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066 - Leaving Neverland

March 14, 2019 40m 19s Full transcript available
066 - Leaving Neverland
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In this episode, we dive deep into the HBO documentary 'Leaving Neverland,' which exposes the horrific sexual abuse allegations against Michael Jackson. We discuss the implications of celebrity culture, the psychological manipulation of victims, and the moral dilemmas surrounding separating art from the artist.
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0:00 (upbeat music)
0:02 This is "I'm Daunted Life of Man's Podcast."
0:13 I'm your host Kyle Thompson, let's get into it.
0:15 All right guys, today we are gonna be talking
0:17 about the documentary film that has been in the news
0:20 literally since the moment it came out.
0:22 And we're obviously talking about leaving Neverland.
0:25 So this thing came out as of the recording
0:27 of this podcast, it came out, you know,
0:29 a week and a half ago, but it's still in the headlines.
0:31 Every day you go to Google News
0:33 or any type of a news source,
0:34 you still see some sort of an update on this.
0:37 So if you haven't heard of it,
0:38 this was the explosive four hour long HBO documentary
0:42 that details specific sexual assault
0:45 and pedophilia allegations
0:47 against the deceased pop star Michael Jackson, okay?
0:50 So these allegations specifically came from Wade Robson
0:53 and James Safechuck.
0:55 So both of these guys are kind of the center points,
0:57 the center pieces of this four hour long documentary.
1:00 And if the name Wade Robson sounds familiar,
1:02 this guy really rose to fame.
1:03 I guess this would have been what, early 2000s
1:06 or something when in sync and Britney Spears
1:08 are really kind of hitting stride.
1:09 He was the guy I guess did all their choreography
1:12 and stuff like that.
1:13 So if you watched MTV around that time,
1:15 you would really make sure,
1:17 you would probably remember this guy.
1:18 So I remember watching the documentary and be like,
1:19 "Who is this guy?"
1:20 And then finally it hit me.
1:22 But basically in this documentary,
1:24 there was the claim that these two boys weighed in James
1:27 that they were sexually assaulted by Jackson
1:29 at his home, Neverland Ranch,
1:31 in addition to several other places,
1:33 including when the boys would be on tour with Jackson.
1:37 And so the age ranges of when the abuse happened
1:39 was kind of the same for both boys.
1:41 It was like six, seven, eight years old
1:43 through 13, 14 years old, that type of a thing.
1:47 And here's the thing,
1:48 the families of the boys were also a part of this documentary.
1:52 So if it was just focusing on the boys,
1:54 which it was mainly focused on them,
1:55 that would be one thing.
1:56 But they did a lot of diving into the parents
2:00 and the siblings as well,
2:02 but mainly the mothers of these two boys.
2:05 But the thing about these families is,
2:07 especially the parents,
2:08 is the families were essentially groomed by Michael Jackson.
2:12 So the families were apparently taken
2:14 on these lavish trips, given money, houses,
2:17 really it was the good life.
2:19 One of the mothers talked about,
2:20 really was like we were living the good life, right?
2:22 So he's kind of romancing the entire family.
2:26 And the thing about Michael Jackson is as you can remember,
2:29 even while the allegations were swirling,
2:31 Michael Jackson was constantly seeing traveling
2:34 and interacting with young boys.
2:36 I mean, there's just video and audio
2:39 and pictures of him interacting with these young boys
2:42 all the time.
2:44 And I mean, as a little kid,
2:45 whenever Michael Jackson was really, really famous,
2:47 I was a little, little kid.
2:48 And I didn't think anything of it
2:50 'cause there was nothing to think of it, right?
2:53 But many people that have defended Michael Jackson
2:56 over the years in some of his sexual assault allegations,
2:59 many of them said that, you know,
3:00 Michael Jackson, he's just a kid at heart.
3:02 You know, he just, he never really had a childhood.
3:05 And you know, so maybe he's kind of living out
3:08 his boyhood fantasies now as an adult.
3:10 You know, he's, he basically lives at a theme park
3:13 and he's got all these different rides and, you know,
3:15 zoo animals and all these different things.
3:17 But that, there's really no issues, right?
3:19 That, you know, it might be weird
3:21 if a guy down the street from you
3:22 and your neighborhood was doing some of the things
3:24 that he was doing, but not Michael Jackson.
3:26 I mean, this is Michael Jackson we're talking about, right?
3:28 So those were some of the things that people would give you
3:30 in terms of their excuses whenever people would start
3:33 to question why he was hanging around these young boys.
3:36 But really a lot of this came to head in 1993,
3:39 whenever Michael Jackson was investigated
3:41 for sexually assaulting a boy named Jordan Chandler
3:44 and the boy was 13 years old at the time
3:47 of the alleged assaults and those allegations.
3:50 And the thing about this is this was the most explosive story,
3:52 right in the early 90s.
3:54 And so again, I was a little too young
3:55 to really understand the news cycles and things like that.
3:58 But it was, it was international news,
4:00 but it kind of went away quietly.
4:03 And the reason it went away quietly is because it was settled
4:05 out of court for $15 million.
4:08 That's in 1993.
4:09 That's not that long ago, but still that, I mean,
4:12 that's huge, huge money, right?
4:14 Even for today.
4:15 Now the defenders of Michael Jackson around this time,
4:18 you know, they basically said that this was a money grab
4:20 by the Chandler family and that most people,
4:23 basically universally, they believed Jackson's story.
4:26 And we'll get more into that a little bit
4:28 as to why maybe they wanted to believe that.
4:30 But about a decade later, there was a documentary release
4:33 in 2003 called living with Michael Jackson.
4:37 And so it kind of brought these allegations
4:39 and things back to light.
