1:05 And so again, I have to say this every time I talk about Steven Crowder
1:08 is I don't listen to him that much.
1:09 I don't watch his stuff that much, but the stuff I do watch, most of it is funny.
1:13 Most of it's informative.
1:14 There are some things he does that I feel I go a little bit too far,
1:17 but that's kind of his shtick.
1:18 He's kind of the comedian for the conservative space.
1:21 He doesn't really have a governor on his speech or something like that.
1:24 And so anyway, that's just kind of what I was saying.
1:26 But it was at the end of one of his episodes,
1:27 and I'll include the episode here at the end of your show notes
1:30 so you can take a look at what I was looking at.
1:32 This was an episode in particular that had Alex Jones on as a guest.
1:35 And so just as a matter of habit, anytime Alex Jones is being interviewed,
1:40 he's so insane.
1:41 And he's so ridiculous.
1:43 And his grip on reality is so strained that I just find it funny.
1:47 I find it very entertaining to watch him.
1:49 And so this was an episode.
1:50 I was like, okay, I got to watch it.
1:51 I got to see what crazy thing that Alex Jones says.
1:53 And lo and behold, he did say something crazy.
1:55 But if you're a fan of Stephen Crowder, even if you're not,
1:58 at the end of his episodes, maybe he'll take five minutes,
2:00 sometimes 15 minutes, and he'll just kind of talk about a subject.
2:03 So it's kind of like a little bit of a, a little bit of a life guide,
2:06 a little bit of a self help one.
2:07 But this is one that was directed towards women.
2:10 And so he was kind of talking about how, you know, in the conservative movement,
2:14 there are more women than people realize.
2:15 It's not just a bunch of old crotchety rich white guys kind of a deal.
2:18 But he was just basically talking about how a lot of women say something along the lines of,
2:22 you know, it's really, really hard to find a good man.
2:25 Whatever a good man is, but that doesn't matter.
2:27 It's really hard to find a good man.
2:29 And then he starts talking a lot about kind of what we're not taught in life, right?
2:35 Women aren't really taught what to look for.
2:38 Women are taught to avoid certain things and certain types of guy and certain toxic things.
2:44 But there's not a whole lot of talk about what we should be and what we should do.
2:48 And that that implies to men as well, you know, we're told the things that we shouldn't do,
2:52 the things we should tamp down, the things that we should relax.
2:54 But at the same time, we're not really taught what we should do.
2:57 And so this is a much longer clip than what I'm going to actually play for you.
3:01 But I'm going to play a little snippet a couple of minutes here of something that he said
3:05 during this whole little ending of his podcast that I thought would be applicable to us.
3:09 And we'll get us into our content and into our discussion for today.
3:12 So here we go.
3:12 But we don't, what we don't talk about nearly enough anymore is what you do have to be.
3:20 We talk about how you have to love yourself and how you don't have to fit into any molds.
3:24 But what is it that you have to be?
3:26 What is it that you have to do?
3:27 Because in order for you to be a good woman or in order for someone to be a good man,
3:32 there has to be a standard.
3:33 And I will say this, for the women out there looking for a good man,
3:38 there are certain things that a man has to do.
3:41 There are certain standards that you should be looking for.
3:43 And I think that women today are taught to look for the wrong things nearly always.
3:49 Let me explain.
4:09 Of course, because these are character qualities.
4:12 Nice is not.
4:14 Because nice is circumstantial.
4:16 Eddie Haskell was nice.
4:18 Hitler was apparently nice to kids.
4:20 Oh, some would love and apparently was really nice to kids.
4:22 And here's something that I think is important.
4:24 A lot of women, you'll choose a man because he's nice and then complain
4:28 that as a husband, we see this a lot.
4:30 He's not living up to the expectations or he isn't giving you what you need.
4:35 And then we go back to, it's difficult to find a good man.
4:38 Here's the deal.
4:38 It's important that you find a man.
4:41 Okay, a husband.
4:42 Yes, let's not talk about nice, but who is loving toward you,
4:46 who is compassionate toward you, who is considerate.
4:48 As a Christian, I believe that a husband should love his wife as Christ loved the church,
4:51 which means it's his own body.
4:53 What does that mean?
4:53 You don't abuse your body.
