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This is on Daunted Life of Man's podcast.
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I'm your host Kyle Thompson.
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Let's get into it.
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All right, guys.
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Today, I'm going to be reading you an article and then giving you my immediate reaction.
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This article has definitely been making around, and so I know it's been making the rounds
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in some of your circles as well, but I'm not going to tell you where the article appeared
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just yet.
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I'm going to give you the title.
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I'm going to read it to you.
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It's not that long.
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And then we're going to break it down.
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So the name of the article is why sex work is still work.
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Yes, the title is why sex work is still work.
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So this is an op-ed and the person's name is really hard to pronounce.
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I'm just going to spell it first name is T-L-A-L-E-N-G last name M-O-F-O-K-E-N-G.
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So this is the founder of Nelaine for Reproductive Justice.
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And this is basically an opinion piece that's explaining why she believes that sex work
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should be decriminalized all the way across the globe and across the world.
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So this is what we're going to be getting into here.
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So let's go ahead and get into the article.
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The government of Amsterdam, a city known worldwide for its red light district, will
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ban the popular guided tours through that area starting in 2020.
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The ban stems in part from complaints calling the tours a nuisance that lead to congestion
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in the narrow canal side streets.
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That city officials have also said the ban is out of respect for sex workers.
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It is no longer acceptable in this age to see sex workers as a tourist attraction.
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City Councilor Udu Koch said, according to the Guardian, "There's one problem.
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Many sex workers are opposing this plan.
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Sex work is legal in Amsterdam, but it isn't in many other places, though some people are
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working to make it so.
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In South Africa, where I am based, for instance, sex workers are calling for decriminalization
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and legal reform.
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And they argue that sex work is work, as affirmed by the international labor organization,
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the ILO, a specialized agency of the United Nations.
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This situation in Amsterdam and the continued criminalization of sex workers around the
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world is yet another example of how we disregard the needs and opinions of the people most
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impacted by policies.
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But even more so, it's another example of how we misunderstand what sex work actually
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is.
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I am a doctor, an expert in sexual health, but when you think about it, aren't I a sex
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worker?
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And in some ways, aren't we all?"
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So what exactly is sex work?
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Not all sex workers engage in penetrative sex, though undeniably this is a big part
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of sex work.
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Sex worker services between consenting adults may include companionship, intimacy, nonsexual
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role-playing, dancing, escorting, and stripping.
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These roles are often predetermined, and all parties should be comfortable with them.
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Many workers take on multiple roles with their clients, and some may get more physical while
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other interactions that may have started off as sexual could evolve into emotional and
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psychological bonding.
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The clients who seek sex workers vary, and they're not just men.
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The idea of purchasing intimacy and paying for the services can be affirming for many
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people who need human connection, friendship, and emotional support.
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Some people have fantasies and king preferences that they are able to fulfill with a service
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of a sex worker.
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I find it interesting that as a medical doctor, I exchange payment in the form of money with
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people to provide them with advice and treatment for sex-related problems, therapy for sex
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performance, counseling and therapy for relationship problems, and treatment of sexually transmitted
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infection.
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Isn't this basically sex work?
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I do not believe it is right, or just that people who exchange sexual services for money
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are criminalized, and I am not for what I do.
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Is a medical degree really the right measure of who is deserving of dignity, autonomy,
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safety in the workplace, fair trade, and freedom of employment?
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No.
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This should not be so.
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Those who engage in sex work deserve those things, too.
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Today, online spaces and apps make the interactions and negotiations safer for women sex workers,
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as opposed to soliciting sex outdoors, where the threat of community and police harassment
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remains a concern.
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Recent legislation in the United States makes it harder for sex workers to advertise online,
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however, has complicated this.
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Experts also make it less intimidating for women who are clients to screen and meet potential
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sex workers to cater to their needs.
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Still, continued criminalization of sex work in sex workers is a form of violence by governments
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and contributes to the high level of stigma and discrimination.
