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060 – Toxic Masculinity, Part 1 - A History

January 31, 2019 44m 31s Full transcript available
060 – Toxic Masculinity, Part 1 - A History
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In this episode, we dive deep into the history of toxic masculinity, tracing its roots and examining how it has evolved in our culture. We confront the absurdity of modern narratives that vilify masculinity while also recognizing the importance of defining what true manhood should look like.
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0:00 this is a daunted life a man's podcast on your host Kyle Thompson. Let's get into it.
0:15 Our guys before we get into any of the information that we're going to be giving you on today's
0:18 podcast, we need to do a little bit of an update from last week's podcast number 59.
0:23 So for podcast 59, we looked at the March for life for this year and pretty much we're
0:27 going to do that every year. Every single year around the March for life, we are going
0:30 to do an episode on abortion. But there was some news that broke that I talked about
0:35 a little bit on episode 59 because I recorded it before it had actually happened. And so
0:41 I didn't have time to get in there and make any edits to the recording before we went
0:44 out live to you guys. But I wanted to go ahead and bring that up to you now. So remember
0:48 when I was talking about Governor Cuomo of the state of New York and what the New York
0:52 state Senate was doing, there was the potential that they were going to pass something called
0:55 the reproductive health act, which is not aptly named at all. But anyway, after I recorded
1:01 this podcast and about a day or two before it came out, New York state, the Senate of
1:06 New York state rather, passed the reproductive reproductive health act. So it's a nice name.
1:11 It's a knife piffy name. But let's actually look at what it accomplished. Essentially,
1:16 the reproductive health act accomplishes three things for the state of New York. Number one,
1:21 it expanded who can provide abortions in New York. So obviously we need more people that
1:25 can do that. It's such a great thing for people. Great for women's rights. The second thing
1:30 is it deletes abortion from the list of crimes in the state's criminal code, which is obviously
1:36 a signal to anyone that's going to maybe try to overturn Roe v. Wade at any point. But
1:41 then the third and the most damaging and the most damning is that it is allowing for the
1:45 murder of unborn babies up until the day of birth. Now, I know a lot of you guys, especially
1:52 if you follow our content, anything on social media, you've seen a lot about this. And really
1:56 there's a lot of more right wing and conservative people that have talked about this a lot.
2:00 Guys, I think this might be the turning point. I really think this might be the turning point
2:04 for a lot of people because some people can kind of sanitize abortion. And we talked about
2:09 that a lot. We've talked about it with the euphemisms that are used when describing an
2:12 abortion. Oh, it's just, you know, getting rid of a pregnancy or terminating a pregnancy
2:16 or, you know, it's health care, all these things. But everyone kind of knows what a baby looks
2:21 like right before it comes out of the vaginal canal. Maybe because it's a baby, right? Maybe
2:26 that's why it's so easy for us to imagine that. But when we think about someone being
2:30 at 40 weeks and going into the doctor's office, they can even be dilated, like ready, their
2:36 body is ready to give birth. But if they request an abortion in the state of New York, they
2:41 can get it. And maybe the most crazy and satanic thing of all of this was Planned Parenthood
2:47 of New York City. Of course, they posted a video of the Senate chamber, uh, right after
2:52 this was approved in the New York State Senate. And the reaction after the bill passed was
2:58 absolutely unbelievably reprehensible. So in it was very appropriate that this was on
3:04 the 46th anniversary of Roe v. Wade Cuomo made sure of that. But the entire Senate chamber
3:10 or at least that what you can see in the video, they stood up and cheered. They were literally
3:16 hooting and hollering as if their team had made, you know, the buzzer beating basket
3:20 or they just hit a walk off home run or something like that. They were literally clapping and
3:25 clamoring women were crying because they were so excited. Literally that's what happened.
3:31 And then you got Governor Andrew Cuomo, who's a self proposed Catholic, which I don't know
3:36 how that's really going to work. He ordered that one World Trade Center be lit up pink
3:41 to celebrate. I mean, literally just just think about that. They, they usually light
3:46 up the Empire State building to celebrate, you know, holidays or or big things like that.
3:50 They lit up one World Trade Center, this, this symbol of unity of the United States of America.
3:55 They lit it up pink to celebrate this law. And even since then I've gotten a lot of different
4:02 news sites have to do with abortion. There's a video that popped up and shout out to Reg
4:06 Aldrich for shooting this video over to me. He's, he's one of our, uh, first and biggest
4:10 followers of our content and a buddy of mine from college. He shot me this, uh, news story
4:15 that I kind of heard about that I hadn't seen it, but there's a video floating around.
4:18 Uh, it's about a one minute long video of an abortionist kind of describing the process
4:23 and how well the woman did during the process. But he's got this pan and there's just like
4:29 a bunch of stuff in the pan. And then when the camera zooms in, you realize what it is.
4:34 That's the baby, but the baby's in several hundred pieces. So you can see a hand, you
4:40 can see a foot. You can see all these things. He's just kind of running it under the water.
4:44 And according to him, he's just making sure there's not something left in the mother. Right?
4:48 Because if they accidentally left like a foot or a leg or something up in there, you know,
4:51 it could get infected and could actually bring your harm to the abortive mother. Correct?