4:55 You take care of it, you only get one.
4:56 So I'm going to assume before I give you the rest of this advice,
5:00 that you're starting off with that.
5:01 Not some domestic abuser who should be put behind bars.
5:04 Okay, don't take this out of context.
5:06 Otherwise, this won't help you.
5:07 But something else I would like for you to take into consideration,
5:10 women out there who find yourself struggling to find a man.
5:13 If you have to choose between a man who is generally nice,
5:16 more specifically a man who values, I guess, nice over righteous anger,
5:23 you should pick righteous anger every time.
5:27 A man who values nice above all else is not a man who can lead a family.
5:32 He's not a man who can protect you.
5:33 He's not a man who most importantly can serve you.
5:36 And by the way, it's also pretty damn easy to be nice.
5:40 It's very easy to go through life being nice.
5:43 I'm not talking about being polite, but being the nice go along, get a long guy.
5:47 It's easy to be confrontationally evasive.
5:50 You know what's harder?
5:51 Righteous anger.
5:52 It's harder for a man to grow a spine and stick his neck out from the foxhole,
5:57 get in the fray when it's the right thing to do.
5:59 So if you're dating a man, or you're looking for a man,
6:02 and he's nice, that's great.
6:03 But if you've never seen righteous anger, righteous indignation,
6:06 if you've never seen him bow up the hair in the back of his neck stand up,
6:10 you've never seen a guy who gets passionate about injustice
6:14 or maybe comes close to getting his dukes up.
6:16 That's cause for concern, ladies.
6:18 Does any of that sound familiar?
6:20 It should because you've heard me talk about certain things like that before.
6:24 Now he goes on to talk a lot more kind of in this diatribe about the standards that we look for.
6:29 You know, if you if you have a choice between those two types of men,
6:32 kind of what would you want to be the nice guy or the guy that can be righteously angry.
6:36 But again, he goes in and talks about, you know, what righteous anger is not.
6:39 It's not getting mad at stupid stuff.
6:40 It's not getting mad in traffic.
6:41 It's not getting at a fight at the bar for no reason.
6:43 Righteous anger stems from love.
6:45 That was the point that he was trying to make.
6:47 It stems from love.
6:48 But he also talks about if you're a woman and you're looking for a husband,
6:51 you don't need a husband that's kind of like a golden retriever.
6:53 You need a rotweiler.
6:54 Now you need a rotweiler or a German shepherd or one of those animals
6:58 that has the capability to be dangerous, but is under control.
7:01 And we'll certainly get more into that a little bit later.
7:03 But he just kind of talks about how women have been lied to,
7:05 that you're constantly being told to look in the wrong place.
7:08 The church has done a really bad job of teaching you where you should look.
7:12 All the waves of feminism first through third have all kind of taught you,
7:15 you know, what to look for.
7:16 But it's not really telling you the right things.
7:18 And then in addition to that, we haven't really taught young men
7:22 when righteous indignation is appropriate.
7:25 We haven't really showed them those things.
7:27 And you know, women, it's the women that are most in love with their man
7:30 are most educated.
7:31 They kind of want to strangle them.
7:33 Sometimes they there's those times where they're like,
7:34 why won't this guy just do and be exactly what I want him to be?
7:38 But they would rather have a guy like that than a guy that's just milk toast.
7:41 And again, the way that you can kind of get an idea of if righteous anger is righteous
7:46 is if it's aimed at evil or injustice.
7:49 That was the point that he was making aimed at evil and injustice,
7:52 because he makes this example.
7:53 Sometimes violence is virtuous.
7:55 Sometimes violence is used to rape people.
7:57 And sometimes violence is used to stop a rape.
8:00 That was a really good example that he's used that I've heard before as well.
8:03 But again, righteous anger should never be aimed at you.
8:05 So ladies that are listening to this and I hope you're out there,
8:08 righteous anger should never be aimed at you.
8:10 That's not what righteous anger is.
8:11 This isn't some sort of a cloak to put over a guy that likes to beat his wife,
8:15 because you know, she didn't make the make the dinner in the way that the guy
8:19 wanted or whatever the situation might be.
8:20 But again, he kind of ends his point here by saying that a man
8:23 that has never had righteous anger is a coward.