4:40 Basically this documentary in the early 2000s,
4:43 it detailed Jackson, you know, sharing a bed with young boys,
4:46 amongst other things.
4:47 And so some of these things, whenever you're seeing a guy,
4:50 you know, walking around with these young boys
4:51 and, you know, holding hands with them or, you know,
4:53 taking pictures with them, it's like, okay,
4:55 you can kind of suspend belief.
4:56 But when you start hearing about a grown man,
4:59 you know, literally sleeping in bed with young boys,
5:02 like boys are seven, eight, nine years old, right?
5:05 That started to basically bring these things up again.
5:07 So because of that documentary,
5:09 Michael Jackson was actually charged with child molestation,
5:12 serving alcohol to a minor conspiracy and kidnapping, okay?
5:16 So these are huge charges.
5:17 Again, international news all over again,
5:19 because the only thing that had happened from 1993 to 2003
5:23 is that Michael Jackson had become an even bigger star, right?
5:25 He was the biggest star, maybe ever to live
5:28 other than maybe Elvis or the members of the Beatles
5:31 before the before 1993, but by the time of 2003,
5:34 he's kind of in an era of his own, right?
5:36 Like he's kind of ascended to a place
5:38 that no one really has ever ascended to
5:40 and maybe won't ever again.
5:42 The trial actually began in 2005
5:45 and without getting too much into the details of the trial,
5:47 'cause I'm sure you don't really give a crap about that.
5:50 And also it's kind of old news.
5:51 He was found not guilty on all charges,
5:54 but you kind of had the famous video of him
5:56 at Neverland Ranch wearing his red shirt, his face,
5:59 you know, being all weird from all the different surgeries
6:02 he had gotten basically saying how he would never
6:05 hurt a child and, you know, these allegations are bad.
6:08 And, you know, I can't believe anybody would think
6:11 I would do this and, you know, it's so embarrassing for me.
6:13 The police came in and took pictures of my penis
6:16 and my buttocks and my lower torso and all these other things.
6:18 And you just remember all these things happening.
6:21 And you also remember kind of feeling bad for the guy.
6:24 Because, I mean, I think I've mentioned this before
6:26 in other podcasts, there's not really much worse
6:28 a treatment that you could get in life
6:30 than to be non-credibly accused
6:32 of sexually assaulting a minor, right?
6:34 Like that's one of the craziest things
6:35 I could possibly, possibly happen.
6:37 But this is something that's just part
6:39 of the Michael Jackson story.
6:41 Now, going back to the documentary a little bit,
6:43 the two main subjects of leaving Neverland,
6:45 they basically detail the abuse that they suffered.
6:49 And it sounded a lot like the other alleged abuses
6:53 by other boys, right?
6:54 So we see a lot of the same things from the 1993 case,
6:58 the same thing from the 2003 case
7:00 and other ancillary things that have come up here and there.
7:02 And guys, this is gonna be graphic,
7:04 the description I'm about to give.
7:05 So if you are listening to this with your children
7:07 or something like that, perhaps you can pause this
7:08 or you can skip over it or something like that,
7:10 because the thing about it is,
7:11 we don't sanitize anything here on this podcast
7:14 and we're certainly not gonna do so with this.
7:15 So what these two guys said that Michael Jackson would do,
7:19 it was kind of the same progression.
7:20 So it would basically start with them,
7:23 hanging out a lot together,
7:24 it would start with them sleeping in the same room, right?
7:28 So when you think of room,
7:29 you're thinking probably the room that you're in right now.
7:31 But when Michael Jackson had a room,
7:33 it was like, his one room might have multiple stories to it,
7:36 right?
7:37 So he might be in his room,
7:38 but you know, there's a bed downstairs
7:40 and there's a bed upstairs, that type of a thing.
7:42 But then it would eventually get to the point
7:44 where he and the boy would be sleeping in the same bed, right?
7:49 Then Michael Jackson would apparently start to fondle
7:52 the boys' genitals over their clothes, right?
7:55 And then that would go into fondling their genitals
7:58 under their clothes, showing the boys how to masturbate,
8:02 showing them how to masturbate each other,
8:04 basically jerk each other off.
8:06 Jackson would eventually suck the boy's penises.
8:09 And then as you could probably imagine,
8:10 he would eventually convince the boys
8:12 and show them how they could suck his penis.
8:16 He would make them watch hardcore pornography.
8:18 At different points, he would serve them alcohol, right?
8:21 To, I guess, get the inhibitions of a seven year old boy
8:24 to be a little bit more acquiescent.
8:26 He would also make the boys sit naked
8:29 on the end of the bed and they would be on all fours,
8:33 basically exposing their anuses.
8:35 And so he would basically be staring at their anuses
8:37 while they would master, while he would masturbate.
8:39 And at different points, he would come up
8:41 and lick the boys' anuses.
8:43 And all of this kind of led to what he would eventually
8:45 try to do, which was eventually,
8:47 annually penetrate the boys with his penis, right?
8:51 I know that that's really, really uncomfortable
8:53 to kind of go through.
8:54 But that's essentially the behavior
8:57 that Michael Jackson was exhibiting here.
8:59 These are some of the things that he did.
9:00 'Cause I think we're kind of past the point now
9:03 of calling these things alleged crimes, right?
9:06 I mean, the evidence is just pretty damning.
9:08 At this point, I really just don't think we can get away
9:10 with calling these things alleged crimes anymore.
9:12 And that's something that this guy was doing.
9:14 This was a normal behavior for him.
9:16 And he did this literally every day.
9:19 'Cause one of the things you get from this documentary
9:21 is he had a constant, you know,
9:23 basically wheel of boys in his life.
