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045 - Dad Bods

October 18, 2018 40m 22s Full transcript available
045 - Dad Bods
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In this episode, we tackle the cultural phenomenon of the 'dad bod' and its implications on manhood and health. It's time to stop accepting mediocrity and recognize that a dad bod is often a reflection of poor lifestyle choices, not a badge of honor.
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0:59 This is Undaunted Life.
1:12 A man's podcast.
1:13 I'm your host Kyle Thompson.
1:14 Let's get into it.
1:15 All right, guys.
1:16 Today, we're talking about dad bods.
1:18 So some of you are like, all right, what's a dad bod?
1:21 So here you go.
1:22 I'm going to take us to an unbelievable intellectual level here.
1:26 And I'm going to be reading to you a definition from urbandictionary.com.
1:30 So here we go.
1:31 A dad bod.
1:32 That is a male body type that is best described as softly round.
1:37 It's built upon the theory that once a man has found a mate and fathered a child,
1:41 he doesn't need to worry about maintaining a sculpted physique.
1:44 If human bodies were cuts of meat, the dad bod would skew more marbled ribeye than filet mignon.
1:51 Or if human bodies were sea mammals, dad bod would be more like a grazing manatee than a speedy dolphin.
1:57 The dad bod is more mudslide than mountain, more soft served than sorbet, more sad trombone
2:03 than clarinet, more mashed potato than skinny fry.
2:07 The dad bod is built for comfort.
2:09 So there you go.
2:12 So here's the thing about dad bod.
2:14 So if you hadn't heard of dad bod before, then you're caught up to speed.
2:17 But I'm pretty sure most of my listeners are familiar with what a dad bod is.
2:21 And some of you, you're familiar with it because when you look in the mirror, that's what you see.
2:25 And so here's the thing about dad bod.
2:27 Dad bod is a euphemism.
2:28 That's exactly what that is.
2:30 And it's a euphemism for fat guy or out of shape, like that type of thing.
2:35 And so up front, let me just be real clear about what I'm saying and what I'm not saying.
2:38 I'm not talking about guys that are bad bodied.
2:42 And maybe, maybe you know what I'm talking about here.
2:45 But there are some guys that are just incredible athletes or they're really in fantastic shape.
2:52 But genetically, they don't have an impressive body.
2:55 Because we see the same in the reverse, right?
2:58 We see people that, you know, haven't lifted away their entire life,
3:01 haven't ran a ran a mile and their whole life combined, but they have an eight pack.
3:05 They're just ripped out of their minds.
3:06 Just genetically, they're different.
3:08 Like they've never done a calf raise in their entire life, but it looks like they have two
3:11 cantaloupes on the backs of their legs, right?
3:13 It's just that type of a thing.
3:15 But let's just be honest about what we're talking about is we're talking about people
3:19 that are out of shape.
3:19 We're talking about dudes that are not taking care of their bodies.
3:22 Typically, you don't get a dad bod.
3:24 You don't get that soft round shape if you're taking care of yourself,
3:28 if you're dieting, if you're exercising those types of things.
3:30 So the thing that I, the reason why I wanted to talk about this is because
3:34 I feel like our culture has given credence to this type of a lifestyle.
3:39 Because let's be honest, a dad bod is not necessarily just a result of something.
3:43 It's evidence of a lifestyle that you're leading.
3:46 Because again, the overwhelming majority of people that have bad bodies,
3:50 it's because they've gotten themselves there by the choices that they've made,
3:53 the things that they've chosen not to do, right?
3:56 But the reason why I think culture has really exacerbated why so many people think that this
4:02 is an okay lifestyle and an okay body to have is, you know, fat guys are funny,
4:05 right?
4:06 I mean, think of Chris Farley and different people and comedies and things like that.
4:10 The fat guy's just kind of funny. Oh, you know, his belly's sticking out of the bottom of his shirt
4:14 and oh, look, he's, he's grabbing a stomach and how many times do you see it at a football game?
4:18 You see a guy in the crowd, he's got a shirt off and, you know, it's 12 degrees outside,
4:22 but it doesn't matter. The fat guys got a shirt off and he's got the team name written on a stomach.
4:25 It's like, okay, whatever. But even like, it's almost become acceptable that being out of shape and
4:32 being sedentary is funny. I mean, you've seen guys that have on the backs of their cars, you know,
4:38 the 26.2 or the 13.1 stickers for marathons and half marathons. And then you got the guy that's
4:43 got the 0.0 stickers. Maybe some of you guys actually have that on your vehicles. Like,
4:48 it's some sort of badge of honor that you think, you know, exercising is a stupid idea. Like,
4:54 I don't really understand that. But you have guys that will say things like, you know, I'm in shape,
4:58 rounds of shape, like, you have guys like that, like, oh, yeah, it's funny.