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A systematic review of meta-analysis led by the London School of Hygiene and Tropical
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Medicine, for instance, has found that sex workers who have experienced repressive policing,
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having arrest, extortion, and violence from police are three times more likely to experience
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sexual or physical violence.
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But governments often fail to accept the evidence for the economic and social basis for sex work.
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The ILO estimates that sex workers support between five and eight other people with their
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earnings.
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Sex workers also contribute to the economy.
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Governments ignore the nuance histories and contexts in different countries and thus continue
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to wrongfully offer blanket solutions and rescue models that advocate for partial decriminalization
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or continued criminalization.
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They also ignore the wishes of sex workers who want full decriminalization, as supported
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by the Global Commission on HIV and the law, and the Lancet as well as human rights organizations
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like Amnesty International.
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Global efforts towards decriminalization have been growing in some countries such as South
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Africa.
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Women are led by the biggest sex worker movement, Sisunky, sorry I don't know how to sell that,
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and the advocacy and policy work of Sweat.
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These efforts are mirrored by the Global Network of Sex Worker projects and the Dutch Union
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for Sex Workers.
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In July 2018, at the International AIDS Conference in Amsterdam, I joined colleagues and allies
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and marched in solidarity with Prout as they delivered a memorandum to city officials,
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demanding protection of the right of sex workers to work in safe working conditions.
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The moment was important in invigorating the global movement for decriminalization.
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Sex workers must be affirmed through upholding and the protection of their human rights to
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autonomy, dignity, fair labor practices, access to evidence-based care, and others.
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It is for this and many other reasons that I believe sex worker and sex worker rights
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are women's rights, health rights, labor rights, and the litmus test for intersectional feminism.
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Further, the impact of continued criminalization of the majority of sex workers, most of whom
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are cisgender women and transgender women, mean that sex workers' rights are a feminist
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issue.
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If you support women's rights, I urge you to support the global demand for sex work
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decriminalization and fund evidence and rights-based intersectional programs aimed at sex workers
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and their clients.
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We must support efforts to address structural barriers and ensure the implementation of
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a comprehensive package of health services for sex workers as advised by the World Health
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Organization and fund public campaigns to decrease stigma.
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Evidence, not morality, should guide law reforms and sex work policy for full sex work decriminalization.
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So that's the end of the article there.
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Oh, man, I feel like I got dumber.
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Just reading that for like the last six minutes or so.
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But anyway, we'll kind of move past that.
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So again, as I told you from the top, I gave you the article, I gave you the name of the
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article.
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It didn't do, and before, I guess, before we get into me ripping this garbage article
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to shreds, I need to point out one little teensy-weensy important thing.
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And that is where this was published.
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This article was published in Teen Vogue Magazine.
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That's again, Teen Vogue Magazine.
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An article basically saying two thumbs up for sex work appeared in a publication that
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is aimed at little girls, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16-year-old girls is the demographic of the
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readership for Teen Vogue Magazine.
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So we're going to talk about that a little bit more here at the end.
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But that's at least a little bit concerning, isn't it?
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Especially for my dads out there listening.
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But there's so much in this article that could be broken down.
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But there's just a few sections that I think are going to be most important for us to kind
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of go over.
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So I'm going to pull those sections out.
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I'll reread those short sections to you, and then we'll talk a little bit about it
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there.
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And these are going to be in order so you can find them later on if you're scanning through
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the article.
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So here's the first quote I want to talk about here.
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"I am a doctor, an expert in sexual health.
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But when you think about it, aren't I a sex worker?
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And in some ways, aren't we all?"
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What is she even talking about?
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Okay.
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So here's the thing.
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Is if you've got like half your brain remaining in your head, the thing where she says aren't
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I just a sex worker because she works in sexual health, yeah, you could probably see that.
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You could probably say, okay, yeah, you're a person that's an expert in sex and you work
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on it.
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So you could say you're a sex worker.
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But obviously in the context of this article, as she says throughout, sex worker means somebody
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who is paid to give people sexual favors.