9:26 And when boys would kind of age out, as it were,
9:29 I guess they were no longer very attractive
9:32 to Michael Jackson, he would kind of have a new boy come in,
9:35 right?
9:35 And he would kind of take him through the same thing,
9:37 kind of woo the family and go from there.
9:39 But the behavior that was being exhibited here by Jackson
9:43 was that of someone that knew what he was doing was wrong
9:46 but had this compulsion that he couldn't stop
9:50 but also wanted to take precautions
9:53 to ensure that he wouldn't get caught.
9:54 The documentary does a great job of going into some
9:57 of these precautions and some of the practical precautions
9:59 he had where, you know, he would have rooms.
10:02 So initially, you know, if you were in a hotel,
10:04 like if the family was traveling with Michael Jackson
10:06 on tour or something like that, you know,
10:07 they would have hotel rooms be right next to one another.
10:10 But then on subsequent trips,
10:12 the parents' rooms would become further and further away
10:16 from Michael's rooms, right?
10:18 Just slowly but surely, right?
10:20 In his residences, he had multiple locks on the doors, right?
10:23 So if you could kind of hear somebody jostling
10:26 with the locks if you were gonna be doing something.
10:28 He also had a hallway that led to his room
10:32 and it had, he rigged it up to where there were like sensors
10:36 and bells.
10:37 So if anybody was coming down the hallway,
10:38 it would alert him in his room.
10:40 So if obviously he was raping a kid at that point,
10:43 he could, you know, have him take care of it
10:45 but also one of the things he did with the boys
10:46 and one of the boys actually detailed this
10:49 in the documentary.
10:51 He basically said he would do dry runs with Michael Jackson
10:54 where basically they would, you know,
10:56 take all their clothes off real quick
10:57 and then they would see how quickly and quietly
11:00 they could put all their clothes back on.
11:01 And so Michael kind of treated it like it was a game, right?
11:04 But obviously Michael Jackson was being practical
11:06 in that if they heard or saw someone coming, right?
11:10 Someone might reasonably get into the room
11:12 before they were able to put all their clothes back on
11:15 and then the jig was up at that point, right?
11:17 So at that point, he was basically grooming these kids
11:19 to, you know, basically in a practical way,
11:22 get all their clothes back on
11:23 and pretend like nothing was ever happening.
11:25 But in addition to basically some of the practical preparation,
11:28 Michael Jackson was doing,
11:29 he was also doing psychological preparation.
11:31 So he was convincing the boys
11:33 that they were in a loving relationship.
11:36 So that was some of the psychological parts
11:38 that he was doing is he would always talk about them
11:41 in these glowing terms.
11:43 And again, you got to remember,
11:44 these little boys were fans of his, right?
11:46 I mean, they literally worshiped the ground
11:48 that this guy Moon walked on,
11:50 but at the same time, like he was doing these things to them
11:52 but they're little, so they can't really reconcile the two,
11:55 right?
11:56 He also started basically planting these seeds of discontent
12:00 in the minds of the kids when it came to their parents.
12:03 So he was kind of helping drive a wedge
12:06 between the boys and their parents
12:07 and specifically the moms
12:08 'cause the moms were the ones that were around more often
12:11 in both of these cases.
12:12 And so just basically these little comments basically saying,
12:15 you can't trust anybody, especially women.
12:17 You know, he would say things like no one on the outside
12:20 would understand us, you know, talking to the kids, right?
12:23 No one's gonna understand us.
12:24 So we need to keep this a secret
12:26 because if we let this secret out,
12:28 people just aren't gonna get it, right?
12:30 They don't get it like you get it and like I get it.
12:32 And you know, if something happens to us,
12:34 you know, we're gonna get in a lot of hot water, right?
12:37 If these things come out and he just kept reminding them
12:39 that, hey, if you tell anybody,
12:41 then I go to jail for the rest of my life
12:43 and you'll go to jail for the rest of your life, right?
12:45 So you're putting two types of psychological dangers
12:49 in the mind of the kid, one, that their idol
12:51 is gonna go to jail forever,
12:53 which is a terrible thing to think about,
12:54 but then also they themselves would be going to jail.
12:57 So the thing about this is the documentary came out.
13:01 In terms of a documentary, it's well done
13:05 and no one can really go against, you know,
13:07 how it was made or something like that.
13:09 But this has not stopped Jackson's fans
13:12 from coming out of the woodwork
13:14 to defend their dead favorite pop icon, right?
13:18 Now, the thing about his fans that have come out after this,
13:21 basically, you know, shouting down
13:23 and flaming this documentary is that none of them,
13:26 of course, have any firsthand knowledge
13:28 of the incidents, right?
13:29 None of them are even ancillary connected to anybody
13:32 that's in the Jackson camp or Jackson family
13:34 or any of those things.
13:35 But they just like his music, right?
13:38 And we'll get more into that in here just a second
13:41 because that is really, really pertinent
13:42 to what we're gonna be talking about.
13:44 But they're basically outraged
13:46 that these allegations came up after Jackson had died, right?
13:49 As if the first time anyone had ever made these allegations,
13:53 it was after the man had been dead.
13:54 I think he's been dead for almost 10 years, right?
13:56 And so there's outrage that these allegations
13:59 would come out against the man
14:00 who's not there to defend himself
14:02 as if, you know, that's kind of the main issue, right?
14:05 And both the accusers in the documentary
14:07 had previously testified on Jackson's behalf
14:10 during his court cases, right?