5:02 Here's the other thing that I think about it. When you type dad bods into Google,
5:07 right? So you go to Google, you type in dad bods. Every single one of the stories on the first page
5:12 is positive. Like, like all the top articles portray it positively. So it's, you know,
5:19 what do women like? Do they prefer the sculpted physique or the dad bod? Or here's the top 10
5:24 dad bods from 2018. Here's, you know, here's why a dad bod is more healthy than a this bod.
5:30 And it's everyone kind of taking their own approach to why this is a positive thing.
5:35 And I think it feeds into a lot what we see now, not as, not as much with guys,
5:39 but with women and kind of the biggest, beautiful thing. And so you see a lot of people, and if you
5:45 don't know exactly what I'm talking about, there's a lot of people now that, I mean, there's an
5:48 advocate for everything now, there's advocates for abortion, there's advocates for democratic or
5:52 republican parties, there are advocates for the NRA, but there's also advocates for fat people
5:56 for people that have made a lot of decisions to not take care of themselves. And instead of
6:02 telling these people, hey, maybe you should make some better choices. Maybe you should make some
6:05 lifestyle changes. We're just going to be like, no, no, no, we're just going to make it big as
6:08 beautiful. It's kind of this, this culture of no judgment, but it's leading to a culture full of
6:14 slobs. And so here's the thing, and some people are like, Oh, well, what about people with thyroid
6:18 issues? Guys, let me just take that, that big excuse out there from the beginning. For every one
6:23 person that has a legitimate thyroid issue, whether genetic or something just unique with them,
6:29 there are probably 10,000 people that are just making bad decisions. They're eating too much and
6:35 moving too infrequently, right? So the thing about it here is there seems to be a dichotomy between
6:41 the perception of what a dad bot is and why we talk about it the way that we do and why it's
6:46 seen kind of flippant and the reality. So again, a difference between the perception and the reality.
6:51 So there's a few things that I was thinking about whenever I was going through this. And the first
6:55 is it's the perception is that it's just not a big deal culturally. It's just really not that
7:01 big of a thing. It's just kind of a funny thing. But the reality is, is it's just, it's kind of like
7:06 how every dad is portrayed in movies and TV. Like they're portrayed, portrayed as these useless
7:12 dopes. I mean, especially on television, just think about, you know, some of your favorite sitcoms
7:17 or things like that. Think about how the dad is always seen. Like maybe he's, you know,
7:22 Phil from Modern Family or, you know, Michael Scott from The Office or just these dopey guys,
7:28 right? I know Michael Scott's not not a dad in that show, but you kind of get the point.
7:31 These guys are just dopes. And so I think this plays into that narrative that when a guy doesn't
7:37 take care of himself, when he's just kind of sloppy drinks, beer, he's got cheeto dust in his,
7:41 you know, chest pubes and all that, she's like, Oh, gosh, that's so funny. That's, but it's
7:45 the difference between perception and reality. So, so another perception is that women want men
7:50 with a dad bod. But, but the reality is, is when you look further and you go deeper than the silly
7:56 YouTube videos, women are actually just projecting their own insecurities on their beta male soft
8:02 body dude in their life. I mean, seriously, seriously, just type in dad bod into Google. And I think
8:08 like the third or fourth article, you're going to see, you know, these, it's always comes back to
8:11 what a woman is attracted to. But when you, when you look at what these women say, and there's
8:16 videos and there's blogs and there's different things. But when you look at what these women say in
8:20 terms of why they like men with a dad bod, it's so unbelievably clear. You don't need a clinical
8:25 psychology degree or background to realize these women are just projecting their insecurities.
8:30 They want an out of shape man because maybe they're out of shape. Like, they want a more
8:36 rotund guy because right now they're in shape. But later, maybe after kids or after they stop
8:41 caring about the gym as much and they get a little bit rotund. It's just like, you know,
8:45 they they'll have something in common. Like he won't be able to like judge her as much.
8:50 And it might seem like I'm being a little bit harsh, but that's the reality. I mean,
8:53 we see this a lot of places like, you know, like people like like people, but we see people kind of
8:58 flock in certain types of areas. So anytime that you've read research or even looked at
9:03 documentaries of these people that are, you know, six, seven, 800 pounds or more or something like
9:06 that, typically the people and their families are out of shape too, not not to this unbelievably,
9:12 you know, disgusting and sad degree. But it's one of those things that's really, really
9:17 sad because these people are like coming together, like their own clan or their own like tribe or
9:23 something like that. And it's just this tribe of extreme, unhealthy people, right? And there's
9:29 one last kind of perception in reality I wanted to talk through. And the perception is that it's
9:33 okay if a Christian man is out of shape that, you know, Jesus just loves us just the way we are,
9:40 right? But here's the reality. Jesus does love us to a degree that none of us can even fathom,
9:47 but he doesn't just love us the way that we are. I mean, guys, just think about this logically.
9:53 If he loved us just the way that we are, there would have been no reason for the cross.
9:56 I mean, some of you I know you probably thought I was like going to sacrilege town here for just
10:02 a second, but that's the reality is Jesus does love us, but he requires something of us.
10:09 And it's discipleship with him. It's our faith in him to be our savior, right?