8:26 They're they're a weak person.
8:28 And they will most likely be a bully because bullies are not strong people.
8:32 Bullies are weak people.
8:33 But they will torture those that are weaker than they are.
8:36 And so guys, you've heard me talk about this before.
8:39 And if you haven't heard me before, I will repeat it.
8:41 If the biggest compliment that you can receive from somebody,
8:45 be that male, female, coworker, family member, spouse, whatever,
8:49 is that you're a nice guy?
8:51 That is dangerous.
8:53 And I don't I can't think of another way to say it that if you think that being a nice guy
9:00 is the number one draft pick characteristic that you want to have, you're doing it wrong.
9:04 You're doing life wrong.
9:06 You're doing manhood wrong.
9:09 And I'll get into my reasons for that later a little bit more.
9:13 I'll elucidate a little bit further.
9:14 But guys, I've been around so many guys in my life and it's typically in the church.
9:19 I mean, surprise, surprise.
9:20 You go to a Sunday school class or you go to a church camp or you go to any of those things.
9:24 All the guys are really, really nice.
9:26 And if your wife asks you, well, what do you think about Jimmy?
9:29 What do you think about John?
9:30 What do you think about Bob?
9:32 Oh, you know, they seem like a nice guy.
9:34 Which when you say it like that, you're like, well, Kyle, don't we want to be nice?
9:39 Should we be angry?
9:41 Should we be intimidating all those things?
9:43 Shouldn't we be nice guys?
9:45 Wasn't Jesus a nice guy?
9:46 At point, I would remind you that Jesus was able to walk his way through an angry mob
9:53 that was trying to kill him by just looking at them.
9:58 It probably wasn't the look of a nice guy.
10:00 Probably wasn't the look of some milk toast guy with his shirt pressed and his jeans
10:06 in nice and unwrinkled and his boots nice and shined up.
10:09 It wasn't just this nice guy that we like to look at, okay?
10:14 But now I want to transition and talk a little bit to the ladies.
10:17 So for the ladies that are listening to this, this is something that you should really consider.
10:22 Because I know a lot of women in my life, a lot of women that are maybe friends of my
10:25 wife that they don't have a man in their life right now or the man that they have in their life
10:30 right now is a pussy. He's just, you know, he's milk toast. He just, he just exists in the world,
10:34 right? But to the ladies that are listening to this, this is what you should look for in a man.
10:39 You might think that you want a nice guy, but you don't.
10:43 And, you know, you could call this mansplaining if you want to.
10:46 That's fine. I'll wear the label.
10:47 But you know this is true deep down.
10:49 You don't need a nice guy.
10:52 You need a real man, a real man.
10:55 And for any of you listening to this for you ladies, don't just take my word for it.
11:00 Okay. So as I was thinking through this podcast and thinking about the words that Steven Crowder
11:05 used, I thought about Ali Stucky. So Ali Stucky is kind of a, she's a conservative personality
11:10 commentator. But she has, I think to date, the most watched PragerU video of all time.
11:16 If it's not number one, it's in the top three, right? And PragerU is this kind of conservative
11:20 think tank that puts out these videos that kind of gets, gets you thinking on these deeper level
11:24 of topics. But I remembered she talked about this thing. She basically had this PragerU presentation
11:29 called make men masculine again. And I remember before I clicked on this link the first time I
11:34 ever watched the video, it actually came out on my birthday a couple of years ago. And so I was
11:38 like, okay, they were obviously playing off the make, make America great again, maga maga stuff,
11:41 you know, make something great again. But it said make men masculine again. And so I was obviously
11:46 interested in it. I went to click on it. And then I was like, by Ali Stucky, really? By some chick?
11:51 That was my thought. It was probably a rude thought. But that was my thought. Like, you know,
11:56 what does she have to say about this? And I mean, I couldn't have been any more wrong in terms of
12:02 my initial reaction. But she goes into talking about how men have this kind of unbridled ambition
12:10 and aggression and violence. But the thing is, is most of what society is trying to do is they're
12:15 trying to delete that from the male psyche. They don't want that ambition and aggression and violence,
12:20 right? But the thing is that they don't understand is those things cannot be deleted from the male
12:24 psyche that they can only be harnessed for the sake of good. And the thing about toxic masculinity
12:30 that everyone's talked about that I did a two part series on on this podcast a while back,
12:34 it isn't less masculinity. That's not the answer to toxic masculinity. It's better masculinity. This
12:40 is the point that Ali Stucky was making. And the thing is, is in modern society, we don't have a
12:45 problem with men being too masculine. That is not the problem. We have a problem with if not being
12:51 masculine enough. I mean, guys, how many times go back to episode four of this podcast? How many
12:56 times have we talked about this just in the church, not even in macro society, just in the church?