14:13 And so here's the thing where I kind of like, you know,
14:15 I can kind of see their perspective is both of these men
14:18 that have since come out and said that Michael Jackson
14:20 did all these terrible things to them,
14:22 came to his defense in a court of law
14:25 with threat of perjury hanging over their heads, right?
14:28 And at those times, they basically said, no,
14:30 Michael Jackson never did anything like this to us
14:32 only to later come out and change their stories.
14:35 So some say that these two accusers
14:37 are just after money now because we don't know a whole lot
14:40 about these guys and kind of what they're worth,
14:43 but we can assume they're not worth
14:44 nearly as much as Michael Jackson is,
14:46 so they're trying to get some of that MJ money, right?
14:48 But the thing about it is,
14:51 and I think it's fair to say in this documentary,
14:53 whenever you look at the documentary,
14:54 you can see that these boys were under a complete amount
14:58 of mind control and it was coming from Jackson,
15:01 that even years after, even as they were adults,
15:04 they were still kind of under his spell
15:07 to a certain degree, right?
15:08 And so were the families, right?
15:10 That Michael couldn't possibly have done this
15:12 and it's just, they were still so enamored with the guy,
15:15 so in love with them, like really, in real terms,
15:18 a familial type of love, but also a romantic type of love,
15:21 they were in love with this guy,
15:23 and they were willing to do anything to protect him.
15:25 Michael Jackson had done such a fantastically astute job
15:29 of making sure that these boys
15:31 would never be able to come out against him.
15:33 And in large part, they didn't, right?
15:36 There were two boys that were able to come out
15:38 and make credible allegations,
15:39 but Jackson never really served any time for it.
15:42 He died at the age of 50
15:43 and he spent basically no time behind bars.
15:46 But these boys, it wasn't that they suppressed the memories.
15:51 I know that's a psychological phenomenon
15:53 that you can actually suppress incredibly hurtful memories
15:55 from your past because your brain doesn't really know
15:57 or your subconscious doesn't really know
15:59 how to deal with those things.
16:00 But at the same time, this was not something
16:03 that these boys conjured up later.
16:05 I just didn't get that sense whatsoever
16:07 in watching the documentary that these boys
16:09 were doing something, in cahoots
16:11 with one another.
16:12 Oh, we're gonna get paid by a documentary
16:13 and then we're gonna sue the Jackson family,
16:15 make all this money and all that.
16:16 I literally just think it was one of those times
16:18 and one of the accusers actually said this wait.
16:20 He was like, look, I was at a point where I could not,
16:23 I was not in a mature enough place
16:25 to where I could deal with these emotions, right?
16:27 Because whenever Wade came forth
16:30 and actually testified at Michael Jackson's trial,
16:32 I think he was like 20, maybe 21 years old at the time.
16:35 And need I remind you guys what you were like
16:39 at the age of 20 or 21,
16:41 maybe you were emotionally stunted,
16:42 maybe you were immature,
16:43 maybe you had some really, really stupid opinions.
16:45 I mean, I talk about that all the time.
16:47 Your brain is not fully developed until you're 25.
16:50 So all these massive amounts of emotions
16:53 and decisions that you have to make,
16:55 you know, always make them great.
16:56 And if other people are viewing it
16:58 or even you're looking back and trying to have, you know,
17:01 2020 vision on the subject,
17:02 it's not really gonna work out for you.
17:04 So the whole time I'm watching this documentary,
17:06 I just didn't get the sense
17:07 that these guys weren't being truthful,
17:09 especially in the face of all the allegations
17:11 that we had seen before.
17:13 Now, as you can imagine, Michael Jackson's estate,
17:16 they're obviously very, very concerned
17:18 about Jackson's legacy.
17:19 Believe it or not, the Jackson estate has made billions,
17:24 billions with a B dollars since the man has died.
17:27 Like, so they've got a lot to protect here.
17:30 So Ergo, I mean, basically his fortunes on the line,
17:34 the Jackson estate has actually filed
17:35 a hundred million dollar lawsuit against HBO,
17:38 which I mean, if you're HBO, you knew this was coming, right?
17:41 HBO's got lawyers too, and you know,
17:43 they had to know that this was gonna be coming down the pike.
17:46 Now, apparently they can't file the Jackson camp.
17:48 They can't file a defamation suit against Michael Jackson
17:52 because he's dead.
17:53 But what they're doing, this is really, really strange,
17:55 but they're claiming that this documentary,
17:58 Leaving Neverland, actually disparages Jackson's public image,
18:02 which it clearly does.
18:04 But apparently back in 1992, HBO, in part of the contract
18:08 to get the rights to show one of Jackson's
18:10 live concert performances on their channel,
18:13 they had to basically sign something saying
18:15 that they would never disparage Jackson's public image
18:18 in any way.
18:19 And so they're basically filing a hundred million dollar
18:21 lawsuit to say that that's exactly what HBO did
18:24 with this documentary.
18:26 So no idea how that's gonna work out.
18:27 Honestly, I don't give a crap.
18:29 Now, the thing that we've seen though,
18:31 is that other people have acted and reacted to this documentary
18:35 in a more appropriate fashion.
18:37 So there are radio stations all over the world
18:39 that have stopped playing Jackson's music,
18:42 The Simpsons cartoon.
18:43 I mean, they pulled a Michael Jackson themed episode
18:46 from circulation.
18:47 There was actually, I guess, a statue of Michael Jackson
18:50 at the National Football Museum,
18:53 basically the National Soccer Museum
18:56 over in Manchester, England,
18:57 which why was that up there anyway to begin with?
19:00 You've even seen guys like Drake.
19:01 He had some different performances
19:03 that were centered around Michael Jackson
19:05 and sampling some of his songs.
19:07 He's pulled those from his concert.