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Most of the time, which is penetrative, right?
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But when she says, and in some ways, aren't we all?
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Where is she getting off, including all of us in our respective fields and our respective
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things that we're experts at or the things that we at least have experience in?
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Where in the world is she getting this idea that aren't we all sex workers?
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Because the idea in my head that comes to mind when I think about a sex worker, somebody
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that works in the sex industry.
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And that sells parts of their bodies to other people or for the eyeballs of other people,
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right?
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That's what I think of.
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So you can see at the beginning of this, this is a very kind of easy slide of hand for
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someone like this, but they're trying to bring us all into the story, right?
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It's almost like whenever you're afraid that you're going to take the blame for something,
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you start to spread it around a little bit.
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And so she's trying to make this grandiose statement that, hey, we're all in this together.
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We're all in this big, large group, we could all be sex workers.
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So but if you have a fully developed adult brain, you can obviously read that and say
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that, okay, that's, that's pretty darn ridiculous.
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So this next section here, this is a little bit like that quote before, but I'll go and
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give you this and then we'll go ahead and get into it.
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So here's a quote.
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I find it interesting that as a medical doctor, I exchange payment in the form of money with
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people to provide them with advice and treatment for sex related problems, therapy for sexual
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performance, counseling and therapy for relationship problems, and treatment of sexually transmitted
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infection.
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Isn't this basically sex work?
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I do not believe it is right or just that people who exchange sexual services for money
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are criminalized.
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And I am not for what I do is a medical degree, really the right measure of who is deserving
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of dignity, autonomy, safety in the workplace, fair trade, and the freedom of employment.
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No, this should not be so those who engage in sex work deserve those things to unquote.
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So obviously she kind of makes at the beginning side of that.
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She says, isn't this basically sex work?
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No, it's not basically sex work because you talked to people about sexual performance.
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I mean, she would, what would she say?
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Because I've mentioned the word sex on this podcast and I'm a sex worker.
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It's nonsense.
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It's a ridiculous thing.
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But again, she's lamenting the fact that her profession is not criminalized, but at no
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point do we have any indication that she's tried to change the law to make that the truth.
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She wants to decriminalize sex work, but she also at the same time is including what she
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does, which is legal in the category of sex work.
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So wouldn't she just be just as happy to criminalize what she's doing?
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I mean, why isn't she going?
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She's from South Africa.
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Why isn't she going to the local magistrates or people that create the legislature over
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there and say, hey, I would like to be criminalized for the things that I'm doing.
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That would be absurd.
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They'd probably laugh her right out of the courtroom, but at the same time, isn't that
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kind of the same thing that she's wanting?
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It's a silly, silly statement for her to make, but she's making it again.
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That's attached to the last one, but let's go ahead and move on here to the next quote.
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So here we go.
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Quote, still continued criminalization of sex work and sex workers is a form of violence
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by governments and contributes to the high level of stigma and decriminalization.
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Okay, that's unquote, unquote there.
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So here's the thing.
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This is one of those people.
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This is obviously someone that's on the very far left, the fringes of the left even that
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thinks speech is violence or that certain laws, criminalizing things that are on the spectrum
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of morality, good and bad morality, that that is somehow violence.
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So just in case you've never heard this quote before, I'm not coming up with this quote
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myself.
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I didn't come up with this, but here's the quote, speech is not violence.
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Words are not violence.
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I can say, I'm going to punch you in the nose.
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That is not akin to me punching you in the nose.
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Now if I say I'm going to punch you in the nose and then I do it, it's kind of like,
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Hey, I gave you a hint.
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You knew this was coming, but this is another attempt by her to pretend as if we are harming
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mainly these women that are selling their bodies to other people.
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That somehow the fact that we keep it illegal makes it a very, carry kind of this negative
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stigma that somehow making this illegal is akin to discrimination.
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But if she were in front of me, I would ask her discrimination in what way like, what
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do you mean?
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And she would probably respond with, well, this is their chosen profession and this is
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how they chose to make money and how they want to make money.