13:01 We don't have a problem with the men being way too masculine. But that's not real. It's that the
13:09 men aren't nearly masculine enough. But there was a nice little section here that I want to play
13:14 for. It's about a minute, minute and a half or so. And I really want the ladies to listen to this and
13:18 guys listening to this as well, because I'll obviously be using it. And there's an amazing
13:22 quote here towards the end. So I'm going to go ahead and get into a section of the make men
13:25 masculine again clip from Ali Stucky and Prager You. Here's a secret that every woman knows.
13:31 Women want real men, men they can count on. And yes, look up to no amount of feminist theory will
13:38 change that. I don't know any woman at any age who was attracted to a passive man who looks to her
13:46 to be his provider protector and leader. Every woman I know wants a strong responsible man.
13:53 That's not a consequence of a social construct or cultural pressure. It's innate. The devaluation
14:00 of masculinity won't end well because feminine passive men don't stop evil. Passive men don't
14:06 defend, protect or provide. Passive men don't lead. Passive men don't do the things we have
14:13 always needed men to do for society to thrive. In his book The Abolition of Man,
14:18 English social philosopher C.S. Lewis writes about this problem. He describes the tension
14:23 between cerebral man and visceral man. By his intellect, Lewis explains, man is mere spirit and
14:30 by his appetite, mere animal. We need both. Take away one and you're left with a man who's either
14:36 weak or wicked. And in a world of wickedness, weak men are nothing more than enablers of wicked men.
14:43 Rape murder war. They all have two things in common. Bad men who do the raping, murdering and
14:50 warring and weak men who won't stop them. We need good men who will. It's not masculinity that's
14:57 toxic. It's the lack of it. Again, to reiterate, I couldn't have been any more wrong in terms of
15:02 what I was expecting from that video, what Ali Stucky actually gave you. But again, what a great
15:07 quote in there. I want to make sure that you hear it again. I'm going to say it. I'm going to read
15:10 to you is that weak men are nothing more than enablers of wicked men. And so I kind of have that
15:17 question for guys that would consider themselves to be nice guys or guys that don't really feel the
15:21 need to be hyper masculine or maybe even masculine at all is how would you reconcile that viewpoint
15:29 with this quote, weak men are nothing more than enablers of wicked men. And I don't want to get
15:34 into these big long discussions about, you know, how to stop violence and blah, blah, all these
15:38 different things, because that gets into a lot of different areas that I don't want to go into on
15:41 this particular podcast. But you can't say that that's not true. In the righteous wars that this
15:47 country has fought before in those times of intercession when you have men that are interceding
15:52 for those that are weaker than the people that are attacking them, the sheepdog concept, the wolf,
15:57 the sheep and the sheepdog, weak men are nothing more than enablers of wicked men. So to a guy that
16:03 is okay with not being masculine, why would you want to be a sheep? Just because you are a sheep
16:09 doesn't mean or sorry, maybe we'll take it this way. You really want to be a sheepdog. That doesn't
16:14 automatically mean you can become one. It doesn't automatically mean that you have that that fortitude
16:20 or that capability doesn't mean you shouldn't strive for it. But why would you why would you
16:23 settle for being a sheep? You might get to a point one day where you realize maybe I don't have
16:28 what it takes to be a sheepdog. But that wouldn't would insinuate that you've actually tried.
16:33 You've tried to be a sheepdog and you were found wanting. You didn't hit the mark.
16:36 And so I've talked to the ladies a little bit in this podcast and a lot of that of kind of this
16:41 first 15, 16 minutes or so has been talking to the ladies. But now I want to transition to the men
16:45 because again, guys, the title of this episode is women don't need us to be nice.