4:56 Like, you know, that's kind of one of those things. But the most damaging thing is this
5:01 guy holds up the baby's severed head for the camera. And don't worry guys, I included a
5:08 link for it so you can go and watch it so you can see what evil really looks like. And
5:12 this guy is just so callous in his description of what had happened. You know, he's talking
5:16 to the woman at the end of the video like, Oh gosh, you did such a good job. You know,
5:19 it went about how we, how we thought it would. The baby was at, you know, 20 weeks, he probably
5:23 didn't use the word baby. I can't remember exactly what he used. He probably used some
5:26 sort of, you know, sterilized medical term or something like that. But all this stuff
5:30 has happened just since I recorded the last podcast. And then even today, I heard this
5:35 yesterday before I recorded this podcast, the state of Virginia is moving to get abortion
5:41 up to the 40 weeks, like up to the date of birth. I think up to this point, it has been
5:46 struck down. Rhode Island, the governor again, another Catholic, she said that she would
5:51 sign any bill and approve any bill that would approve abortion up to the day of birth. This
5:57 is where we're heading guys. And it's only getting worse. And this isn't what this episode
6:00 is about. But I'm going to continue bringing it to you. But here's the thing guys, is God's
6:05 in control here. God got a sovereignty over all of this. But God will give America over
6:12 to our sins. And if you don't believe me, let's just go to Romans one and I'll read passages
6:17 18 through 25 for you. For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness
6:23 and unrighteousness of men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth. For what can be known
6:28 about God is plain to them because God has shown it to them. For his invisible attributes,
6:33 namely his eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly perceived ever since the
6:37 creation of the world in the things that have been made. So they are without excuse. For
6:42 although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him. But they
6:46 became futile in their thinking and their foolish hearts were darkened, claiming to be
6:51 wise, they became fools and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images resembling
6:56 mortal man and birds and animals and creeping things. Therefore God gave them up in the
7:02 lust of their hearts to impurity to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves because they
7:07 exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than
7:13 the creator who is blessed forever. Amen. That's the thing guys, God's going to give
7:20 us over to this. And this isn't some sort of thing like, you know, rapture thing, like
7:24 God's going to, you know, give America over to its sin and things like that. But let's
7:27 not just pretend that God has shown favor to America for no reason. And for something
7:32 like this to stand in this country, it's absolutely reprehensible. And we're going to continue
7:38 talking about it. But guys, we're going to shift gears here. We're actually going to
7:42 go in to this, which this episode, I've been looking forward to this episode, maybe longer
7:46 than you guys have. I've had guys wanting me to talk about toxic masculinity pretty much
7:51 since episode one of this podcast came out a couple of years ago, right? It's just one
7:55 of those subjects that for a guy to be in the men's ministry space to talk about things
7:59 in the way that I do, it's, it's crazy that's taken me this long. But I was always looking
8:03 for the right time because that's the thing is, you know, we'll play an episode's out
8:06 a few weeks in advance. But then if something comes up in, you know, the news or in current
8:11 events or if there's something else that kind of strikes my fancy, I'll I'll bring that
8:14 into the fold. But toxic masculinity was always that thing out there among some other things
8:19 that I'm going to get to at some point, but it just didn't ever make sense. But thank
8:24 you to Gillette for putting out a commercial that made it make sense. So if you guys don't
8:29 know what I'm talking about, where you been? Where you been? This Gillette commercial has
8:34 absolutely gone viral because apparently Gillette, a company that makes razors mainly for men,
8:41 they're getting into the whole virtue signaling game. But hey, it's led me to want to record
8:46 this podcast and get it out to all you guys. So it's going to work out great for all of
8:50 us involved. So what exactly did Gillette do for those of you that didn't know? Well,
8:54 first of all, let's back up a little bit. Gillette obviously, a razor company, but something
8:58 that y'all may not have known is Gillette's market share over the last several years has
9:02 really been taken a dive. So they're, they're having a hard time with millennials and Gen
9:08 Z markets. They're just not getting the traction that they've had with, you know, the boomers
9:12 or Gen X or any of those types of markets. And so because they've been kind of getting
9:17 cut out by the middle man, they've been cutting, been cutting, getting cut out rather by, you
9:21 know, what's that $1 shave club, you know, stuff like that where you can just get razors
9:24 sent to your house. So I guess in all of their infinite wisdom, all their C suite decided
9:29 to get together and be like, you know, what would be awesome? Let's just go full social
9:33 justice warrior and I bet we'll sell a toner razors. Like that sounds like a great idea.
9:38 So what they did is they made a Super Bowl commercial, but they released it early. It's
9:42 about a 92nd commercial or so. And this thing immediately went viral. So I've got the link
9:48 for it here at the end. So if you haven't heard of this commercial or anything like that,
9:52 you might go ahead and skip to the show notes in the links right there so you can take a
9:55 look and then you can come back in and listen to what we're going to talk about. But what
9:58 I'm going to do is I'm just going to go ahead and read to you what the narrator is saying
10:02 throughout this video. So here we go. Is this the best a man can get? Is it? We can't hide
10:09 from it. It's been going on far too long. We can't laugh it off. Making the same old
10:16 excuses, but something finally changed. And there will be no going back because we we
10:23 believe in the best in men to say the right thing to act the right way. Some are already
10:30 are in ways big and small, but some is not enough because the boys watching today will
10:37 be the men of tomorrow. So if you look at it just from the text, it doesn't seem that
10:42 bad, right? But when you combine the narrator's audio with the visuals, it starts to go off
10:48 the rails. So throughout this commercial, you're seeing them showing bullying, womanizing,
10:55 kind of like, you know, objectifying women hashtag me to type stuff. You see an example
11:01 of man's explaining of boys, rough housing. And they kind of show that all throughout.