19:08 The Lakers, you know, had something to do
19:10 with their in stadium entertainment
19:12 that had his music on it.
19:13 So they pulled that.
19:14 You know, there's people that are Michael Jackson
19:16 impersonators and performers.
19:18 And, you know, for the time being,
19:19 they're pausing their performances
19:21 and blah, blah, and all this different stuff.
19:23 You know, it is what it is.
19:24 So those are those people
19:25 that are kind of reacting on that side.
19:26 So to kind of wrap up the synopsis
19:28 just about the documentary itself,
19:30 the documentary is really, really well done, guys.
19:32 So in my opinion, I think it's worth the watch.
19:35 But it is four hours long.
19:36 So really, the only reason that I watched it
19:38 is because I really wanted to talk to you guys about it.
19:40 It was still really pertinent.
19:42 So that's why I took four hours out of my schedule
19:44 that I didn't really have to watch this crazy documentary.
19:47 But as with anything that we're gonna bring up here
19:49 on this podcast, there are some important things
19:52 that we need to think about as thinking Christians,
19:55 but specifically as Christian men,
19:56 that this documentary really helped kind of suss out.
19:59 And so you may have heard some of these questions
20:01 basically put out in the public sphere
20:02 and you're hearing a lot of different opinions
20:04 on it right now, but I'll kind of give you mine on it.
20:05 So the three questions,
20:07 I'll just go with the first one here.
20:09 So the first one is does celebrity or fame blind us?
20:14 And I think the answer is very, very clearly, yes, right?
20:20 Because here's the thing,
20:21 quick bit of advice to the parents out there.
20:24 Keep your head on a swivel, please.
20:27 I mean, go back to episode 37 in 63 of this podcast
20:30 where we talked about the devil in the Catholic church
20:32 and the Southern Baptist Convention, right?
20:35 A lot of this abuse is happening right under our noses,
20:38 right?
20:39 We notice things, we see things that we don't like
20:41 in certain people, but ah, you know, we just kind of like,
20:43 you know, play it off as if it's nothing.
20:45 And guys, again, this isn't just happening
20:47 in the Catholic church.
20:48 It's not just happening in the Southern Baptist Convention.
20:50 It's happening at public schools.
20:52 It's happening at private schools.
20:53 It's happening in Boy Scouts, Girl Scouts.
20:56 It's happening in sports teams.
20:57 It's happening with family members
20:59 at reunions, it's happening all the time.
21:01 So the thing about this documentary
21:04 that has been universally the same
21:06 is the reaction to the parents.
21:08 I mean, these parents seem like adults.
21:12 It's like, are you kidding me?
21:15 As adults with children, seven, eight, nine year old boys.
21:21 At what point did you get the idea
21:23 that leaving your little boy with a grown man
21:27 and allowing him to sleep in the same room with that man
21:32 to just say that that's okay?
21:34 'Cause that's the thing.
21:36 These parents were not out of the loop.
21:38 It's not like they didn't know that was happening.
21:41 They basically signed off on it.
21:43 I mean, there was one parent, I forget which mom it was,
21:48 but at one point, Michael Jackson was asking this mom
21:53 if he could have the boy for a year, right?
21:58 Basically, because again, he was gonna help him
21:59 with his dancing and help him get commercials
22:02 and things like that.
22:02 Again, kind of romancing and wooing the entire family.
22:05 But like, that was the straw for this mom.
22:08 How dare you ask me to keep my son for a year?
22:11 That is my son.
22:12 We're going back to our town.
22:13 You're not coming with this blah, blah, blah,
22:15 that kind of thing.
22:16 That was the final straw.
22:18 But hey, you guys go on your family vacation
22:21 to the Grand Canyon and leave your seven year old son here
22:24 at Neverland Ranch with me.
22:27 No big deal, okay.
22:29 All right, son, we'll see you in a week.
22:31 And this was not in the days of cell phones
22:34 where you could just get a quick text or a quick update.
22:36 You basically didn't see that boy for a week.
22:39 No big deal.
22:40 So the thing about this question does celebrity
22:43 and fame blind us, of course it does.
22:46 Because you want to believe that these people are good people.
22:49 You just want to.
22:51 And it blinds us to make really, really bad decisions
22:54 that have had really, really dire consequences.
22:56 And the second question that this documentary begs is,
23:00 are we consistent in how we view situations like this?
23:04 Are we consistent in how we view them?
23:07 Because the way that you need to look about this,
23:09 and there's a lot of different examples out there,
23:11 is it's when we like someone or something
23:14 versus not liking certain other somethings or people, right?
23:19 So the first example I guess that came to mind for me
23:22 is, you know, Mark McGuire.
23:24 So growing up being a St. Louis Cardinals fan,
23:27 being called Lil Mac, having red hair, you know,
23:29 Big Mac having, having red hair
23:30 and doing all those different things, you know,
23:33 I defended him for so long on these steroid allegations
23:37 because I was like, look, we've seen no evidence.
23:39 There's nothing to suggest
23:40 that this guy would have done these things,
23:42 but you know, Barry Bonds and Roger Clemens
23:44 and Sammy Sosa and Andy Pettit
23:46 and Rafael Palmero and Jose Conseco,
23:48 those guys clearly did it.
23:51 And so it wasn't until Mark McGuire came out
23:53 and said, yeah, I actually did do those things.
23:55 And when Tony Russo had, you know,
23:57 hired him to be the hitting coach,
23:58 I guess one of the caveats was,
23:59 hey, Mark, you're gonna have to come clean with this
24:01 'cause we don't want this following our team around
24:03 for the next 162 games, right?