16:52 That doesn't mean be a [inaudible]. That doesn't mean be mean. But women don't need us to be nice.
16:58 Now again, women might think that they want us to be nice, but they don't. They don't. A real
17:05 woman would tell you that. They would confirm that women don't need us to be nice. They need
17:09 us to be three things, guys. And these aren't exhaustive things. These aren't the only three
17:14 things. But these are the top three things that a woman needs us to be. They need us to be present.
17:22 They need us to be dangerous and they need us to be meek. We're going to go ahead and break each
17:28 one of those down. Let's go with the first one. They need us to be present. So most men that I know
17:35 and I am saying most on purpose, most men that I know are not mentally present. They're just not
17:42 there. They are buried in their phones. They're buried in fancy football. They're buried in
17:48 Instagram. They're buried in pornography. They're buried in statistics. They're buried in politics.
17:53 They're buried on Twitter fights or Facebook comment. They're buried.
17:58 Oh, honey, I can't really deal with that right now. The game's on. The game's on.
18:04 Or honey, I'll get to that in a second. But we just got to this next level, the video game.
18:09 And I'm playing with a guy who's a friend of mine from the Philippines. And we got to do this right
18:13 now. It's a computer game. Honey, don't you understand? It's a PlayStation game. Honey,
18:17 don't you understand? Honey, I understand that you need all these things done and you need me
18:21 to help out with kids. But if I don't go play golf, I just, I don't know how I'm going to get
18:24 through this week at work. There's not mentally present. There's somewhere else at all times.
18:31 And here's another thing I know about most men, most men in my life, they're not emotionally
18:35 present either. They're just not there emotionally. And I mean that a lot of different ways. They're
18:41 not there emotionally to support their families, to support their spouses, to support their kids.
18:46 But they're not there emotionally either because they don't even understand their own emotions.
18:50 That's one thing about me is I have a fairly good amount of recognition of what I'm going
18:56 through at the time. Now, I struggle at times to control my emotions, but I can certainly recognize,
19:02 yes, I'm angry right now. Yes, I'm frustrated right now. Yes, I want to be introverted right
19:07 now. I don't want to talk to anybody, right? I go through those moments. But a lot of guys,
19:11 they're just not emotionally present. They're not available to people emotionally. And again,
19:17 guys, you're listening to a guy right now that struggles with emotionality. Did I just make
19:22 up a word? I may have emotionality just being emotional and, you know, understanding where
19:27 someone's coming from with their emotions and being empathetic and those things, I struggle there.
19:31 But that doesn't mean I can't be emotionally present. And then in addition to that, again,
19:36 women need us to be present. A lot of men, I'm not going to say most men, but a lot of men
19:41 are not present present. Just flat out present. They're just not physically there.
19:48 When they are there, they're emotionally and mentally absent. They're not present,
19:52 but they're just not even there. They're flat out, just gone. They're gone for business.
19:57 They're gone because they're a deadbeat. And the thing about this is, guys, is this takes
20:01 a tremendous amount of toll on the family, a tremendous toll. It takes a huge toll on the spouse,
20:08 but especially the children. Guys, if you've done any research or reading or even on this podcast,
20:13 when you look at when dad's not around, I mean, I just pulled these from a study that was taken in
20:18 2017. When dad's not around, this is about the children. There's four times greater risk of poverty,
20:24 seven times more likely to become pregnant as a teen. The kids are more likely to have
20:29 behavioral problems, more likely to face abuse and neglect. They're twice as likely to have
20:34 infant mortality. There's a greater risk of infant mortality. They're more likely to abuse drugs
20:38 and alcohol. They're more likely to go to prison. They're two times more likely to be obese.
20:43 They're more likely to commit a crime. They're two times more likely to drop out of high school.
20:46 And guys, I could keep going. I could go on and on and on. You get the point. Now, in the statistics
20:51 vary. And here's the thing we've we've got the census coming up in 2020. So we'll have much tighter
20:55 statistics here. But here's some damning statistics about 30% of white children in the United States
21:01 are born out of wedlock. About 50% of Hispanic children are born out of wedlock. And about 75%
21:08 of black children are born out of wedlock. And so you might be like, Oh, well, just because it's
21:12 out of wedlock doesn't mean the dad's not there. Okay. Well, here's the next level of statistics.