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And we'll deal with that want part here more in a little bit.
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But let's go ahead and get into the next quote here, quote, governments ignore the nuanced
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histories and contexts in different countries and thus continue to wrongfully offer blanket
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solutions and rescue models that advocate for partial decriminalization or continued
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criminalization.
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They also ignore the wishes of sex workers who want full decriminalization, unquote.
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So here's the thing.
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She at the very beginning of that, she's saying, Oh, well, you, we just don't understand the
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nuance, but, but clearly she does that this, this lady understands the nuance.
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She understands fully the nuance histories and contexts in different countries.
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She's the one that we should be listening to this person who's writing 14 Vogue.
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She's obviously a mental and intellectual heavyweight.
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But the interesting thing at the end is she says they also ignore the wishes of sex workers
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who want full decriminalization.
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So you're telling me that criminals want what they're doing to break the law, to be decriminalized.
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You don't say I wonder if people that run drugs wish it was decriminalized now it would
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affect how much they're able to sell their products for because that's just basic market
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economics.
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But at the same time, what point are you making here?
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They also ignore the wishes of sex workers who want full decriminalization.
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I bet they do.
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I bet the ones that are there fully in there, especially the men that are typically running
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these women would prefer for that to happen, right?
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Unless taxes get involved and all those different things, but this is such a silly thing that
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it's, Oh, weird criminals want their crimes to be decriminalized.
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It's just another sentence that literally ends up nowhere.
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It's just kind of another circular argument.
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But let's go to the last couple of quotes here.
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So here's the second to last one quote, sex workers must be affirmed through upholding
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and the protection of their human rights to autonomy, dignity, fair labor practices, access
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to evidence based care.
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It is for this and many other reasons that I believe sex work and sex worker rights are
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women's rights, health rights, labor rights, and the litmus test for intersectional feminism.
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It's that last sentence there that really I think actually did actively kill brain cells,
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brain cells in my head, like it's hard to even put words together at this exact moment.
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But she's drawing an unbelievable connective line here, an unbelievable line.
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And that line is the line between prostitution and women's rights.
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As this, this is something that we should be championing.
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But if you're a first, second, or third wave feminist, or if you're someone that's just
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in port in support of feminist ideas, that this is an idea that we all need to get behind.
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But she turns it into this gigantic category of women's rights, health rights, labor rights,
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and this one, which is just one of the dumbest phrases in the history of the planet.
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The litmus test for the intersectional feminism.
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Wow.
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The litmus test for intersectional feminism.
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It's just incredible.
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I mean, you could probably, there are probably entire studies, entire sectors of gender studies
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that you could dedicate just to that one incredible sentence.
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But again, it's this idea that we need to affirm these women.
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We need to affirm these quote, unquote choices that they've made to get into this line of
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work.
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More on that here in a little bit.
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But let's go and get into the last quote here, quote, further, the impact of continued criminalization
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of the majority of sex workers, most of whom are cisgender women and transgender women mean
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that sex worker rights are a feminist issue.
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If you support women's rights, I urge you to support the global demand for sex work
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to criminalization and fund evidence and rights based intersectional programs aimed at sex
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workers and their clients, unquote.
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So we should join in and support these individuals.
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And the thing is, is she's trying to draw a line between people that think that this
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is a good idea and people that don't think this is a good idea.
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Because she says, if you support women's rights dot dot dot, which I think everyone listening
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to this podcast supports women's rights, right?
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Because the overwhelming majority of my listeners here are Christian men, right?
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And if you're not a Christian, we're ecstatic that you're listening into this.
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We hope that you're getting something out of it.
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But of course, we understand that women's rights are appropriate because we understand
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that women have the Amago day, we understand that they have the image of God written on
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their souls.
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They're owned by him, their, their souls were purchased at the cost of Jesus's life.
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We understand that.
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But to someone like this, I'm going to go out on a limb here and say this person's probably
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a secular humanist, probably an atheist or agnostic.