24:06 But I defended him the whole way,
24:07 but I didn't defend those other guys
24:08 'cause I didn't like those other guys.
24:09 They didn't play for my team, right?
24:13 But now I consider Marvin Wired
24:14 to be just the same as the rest of those guys.
24:17 It's not worse.
24:19 I mean, I feel like, you know,
24:20 he didn't have the storied career that Barry Bonds did,
24:23 but his 70 home runs,
24:24 basically saving baseball in 1998
24:26 along with another juicer, Sammy Sosa.
24:28 I mean, that's a problem for me.
24:30 And here, the problem has gotten so bad now
24:33 for me when it comes to cheating.
24:34 I just, I don't have any sympathy for these guys,
24:36 but St. Louis Cardinals fans voted
24:38 and Mark McGuire into the St. Louis Cardinals Hall of Fame.
24:39 And I was sick to my stomach at that.
24:42 Same thing whenever you see Barry Bonds come out
24:44 at AT&T Park or whatever it's called now on San Francisco
24:47 and get into standing ovation.
24:49 You know, when these dopes in Milwaukee,
24:51 you know, we're cheering for Ryan Braun,
24:52 who basically tried to ruin a guy's career
24:54 by lying about the testing,
24:55 calling the guy basically an anti-Semite,
24:58 because, you know, Ryan Braun's Jewish,
24:59 like I just couldn't stand any of that.
25:02 But then the thing is, is again,
25:03 I'm trying to think about how we can be consistent.
25:05 So I have all this crazy anger towards a guy like,
25:09 you know, Barry Bonds,
25:10 who's kind of like the poster boy for cheating.
25:12 But at the same time, I love Chael Sonnen.
25:16 So for those of you who don't know who Chael Sonnen is,
25:18 he's an MMA fighter.
25:19 He fought in the UFC.
25:19 Now he's fighting in Bellator.
25:21 He's gotten a lot of title shots.
25:22 He's lost him all,
25:23 but he's had a lot of title shots, you know,
25:25 considered to be the greatest trash talker
25:27 in the history of MMA.
25:28 Yes, even over Conor McGregor,
25:30 who will, you know, talk about here in just a second.
25:32 But basically, Chael Sonnen,
25:34 he was, he was basically one eighth Tropicana at some point.
25:38 He was on so much juice, it was ridiculous.
25:40 And he kind of details the parts.
25:42 I mean, even after he almost beat Anderson Silva,
25:44 you know, he got triangled at the very, very end
25:46 of the fifth round,
25:46 even if he had won that fight,
25:48 taken the belt,
25:48 he would have had to concede the belt back to Anderson
25:50 or just, you know, back to the ether
25:52 because he had popped the Chael Sonnen cheated
25:55 for the overwhelming majority of his career.
25:57 He's still fighting in Bellator,
25:59 but he's fighting at a higher weight class.
26:00 There's no real signs that he's continued to cheat.
26:02 But this guy knows everything there is to know
26:05 about cheating and he admits that now.
26:08 But every time Chael Sonnen fights,
26:10 I'm rooting for him.
26:11 You know, it's just like, I'm really inconsistent there.
26:17 And here's the point out even more of my inconsistency,
26:20 I cannot stand Floyd Mayweather.
26:22 And the specific reason that I can't stand Floyd Mayweather
26:24 is because he hits women.
26:26 He beats women.
26:27 And yes, he's gone to prison, he's done his time,
26:30 but he's not really repentant.
26:32 He's not really living a life of somebody
26:33 that is repented of that, right?
26:35 And so I'm very big on the fact that like,
26:38 I don't wanna watch Floyd Mayweather fight.
26:40 I don't wanna pay for his fights.
26:41 I don't wanna go to a bar where his fights are playing
26:42 where I'm actually buying food.
26:44 That's gonna support him.
26:45 But at different points in my life,
26:47 I've been cheering for Anthony Rumble Johnson,
26:50 UFC fighter, that's been brought up multiple times
26:53 on domestic abuse charges.
26:55 Now again, he was not convicted of those charges,
26:58 but he was, the evidence was not really in his favor.
27:02 So I root for Rumble Johnson,
27:04 but I can't root for Floyd Mayweather.
27:06 Here's another one, Chris Brown.
27:08 I really, really like Chris Brown's music, right?
27:10 So judge me, judge me harshly.
27:12 But for whatever reason, his songs
27:14 and whoever's doing most of his production, it just fits.
27:17 I just love it.
27:18 This guy beat up Rihanna.
27:20 He hit women too.
27:21 But I still listen to his music and enjoy it.
27:24 He's kind of been a jerk, even since then.
27:26 He's kind of been getting in and out of trouble,
27:28 basically being rain bunches.
27:30 And guys, literally, less than an hour ago
27:32 before I hit play on this, on this, you know, recording,
27:36 Conor McGregor, my favorite fighter, probably, of all time,
27:40 one of the greatest fighters of all time.
27:42 And clearly, the biggest star in the history
27:44 of mixed martial arts and like top five biggest star
27:47 in the history of combat sports,
27:48 he just got arrested today.
27:50 Apparently, a fan was getting his face down in Miami,
27:53 so he took the fan's phone and broke it
27:55 and then took the phone and all that.
27:56 So he was arrested for, you know,
27:58 basically stealing the dude's phone and breaking it.
28:01 And like, that's my dude.
28:04 The next time he fights,
28:05 I guarantee you I'm gonna be rooting for him.
28:06 There's not anyone that you could put him
28:08 in the octagon against that I'm gonna root for the other guy.
28:10 There's not a guy out there.
28:11 So consistency, there's not there.
28:14 Or with that situation, it's not there.