21:16 20% of white children live without dad in the home. 25% of Hispanic children live without dad
21:21 in the home. And 50% of black children live without dad in the home. These are the latest
21:26 statistics I could find. Again, they vary, but those are pretty close, right? And guys, I've said this
21:33 before, but those statistics only look at the binary of his dad there. Or is he not? Is he present
21:41 or is he absent? It does not even matter if dad's a good dad. It's significantly better.
21:50 Even if dad's just there, it's just flat out better if he's around. So ladies,
21:58 you need a man that's present and guys, you've got to be present, physically present, emotionally
22:04 present. You've got to be mentally present. You've got to be around. That's the first thing you need
22:09 to worry about. The second thing is this. The second thing is this. Women don't need men to be nice.
22:18 They need us to be dangerous. They need us to be dangerous. And guys, this is where I'm going to
22:24 talk about spiritual, mental and physical resilience and also the ability to be dangerous in those
22:29 areas. So let's start with spiritual. Are you spiritually dangerous? And what I mean by that is,
22:36 is Satan worried about you? Is he worried about how strong you are? Is he worried about how much
22:44 you're depending on Christ? Is he trying unique ways to get at you and at your family?
22:51 Are you spiritually dangerous? Do you know how to fight back against the dark forces that are
22:57 in this world that are having an impact on your family and the families around you? Do you know
23:02 how to fight back? There's a lot of guys that I know, they know how to read, they know how to read
23:07 the Bible, right? They don't really know how to apply it. They know how to go through a Bible
23:14 study with some buddies at six a.m. on on a Tuesday morning at IHOP. But they don't really know how
23:20 to defend their family against the attacks of the evil one. They're not spiritually dangerous.
23:26 Now let's talk about being mentally dangerous. Because one thing that I know, just training the
23:33 way that I do and training guys the way that I do and training with guys doing jiu jitsu or any
23:37 of those types of things is you can tell when a guy is pretty physically weak. And when you look
23:42 around and you look around at guys that are kind of easy to break, I mean, that's not a dangerous man.
23:48 Oh, the workout just started getting hard. You just got your heart rate up. Oh, you got to go
23:53 take a break. You got you got to go sit down. You got to go grab some water. You're weak, man.
23:58 I'm not worried about that guy. I'm worried about the guy that is mentally calloused over
24:04 that can work through the pain. And even beyond that, because we're kind of, you know,
24:08 teetering on into physical and we'll get there in just a second. But the guy that is not even
24:13 mentally strong enough to get through a work week, he has to take three or four breaks an
24:17 hour to look at Instagram or to go to the bathroom or to do whatever. Because he's not even mentally
24:22 able to stay on a task. You've also got the guy that is not mentally available to spar with people
24:29 mentally. When people are saying nonsense things, whether it's, you know, the principal at your kid's
24:34 school or the coach on the team or just a guy at work that's spewing this, you know, generic
24:39 atheistic nonsense, are you mentally able to spar with that person? You're not dangerous.
24:45 Some people think if they have opinions that that makes them dangerous. No, it makes you a human
24:50 being. Ah, you like blue more than you like purple. That's not, that doesn't say anything
24:56 about who you are as a man. It's just an opinion. There's a lot of guys out there that have opinions.
25:01 They have no idea why they think that. And if they get asked a single follow up question,
25:06 they can't support anything that they believe with evidence evidence. Why would I need evidence?
25:11 I'm a nice guy. Why would anyone ever challenge me? Why would I ever need to defend this? Why would
25:18 I need to explain to somebody why it's morally bankrupt to kill a child in the womb? Why would
25:23 I need to explain to somebody that whenever you're acting out in a homosexual way, that you're not
25:28 just doing that to yourself, that you're having a larger impact than that? Why would I need to do
25:33 that? Why would I need to explain that the government shouldn't come in and take an overwhelming
25:38 majority of the wealth that I've created and give it to people that have done nothing? Like,
25:42 why would I need to argue that? It's because they're not mentally dangerous. And then the last one,
25:48 which I talk about a lot, which you guys are going to hear this forever, as long as this podcast
25:52 keeps going, is women need us to be physically dangerous as well. We need to be spiritually
25:57 dangerous. We need to be mentally dangerous, but we have to be physically dangerous.