10:14 But let's kind of go back to the first thing about that perception is most people think it's
10:20 okay for a Christian man to be out of shape. Even if they've never like said that before
10:25 or really talked through that, that's the reality. Like it truly is the reality for most people.
10:33 They just think it's acceptable because if it wasn't seen as something that was culturally
10:40 acceptable or acceptable within the church, then just to be honest, and I'm going to push a little
10:44 bit here, how many out of shape and dopey, doughy pastors are there out there? Perhaps yours is.
10:51 Perhaps your pastor is a guy that so clearly is not taking care of his body.
10:58 And I think that's a problem. I think that's obviously a problem. I mean, guys, if you've been
11:04 following this podcast or following this ministry for any length of time, you kind of know where
11:08 we land on things. Like it's all about cultivating mainly resilience. We talk about spiritual,
11:12 mental and physical resilience. And I've said this before. And if you've seen any of our videos,
11:17 like our three minute resilience boost or anything like that, your physicality is an active worship.
11:24 And the thing about it is for a lot of people taking care of their bodies is really, really
11:28 difficult. And so they'll kind of ignore the physical resilience and they'll focus on the other
11:34 two, usually one or the other, either mental resilience or spiritual resilience. They just kind of focus
11:39 on something else. But guys, I want to kind of go back to something that a lot of y'all are
11:44 familiar with, which is, which is our devotional that's on the U version Bible at this one of the
11:48 first things we did as a, as a minister, as a ministry, it's called Undaunted Life, a man's devotional.
11:54 And so if you go on the uversion app or on Bible.com, you just type undaunted life into plans. And it's
11:59 the the one with the gray and black logo on there with the, with the black line on there. But I want
12:04 to read to you guys from day 15 of that devotional, because that devotional is a 21 day devotional.
12:11 It was seven days dedicated to spiritual resilience. The next seven were to mental resilience and the
12:16 last seven were to physical resilience. So on day 15 was kind of the first lesson I wanted to do on
12:22 physical resilience and what that looks like. And so some of you have read this before,
12:27 and typically I would just try to summarize something. But I really wanted to just read this
12:30 devotional here to you in its entirety to kind of give you the reason why I'm talking about this in
12:35 the way that I am, because it's really important. And I know some of you guys are maybe a little
12:40 offended right now. Maybe you feel a little bit like I'm coming down on you hard. And to be honest with
12:46 you, I probably am. That's probably exactly what's happening to you right now. But the devotional
12:50 scripture that was there for this devotional for this day was 1 Corinthians 6 and it's verses 19
12:57 and 20. So I'm going to read these verses real quick. And then I'm going to flip over to the
13:00 devotional and read that to you. So here we go. 1 Corinthians 6 verses 19 and 20. I'll be reading
13:04 from the English standard version. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit
13:09 within you whom you have from God? You are not your own for you were bought with a price. So
13:16 glorify God in your body. So guys, if you want to follow along again, I'll be on day 15 of the
13:22 undaunted life of man's devotional. But in the meantime here, I'm just going to go ahead and
13:26 click there. So I'll give you guys a second to click there if you haven't quite gotten there yet. But
13:30 again, I'll just be reading through this real quick. And guys, I'm doing this because I really
13:34 want this point to land with you. I don't want you to kind of miss what I'm saying. And you know,
13:39 I've kind of thought through this and this was written a while ago and it's just kind of one of
13:42 those things I just want to make sure that we're all on the same page. So here we go. This is day 15
13:47 of undaunted life of man's devotional. And this is called a body of glorification. The third element
13:54 of an undaunted life is to have physical resilience. Many men find respite in developing their physical
14:02 strength while others neglect it almost entirely. However, the attainment of physical strength can
14:06 help connect us to God in a unique way. Today's scripture is probably the most popular verse that
14:12 refers to the literal bodies of believers in all of the New Testament. Most of us have probably
14:17 heard this verse quoted in a plethora of contexts. The scripture can refer to many things about the
14:22 body, such as physical purity and chastity, but we'll focus on physical health and temperance.
14:26 Paul leaves no wiggle room for us in these verses. In short, Paul would tell us the following things
14:33 about our bodies, the Holy Spirit is housed there. We do not own our bodies. Our bodies were purchased
14:41 at a high price. And we must use our bodies to glorify God. Easy to read, hard to do. Especially
14:49 if you've heard this before this verse before, it can be easy to glaze over the magnitude of it.
14:54 However, we need scriptures like these to remind us about the importance of caring for our bodies.
14:59 These verses can serve as anchor points for us as we try to start or maintain a healthy diet or
15:04 exercise regimen. They can also help us if we are struggling to control our intake of food or alcohol.