28:16 Also, for those of you guys that know,
28:17 I'm going in a lot of different subject matters,
28:18 but I just wanna kind of show you,
28:20 what about the band Azalea Dying?
28:22 So a lot of you guys know the band Azalea Dying,
28:24 and if you know the band, you obviously know the story.
28:26 The lead singer of that band several years ago
28:29 was caught trying to pay a hit man to kill his wife, right?
28:34 It's just crazy situation.
28:36 The guy at the gym that, you know, he thought was,
28:38 you know, a hit man was actually an undercover cop,
28:41 which thank God that he was talking to an undercover cop
28:44 and not an actual hit man.
28:45 Because if he was talking to an actual hit man,
28:47 his wife's probably dead today,
28:48 but the thing was, is he was caught.
28:50 He went to jail, he served several years in prison,
28:52 but now he's out and wouldn't you know it,
28:54 Azalea Dying's back together.
28:56 So I'm kind of in this quandary right now
28:58 to where it's like, well, if they do a show in Oklahoma City,
29:00 do I go to it?
29:01 I mean, should I follow them on Instagram?
29:04 Because the thing is, the other four band mates,
29:07 it wasn't their fault what the lead singer,
29:08 Tim Lambysus did, it wasn't their fault.
29:10 But again, I have to think about the fact
29:12 that this guy who was gone to jail,
29:15 but this guy thought he was paying a guy 1,200 bucks
29:18 to murder his wife.
29:19 And what if he, what if it worked?
29:21 Like, that's really inconsistent of me.
29:24 But here's another one for you guys to think of
29:25 before I belabor this point too far.
29:27 What about pastors?
29:28 So we've got pastors out there that, you know,
29:32 they've maybe cheated on their wives
29:36 or they've abused patrons or they've abused, you know,
29:40 poise or something like that.
29:41 Like think about those people.
29:43 Everyone's kind of got their favorite pastor,
29:46 people that they don't really want a lot of their things
29:49 to kind of go out the window.
29:50 And that kind of leads us into this third question
29:53 that I want to set up for you guys.
29:54 So again, the three questions it begs is one,
29:56 does celebrity slash flame blind us?
30:00 The second is, are we consistent in how we view situations?
30:03 And the third is kind of a two-part question,
30:05 but the first part here is kind of the micro side,
30:07 which is, can we separate the art from the artist?
30:09 And this is that question that is on everybody's mind.
30:13 This is what blogs are being written about.
30:15 They're doing, you know, sessions on shows
30:18 and they're doing podcast episodes on this exact subject.
30:21 And Michael Jackson being the center of an house.
30:23 Can we separate the art from the artist?
30:26 And this is, this is that big question.
30:28 But in my opinion, guys, I say yes, we can do that, right?
30:33 So specifically talking about Michael Jackson,
30:35 I remember loving Michael Jackson when I was a little kid,
30:37 right?
30:38 I can't even remember which music was out at that time,
30:40 you know, and all kinds of run kind of runs together.
30:42 But I do remember us kind of gathering around the television
30:45 and there was this Michael Jackson special
30:48 that was showing on one of the big three channels
30:49 or something like that.
30:50 But in this specific dance thing, you know,
30:53 I think he was dancing on top of a car
30:55 and he like punched the car windows out.
30:56 But he apparently grabbed his crotch like a hundred times
30:59 or something like that during this short little performance
31:01 on television.
31:02 And from that point forward, my parents were like,
31:04 nope, we're not doing Michael Jackson anymore.
31:05 You can't listen to his music, you can't watch any of his videos.
31:07 No more Michael Jackson.
31:08 Again, I'm a little kid.
31:09 What does it matter?
31:10 My parents can take away whatever they want
31:12 because I'm living in their house.
31:14 But, you know, fast forward to being a senior in high school,
31:17 I danced to Michael Jackson in front of the entire school.
31:21 Me and a group of guys, we danced to beat it.
31:24 Yeah, we danced to beat it.
31:25 And I did the same thing as a freshman in college.
31:28 The same song, the same routine, different crew of people.
31:31 You know, I used his music to basically entertain my friends
31:35 and entertain a bunch of strangers, you know,
31:38 jammed out to his music at a lot of different points.
31:40 Really, really have enjoyed it.
31:42 But the thing about it is we've got to be able
31:46 to separate the art from the artists.
31:48 And the big reason is it's 'cause we don't know these people.
31:54 So the example I want to point out for you
31:56 is how many people are you currently fans of?
32:00 So let's think of artists, let's think of singers,
32:02 let's think of rappers, let's think of dancers,
32:04 let's think of actors and actresses,
32:06 let's think of pastors as we brought up earlier,
32:09 let's think of athletes, let's think of politicians,
32:11 people that you just like.
32:13 Guys, you have no idea what level of depravity
32:17 exists inside that person.
32:18 But we can assume that there's not like zero depravity.
32:24 Everyone's got their skeletons in the closet
32:26 and things like that, right?
32:27 You know, some guys just, you know, maybe they work too much
32:29 or they're a workaholic or maybe some guys drink
32:31 a little bit too much.
32:32 And some people rape boys.
32:33 But the thing is, is we don't know these people.
32:37 Just think about it, what if no one ever came forward
32:41 against Michael Jackson, right?
32:43 So we don't have the case in 1993,
32:45 we don't have the case in 2003,
32:46 we don't have that first documentary
32:48 and we don't have this HBO documentary.
32:50 It doesn't erase the things that he did,
32:53 but billions of people around the world
32:56 just wouldn't have known about it.
32:58 And I can guarantee you, there are guys in your life
33:00 in my life right now, things that you're fans of,
33:02 you know, directors that have certain movies
33:05 that you just love, every single thing that they put out there
33:07 that are horrible, horrific people,
33:09 that have done unbelievable, unspeakable things, right?