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What is her basis for women's rights?
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I mean, where does she get her paradigm?
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It makes no sense.
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But the thing about this article is that teen Vogue, I think they knew what they were doing.
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I think they knew whenever they put this out that they were going to get some flack and
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obviously they've been receiving severe amounts of flack for this.
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But this is the same publication that back in 2017 brought us the, you know, incredible
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article anal sex, what you need to know again, this is teen Vogue 12 to 16 year old girls
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is who's reading this, anal sex, what you need to know.
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And the thing is, is back in 2017, if you were paying attention, if you express any
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negativity towards that article, you already know where this is going.
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It's because you're homophobic.
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Ah.
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So if you think it's inappropriate for a magazine to post an article telling you about the internal
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and external things that could happen during anal sex and you're a young girl, if you express
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any dissent to that, oh gosh, you're just a homophobe.
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The thought of anal sex to you just seems to be so, so bad, right?
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That was their main, their main line of argumentation.
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But again, there, there's a lot of things that you can deal with and there's a lot of
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worldview implications for an article like this and it's certainly been making the rounds,
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you know, by the time you're listening to this, it's probably going to be a week or two, you
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know, just we've moved on to the next crazy thing that's happened.
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But there are several key observations that I wanted to make from this that I think is
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especially pertinent to our audience here, okay?
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So the first key observation is this, almost 100% of the women in sex work would rather
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be doing something else.
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I mean, how many of these people when they were little girls, whenever they're going
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around and the teacher's like, "What do you want to be when you grow up?"
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And little Jimmy's like, "I want to be an astronaut."
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And little Jimmy's like, "I want to be a teacher."
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And then you ask, you know, little Rachel and she's like, "I want to, I almost said
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something, crude.
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I want to have sex with people for money."
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I mean, they, they, they, it's so flummoxing like I'm sitting here like stumbling over
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my words.
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Like, what do they think these women want to be doing?
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I mean, you can just look on the internet and look for these, these articles and these
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stories and these YouTube videos of these women that have been saved mainly by ministries
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or by other types of people and, and been rescued from sex work of all kinds and listen
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to the deep amounts of regret that these women have.
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The entire time they didn't think they had another option, right?
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They didn't think there was another option out there for them.
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They were uneducated.
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They were poor.
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They had family to support, right?
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And so this was something where, you know, they were able to make what would, a lot of
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people would consider to be really, really good money and all they had to do was sell
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their bodies.
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But to make this implication that the majority of these women want to be doing this is absurd
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and gross.
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And the second key observation is this is that the majority of women in sex work have
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suffered from some form of sexual or mental abuse.
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And the majority of them are, are currently that are currently in this line of work are
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suffering from sexual and mental abuse.
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They have pimps or they have people that are controlling them that, that are keeping them
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locked down, you know, Hollywood and other people and other kind of like fringy feminists
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want to make it seem like this is just a really controlled environment that you go into this
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very sterile and clean environment.
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You know, put your money into the slot and you walk into the room and you have a, you
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shake hands.
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"Hi, this is me.
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Hi, this is you.
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You know, what would you like me to wear for this particular occasion?"
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And then you go in there, you get your jollies off and then you move on with your day.
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Under what circumstances could you possibly believe that that's how this goes?
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Now, you're listening to this from a guy that has never participated in this particular
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line of work, never been to a strip club, never even been around a prostitute as far
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as I can tell, but the idea that these women are just fully healthy and still choosing
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to do this is rich.
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It's absolutely rich.
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The fourth observation I want to talk to you about is this is that society is moving
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towards the normalization of pedophilia.
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And this is just another step in that direction.
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And now obviously this seems like a pretty, pretty sizable shift up here, but you just
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have to think about this guys.
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Again, this is teen Vogue magazine.
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Again, follow me here, follow me.
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This is teen Vogue magazine.
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And this is an article that essentially is encouraging girls below the age of 18, most
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of which are quite a bit below the age of 18, encouraging them to get into sex work because
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they're normalizing it.