15:09 The reason is because God is not calling us to exercise several times a week just so we can feel
15:15 better physically. Furthermore, God is not calling us to consume a healthy diet so we can fit comfortably
15:20 into our favorite pair of jeans again. Also, God is not calling us to avoid overeating or getting
15:26 drunk just so that it can be easier for us to get out of bed the next morning. While all of those
15:31 things are good, God's reasoning is way better and more important than that. Our physical bodies
15:37 were bought with a price. That price was the life of Jesus. It was a high price to pay,
15:43 but God provided a way for the debt to be covered by his son. Since our bodies were purchased,
15:48 we do not own them. I'll say that again. Since our bodies were purchased, we do not own them.
15:56 Since we do not own them, we should not dictate how they are used. We should care for them as if we
16:02 take Paul's words literally. If our bodies are temples for the Holy Spirit, then we should focus
16:07 on making the temples as physically strong and healthy as we can. Would you say that your current
16:13 diet and exercise regimen is honoring God up to the standard that he set? If yes, share your
16:18 regimen with a friend who is not doing well in this area. If no, what changes can you make to improve
16:24 your physical life today? Again, guys, that's from day 15 of Undaunted Life of Man's Devotional
16:30 on the U-Virgin Bible app. But again, physical resilience is incredibly, incredibly important.
16:35 And I just got to be honest with you. I'm surrounded by way too many Christian men who just don't give
16:40 a crap about this. They don't care at all about this. I mean, if you talk about spiritual, mental,
16:46 and physical, I don't really know that one is necessarily more popular than the other. I know
16:50 a lot of guys that just kind of shirk responsibility in all three of those areas. But here's the thing
16:55 about physical resilience, guys, is you can see it. I mean, you've probably heard me say this before.
16:59 You can see if someone's physically resilient or not. It's just, I mean, it's right there in
17:04 front of you for the most part. Some people have bad bodies. That's not, that's not most people.
17:08 There's not a whole lot of people out there that really, really do take care of themselves
17:11 that man, they just have bad bodies. And here's the thing that I want to kind of get into because
17:15 obviously with most podcasts, I try to kind of prescribe something or try to change something
17:19 for you. But I'm just going to go ahead and get ahead of some of you guys because I can already
17:24 feel the excuses as I'm sitting here recording this, I can already feel some of you guys and the
17:29 dispute, the excuses that you're going to come up with for why this doesn't apply to you or why
17:34 it's not really possible or blah, blah, blah. So I kind of came up with my own excuse generator,
17:39 and I'm going to go ahead and be an excuse destroyer all at the same time. So to all the guys who say,
17:45 you know, I don't have enough time to work out guys, there is literally always time to work out.
17:52 You're just doing it wrong. I mean, this is one of the easiest ones. So I was talking to a guy
17:58 here recently, and we were talking about physical resilience a little bit. And you know, he told me
18:02 he's like, yeah, you know, whenever I calculate up all my hours, I kind of counted up all my hours
18:08 of the day and kind of what I'm doing. And you know, when I get to the end of my calculation,
18:12 I only have an hour to myself every day. I just, I just can't have the time to work out because
18:19 I only have an hour to myself. And I think the guy told me that thinking I would be like,
18:23 yeah, bro, you're right. You only have 60 minutes to yourself every day. Yeah, dude, you couldn't
18:28 possibly work out. And I didn't know this guy well enough to be like to really come at him really
18:33 hard like that. But it was just kind of like, really? No, I'm not going to commend you for that.
18:40 Because the other side of that is, dude, you got a whole hour to yourself a whole hour. That's nuts.
18:45 Most people don't have that time. They don't have maybe 20 minutes in the day. But the thing
18:51 about it is if you don't have time to work out, it's probably because you're doing the process of
18:54 working out wrong, right? So you probably have a gym membership to a gym that's 15, 20 minutes
18:59 away from your house or further. And so you're driving, you know, 15 minutes to the gym. And then
19:05 you once you get to the gym, that's when you change. And so that takes another 10 or 15 minutes.
19:08 And then you're kind of on Instagram and checking, checking things while you're going to the bathroom.
19:12 And then you finally make it out to the floor. And you know, you just kind of put around for a
19:16 while. And by the time it's all said and done, by the time you've taken your four or five-minute
19:20 breaks in between sets while you're on Instagram or like, you know, farting around with your fantasy
19:24 football roster or something like that. An hour and a half later, you're done. You're done working
19:28 out, right? You're barely sweating, but you're done working out. Then you go into the the showers
19:32 and you take a shower, you get changed, you get dressed, and then you drive back home. So by the
19:36 time it's all said and done, this is like a two or three hour long deal. If that's how you work
19:42 out, I'm with you. You don't have enough time to work out. Like, who wants to do that? That's
19:46 ridiculous. Like, that's the thing I don't understand about a lot of guys is it's just like, how are
19:50 you spending all this time in the gym? First of all, you're not even working that hard. But
19:54 what are you doing? Are you here to work out? Are you here to socialize? Like, what exactly are you
19:58 doing? So for most of these people, you have the time to work out. You can work out at your house.