26:01 How can we become physically dangerous? Go back to my podcast episode with Pat McNamara.
26:08 Is your combat chassis ready to go? If you needed to run two miles at a full clip to save your
26:16 life or to save someone else's life, would you be capable of doing that? Do you have what it takes
26:21 to subdue someone that's trying to do you or someone else harm if you don't have a weapon in
26:25 your hands? Just saw a video, one of the guys, a longtime listener of this podcast named Brandon,
26:31 he sent me a video of this, this kid, he's a high school wrestling champion, right? This kid's
26:35 16, 17 years old. There was a guy that was trying to kidnap three kids in a parking lot. And this
26:41 kid who I was apparently across the street at another gas station sprints across the road and
26:46 gets this guy, slams him, takes him down, and then holds him in a pinned position for three, four,
26:52 five minutes before the cops showed up. He's a kid. He's 16, 17 years old. And in that same video,
27:00 there were other men that, Oh God, I don't want to intercede and they're covering up their faces.
27:06 And at one point, there was a guy that literally, you know, put himself on the wrong side of the
27:10 door of where the danger was. He needed to be on the other side of the door, trying to defend those
27:15 that were weaker than he was. But he, but he wasn't doing that. But this 16, 17 year old high school
27:20 kid was ready to go. He was physically dangerous. And like a sheep dog would he interceded for the
27:27 sheep. Are you prepared to do that? And I'm not talking to the guys like, Oh, well, I want to
27:33 fight when I was 15, you know, I beat up this guy at a party. That doesn't make you physically
27:37 dangerous. That means you want to fight back in the day. What about right now? You're 45 years old
27:43 and you can barely see your toes. But you're not dangerous. If a woman needs you to intercede
27:51 on her behalf, especially your woman, the one that has chosen you, you dope, are you physically
27:56 capable of taking care of her? Have you trained with weaponry? Have you trained with knives or
28:02 guns or any of those types of things? If that is an appropriate thing for you to have in that moment.
28:05 And then if you don't have those things at your disposal, are you are you mentally ready to go
28:11 to enact physical harm on another person? Again, guys, women don't need us to be nice.
28:17 They need us to be dangerous, spiritually, mentally and physically dangerous. And the last thing here
28:25 guys is women don't need us to be nice. Women need us to be meek, meek. And I may be surprising
28:34 to you guys. Some of you smarter guys, you know where I'm going with this. But Jesus back in the
28:38 book of Matthew, Matthew five verse five, this is kind of the be attitude section. He says this,
28:43 blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the earth. And then we also have that one's kind of
28:50 when people talk about meekness, that's the one they normally go to. But I'm more interested in
28:54 Matthew 11 verse 29, I'm going to read from the King James version here because I really like it.
28:58 Take my yoke upon you and learn of me for I am meek and lowly in heart and ye shall find rest
29:07 unto your souls. So the interesting thing about this is Jesus is talking about himself. He's
29:12 describing himself. He's describing, you know, his characteristics, his personality, and he describes
29:17 himself as meek and lowly in heart or humble in heart. And the thing about it is this attaches
29:25 to the previous thing. So this attaches to being dangerous. Because guys, guess what? You can't be
29:32 meek if you're not also dangerous. And so this is where I kind of need to flow a little bit on
29:38 meekness because obviously most people think of meekness as weakness. You've heard people talk
29:42 about this before. I'm certainly not saying anything you haven't heard before. But that's what most
29:46 people think is meekness. That's weakness. That's, you know, the diary of a wimpy kid. That's the
29:51 kid with his shoulders down and doesn't want to make eye contact with anybody. That's meek.
29:55 But that's not what meekness is. And there's an interesting clip. I'm going to play it for you
30:00 here. It's Jordan Peterson is just talking about a minute. So this is a guy again that I don't think
30:04 you could call this guy Christian. He's certainly not a pastor. But this is a guy that is learning
30:09 the scriptures. He's going deep into the scriptures. And he has a very interesting take on the word
30:15 meekness. And the thing about it is is even pastors would not disagree with his opinion here.