11:05 And so they're obviously trying to draw a dichotomy between, you know, the way men act
11:10 and the way men should act, you know, as if they're, they're kind of making this happen.
11:14 Interestingly enough, though, there's no trans men in this video. So maybe this isn't the
11:18 episode to go into that. But I find that kind of interesting. If you're going to the full
11:22 social justice warrior, you might as well have a guy with a beard wearing a dress or something
11:25 like that. But let's digress just a little bit. The ending text, this is not the narrator talking,
11:29 but the ending text that comes up in the video is the best a man can get. It's only by challenging
11:35 ourselves to do more that we can get closer to our best. So this is virtue signaling of the
11:43 highest order. I mean, that's exactly what this is. And here's the thing is you put out something
11:47 like that. And there's a lot of things that kind of come out like this in our world. And
11:51 nothing really happens. No one really looks at it. Or you might find a few fringe people that
11:55 are looking at it, maybe, you know, a few thousand people looking at it or something like that.
12:01 But this thing got out to a lot of people. As of the recording of this podcast, there's about
12:05 28 million views on YouTube. But interestingly enough, about 1.3 million thumbs downs on the
12:12 video for outpacing the thumbs up. So you don't really see that a lot with YouTube videos,
12:17 especially ones that quote unquote go viral. So this thing has really been received rather
12:22 poorly, which is hilarious, because they set out to make some huge statement, some grandiose
12:29 thing. It's kind of blown up in their face a little bit. So here's the thing. If the Gillette
12:33 team was going for publicity, I mean, they nailed it. I mean, Gillette, no one was talking about
12:38 Gillette. You don't even think about Gillette until you go to Walmart and trying to pick out
12:41 razors and their, you know, 80% of them are Gillette brand, right? I mean, but if they were going
12:46 for lasting social change, I mean, they failed miserably. This is like significantly blown up
12:51 in their faces, which, which is interesting and also very, very hilarious. But if they were going
12:56 for regaining lost market share, which is what they're claiming, you know, this is a business
13:01 claiming they're doing this for business reasons, but also to be socially relevant. I mean, I guess
13:06 time will tell on that. I mean, I can say for me, I will be buying any Gillette products anytime
13:11 soon. But if you buy Gillette products, who gives a crap? They're just razors. It didn't really matter.
13:15 But if you want a boycott, I'm sure a boycott. I'm not calling what I'm doing a boycott. I'm just
13:19 going to choose to buy other razors because I don't like being lectured to buy a bunch of morons in
13:24 some boardroom somewhere that have nothing to do with me. But guys, really, the joke is on them.
13:28 Because this whole commercial, they're trying to make it seem like men are terrible and everybody
13:33 accepts of this type of manhood. And this is what modern masculinity and manhood is. But guys,
13:40 good men already think the things that were shown in that video are stupid.
13:45 They think those things aren't real masculinity. I mean, are there any guys out there that really
13:49 think that bullying is like a good thing that we're all high five each other? Like, yeah,
13:53 bullying, let's pick on the little guy or the little gal. Like, we don't think that way.
13:57 You know, that that people are, do we think it's okay for men to purposely embarrass women by
14:02 mansplaining? Well, what she was really trying to say, like, no one really thinks that's real.
14:06 Like, we don't accept that in any way. But I will say this is there was one thing about the
14:12 commercial that I felt was especially reprehensible that they showed a couple of boys roughhousing
14:18 in the yard, right? You know, two similarly sized boys just, you know, wrestling around.
14:22 And then they show this big, long clip of men saying, boys will be boys, boys will be boys.
14:27 And it shows them all lined up at a bunch of grills, basically just looking like robots saying,
14:31 boys will be boys. And I'm like, wait, were they, were they showing a couple of boys roughhousing
14:37 in the yard? And presenting that as like, that was a bad thing. Like, this is an overall negative.
14:43 This wasn't a bigger kid picking on a smaller kid. This was a couple kids just, you know,
14:46 getting together and wrestling a little bit. I mean, what was it? What was a big deal? So I
14:52 thought they missed a mark pretty much everywhere that you can miss the mark. But what I will say
14:57 is this commercial has brought toxic masculinity back into the public discussion.
15:01 And so what we decided to do here at Undaunted Life and on this podcast is that we're finally
15:07 going to go into this topic. But this is really too big of a topic to go through one in kind of
15:12 one episode. And I think that's maybe what's kept us from recording an episode on this for so long
15:17 is because I mean, how do you even tackle this? There's literally so many facets to this. And
15:23 it's just it was hard for me to kind of get my head around. Okay, how are we going to present
15:26 this in a way that makes a lot of sense for people? So what we decided to do is we're going to do a
15:30 two parter. So episode 60, the one you're listening to right now is going to be on toxic masculinity.