20:04 That was, that was the thing that I was talking to my Sunday school here recently. That was the
20:07 thing is people that are like, oh, I don't really have time to work out or I don't have the gym
20:10 membership or, you know, money's tight right now. It's like, great. You know how much you can do
20:13 with the human body and mother earth? Like, you can do just about everything, right? You're,
20:18 you're not going to set the world on fire at a deadlift competition, but you can get pretty
20:22 dang strong. You can get ripped. Just need your body. And here's another excuse to all of the,
20:27 I just don't know enough about diet and exercise guys. Guys, you have a super computer in your
20:33 pocket. Most of you are listening to this podcast on a super computer, your iPhone or your android
20:39 or something like that. You're listening to it. Like the, the wealth of knowledge that's out there
20:44 about exercise and diet is ridiculous. And here's the thing about diet. I'll just go ahead and tell
20:48 you from the beginning, it is wicked confusing. It's crazy confusing. I mean, if you've listened
20:53 into the Joe Rogan podcast here recently, he's had a bunch of guys on that are debating keto
20:57 versus non keto, you know, uh, high fat versus low fat. And what's the best diet for this person?
21:01 And someone from this part of the world and the general consensus is after hours and hours of
21:05 podcast listening, no one has a freaking clue. No one really knows, except that we know sugar is
21:10 bad. Essentially, we know sugar is bad. Everything else is pretty much debatable. But the thing about
21:14 it is is you can just stumble upon an exercise regimen online. Like you can just close your eyes
21:20 and type random things into YouTube and probably find a workout. I mean, there's so much out there.
21:26 It's just that a lot of you are unwilling to go out there and get it. Another excuse is to all the,
21:31 you know, I'm just worried about getting injured. If I do something different, like jujitsu, like
21:36 those types of guys, guys, I mean, this one's simple, just sack up. I mean, I'm not saying like,
21:40 if you don't do jujitsu, you're not a man. That's not what I'm saying. But when it comes to physical
21:44 resilience, I personally, and I've played every sport under under the sun, there's nothing that
21:50 has taught me more about physical resilience than doing jujitsu. And jujitsu is everywhere. It's
21:54 like karate in the 80s. Until people found out it wasn't a real fighting style. Like just, I mean,
21:59 for real, like doing something like jujitsu, doing something that's really, really difficult.
22:04 I mean, so many guys, that's just like their, their ultimate excuse is just like, I, you know,
22:08 I'm probably going to get hurt. I mean, I have been going to the forage in Edmund for almost a
22:13 year and a half. And I've got a three or four classes a week. And I've, it's not that it can't
22:17 happen. But I've yet to see a serious injury. No broken bones, like no concussions, like nothing
22:22 crazy. No one broke their neck. No one's paralyzed. Like it's just it's like this outsized fear of
22:27 something that's not really that common. I mean, guys get way more hurt doing like intramural
22:33 basketball or YMCA pickup games or, or flag football or something like that. They get way
22:38 more injured doing stuff like that. Blowing out their hamstrings, like rolling their ankles,
22:42 like guys falling and breaking either shoulders or tear the rotator cuff. Like that stuff happens
22:46 all the time. So it's like, you know, the moment somebody suggests something that's a little bit
22:50 more difficult. You like run away, run the other direction. I don't understand that.
22:53 And here's another excuse to all the, I'm just not in a season right now where I can focus on my
22:59 health guys, like those types of guys here. I want to be very clear in this message. So, so if you
23:05 tune me out, tune me back in. So tune me back in. Stop using your families or your job or
23:13 an injury you sustained back in high school as your excuse to not take care of yourself.
23:19 I mean, you're literally saving time now, but you're deleting it off the end of your life.
23:24 That's the reality what you're doing here. So this, oh, I only have an hour of time to myself guy
23:30 who's using that as an excuse not to take care of himself. Or, you know, it's just a really,
23:36 really, you know, tough season with my business and, you know, it's just really hard at home
23:39 right now, like to that guy. Okay, you're saving time now, but you're deleting it off the end of your
23:44 life. I'll say it again. Like that. That's what you're doing. And even if time isn't an issue,
23:50 let's say you get the same amount of time. Will your body even work like you want it to at that age?
23:54 Because that's the other thing people were like, you know, I could get hit by a bus. Let's assume
23:58 no one gets hit by a bus or attacked by a pack of wild dogs or something like that.
24:03 If you're living to a certain age, which for most of the people listening to this podcast,
24:08 your life expectancy is somewhere in the late 70s to mid 80s. Like, do you want your bodies to
24:13 work out at that age in your 60s and 70s? I know I do. I'm doing the things right now to take care
24:19 of myself. So when you talk about a season of life, that's an unbelievably undefined period of time.
24:25 We know how long a baseball season lasts starts in March, usually ends in October every now and
24:30 then it bleeds into November. Like, we know exactly when the college football season ends.