33:13 We don't know these people.
33:15 So we have to suspend the art from the artists
33:20 because almost all of us don't know any of those artists.
33:23 So I know some people are making a lot of different
33:26 declarations on both sides of the issue,
33:29 but no, I don't think that's a problem.
33:31 I think we can absolutely separate these two things.
33:33 But the second part of this,
33:34 and this is kind of like part three,
33:36 or you know, part two of the third question,
33:38 this is more the macro idea,
33:40 is is it possible to sanitize history completely?
33:44 So again, the micro side is,
33:45 can we separate the art from the artists?
33:47 The macro side is, is it possible
33:48 to sanitize history completely?
33:50 And obviously the answer is no, we can't.
33:52 So look at the movement right now.
33:54 You see a lot of people in the political left
33:56 that are wanting to whitewash history, right?
33:59 So we've got to remove Confederate statues.
34:02 We have to remove all mention of George Washington
34:05 or Thomas Jefferson or any of those guys
34:08 because they own slaves, right?
34:10 So since those guys own slaves,
34:12 we need to take their names off of streets.
34:14 We need to take them off of universities.
34:16 We need to take all their statues down.
34:18 But here's the thing is if you use that philosophy,
34:20 you have to take all the people
34:22 into account with that philosophy, right?
34:25 So what do we do with Martin Luther King, Jr.?
34:28 Because if you guys didn't know,
34:29 that guy was a horrific husband.
34:32 Not only did he beat his wife,
34:34 he cheated on her innumerable times.
34:36 That was just something that Martin Luther King, Jr. did.
34:38 And as a pastor, he didn't even believe in the Trinity.
34:41 So what do we do with Martin Luther King, Jr.?
34:45 Do we just get rid of the, I have a dream speech?
34:48 Do we just get rid of the letter from Birmingham Jail?
34:51 Do we get rid of all the amazing things he did
34:53 for all people, including people of color in this country?
34:57 Can we do that?
34:58 What about Gandhi, Mohammad Gandhi?
35:01 That guy, Mr. Pacifist, not gonna hurt a fly.
35:05 He beat his entire family mercilessly.
35:08 What do we do with Gandhi?
35:11 Do we just get rid of all the great things
35:13 that he contributed to humanity?
35:16 Do we get rid of his celebrity?
35:17 Do we get rid of the historicity
35:19 around the things that he did and accomplished?
35:21 So again, this is why we can separate the art
35:25 from the artists.
35:26 Because we can't know these people
35:28 and we can't sanitize history.
35:30 We can't make the sin go away.
35:32 I mean, look at Bill Cosby.
35:33 Are you telling me that if somebody put on
35:34 one of those old Bill Cosby comedy records
35:36 that you wouldn't sit there and laugh?
35:38 The stuff's funny.
35:39 He was a horrifically evil man.
35:42 Or he, he's still alive.
35:43 He is a horrifically evil man
35:45 that did crazy evil things.
35:48 But his art that he contributed is still okay, right?
35:53 Now we look at it differently and to a large degree,
35:56 I agree with that.
35:58 But it's gonna be impossible for us.
36:00 If we got rid of every single piece of art or entertainment
36:04 that came from somebody that was depraved,
36:06 we would have no art or entertainment left.
36:09 Because we've all sinned and fallen short
36:11 of the glory of God.
36:12 There's a lot of people that have done things
36:14 that are way far beyond anything that you've ever imagined.
36:16 But again, we can't just whitewatch it.
36:19 So guys, in totality, there's no biblical issue here.
36:23 There certainly no salvific issue here
36:25 as you're kind of thinking, you know,
36:26 what do I do with Michael Jackson?
36:27 What do I do with Bill Cosby?
36:28 What do I do with all these people?
36:29 There's none of that here.
36:31 The thing I would caution you guys, if we're being honest
36:33 and we're breaking it down to a very specific level,
36:36 is, you know, where you put your dollars?
36:39 'Cause you know this, you've heard every pastor
36:40 on the planet say something along the lines of
36:42 where you put your dollars, that's also where your heart is,
36:44 right?
36:45 Where you put your attention is where your heart is.
36:47 And so I kind of have issues
36:50 going back to the Azalea dying example.
36:51 I'll probably never see that band in concert.
36:54 'Cause that's a direct way of contributing to them as a band.
36:58 And I just don't feel good about that,
37:00 supporting that lead singer who's sort of repentant,
37:03 but you can't really know if he's actually repented.
37:05 So that would be the thing I would caution you guys.
37:07 So again, the documentary was very well done.
37:09 I think it's worth your time to take a look.
37:11 But there's a lot of things that we can glean from it,
37:13 that as-thinking Christians,
37:14 we should be able to apply in our everyday lives.
37:16 All right, guys, I'm gonna do a quick resilience boost.
37:18 As you know, by now, we are a men's ministry
37:19 and our mission is cultivating mainly resilience.
37:21 And specifically, we do that by providing content
37:24 that forges spiritual, mental, and physical toughness.
37:26 And so I don't have an exact link for you guys
37:28 to check out today in terms of what type
37:30 of resilience boost that we're gonna do.
37:31 I am just gonna encourage you to go to HBO.
37:34 So for those of you that have HBO,
37:36 I'm sure it's just gonna be playing on loop
37:37 on their different stations.
37:38 If you have just a subscription of any kind,
37:41 you can go to HBO Go and check that out.
37:43 So I just wanna leave some capacity here
37:44 if you guys actually did wanna go in
37:46 and take down that documentary.
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