15:35 And it's going to be a history of toxic masculinity. And then you'll have to come back next week for
15:40 part two, which is going to be a future. So today in this podcast, what we're going to hope to do for
15:44 you is give you a really good idea of what the history of toxic masculinity is. Okay,
15:48 essentially, we're going to try to get you from where all this stuff, all the ruminations of this
15:52 started. We're going to get you to today, kind of what's going on right now with the temperature
15:56 of all this is right now. And then next week, we're going to look out in the future. We're going to
16:00 try to forecast a little bit. And then we're going to try to see what we can do to give you guys hints
16:05 and ideas as to how we should operate going forward. So launching in right here, I want to go into
16:10 a history of toxic masculinity. But when I was doing my research, it was very interesting to me and
16:16 not really all that surprising that the roots of toxic masculinity were actually in something else.
16:22 And that's something else is something called hegemonic masculinity. So hegemonic H E G E M O
16:28 N I C hegemonic masculinity. And it was a very interesting deep dive. And I read a lot on this
16:35 subject. But to be honest with you, and I think this is the second time I've done this on this
16:39 podcast, Wikipedia actually did a pretty dang good job of distilling all this information down.
16:45 And as I was reading through hegemonic masculinity and having it transition into toxic masculinity
16:51 masculinity via Wikipedia, I felt like it did a really good job. It almost broke down like
16:56 like a peer reviewed paper. Like that's what it felt like. And because everything that was all
17:01 the statements that were made, it was backed up with other things in the bibliography. And you
17:05 could go check it out. So what I'm going to do today is not only am I going to include this link
17:09 so you can read the totality of this on your on your own. I'm going to read through this
17:13 section that Wikipedia put out there because I think it's going to be really, really helpful
17:16 for you guys to understand where this came from. And to be honest with you, this is the best place
17:21 that kind of put it all together in one area. So we're going to go ahead and launch in right here.
17:24 History of hegemonic masculinity. The concept of hegemonic masculinity was first proposed
17:30 in field reports from a study of social inequality in Australian high schools in 1982. In a related
17:36 conceptual discussion of the making of masculinities and the experiences of men's bodies. And in a
17:43 debate over the role of men in Australian labor politics, these beginnings were organized into
17:48 an article which critiqued the male sex role literature and proposed a model of multiple
17:53 masculinities and power relations. This model was integrated into a systematic sociological
17:59 theory of gender. The results, the resulting six pages in gender and power, apparently,
18:04 that's a magazine of some kind, by R. W. Connell on hegemonic masculinity and emphasized femininity
18:11 became the most cited source for the concept of hegemonic masculinity. This concept draws its
18:16 theoretical roots from the Gramcian term hegemony, as it was used to understand the stabilization of
18:22 class relations. The idea was then transferred to a problem of gender relations. Hegemonic
18:28 masculinity draws some of its historical roots from both the fields of social psychology and
18:33 sociology, which contributed to the literature about the male sex role that had begun to recognize
18:39 the social nature of masculinity and the possibilities of change in men's conduct. This literature
18:45 preceded the women's liberation movement and feminist theories of patriarchy, which also played
18:50 a strong role in shaping the concept of hegemonic masculinity. The core concepts of power and
18:56 difference were found in the gay liberation movement, which had not only sought to analyze
19:00 the oppression of men, but also oppression by men. This idea of a hierarchy of masculinity
19:06 has since persisted and strongly influenced the reformulation of the concept. Empirical
19:11 social research also played an important role as a growing body of field studies documented
19:16 local gender hierarchies and local cultures of masculinities in schools, male dominated
19:21 workplaces, and village communities. Finally, the concept was influenced by psychoanalysis.
19:28 Sigmund Freud produced the first analytic biographies of men and showed how adult
19:33 personality was a system under tension and the psychoanalyst Robert J. Stoller popularized
19:38 the concept of gender identity and mapped its variation in boys development. Then it goes into
19:44 really a lot of detail into some of those different areas and by a lot, I mean a lot,
19:50 a lot of great detail in some of those areas. But again, I just want to distill this down to kind
19:54 of give you guys some of the higher points and the higher nuggets. So we're gonna go ahead and move
19:57 on to the next section of this article called framework of hegemonic masculinity. The particular
20:03 normative form of masculinity, that is the most honored way of being a man, which requires all
20:08 other men to position themselves in relation to it is known as hegemonic masculinity. Originally,
20:13 hegemonic masculinity was understood as a pattern of practice that allowed men's dominance over
20:18 women to continue. In western society, the dominant form of masculinity or the cultural ideal of manhood
20:25 was primarily reflective of white heterosexual, largely middle class males. So you can see where
20:30 this is going. The ideals of manhood espoused by the dominant masculinity suggested a number
20:36 of characteristics that men are encouraged to internalize into their own personal codes,
20:40 in which form the basis for masculine scripts of behavior. These characteristics include violence
20:46 and aggression, stoicism, which is emotional restraint, courage, toughness, physical strength,
20:52 athleticism, risk taking, adventure, and thrill seeking, competitiveness, and achievement and
20:58 success. Hegemonic masculinity is not completely dominant, however, as it only exists in relation
21:03 to non hegemonic subordinated forms of masculinity. Hegemonic masculinity is neither normative in
21:09 the numerical sense, as only a small minority of men may enact it, nor in an actual sense as the
21:14 cultural ideal of masculinity is often a fantasy figure, such as John Wayne or John Rambo. Hegemonic
21:21 masculinity may not even be the commonest pattern in the everyday lives of men. Rather, hegemony
21:27 can operate through the formation of exemplars of masculinity, symbols that have cultural authority
21:32 despite the fact that most men and boys cannot fully live up to them. Hegemonic masculinity imposes
21:37 an ideal set of traits which stipulate that a man can never be unfeminine enough. Thus,
21:43 fully achieving hegemonic masculinity becomes an unattainable ideal.