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Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, you know, that some people go out and their busser is it out back
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or they're, you know, they're helping people clean up stuff at the golf course or, you
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know, maybe they got an internship with an accounting firm, but you know what, you could
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always just, you know, pull off your top, have people pay for it, give you $1 bills.
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You get enough of those.
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You'll be fine.
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Few lab dances a night.
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That'll help pay the rent.
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But the big thing about it here is one of the things that predators love are underage individuals
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that believe that is what is happening to them is normal.
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Tell me again, follow me here because one of the things that pedophiles do, you can see
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this, it's all over the literature and the research here with pedophiles is they are
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trying to groom the people, the young boys and the young girls over time so that they
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can eventually take advantage of them sexually because for a lot of these individuals, for
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a lot of these young people, let's just talk about young girls.
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If you were to just go right into the things that you eventually do with these girls from
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the very beginning, it's going to seem so otherworldly and so shocking and scarring that it's probably
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going to be a negative reaction.
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You're probably going to get caught because they're probably going to tell somebody.
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But you see this overwhelming amount of time and effort spent by these pedophiles to normalize
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their presence first, normalize the fact that, you know, it's just normal that this person
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is around.
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And then it's just normal that this person's going to hug you a little bit longer than
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other people do.
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But it's normal that this person is going to touch you in areas and in ways that no one
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else does.
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And so on and so forth.
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Don't worry.
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I'm not going to go all the way with that particular line of thinking.
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But this is the best thing that a pedophile could think of because that's got to really
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try your patience if you're a pedophile, right?
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Because you just want to get your jolly's off as quickly as possible.
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But if you have to spend weeks or months kind of normalizing and grooming this individual,
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gosh, it just kind of keeps you from getting to where you want to be, right?
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But whenever they think that this is normal, that if you just take payment as if this is
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just some sort of a service that you provide, right, then that's great.
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And society is doing a lot of things.
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Now, I'll probably do an entire podcast episode on the future in this, but it seems like drag
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queens are everywhere right now, right?
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You know, we have drag queen storytime at libraries and we have, you know, nine year
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old boys that are, you know, world famous as drag queens now.
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These highly sexualized forms of women, even though they are boys or young men.
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But if we normalize it, it's not going to be that big of a deal.
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And people always, whenever you start making the slippery soak argument, argument, they're
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like, Oh, gosh, here we go.
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This conservative Christian making the slippery slope argument.
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Here we go again.
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But the thing about it is, is that's how the world works.
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Because when you push past a certain line, and that line becomes established, you can
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continue pushing past the new line that you've established.
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That's how slippery slopes work because there were things that, you know, one generation
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ago were absolutely unfathomable, you know, think about gay marriage.
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That was unfathomable one generation ago.
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And now it's old hat.
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Right now it seems unfathomable that we would think that polygamy is something that we should
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be able to do.
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But if love is love, right?
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If love is just love, then why can't a man have more than one wife?
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Why can a woman have more than one husband?
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And then the line eventually is pushed to, well, if love is love, and I'm a 30 year old
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man and you're a 15 year old girl, well, that's enough for consent, right?
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We love each other.
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I mean, if love is love, right?
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You see what I'm saying?
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These arguments are absurd, but this is where society is pushing you.
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When society doesn't have anything to anchor itself to, namely a God that gave us these
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rules for morality, then we just have to make it up.
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And we make it up based on logic and reason alone, which takes us down this path.
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In the last observation I want to make for you guys here is dads.
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You better be paying attention.
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There's a lot of dads listening to this right now and you've got little girls.
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Are they reading Teen Vogue?
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Are there friends reading Teen Vogue?
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Are they reading articles about anal sex, about sex work, about how to pleasure their
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boyfriend, how to do all these different things that adults do?
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What are they reading guys?
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What are their friends reading?
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What articles are they sharing back and forth?
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What types of pictures are they sharing?
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You know those pictures that disappear after a day on Snapchat?