24:34 We already know when the national title game is. We know what the Super Bowl is in 2019,
24:39 but a season of life, no one can really define what that looks like. And so when you say in this
24:45 season of life, I can't really focus on my health, you're basically giving yourself carte
24:49 blanche to be like, Oh, I don't guess I really need to focus on my health ever. And I guess the
24:54 last excuse I kind of came up with and I know there's a billion more, but these are just the
24:58 main ones I get all the time is to all of the, I just can't sustain motivation to work out or
25:03 have a good diet guys to y'all. I'll make it simple. Discipline over motivation. Discipline
25:12 over motivation. I'm getting all my jocko willing now, because here's the thing about motivation,
25:16 guys, or, you know, that feeling fired up to do something. If you only get fired up every now and
25:22 then when you when you see, you know, an Instagram guy, an Instagram workout guy, and then you're
25:27 like, Oh man, that's awesome. I'm gonna get, I'm gonna get motivated for that. Or when there's a 5k
25:31 coming up, you know, a turkey trot coming up and Thanksgiving, and you're like, Oh, okay,
25:35 I'm gonna do that. Or, you know, there's this competition coming up, or maybe there's something
25:39 you want to do. If you're just up and down with your motivation, I just got to tell you guys,
25:44 work your discipline. Because here's the thing about discipline. Discipline is a muscle.
25:49 So my favorite thing to say, discipline is a muscle. You have to exercise it.
25:54 Like you have to work it out. If discipline isn't exercised, it will get weaker. It will wane.
26:01 You just have to create this, this, this overwhelming sense of having to do something.
26:07 So, so guys, I just got to tell you, I work out pretty much every single day of the week,
26:12 Saturday, maybe the only day that I take off in a week, but I typically do something on Saturday,
26:17 maybe an active rest or a sneaker, sneak something in. But I don't want to wake up early and go to
26:24 6am jujitsu. I don't want to do that for the most part. I don't want to wake up early and lift weights
26:30 in my garage. I don't want to do those things. But discipline has required it of me to do that.
26:35 Because strength begets more strength. Resilience begets more resilience.
26:41 And you don't get there unless you make it a part of who you are. I mean, I know guys right
26:47 now that are on like 1200 calorie crash diets or, you know, they're on this crazy, unsustainable,
26:53 you know, physical journey that they just can't possibly turn into a lifestyle of health.
26:58 But it's just like, man, just find something that works for you. There's so many resources.
27:01 I'm going to go into some here in a little bit because I want this for you guys,
27:05 but I can't do it for you. And the real quick thing that I want to want to give you guys,
27:10 and some of you all have heard me talk about this before, and this is really quick,
27:13 is just overall training tips. Because I see a lot of mistakes people make with their training
27:19 regiments, a lot of mistakes. And part of the reason why I recognize those mistakes is because
27:23 I've made them like guys, I'd never had someone like teach me how to do a lot of this stuff.
27:28 I've had to learn it a lot on my own. I started lifting kind of on my own when I was 14, 15,
27:33 16 years old. Never had a lot of coaching and stuff that I've had to kind of go back and change
27:37 on my own. But the three tips that I would give you guys in terms of training is train now,
27:42 train hard and train tough. And so let's talk about train now. I literally mean train now.
27:49 I don't mean, you know, hop out of your car and traffic and do a bunch of pushups, even though
27:53 that'd be pretty dope. Don't do that. Please don't do that. Don't be unsafe. But most people,
27:58 they're going to be like, all right, next week. So you're maybe you're listening to this on
28:02 Thursday when it came out, you're going to be like, all right, Monday, Monday, that's what new me,
28:06 new me, I'm going to make that happen. Or January 1st, you know, new year, new me. Let's make this
28:10 happen, right? You know, you're not going to make it happen. Maybe you work out Monday,
28:14 wonder what you're going to be doing on Tuesday when you're sore. I bet you're not working out.
28:18 Train now. Do it today. That's the first thing. The second is train hard. A lot of guys, like,
28:23 I kind of alluded to earlier, they go to the gym, they're basically farting around. They're not
28:27 doing anything. They're not working hard. They're just kind of there. They're checking the box.
28:32 I went to the gym today. What'd you do? I, you know, a little bit of this, a little bit of that.
28:36 The thing is, is most guys don't train very hard. And I've talked to some, some buddies of mine,
28:41 they're like former collegiate athletes and stuff like that. It's such a mental thing too.