21:47 Complicity to the aforementioned masculine characteristics was another key feature of the original
21:52 framework of hegemonic masculinity. Yet still, since men benefit from the patriarchal dividend,
21:57 they generally gain from the overall subordination of women. However, complicity is not so easily
22:03 defined as pure subordination since marriage, fatherhood, and community life often involved
22:08 extensive compromises with women rather than simple domination over them. In this way,
22:14 hegemonic is not gained through necessarily violent or forceful means, but it is achieved
22:19 through culture, institutions, and persuasion. The interplay of gender with class and race creates
22:25 more extensive relationships among masculinities. For example, new information technology has redefined
22:30 middle class masculinities and working class masculinities in different ways. In a racial context,
22:35 hegemonic masculinity among whites sustains the institutional oppression and physical
22:40 terror that have framed the making of masculinities and black communities. It has been suggested that
22:45 historically suppress groups like inner city African American males exhibit the more violent
22:51 standards of hegemonic masculinity in response to their own subordination and lack of control.
22:56 This idea of marginalization is always relative to what is allowed by the dominant group,
23:01 therefore creating subsets of hegemonic masculinity based on existing social hierarchies.
23:07 And this is kind of at the point of the article where we start to really see the rise of the
23:11 phraseology and the thought process and philosophies behind toxic masculinity. So let's go ahead and
23:17 go into that section here. Connell argues that an important feature of hegemonic masculinity
23:21 is the use of quote unquote toxic practices such as physical violence, which may serve to
23:26 reinforce men's dominance over women in Western societies and this was cited back in 2005. So
23:31 basically back in 2005 is where we first start seeing the phrase toxic masculinity. Okay. Other
23:37 scholars have used the term toxic masculinity to refer to stereotypical masculine gender roles
23:42 that restrict the kinds of emotions allowable for boys and men to express, including social
23:47 expectations that men seek to be dominant, aka the alpha male, and limit their emotional range
23:52 primarily to expressions of anger. So now we're going to talk about toxic masculinity in psychology.
23:58 Terry Cooper's defines toxic masculinity as the constellation of socially regressive male traits
24:04 that serve to foster domination, the devaluation of women, homophobia, and want and violence.
24:10 According to Cooper's talks, toxic masculinity serves to outline aspects of hegemonic masculinity
24:15 that are socially destructive, such as misogyny, homophobia, greed, and violent domination.
24:21 These traits are contrasted with more positive aspects of hegemonic masculinity,
24:25 such as pride and one's ability to win at sports, to maintain solidarity with a friend
24:30 to succeed at work or to provide for one's family. Toxic masculine norms are a feature of life for
24:36 men in American prisons, where they are reflected in the behavior of both staff and inmates. The
24:40 qualities of extreme self reliance, domination of other men through violence and avoiding the
24:45 appearance of either femininity or weakness comprise an unspoken code among prisoners, suppressing
24:51 vulnerable emotions is often adopted in order to successfully cope with the harsh conditions
24:55 of prison life defined by punishment, social isolation, and aggression. These factors likely
25:00 play a role in suicide among male prisoners. Bullying of boys by their peers and domestic
25:05 violence experience by boys at home can also be expressions of toxic masculinity. The often
25:10 violent socialization of boys produces psychological trauma through the promotion of aggression and
25:15 lack of intimate relations with others. Such trauma is often disregarded, such as the saying boys
25:20 will be boys with regard to bullying. Now we're going to talk about the health effects associated
25:25 with toxic masculinity, at least according to this article. Men who adhere to traditionally
25:29 masculine cultural norms, such as risk taking violence, dominance, primacy of work, need for
25:35 emotional control, desire to win, and pursuit of social status tend to be more likely to experience
25:40 psychological problems such as depression, stress, body image problems, substance abuse, and poor
25:46 social functioning. The effect tends to be stronger in men who also emphasize masculine norms,
25:51 such as self-reliance, seeking power over women in sexual promiscuity, or playboy behavior.
25:56 The social value of self-reliance has diminished over time as modern American society has moved
26:01 more for more toward interdependence. Both self-reliance and the cycling of emotional
26:06 expression can work against mental health, as they make it less likely for men to seek
26:10 psychological help or to possess the ability to deal with difficult emotions.