30:20 But this is an opinion that I haven't really, or not an opinion necessarily. This is a definition
30:25 of meekness that I don't think is said enough in the church. So I just want to kind of give
30:29 a little bit of a spot here for Jordan Peterson to explain to us how we should look at the word
30:34 meekness. There's a line in the New Testament that says, "And sin the Sermon on the Mount,"
30:38 says the meek shall inherit the earth. And that line always bothered me. I thought,
30:42 no way. That's not right. Meek can't be the right word. So when I was doing this story of Noah and
30:50 talking about the Sermon on the Mount, I spent a bunch of time looking at commentaries on that line,
30:55 looking at the roots, the Greek roots and the Hebrew roots, and trying to figure out what that
30:59 meant. And it meek does not mean meek. That's wrong. Here's what it means. Those who have weapons
31:06 and know how to use them but still keep them sheathed will inherit the earth. Jesus. That's a lot
31:13 different, man. It's a lot better. Because the way it's normally interpreted is if you're so weak
31:22 that you're harmless, then things will go well for you. It's like, no, that's not right. That's
31:27 can't be right. It doesn't fit with the narrative. It certainly doesn't fit with this narrative.
31:32 I mean, I absolutely love that explanation there because that's the most appropriate explanation.
31:37 And again, through society and through kind of modern meanings of words and different things
31:43 like that, we just, we don't get that anymore. When you read the Bible in the English version that
31:47 you're reading it in today and you see the word meek, you don't think of what Jordan Peterson just
31:51 said, but he's correct. And the thing is, guys, is that's what women need from us. They need us to
31:57 have bridled danger. That's why these last two are connected, right? I mean, you got to be present,
32:05 but danger and meekness is connected because Jesus was a dangerous man. But he kept it in check.
32:12 Some of the best men you know, the sheepdogs in your life, the reason why they're sheepdogs is
32:18 not because they just spew out their aggression and their anger and their violence for anybody
32:23 who's willing to take it on the chin. They have a sword. They know how to use it, but they keep it
32:30 sheathed. And how many of you guys could be considered meek? Because some of you guys that
32:38 I'm talking to, you're not meek. You're loud. You're the guy that goes poking the dude in the
32:43 chest at the bar. Like, you want to go outside. You want to see what I'm about? You're the open
32:48 carry guy, right? I don't need that. I got my gun. I'm good to go. You're not meek. You're loud.
32:57 And then you got the other side. You're not meek. You're nice. Gosh, you're just so nice.
33:04 If I'm out of town and something happens with my wife and she's crying and I literally physically
33:10 can't be there, you know, I might have you and your wife go over there because I know you're
33:14 going to hold her hand and you're going to talk to her and it's going to be the sweetest, cutest
33:18 little thing possible. But guess what? If I'm physically unable to be somewhere and my wife is
33:24 in danger, I'm not calling you. She doesn't need a counselor right now. She doesn't need a nice guy.
33:32 She needs a meek guy who's about to show his anger, who's about to show his aggression,
33:40 who's about to show what it is to be righteous and show what it is to be dangerous.
33:45 So to put a bow on this for you guys, again, listen to me. Listen to me here. Women do not need us to be
33:53 nice. They need us to be present. They need us to be dangerous and they need us to be meek.
34:01 All right, guys, before we let you go, we are going to do a quick resilience boost.
34:05 As you know, by now, we are immense ministry and our mission is cultivating manly resilience,
34:09 specifically, we do that by providing you content like this podcast that helps you forge spiritual,
34:14 mental and physical toughness. So for today, I've got a few things for you. I've got that clip
34:18 from the ladder with Crowder show. You start at about 115 26. So again, if you want to listen to
34:24 the Alex Jones stuff and all that, great. Fine. It's up to you. But what I'm talking about is about
34:28 an hour and 15 minutes and 26 seconds in. Then I've also got another video that is the Ali Stucky
34:33 make men masculine again from PragerU. I've got those statistics I cited earlier from fatherhood.org
34:39 in terms of what happens when the father is absent. And then I've got that little clip from
34:43 Jordan Peterson, if you would like to hear him say that live. Thank you guys very much for listening
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Women don't need us to be nice. They need us to be present, dangerous, and meek.
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Those who have weapons and know how to use them but still keep them sheathed will inherit the earth.
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Weak men are nothing more than enablers of wicked men.
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