28:45 Training hard. It's so mental. Cause you get to this point where you're kind of comfortable
28:50 with the workouts you've done and you know, you kind of stick to the things you're good at. Like,
28:54 maybe you're a good distance runner. So you run a little bit more distance, maybe than you should,
28:58 or maybe you're a great sprinter. And so you're always running sprints as opposed to distance,
29:02 or maybe you're, you know, you're kind of, you got a squatters body. So you spend a lot of time squatting,
29:06 you're not doing as many pull ups, like that type of thing. If you're going to have physical
29:09 resilience, you have to train yourself to do things that your body maybe isn't that used to or isn't
29:13 even built for. And last thing is trained tough. Part of the thing about training is people tend
29:19 to only train in conditions that are favorable to them. So I talked about that a little bit,
29:24 doing things that are just better for your body, right? Maybe you're more fast twitch. So you're
29:28 doing a lot of sprinty, you know, plio type things. But at the end of the day, you've got to challenge
29:33 yourself. And one of the easiest ways to do that is with inclement conditions. And if you follow
29:39 us on Instagram, you've seen I've done that before, you know, this summer, you know, when it was really,
29:43 really hot out, I said to do this safely, but I would put on sweatshirts and sweatpants and stuff
29:47 like that. And I would work out outside when it was over 100 degrees. I stayed safe. I stayed
29:52 hydrated and all those different things. But the thing about it is, is what if you're in a situation
29:56 where it's wicked hot, and you have to go miles and miles to potentially save your life or save
30:01 someone else's life. Are you ready for that? Are you mentally ready? Have you gone into the deep
30:05 end there? I remember one time last year was down to like 10 or 11 degrees in Oklahoma. It
30:10 doesn't normally get that cold in Oklahoma. And so I ran a bunch of sprints outside just
30:14 in a pair of shorts, right? And it's just kind of like, all right, you know, I wanted to inoculate
30:18 my body to those, those crazy conditions. That's what training tough is. And guys, it sucked.
30:24 It was terrible. Like, I didn't enjoy it. But think about if, you know, you're in a situation,
30:29 your car breaks down, and you're in literally in the middle of nowhere, and it's snowing.
30:32 What are you gonna do? Like, you're a few miles away from the nearest town, and you've got to go,
30:37 your family's in the car. You know, phones aren't working, dad. Like, there's not going to be another
30:43 car driving down on this road, dad. You can sit there in the car and freeze, or you're going to go
30:46 do something about it. You go fix it. If you train tough, you're going to be more resilient in that
30:52 type of situation. And I know I keep talking about physical resilience. I do want to talk a little
30:55 bit about this. There's a major difference when I'm talking about physical resilience versus physical
31:00 strength, a major difference. And so the thing about strength is most of the time people are like,
31:05 yeah, I'm trying to get strong or trying to get my strength up. They don't normally talk about
31:08 their physical resilience. And this is why I like to talk about resilience more, because strength
31:13 is kind of up and down. It's kind of everywhere. And any of you guys out there that are powerlifters
31:17 or that you've done any powerlifting over a length of time, there are just days when you are strong.
31:22 You just feel good. Like you put it, you put maybe an extra plate on either side, like you just feel
31:28 really good. Everything about you feel like you're loose and strong. And then there are days where
31:33 you are just not strong at all. I had a daily I like this morning. When I was lifting this morning,
31:38 I was like, man, I'm just not as strong today. It didn't mean I took the workout off. I still did
31:44 it. I still push the weight that I could push. But just wasn't as physically strong. I mean,
31:49 even the world's strongest man, like right now the defending world's strongest man is half
31:52 Thor Bjornsson from from Iceland. He's six foot eight, like, which is not exactly the best body
31:57 for somebody that does powerlifting and on all these strongman competitions. Typically,
32:01 you want to be a little bit more squatty, like for for deadlift stuff and and squat stuff like
32:05 you want to be a little bit shorter. But the guy's just an incredible, incredible athlete.
32:08 But the day after the last Arnold classic or the last world's strongest man competition or the
32:15 Europe's strongest man competition, the day after I guarantee you, he wasn't the strongest man in
32:20 the world. His body was broken down. He, you know, he kind of pushed himself to the limit.
32:25 There was somebody else on the planet earth that was stronger than half the or Bjornsson.
32:29 There's somebody else. His strength had waned. But here's the other thing. Let's say he wasn't.
32:34 Let's say even afterwards he's still the strongest man in the world. What about 20 years from now?
32:38 Pretty sure this guy's in his 30s. When he's in his 50s, I can guarantee you that he won't be as
32:43 strong as he is today. Like he's literally one of the strongest people that's ever been on the
32:48 planet, right? 20 years he won't be 30 years. He certainly won't be. His strength will be gone.
32:53 He'll still have some of it, but he won't have all of it that he that he had in his youth.
32:58 But he can literally have resilience, physical resilience until the day that he dies. That's the
33:03 ability to bounce back. That's the ability to, to go into hard situations and physically be able to
33:10 stand up to the task, whatever that task is in front of you, right? And so I think that's really,
33:15 really important to think about. Think about that when you're training. Like this is not me
33:19 advocating for you training yourself into the ground. You need to be able to still take care
33:23 of yourself. But at the end of the day, are you being purposeful with this? Are you just kind of
33:28 farting around? Just kind of mess in a little bit, you know, maybe go to the gym for a week and
33:33 then you take a couple of weeks off. Is that what your workout regimen has been for your life?