26:15 Preliminary research suggests that cultural pressure for men to be stoic and self-reliant
26:19 may also shorten men's life spans by causing them to be less likely to discuss health problems
26:23 with their physicians. Now we're going to talk about the men's movement and some of y'all that
26:27 listened to the Red Pill episode, you might recognize some of this. Some authors associated with the
26:32 myopoetic or mythopoetic men's movement have referred to the social pressures placed upon men
26:37 to be violent, competitive, independent, and unfeeling as a toxic form of masculinity,
26:42 in contrast to a real or deep masculinity that they say have been lost with modern society.
26:48 The academic shepherd Bliss proposed a return to agrarian as an alternative to the potentially
26:54 toxic masculinity of warrior ethic. Some examples of these movements include the men's rights,
26:59 movement, or the MRA, which is the main group in which men claim they claim to strive for equality.
27:04 Sociologist Michael Kimmel writes that Bliss' notion of toxic masculinity can be seen as part of the
27:10 myo or here's that word again, mythopoetic movements response to male feelings of powerlessness at a
27:17 time when the feminist movements was challenging traditional male authority. Thus Shepherd Bliss,
27:22 for example, rails against what he calls toxic masculinity, which he believes is responsible
27:27 for most of the evil in the world and proclaims the unheral to goodness of the men who fight the
27:32 fires and till the soil and nurture their families. Okay, guys, I know that took quite a bit. But
27:38 again, I distilled a lot of what that article went down into. I skipped over a whole bunch of
27:43 sections and I kind of distilled it down into that. And to be honest with you, if you were to listen
27:48 to something like that, you'd be like, man, we got to get rid of this toxic masculinity thing.
27:54 This is like an existential threat. I mean, you hear something like that and you hear so many
28:00 dangerous strings and threads that come through that and gosh, that's just got to be something
28:05 that's got to be taken care of, right? I mean, that's just something that every single one of
28:10 us should be talking about. I mean, this should be at the top of every politician's mind when it
28:14 comes to the laws that they're thinking about, you know, enacting for the country, right?
28:18 But guys, we just have to be real about something here. And I know for some of you, it probably
28:23 made you frustrated that I was even reading that, right? And you just hear these things and you know,
28:27 you get all these, all these just ideals that you don't agree with or ideals that just don't really
28:34 fit into what you think masculinity is. But there's a reality to this entire line of study.
28:39 And that's like something like math, toxic masculinity studies are possible only because
28:47 of the strength and sacrifice of sheepdogs, right? For those of you that don't know what
28:55 I'm talking about, obviously, if we go back to the book on combat, that's where you get the concept
28:59 of, you know, the wolf, the sheep and the sheepdogs and the sheepdogs are basically the ones that
29:03 that protect people, they protect the sheep from the wolf. And the thing about it is in America,
29:10 and let's just say the broader West, a bunch of alpha males got together in the early 20th century
29:17 and made sure that we could have stupid, ridiculous conversations about toxic masculinity in 2019.
29:24 Because guess what guys, you're listening to this podcast because you understand English,
29:29 which is a language that I'm speaking, because without those alphas, I would be speaking German
29:34 right now. And that is not a ridiculous stance for me to take. Because if a bunch of alphas from
29:41 the West didn't go over and put down evil socialist evil in the Nazi regime and take care of World
29:48 War one and World War two, there's no way that we would be living a life like what we're living
29:54 right now. Because we've had such relative peace, and I'm gonna specifically talk about the United
30:00 States here, but again, this is applicable to the entire West, we have so pushed to the fringes,
30:05 the idea of defensive country. And again, you're talking, you're listening to a guy right now,
30:10 that's not a veteran, right? So for my veterans out there, shouts out to you because you're no
30:14 matter what, you're gonna be a better man than I am, because you sacrifice for this country.
30:19 But for someone like me, I've never had to really think about war.
30:23 I mean, I never really had to think about what it would be like to leave my family behind,
30:27 to be potentially saying bye to my loved ones for the last time. I've never had to think about
30:32 those things. I've never had to think about what if a country attacks us like the Japanese did
30:37 in Pearl Harbor? Like, I'm in the car, and I'm immediately going to war. And like, and we're
30:42 taking care of business, right? And we're gonna, we're gonna set this right at least here on this
30:46 world, right? But we're so sterilized, listen, 1% of the American population actually serves
30:52 in the armed forces. And way less than a percentage of that are actually in the line of fire where
30:57 they could be taking an enemy, enemy bullet to the forehead, right? But because it's so sanitized,
31:03 we've been sanitized from the Iraq war, from Afghanistan, from what's going on in Syria,
31:08 from what's going on, on with Boko Haram, all over Africa, what's going on with those
31:11 individuals and those things, and the places where you don't even know that we're at,
31:14 is that we don't have to think about them on a regular basis. So for decades, we've had a bunch
31:21 of dorks that have been sitting around and thinking about, well, what's something that I can raise
31:27 hell about? Well, I don't really like the fact that all these alphas are around and winning all
31:34 the things and taking all the women. And you know what, let's just create gender theory.