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What's in those pictures?
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Do they have a boyfriend?
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What kind of pictures are they sharing back and forth?
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What kind of things are they talking about?
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Because guess what guys?
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Once they get outside of the bubble of your house, they're in society's bubble.
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And in society's bubble, you get stuff like this article.
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Normalizing sex work, prostitution, stripping, escorting, all those things just normalizes
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it.
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So this is my encouragement to you dads.
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And again, I'm giving advice to dads even though I don't have kids myself, right?
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But if I'm wrong, tell me otherwise it's probably just good advice.
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You got to be on top of this and you got to be on top of this from an early age.
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And I'm not excluding the boys here because there are obviously other concerns with the
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boys.
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But the statistics on girls and boys, especially around things like pornography, are damning.
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The age that these youngins are looking at pornography keeps getting younger and younger
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every year.
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Eventually it has to stop just because of, you know, that's the way the world works.
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I mean, you can't really have a one year old doesn't really know what that looks like,
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right?
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But it just keeps getting younger and younger.
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And so through pornography, things like hardcore sex are being normalized in the minds of these
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girls.
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That's what the research says as well.
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It's because they're basically getting their cues, right?
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They're getting their cues from what they see on these videos.
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And they're seeing these, these hardcore pornography images or videos that basically say, oh,
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if I'm the girl in this scenario, I need to, I need to want this and I need to need to
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be in pain, but enjoy it.
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I need to do all these things, right?
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Because that's normal.
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Oh, you know, if my boyfriend wants to have anal sex, it's just, well, I read that article
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and I kind of know what to expect now.
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So, so let's just go ahead and do that.
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Oh, you know, protection is one thing.
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But, you know, I don't really want to be limited, right?
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And so if I really want to be with somebody at that exact moment and there's no protection
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available, you know, I should still be able to make that decision because, you know, bodily
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autonomy and whatnot, you know, but guys, we've got to get real.
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Our girls are going to be exposed to so many things and we won't be around.
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If you're an uncle out there or if you've got best friends, I've got daughters like you've
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got to share this type of information around, share this podcast, share these articles that
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I'm going to share with you in just a second because we got to be aware because I know
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a lot of guys are just aloof.
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You just don't know exactly when the other foot's going to drop and you're just trying
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to make sure that you keep your head above water and you keep your job and you keep your
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wife off your back and you, you know, you keep the lawn mode and you keep all these
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different things.
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Sometimes you forget that you need to protect the people that can't be, you can't protect
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themselves like your daughters.
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So for all you fathers out there, be dutiful, like they live in your house for the most
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part, right?
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So the phone that they have is not their phone.
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It's your phone.
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So you go through that whenever the heck you want to.
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You don't need my permission by any means, but I do know guys out there that are absolutely
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afraid of their teenage daughters and for good reason.
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I mean, I in my own family, my sister doesn't even talk to my dad hasn't talked to him for
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like two decades, right? And the guy never did anything to her.
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So since she was a teenager, she just decided that she wasn't going to have a relationship
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with my father.
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I mean, well, it's inexplicable.
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So I understand logically why some of you guys out there are so afraid of your daughters,
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how they can just make you feel so small, but that is your daughter.
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You have been charged with protecting her.
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Your wife can't protect her the same way that you can.
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So allow this to be the encouragement to you guys that society is going to continue to teach
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these things to them.
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You have to do enough things to counteract the nonsense that they're being spewed.
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All right, guys, before we get out of here, we're going to do a quick resilience boost.
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So today I'm going to give you a rundown.
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I obviously am going to include the Teen Vogue article called sex work is real work, but
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there's a couple of opinion pieces that were written in response to this.
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One is by national review or it was written on national review.
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It's called Teen Vogue support of sex work is delusional and dangerous.
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So that's a good one there.
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And then there's another one from the USA today which says, Hey, Teen Vogue on career
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day.
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No young girl should say I want to be a prostitute.
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So I thought those were two very well done responses to this article in addition to what
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