33:37 But really I just have to bring it back. Are you honoring God with your physicality when you do
33:42 that? Now don't get a twist of guys. I'm not saying if you don't have a six pack that God
33:46 can't use you. But I mean, and go into the devotional that there are guys that that God used in the
33:53 Old Testament and a lot of guys really don't like when I bring this up. It's usually because they're
33:56 one of the people that's not in shape. But there were guys that God used their physicality and these
34:02 guys didn't have to go and get ready. These were guys that were just ready. They didn't have to go
34:09 train for what God had for them and God can accomplish anything he wants to through us or anybody or
34:15 anything. But he was using these men that were already ready. They were already physically
34:20 grizzled and physically prepared for what God was going to send him into. So let's say God had
34:26 that calling for you to go and do something that was highly physical that was going to bring him
34:31 glory and spread the good news. Would you be ready? Are you ready right now to do something like that?
34:38 I mean, this isn't that crazy of a scenario guys. This is real life. Are you ready?
34:46 And I think want to wrap up the podcast here with this quote. It's literally one of my favorite
34:50 quotes by Bob Hoffman. It's this, if you put off until another day your good intentions to normalize
34:57 your body, it won't help. The road to despair and unhappiness is paved with good intentions
35:04 lost along the way. Guys, there's a lot of people that want to be in shape. There's a lot of people
35:10 that how gosh, you know, if I could if I could run that next turkey trot, that'd be awesome. Man, if I
35:15 could finish an Iron Man, that'd be so cool. Or gosh, if I could just, you know, run up and down the
35:18 court a few times with my buddies, even in my old age, like I think that'd be really, really nice.
35:23 There's a lot of good intentions out there. But that's not going to make it happen.
35:27 Wishing it and wanting it and hoping for that's not going to happen. Most of the guys listening to
35:33 this podcast, your able body dudes, your body's work. You're not quadriplegic. You don't have some
35:38 sort of degenerative bone disease that if you, you know, step wrong, your entire legs going to explode.
35:43 So let's just be realistic, guys. If your body works, God can use it. So you need to work it out.
35:51 All right, guys, before I let you go, we're going to do a quick resilience boost. As you know,
35:54 by now, we are a men's ministry in our mission is cultivating manly resilience. And specifically,
35:59 we do that by providing content that forges spiritual, mental and physical toughness.
36:03 So today, obviously, we're focusing on physical resilience. And so I'm going to go over some
36:08 some things that would be good for you all. If you're wanting to make a few changes,
36:11 some of these things we've already talked about at different points. But I just want to get you
36:15 started with some of these resources. So the first two things I want to talk to you are first
36:19 three things actually are books that are on the undaunted life website and it's undaunted.life/booklist.
36:26 And these are some of the books that kind of deal with health that will help you guys.
36:30 The first is starting strength by Mark Riptoe. So this is a guy who is a legend in the powerlifting
36:36 community. And he's really big on on form. And so this is like your anti-crossfit guy,
36:41 essentially. So CrossFit is like, hey, let's do as many dangerous workouts as fast as possible
36:46 with as much weight as possible. So, you know, some people out there do that and they work great,
36:50 but Mark Riptoe is not that guy. So he's a he's got that really focuses on form and making sure
36:56 that you get the most out of your strength lifts. So that's a great book, great resource for you guys.
37:00 The second one is bigger leaner stronger by Michael Matthews. If that sounds familiar,
37:05 it's because we've talked about it here on this podcast. I did an entire episode
37:08 back a few months ago on bigger leaner stronger. That is a great resource for you guys. If you're
37:13 wanting to know more about different workout regiments, but also diet, he goes into a ton of
37:19 detail about diet because, you know, a good workout regiment doesn't always clean up a bad diet.
37:24 And so this is a fantastic, fantastic book. And if you want to go back and listen to the podcast,
37:30 like I said, just go back a few months ago, you'll find it. It's called bigger leaner stronger.
37:34 Another book is the discipline equals freedom field manual. And that's by Jocko willing.
37:39 And so obviously, you know, I'm a huge fan of Jocko willing here on this podcast, but
37:42 that is a really fantastic book. It won't take you but an hour to read it. But in the back of that book,
37:47 there are three different workout plans. Now, I don't necessarily advocate the way that Jocko
37:53 willing works out. A lot of the things that Jocko does can very easily go into the overtraining category.
37:58 He's definitely a little bit different genetically in terms of some of the things that he does.
38:03 But really, at the end of the day, he's a great motivation. And some of these workouts at the end
38:09 of that book are really, really fantastic. And the last thing again, I just left the link here
38:14 for you guys. But it's the undaunted life of man's devotional, you version devotional. So
38:18 for some of you, that's how you got introduced to undaunted life. And that's kind of where it all
38:23 started. And I think up to this point, close to 50,000 people or so have have completed that.
38:28 It's been shared around a lot. I get emails and messages all the time about guys that are
38:32 taking their teams through it or are taking their Sunday school through or something like that.
38:35 So the last seven days focus on physical resilience. So if you want to skip to day 15 and kind of
38:41 read from there and then go back to day one, I think that'd be good for you. All right, guys,
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39:49 The links to all of this are in the description. I'm your host Kyle Thompson.
39:54 Remember, keep cultivating manly resilience, keep forging spiritual, mental and physical
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