31:38 I mean, just think about gender studies in the way that we understand it today has not been around
31:44 for a very long time, because there hasn't been that much latitude to be able to even contemplate
31:52 such things. Because life was so hard, surviving was so hard, right? And defending yourself against
31:59 these actual threats and even existential threats and all these different things was so
32:04 overwhelming to us. But for how many decades have we not had to do that? Is anyone listening
32:10 to this podcast have to go kill their food? Like you're constantly on the lookout for food because
32:15 you can't just like go to the grocery store and buy a can of soup and some meat at the deli,
32:20 right? I mean, life has gotten so easy for most of us. We're not defending the edges of our land.
32:26 You don't have a neighborhood watch that's like defending you against the neighborhood from across
32:30 the street. We're so soft. And because of that softness, we can sit around and think about stupid
32:36 crap like toxic masculinity. But here's the thing about it, guys, toxic masculinity is being pushed
32:42 by this feminist agenda. But also the feminist agenda is being pushed by a bunch of beta males.
32:47 And here's the thing about the beta males, guys, they have the loudest voice right now.
32:52 The beta males have the loudest voice right now, because they are emboldened by people that
32:59 align with the political left more of the liberal side of things. They're emboldened by the university
33:05 system. I mean, they're, they're also emboldened by the knowledge that alpha is like a lot of you
33:10 listeners out there right now, probably won't hurt them. I mean, just think about that. We live
33:15 in an era where people will say things online, go back to the episode of you mad bro, we were
33:19 talking about people that are way willing to flame and say these horribly horrific things online,
33:24 because they're not saying it to someone's face. That's the thing about guys is if you say
33:28 something that bad to a guy's face, you got to worry about the right hook, you know what I mean?
33:32 And so as I was thinking through this, I thought back to what we considered to be the best book
33:37 of last year, which is 12 rules for life by Jordan Peterson. And in rule number 11,
33:41 that's the rule called don't do not bother children when they are skateboarding.
33:45 I remember this section and I went back and got it. So I want to read it to you here,
33:48 because I feel like this is really appropriate to my point that the beta males have been given
33:52 too much of a of a megaphone here. So let me just read this section here. I'm cutting a few places
33:58 out and kind of splicing it together, but it's all in rule number 11. So here we go.
34:02 Children and father absent homes are four times as likely to be poor. That means their mothers are
34:07 poor too. Fatherless children are at much greater risk for drug and alcohol abuse. Children living
34:13 with married biological parents are less anxious, depressed, and delinquent than children living
34:17 with one or more non-biological parent. Children in single parent families are also twice as likely
34:23 to commit suicide. The strong turn towards political correctness in universities has exacerbated that
34:28 problem. The voices shouting against oppression have become louder, it seems, in precise proportion
34:34 to how equal, even now increasingly skewed against men, the schools have become. There are whole
34:40 disciplines and universities forthrightly hostile towards men. These are the areas of study dominated
34:46 by the postmodern Neil Marx's claim that Western culture, in particular, is an oppressive structure
34:51 created by white men to dominate and exclude women and other select groups successful only because
34:57 of the that that domination and exclusion. Consider this as well. In regard to oppression,
35:03 any hierarchy creates winners and losers. The winners are, of course, more likely to justify
35:09 the hierarchy and the losers to criticize it. I will repeat that because this is very important in my
35:14 point. The winners are, of course, more likely to justify the hierarchy and the losers to criticize
35:20 it. But one, the collective pursuit of any valued goal produces a hierarchy as some will be better
35:27 in some worse at that pursuit, no matter what it is. And number two, it is the pursuit of goals
35:32 that in large part lends life its sustaining meaning. We experience almost all the emotions
35:38 that make life deep and engaging as a consequence of moving successfully towards something deeply
35:43 desired and valued. The price we pay for that involvement is the inevitable creation of
35:47 hierarchies of success, while the inevitable consequence is difference in outcome.
35:52 Absolute equality would therefore require the sacrifice of value itself. And then there would
35:57 be nothing worth living for. We might instead note with gratitude that a complex, sophisticated
36:02 culture allows for many games and many successful players, and that a well-structured culture allows
36:07 the individuals that compose it to play and to win in many different fashions. It also, it is also
36:14 perverse to consider culture the creation of men. Culture is symbolically, architecturally,
36:19 mythically male. That's partly why the idea of the quote unquote patriarchy is so easily swallowed.
36:26 But it is certainly the creation of humankind, not the creation of men, let alone white men who
36:30 nonetheless contributed their fair share. European culture has only been dominant to the degree
36:35 that it is dominant at all for about 400 years. On the timescale of cultural evolution,
36:41 which is to be measured at minimum in thousands of years, such a time span barely registers.
36:46 Furthermore, even if women contributed nothing substantial to art literature and the scientists
36:51 prior to 1960 and the feminist revolution, which is not something I believe, then the role they
36:56 played raising children and working on the farms was still instrumental in raising boys and freeing
37:01 up men, a very few men so that humanity could propagate itself and strive forward. So guys,
37:07 obviously in that section, you could see a lot of what Jordan Peterson is talking about for any of
37:11 you that follows podcasts or any of his lectures or things like that. You see this similar vein
37:15 in a lot of things that he's saying, because it shouldn't really be this way. But just like
37:20 everything is apparently nowadays, it's very much so political. And here's the thing, toxic
37:25 masculinity is very much so a left versus right issue. So on the left, you have things like Vox
37:32 and salon and, you know, the New York Times and you basically liberals and Democrats and on the
37:37 right, you have Fox News and the Daily Wire and the National Review and Conservatives and Republicans.
37:42 And here's the thing, if you mentioned toxic masculinity and it's coming from the left,
37:46 it is absolutely the most reprehensible thing. It's an existential threat that we've got to take
37:50 out. It's all that kind of, you know, hyperbolic stuff I was talking about earlier. But you know,
37:54 what's interesting just as like a little side note, most of the people on the left like love
37:59 rap culture, right? I mean, remember Hillary Clinton in 2016 is like she was stumbling over
38:04 herself to get Jay Z and Beyonce to like come out and do like a concert for I think it was in like
38:08 Ohio or something like that. But the thing about it is, is there anything more misogynistic than rap?
38:14 I mean, is there anything more hashtag me too than rap music? And is it even worse that the
38:19 fact that a lot of these guys actually do some of the stuff and the songs that they say, right,
38:23 the things that they do to women and how they marginalize them? But then we don't ever hear
38:27 about that when we talk about toxic masculinity. I didn't see Hillary Clinton given Jay Z elect,
38:31 you know, a lecture when he went up on stage, she was up there trying to dance or whatever the
38:35 heck she was doing. But then on the right side of the issue, you know, they're talking about
38:38 masculinity, but where I feel like the right gets it wrong, if we can say that way, no pun intended,
38:43 but where the right gets it wrong is they just want to defend manhood, you know, wholesale.
38:48 And they don't want to have that conversation about what manhood should be. And guys, next week,
38:54 we're going to talk a lot about that. What manhood should be? What is a biblical definition of manhood?
39:00 What should you be teaching your sons right now? What should you be teaching your nephew? What
39:03 should you be teaching your little brother? Those are the things that we're going to talk about,
39:07 because the thing about it is, and I've seen this a lot in the in the age of Trump and the MAGA age
39:10 that we live in right now, there's a lot of people that are just really ready to go and they're trying
39:14 to defend them. I saw pastor after pastor after pastor, basically just shrug their shoulders and
39:19 say, boys will be boys whenever Donald Trump was talking about grabbing women by the pussy.
39:23 When he was talking about the affairs that he was having with women, you guys realize
39:27 Milani is his third wife, right? And he cheated on the first two with the next wife, right? Milani
39:33 was the mistress before she was the first lady, right? And so people are just all, you know, on the
39:38 right, they tend to go way too far and say, well, everything's acceptable. You know, if you bully,
39:42 it's not so bad, you know, if you mansplain, it's not so bad, you know, if you smack a woman on the
39:47 rear end as she's walking by, not so bad. But guys, there's a reality of what manhood and what true
39:53 masculinity actually looks like. So don't buy this nonsense that every form of masculinity is
39:59 toxic. Don't buy that. Don't buy that at all. And next week, we're going to drive that point home.
40:04 And we're going to use the help of some of our favorites to do that. So definitely be on the
40:09 lookout for that's going to come out next Thursday. And guys, this sums up the history of toxic
40:13 masculinity and where we are today. But if you want to know where we're supposed to go in the
40:17 future, come back next week. All right, guys, before we let you go, we're going to do a quick
40:21 resilience boost. As you know, by now, we are a men's ministry and our mission is to cultivate
40:25 manly resilience. And specifically, we do that by providing content like this podcast that for just
40:30 spiritual, mental and physical toughness. So today we're going to work on your mental resilience. But
40:33 also it's going to go into the spiritual side, especially with some of the first things that
40:37 we're going to leave for you. So the very first thing I mentioned how the Senate chamber in the
40:41 state of New York erupted in applause. So if you thought I was lying, I included a link to that. So
40:46 you can actually see the horrific video. And then also in equally or maybe more egregious video
40:52 about the abortionist that was holding up that severed head. So you can watch a minute. And so
40:57 some of you have never seen an abortionist talk. But I think it's really, really important for you
41:01 to look at that and realize how some people can live with themselves. Because this guy was just
41:05 basically like going on with his day, almost like he was doing his taxes, you know, ripping a baby
41:09 into hundreds of pieces. So I couldn't include that video on there. So if you want to get really,
41:13 really [inaudible] off, you should watch that one. But also I left in a few other things. So I talked
41:17 about the Gillette ads. So again, it's called we believe the best men can be. So I left that in
41:22 there for those of you who had never seen it, which kind of launched this whole diet tribe into
41:26 talks and about into talking about toxic masculinity. Also, I included the Wikipedia page that was
41:31 looking at hegemonic masculinity. Because again, there was a whole lot of content on there that I
41:35 didn't get to. And there's a lot of content that I think you guys would really, really enjoy. And
41:39 if you want to take a deeper dive, this is kind of a good center point for you to basically peel off
41:44 into those other areas. And then as always, when I bring this book up, I want to make sure that
41:48 you have access to it. But for those of you that have not read 12 rules for life and antidote to
41:52 chaos by Jordan Peterson, which is the section of the book that we read earlier in this podcast,
41:57 I've made sure to put that link to the Amazon thing on there for you so that you can check it out.
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